WEBVTT - Back In The Saddle Again 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:15.880 Hey, there're folks, welcome to I Do Part to, a 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:19.400 one of a kind experiment in love and podcasting, and 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:22.360 we are not here to help just any old body 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:26.439 fine love. Oh no, bro, We are here specifically for 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:28.120 certain folks, Yes, for folks. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.720 Who didn't get love right the first time, or maybe 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:34.319 even the second or third time, just like us. We 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:36.840 are two of your hosts for I Do Part two. 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.520 I'm aye Robots, I'm TJ. Holmes, along with our fellow 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.279 co hosts Jenna Kramer and Jenny Garth, as well as 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:45.400 our celebrity mentors, we are going to give guidance based 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:49.000 on all of our varying degrees of relationship experience. 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:52.360 Experience you say, well, for us, that means two divorces each. 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:56.160 So we are not here to sit on our pedestal 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:59.240 and point fingers. Now, we encourage all of our listeners 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:02.240 to call in right in with their stories we know 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.880 we're not alone, and their hopes for getting love right 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:05.920 the next time. 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:08.160 And one of those folks we heard from is someone 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.160 that maybe some of our listeners are even familiar with. 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:14.800 But take a listen now to one other people who 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:17.600 called in and say they need help looking for love. 0:01:17.720 --> 0:01:21.720 Hey, missus, Elizabeth Brown, And I was just listening to 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:25.400 the podcast and my friend had told me that I 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:29.280 should call in. So here I am. I'm forty four 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:34.800 and three and a half years of worse. Her parents 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:39.360 a beautiful six year old daughter together and they're the 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:43.080 Nashville So anyway, anyway you can help, any advice would 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:46.199 be well appreciated. 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:51.920 Thanks, so sweet, so sweet, Elizabeth Brown. If that doesn't 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:56.000 sound familiar, maybe remember her as Elizabeth kit Elizabeth Kit Brown. 0:01:56.440 --> 0:02:01.360 But Elizabeth is joining us now on the podcast, And honestly, 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.200 we actually asked our producers, Elizabeth, whether or not you 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:08.120 actually just called in or if there was some sort 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.399 of a reach out to you, and know you genuinely 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:16.080 called the podcast asking for help. And folks might know 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:21.920 who you are because you were a contestant on The Bachelor, 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:24.000 Yes a long. 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:25.720 Time ago, yes, yes. 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:29.000 And then season fourteen and then also so I know, 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:31.919 Bachelor in Paradise, but you were on a show that 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:37.320 predated that as well, correct, yeah, Pad, Bachelor season. 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.200 Okay, remind us what Bachelor PAD was about. 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.880 So it was more of a game show where you 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:46.480 had a chance to win two hundred and fifty thousand dollars. 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:50.239 So you were looking for money, not love on that one. 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:55.560 Yes, maybe a little bit of both win win win win. Yeah, 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:58.680 but you did end up getting married to someone who 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:02.079 also was in the franchise. He was on the Bachelorette, 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:04.840 So you ended up not on the actual shows, you 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.280 were on Finding Love, but in a way, because of 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:10.120 the show, you found love. So tell us a little 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.920 bit about what happened. We know you're divorced now, but 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.280 tell us about the romance and then what happened. 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:21.000 Yeah, so, coming off the shows, Ty was in La 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:24.480 visiting and I met up with him and a bunch 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:30.720 of the other bachelor people watching football, and I took 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:33.400 Tim right away because he's tall and he's a country 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:38.400 country boy, and there's that media attraction right after the show. 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:42.200 But then we both got into your relationships and it 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:44.640 was at the end of my to your relationship, and 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:47.920 I changed my status on Facebook, and twelve minutes later 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.240 he slid into my DMS and said, I think we. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:53.840 Need to talk. Tell minutes, Elizabeth, twelve minutes after you 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:57.520 changed your status. Twelve minutes after the status change, he 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:03.240 was just standing by hitting refresh refresh for two years. 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.160 Yeah, So it's pretty cool. And he was living in 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:08.480 LA or sorry, he was living in Nashville. I was 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.360 in LA and I was looking to leave LA at 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:14.120 that time. I'd been there five years and we just 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:18.240 decided I would move to Nashville. And it was a 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:23.240 pretty quick dating relationship until we got married. So it 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:27.880 was all really fast. But how fast I moved here? 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.640 And when we started talking in February, I moved here 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:34.320 in April right in with him. 0:04:34.400 --> 0:04:34.919 Wow. 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:39.840 Yeah, I've never lived with the guy really before that. 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:45.039 And then we got engaged in October and married by 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:46.120 the following March. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:49.320 Wait a minute, okay, help us here. And again, everybody 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:52.440 has their own journey, their own experience, but to meet 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:54.599 somebody or it's one thing to move in with somebody 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:58.000 after what'd you say February to April? But you moved 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:01.440 across the country. So what into that big of a 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:03.600 decision to not just move in with a guy, but 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.000 to uproot your life and move across the country for 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:06.280 a guy. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.880 Yeah, you know, it wasn't the first time I'd moved 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:14.040 across the country. I was kind of kind of good. 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:16.440 That's your thing, Okay. 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:20.640 I was thirty three and he was thirty four, and 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.800 we were just kind of at that age where you know, 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:24.880 we just wanted to kind of go for it, and 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.560 you know, I really wanted, you know, a lot of kids, 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:32.320 and yeah, you're in your early thirties the time, the 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:33.120 clock's ticking. 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:34.720 So I get that. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:35.760 There was a lot of thoughts. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:39.719 No judgment here. I had a I was engaged in 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:41.920 four months and married to ten months. It also ended 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:44.920 in divorce, so I understand how sometimes you can get 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:49.000 caught up and maybe not do the due diligence you 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.480 should have done to make sure you're actually compatible, make 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.960 sure he actually is the one. So I know it's 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:57.360 we both know it's so hard, especially when children are involved, 0:05:57.400 --> 0:06:00.000 to make the decision to divorce. What happened if you, 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.000 if you don't mind us asking what happened in your 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:05.200 relationship where you all decided that was the next best step. 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:12.599 Yeah, I mean we I think looking back, I needed 0:06:12.640 --> 0:06:14.800 to do a lot of work on myself before getting 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:18.159 into a marriage. I'd always been the girl that was 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.960 in the long relationships, and I went from relationship to 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:25.479 relationships since high school, and I guess I never really 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:31.160 found myself in order to present myself well to a partner. 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:34.720 And so looking back back this last three and a 0:06:34.720 --> 0:06:37.560 half years, I've done a lot of work and just 0:06:37.640 --> 0:06:40.960 kind of being single and just being alone for the 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:43.640 first time, and there's been so much growth in that. 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:46.040 You know, I finally found, you know, really who I 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:49.560 am and uncomfortable in who I am, and you know, 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.240 I had to get to know, like what do I 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.719 even like to do? You know, like what do I like? 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:56.840 Because I would always you know, get into a relationship 0:06:56.960 --> 0:07:00.520 and just become whatever that person wanted me to be. 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:04.000 You know, I was good at it. So yeah, really 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:07.960 being alone and sitting in that and discovering myself the 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:10.480 last three and a half years has been really kind 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.840 of cool. So I probably should have done that before. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:16.800 You know, I feel like I gave it a good 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:21.200 go fresh seven years with him, and you know, we 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.040 we had some struggles with fertility, so we did the 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:27.640 whole IVF thing and got our miracle daughter and who 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.600 we both adore and we co parent very well together. 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:35.120 And yeah, I think now I'm kind of ready to 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:39.040 start dating. But it's a challenge, you know, it's it's 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.920 not just me that I have to think about bringing 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:44.720 someone else into you know, this little world that we have, 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.600 and and just finding time as a single mom and 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:52.120 just all the things. 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.960 You know, Elizabeth kind I asked the work you said 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:56.840 you've done in the past three hundred years, and three 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:59.480 hundred years and a half years told you we were 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:05.560 it feels like years. The work you've done on yourself 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:10.360 since divorce. The person you are now and what you've 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:14.960 become now, is this Elizabeth better prepared to be in 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.760 that marriage that you were in. Can you be a 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:20.600 better part? Can you all potentially work now because of 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:22.720 where you are or that ship's just passed? 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:23.120 Well? 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:27.160 He has a girlfriend now and quite a while. 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:30.320 Okay, thanks DJ. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:35.439 Now I have thought about it, you know, right when 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:38.440 we got divorced, you know, could we get back together? 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.880 I just think that, you know, he probably wouldn't have 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:44.240 married me now because you know, I'm just so much 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:46.880 more grounded and who I am and what I want 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:52.040 and my boundaries and you know, my voice, and so yeah, 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:53.800 I just I don't know that it would work. And 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:57.920 we co parent really well, and I like his girlfriend 0:08:58.120 --> 0:08:59.800 and I think they've got a great thing going. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.080 So yeah, yeah, and you know what, that's awesome because 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:06.720 that woman, if she hangs around is obviously in your 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.120 daughter's life and will be a part of your daughter's life, 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:10.520 and so that's always something to consider. 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:11.160 It just ca. 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:19.600 Yeah, Well, I mean, look, we've been down this road. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.480 I've been down that road. I've been on both sides 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.160 of it. I've I have my daughters, have a step mom. 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.480 I've been a stepmom, So I get it. It's it's 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:29.800 you're not just marrying or dating a person, you're dating 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.760 their their children too, and their family. It all matters, 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:34.800 and so that's a big part of the equation. Have 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.000 you dated in this three and a half years and 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:40.240 what has that experience been like post divorce. 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:45.880 It's been wild because I've you know, I never really 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:49.560 been single this long, and I guess right after my 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:52.800 divorce I kind of put myself out there too soon, 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:54.840 and I went on a few dates and I'm like, 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:59.640 you know, I this is not the time. But it 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.920 was awesome. It's so really strange because for the first 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:05.000 time ever, really young guys would be the only people 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.319 that would hit on me, like really young, and I'm like, 0:10:09.200 --> 0:10:11.679 I don't know about dating, you know, younger guys. I've 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:16.040 usually dated people my age, and so that was something 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.840 that that was interesting from the start. 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:21.360 Did you go on dates with those younger guys? Did 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:21.720 you say? 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.160 Yes, I did? Yeah? 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:25.000 And what was that like? 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:30.720 They were fun? You know, they were like they well, 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:33.040 I feel like I'm kind of young at heart too, 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.560 and especially you know, I'm forty four, but I have 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.680 a six year old daughter, so I'm kind of more 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:41.280 in that, you know, younger age group with my mom 0:10:41.400 --> 0:10:45.560 group and things. So but yeah, they I felt like 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.240 the younger guys really put in more of an effort 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:52.160 and they got really excited about the dates, whereas the 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:55.280 older guys or you know, guys my age or you know, 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.920 even older, they're just kind of like, yeah, you want 0:10:57.920 --> 0:10:59.680 to go on a date? You know, They're just not 0:10:59.880 --> 0:11:01.200 like I'm really excited. 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.360 You know, Eliz, what is you say younger guys? What 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:05.559 age range are you talking about? 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:10.080 Like ten years younger? Like early thirties? 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:12.240 All right, You're not going out with twenty four year olds. 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:16.000 No, But they would hit on me and I'm like, sir, 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:17.440 you are way too young for me. 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:20.040 Why you think that is? Why is it that younger 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:21.200 guys are coming after you? 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.560 I don't know. It was kind of a joke there 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.960 for a while because anytime I'd go out with my friends, 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:29.840 you know, the only guys that would hit on me 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:33.080 were really young, and they would be like, how old 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:34.880 is that one? And I'm like, just way too young. 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:39.480 Some woman might say that's not a bad problem to 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:41.400 ask you, is that a compliment to have? It is 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.120 a compliment. I would absolutely think that was a compliment. 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:47.600 I mean, look, I snagged a younger guy. TJ's four 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:50.400 and a half years younger than me. I'm curious how 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:54.920 much younger would you feel comfortable with dating and maybe 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:59.200 eventually marrying, Like do you have a number going younger 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:00.679 and a number going older? 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:04.160 Yeah? So, because I've put a lot of thought into that, 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:08.160 and there were some you know, younger guys that maybe 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.320 I wrote off a little too soon. But my my 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.520 criteria is I don't mind them being you know, ten 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:19.520 years younger probably at the most. But my thing is, 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:23.200 you know, they're thirty four, and you know, do they 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.559 want kids? Because I don't want to have any more kids. 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.679 You know, I'm forty four, so kind of past that. 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:32.360 I think if I were, you know, a decade older, 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.320 and they were a decade young, you know, younger at 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:36.920 the time, I don't think it would be that big 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:39.600 of a deal because the you know, the baby years 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:42.040 are kind of you know, off the table, if that 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:42.480 makes sense. 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:56.720 Where are and how are you meeting folks to date 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:58.280 the past three and a half years? 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:06.240 Oh jeez. Sometimes through the apps and sometimes out and about. Ideally, 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:08.240 I think I would like to meet someone you know 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.000 that is like a setup, you know, through a friend 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:15.240 or something, because it would feel more vetted or at work. 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.520 But now I work from home, so I don't like 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:20.520 go into an office every day where I'm meeting people 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.440 all the time. And I live on a little five 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:27.480 acre farm outside of Nashville, so I'm kind of isolated 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:30.400 a lot, so it's kind of harder. I feel invisible 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.400 a lot. It's like, how do I how do I 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:33.680 get out there and meet people? 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:36.080 Don't put too much stock and go into the office 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.679 and meeting people. Office romances go really bad. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:40.520 You can actually end your career. 0:13:40.679 --> 0:13:50.120 Yeah, we're here, so we could have absolutely Is that 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:51.400 about a year ago? 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.880 Do you have? You know, you said you don't want 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.480 any more kids of your own, which is understandable. You've 0:13:58.520 --> 0:14:01.000 got your beautiful six year old daughter, But what about 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:03.760 dating or being with a man who also has his 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:04.440 own children. 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:07.800 I would love that. I in fact, when I was, 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.200 you know, in my early thirties and not married, I 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.680 started thinking I'll probably be a stepmom, you know, because 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:17.079 I'm getting a little older, and I was excited about 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:20.360 that idea, you know, of being a stepmom. I think 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:23.360 the hardest thing, though, has been I've met guys that 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:26.600 are that have kids, but then it's trying to find time, 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:29.680 you know, like with parenting schedules and everything. It just 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:32.800 seems like if you're if you have opposite weekends, forget 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:34.640 about it. You know, you'll never see each other. 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:38.080 What is the I guess how serious would things have 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:40.600 to get before you would allow somebody you're dating to 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.960 meet your daughter? Who's six? Right? So has anything gotten 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.560 that far? And what what would need to happen for 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.880 you to be comfortable with somebody meeting your daughter. 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.720 Yeah, I've put a lot of thought into that too, 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:55.160 because I don't want, you know, her getting attached to 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:58.840 somebody and then and not working out or you know whatnot. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:01.360 It would just have to be I don't know if 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.440 there's exactly a timeframe on it. I've heard like six 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:08.360 months is a general rule. But I think it would 0:15:08.360 --> 0:15:10.160 have to be you know, I could really see this 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:15.320 person being in our lives, you know, And so anytime 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.600 I start talking to somebody, I think of that, I'm like, well, 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:21.000 how would they fit in what we have going on? 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:25.040 You know, my ex you know, Tyme's got a good 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:28.760 situation because she's got two boys that are around my 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:33.400 daughter's age, and you know, Blakely's already calling them her brothers, 0:15:33.520 --> 0:15:36.560 which is cute, you know, So I love that for 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:41.680 her to have that sibling, you know, the siblings. So yeah, 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.240 if it happened for me, that'd be great. 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.000 But it's really to you just said. That's cool to hear, 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.800 and it is so nice to see a mom supportive 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.720 of her daughter's experience in another family and just knowing 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:54.680 I used to always say this, but I think you're 0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:57.080 in the same wave. Like, the more people who love 0:15:57.160 --> 0:16:00.320 my girls, the better they're going to be. So would 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:03.360 I be jealous or territorial if it just means they're 0:16:03.440 --> 0:16:06.080 being loved by more people, And that's I think how 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:07.560 you have to look at it, if you're looking out 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:08.880 for their best interests. 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:12.720 Now, that's so true because I ran a half marathon 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:14.320 a couple weekends ago. 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.880 Gratulations, thank you, and. 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:21.600 I didn't have anyone to watch my daughter, and his 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:24.200 girlfriend was available and she said, I'll take her for 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:26.840 the morning. So I got to drop her off, you know, 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:30.240 with his girlfriend, and they went and got their nails done, 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.240 and then afterwards I went to pick her up, and 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.160 me and the girlfriend talked for quite a while, you know, 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:39.640 just kind of hung out and talked, and it's really 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.760 cool to see that. And she was excited because she 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.400 doesn't usually get one on one time with my daughter, 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:47.760 so she's she thought it was really special that they 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:50.600 got their girl time because she's a she's a mom 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:52.360 of boys, you know, so she doesn't get to do 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:53.840 the nail stuff very often. 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.760 What are your and again, that's wonderful to hear, given 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:02.160 we have to excuse me, four divorces between the two 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:05.359 of us, and you know, those family dynamics can be difficult, 0:17:05.400 --> 0:17:07.000 and it's good to hear it's working as well as 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.680 it is. So so really, we just got to get 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:15.199 you hooked up here. So what are your absolutes for me? 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.800 It's smoking, Like if I hear somebody's a smoker, that 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:19.800 would be an absolute. I don't even want to go 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:21.520 out on the date. Do you do you have some 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:25.560 absolute non negotiables. I will not compromise and date a 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:27.560 guy who does blank blank blank blank blank. Do you 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:29.280 have any gosh you. 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:32.960 Know, really, I just am looking for someone that's, you know, 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:37.120 very kind and somebody that loves kids. I guess probably 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:39.400 if they didn't love kids, that would be a big 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:44.399 deal breaker for me. So just like loving kids, being 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:48.160 family oriented, I also have to have the same sense 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:52.199 of humor, because I realized that in my marriage. I 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:55.600 was like, you don't get my jokes. My jokes are funny, 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.680 well high brow, but you know we're dark humor. 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:04.000 Yes, And I think one of the ways we connected 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:06.919 as friends was through humor one hundred percent, and that 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.160 had been something that I had an experience before. Someone 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:12.040 you can laugh with. And I love that you just 0:18:12.040 --> 0:18:14.760 said that because I think we both I know, I 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.880 have learned that that for me is a huge component 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:22.159 of our relationship, is that we can laugh together and 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:24.800 laugh at the same types of things together. And yeah, 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:28.160 when you don't get each other's humor, that's tough. That's 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:31.680 a huge and I've had that, Like you're like, well, 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:34.200 this is just the you can't have fun the whole 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:36.959 point of right, we should be enjoying each other and 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:39.280 you kind of have to enjoy each other's sense of humor. 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:42.400 Yes, And I never realized that was such a big 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:46.560 thing for me until you know. Yeah, and then when 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:49.400 somebody laughs at me, it's almost like my love language. 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:51.840 I'm like, oh, they get my jokes like they get me, 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:54.280 and so I love that. 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:57.320 It's so funny what you just said. Because DJ laughs 0:18:57.359 --> 0:19:01.760 at me, I laugh with him. But I'm okay with that. 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:03.960 I'm fine if I'm the source of the humor, not 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:05.879 something that I was choosing to be. 0:19:06.080 --> 0:19:08.160 But you're the fun I tell you this all the time. 0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:10.320 You're one of the funniest people I know. When you're 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:14.000 not trying to be funny, just you being you, I 0:19:14.280 --> 0:19:15.280 end up falling off. 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:15.520 Yeah. 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:17.239 Yeah, you're hilarious, you really really are. 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:19.200 But what I try to crack a joke, it falls 0:19:19.200 --> 0:19:21.520 flat every time. So now I just be me and 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:22.679 that apparently is funny. 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:27.080 It works. Maybe we also had someone else, I think 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:30.360 a friend of yours, Rebecca right also who's a member 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.560 of Bache Nation, ended up calling in as well. Both 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:35.479 of them, and again we're telling folks. This they this 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:37.720 came out of the blue. We did not solicit So 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:40.199 you all just happened to both call in. We're going 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:42.760 to hear from Rebecca a little layer on I do 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:46.040 part two. But you have you have us. Now, look, 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:48.879 we have a lot of relationship experience between the two 0:19:48.920 --> 0:19:51.560 of us, and so if you have access to us 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:57.160 and all of our vast experience and background, what would 0:19:57.200 --> 0:19:58.760 you want to ask? What are some questions you have 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:00.600 for folks like us? 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:05.240 Oh gosh, well, I love that you guys met in 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:09.119 your friends first. You know, I think ideally that that's 0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:13.560 what I would love to have, But like I find 0:20:13.560 --> 0:20:18.000 myself going on dates and kind of sabotaging them from 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:20.399 the start because I don't want it to go too fast. 0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:20.639 You know. 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:22.760 I'm like, I just want to get to know each 0:20:22.760 --> 0:20:25.240 other's friends. Can we just go do fun things in 0:20:25.359 --> 0:20:27.800 Nashville and if you know we've all in love, we 0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:29.960 fall in love. But like, I'm not going into it 0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:32.920 trying to fall in love. I just you know, want 0:20:32.960 --> 0:20:34.880 to I want to get to know people and hang 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:37.800 out and you know, see where it goes. But like, 0:20:37.840 --> 0:20:40.199 how do I how do I say that on a 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:42.440 first date? Like, Sam, I met someone from the apps, 0:20:42.560 --> 0:20:43.120 and I'm like. 0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:46.879 I would argue, you have a challenge. If you're on 0:20:46.920 --> 0:20:49.080 a dating app and you set up a meeting with 0:20:49.119 --> 0:20:51.080 the person of that dating app, they're going to think 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:53.760 they're on a date. Period. Yeah, so it's hard to 0:20:53.800 --> 0:20:56.000