WEBVTT - Why We Still Like Each Other

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<v Speaker 1>Hi of Heather Dubreu, and I'm doctor Terry debrou And

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to keep this between us.

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<v Speaker 2>For about thirty minutes. The will share with you.

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<v Speaker 1>People are always asking about our relationship. We are married

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<v Speaker 1>twenty seven years, we decided and in December we will

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<v Speaker 1>be together thirty years.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, it's incredible. You know. What's so good?

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<v Speaker 2>Is my favorite thing And every time it happens, I

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<v Speaker 2>in my mind, I said, should I say it? Or

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<v Speaker 2>is this just like I say it too much? And

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<v Speaker 2>we don't say enough. But I look at you and

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<v Speaker 2>I go, I can't believe. This is where I want

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<v Speaker 2>to be right now, always just to be here talking

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<v Speaker 2>to you. Right. Remember we were in Cabo, yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>we were trying to avoid the wedding party, and we

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<v Speaker 2>sat down just to have coffee before going to the gym,

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<v Speaker 2>and we have It's amazing when you can just sit

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<v Speaker 2>down and just yack gack yack yack like two little

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<v Speaker 2>sorority girls that have, you know, no concept of time.

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<v Speaker 2>You and I can do that every single day. It's

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<v Speaker 2>so nice, you know. But it's funny because our marriage

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<v Speaker 2>has had its ebbs and flows. Of course, right i'd say,

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<v Speaker 2>more flows than ebbs, but a couple of ebbs. Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>And although you you lectured me yesterday about a certain

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<v Speaker 2>something I did, Yes, And then you went on to

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<v Speaker 2>enlarge that conversation to encompass anything I've ever done for

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<v Speaker 2>the last thirty years. Oh, yes, you did. I really.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember when you ran over my cut that whole thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I did not, Yeah, you did, I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>But anything. So we have some questions about our marriage

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<v Speaker 2>because I think people know a lot about it. But

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<v Speaker 2>so one question is what are what are things that

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<v Speaker 2>we do in front of each other after a decade

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<v Speaker 2>that would have horrified you when we were horrified as

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<v Speaker 2>we were dating each other.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think we do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>It's weird. We we don't go to the bathroom in

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<v Speaker 2>front of each other. No, I don't pass We don't

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<v Speaker 2>pass gas. Although you occasionally sleep, I don't. Just don't

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<v Speaker 2>tell you about it. I Oh, I know what I do.

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<v Speaker 2>The floss floss.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, remember you used to have a FLOSSI problem. You

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<v Speaker 1>would floss everywhere, was disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I do. I'm starting to floss again, a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of it.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>One thing I do which grosses you out.

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<v Speaker 1>You blow your nose in a cloth napkin.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, it is disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>At a restaurant full nose blow in a cloth napkin?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, disgusting.

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<v Speaker 2>Rarely, by the way, not rare. Not okay, what percent

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<v Speaker 2>of the meals we go out seven nights a week,

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<v Speaker 2>what percent of the meals do I blow the nose

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<v Speaker 2>in a cloth napp That is such a lie. My

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<v Speaker 2>nose is a night like that?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't tell you, no, nine No.

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<v Speaker 2>My mother blows her nose a lot. So you're triggered

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<v Speaker 2>about nose blowing.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's also disgusting.

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<v Speaker 1>You cannot, I am sure in the etiquette books it

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<v Speaker 1>would say to go to the restroom and blow your nose.

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<v Speaker 1>And certainly, or if you had to sneeze or something

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<v Speaker 1>at the table, you would have a tissue or something

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<v Speaker 1>not into your.

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<v Speaker 3>Linen napkin that you're using on your life.

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<v Speaker 2>But in general, we sort of treat each other at

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<v Speaker 2>least in terms of like disgusting things that human beings

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<v Speaker 2>do as if we're still dating, right, like I would not, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>there's just I don't have to list them the disgusting

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<v Speaker 2>things that humans do, right I would.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's not do that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but I could you imagine do that? Would imagine

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<v Speaker 2>pooping in front of me? No?

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's gross.

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<v Speaker 2>But I bet your husbands and wives do that really

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<v Speaker 2>poop with the door the bathroom door open. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>like if you're in the bat well to have separate bathrooms.

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<v Speaker 2>But but but this weekend's share a bathroom. We shared

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<v Speaker 2>a bathroom in Cabo. We usually get a room with

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<v Speaker 2>two I will help, boug. You were usually we always

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<v Speaker 2>get rooms with two bathrooms. Yes, and I get the

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<v Speaker 2>little guest bathroom with the you know, the nothing in it,

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<v Speaker 2>with the bar of soap.

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<v Speaker 3>You get the two the king bathroom, the.

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<v Speaker 2>King with all this stuff. But so we actually I

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<v Speaker 2>had to go in there to use the bathroom to

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<v Speaker 2>pee when you were in there, and I thought, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to pee with the door closed. But I

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<v Speaker 2>still didn't really want to do That's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was looking I saw on Instagram. I saw

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<v Speaker 1>this couple and I don't remember what her handle is,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was showing she and her husband live in

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<v Speaker 1>this very nice house and you know people do the

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<v Speaker 1>sleep divorce thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, this I had not seen before.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't just like one sleeps in another Yes, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like one sleeps in in another room. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>they have completely separate situations.

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<v Speaker 2>Sooms no, No.

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<v Speaker 1>He has a living room area, bedroom, bathroom, sweet closet,

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<v Speaker 1>and their roommates right, and she has her whole own that.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this.

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<v Speaker 3>I said this to you yesterday. Remember we were talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>You accused me of wanting this.

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<v Speaker 3>Yesterday you just said you loved it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a joke.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, maybe you do love it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I bring it up for conversation. But this

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<v Speaker 1>is so I guess there's different stages of this. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I understand in my brain. Why you know, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>you snore this whatever. People don't want to sleep in

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<v Speaker 1>the same bed. They want better rest. I totally get that.

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<v Speaker 3>But to me, as a couple, when you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Interface with each other a lot, meaning you don't cross paths, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't spend time together.

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<v Speaker 3>That's just the truth.

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<v Speaker 2>Except you and I spend But.

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<v Speaker 3>You and I also cross paths.

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<v Speaker 1>We sleep in the same bed even though we have

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<v Speaker 1>separate bathrooms. They're near each other, or were we walk

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<v Speaker 1>through the same hall.

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<v Speaker 2>We're the perfect couple to do that because we spend

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<v Speaker 2>so much time together anyway, wouldn't be nice for you

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<v Speaker 2>we had our own sections.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it would.

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<v Speaker 1>I personally think it would be hurtful to a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. We share unfortunately in office right now.

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<v Speaker 3>That's not that doesn't work that I agree with.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked having my own office in that old house

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<v Speaker 2>that I could go in and like.

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<v Speaker 3>But we're fixing that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, we're going to get you your own office. But

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<v Speaker 1>aside from the office, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>What are your occurring arguments you both accepted will never

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<v Speaker 2>be resolved. I think, by the way, if you want

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<v Speaker 2>to hear us get into an argument, let's answer this question.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh yeah, I don't think this. I think we should

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<v Speaker 2>pass on this.

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<v Speaker 1>But it is important to note that when you get

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<v Speaker 1>to an impasse about things, you can't bring it back

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<v Speaker 1>up again.

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<v Speaker 3>It's got to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Scheduling intimacy. Does it plan It killed the mood. Planning

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<v Speaker 2>it killed the mood. To save your marriage, I think

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<v Speaker 2>it saves your marriage. Yeah, yeah, Sometimes we will be

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<v Speaker 2>so busy and so burnt out that it's a problem,

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<v Speaker 2>so we have to plan it.

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<v Speaker 1>Also, sometimes it's even simple things like planning ahead. And

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<v Speaker 1>this might be Tami and our kids are going to

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<v Speaker 1>kill us for saying this. But I mean if we

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<v Speaker 1>have an event we have to go to and we

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<v Speaker 1>are both looking to have a moment of love and

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<v Speaker 1>we're like, oh, tonight whatever. There are times I it

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<v Speaker 1>happened recently I texted you and oh, yeah, it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>where are you come downstairs? Because I thought, oh, by

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<v Speaker 1>the time we get back from this thing, yeah, we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have liquor on board.

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<v Speaker 3>We're gonna be tired.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, yeah, I think it's better to have sex at

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<v Speaker 2>these days before we go out. Yeah, therapy, do you

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<v Speaker 2>go together? Have you ever gone? We have never gone

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<v Speaker 2>to therapy.

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<v Speaker 3>We've talked about it, We've talked about it, but we

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<v Speaker 3>never went.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And I think one of the reasons we have

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<v Speaker 2>not gone to therapies because we're having issues. We tend

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<v Speaker 2>to get past them, but you're also afraid it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to bring up some terrible things that will that one

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<v Speaker 2>or both of us will say something that you won't

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<v Speaker 2>be able to get past.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't know that. I just think, to me,

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're we've I'm not stopping us from going.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I we don't need to go right now, but

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<v Speaker 2>there are times when we could have benefited from it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure, and I think also you told me once,

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<v Speaker 1>was it Rob Lowe who was saying he and his

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<v Speaker 1>wife go it's like having a trainer for your relationship, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>which I thought was fascinating and so good. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think just therapy and general for me. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I've said this before, but to me, it's like there's

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<v Speaker 1>some can of worms that don't necessarily need to be opened. However,

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<v Speaker 1>if I felt like we were at an impasse and

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<v Speaker 1>we could not get past it, I would a thousand

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<v Speaker 1>percent go.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it possible to a small degree that you don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to go to therapy because you're afraid the therapist

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<v Speaker 2>will agree with me?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm not okay, sorry about that.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, that almost makes me want to go

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<v Speaker 1>to therapy.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh, share your secret weapon of your marriage, the one

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<v Speaker 2>thing most couples skip that you swear by. It's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember when that couple was getting married and then we

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<v Speaker 2>went to the wedding just recently, yea, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>giving the someone was barking out advice don't go to

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<v Speaker 2>sleep mad, remember that one? And I thought you are

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<v Speaker 2>so wrong. Don't go to sleep, well, he s was

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<v Speaker 2>fight till five am.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you've always said that go to sleep mad you're

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<v Speaker 1>and I agree with you, because you know what, in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning things look differently.

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<v Speaker 2>That it's the same reason why when you're really mad

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<v Speaker 2>about something, you shouldn't send an email or a text,

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<v Speaker 2>particularly an email, because you may regret that. Always put

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<v Speaker 2>some sleep on these really stressful things.

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<v Speaker 1>I think one of our superpowers. I guess if I,

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<v Speaker 1>like I had to put a list together, I think

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<v Speaker 1>we Yes, we love each other obviously, we are best

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<v Speaker 1>friends hopefully and do you ever have that best friend

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<v Speaker 1>that you have almost none of the same interests. That's

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have any we don't have hobbies together like that.

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<v Speaker 3>But we we love being together.

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<v Speaker 1>We could, like Terry was saying before, like we could

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<v Speaker 1>talk for hours.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and we could be on a vacation alone for days,

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<v Speaker 3>come home and be like where we having dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>We're just we love spending time together. I also think

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<v Speaker 1>we very much.

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<v Speaker 3>Respect each other. Yeah, we are very supportive of each.

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<v Speaker 1>Other, and like I could be so insanely mad at him,

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<v Speaker 1>but if something's wrong with him, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>There because I just well, of course, yes, well, that's

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<v Speaker 3>not always, of course, for people.

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<v Speaker 1>But I will say this, I think the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>we've done the best over the years, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>the reason we've been together so long is because and

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<v Speaker 1>this kind of leads to the therapy thing, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think we have been able through the difficulties in our lives,

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<v Speaker 1>our relationships, things with our kids, all the money, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it was, we have been able to even if we

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<v Speaker 1>get to a low point, we've been able to sit down,

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<v Speaker 1>hash it out and come out on such a good

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<v Speaker 1>side and really hear each other.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think the way we do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now is so like he was saying before, we had

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<v Speaker 1>a little tiff yesterday, but it was fine and.

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<v Speaker 3>We got through it very quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, that same argument five years ago could have

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<v Speaker 1>gone on for two.

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<v Speaker 3>Weeks right right, it would, It would have. But that's

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I think as the years go on, we've become we

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<v Speaker 1>learn what works, we learn how to listen to the

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<v Speaker 1>other one, and how to move forward about it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think we've done that well.

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<v Speaker 2>Better towards that end. What after a decade, what do

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<v Speaker 2>men still get completely wrong about what their wives want

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<v Speaker 2>and what and women about their.

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<v Speaker 3>Husbands so women want romance.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think the wives want to be heard. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think it isn't always necessarily give a solution.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't I say what the wives want and you

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<v Speaker 1>say what the guys want?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, okay, tell me because you're just proselytizing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I was saying, based on my experience with what

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<v Speaker 2>I think about you, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Telling you you want.

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<v Speaker 1>What want is they want to be cherished and treasured

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<v Speaker 1>and romanced because that's what goes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and guys want to be left alone. I'm kidding. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>guys want to be not bugged. To be honest, it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>don't nag, nag, don't nag me, don't overtalk this thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's if there's an issue, tell me what it is

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<v Speaker 2>and don't repeat it five thousand times. I get it,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'll try my best, and uh, let's let's move on.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I think sometimes women nag their husbands because

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<v Speaker 1>they want interaction.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you don't need that obviously, Why don't No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, no, no, you don't nag me.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, you don't nag me at all. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>I think. Okay, And what Yeah, guys want some peace

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<v Speaker 2>and quiet and guys want Yeah, make your point and

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<v Speaker 2>let's move on. That's a guy thing. That's fair, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have more sex on vacation or at home

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<v Speaker 1>on vacation?

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<v Speaker 2>Vacation?

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<v Speaker 3>Definitely, there's nothing like hotel sex.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And so that in a nutshell.

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<v Speaker 1>You both have knowledge on plastic surgery, aging, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 1>How does that expertise change the way you to experience

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<v Speaker 1>attraction and getting older together?

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting? Well, you're kind of a dory and gray female

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<v Speaker 2>sort of age, so it's not very fair. You're welcome,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I. I I went through a phase when

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<v Speaker 2>my necks first started to loosen and I started to

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<v Speaker 2>sort of get tired because I'm always, you know, running,

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<v Speaker 2>pushing it hard. When I realized, oh my god, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really getting older looking that I thought, and you aren't changing,

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<v Speaker 2>and you look so feminine, so perfect all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought, you know, I get get to the point

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<v Speaker 2>where they think I'm your dad. And I considered the

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<v Speaker 2>plastic surgery thing. But plastic surgery, if you're ever considering

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<v Speaker 2>plast surgery as a guy, just look at some celebrities.

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<v Speaker 2>Guys who've had plastic surgery. You will change it right now.

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<v Speaker 2>All my friends, one hundred percent of my male friends,

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<v Speaker 2>we go, no way am I having plastic surgery. It

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<v Speaker 2>looks weird, and even well executed facelifts on guys my age,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't. It looks I call it discordant. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>what what you know? What doesn't work here?

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<v Speaker 3>It's not good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not good. Uh so, No, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Saw someone at the airport, not.

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<v Speaker 2>Good, man, Some of these feminized looking guys recently not good. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And we were in Saint Bart's and this guy came

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<v Speaker 2>up to our table and was talking to us, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm looking at him and he's you can tell he's

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<v Speaker 2>exactly my age, maybe slightly younger or older and zero

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<v Speaker 2>neck laxing. I thought, yeah, dude, that just looks weird.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you're too tight.

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<v Speaker 2>You're too tight. And you know, it's funny when you see.

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<v Speaker 3>A guy.

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<v Speaker 2>My age who's really ripped. Even though I immediately think steroids.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not anymore, but it's testosterone.

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<v Speaker 2>It's well will that is steroids. Asteroid? They I think, oh, steroids.

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<v Speaker 2>It still looks okay, but I think steroids when I

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<v Speaker 2>see a guy in my age has no facial laxity,

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<v Speaker 2>I think plastic surgery, and it does. It's not okay,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just weird.

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<v Speaker 3>But maybe that's because that's what you're you.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, Yeah, I guess. I just think maybe I'm still

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<v Speaker 2>in the area even though I'm a plastic surgeon, where

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<v Speaker 2>a guy having a lot of plastic surgery just sounds wrong, weird.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what we keep seeing in the media and

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<v Speaker 1>also what we've seen in real life, is that men

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<v Speaker 1>are getting such a feminized version of plastic surgery that

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<v Speaker 1>it just looks bizarre. Because if you do eyes and

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<v Speaker 1>a facelift on a guy, especially a brown.

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<v Speaker 3>Lift, it's so weird. It's so weird, it's too feminine.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So, but and women having plastic surgery, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I think women are having very good plastic surgery these days.

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<v Speaker 2>And let's be honest, who has more plastic surgery than

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<v Speaker 2>real housewives in general? No one, no one. And so

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<v Speaker 2>the real housewives, by and large, except for a few

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<v Speaker 2>that look like plastic surgery really hit them hard, look great.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, everyone looks good.

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<v Speaker 2>Really really good. Yea yeah, yeah, they just look pretty

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<v Speaker 2>and preserved and they don't look altered.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think the question is about us aging, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think about you as older. Look at the

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<v Speaker 1>way you look, feel nothing than when we met.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Well, in many ways I look better.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you grew into yourself, like I think your jaw,

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<v Speaker 1>your head, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I still have some hair, which is very

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<v Speaker 2>good too.

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<v Speaker 3>Hair.

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<v Speaker 2>I have hair, not tons, but I have hair, so

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very happy about that. But yeah, no plasterdal enough

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<v Speaker 2>for me. And you know it's funny cut too. I

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<v Speaker 2>think there's Terry cut to next season of Real Housewives

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<v Speaker 2>Orange County Terry Terry I was done, So yeah, there's that.

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<v Speaker 2>But anyway, it's been a wonderful This was about marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>I've already forgot. I'm so sleep deprived.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, we're celebrating our twenty seven years.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's been a wonderful twenty seven years. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>looking forward to another seven because I'm like, be dead

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<v Speaker 2>by that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's terrible. Don't end like that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's sort of like I feel like we're at the

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<v Speaker 2>stage where it's not the you know, what do they say,

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<v Speaker 2>don't buy any green bananas?

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<v Speaker 1>No green bananas that's what we say. No green bananas,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't wait for them to ripen.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, at some point soon, I'm going to adopt an

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<v Speaker 2>animal that it's expected to live about as long as

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<v Speaker 2>I do.

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<v Speaker 3>And see who makes it. Yeah, it's excellent. I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that is the time I adopted the animal that

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<v Speaker 2>was like fourteen years old. We are just setting yourself

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<v Speaker 2>up for heartbreak with that one.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of weddings, check out my substock.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to do a whole thing on weddings. Did

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<v Speaker 3>you see what I wrote about last week? It was

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<v Speaker 3>kind of funny.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it was all about the Santrope Saint Bart's slut

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<v Speaker 1>sparkle epidemic.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, everybody, we'll say thanks for being here with.

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<v Speaker 1>Us, and we will see you next time.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank