WEBVTT - #213 What Heaven Looks Like 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:08.560 We can't possibly know how unbelievably incredible this experience will be, 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:22.280 and that is heaven. Well, what's up everybody. Welcome back 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.880 to the podcast, episode two hundred and twelve, and thanks 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:28.880 for being here. I love doing this. It's different than 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.400 everything else I do, all the other pieces of media 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:35.360 I get to do. This is different because I don't 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.879 prep for it. I don't have notes for it. I 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.040 don't have books on the table for it. This is 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:43.720 me answering your questions. That's all this is. I'm going 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:47.120 through emails, no rhyme or reason to how they're ordered either, 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:50.680 So you email me. Look, the email has changed this 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.280 week for the first time and two hundred episodes, the 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:57.720 email has changed. I'm still going to check the old one, 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.560 but we're trying to streamline this. So the new email 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:07.760 is podcast at grangersmith dot com. So podcast at grangersmith 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:10.320 dot com is your email if you want to ask 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.800 me any questions. It could be about anything in life, 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:16.640 anything you're going through, anything you're excited about, anything you're 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:20.039 worried about, anything you're stressed about, any anything in a 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:22.800 relationship or whatever it might be. Just ask me the question. 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.880 We're going to talk about it like we're just sitting 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.040 in the cab of a truck. You say, hey, man, 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.440 can I run something by you? And we walk through 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:33.640 it once again. That new email is podcast at grangersmith 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:37.319 dot com and I going to jump right into this. 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:41.040 And the first one that randomly comes up, the subject 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:47.160 line says is country wrong, and the email itself says, Hey, grangeer, 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:49.520 I'd like to stay anonymous. I'm nineteen years old from 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:54.200 the back country of the Northwest Territories. Yes, the North 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:56.800 has good old boys, and trust me, let me pause 0:01:56.840 --> 0:02:00.600 you right there, the Northwest Territories. Yes, the North has 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:05.520 country boys. I have traveled this beautiful world and I 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:08.400 have seen country boys and country girls everywhere. It's not 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.880 just the South. Let's move on in this question says 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.520 my question is this, and hopefully it makes sense. Is 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:19.360 it wrong to live the quote unquote country lifestyle. Me 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.400 and my boys love cruising around in trucks, playing in 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:24.360 the mud, and so on. But people from our church 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:28.560 often make comments on how that lifestyle is not glorifying 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.640 to God. Also, I really enjoy listening to George Strait, 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.360 and the leadership of our church really looks down on 0:02:34.520 --> 0:02:37.639 any kind of country music. I have a very close 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:41.720 relationship with God, as do all my boys. We love 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:45.239 having Bible studies and prayer meetings as well as any 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:48.679 other church function. And I know that we all love 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:50.880 the church. So my question is how would you balance 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:55.560 that spiritual life then having fun? When and when when 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.799 does that fun become wrong? By the way, I love 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:01.239 your music in but I also love seeing you leave 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:04.720 it for God's work. Ye yee, all right, Anonymous, thanks 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.639 for the email. I think it's a good question, ma'am. 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:09.040 I think it's a good question. A couple of things 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.559 worry me from the question that you're asking, and it 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.440 neither one of those things really has to do with you. 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:19.680 I'm more worried about the people in your church coming 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:24.560 at you with this legalistic idea that you need that. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:33.120 What did you say, It's not glorifying to God? Right, man? 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.200 We have to be careful with that, with saying stuff 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.080 like that, Hey, that's not glorifying to God. We have 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:41.400 to be careful if it's not a sin, right, If 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.800 it's a sin. If we're talking about a moral issue, 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:47.400 we're talking about right and wrong. It's a moral issue. 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.640 If it's sin, then of course it doesn't glorify God. 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:54.160 But if it's a non moral issue, like cruising around 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:59.480 in a truck, that's not morally wrong or right. And 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.440 so we can't over spiritualize that and say, hey, man, 0:04:02.480 --> 0:04:05.120 you can't ride around that truck. That's not glorifying God. 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:10.000 That doesn't make any sense to me. That is, that's 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.320 a negative on the church itself. I don't know why 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.560 they're saying that, because that's coming across pretty legalistic to me. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:21.280 But maybe if we were in the cab of the truck, 0:04:21.320 --> 0:04:23.039 maybe this would come up. If we were in the 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:26.839 cabin of the truck cruising around and not sending maybe 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:29.240 this would come up if I asked further. Maybe there 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:32.279 are things that these people are seeing you guys doing, 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:37.640 Like are we drinking. We're drinking in the truck, We're 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:40.599 staying out past curfew. Are we hanging around a bunch 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.520 of people were hanging around some hoodlums that are doing 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:48.000 some things that we shouldn't be doing. There's some thug 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.880 life going on here, you know what I mean. Then 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.440 you could see that, and from the church perspective, somebody 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:58.280 in the church is like, hey, guys, man, guys, I 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:02.000 don't want to see y'all hanging around those guys, those 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:04.080 hoodlums over there. I don't want you. I don't want 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:05.640 to see y'all out here at two in the morning, 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.599 even if you're not the one drinking. Y'are stacking up 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.360 a bunch of a bunch of beer cans back here, 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:15.440 and you're underage, you're nineteen years old. I don't want 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:19.480 you to get caught and be associated with this because 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:21.760 it looks bad on you, and I don't want that 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:25.000 to come around and then you have consequences that you 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:29.360 have to pay for that like that, that's a legitimate thing. 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:32.920 That could be someone that actually cares about you, wanting 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.960 the best for you, and it might be heard like 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:38.640 this legalistic thing. These guys are telling me, I'm not 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:41.760 glorifying God. Maybe they just actually want the best for you, 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:45.000 and they're like, hey, I'm a little bit worried about 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.200 who you're hanging out with and what y'all are doing. Right, 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.960 So there's that. Let's put that aside now, and let's 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:51.760 let me plug another card here and just say this, 0:05:53.520 --> 0:06:01.520 is it wrong to live a quote unquote country lifestyle? No, 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:05.320 not essentially, No, I mean, think about think about the Bible. 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:10.520 We have John the Baptist, who John the Baptist clearly 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:14.240 was a country boy. The dude ate he ate locusts 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:17.880 and wild honey, and he wore animal skins. Uh, the 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:22.120 dude is his country is it gets Jesus ended up 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:26.200 finding his disciples that were a lot of them were fishermen. 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:29.799 Like these dudes are country boys out there fishing. Jesus himself, 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:32.680 God invades the world, his own creation, to come into 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:34.960 redeemed centers. And how does he come in? Does he 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:38.279 come in as a city boy? God comes into creation 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:41.520 redeeming sinners, and he comes in as the son of 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:46.320 a carpenter, not a wealthy man. He comes in working 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:49.320 with his hands. And we understand that maybe the carpenter, 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:52.960 maybe that was also a metal worker. We're not really 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.640 sure exactly if it was woodworking or metalworking, but either way, 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.840 we're talking about blue collar in our in our perspective, 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:02.240 somebody that works with their hands and somebody that's not. 0:07:02.480 --> 0:07:06.400 They're not just poor, but they're also not they're not 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:09.640 just crushing it and they're not wealthy by any means. 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:15.200 And so you could say Jesus himself chose country boys. 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:18.200 I think that's a fair enough answer, all right. Next question. 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:24.000 Strangely enough, well, the subject line says spurts and you 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.480 could email me podcast at grangersmith dot com. That's my 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:30.000 new email. Then this subject line says spurts, but I 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:32.480 don't think you meant to say spurts. Let's dive into 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:34.880 the email and says, hey, granger do you believe in 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:40.000 spirits or ghost? There it is spirits ghost. I never 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:43.880 really did. Their email says, I never really did until 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:46.120 I was in a car accident back in twenty fourteen. 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.720 I woke up in the hospital and I swear I 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:51.760 saw my sister's X in the corner of my room. 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:55.040 Felt like he was watching over me. He had passed 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:58.320 away a few years before the car accident. What do 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:01.120 you make of that? I will not on any medication, 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:06.520 so I know I wasn't tripping. Thanks Gin, okay, Jin, 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:09.600 thank you so much for the email, and let's dive 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:15.960 into spurts. You were in a car accident back in 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.960 twenty fourteen. You woke up in the hospital, and you 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:23.600 swear you saw your sister's EX in the corner of 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:26.520 the room, and it felt like he was watching over you, 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:30.640 and you were not on drugs. You were fully, fully 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.640 aware that this was happening. Okay, So yeah, I'm going 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:39.080 to tell you that the Bible is going to say, well, 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:41.240 how do I start this. There's a multiple ways to 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:42.800 get into this, but the Bible is going to say 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:48.080 that there are absolutely spirits. Of course, absolutely third member 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:51.440 of the Trinity, Holy Spirit. Right, so we're in. We're in. 0:08:52.480 --> 0:08:58.520 We understand that God is spirit. We understand that. We 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:03.520 also understand that they're is a spiritual warfare going on 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:08.480 around us. Read Ephesians six. See what Paul writes about 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:15.000 that Aphesian six. We understand that there are angelic creatures 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:20.440 and demonic creatures, and we cannot see them, but they 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:26.760 are present here on this earth as we speak. Okay, 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:30.760 that is what the Bible says. So yes, the answer 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:36.240 is there are spirits. There are there are There is 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:41.160 all kinds of spiritual activity around us wherever you are, 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:44.520 wherever you're listening to this podcast. I remember when I 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.440 used to think about this, like twenty years ago, when 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:52.960 all of the This Present Darkness books were out. Remember 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.480 that series of books, This Present Darkness. My dad used 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:56.960 to read those and I would come in and read 0:09:56.960 --> 0:10:00.240 them with them. It's fascinating stuff, but it's a about 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:07.760 spiritual warfare. And the thing to know about that is 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:12.600 that when a human dies, what the Bible says is 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:19.240 that person has no business on earth anymore. They're done that. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:23.720 Jesus says, that person has no business left on earth. 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:28.280 They're finished with their work. They're not haunting earth. They're 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:37.400 not back here sending butterflies or roses, are closing cabinet 0:10:37.480 --> 0:10:42.240 doors so that you'll hear them. They're not whispering things 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:47.000 in your dream, and they are not looking over your bedside, 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:52.319 watching over you when you're in the hospital. Okay, that's 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:56.120 what the Bible says. And we believe that the Bible 0:10:56.200 --> 0:11:02.520 is inerran. The Bible is the word of God. If 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:04.240 you don't believe that, if you don't believe the Bible 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:08.000 is the word of God, then then I'm not sure 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:09.640 what to tell you, because you're you're not gonna believe 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:15.120 anything else I'm about to tell you. But what's strange 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:18.080 too is that when when the disciples were in the 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:23.360 boat during the storm and they saw Jesus coming to them, 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:27.720 they thought he was a ghost. That's what the Bible says. 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:32.000 They thought he was a ghost, which is interesting because 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:36.160 that puts it in perspective that the disciples, just like you, 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:41.120 thought that there was some kind of spiritual world out 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:43.920 there that they could see and be afraid of, like 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:48.200 a ghost. What we do know is that the enemy 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:52.880 is a liar and a deceiver. He's the King of 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:59.000 lies and easily makes his presence known throughout the Bible, 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.720 manifesting in demons. There's all kinds of demonic warfare that 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:07.960 Jesus is casting out demons. Paul is dealing with it. 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.480 Paul is dealing Peter is dealing with it. Everyone's dealing 0:12:11.520 --> 0:12:15.520 with demons. And we see this throughout the New Testament. 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:19.600 They are manifesting themselves, and they are possessing people, they 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:24.520 are oppressing people, and they're making themselves known in all 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:28.880 kinds of ways. Right, So with everything I've just told you, now, 0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.120 let's start putting some of these pieces together. I threw 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:33.600 a lot at you. So we start putting these pieces together. 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.480 And you could say, if I saw something at the 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.560 end of the bed when I was in the hospital, 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:45.319 if I saw something looking over me, it had the 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:48.160 appearance of a human that even looks like a human. 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:51.720 I used to know and the enemy is a deceiver. 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:56.600 He's the king of lies right, and he's the prince 0:12:56.640 --> 0:13:02.640 of this world. Am I right with Jesus? Because I 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:07.320 saw something that didn't seem right and it wasn't an angel. 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:08.599 You would I think you would have said that. I 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:10.600 think you would have said I saw an angel, like 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:13.120 people say that. You didn't say that. You said I 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:17.439 saw a human, a dead human. And I'm telling I'm 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:19.920 telling you that the Bible says there are no dead 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.360 people that are haunting this earth, but there are spirits, 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:29.360 demonic creatures, deceitful, able to take different forms. You see 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:32.520 what I'm putting together here. I'm saying, when I hear 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:36.360 something like that, it's terrifying for me to think about 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:40.160 you and what you might be dealing with, what might 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:44.080 be around you, and what you might have seen that 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:50.200 day in the hospital. I could speak from a somewhat 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:55.040 confident experience that you are in a spiritual war right now, 0:13:55.760 --> 0:14:00.880 and I would run to our savior, Jesus. I would 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:05.840 run to him. And we have to understand who he is. 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.400 We have to understand that he came in the form 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:10.000 of a man, one hundred percent man. He came to 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.840 this earth, born of a virgin, lived a perfect life, 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.360 fulfilled the law perfectly, perfectly in a way that we 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:19.960 could not. And he was killed on the cross as prophesied, 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:24.760 as planned by God because of the evil hearts of men. 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:27.720 He was killed on the cross on purpose as the 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.960 sacrificial lamb, taking on the sins that me and you 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:35.320 have committed, and all of his people taking on the 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:40.760 sins and redeeming them as the ultimate sacrifice by taking 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:45.000 the wrath of God as a payment, because the wages 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:47.680 of sin is death. He took the wages of your 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:52.360 sin and paid it in full. Three days later was resurrected, 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:57.160 proving his divinity. If you believe that, If you believe that, 0:14:57.160 --> 0:15:00.760 that's the gospel, and he could save, and he could 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:05.200 end this strange idea that maybe someone has been watching 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:10.480 you at the end of your bed. Thank you for 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:12.600 the email, Jan And I'm sorry that I'm all over 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:21.800 the place today on this episode. Let me jump into this, 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:25.360 and I don't know what I'm getting into here. The 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:29.080 email says this, Hi Grande, I'm twenty eight years old. 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.040 I'm from North Texas. I love your podcast. I listen 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:32.440 to them all the time, and I find that they 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:36.200 help me. But I have something that I've been struggling with. 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:38.160 When I feel like I'm on the right track of 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:41.000 doing good, I always fall back into the old routine 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:43.200 and just get stuck in a rut. I pray for 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.680 guidance to get out of this, and when I do, 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:48.200 I still go back again and again. If you have 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.840 any advice for me, please let me know. I've been 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.440 trying to save money and I was doing good until 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:57.520 I lost it by going to the casino. And I'm 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.760 beating myself up because it's one of the things I 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:05.080 struggle with and stress out about. Yeah, this comes from Lonnie. Lonnie, 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:06.960 thanks so much for the email. Twenty eight years old, 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:09.560 North Texas. And I know that those casinos are right 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:15.360 over that border in Oklahoma. You're struggling with doing good, 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:17.200 getting on the right track. Those are the words that 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:20.920 you're using. And you're getting this rut and you save 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.360 up a little money, and you've got a gambling addiction, 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:27.360 and so you had to burn up this money in 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:29.880 the casino and then you beat yourself up about it. 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:32.280 You feel guilty, and this is the cycle. This is 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:34.440 the vicious cycle. And this happens a lot to a 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:37.160 lot of people, and not just casinos, but a lot 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:43.400 of other things as well, namely drugs. And there's a 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:45.560 lot of ways that I could go about this, and 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:49.320 to answer this quickly, it's very difficult because this is 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:52.600 the kind of thing that takes hours of discussion and 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.480 weeks of getting together. But the first thing I'm going 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.720 to go with is I'm going to go with accountability, 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:04.520 because if you show me the five people that you 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.840 hang around, then I'm gonna show you the net average 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:10.760 of what you are and what you are becoming. So 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.439 take the five people around you that you hang around 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:16.600 with most, and I'm gonna take those five people, I'm 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.240 gonna see them, evaluate them, and I'm gonna tell you 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:23.000 exactly who you are based on those five people. It's easy. 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:25.600 I take the average of them and that's you. I 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:28.040 take the average of where they're going in life, where 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:31.000 they're heading, and then that's your average of where you're 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:34.280 going and where you're heading. That is easy, And this 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.680 happens in all walks of life with all different kinds 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.400 of people, all tribes and tongues and all cultures. Whoever 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:46.280 you're hanging around with becomes you, and you can't think, well, 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:51.280 I'm gonna help make these people better. Don't think that 0:17:51.280 --> 0:17:54.600 that never works that way. I hang around with with 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:58.160 some bumbs. I'm not a bum, but I'm gonna help 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.000 bring them up. They need me. You're going to be 0:18:01.040 --> 0:18:03.720 a boom five years you're gonna be a bum That's 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:07.560 just the way it is. So I think if you 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.000 look at those five people, we almost don't have to 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:13.760 go anywhere else. I would say, Upgrade. My brother says 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:17.400 this all the time. Upgrade, you're five. Upgrade, you're five 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:22.080 people because those five people are affecting you big time. 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:24.720 And you get some five people around you with accountability, 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:27.840 with integrity that say, hey, Lonnie, what are you doing 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:31.000 on Friday? Come on, we got some stuff to do. 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:35.400 And you're like, okay, good. They're lifting you up instead 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:37.400 of hey, man, come on, get in the truck. We're 0:18:37.400 --> 0:18:39.560 going to the casino. And you're like, man, I'm trying 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:41.159 to get better. And they're like, come on, Lonie, go 0:18:41.160 --> 0:18:43.840 to the casino. That's what happens with your five Hey. 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:45.800 When you buy a house right and you get on 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:48.800 a certain street and you're the most expensive house on 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:53.280 the street, your value of your house goes down because 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:55.880 everyone else around, all the other houses around you are 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:59.200 pulling your value down. So don't be the most expensive 0:18:59.240 --> 0:19:01.439 house on the street. I hope that's not you, Lonnie. 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:04.119 I hope that you have more value than that, and 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:07.480 I hope you could upgrade your five keep that accountability 0:19:07.480 --> 0:19:10.320 around you. This conversation could be way longer than this, 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:13.000 but I want to start just with that simple thing. 0:19:13.359 --> 0:19:16.840 Who's around you. It's time to upgrade your friends. It's 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.640 time to go, hey, man, I need some friends that say, man, 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:22.760 you're not going to that casino. We're gonna hold you accountable. 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:25.120 We're gonna keep you down here because we love you, man, 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:27.720 because you're our friend, and we're not gonna let you 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:31.160 get into this. Find those friends and I'll start doing 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.240 it right now. I'll take a break beer right back. 0:19:37.320 --> 0:19:39.720 This show is sponsored by Better Help. 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