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Speaker 1: berryletta thanks now. Subject variety is the spice of life, right,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I met a guy that I thought

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Speaker 1: He's a man of God and he would be a

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Speaker 1: me out and very nice dates, and he visits me

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Speaker 1: in my family every week and hopes that we might

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Speaker 1: and he's willing and able to fulfill my sexual needs,

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Speaker 1: but that is about it. I would not consider him

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Speaker 1: as boyfriend material. He's more of a side piece type

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Speaker 1: told him about my side piece. The main guy says

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Speaker 1: can just have wild sex with whenever I want. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I want my cake and eat it too. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to lose my main guy or the side piece,

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Speaker 1: so I'm trying to figure out how to make it work.

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Speaker 1: Men do it, so why can't I? Until I am

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Speaker 1: really ready to settle down? Variety is the spice of life, right,

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Speaker 1: So what should I do? Hey, you're single? Right? Listen?

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Speaker 1: Who am I to judge? Okay? Do you boo? Uh?

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Speaker 1: No one has ever said that men are the only

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Speaker 1: ones who can't be players. Men and women. Yes, women

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Speaker 1: do it every single day. The difference here is though,

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Speaker 1: that you told you're you know, you're so called main

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Speaker 1: guy about your side piece. That usually doesn't happen. Guys

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Speaker 1: usually don't tell, They just lie, you know, and asked

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Speaker 1: but he did give you an ultimatum, you know, choose

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Speaker 1: what you want. It's your life. Um, you're you're you're single.

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Speaker 1: You know you've heard the saying it's a double standard.

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Speaker 1: Women can't do what men doing. All that, Um, it's

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Speaker 1: your life. I'm not judging you on this one. I'm

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Speaker 1: really not Do what you do. Whatever you want to

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Speaker 1: do and see how it works out for you. If

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Speaker 1: it's going so far, so good, then keep doing it.

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Speaker 1: You're probably young anyway. You didn't get give your age,

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Speaker 1: do you boom Steve. Yeah, Well I'm judge because you

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Speaker 1: wrote in here, you must want to be judged. So

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Speaker 1: this is strawberry Letta. We judge, We give our opinions

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Speaker 1: on it or whether you like it or not. If

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Speaker 1: you didn't want it, you wouldn't have wrote in now.

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Speaker 1: If you're gonna just do you do you boot din?

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Speaker 1: What's the damn Letta folk just gonna do you boo?

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Speaker 1: But that ain't what's going on. You really got a

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Speaker 1: little situation here. Let me walk you through it. Lady.

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Speaker 1: I thought it be you met this man. You thought

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Speaker 1: a great father and husband to the right woman. But

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Speaker 1: that woman's not me, because see you got this high

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Speaker 1: can get back together. Now. He got feelings for you

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Speaker 1: Come on now, cleaning your chidling? Oh you remember you

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Speaker 1: you gott a man. It is shocking your coin. Come

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Speaker 1: on now. Yeah, he isn't here doing nothing. He peeling

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Speaker 1: he ain't no great father, ain't no good husband with lord,

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Speaker 1: have mercy. Whenever you wanted, he got it for you,

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Speaker 1: But he ain't got money for charcoal and light of flat.

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Speaker 1: I want my cake and eat it too. Everybody everybody

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Speaker 1: my check and don't pay taxes. Amen. Can I get Amen? Amen? Hell,

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Speaker 1: I want to go to work and get paid three

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Speaker 1: times when I'm making now hallelujah. Hell. I wish gas

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Speaker 1: long this is. Now here's a problem. I don't want

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Speaker 1: See so a lot of times when you blaming men

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Speaker 1: want to. Maybe you too, damn wild she is. Everybody

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