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Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot Il, a production of iHeartRadio. Hey everybody,

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Speaker 1: it's your girl, Aja Graydon downs Lur you know how

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Speaker 1: it is any who. I was asked to choose my

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Speaker 1: favorite episode, and it's no surprise. My favorite episode is

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Speaker 1: the one featuring my daughter, my daughter Lana, and it's

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Speaker 1: called Young Joining. The thing about it is that, you know,

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Speaker 1: having teenagers has been a big challenge for me. But

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Speaker 1: to be truthful, I enjoy young people a lot. I

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Speaker 1: learn a lot from young folks, and I think this

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Speaker 1: generation has so much sta can offer us, as all

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Speaker 1: of us did when we were young. But for me,

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Speaker 1: I really have tried to embrace all the things that

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Speaker 1: they have to give me. And my daughter is one

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Speaker 1: of those reasons, along with all of my children. But

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Speaker 1: this episode really just touched my heart and helped to

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Speaker 1: validate the reasons why I love giving young people a voice. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys enjoy it. This is my favor, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Give it a listen. Let me know what you think.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, good people. It is a pleasure to

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Speaker 1: be alive, Yo, It's a pleasure to be alive. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for listening. Taking some of your time

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Speaker 1: to listen to Jay dot Il the podcast. My name

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Speaker 1: is Joe Scott and I am here with my sister friends.

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Speaker 1: I lay like Saint Clair or whatever way you want

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Speaker 1: to say, Yes, I am here. You know I like

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Speaker 1: that like she don't know that. It don't matter as

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Speaker 1: long as you just saying whatever. Go ahead say Lia

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Speaker 1: Saint Clair. Okay, you know, with a with a period,

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Speaker 1: just so you know, just so you know, we're still

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Speaker 1: introducing ourselves, just because you know, we want jal exactly

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Speaker 1: where you are. You're a j dot L with Lia

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Speaker 1: Saint Clair and Joe Scott am agea great dans la.

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Speaker 1: Yes we like we like a three named baby, don't

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Speaker 1: we like her? We're into it. We're into it, y'all

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Speaker 1: are to a little hyphenatu sitch speaking of the babies

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Speaker 1: and not not exactly babies. I went to see a

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Speaker 1: concert the other night, y'all, and I went to see

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Speaker 1: Steve Lacy with my kid. Right now, Jet brought Steve

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Speaker 1: Lacy to my attention in the first place, and I

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Speaker 1: got this this overwhelming sense. I got some Prince vibes

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Speaker 1: the music much. I thought the lyrics were very thoughtful.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you know, said dug in some

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Speaker 1: more and I was like, oh right, you know, happy

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Speaker 1: to see it, Like we're sincerely happy to see whenever.

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Speaker 1: You know, the young people not only are they like

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Speaker 1: they're vibing, but they're also like musically, you know, like

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Speaker 1: it's a super talent, you know, like yeah for super talents,

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Speaker 1: Like okay, that's what's up. And then there before him,

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Speaker 1: his opening app was this young girl. Um. I keep

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Speaker 1: saying young girl. She's probably like twenty something. I don't know, um,

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Speaker 1: but her name is Fuchet and she does music. Come on. Yes,

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Speaker 1: the whole esthetic, you know, that was really working. It

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Speaker 1: was such like a homage to the Hirie carrew um

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Speaker 1: I want to say correctly, the like Japanese anime. Oh okay,

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Speaker 1: so you know this Afro pump babies, that's an Afro

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Speaker 1: punk baby and for show, it was just really good

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Speaker 1: to see that kind of energy, you know, And I

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Speaker 1: was like, I like, I like this, I like being

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Speaker 1: around this. This is such a beautiful thing. Um. And oftentimes,

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Speaker 1: you know, we end up spending time with people around

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Speaker 1: our own age, which could definitely beat to our detriment.

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, yeah, y'all know how I have all I

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Speaker 1: have like an under lining irritation with my generation, like

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Speaker 1: anyone who listens to this podcast though, like, but we

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Speaker 1: irk me? Come on, come on, what is it? The irks? Uh?

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Speaker 1: We irked me because I feel like for us, we're

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Speaker 1: like that. I feel that, and that that annoys me, Like,

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Speaker 1: y'all can't possibly be the face down, butt up generation

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Speaker 1: clutching pearls. Y'all have here clutching pearls. That is so

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Speaker 1: tru I would telling. Let me telling these old ladies. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you you know. Well, listen, old ladies not bad. It's

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Speaker 1: But it's just the continuing, the opening the chasm of

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Speaker 1: open your mind. Stop stop, it's closing. It's clothing, open back,

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Speaker 1: open open it, open it because anything. Y'all. Don't watch y'all,

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Speaker 1: don't watch Game of Thrones. Y'all, don't don't you don't

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Speaker 1: like hold the door, Hold hold, hold door, Hold the door,

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Speaker 1: and the door open for a bird, the new fresh

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Speaker 1: the interesting people with these thoughts that as a man

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Speaker 1: old door. So so check this out. We have the

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Speaker 1: privilege and the pleasure of talking to Lana Danzler. Hi, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: II listen this this little fresh faced this beauty. Good

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Speaker 1: But it's just like they did. They were saying that

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Speaker 1: and I was like, WHOA, If you've been through it,

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Speaker 1: Well it's it's an age old thing. It's anybody that's confused.

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Speaker 1: the internet, people that just kind of give you a

427
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:39,240
Speaker 1: healthy insight into their life, and even if they don't

428
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 1: show you everything. Because I think the whole saying social

429
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,880
Speaker 1: media is fake, da da da da da, I think

430
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: social media being fake can be a good thing sometimes,

431
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 1: Like I feel like, if you're a family YouTuber or whatever,

432
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: families have struggles, But do you need to put that

433
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: on your YouTube channel? No, because some people might watch

434
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 1: that to feel better about themselves. Some people might watch

435
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 1: it be like I didn't have a good relationship with

436
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: my family, but it's nice to see these children grow

437
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: and this family blossom together, even if they might have

438
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: issues offscreen. I feel like sometimes having a curated image

439
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 1: like that is okay. And I feel like people are

440
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: so obsessed with authenticity it's kind of a bad thing,

441
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 1: Like things like the shade rum, stuff like that we're

442
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:28,200
Speaker 1: constantly seeing these toxic couples and these problematic is that

443
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 1: I don't think it's good for people, and I don't

444
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 1: think it's good this access people have to people's lives

445
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: so much now that they feel entitled to their lives

446
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: and entitled to opinions about these people that they don't

447
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,680
Speaker 1: even know. That's why I feel like, sometimes curation is good.

448
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's better if you only see this person's picture

449
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: when it's a paparazzi photo of them leaving somewhere, not

450
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,679
Speaker 1: a paparazzi photo of them being intimate with someone or

451
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,879
Speaker 1: something like that. I just feel like this like access

452
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 1: or like just straight up entitlement. Maybe, and I hate

453
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 1: to cut you off, but maybe there's a thing with

454
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,679
Speaker 1: us where we have to understand that the thing that

455
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: makes y'all different is this is this experience with social

456
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: media and the internet, and that that experience cannot be

457
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: defined so rigidly as good or bad. That's what I'm saying. Yeah,

458
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: what I'm hearing from you is that it's a layered

459
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 1: and complex experience that we need to be aware of.

460
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 1: That there is such a thing as a life influencer,

461
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 1: as opposed to a regular influencer. I've never even heard

462
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: that before. Men. That's the crazy part. Y'all learn that

463
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: in school, and grown ups don't even they don't know

464
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:45,199
Speaker 1: how to regulate their social media like that, right, So

465
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: how can they even begin to talk to you about

466
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 1: it when they don't even know that? That's my mind

467
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: was blown when you said that, like and also and

468
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: also trying to audit myself mentally, like, yeah, which which one?

469
00:26:55,040 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: Are you right? Because clearly not everything thing is bad? Right? Right? Everything?

470
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 1: You know? I think that the people in my age

471
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 1: bracket and above, you know, we're kind we're a little

472
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:15,560
Speaker 1: bit in shock, overwhelmed. We're a little bit overwhelmed. It's

473
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: it's a lot both. Oh my god, Like the internet

474
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 1: came when we were in high school, friends, like it happens,

475
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: things started happening from there. It was like the beeper,

476
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: the cell phone to pet and it was just like

477
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: and then we still gotta keep up with y'all too,

478
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 1: and oh my goodness, it's like it's it's so I

479
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 1: just stuff here. I mean for staying in your lane,

480
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 1: I mean I'm here for it, for being this this adult,

481
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 1: this the adult that you are right now. I'm here

482
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 1: for you doing that, but I'm also here for you

483
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: to to expand your mind and be able to relate

484
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,639
Speaker 1: to the youth because you know, I believe the children

485
00:27:55,680 --> 00:28:01,120
Speaker 1: are in future. They are you know, So it's not

486
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 1: that deep. You have to open up. We're gonna take

487
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: a quick break and then we'll be right back. Lana,

488
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:25,479
Speaker 1: you mentioned sexuality. Um, we've like when I grew up.

489
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 1: I'll say that when I grew up that that homosexual

490
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 1: men were in an area of the city where I

491
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 1: grew up in Philly. They were in one area and

492
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 1: if that's what you wanted to see or hang around,

493
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 1: or that's what you wanted to experience, then that's where

494
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: you went. Now people are finally able to be all

495
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: of themselves everywhere they go and nobody has to live

496
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: in a closet anymore. Do you do? You grasp? How

497
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: what a what a gigantic big deal that is? It's

498
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: so weird. It's so weird sometimes I think about it.

499
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 1: Two Sometimes I asked my mom, like, you really didn't

500
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,640
Speaker 1: have like a phone with a screen on it, Like,

501
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: how is it like now? You just used to Now

502
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: you got this tap smartphone. I was like, you know, it,

503
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: but you used to have them buttons. I'm like, girl,

504
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: we had a rotary our generation keeping up all day.

505
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 1: She's so right. I didn't even think about it like that.

506
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: She's so right. Yeah, you get so used to it

507
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: because it's like you get so accustomed to it and

508
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 1: so fast. I feel like, maybe just me, I feel

509
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: like it. You get so fastly, Like I like, there

510
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 1: be four year olds that know how to work the iPad.

511
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: I remember the end of the day my little cousin

512
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: was here and it was like the other day. It

513
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 1: was a long time ago. He was about three, and

514
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: he has YouTube up and he tells me he wants

515
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: to watch the Spider Man video. And I'm thinking he's three,

516
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: let me look it up for him. He's like no,

517
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: he typed Spider Man into YouTube bar and searches it out.

518
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, you, let me know. I've seen nine month

519
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 1: olds been able to scroll through things, you know, and

520
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: find like the like the parents had a series of

521
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,760
Speaker 1: films or movies or whatever in there in the little

522
00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 1: iPad and baby just just went and found what they wanted.

523
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:23,080
Speaker 1: You can't even read. You can touch Spider Man into

524
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: you too. That's a lot of like I just wonder

525
00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 1: what I can't wait you'll become grown ups. I'm like,

526
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 1: what does that look like when knowledge starts from that point?

527
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 1: And also here's a question too, Lona, what's the chill

528
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: looked like? Because I was thinking about that as you

529
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: was giving us your reenactment of what happened in class

530
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 1: that day and all of that knowledge and well rediness

531
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 1: that you have, I was like, what is the chill?

532
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: What is the like? Yeah? How how do you how

533
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 1: do you kind of manage yeah, knowing these things like

534
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: where where is the where's the kid? Yeah? The kid

535
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: like likeness? We tackle that other question, okay, because because

536
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: it's a it's a whole new world. Did you hear

537
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 1: what jail I asked you? Yeah, about like, um, people

538
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: having so many sexual identity Yeah, I feel like, uh,

539
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 1: and this is just might be one thing that I noticed.

540
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: But sometimes I feel like people make it seem like

541
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 1: it's a lot, a lot more overwhelming than it is.

542
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 1: For example, Uh, there's this thing on the internet called

543
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: neo pronouns. We're not on the internet, but some people

544
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 1: really it's just like where people's pronouns aren't she heard?

545
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: They they're like, uh, something like some people would like

546
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: to be called like different like objects as they're pronouns,

547
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: and I don't never entirely understand it. But I've never

548
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: met a person that used that. But there's such this,

549
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: there's this big discourse on the internet or whether this

550
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: is something people should do or this is stupid, this

551
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 1: is this is a but still never even met anyone

552
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 1: that uses those pronouns. It's almost like people want it

553
00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: to be, Oh, you don't know what anybody is these days,

554
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 1: but it's like some of these people have never even

555
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: met a non binary person. You just want to be

556
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: overwhelmed by these things. You feel like it's all around

557
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: you when it really isn't. Again, there are so much

558
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: more openness in society today, but there are also some

559
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 1: people in this world that still kind of live in

560
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: a bit of a pocket. And I feel like, as

561
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: a society, we need to stop pretending like it's like

562
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: changing our way of life. I guess I feel like

563
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: we should never really assume what someone goes by. Again.

564
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: When I was a kid, you don't know, I had short,

565
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: foresty hair, I would be misgendered a lot, and I

566
00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: was born a girl. So it's like, is that right though?

567
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: But when someone tells you don't assume people's gender, you're

568
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 1: automatically thinking, oh, this changes my way of life. I

569
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: don't approve of this. I don't approve of that. But

570
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: I was born a girl and you miss gendered me.

571
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: So it's almost like, why don't we just use these

572
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,959
Speaker 1: neutral words for people? Why is that so hard? Because

573
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: it could offend the same people. You say you're tired

574
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 1: of the girls with day weaves, and they this, and

575
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: they that I presented myself as naturally and you still

576
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: disrespected me. And I was and I'm not a part

577
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 1: of any community that you're so called don't approve of.

578
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 1: So I don't get it. You know what I'm trying

579
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: to say, You know, yes, yes, people try so hard

580
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 1: to make this is this is someone's own fault. This

581
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: is changing my lifestyle, when really your lifestyle just wasn't productive.

582
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 1: It just wasn't It never worked, it wasn't cool, it

583
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 1: never worked, and you know it never worked, and you

584
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: know it never worked. You know it was never helping anybody.

585
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: And I like that we live in the world that's open,

586
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 1: but I feel like it could be a lot more opener,

587
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: and I feel like it I feel like people want

588
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 1: to be overwhelmed. Sometimes people want something to be mad at.

589
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: We need something to be mad at as a society,

590
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: because we need to direct our anger towards something that's

591
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: not the big issues. So we can follow our pill

592
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: and we can, you know, make it seem like everything's okay.

593
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: We're like, yeah, the reason everything sucks, it's because the

594
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: pink sauce lady. That's why mine. No, she might be bad,

595
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: but she didn't make all these things. Unfortunately, Lady is

596
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 1: not the root of all of our issues. Fifteen. Okay,

597
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: is this it's a fair question. Do you feel a

598
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 1: need or desire to be around us? You mean like adults. Yeah,

599
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,320
Speaker 1: let's just let's just say that that your mother's friends

600
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 1: are pretty much like her. You know, they're they're interesting

601
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 1: and knowledgeable. You know, they're they're cool in their own way,

602
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,919
Speaker 1: you know, living life and learning as they go, like

603
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: the like most people with good sense. I think you

604
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: know you're learning. You stumbled and you get back up

605
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, you know what I mean? Um,

606
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: because you have I have so much information. You have

607
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: this this. I don't know if I could call it clarity.

608
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's exactly what I'm looking for,

609
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: but the insight to expand and grow on a daily

610
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 1: basis because you've got so many tools to do it.

611
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you you still enjoy us or

612
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 1: need us in any way other than financially taking care

613
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 1: of you? I ask, but actually, you know what I'm saying,

614
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: do you help me without my cash app? I'm going

615
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: to ask you to speak as much as you can

616
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 1: for young people around your age, like, do y'all y'all

617
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: f with us. I feel like some of us are

618
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: at a point where it's like it's been a very

619
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: big thing. It's like I won't respect my elders and

620
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: let's I get respect back. And this is that. I

621
00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 1: think that's a very progressive place to be in. But

622
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: I feel like we need family. Feel like people that

623
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 1: cut all ties they end up kind of missing it.

624
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,440
Speaker 1: And I don't feel like I get disrespected in my family,

625
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,720
Speaker 1: just like as an example, I know there's some people

626
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: that kind of move on that wavelength or even I like,

627
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,839
Speaker 1: if they have like political disagreements with their family, they're

628
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: just like, no, I'm done, And I completely understand that.

629
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: And to speak for my whole generation, I just would

630
00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: have to address that act of it because there are

631
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 1: some people that genuinely, do you know, perceive their family

632
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: members as like or even the older people in their

633
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: life is just kind of like, I don't respect your

634
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: opinion and you don't respect my opinion. So that's kind

635
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: of the end of our relationship. Besides, you know, the

636
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 1: cash aft, like my mom said, but I think there

637
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 1: is like I feel like, as young people again, we

638
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 1: still kind of are bits stuck in our ways a

639
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 1: bit about what's immature, Like, oh, I can't say my

640
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: mom's my best friend, but there are a lot of

641
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 1: us that are just like I love my mom's my

642
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: best friend. I love to have conversation. I love having

643
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: conversations with older black ladies. My mom knows this. I know.

644
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 1: When you guys ask that question, she was just like,

645
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: that's my happy place. Big. I just I am completely

646
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 1: I need that insight because again, you guys ask like,

647
00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 1: what kind of keeps me grounded in a bit? And

648
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 1: I do like having friends that aren't really as interested

649
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: in these topics, just because it kind of helps take

650
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: my mind off of it because it's a lot and

651
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 1: you can kind of find the real reason why this

652
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 1: is that and this is that like you're gonna get

653
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: caught up and all that stuff sometimes just living your life.

654
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: But it's easy to just ta those people. You can

655
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: just kind of turn off that side of your brain

656
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 1: and you can just kind of enjoy that child like perspective.

657
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 1: But then it's nice to have conversations like this with

658
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: a bunch of educated, beautiful, intelligent women, and it's like

659
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: it feels like you're more so heard and you can relate.

660
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:51,320
Speaker 1: You know, It's like I could talk about my favorite

661
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 1: show with my friends, and then I could talk about,

662
00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: you know, Redlining with you guys, and I could talk

663
00:37:56,680 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: about like I wanted to talk about your favorite what

664
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: you mean red Line? And I ain't always go so deep.

665
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: Well know, me and my mom actually do watch a

666
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 1: lot of the same shows, by the way, And I've

667
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 1: been trying to get her to watch The Sandman on

668
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: Netflix recently and she won't watch it. And I know

669
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: you're a grandma, now, I know you got business, but

670
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: you when revere caa snuggle up and watch that show. Mom.

671
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,400
Speaker 1: First of all, I did watch Umbrella. You put me

672
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: onto Umbrella Academy is season three so bad? No season

673
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,080
Speaker 1: three so no season three, but I mean one and

674
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: two is good. They changed stuff up, and it's weird

675
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: they switched it up. But but I'm just saying you

676
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,279
Speaker 1: put it so. I'm glad you brought up a show

677
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:36,399
Speaker 1: because my son and I got a chance to watch

678
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 1: You Fouria together. And I don't know if you all

679
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: watched You Fouria. Have you watched that at all? I

680
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 1: know you watch it. Okay, it's safe space. It's a

681
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: safe space. She can't do nothing. Let me just well,

682
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: first answer, did you watch it? Na, I've I've seen

683
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 1: some of it. It's the episode of too long for

684
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: me to actually watch all of it, but I've seen

685
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 1: some of it. Can't That's a thing like, Okay, I've

686
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: noticed that your generation also wants things kind of quick.

687
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: You don't really want to long form any just pace storytelling.

688
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's really my thing. I don't

689
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: like all the moves, and I feel like it's kind

690
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 1: of lazy. I don't know it's a controversial to say.

691
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a little It's just like everybody's

692
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 1: allowed to have an opinion. I will say this to

693
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: the listeners. Um, if you haven't watched Euphoria, there's a

694
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: real reason why they're winning all these awards, and it's

695
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 1: not just because Zendea is beautiful, Like she's exceptionally talented,

696
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: and so is that cast and the stories that they're telling.

697
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 1: When I watched it, I was like, Oh, I don't

698
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 1: really have to answer a lot of questions because a

699
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: lot of the answers are in euphoria. When we're talking

700
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: about accountability, when we're talking about sex, drugs, when we're

701
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 1: talking about sexuality, when we're talking when we're talking about living,

702
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 1: a lot of the experiences are in euphoria, recovery. Uh,

703
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:14,000
Speaker 1: the list of relationship with parents, relationship. Yeah, I'm not

704
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: saying this to be a hater, because again, I actually

705
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: I have what I've seen in the second season. I

706
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 1: actually really like it's a lot more slow paced. I

707
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,399
Speaker 1: just don't don't like. I kind of feel like, if

708
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 1: you can't keep it in one place and keep the

709
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 1: audience's attention, I think it's it might be overwhelming. And

710
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:30,759
Speaker 1: that's kind of how it is for me on like

711
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:34,279
Speaker 1: multiple storylines like that. I don't like multiple storylines and

712
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 1: when it waves together kind of that's why I kind

713
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 1: of like the end of the season. The first season

714
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:40,839
Speaker 1: a little bit, but again I'm not sure how all

715
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: of it ends. The first season is a little fast

716
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:44,320
Speaker 1: paced for me, but I like what I've seen my

717
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: second I might go back and watch it, but I

718
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 1: think that again, not because again I don't want to

719
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 1: be like the one person that doesn't like the show.

720
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: I do, like, what do you think in terms of

721
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:57,360
Speaker 1: like media, Like I think, uh, from a parental standpoint,

722
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: it's always hard to kind of I think, lock into

723
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: media or that that that expresses or feels like it's

724
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: speaking for young people. It feels like as soon as

725
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: we lock into something, y'all have moved on. Or we'll

726
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 1: lock into something and we'll think, oh, this is groundbreaking,

727
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 1: and y'all are like, yeah, whatever, we don't even talk

728
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 1: like that. And I remember being a young person and

729
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 1: having that, you know, like our parents thinking that hip

730
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 1: hop was like the Rice Crispi's commercial when Snap Cracker

731
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: and Pop was rapping. They're like, yeah, that, I like that,

732
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 1: that that jingle is nice. If that all the rap

733
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,920
Speaker 1: music sounded like that, I would love it. And we

734
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: were like, no, that's that's that's not how that sounds. So,

735
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 1: you know, is there any like media that you really think, like, Okay,

736
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 1: this is on the post of kind of what young

737
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 1: people are feeling and they're connecting with I would say, again,

738
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: are there are a lot of themes in You for

739
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: You that I think are really really good for parents

740
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: to watch, even but I don't want them to think

741
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 1: that all of the children are living that life. I

742
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: feel like some parent might watch You for You and

743
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,839
Speaker 1: come back thinking my child's a drug addict or something

744
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,399
Speaker 1: like that, like, no, you used to be careful, don't

745
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: don't make the wrong assumptions. But just like kind of

746
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 1: just the life they're living in, kind of the emotions

747
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 1: they're feeling, is very beautifully portrayed in that show, especially

748
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: with Sindea, Like again, like she's very talented to re

749
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 1: iterate what's already been said. But again, the show that

750
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 1: I watched on Amazon Prime called We Are Who We Are,

751
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 1: it's really nice to me. The emotion of the show,

752
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 1: it's very it's not it's um it's not too explicit

753
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: on the themes. It lets you kind of think of

754
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:38,760
Speaker 1: it for yourself, but the way the characters behave seems

755
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: very normal to me, and um, their emotions just seem

756
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: very normal to me, and again, it's kind of, uh,

757
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: it's less this. Yeah, I liked the show. I liked

758
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: the show. I thought it was very interesting. You get

759
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 1: very invested into it, and it's much more slow pace,

760
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 1: I would say, um, and I feel like if Euphoria

761
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 1: is kind of too fast for you, then maybe you

762
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: might like that show. But they tackle some different themes,

763
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:08,720
Speaker 1: and they also tackle something that isn't really that prevalent

764
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: in Euphoria, which is there's a character with mental illness

765
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: that's not like Ruse. It's more so like I think

766
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:19,359
Speaker 1: he might struggle with I don't want to make a guess,

767
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:23,840
Speaker 1: but it's different than what she goes through. But it's

768
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: kind of behaviors and stuff. It's an interesting watch, I

769
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: would say, And now all the episodes are I don't

770
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 1: think they're having a season too. But it also deals

771
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: with a black female main character that trying to transition

772
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: into a trans man, which is kind of similar to

773
00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:39,759
Speaker 1: some of the themes that are in Euphoria, but with

774
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 1: yeah the opposite. Yeah, I love a good TV wreck.

775
00:43:46,960 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: More conversation after the break, you were talking about being

776
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 1: in the car with your dad and you wanted him

777
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: listen to some of the music I was just curious

778
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: what you were playing for your dad. Oh, this is

779
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: not music I particularly listen to. But my dad's very

780
00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:13,080
Speaker 1: interested in djaying and stuff, and I be trying to

781
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 1: put him onto stuff that commun kids my age or

782
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: listening to, or at least something that like if he

783
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: put it on, they'd be like, whoa, what do you

784
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: know about this? I put on some Destroyed Lonely for him.

785
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:24,919
Speaker 1: I put up some yea. I put on some Frank

786
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 1: Ocean and that was about it. He knows about Frank

787
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 1: Ocean some other stuff. And speaking of Steve Lacey again,

788
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: I love See Lacey. He's so cool, even just a

789
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:41,280
Speaker 1: person's very cool. Um, So, Steve Lacey, if you're watching,

790
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 1: you might not be, but I'm cool with you. I'm

791
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:45,919
Speaker 1: mess with you. But I should have played some Steve

792
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: Lacy for dad, because he did have that one song

793
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 1: inside that I feel like people forgot was him because

794
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: they kind of just rose up this year. But he's

795
00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: kind of been possible yeah years, yeah, years, So yeah,

796
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 1: I can front. I've been in as dams for a

797
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 1: long time. Like you got going, young man, you was

798
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 1: giving you was giving them for Auntie vibes. Listen That's

799
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: my point. That was what I was trying to get atline,

800
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 1: because I catch myself around um young people, and I'm

801
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:20,279
Speaker 1: very much an auntie. Like I'm not. I'm not like

802
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: you know, your friend. I'm really like your auntie. You

803
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:27,759
Speaker 1: need some advice, honey, you need you need um direction

804
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 1: for something. I may not know, but I might know

805
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: somebody who knows somebody and maybe they can help you

806
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 1: get where you want to go. You know. I'm kind

807
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: of the mentor kind of auntie, you know, the celebration

808
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:41,800
Speaker 1: kind of auntie. You know, I don't want to be

809
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,800
Speaker 1: judgmental about things. I want you to be joyful. You know.

810
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:48,320
Speaker 1: That's like I want you to be joyful and everything

811
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 1: that you do, and if it doesn't suit you, I

812
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:53,399
Speaker 1: want you to stop doing that. You know. That's kind

813
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: of where I am. And that's that's what I don't know, Like,

814
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's annoying. Is that annoying? Like,

815
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 1: if it is, that's that entirely is why I feel like, again,

816
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: kids my age love their aunties. They need their aunties,

817
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 1: even if they all admitted and again, those people that

818
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: are kind of done with dealing with the generational traumas

819
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, and letting go of their older

820
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:20,280
Speaker 1: relatives and stuff. Is a very small fraction of people.

821
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 1: Same thing with the very small fraction of people that

822
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 1: you'll encounter that really their identities are super confusing, quote unquote.

823
00:46:27,320 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 1: People tend to be like, oh, there's so many people

824
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: are the kids are leaving us. The kids don't care

825
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: about this. They're ungrateful dad. They're confusing me. Now, really

826
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,879
Speaker 1: it's only a little bit of them and the ones

827
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 1: that are getting completely cut off or not like y'all,

828
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: the ones that are going to completely cut off are

829
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 1: the ones that kind of deserve but you know, problematic,

830
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: little problem problematic. And then and even then, you know,

831
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 1: sometimes all it takes a little switches behavior. Maybe y'all

832
00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: be back, Maybe you'll be back. Maybe sometimes we got

833
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: work to do a lot of times something some of

834
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 1: us don't know. It's the ones that don't know and

835
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: don't want to do nothing bad. And again, I kind

836
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,960
Speaker 1: of have an air of tolerance for ignorance a little bit,

837
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 1: you know, I I have a little bit of tolerance

838
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: for that out attempt to educate it, not at all,

839
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 1: let it sit. But if I was having a problem

840
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 1: with something. I'll make it known, you know, and it

841
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean you have to cut ties. But it's

842
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 1: just like something I have issue with, something you have

843
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 1: issue with. We could talk about it, or we could

844
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 1: not talk. Can we start go back to that question

845
00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 1: I asked you earlier about, you know, relaxing being a

846
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,959
Speaker 1: kid and how you tend to do that being a child.

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Speaker 1: I know kid is not appropriate. I'm sorry, No, no,

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Speaker 1: I actually don't have a problem with that. Actually I

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Speaker 1: touched on it a little bit. But it's just like

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Speaker 1: being around people that don't really not don't care about

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Speaker 1: these issues but don't really know a whole bunch about it.

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Speaker 1: It like almost like prohibits me from me even talking

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Speaker 1: about it because it won't really make a lot of sense.

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Speaker 1: It's just like hearing them talk about the stuff they're

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Speaker 1: interested in kind of just makes you get you put

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Speaker 1: you on a supportive standpoint. It's like, Oh, you want

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Speaker 1: to play a video game, We'll play a video game.

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Speaker 1: Oh you guys are gonna watch a movie tonight, We'll

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00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 1: watch a movie tonight, or are you gonna go do whatever.

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Speaker 1: It's like it kind of takes your mind off of

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Speaker 1: those big subjects. That kind are always boom boom booming,

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Speaker 1: and again you could just like turn it off for

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Speaker 1: a second and you can focus on, well they're interested

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Speaker 1: in and you're also interested in as well. Just sometimes

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Speaker 1: I tend to think, oh, this is low key racist,

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Speaker 1: Oh this is I just want to turn it off

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Speaker 1: every once in again line, I'm like you I can, Okay.

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Speaker 1: I think what's interesting is that what I do love

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Speaker 1: about my kids is that they're gonna call a spade

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Speaker 1: a spake. Yeah, they're not gonna fall into the part

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Speaker 1: where it's on their neck, but they're they're gonna say, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's They're gonna call that for what it is, you

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00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:52,840
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I think they can enjoy

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Speaker 1: life in ways that that they can still enjoy the

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Speaker 1: joy aspect of a thing but still be realistic about

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Speaker 1: what they're looking at. And I feel like I always

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Speaker 1: think about it reminds me of The Whiz. I grew

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Speaker 1: up with the Whiz, and the Wiz is such a

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Speaker 1: significant part of my growing up and I love this

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00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: piece of work. It's one of the most important pieces

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Speaker 1: of art of my childhood, the Whiz. But as I

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Speaker 1: got older and I became a little bit more aware

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Speaker 1: of certain things. There's things in the Wiz I can't

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Speaker 1: unsee now, but I still love it. But like I

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00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:27,320
Speaker 1: could call it for the big black dirt and horrible

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Speaker 1: witch that forces everyone to work in a sweatshop. Stop

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Speaker 1: a lot of I can't. Oh, the monkeys bothered me,

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00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:47,279
Speaker 1: the flying monkeys, the monkeys. The good witch is light skin. Yeah,

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00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: but but did you see their lips? Stop it, Stop it.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot. It's not even the scarecrows. The scarecrows

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Speaker 1: one the music. He just wrote the music. He just

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00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 1: wrote the music. He just wrote. Yeah. I mean, there's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying is that it's an important and beautifu

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Speaker 1: full piece of work. And like I said, one of

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Speaker 1: the best lessons I learned that life came from the

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Speaker 1: winds where it was just like everything that you need

897
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Speaker 1: is in you. If you keep trying to look externally

898
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Speaker 1: for the things that you'll never be able to be

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Speaker 1: who you are and be in the fullness of yourself.

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Speaker 1: And as long as you are aware of the fullness

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Speaker 1: of yourself, your home anywhere you are, so that that

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Speaker 1: will never be taken away, you know, in that sense

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Speaker 1: of the word. But you know, I don't typically ask

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Speaker 1: this question, but I know we're running out of time

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Speaker 1: and I really want Jail to ask my baby, you know,

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Speaker 1: the Jadi Ill question. My pleasure, Lana Danzler, that's my

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00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:41,760
Speaker 1: what's on your heart? What is on my heart currently? Wow,

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00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:45,799
Speaker 1: it's a big one. You know, last time you ask

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00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:48,880
Speaker 1: me this question, I hadn't started high school yet. And

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Speaker 1: last time you ask me this question, I did not

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Speaker 1: have a niece. So a lot has changed. So I

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Speaker 1: would say, as it for right now, what it's on

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Speaker 1: my heart, it's just appreciation, just very grateful this time,

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Speaker 1: in this moment. You know, recently I've been feeling a

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Speaker 1: tad dressed out, but I feel like ever since the nineteenth,

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Speaker 1: I've just been very very grateful. I feel like my

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Speaker 1: whole energy in my life has gotten so much better.

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Speaker 1: So I would say all my heart is just love.

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Speaker 1: I just feel love right now, just feel so. I

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Speaker 1: just I'm feeling so much better, so much happier, and

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Speaker 1: I feel like everyone around me is too, which is

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Speaker 1: so great. It feels so great. So yeah, that's about

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Speaker 1: the extent of what is all my heart to this moment. See,

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Speaker 1: baby is living in gratitude. Snout of babies, a young woman,

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Speaker 1: and you know my older self. You know, I have

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Speaker 1: to say this that I've been waiting all my life

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Speaker 1: to be this age. I have been waiting all my

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Speaker 1: life to have this level of experience. And you know,

929
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Speaker 1: I have some wisdom that I love to share and

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Speaker 1: I'm really really grateful for this, and I'm really grateful

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Speaker 1: for you. Thank you so much for talking to us

932
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: and sharing with us and thinking out loud and letting

933
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Speaker 1: us know that we do have some value in your lives,

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Speaker 1: because we need to know that too, We really do.

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Speaker 1: You know, you all are so beautiful. It's so beautiful

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Speaker 1: and so creative, and the way that you think is

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00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: we really marvel at it quite frankly, and just want

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Speaker 1: to give you your flowers where you're sitting right now

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Speaker 1: and give you a big round of applause. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: Thank you for being here with us. Thank you all

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Speaker 1: the listeners for listening to Jadel the podcast. We are

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Speaker 1: sparking conversation to sparks Am love you so much. Take

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Speaker 1: care of y'all. Piece how do you eat an elephant?

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Speaker 1: One by it? Hey, listeners, it's Amber the producer here.

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Speaker 1: After that conversation, I am quietly humming my Children of

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Speaker 1: the Future. I mean, wow, Lana is a treasure, but

947
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Speaker 1: really are we surprised She's the daughter of one of

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Speaker 1: our wisest Internet aunties, Agia. Lana mentioned a show that

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Speaker 1: we should all check out called Who We Are on

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Speaker 1: Amazon Prime, So let's do our homework and give it

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Speaker 1: a watch. I'll drop the link in our show notes. Hi.

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Speaker 1: If you have comments on something we said in this episode,

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Speaker 1: call eight six six. Hey Jill, if you want to

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Speaker 1: add to this conversation, that's eight six six four three

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Speaker 1: you might as well just go ahead and start that show.

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Speaker 1: I don't when your show start. When your show starts,

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Speaker 1: like you do it, yo, you should just do it.

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Speaker 1: You have a Mike listen. Me and her have done

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Speaker 1: like multiple episodes, but she don't need me. I'm the Week.

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