Speaker 1: Wind down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast Ellies.
Speaker 2: We are back. I take back everything I said last week.
Speaker 2: The movie was great. It was honorable.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh boy, it's so good. I was like,
Speaker 1: what are we taking back?
Speaker 2: I still hat football.
Speaker 1: It was so good.
Speaker 2: I was obviously very nervous, and I was downplaying, as
Speaker 2: I do because that's just what I do. But I'm
Speaker 2: watching it and I'm like hearing people laughing in the
Speaker 2: premiere and I I saw a few people kind of
Speaker 2: wipe a little tear away, and I'm like, this isn't
Speaker 2: the same. It's good. You have elevated yourself and you
Speaker 2: don't even know it. Well, it's the material. But I'm
Speaker 2: so excited. I hope you guys go see it. It's
Speaker 2: still in theaters, so go see it because it's.
Speaker 1: It's so good. You'll love it.
Speaker 2: It was exciting. What an experience we had a of
Speaker 2: a dress malfunction.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that I'd.
Speaker 2: Be freaking out.
Speaker 1: Already running late, already we were running late.
Speaker 2: Your timing was magnificent, thank god. Yeah he made me happy,
Speaker 2: but yes, but it was so I put on a thong,
Speaker 2: but I go Catherine and this is a tan thong
Speaker 2: and I'm like, you can see the thong and then
Speaker 2: she's like, well, how shere is it? And I was like, well,
Speaker 2: I guess I really didn't.
Speaker 1: Try it on that well. It was very sheer.
Speaker 2: So at the end when they called us up and
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh god, spotlights. This is why my hands
Speaker 2: were right.
Speaker 1: From big feather.
Speaker 2: I mean, I already don't like being in front of people,
Speaker 2: so I'm already you know, I get a little, you know, weird,
Speaker 2: but that was I was like, I have to have
Speaker 2: all the feathers right in front just in case she shines.
Speaker 2: That is not what needs to be shining.
Speaker 1: What was so weird is it never looked that way
Speaker 1: that night. No, No, I would know the house. It
Speaker 1: was like whoa house lighting?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Great? And then we got there and I was like,
Speaker 1: okause I kept an eye on it, and.
Speaker 2: We were Pam drove over uh spanks because the spanks
Speaker 2: thing too that I have, we're not you can see
Speaker 2: the line. So yeah, we're trying to find the seamless
Speaker 2: ones and so Pam had.
Speaker 1: I need you to do something right now, and he's
Speaker 1: like so slow. You know how we talked about men
Speaker 1: are really slow.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, no, no, like nothing beat Scottish time. Okay, truth, Oh,
Speaker 2: I will give you that.
Speaker 1: Oh I got to see that one firsthand too.
Speaker 2: She did, did I need let's go day by day
Speaker 2: by day by day by day? Oh did you see that?
Speaker 3: When do we get to know about kit Kat's bts?
Speaker 2: And it's a long week.
Speaker 1: It was a very long, busy week.
Speaker 2: So premiere went, great, thank you guys for showing up. Oh,
Speaker 2: that's a pleasure of our life. Are you kidding me?
Speaker 2: So fun? I do have a wine about it that
Speaker 2: pertains to that night, so stay tuned. Okay, but let's
Speaker 2: continue on with me. Let's go to Wednesday. Wednesday, so
Speaker 2: the next day opry okay, So I again don't really
Speaker 2: try on the outfit. I sent Jesse a few photos
Speaker 2: and said, uh, you know which one because because she
Speaker 2: asked what I was wearing, and I said, girl, I don't,
Speaker 2: I don't know, you know. So I took a couple
Speaker 2: of pictures and she said that with that great that
Speaker 2: I brought another pair of pants just in case. Right,
Speaker 2: Oh it wasn't looking good? No, but yeah, it was
Speaker 2: like an hour away. But what was worse? No, you guys,
Speaker 2: I was mortified. I don't feel like you get easily mortified,
Speaker 2: is that true? M Not easily, not easily. I feel
Speaker 2: like all the three of us have a great deal
Speaker 2: of humility. So we're just like, oh, yes, happened embarrassing,
Speaker 2: you know, So bring the kids, it's really fun and
Speaker 2: we can go back to the Scottish time. But I
Speaker 2: so we sound and there's no wedge in front, and
Speaker 2: so we were doing in ears, but the person that
Speaker 2: was singing before us had a wedge. But I didn't
Speaker 2: rehearse with the wedge, and so when I went out
Speaker 2: there that first verse, I was so pitchy because the
Speaker 2: wedge was there because I had in ear and one
Speaker 2: ear in, one in ear in and one ear out
Speaker 2: that I couldn't find because because I couldn't hear the
Speaker 2: band because I just heard the wedge in me. And
Speaker 2: it was one of those moments where I was like shit,
Speaker 2: like I know, I can't restart, no like that she
Speaker 2: was sailed and we're there and oh my god, but
Speaker 2: it and so then I just moved away from the
Speaker 2: wedge and then put my ear back in and then
Speaker 2: finally found the note.
Speaker 3: For people listening the wedge would be she can hear herself.
Speaker 3: The in ears are what like would make her connect
Speaker 3: to the band in the back, So like, do you
Speaker 3: always see musicians with their little ears in they call ears?
Speaker 3: Which is funny because I said I found Preston's ears
Speaker 3: in the garage and Christine was like, whoa, but like,
Speaker 3: so that is what she's saying. So when you get
Speaker 3: disconnected from one, you can't hear the other.
Speaker 2: Right And I'm already guys, not selin beyond, so like
Speaker 2: and it's opry too. Opry comes at the different levels
Speaker 2: like pressure and it's not your people there. I saw
Speaker 2: real sweet person that had a little poster, so it's
Speaker 2: already you're not comfy. And I don't sing out a lot,
Speaker 2: so it had nerves attached to it. But what I
Speaker 2: love about Catherine is she may come off stage and
Speaker 2: she's like, great job, and I go, no that first
Speaker 2: first she goes, yeah, that was bad, and she goes,
Speaker 2: but you collected yourself, And I'm like, but this is
Speaker 2: what I love about Catherine because she's like yeah, everyone
Speaker 2: I was like, no, it was great. I was like no, no,
Speaker 2: I like even Catherine said, okay, I know it.
Speaker 3: SCD like, did you call me and you're like and
Speaker 3: Catherine even told me it sounds.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I don't know.
Speaker 2: That that's what. Yeah, first, I love you, you know,
Speaker 2: because you're gonna be honest with me when everyone else
Speaker 2: is like no, it was great. I'm like no, but
Speaker 2: I right, you know. But anyways, there was that. But
Speaker 2: we did have a food dilemma and she saw the
Speaker 2: Scottish time. Would you like to let.
Speaker 1: Me just say back to the you being off Other
Speaker 1: people didn't notice, like I think they truly didn't notice,
Speaker 1: but I would know, so I mean, but yes, it
Speaker 1: was fine. You locked in quickly and everything sounded great
Speaker 1: after that.
Speaker 3: Okay, it was the grim scene front row that makes
Speaker 3: you feel differently.
Speaker 2: It was a crowd, it was it happened to the
Speaker 2: worst of them.
Speaker 1: I can tell you that Oprey crowd no offense, probably
Speaker 1: had no clue, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also like they're excited to be entertained. So yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: and she just pumped. Yeah, she did great.
Speaker 1: Let me start the food conversation by We had to
Speaker 1: be there at five o'clock for five thirty rehearsals, knowing
Speaker 1: the traffic would be terrible, like we have got to
Speaker 1: leave by four jan She's like, I get it, blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. So we did. He picked up the trads.
Speaker 2: Early, yeah, from school, got them all ready because they
Speaker 2: really wanted to come to So I changed the days
Speaker 2: because usually Mike has Wednesdays. And I was like, hey,
Speaker 2: the kids really want to go with the opera. He's
Speaker 2: like absolutely. So that was all great, settled planned. We
Speaker 2: left right at four yep, and still didn't get their
Speaker 2: jell about five fifteen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, try to thank you. This is a four o'clock
Speaker 1: leave for a eight forty pm performance. And Jana Kramer
Speaker 1: has to eat dinner.
Speaker 2: No no, no, not just me, oh the kids, no no,
Speaker 2: but I mean yeah, people have to eat. Everybody has
Speaker 2: to everyone has to eat. It was a little just me.
Speaker 1: I like this about you, that you need to eat dinner,
Speaker 1: that you're not going to.
Speaker 2: Just wait until you are not one. I'm not an
Speaker 2: ale skipper. Having said that, I do skip lunch at
Speaker 2: times and I eat.
Speaker 1: A bar, but you're not eating, You're not missing dinner.
Speaker 2: Dinner is my favorite meal the day. It's my favorite
Speaker 2: part about being on tour.
Speaker 1: And that's very healthy and very good, and I'm glad
Speaker 1: that we don't just skip dinner when we are working.
Speaker 1: Thank you at four o'clock to nine o'clock is kind
Speaker 1: of my point in all of that. But yes, everyone
Speaker 1: needed to eat dinner, so we're already missing dinner time.
Speaker 2: So what I said was, let's and I'm a I'm
Speaker 2: a one up ahead. I would be the best personal
Speaker 2: Assistan ever. So I'm like, I'm going to order the
Speaker 2: food so that it's there pretty much when we get there.
Speaker 2: So when we get there, we can eat, we can
Speaker 2: sound check, and then we can eat and everybody's happy
Speaker 2: and fed. So I go on door dash and I
Speaker 2: deliver U, which looking back, I should have just gone
Speaker 2: to the restaurant and picked it up. But again, timing wise, uh,
Speaker 2: So I ordered cheesecake and put to the delivery to
Speaker 2: the artist entrance.
Speaker 1: And then well, first we get there, and when we're
Speaker 1: checking in at the artist entrance, we let them know, hey,
Speaker 1: we're going to have a door dash. He's like, okay, great,
Speaker 1: just let the guy inside know, like I'll video or
Speaker 1: I'll i'll walk youe them, blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: So we go in and we said it and we
Speaker 1: tell him he's like, oh, good luck, and I'm like
Speaker 1: the sweet o man, We're not ever getting this food,
Speaker 1: Like they're never going to figure out how to get
Speaker 1: here ever, Like.
Speaker 3: It's not gonna I've been there a trillion times and
Speaker 3: I sometimes don't remember how.
Speaker 1: To get to the artists. They're super confused.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 1: It's super confusing.
Speaker 2: Well, so they dropped the order off. Have no idea
Speaker 2: where this said drop off location was. They took a
Speaker 2: picture of it, but now.
Speaker 1: Now it becomes a skencher. There was a mess So
Speaker 1: she goes to rehearse. I go out there with her,
Speaker 1: but I have her phone and so I'm looking at
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, okay. They had messaged. They're like, hey,
Speaker 1: can I meet you at the welcome peer? So I
Speaker 1: text Alan. I'm like, hey, I'm gonna get some videos
Speaker 1: of her. He's not up there with us, and I said,
Speaker 1: it says the welcome peer if you can kind of figure.
Speaker 1: So he's like where's that. I'm like, I have no idea.
Speaker 1: He's asking people all the things. So then we come
Speaker 1: off from rehearsal and I'm like, y'all go back there.
Speaker 1: I'm going to go venture. So I just go out front.
Speaker 1: I'm like, there's no way this guy figured out how
Speaker 1: to go to the back. So I'm just going to
Speaker 1: go out front, which is in and of itself a
Speaker 1: whole thing to do because I don't have a ticket,
Speaker 1: got to go through security, you gotta do all this stuff.
Speaker 1: It's raining, you know all the things. Your hair is
Speaker 1: at a blow dry. Now it's not. I already felt it
Speaker 1: for you when you said rain, but I was so
Speaker 1: it was literally like, I'm like, I'm gonna find this food.
Speaker 1: The very least, I'm going to find the welcome center.
Speaker 2: It will be frozen by the time we get it.
Speaker 2: Was fine with this food, so I did.
Speaker 1: I talked to all these really really sweet people, found
Speaker 1: the welcome peer, but there is no food to be found.
Speaker 1: So I don't know if he ever dropped it off
Speaker 1: at all, because the photo like you can see it
Speaker 1: in the back, but it looks like it's in his
Speaker 1: car and then or somebody took the food. We found it,
Speaker 1: but no food. So then we go back and we're like, okay,
Speaker 1: it's like probably closer.
Speaker 2: Kids have asked a million times, yeah, their food. They're
Speaker 2: they're hungry, and it's like that's stressing because I want
Speaker 2: them to be fed first and.
Speaker 1: Foremost, and there's only popcorn there. Yes, it's like even
Speaker 1: if you could choose to just eat a bunch of
Speaker 1: junk for dinner, you know what I mean, Like there's
Speaker 1: like there's no there's.
Speaker 2: Already lets them split a bag to just hold them
Speaker 2: over right, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Like there was truly no options, you know. I so
Speaker 1: so this. So Alan's like, Okay, I'll order it and
Speaker 1: go kick it up, oh boy, to which this is
Speaker 1: probably close to six At this point, Jana is doing
Speaker 1: her hair makeup and I'm just sitting here watching this
Speaker 1: gym go down. You know. It's just like, so, Alan,
Speaker 1: what time is is pick up?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't even know.
Speaker 2: What he was He wasn't even saying. He wasn't really
Speaker 2: saying much because it's we already knew the order in
Speaker 2: which I ordered it within less than five minutes, no joke.
Speaker 2: It probably took this me in thirty minutes to actually
Speaker 2: order the food because I kept saying how many times
Speaker 2: did I nicely say too, like yeah, maybebe so did
Speaker 2: you put the order in?
Speaker 1: You asked a couple of times if he'd put the
Speaker 1: order in.
Speaker 4: He didn't really give us a direct ND no, I
Speaker 4: really did not thinking back now he really didn't, because
Speaker 4: I'm watching this whole thing go down and going I
Speaker 4: don't know if he's ordered the food because it wasn't
Speaker 4: like a yes I ordered yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: And it's also kind of like weird in those moments
Speaker 1: because like for me, because I'm like, wait, should I
Speaker 1: be the one ordering the food and going to get it?
Speaker 1: But like sometimes you would rather them go get it
Speaker 1: and maybe with you, And so it's kind of this
Speaker 1: awkward kind of figuring it out anyway, but there's part
Speaker 1: of me that wants to.
Speaker 2: Go, I want me to just order it, yeah, you know.
Speaker 1: And so like finally she's like okay, So she takes
Speaker 1: a different approach and she's like, hey, Alan, so where
Speaker 1: time is pickup?
Speaker 2: And he's like, because all's gonna go to pickug He's like, well,
Speaker 2: I just placed order.
Speaker 1: Now he had still not even placed. He was like,
Speaker 1: I'm working on it, and he's like still still in
Speaker 1: his lab trying to load the door dash. So finally
Speaker 1: gets it ordered and then she's like okay, so what
Speaker 1: times pick up or whatever? And so she puts out
Speaker 1: the whole thing and how she would handle this and like, okay,
Speaker 1: so if pick up is six forty five, let's say,
Speaker 1: why don't we get there twenty minutes early and like
Speaker 1: you can say that you're there and then like maybe
Speaker 1: they'll bring it out early blah blah blah. And he
Speaker 1: still doesn't really say much. He's kind of just sitting there,
Speaker 1: and I'm like nervous because like, we got hungry kids,
Speaker 1: we get hungry, and he's just sitting here. Yeah, it was,
Speaker 1: and they were getting hungry and they were getting like
Speaker 1: super antsy, and it also would keep them like contained
Speaker 1: and like sitting and not being.
Speaker 2: And they have all the thing's place.
Speaker 1: The ways gets kids to just like children on it too.
Speaker 1: But so then finally after a while he's like, well,
Speaker 1: I'll just go ahead and put that I'm on my way.
Speaker 2: Lord, we're timing with the calendar on my way button.
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, that's a great idea, but are you
Speaker 2: on your way?
Speaker 1: I go there's an I'm.
Speaker 2: Like, well I would have already pressed that, and I
Speaker 2: go same, oh, Alan, and I think he's He's like
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna go and I'm like that sounds
Speaker 2: like a great idea.
Speaker 1: So calm and not in the least worried in that moment, though,
Speaker 1: And I'm sitting here just going you can feel it well,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, like, women get angry. I get I
Speaker 1: get angry, get hangry, I get angry, I get angry
Speaker 1: all the things. I am actually kind of okay because
Speaker 1: I'd eaten a little bit later, so like I was fine,
Speaker 1: but I know how I would be in that moment.
Speaker 1: So I'm just sitting back and I'm like, and he's
Speaker 1: so calm, which would drive me a little bit more
Speaker 1: crazy if I'm being completely But I was like the
Speaker 1: fact that like you're saying these things and he's not
Speaker 1: even really responding, I'm like, oh God, is she gonna
Speaker 1: lose it? Because I might lose it, didn't it you'd
Speaker 1: be proud of you. Yeah, you did great.
Speaker 2: But I was just like, I think you should go now.
Speaker 3: I think you should do something anything do I like,
Speaker 3: give me the illusion of progress.
Speaker 2: That's what I told my husband. Just been in a circle,
Speaker 2: stand up and start your arms. Make me feel like
Speaker 2: you were en route to something.
Speaker 1: He could have left twenty minutes earlier. He might have
Speaker 1: come back at the same time with the food, but
Speaker 1: it would have felt like we were getting somewhere.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it just felt so far away. But when
Speaker 2: it came back, it was, yeah, it was it was good.
Speaker 2: And then the performance went down to the cold.
Speaker 1: It was not that.
Speaker 2: It was a tumultuous Wednesday. So let's just oh good,
Speaker 2: fast forward through Wednesday.
Speaker 1: So then it was what did we do Thursday?
Speaker 2: Something? I feel like I had football game that night. Okay,
Speaker 2: I can't remember. But then we went to then Halloween Halloween.
Speaker 2: Halloween Halloween was great. It was so fun. It was
Speaker 2: so you know, just so great dressing up. You know,
Speaker 2: we had Mike come over. I've always invited. I feel
Speaker 2: like that's kind and the right thing to do for
Speaker 2: the kiddos, and so that was nice. And uh and
Speaker 2: then Saturday morning, we had a three in front of
Speaker 2: our alarm number and we flew to One Tree Hill,
Speaker 2: One Treill, Wilmington for One Tree Hill Convention, which is
Speaker 2: always so fun, and Catherine came.
Speaker 1: And uh, yeah, yeah, that was great.
Speaker 2: It was fun. Yeah, I love a good convention. It
Speaker 2: was the last one of the year. They love so
Speaker 2: I'm so grateful that show just keeps seeing people keep
Speaker 2: watching and they want us to be there and it's
Speaker 2: it's you know, I had such a small part, but
Speaker 2: yet it's been really fun to be included.
Speaker 1: And Alex and then you did the drama Queen's Podcast,
Speaker 1: which that was really fun to watch all of y'all
Speaker 1: reminisce on all of the things. Everybody was funny, it
Speaker 1: was it was. That was fun to watch.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was. It was really nice. Yeah, so yeah,
Speaker 2: it was. It was quite a week. And we also
Speaker 2: got a call. Oh, I knew it was coming. I
Speaker 2: was laying it was Homer Simpson. It was hearing into
Speaker 2: the bushes. We got a call. You were in the car,
Speaker 2: got sam it. I thought maybe I could go a
Speaker 2: whole episode without it. Oh, we don't have to. We
Speaker 2: can skirt buy it. Yeah, let's skirt. We can skirt
Speaker 2: by it, and you can bring it up when you
Speaker 2: want to chat about it. But it was one of
Speaker 2: those it was been it an emotional phone call from
Speaker 2: me on speakerphone. Well I didn't know, friend, no, I answer.
Speaker 2: I got the kiddos in the car, which I had
Speaker 2: left that piece out, And then.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you said, Janna, you said that.
Speaker 2: You said it was you and Catherine and Allen, and
Speaker 2: I was like, that seems like good safe, please lost it.
Speaker 2: We were had a hard Wednesday for KB.
Speaker 3: We did have a hard Wednesday. Everyone's by life so
Speaker 3: excited for you. I'm excited for me too, and I
Speaker 3: honestly have a very different attitude this week. Also, last
Speaker 3: week was and this is sweet. We have a really
Speaker 3: precious ballet studio, but love goes five days right now
Speaker 3: to ballet.
Speaker 2: And so every day was a theme day last week.
Speaker 2: So we had Neon Day, and.
Speaker 3: We had you know, and then there was a movie
Speaker 3: premiere in the middle, and we had Disney Day and
Speaker 3: Superhero Day and Crazy Hair Day at school and then
Speaker 3: crazy Hair Day in socc day at ballet.
Speaker 2: It was just like a lot.
Speaker 3: And so by the time I got to Wednesday and
Speaker 3: I found out that my sweet Saint Christine will no
Speaker 3: longer be working with us.
Speaker 2: I was just like, you might as well have put me. Oh,
Speaker 2: you might as well just put me on an island.
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't have family here and I'm alone,
Speaker 3: and I don't have a husband home, and I'm already
Speaker 3: shuffling kids and how am I going to do this?
Speaker 3: And I it felt overwhelming. I did and I allowed
Speaker 3: myself to spiral. The thing is when you share forty
Speaker 3: hours a week with someone, you grow to love them.
Speaker 3: And I love her and she's twenty eight and she
Speaker 3: keeps me young and she's fun and listen, it's a
Speaker 3: new season for both.
Speaker 2: Of us, and I I feel excited. I feel really
Speaker 2: excited for me this week.
Speaker 3: Last week, I think it was hard to We're coming
Speaker 3: into CMA week, so we have like late nights and
Speaker 3: a lot of moving pieces and CMA prep week where
Speaker 3: you're trying to get hot in a week, you know,
Speaker 3: and you're doing all the things maintenance, and then there's
Speaker 3: Thanksgiving in December and the Christmas. It just was all
Speaker 3: at once and I just cried, which I I know
Speaker 3: I cry a lot on here, but I actually don't
Speaker 3: cry outside of youre ever, which is embarrassing to say.
Speaker 2: But I like allowed myself to just be sad, good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and phone a front or three with the family
Speaker 3: for five and I might have thrown an egg mins
Speaker 3: in their boop. And that's when Jan was like and
Speaker 3: the kids are in the car, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I literally answered, speak and he's in the car.
Speaker 1: Even though I mean you can guess in front of
Speaker 1: her it doesn't really matter. But I usually just I
Speaker 1: announced it from.
Speaker 2: The get go. Well, I do take you off to
Speaker 2: within a few minutes because I didn't want you to
Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: Well, I also you writ cap like out yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: Well the good news is with Alan, I know n
Speaker 3: F Bomb's welcome, so that's why this will be cozy. Anyways,
Speaker 3: happens to the best of us.
Speaker 2: There's that. Anything you want to share from your week.
Speaker 1: Or Halloween was great. My daughter had a great Halloween.
Speaker 1: It was she met some new friends. It was awesome.
Speaker 1: It was great. That's all I can ask for. I
Speaker 1: got to I did leave Ramsey for like half a
Speaker 1: second to take inmy to a party and came back.
Speaker 1: She didn't even notice I was gone. Everybody was happy,
Speaker 1: So I'm happy. It was good.
Speaker 2: It was a great week. Yeah, we're going to read
Speaker 2: happy Halloween.
Speaker 1: It's funny though, because my sister in law showed up
Speaker 1: and she was like, oh my gosh, this is going
Speaker 1: on with my son and this is going She's like,
Speaker 1: I hate Halloween, and I was like, it's something about
Speaker 1: It's just it's it's a hard season when kids grow
Speaker 1: up and like who are they with? Who are they
Speaker 1: trick or treating with? Like it can be a moment
Speaker 1: of feeling very left out, and so it was just
Speaker 1: saving space for her, and I'm like, I'm sorry, I've
Speaker 1: been there. I think it's hard.
Speaker 2: But it was good though. I got so many messages
Speaker 2: on your behalf.
Speaker 1: Ah, that's sweet.
Speaker 2: I got so I bet you Denny because I got
Speaker 2: residual and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, whoa, Okay, I think almost the most on
Speaker 1: this one.
Speaker 2: You know what else. I got a lot of messages on.
Speaker 1: Football.
Speaker 2: People hate football.
Speaker 1: I'm not all people hate football.
Speaker 2: I gotta say, I'm quite shocked about that. I mean people,
Speaker 2: but they're they're they're with they're with you in the comments.
Speaker 2: I didn't.
Speaker 3: I don't try to look at the comments. I get
Speaker 3: very nervous about the comment comments. But the dms came
Speaker 3: a flood in and I was like, oh, we are
Speaker 3: in it.
Speaker 2: O good. Yeah, I feel really supported.
Speaker 1: Everybody know I still support you. I just added to
Speaker 1: did you watch football?
Speaker 2: Guy? I sure didn't, and I will try again next Sunday.
Speaker 3: Wait was that video not of y'all watching football? That
Speaker 3: was the Saturday football? He was watching football. I sat
Speaker 3: on the ground and attempted, okay, to watch the football.
Speaker 3: Tempt Yeah, I made. I made it five minutes.
Speaker 1: But okay, well that's it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so I have a whine about it. I
Speaker 2: think I have already processed what I'm going to do. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: because I've taken some time with it. It's fun to
Speaker 2: see if what we want you to do will match. Yeah, right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's interesting to say because so I've made what I'm
Speaker 2: going to do. It might be nothing, it might be something. Okay,
Speaker 2: we'll get there. So I invited someone to the premiere.
Speaker 2: That was a friend. I'm not going to say good friend.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to say I'm not even going to
Speaker 2: give the the the Internet's loose anything with this one. Okay,
Speaker 2: just going to say a friend. And I had gotten
Speaker 2: a message from one of my other friends, lovely friend,
Speaker 2: who had texted me saying, oh, their sitter had canceled
Speaker 2: and left them in a buye. And I said reply back, girl,
Speaker 2: no worries at all, I love you. Let's get together soon.
Speaker 2: It's been a minute. But this said friend did not text,
Speaker 2: didn't say that they weren't coming. And by the way,
Speaker 2: I had very limited seats, very small theater. It's a
Speaker 2: very small theater, and I was very mindful of the
Speaker 2: people that I gave seats to.
Speaker 1: And I think that people knew that too, I would assume.
Speaker 1: So I got the group that I was on, it
Speaker 1: was like, hey, can I have my kids? Can?
Speaker 2: I not? Right? And I had said, if it's going
Speaker 2: there to be yeah, if there's room, then yes you can, right.
Speaker 1: So I think we all kind of knew, like, hey,
Speaker 1: we're on like a seat budget here, right it did
Speaker 1: you framed it that way from the beginning, yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah. And so when that person didn't show up, it
Speaker 2: was obvious because I'd put them in our section, right,
Speaker 2: But what hurt was that there wasn't a message saying, hey,
Speaker 2: can't make it, and you know, I've even I've thought
Speaker 2: about it, but there's okay, there's two pieces. But they
Speaker 2: had told one of our other friends that they weren't coming.
Speaker 1: Oh I didn't know that part.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so they had. When the person was going to
Speaker 2: try to maybe drive together or coordinate, they said, oh,
Speaker 2: actually i'm you know, because of X, I'm not going
Speaker 2: to be able to. Now I was invited to something
Speaker 2: someone's place that we that we know, and I'm not
Speaker 2: really close with this person. But I even was like, hey,
Speaker 2: you know, thank you so much for the invite. I'm
Speaker 2: not going to be able to make it, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm not.
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 2: I've been doing this eboo treatment and I wasn't feeling
Speaker 2: well and so I'm just going to stay home tonight.
Speaker 2: So I always think it's kind to say that you're
Speaker 2: not going to come. Now. Having said that, there have
Speaker 2: been times where if it's a big mass thing, like
Speaker 2: I got invited to our neighbor's Halloween party, I r SVPDES,
Speaker 2: but I didn't text because it was just a Halloween party,
Speaker 2: and honestly I forgot. I didn't forget about the party,
Speaker 2: but I forgot to text, and thinking back like I
Speaker 2: probably should have, but it was a lot of moving
Speaker 2: pieces and I didn't. So there are times when I
Speaker 2: also fall short of replying. But most times I will
Speaker 2: respond I can't come. And in that instance, when I
Speaker 2: think about it, if it's a friend that's having a premiere,
Speaker 2: I would have at least said, like I knew if
Speaker 2: Legends Baseball you had said, well, you know, I might
Speaker 2: not be able to go one hundred percent. I totally
Speaker 2: get that. You know, we all have life, Just like
Speaker 2: I couldn't show up to your event because I had
Speaker 2: to go to be a jolie. I was three kids,
Speaker 2: three different ways. Yeah, different practices and games. But that's
Speaker 2: again reiterating how I knew it was. The seat count
Speaker 2: was important because I said, if you need to give
Speaker 2: up our seeds, totally do that. We weren't known till
Speaker 2: closer to right.
Speaker 1: Well, I could have used an extra seed, was going
Speaker 1: to be that my other daughter could have come.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And so the thing that bothers me is
Speaker 2: when I think about it, I'm like close enough as
Speaker 2: a friend to say, hey, you know, sorry, I can't
Speaker 2: make it. And also either congrats or I don't even
Speaker 2: need a congrats. But more so just the even the
Speaker 2: one girlfriend that I'm not as close to had said,
Speaker 2: you know, congrats on the premiere. Are so excited for you.
Speaker 2: So sorry we can't make it. So it really a
Speaker 2: piece of me. So there was two things where do
Speaker 2: I respond, Again, I've already made my decision, but I'm
Speaker 2: going to bring it to you guys. I guess my
Speaker 2: wine about it is now again where I said, I've
Speaker 2: fallen short before, but I do think it's nice to
Speaker 2: respond and say I can't make it. So I guess
Speaker 2: that's my wine. Again. I know I've fallen short at
Speaker 2: times with that, but so I was gonna maybe text
Speaker 2: this person and say, hey, really bummed that I didn't
Speaker 2: hear from you and that you had told someone else
Speaker 2: you weren't coming, but you didn't give me I could
Speaker 2: have used the extra seat. And also, you know, I
Speaker 2: guess it just bummed me out. But then the other
Speaker 2: side of it is not to because that kind of
Speaker 2: just shows me what the friendship is. So where I've
Speaker 2: come to it, Do you guys want to answer? And
Speaker 2: then I tell you what I'm going to do? Or
Speaker 2: is this JD or is it ww KD? What do
Speaker 2: you mean? What would you do? Are we answering or
Speaker 2: what do you want to know? What I'm gonna do?
Speaker 2: Or do you guys want to answer? What you answer? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, I want to say with your thing,
Speaker 1: I felt awful because she has sent it. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: had sent a group thing. I don't even know if
Speaker 1: I responded when you said it. If I don't, I
Speaker 1: know I said I know, I didn't say I could come.
Speaker 1: But when it came around and you posted, I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, that was tonight.
Speaker 2: Like and so I don't.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm saying that to all say we have
Speaker 1: all fallen short on that, and then there is like, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, so I'm glad you bring that up because
Speaker 1: like I hated that, Like I'm sure you didn't think
Speaker 1: anything of it.
Speaker 3: No, what I would say is you too there, which
Speaker 3: is really sweet. So I will I just want to
Speaker 3: say this part because this is actually really sweet. You
Speaker 3: two there makes me feel comfortable because that's what we
Speaker 3: usually do together, right, right, So I was like, if
Speaker 3: I have you, it'll be like a superpower, right. But also,
Speaker 3: this is my It was probably the biggest thing I've
Speaker 3: done by myself, so I was like, all the way
Speaker 3: it was supposed to work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But still, like we have those moments of where
Speaker 1: we meant to text and say that we weren't or whatever,
Speaker 1: and then we feel terrible about it or whatever. So
Speaker 1: I do think sometime maybe there's a little bit of
Speaker 1: a benefit of the doubt with people on things like that,
Speaker 1: like oh, they just got wrapped up in life and
Speaker 1: they didn't remember her telling the other friend that she
Speaker 1: wasn't going or whatever. That that makes it a little
Speaker 1: bit different.
Speaker 2: It's also hard when it's a ticketed. This is sidificated.
Speaker 1: She said she'd be there how many she wanted. You know,
Speaker 1: that definitely feels a little bit different. But yeah, we
Speaker 1: all do fall short on stuff like that in life,
Speaker 1: you know, in our life, and but when it happens
Speaker 1: to us, it hurts and it's you know, it's it's hard.
Speaker 1: Having said that, my answer would be as hard as
Speaker 1: this is for me. I would not say anything, and
Speaker 1: I would just know that's where the friendship is.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm trying to put on my objective. Here's what
Speaker 3: I'll say you if it would make me.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I like to write the response. You and I
Speaker 3: have this in common. We'll write the response and not
Speaker 3: send it all. Sometimes I just need it out of
Speaker 3: my body the yeah time. So I would write it
Speaker 3: no matter what. And then I think I also would
Speaker 3: just make note of where the friendship. I would venture
Speaker 3: to say that this isn't surprising maybe or maybe this
Speaker 3: feels in character for where the friendship has been, so
Speaker 3: it could be fine just to leave it and to know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that does feel a little bit different, you know.
Speaker 1: If I can say, y'all haven't been as close probably
Speaker 1: as y'all have been in the past quite possibly, so
Speaker 1: that also and I have that with another friend, So
Speaker 1: that's why maybe it feels a little bit different versus
Speaker 1: had y'all been, you know, hanging out all the time
Speaker 1: in the last little you know or.
Speaker 3: Whatever, right and no tech sense correct, just to clarify, okay,
Speaker 3: because I also think there's obviously we're like the three
Speaker 3: most grace giving people.
Speaker 2: So if it was like a there's been a DM
Speaker 2: shared but not of a but of a meme, oh
Speaker 2: something like funny anything about anything about that?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm in the season of I'm in the
Speaker 3: season of just allowing people to show me who they are.
Speaker 3: I'm trying and I and not even it's not judgmental,
Speaker 3: it's not bad. It's just I love who I love
Speaker 3: so deeply, and I have to remember not maybe everybody
Speaker 3: feels that same way back or counts it as important
Speaker 3: or you know, like there was something that happened recently
Speaker 3: that I wasn't invited to and I was like, huh.
Speaker 1: A little.
Speaker 3: I don't want to say hurt, because that's not fair
Speaker 3: and there's enough on someone's plate during a special time
Speaker 3: like this, but I just was like whoa, Okay, But
Speaker 3: then I also was like, how much of effort have
Speaker 3: I put into a friendship? So I wouldn't I'm not,
Speaker 3: I don't. I don't think this person's wrong for not
Speaker 3: inviting me at all at all, but I it just
Speaker 3: kind of was a sobering moment of like, I haven't
Speaker 3: put much energy in because I've probably just been tending
Speaker 3: to babies, you know.
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's fair to feel hurt in that
Speaker 1: moment and then also go okay, but why yeah and
Speaker 1: evaluate how I even say as a friend versus that's
Speaker 1: what I'm also trying to do. I'm like, well, what
Speaker 1: have I done to contribute if I'm not invited? Like
Speaker 1: instead of just getting hurt because I'm so sensitive to that, sure, okay,
Speaker 1: but what have I been doing to contribute to this friendship?
Speaker 1: And trying to do It's not easy, but trying to
Speaker 1: do more of that.
Speaker 3: So I actually invited her out to lunch. I was like,
Speaker 3: I really would love to just like get I miss
Speaker 3: you yeah instead.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So yeah, I'm not saying anything okay, good, good, good,
Speaker 2: because it's just because I did the I did wrote
Speaker 2: it out good, and then I just I can tell
Speaker 2: you wrote it out yeah, because that's the way he
Speaker 2: framed it. I looked at it and I go and
Speaker 2: I even had it in the message was about to
Speaker 2: hit sen and I do this almost all the time.
Speaker 2: I just went click click click click click, deleat because
Speaker 2: it's just for what Yeah, you know, and it's it
Speaker 2: is what it is love. There's no fallout, there's no
Speaker 2: bad blow. It's just sure not as close and that's okay. Yeah,
Speaker 2: season it's not not friends. Yeah no, I but I
Speaker 2: also know what I know now and I'm okay, yeah
Speaker 2: that makes sense. Yeah, yeah, I'm proud of you. Jonathan
Speaker 2: Bailey is the Sexiest Man Alive twenty twenty five. Agree
Speaker 2: or disagree? I agree? Agree or disagree?
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think I agree.
Speaker 2: Do you disagree? I think he's fine.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I don't like have a huge sexiest.
Speaker 3: Man Alive is so awesome to me. I love that
Speaker 3: they still do it. I feel like there's going to
Speaker 3: come a time or we're going to get way too.
Speaker 3: I just think George Schlooney should always be it.
Speaker 2: I think he is the most handsome minus my husband,
Speaker 2: of course, but like he's just yeah, no, he is
Speaker 2: for sure, So to me, he is a mixture between
Speaker 2: Hugh Jackman and Tom Hardy. Look at this photo right there,
Speaker 2: a little bit of Tom, like a skinny Tom Hardy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I could see it's Hugh Jackman. But yeah, I mean
Speaker 2: he is. I think he's very handsome. Again, I would
Speaker 2: I would vote for my Scottish husband to be on there,
Speaker 2: but I vote Preston. Preston. I think that Nick Woodard
Speaker 2: would also make it. He is the first openly I
Speaker 2: believe that I read that right? Did I believe that right?
Speaker 2: Did I read that right? The first openly gay man
Speaker 2: on the man?
Speaker 3: But I'm like, okay, and yeah, I actually couldn't. I
Speaker 3: didn't know that there wasn't one before him. Yeah, no,
Speaker 3: we're talking about the specimen, not who cares the specimen dates.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so yeah, I think what an honor may'd
Speaker 2: be great. Speaking of George Clooney though he's classic, he
Speaker 2: opens up about marriage with wife Emal and why they've
Speaker 2: never had an argument, and I gotta say so they say,
Speaker 2: you know, people actually get frustrated with them that they
Speaker 2: don't have an argument. But he's like, man, you want
Speaker 2: to paint the wall collar red? Paint the wall collar red.
Speaker 2: You know it's you don't really don't care about these things.
Speaker 2: But do you guys agree that they've never had an argument?
Speaker 1: No, Nope, not even in the least.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: I could see where maybe you someone avoids it going
Speaker 1: to a place and just not having an opinion or
Speaker 1: not like whatever.
Speaker 2: But I love arguments because it means passion. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: I don't mean like, you know, the drag out crazy
Speaker 2: I'm not talking about that, but like any kind of Yeah.
Speaker 3: Preston has said to me before, He's like, no one's
Speaker 3: ever gotten me to in place where I've just been like, ah,
Speaker 3: you know, And he's like, but you've done that, and
Speaker 3: I said, I know. But it's also because we're fighting
Speaker 3: for something in those moments.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe what's the definition of Maybe their definition of
Speaker 1: an argument is different.
Speaker 2: That's what I was just going to say. I think
Speaker 2: there's a definition because I don't I don't believe that
Speaker 2: someone can't have a disagreement or an right right a
Speaker 2: slash argument, now a blow up fight. I don't think
Speaker 2: everyone has a blow up sure, No, yeah, I would.
Speaker 2: I would agree that he could say that we've never
Speaker 2: had a big blow up argument, and maybe that's what
Speaker 2: he thinks is an argument.
Speaker 1: Probably.
Speaker 2: Now I love for that person to go back and
Speaker 2: be like, well, have you had a disagreement even though
Speaker 2: he says a paint you know, why would that be
Speaker 2: a discussion or an argument. I believe they've probably had
Speaker 2: tension in discussion, which would be I would think an argument, argumentment.
Speaker 2: But I think we probably say a different description of
Speaker 2: what that is.
Speaker 1: I just think humans have arguments and disagreements in life
Speaker 1: and in general friends.
Speaker 2: Do people do that? Are? You know?
Speaker 1: So it's just really hard to imagine living with someone,
Speaker 1: being with someone that want and not having any kind
Speaker 1: of arguments. Yeah, I just can't. Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's funny because I actually have a family member and
Speaker 3: like their tagline is I don't do conflict, And I
Speaker 3: remember bringing it to therapist I am. At one point
Speaker 3: she was like, well, that means they're not doing life.
Speaker 1: That's what I mean. It's just that's the avoid right.
Speaker 2: Well, and that's the thing too, you know, interesting the
Speaker 2: conflict comment because Alan used to say that a lot.
Speaker 2: He's like, I don't I struggle with conflict, And that's
Speaker 2: his own you know, there's reasons why in his personal
Speaker 2: you know, life, maybe in childhood, whatever, but for him
Speaker 2: it's when you don't have conflict, then you're holding resentment,
Speaker 2: that's right, and that's not fair to the other person, right,
Speaker 2: you know, so you I don't want you and I've
Speaker 2: said this many times to him, you know, and he
Speaker 2: knows this. Now it's good, but it's like, I don't
Speaker 2: want you to hold something in that might be frustrating you,
Speaker 2: or or to avoid conflict, because then you're just shoving
Speaker 2: stuff in that I have no control how to help
Speaker 2: or make the situation better, and that's not really fair
Speaker 2: to me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say, George is older, and so I know,
Speaker 3: even as we're getting into charities like you just know
Speaker 3: what's worth your effort or what you can see quickly?
Speaker 3: Is this even about the paink color?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: So the blow up fights don't really happen, right, it's
Speaker 2: just you're like, okay, yeah, right, go get the door out, right,
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, right, right. But I'm sure there is
Speaker 2: some sort of I'm sure they've had a tip. I
Speaker 2: want them to have that because a tiff. I want
Speaker 2: him to be passionate. I don't want he's less hot
Speaker 2: to me if he's passing a guy I don't love.
Speaker 2: I want him to be guy that's like I kind
Speaker 2: of like it green instead of I don't think you
Speaker 2: have to have a tiff to be passionate. I hear
Speaker 2: what you're saying. I like, I like independence still matters.
Speaker 2: Still think you can and people can still get like.
Speaker 2: I also don't think it has.
Speaker 1: To be that hard too.
Speaker 2: Oh agreed, you know, Like I remember someone telling me
Speaker 2: that one time. He's like, it doesn't have to be
Speaker 2: as hard. It's like maybe just nobody wrongs. You know,
Speaker 2: it's just we can't we can't fit, you know, And
Speaker 2: that's where then you realize, all right, we're not we
Speaker 2: don't work. But you know, with them, like they might
Speaker 2: just again be at that age too where it's just okay,
Speaker 2: yeah again. Though I do think being married, and I mean, gosh,
Speaker 2: if you're them though, and you get all that money,
Speaker 2: what are you guys you're staring at George Clooney about.
Speaker 1: But maybe maybe it's just about the money.
Speaker 2: Maybe you.
Speaker 3: Don't know.
Speaker 2: Many people. I would love to.
Speaker 1: Do that work, gat let's try it on.
Speaker 2: Anybody want to involved Cat and I in their experiment.
Speaker 2: I want to strengthen my relationship with God. I'm forty three.
Speaker 2: I was born and raised Catholic, somewhere between an every
Speaker 2: Sunday Mass Catholic and a Christmas Easter Catholic. That was
Speaker 2: the same to me. As I've gotten older, I've really
Speaker 2: only gone to Mass for weddings, funerals, and holidays. I
Speaker 2: don't feel closeness with a Catholic church, nor do I
Speaker 2: feel like I get anything out of going to a
Speaker 2: traditional Catholic Mass. But I've been dealing with a lot
Speaker 2: of stress, depression, anxiety for about five years now, and
Speaker 2: for about six to ten years have been wanting to
Speaker 2: find a type of service that's more relatable. Also, I
Speaker 2: want to find ways to build my relationship with God
Speaker 2: on my own time outside of going to Mass or
Speaker 2: traditionally reading the Bible, because I frankly just don't get
Speaker 2: messages out of it. It's like I need a Bible
Speaker 2: for Dummi's book. I'd love any suggestions you all have
Speaker 2: on what has worked for you. Love your question, great question.
Speaker 2: I recently just got a new Bible. I got the
Speaker 2: She Reads Truth Bible, and that that has because I
Speaker 2: have opened my Bible, and you know, I try, and
Speaker 2: it's just really hard for me to connect to it
Speaker 2: and to read it and to understand it, and so
Speaker 2: I'm like, why do I keep doing this? There has
Speaker 2: to be something that's a little bit more traditional non traditional?
Speaker 2: Is that that?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And so I got that one and I
Speaker 2: love it. Okay, it's been working great. Does it have
Speaker 2: like a reading plan with it has a reading plan?
Speaker 2: It has it walks you through like Okay, this is
Speaker 2: what they were talking about shame or this is when
Speaker 2: it talks about this. And I really like it and
Speaker 2: it makes me, it makes me want to open it.
Speaker 2: It takes a great overwhelmingness out of it. Yeah, where
Speaker 2: do you start? What do you do?
Speaker 1: Where do you Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, And then i'd also say, listen, I'm not
Speaker 2: going to tell you to walk away from the Catholic church,
Speaker 2: but I love going to the non denominational Christian church
Speaker 2: that we go to, and it maybe just and if
Speaker 2: you don't, if you're afraid to try that on in person,
Speaker 2: you can go to crosspoint dot com and you can
Speaker 2: watch their services or any other like that church, and
Speaker 2: then you might be able to get more out of
Speaker 2: a type of message like that. Because I always struggled
Speaker 2: in mass getting a message that I could understand relate to.
Speaker 3: And also there's just a lot of structure and rules
Speaker 3: and tradition, which I adore about Catholicism, but I also
Speaker 3: feel like almost Catholic people sometimes need a recovery program.
Speaker 3: Like there's a lot of guilt and shame, guilt and shame,
Speaker 3: guilt and shame like cycles. One thing I love is
Speaker 3: the Bible app So if you are new to just
Speaker 3: wanting to learn the different versions, like you can literally
Speaker 3: highlight a passage and so if it's in a very
Speaker 3: traditional sense or like old school speak, you can click
Speaker 3: a different version of it and it will allow you
Speaker 3: to read it in like several different versions.
Speaker 2: So there's like the new living translation.
Speaker 3: It's just very like common language feeling, and that's also helpful,
Speaker 3: and send you a daily Bible verse and it's just
Speaker 3: not so overwhelming. It's tiptoe. I also just love conversational prayer.
Speaker 3: I tell a lot of people this, but I love
Speaker 3: just like chatting it out. I think it doesn't have
Speaker 3: to be so there's like this overwhelming Where do you
Speaker 3: start things sometimes with people in prayer and coming back
Speaker 3: in to have religion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just conversationally.
Speaker 1: I'm a devotional girl. I mean, I love I am
Speaker 1: not as good as I would like to be just
Speaker 1: opening the Bible and just like reading, but I love
Speaker 1: to do several different devotionals and get different things. And
Speaker 1: then I'll open up my Bible and go to the
Speaker 1: verses that are in there and stuff like that. But
Speaker 1: I just posted one I loved. I love the one
Speaker 1: that I just got. I don't remember the names of them, unfortunately.
Speaker 2: Is my favor.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm done the favor that was so good. Love Sabor,
Speaker 1: She's the best. Yeah, but that's kind of my go to.
Speaker 1: And then I was gonna say with I don't know
Speaker 1: anything about Catholicism, and I don't know if it's like
Speaker 1: frowned upon to go, but I have heard that it
Speaker 1: is definitely easier message wise and to feel more connected
Speaker 1: and a more non denominational situation. Maybe try that.
Speaker 2: Well, ladies, see you next week. So yeah, I