1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:04,560 Speaker 1: I saw my friend's true colors after our Japan trip, 2 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: so I blocked her blocker finding out my friend of 3 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:11,000 Speaker 1: five years was an absolute a hole when taking her 4 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: on her first trip to Japan one year after I 5 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 1: moved back from there. So what did she do? By 6 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: the way, this comes from throw a venting on the 7 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: r slash okay story telling celebrate it so wouldn't add 8 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 1: to the itinery at all, but complained every single day 9 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: when we got there, I took her to popular stations 10 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: in Tokyo since it was her first time and we 11 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: had seven days, but she wanted to go to the 12 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:32,599 Speaker 1: beaches and rise at five am and stay out till 13 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: two am, like my dos in Mexico. 14 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 2: How does she? I know people like this, and I 15 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 2: don't understand how you can live off of that little sleep. 16 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: I mean, if you're in New York, you could do it. 17 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: I don't get that. If I don't get like, oh 18 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 2: my god, if I got this little sleep, I would 19 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 2: be a nightmare. 20 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 1: I used to do it for a week and then 21 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: no one would be a night after. 22 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 2: If I did it one day, it would be a nightmare. 23 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,840 Speaker 1: Also like doing this, I mean, complaining about everything is bad. 24 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: But like it sounds like you guys just have vastly 25 00:00:58,800 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: different travel size. 26 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, which is. 27 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: That it's just gonna lead to some nonsense. 28 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 2: You need to talk about travel styles before you go 29 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 2: on travel on trips. 30 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,680 Speaker 1: Like I'm I'm gonna go to Mexico City during New 31 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 1: Year's and these people that I've never traveled with, these people, 32 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: they are planning stuff and they're trying to spend so 33 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: much money. 34 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 2: Like see, I am not a big spender on trips. 35 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: I'm like very frugal and like. 36 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,639 Speaker 2: Her to do free stuff close to free. 37 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: I like walking around talking to the locals and stuff, 38 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: and they're like let's get like let's go to a 39 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: club and get bottle surface and like that sounds. 40 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 2: Going h just stay and. 41 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: Come to the anyway, getting back to this story, compared 42 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: everything to Mexico, even wanting to tip a restaurant owner 43 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: in USD because I do it in Mexico. Wanted to 44 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: tip everyone and argued the whole time when I told her, 45 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: don't do it, it's rude. And when I got to 46 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: my Japanese friend to educate her on how to give 47 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: proper thanks, she finds one person online who said it's 48 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: not required red appreciate it and wouldn't stop pressing me 49 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 1: about how it's so good to tip. You would ask 50 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: me how my legs were doing, and I'd answer honestly 51 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: like yeah, they hurt, and she later mocked and berated me, 52 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: saying it made her feel bad. I was complaining about 53 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: my legs. 54 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 2: I'm not travel with this person. 55 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: I never said they hurt out of my own accord, 56 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: Nor did I stop what we were doing to ask 57 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: for breaks. If she asked, I said yeah, but she'd 58 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: rather I'd lie. I asked if she was thirsty while 59 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: we waited for open hours, and she said no. So 60 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:28,839 Speaker 1: I went to find a coffee shop to grab one 61 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: real quick, and she goes, I don't even want to 62 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: go there, but uh oh, you should have taken me 63 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:34,760 Speaker 1: to a real cafe. 64 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 2: Y'all need to maybe, I think, honestly, if this is 65 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 2: how it was going, I'd be like, you know what, hey, 66 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 2: let's like you can do whatever you want, and I'm 67 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 2: going to go do what I want. Yeah, I think 68 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: people are really afraid of doing like Soulo travel stuff, 69 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:48,799 Speaker 2: But in places like Japan and also in Europe, definitely. 70 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 2: I mean, my experience is here it's it's very safe 71 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:51,960 Speaker 2: to do. 72 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: I once did that, but it didn't turn out well. 73 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: Oh what When I was traveling with an X, she 74 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 1: was like like, we need to do this, this and 75 00:02:58,639 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: this and this, and I'm like, I feel like I 76 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 1: need some space to just try out my own stuff. 77 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, and yeah, a little bit differently received from like 78 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 2: a partner. 79 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: It was differently received. I was a young man not 80 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: trained in the ways of the world. 81 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 2: I do think all traveling should incorporate some alone time 82 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 2: though I agree. 83 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: I agree even if you're traveling with the partner, especially 84 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: if it's like a month. 85 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:21,799 Speaker 2: Maybe especially if you're traveling with a partner, because you're 86 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: gonna be in the same room with him. 87 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: Kata And says, I don't even want to go. There 88 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: is a solid yellow flag phrase for me. I don't know. Yeah, 89 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 1: it means you're just growing there, girl, I'm just grabbing 90 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: me a drink and you said no. Doesn't believe in 91 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: itineries yet, hated everywhere I took her, so got her 92 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: friend back home to look up places for her. She 93 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: had six months to look up anything to add, but 94 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 1: she doesn't believe in Itineraries got mad at an order 95 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: for her when she didn't ask me to help, said 96 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 1: if we were in Mexico, I would have ordered for. 97 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 2: You aren't in Mexico. 98 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: All she said was thinking about getting a bun today. 99 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: She didn't end up ordering it herself because she didn't 100 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: want to point to it and ask the cashier. I 101 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: was standing ten steps away from her, there was no 102 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: one in line, and we were the only ones in 103 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: the store. Not sure why she didn't even attempt to 104 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,839 Speaker 1: order a bun in the case or ask me to help. 105 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: Her started saying she should have gone on this trip 106 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: with friend A or friend B to my face, said 107 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: you didn't like touristy areas like aka shabuya Asakusa haad 108 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: Juku and wanted to go to rural areas. Why she 109 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:26,839 Speaker 1: while not even speaking Japanese and was relying on me 110 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: to quite literally hold her hand through everything. She's older 111 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: than me, but both late twenties. By the way, it 112 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: sounds like she's someone but also that you have vastly 113 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: different like traveling styles. I think you know, if you're 114 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 1: traveling with a bunch of people, you're gonna have to 115 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: just go with whatever the group group wants to do. 116 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:48,719 Speaker 1: But if you're traveling like one on one and you 117 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: have vastly different traveling styles and neither of you are 118 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: willing to compromise, you probably shouldn't travel together. Yeah, she 119 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: said she was going to leave the trip early. If 120 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: we spent a day with my sister at our Japanese 121 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 1: friend's house. Letter she wouldn't eat sushi because they have 122 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 1: worms in them, wouldn't go to karaoke because they were listening. 123 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: Said I made her cry, which she's only ever done 124 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,359 Speaker 1: at her dad's funeral. Wow, called a dried squid a 125 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 1: gag gift. She can get her family accuse me of 126 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: cutting her luggage and wouldn't take out yen from the ATM. 127 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 1: So I did, and she paid me back. Try to 128 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: tell me data works fine here compared to our pocket 129 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: Wi Fi and that we can just leave the Wi 130 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: Fi at the hotel when I asked her to hold 131 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: it for us. I lived in Japan and will not 132 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: go anywhere without pocket Wi Fi. This isn't even the 133 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 1: half of it. A whole seven day nice. Yeah. Yeah, 134 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: for the first time in my life, I actually slept 135 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: through an entire nine hour plane ride all the way back. 136 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,440 Speaker 1: What is it called eta? What is it edit Tad editad. 137 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: I totally forgot some of the more fed up things, 138 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,119 Speaker 1: like asking do you have an eating disorder? Or telling 139 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 1: me she was going to smack my hand because I 140 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: had it near my nose as I was choking on 141 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,719 Speaker 1: so much second hand smoke my throat was getting raspy, 142 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: and trying to convince me it was my fault that 143 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 1: I was having inappropriate stuff happening to me. Example, man 144 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: chased me down the streets of Iki Bukuru wanting to 145 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: go to a hotel. But it's my fault because I 146 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:15,840 Speaker 1: was standing alone at a station. 147 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 148 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: And to add too, anyone want to guess at the 149 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:20,919 Speaker 1: profession she's pursuing. 150 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 2: I don't know. 151 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 1: I have no travel travel travel coordinator, That's what I go. 152 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: I'm guessing. But we got some relevant complace remote pee 153 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 1: and some updates. But yeah, this is just like like 154 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: when people have different I mean, she also sounds terrible, 155 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: but like when people have different traveling styles, even if 156 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: you're both nice and kind, it can be really hard 157 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: to adapt to someone else's way of traveling. 158 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, Durred says, Wow. On culture travelers, I remember 159 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:48,559 Speaker 2: studying what's acceptable and not when I went to Japan 160 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 2: in twenty twenty three, and also just her not listening 161 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 2: to any of like when people are like, hey, this 162 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,719 Speaker 2: is rude, this is inappropriate to do, and she's like, oh, whatever, 163 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:58,520 Speaker 2: I don't care, Like, actually I think I'm right. 164 00:06:58,680 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: I actually don't care at all. 165 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 2: Literally, in every place that my friends and I went to, 166 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 2: we like looked up what is the tipping culture? 167 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 1: Do whoa wow? With eighty six with a one hundred 168 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: dollars USD and a private message that we won't reveal 169 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: but should we should we read it? 170 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 2: Can we look at it? 171 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: We look at it. 172 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 2: We won't read, but we'll look at it. Okay, Okay, 173 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 2: this is my this is my. 174 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: When do you read this? I mean you could, I 175 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: guess you could. Do we read it right now? But 176 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: do I read it? To tell? Are you? Are you 177 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:31,840 Speaker 1: in chat? Do we read it right now? Okay? What? Wait? 178 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: Read the other one? Read the other one the other 179 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 1: to go to the other one? Yeah, do it? Do it? 180 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 2: Okay? Steal Riot, you are an amazing best friend and stepdad. 181 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 2: You have been with Tiny Demon from the start. I 182 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 2: want to take the next step with you. I love 183 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 2: you and Tiny Demon. You two so steal riot. Will 184 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 2: you marry me? Ah? 185 00:07:54,520 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my goodness, did you see us? Yeah? Yes, yes, yes, 186 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:08,520 Speaker 1: I can't. 187 00:08:08,840 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 2: I can't read the story until we get first shot. 188 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 2: I figure tiny demon with your five year old. Oh, 189 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 2: oh my god, I want to cry, my god. Oh 190 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 2: we'll find out in three hours. Do you want me 191 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:32,199 Speaker 2: to do it again? 192 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 1: Was that driving? 193 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 2: Oh? 194 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: You guys are the best. 195 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 2: That's so sweet. 196 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: Oh. I love this community. This is awesome. 197 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 2: I Kim, I have to wait three hours to this, 198 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 2: all right? 199 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, Kimberly finds the same is too emotional for the suspense. 200 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: This is really sweet. Okay, please keep us updated. 201 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 2: Tell us in three hours? 202 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:00,160 Speaker 1: All update in disc. 203 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: Can you but can you at me? I'll check it 204 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 2: if you at me. 205 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: Updated the discord? Please? Oh my god, gosh, I look first. 206 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,319 Speaker 2: Okay, proposal, that's really exciting. 207 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, okay. 208 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 2: Should I do it again? 209 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: Yeah? 210 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 2: Do you want me to read it again? 211 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like it was crazy the 212 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:25,319 Speaker 1: first time. I feel like you rushed it. Oh my goodness. 213 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 2: Dark Lilith says we are so unconventional. I'm thirty eight female, 214 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:31,199 Speaker 2: he's twenty eight male. I had no problem being a 215 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 2: stepdad loves my son from day one? Why do it 216 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 2: the normal way? 217 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: Oh? I love this, I love love hearts and the 218 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: chat heart dark Yes, Oh my goodness, congratulations and okay 219 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: I do is okay? Babies okay? Proposal wingles, Oh my goodness, 220 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: really great. All right, we're gonna go back to the story, 221 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: but just know we're gonna be thinking about this. It's 222 00:09:55,520 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 1: the higher time all day. Oh my gosh. 223 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 2: Also, is this this is the coolest? 224 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 1: Is this not the coolest thing? Is? 225 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 2: I'm very cool? It? I gotta coolos. 226 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 1: That's freaking cool. That's freaking cool. 227 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 2: It's really cool. 228 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so happy for you guys, happy for you guys. 229 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:20,680 Speaker 1: All right, were to get back into this story. But 230 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: oh my goodness, editors, keep that in for the full video. 231 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:27,679 Speaker 1: Keep it in if you're okay with that. Yeah, if 232 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 1: you're okay with that, darug lilith, let us know if 233 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: you're not. But oh okay, so relevant comments Opie needs 234 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 1: to get new friends and how is the friend so Opie? 235 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: I told her off a day after we landed, then 236 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 1: blocked her everywhere. She's twenty eight. I'm twenty six, Opie 237 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:48,599 Speaker 1: on ending the friendship after the trip, Opie responds, something 238 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: about trips and friendships. This girl you would never guess 239 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: because if you met her, she's at Mama Bear, polight, 240 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: well mannered, fiercely independent in caring. I doubt people in 241 00:10:57,760 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 1: the real life would believe this is her. Once she 242 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 1: out of her element, she turned into the literal squat 243 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: of satan. I wanted to leave her so bad, but 244 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: I couldn't bring myself too, because it's a very foreign 245 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 1: country to her. Once she threatened to leave the trip 246 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,719 Speaker 1: early though, I literally started looking at fights for her 247 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: and showed her the options. Little that pissed her off 248 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: even more because I was on my phone all throughout dinner. 249 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: Opie gives an example of her friend's reaction when going 250 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: to a place for breakfast. Opi responds, no, literally, I 251 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: left a bunch of stuff out because it's a lot. 252 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: But our compromise to visiting my friend's house was I 253 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 1: would go alone for a couple hours while she waited 254 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 1: at the hotel. Before I left, I convinced her to 255 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:42,360 Speaker 1: try going to the Cone Beanie, which was right next 256 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 1: door to our hotel, alone to get breakfast. And she 257 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: did come back, and she said she would never do 258 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: that again. Want to know why some other foreigner saw 259 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: her and was trying to chat with her. I don't 260 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: know if this is real, but she was like, yeah, see, nope, 261 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:56,959 Speaker 1: I'm not doing that again. She's Mexican, which is why 262 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: she kept bringing it up and telling me she's going 263 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: to force me to go to Mexico. That's weird. So 264 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:03,959 Speaker 1: I can see how hard it is to order stuff 265 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 1: or whatever, and that she wouldn't go to my friend's 266 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: house because how would you feel if I took you 267 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,680 Speaker 1: to Mexico and wanted to visit my brother in law? 268 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 2: Fine? 269 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:13,480 Speaker 1: Feeling? It would be fine? 270 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 2: I don't know's I visited my friend's family when we 271 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:17,319 Speaker 2: were traveling. 272 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it's fun to visit. 273 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, oh, I'm visiting a person who like 274 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:24,840 Speaker 2: lives here. That's fun. They can take me around. 275 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:28,199 Speaker 1: But honestly, I could have used that situation and thrown 276 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: her misogyny right back at her face. Oh a man 277 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 1: talked to you. You must have looked approachable or it 278 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: was what you were wearing everything she said to me. Lol. 279 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 1: She thought I was crazy to suggest this and that 280 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: I was just wasting her hard earned money to set 281 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 1: around to hang out and said that when people want 282 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: to hang out, it means all day, and everyone around 283 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: her knows that hangout means all day. Also said that 284 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: later means later today, which was a whole different thing. 285 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:54,960 Speaker 1: I digress. But instead of asking me how long, she 286 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 1: flips her bananas and tells me she should have gone 287 00:12:57,440 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: on this trip with friend A if I wanted to 288 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 1: see friends. This is what made her cry there. 289 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's bringing down vibe. I know my vibe is 290 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 2: so high right now. 291 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:11,720 Speaker 1: But we got an update us get into it. I 292 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: got a lot more responses and questions, and I thought 293 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:16,719 Speaker 1: I would get on my last post. I figured I 294 00:13:16,720 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: would share more about it for those who were interested. 295 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:22,319 Speaker 1: I also wanted to thank everyone who told me their 296 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: own story of disaster trips. Some felt really relatable. Also, 297 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: big thank you to those who asked me for Tokyo 298 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: recommendations and those who said they would have been glad 299 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 1: to have me as their guide. That made me really happy. 300 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:37,160 Speaker 1: I actually had two friendships that ended over that trip, 301 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:42,440 Speaker 1: and overall I felt really taken advantage of and underappreciated. 302 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: Thank you all for helping sort some of those feelings 303 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 1: by sharing your thoughts. Of course, this was a huge 304 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 1: lesson learned, and I'll do my best to move forward 305 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: with more caution, immaturity, a little more context to what 306 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,560 Speaker 1: I went through. Got mad. I told her, No, I 307 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: don't need her to hold my bag. I got mad. 308 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:00,320 Speaker 1: I told her I didn't want to walk one hour 309 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 1: to our destination because she chose the route with a 310 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: one hour train with a forty minute walk. I chose 311 00:14:06,200 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: the one with three transfers and a ten minute walk. 312 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: I said, I put my compressions in my check in 313 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: on accident, and she replies, well, I'm smart and packed 314 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:15,680 Speaker 1: mine in a backpack. 315 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 2: I don't like this person. 316 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you would be totally okay to 317 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: completely not be with this person at all. 318 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, like, it sounds like she doesn't like Japan, 319 00:14:26,560 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 2: sounds like she doesn't want to be there, like every 320 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 2: part of the culture she's been like, noa, she don't 321 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 2: want to eat sushi. 322 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 1: Don't want to eat sushi in Japan? 323 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 2: What what is this? 324 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:38,359 Speaker 1: Told me she couldn't help with adding to the itinerary 325 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 1: or joined study sessions because she had family issues she 326 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: didn't want to tell me about and didn't understand how 327 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: that doesn't give her a pass to complain the whole time. 328 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: She would agree to leave an area, but then to 329 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 1: make snarky comments about how she liked the previous area. 330 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: More told me sarcastically, I've always right when I tried 331 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 1: to tell her she was reading a Japanese person's response wrong, 332 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 1: as if I didn't know the concept of tatame and hane. Oh, 333 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what that is. I don't know the 334 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: concept blew up at me for being on my phone 335 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: during dinner. I was navigating the whole time, and we 336 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,520 Speaker 1: shared a hotel slash bed. The only time I got 337 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: to check in with my fam is when we sat 338 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: down and eat kept saying her family, who was tracking her, 339 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: was asking why we're at a laundromat or why we're 340 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 1: at a mall and not outside compare me to friend 341 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:25,120 Speaker 1: a like, Oh, she would have understood my joke. I 342 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 1: feel like, why would you ever want a friend that 343 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:29,280 Speaker 1: compares you to other friends? 344 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 2: That's ridiculous. This is this is why are we on 345 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 2: this trip with her? 346 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: Also, I feel like again like kind of like we've 347 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: always said, in relationships, you had to see like some 348 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: of the before. 349 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 2: Right, I've been on trips with friends where they were 350 00:15:45,160 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 2: really awful on the trip. 351 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: So yeah, really yeah, like what. 352 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 2: Well, it's just like just things that like didn't you know, 353 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 2: don't turn up when you are not on a trip 354 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 2: and you have totally different travel styles and they just 355 00:15:57,840 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 2: like things don't come up. 356 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I gets like trip, different travel style or like 357 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: now looking back at her, like oh, like that part 358 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: of their personality is a signal. 359 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 2: I think it's heightened on a trip. I definitely would 360 00:16:10,280 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 2: like like could have seen things from before, but it 361 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 2: was only heightened on the trip. 362 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: You know who travels well together Me and Christian It's. 363 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 2: Because you lived in the same room together for life. 364 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not that close. 365 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 2: I don't even know. 366 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 1: I don't even know, barely know. Use my other friend's 367 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:32,560 Speaker 1: problem I was having against me saying she understands why 368 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: my friend did what she did. Yapped about how she 369 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 1: hates Selena Gomez for writing a song about her ex. 370 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 2: That's literally every singer. 371 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: And when I told her nearly every singer slash songwriter 372 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 1: does and she told me to list names, and so 373 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 1: I listed people and she said no, but name male singers. 374 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: Though heard my fav group XG play in Shibuya, and 375 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 1: when I got excited, she goes ew only because they're 376 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: a girl group. 377 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 2: She sounds really misogynistic. 378 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:00,520 Speaker 1: She is I hate like, that's what he's kind. 379 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 2: Of socialized misogyny. 380 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,680 Speaker 1: Acted like me making itinerary meant that we couldn't walk 381 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: into random shops along the way anytime we went somewhere 382 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:10,119 Speaker 1: spontaneously or didn't make a reservation. She would be like, see, 383 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 1: this is how I travel. I just go with the 384 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: flow because I do better under pressure. Anyways, So some 385 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: people had mentioned how I didn't see any of this 386 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,399 Speaker 1: behavior prior to going on the trip, and I'll be 387 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:21,639 Speaker 1: honest and say there were red flags in a relationship 388 00:17:21,680 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: which I saw and I actually did distance myself from. 389 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: But after I moved to Japan and came back, I 390 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 1: was in this weird position and really wanted to reconnect 391 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: with my old friends and establish a support system again. 392 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:34,000 Speaker 1: So I decided to start fresh with her, which was 393 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 1: obviously a mistake, and I got what I deserved. She 394 00:17:37,760 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: started changing during the pandemic, in which her and friend 395 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:44,199 Speaker 1: A got really close, as we were barely talking at 396 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 1: the time. I talked to a mutual friend of ours 397 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 1: recently and we both suspect that Frienday had a part 398 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:54,560 Speaker 1: in fueling her toxic behavior. We always knew her as 399 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: a sort of mama bear that took care of everyone 400 00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,679 Speaker 1: and is super well mannered and self righteous. Everyone in 401 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,119 Speaker 1: real life likes her and looks up to her, but 402 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: as one commrad pointed out, these good qualities are actually 403 00:18:05,359 --> 00:18:07,720 Speaker 1: a disguise. She needs to be in control, and once 404 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:09,719 Speaker 1: she was out of her element and not in control, 405 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: she completely lost her cool. It was actually very verbally abusive, 406 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: which brings me to the next answer to everyone's question. 407 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 1: She's pursuing to be a detective or police officer. It's 408 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 1: more fitting rather than ironic. She appears disciplined, morally superior 409 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 1: and dominant, but she's simply judgmental, controlling, and it's scary 410 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,600 Speaker 1: to think someone like her will have more power and influence. 411 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 1: The next thing I want to address is people asking 412 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,920 Speaker 1: why did she even want to go to Japan. 413 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:36,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my question. 414 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, Helia Bans says, Oh, she's not like other girls. 415 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:44,560 Speaker 1: Avery from the swap says, did you get picked? Cis Hope? 416 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, tells me I understand why you would 417 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:50,879 Speaker 2: go to a place that you don't like appreciate aspects 418 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:53,200 Speaker 2: any seemingly any aspects of the culture. 419 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 1: I kind of think it's simple. I invited her and said, 420 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 1: I know of good places and can take us around. 421 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people in my life want 422 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 1: me to take them to Japan because it's easier to 423 00:19:02,760 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 1: go with someone who knows how to travel there. She 424 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: wasn't someone who ever dreamed of going to Japan, but 425 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 1: the opportunity came up and she took it. She's more 426 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,679 Speaker 1: of a Korea boo, to be honest, but nevertheless, she 427 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:15,920 Speaker 1: was excited to go. She even started texting friend A 428 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: on the trip, saying that we were gonna make it 429 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:21,000 Speaker 1: up to her and go to Kyoto next year and 430 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 1: that I could join loll even though she told me 431 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:27,119 Speaker 1: to my face, no offense, but I'm never traveling with 432 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:29,440 Speaker 1: you again. No offense, but I'm never traveling with you again. 433 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: That's offensive. 434 00:19:30,760 --> 00:19:32,880 Speaker 2: You don't have to say that, even if you're even 435 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 2: if it's like true, yeah, you don't have to be like, 436 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:37,159 Speaker 2: I would never travel with you again. 437 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: Last thing people are asking is what I said to 438 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 1: her when I ended it. When we got back to 439 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,400 Speaker 1: the States. Basically, I started blocking her on everything. I 440 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,320 Speaker 1: argued with her for seven days and everything that came 441 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: out of her mouth was a complaint or insult, so 442 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 1: I had zero energy to go back and forth. I 443 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 1: already know that nothing will change her mind or open 444 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: her eyes. She texted me saying why she couldn't find 445 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: my username anymore, and I said this, By the way, 446 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:04,679 Speaker 1: you can join us live on YouTube and Facebook every 447 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:08,120 Speaker 1: weekday at three PMPSD, and we're probably live right now, 448 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: so tap our profile. 449 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 2: I can't believe she said that. 450 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:13,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, there is actually what she said in a bit. 451 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 1: But I feel like op is right in not traveling 452 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaker 1: this person that seems like they have very different traveling styles. 453 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: And incredibly, that person kind of sounds a little thinking, 454 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 1: sounds like outside of traveling, sound like maybe you shouldn't 455 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: be friends with her. Yeah, but you got a little 456 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: bit more so, girl, no way we are friends anymore 457 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: after the way you behaved all throughout the trip. Never 458 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:37,120 Speaker 1: in my life have I heard a grown adult complain 459 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:40,159 Speaker 1: that much and not know how to communicate without an 460 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:46,200 Speaker 1: attitude gaslighting and being condescending. You are ethnocentric, extremely judgmental, 461 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,399 Speaker 1: and ablest. You say a lot of racist microaggressions and 462 00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 1: misogynistic things, and the fact that people can't even be 463 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,439 Speaker 1: honest with you, or the fact that you can't be 464 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: honest with others is wild. Yeah, rather not hear the 465 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:01,680 Speaker 1: truth because honesty makes you feel you're bad the entire time. 466 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: You talk about how you normally do things with your 467 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: friends and family, and all it told me is that 468 00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 1: you're not very adaptable. But yeah, there was way too 469 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 1: much unpleasant behavior and things said that show your true colors, 470 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: and I don't want any further involvement. Then I blocked her, 471 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,119 Speaker 1: but I got a new phone and saw she read it, 472 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: so that's that. I'm not hurt, but I'm really bummed 473 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:26,159 Speaker 1: about my Japan trip being is a bummer ruined. 474 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 2: But yeah, good good that you freaking called around on it. 475 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,440 Speaker 1: And at least you're not gonna have any more trips ruined. 476 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:33,880 Speaker 2: By this girl or any interactions. 477 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:37,400 Speaker 1: Goth Princess says, tell a girl, and Goth Princes also says, 478 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: please leave her defend for herself. Yeah, one hundred percent. 479 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 2: This is uh, honestly, yeah, ridiculous, stunned for that. 480 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 1: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives. Time 481 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:56,440 Speaker 1: for okop Relash okop, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel Donner 482 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,040 Speaker 1: and I'm John Fry and we tell the funniest stories 483 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:02,439 Speaker 1: on the Internet. And John, I have a crazy story 484 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 1: for you. Take it away. Entitled mom tries to deny 485 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: her dying son his wish and tries to kill him 486 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:13,119 Speaker 1: because the books I got him were satanic. Dumb parents, 487 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 1: you know some moms. It's packing crazy son because of 488 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 1: a book. The only person we're the only thing we're 489 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,359 Speaker 1: sure of that satanic is Adam Levine. And you should 490 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: follow us on TikTok so we can beat his TikTok 491 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:27,159 Speaker 1: into oblivion. 492 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 2: Do it? 493 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 1: Okay? So a backstory, I'm in a D and D 494 00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 1: group with a couple of friends from nearby, and one 495 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: of the members of the group was a kid who 496 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 1: was about fifteen years old. It's really sweet, likes helping 497 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: people out, and he's a big fan of dungeons and dragons. 498 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 1: Big fan. So a door yeah, big nerd dude. He 499 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:47,119 Speaker 1: also has cancer in both lungs. Oh god wow. I 500 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: feel like he's from a religious family that basically forces 501 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 1: him to act pure while he's in their sight. The 502 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:01,680 Speaker 1: mom is Westborough Baptist Church level Oh dear, Well, the 503 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 1: dad is just a sensible person who tries to get 504 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 1: him to be a good kid. Okay, when he's outside 505 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: of his parents, though, he just does normal teen stuff. 506 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:12,159 Speaker 1: Because of his mom, the only books he was allowed 507 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:16,880 Speaker 1: to own were Christian books and Bibles. Man have textbooks 508 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:21,679 Speaker 1: reading the Bible, and he joined our group mainly as 509 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 1: a way to escape his home life and his mom. 510 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: So which understandable because that sounds like, hell yeah, it 511 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,360 Speaker 1: doesn't sound fun. A couple of weeks ago, the cancer 512 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,720 Speaker 1: in his lungs started to get to him, so he 513 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: was taken to a hospital by his parents. He contacted 514 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 1: me about this a day after he was taken to 515 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: the hospital, stating that he wanted a Monster Manual as 516 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 1: his last wish, his dying wish, stating that he was 517 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: tired of reading the same things. I bought him the 518 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 1: book from Barnes and Nobles, but considered that he's a 519 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:51,960 Speaker 1: dying team at all. I got him Volo's Guide to 520 00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 1: Monsters and martinach Gannan's Thorm of Foes stacked up on that. 521 00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:59,040 Speaker 1: So the good stuff not good stuff? He go, not good, 522 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: that's not good. The next day, which was his birthday, 523 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: he was still in the hospital, so I brought him 524 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 1: the books as a gift. After he blew out the candles, 525 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: we had a cake and he started opening gifts. Mine 526 00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 1: was the first to be opened. Seeing what they were. 527 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 1: He immediately got this humongous grin on his face and 528 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,919 Speaker 1: hugged me. Meanwhile, his mom stared down in the books 529 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: with a look of pure disgust, with her husband staring 530 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,719 Speaker 1: at her with the wary look in his eyes, like 531 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 1: this husband, just like done? Is the bomb about to 532 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,880 Speaker 1: go off? Also, like what kind of mom? Your son 533 00:24:33,960 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 1: is literally dying? Like, yeah, let them have them freaking book. 534 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,560 Speaker 1: But she does not let him have the book. She 535 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: picks up one of the books and relights one of 536 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 1: the candles and holds the damn book over it to 537 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 1: try to set it on fire. I man, just stop 538 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 1: her and demand what the f are you doing? He 539 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,680 Speaker 1: asked me to get those books, and I'm not going 540 00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: to let you take them away. His mom simply stared 541 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,879 Speaker 1: me down and said something along the lines of the 542 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:09,600 Speaker 1: books are sinful and satanic and full of evil, and 543 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 1: that her son has no business with them. I retort 544 00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 1: and say that her son can read. What the heck? 545 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 1: He wants, and that she shouldn't have to force him 546 00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 1: to be Christian for real. She starts getting red in 547 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,640 Speaker 1: the face and yelling at me about essentially forcing children 548 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,119 Speaker 1: to believe in God from a young age. I state 549 00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,679 Speaker 1: that I'm Baptists, which I actually am, and say that 550 00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: faith in God is a matter between God and the 551 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: individual facts facts. She turns red all over and actively 552 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:40,239 Speaker 1: starts to destroy the books with me, my friend, and 553 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,080 Speaker 1: her husband. The husband gets in the mix, trying to 554 00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 1: stop her. At one point, I shouted, would God want 555 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,680 Speaker 1: you to do this to restrict your dying son's freedom 556 00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 1: of expression? Literally? That writes her question. But the thing 557 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 1: is this just sets her effing a blaze. Oh it would. 558 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:05,440 Speaker 1: She tosses the books aside and starts trying to strangle 559 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:10,040 Speaker 1: her son, and her husband calls security immediately when she 560 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 1: does this. Security gets here within about a minute of 561 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,879 Speaker 1: the two of us trying to pride titled mom off 562 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 1: her son and drag her away, with her shouting that 563 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 1: we're all Caddamites to the devil. Both her husband and 564 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:29,119 Speaker 1: my friend charge her with child abuse, assault, and attempted murder. 565 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,720 Speaker 1: Good trial still going, and I'll try to update this 566 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: post as the trial goes on.