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Speaker 1: My wife cheated on me with our son's baseball coach.

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Speaker 1: This is Okyop, home to the craziest true stories on Earth.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and Riley.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you're hitting percentage low. You need to swing a

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Speaker 2: little hard hit on you. Wow, there's so many Did

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Speaker 2: you swing that way? Did you? Did you because you

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Speaker 2: weren't a better because you weren't a good enough picture.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that makes sense. But another time, there's

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Speaker 2: a picture and a catcher.

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Speaker 1: Yes, sure so, Makers on the Rock says. Wife just

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Speaker 1: told me that she's been seeing someone for the past

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Speaker 1: six months, been married eight years, five and six year

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Speaker 1: old kids. Oh yeah, this is horrible.

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Speaker 2: I've been madly in love the whole time.

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Speaker 1: She's an amazing person and mother literally keeps the family

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Speaker 1: together and mother and it's just spectacular, truly. Another she

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Speaker 1: was showing me something on her phone and I saw

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Speaker 1: a text come in saying I love you.

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Speaker 2: More just my cousin, it's just my foreign brother, And

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Speaker 2: I asked who it was.

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Speaker 1: She explained it was a coworker that she's been helping out,

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Speaker 1: and I thought nothing more of it. She she told

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Speaker 1: you as a coworker, and you were like, yeah, coworkers

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Speaker 1: say I love you all the time.

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Speaker 2: That's true, we do. We also live together. Yeah that's different.

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Speaker 2: Who's a coworker. We don't say I love you too,

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Speaker 2: just like no, i'd still I'd still till our editor, Zachie,

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Speaker 2: I love you, I love you, I love you more

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Speaker 2: like any of you editors. I love you editors.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't know. Maybe I still because.

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Speaker 2: But not Okay, okay, I would say I love you,

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Speaker 2: but not more. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's just weird that she like her

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Speaker 1: way to cover up instead of being like, oh, this

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Speaker 1: is a family member.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a final same excuse a worker.

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Speaker 1: That day, we had a lot of family over to

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Speaker 1: celebrate our daughter's birthday and it was a wonderful time.

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Speaker 2: Oh because if she would have said family member, maybe

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Speaker 2: that would have helped. Yeah, she missed that opportunity. What

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Speaker 2: what Yeah, not that I want.

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Speaker 1: I'm advocating for this or trying to give people, you know, ways.

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Speaker 2: To do it. But this was a lame excuse. It

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Speaker 2: was a lame excuse.

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Speaker 1: What she should have done was been like, it's a

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Speaker 1: family member, and then if he was like, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if he was going to ask any follow up questions,

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Speaker 1: she sends the same. She's like, hey, love you, and

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Speaker 1: then she gets them to say I love you.

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Speaker 2: More somehow, I don't know. There you go, there you go, but.

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Speaker 1: She's lame excuses. Some stayed overnight. So the next day,

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Speaker 1: after a wonderful weekend, getting company out and putting the

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Speaker 1: kids down, my wife said she needs to tell me something.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh uh oh, Well, that I love you more

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Speaker 1: was not from her coworker, well at least not the

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Speaker 1: one she explained it was, but I'm not sure because

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Speaker 1: she's not sharing any details regarding the other person.

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Speaker 2: She told me that six months.

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Speaker 1: Ago, when I was in a dark place and have

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Speaker 1: since come out of no drugs except weed and booze,

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Speaker 1: which we both partaken, she found love from someone else.

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Speaker 1: Love I wasn't providing in our relationship. If I have

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Speaker 1: feelings for someone else, I'm not sure that I should

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Speaker 1: have married. It's not fair to you or me. I

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Speaker 1: never planned for this to happen, but now that it's

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Speaker 1: a reality, we.

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Speaker 2: Need to deal with it. Interesting.

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Speaker 1: She explained that she wasn't looking for someone else, It

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Speaker 1: just happened a friendship that bloomed into more. She also

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Speaker 1: told me that they have not been intimate and explained

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Speaker 1: that as a sexual relationship. Wait what she said, they

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Speaker 1: haven't been intimate, but they have a sexual relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yah, that's pretty intimate.

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Speaker 1: That's pretty intimate. Oh oh wait, sorry, I think I

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Speaker 1: understand what she's saying. She said, we haven't been intimate

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Speaker 1: and intimate meaning we haven't had sex.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, I was just like this intimate mean

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Speaker 2: you have to have eye contact? Yeah what are you saying?

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Speaker 3: You staring?

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Speaker 2: Does? What? What? Okay, you just completely missed what I said,

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Speaker 2: because sexual relationship but not being intimate. And I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: do they not have eye contact? You said? I meant

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Speaker 2: like they don't look at each other? Well like doing

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Speaker 2: the whatever? You meant that there they were, because I

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Speaker 2: when we were however, whatever whatever. She says.

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Speaker 1: Life is too short and she wants to be happy.

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Speaker 1: She's proud of all the changes I've made and I've

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Speaker 1: But she wants to be one happy and the changes

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Speaker 1: I've made haven't gotten her there, so she's seeking elsewhere.

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Speaker 2: Oh you're not it, buddy, you're not it. That doesn't

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Speaker 2: give you an excuse to emotions. It just sounds like

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Speaker 2: emotionally cheating.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she is emotionally chitting. She says, this person make

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Speaker 1: because she's they're already at.

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Speaker 2: The I love you stage. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she says, this person may not be the one

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Speaker 1: hundred percent answer, but she worries that I'm at the

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Speaker 1: best I can be and it's not enough yet. She's

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Speaker 1: not giving me specifics. We've had a beautiful, loving relationship.

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Speaker 1: We are known to be well out together, well out together,

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Speaker 1: well off. Maybe we are known to be well off

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Speaker 1: together and have our stuff in line. We'd be the

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Speaker 1: last couple that folks would think this is happening too.

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Speaker 2: Mmm.

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Speaker 1: So I'm devastated, absolutely totally ripped apart, and don't know

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Speaker 1: what to do. We own a house together, what we're

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Speaker 1: and she's in the same position. We had a perfect

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Speaker 1: life together and I'm suddenly being blindsided by this six

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Speaker 1: best we split. I have no idea how to move forward.

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Speaker 1: I told her she needs to let her family know

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Speaker 1: cat to let out of the bag. It's just so

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Speaker 1: sad for a kids. When we were dating and in marriage,

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Speaker 1: cheating was the one of the things that would break us.

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Speaker 1: We both came from broken families and it was something

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Speaker 2: Wanted for our kids. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I just feel so hollow and broken. She is slush

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Speaker 1: was everything to me, and I'm so thankful for the

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Speaker 1: ten years we've been together.

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Speaker 2: Ten years dikes.

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Speaker 1: But I think the writing is on the walls and

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Speaker 1: I'm helpless. It's all up to her. I'm broken into

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Speaker 1: a million pieces. And there is a five month update. Whoa, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so we can see what happened, you know, how things

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Speaker 2: Ay, that is sad, Like, that's really sad. He's put

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Speaker 1: I think it's also again like it's not necessarily like

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Speaker 1: it wouldn't have made the wife an a hole if

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Speaker 1: she was like you know, I know longer have those

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Speaker 1: And I want to like lead the relationship. But the ale,

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Speaker 1: like you weren't able to be big enough to end

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, that's that's huge. Yeah. It really does

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Speaker 2: suck too. The kids. The kids. Yeah, the freaking kids

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Speaker 2: have to go through this. Yeah, that really sucks. And

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Speaker 2: they're pretty young. Are sad? They're so young and like

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Speaker 2: now they have to be now hold up. I'm just

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Speaker 2: to grow up in that same Brooker. They're not they're

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Speaker 1: So update five month update, So we spent some time

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Speaker 2: She continued her relationship with him.

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Speaker 1: I did some digging in the meantime and looked at

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Speaker 1: the phone records to find that it was our son's coach.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I know that was in the title.

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Speaker 1: But jesus, you just wanted.

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Speaker 2: To practice, Yeah, help hitting. I called her out on it,

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Speaker 2: help hitting, She needed some balls thrown at her. Is

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Speaker 2: it bad? We need to work on this. I need

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Speaker 2: to work on this. Come on, baseball references. I don't

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Speaker 2: there's so many opportunities here. Yeah, I don't do sports.

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Speaker 1: I called her out on it, and she could still

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Speaker 1: continue the relationship. I saw a lawyer and he told

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Speaker 1: me to not leave the house or the kids and

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Speaker 1: either try to work it out or time to leave

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Speaker 2: Wait, what this is a bad lawyer.

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Speaker 1: Either try to work it out or work out a

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Speaker 1: time to leave and see a therapist.

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Speaker 2: I think that's not it's saying what I don't know.

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Speaker 1: My therapist says she's a narcissist and that I should

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Speaker 2: Time out. The lawyer being like, yeah, stay Yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: the therapist is like run. Shouldn't that. I think he's

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Speaker 1: Come December, she said she had cut it off with

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Speaker 2: No, no, uh uh.

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Speaker 1: I gave her all the effort in the world, but

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Speaker 2: Wait, he gave her his nag a chance.

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Speaker 1: She's not over compensating or has even truly apologized for

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Speaker 2: I also got access to her photos.

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Speaker 1: I'm the admin on the family Google account, and she

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Speaker 1: doesn't know that I've seen all I have. She framed

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Speaker 2: Wait time, out of time time, So she physically cheated.

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Speaker 1: She did fit well no, no, no, at this time they

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Speaker 1: she's taking him to like a shared beach condo. The

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Speaker 1: picture of him that's framed, a frame picture picture of

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Speaker 1: frame picture pictures of people.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't know a frame picture of my family.

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Speaker 2: That's insane. The only frame picture I have is with

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Speaker 2: me and my great grandfather. Yeah, no, that's whack. That's

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Speaker 2: what it was.

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Speaker 1: Five, that's whack. Like my parents have frame pictures, but

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Speaker 1: they're adults.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're adults.

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Speaker 1: I'm none of their adults, and I guess these are adults.

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Speaker 1: But like, that's not even like your you know, husband,

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Speaker 1: or anything that's like the guy you cheated on with

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Speaker 2: Dude. You know what's crazy in modern movies now, they're

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Speaker 2: not gonna have pictures of people on the walls because

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Speaker 2: I don't think people do that anymore. We do that.

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Speaker 2: Where's a picture of people on the walls that aren't

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Speaker 2: I hope and pray that she's not throwing all the

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Speaker 2: But Also he's still getting to do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, still getting to do, like the cheating because she's

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Speaker 1: Maybe she wouldn't have been with him like Stoneholder?

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Speaker 2: Why did he put an emoji here with gray rock?

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Speaker 1: I feel like maybe that means stonewall? Like he ignored her?

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Speaker 2: What does this mean? Gray Rocking a strategy to deal

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Speaker 2: With me at eighty YadA YadA.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, No, I'm glad that he's getting divorced. He

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Speaker 2: She got cheat. She's got type coaches or whatever. But

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Speaker 2: that's the whole story. Baseball Chambers, low key. These are

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Speaker 2: Wow. Nice. Yeah, my brothers love baseball. Yeah, they're pretty

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Speaker 2: good at it too. They're pretty good at basketball too.

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Speaker 2: Proud of those guys. Look at them, go, I know, dude,

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Speaker 2: they're doing so much better than I was at their age.

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Speaker 2: They learned from you, they learned my mistakes. They did better.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like, will never follow in his footsteps, will

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Speaker 1: be the best.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes, think of what they think of me, because like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm out here in l A. And they're

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Speaker 2: back home and the home land. Yeah, like, what's old

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Speaker 2: Riley doing? Does he abandoned the family? I don't think

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Speaker 2: they think that. You don't know what they think. That's true.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I don't know. How could you don't know

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Speaker 2: what they think?

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Speaker 3: You can't assume anything.

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Speaker 2: I didn't ask him, like to rate me as a brother.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, there ready to be higher than Tate my brother.

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Speaker 2: That was nice. That's crazy. Yeah, I should ask your

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Speaker 2: brother to rate you. I feel like I get a

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Speaker 2: high rating really because you're his only sister, because yeah,

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Speaker 2: he doesn't have any other comparison.

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Speaker 1: He's like, you're the only one I got. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: that's all the stories we have today.

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Speaker 2: Yep, that's it. That's it. You'll have to wait until

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Speaker 2: tomorrow or if it's a live stream day. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Actually, yeah, maybe this comes out on a Monday, Tuesday, Thursday,

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Speaker 2: You get two. But if it comes out on a

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Speaker 2: weekend or Wednesday, you're done. You're done for bummer. Huh. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: the Archives. Time for okop relash. I told my brother

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Speaker 3: his eulogy for his dead best friend was garbage, and

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Speaker 3: his reaction surprised me, like crying is the best friend.

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Speaker 3: So I am the writer in the family. Ever since

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Speaker 3: I've remembered, family of friends have been coming to me

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Speaker 3: for writing advice, whether it be college papers, cover letters,

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Speaker 3: or even wedding vows.

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Speaker 4: Ever since I was five, my dulmass family asked me

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Speaker 4: to write for them, and I'm always happy to help,

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Speaker 4: even though most of them are college educated adults who

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Speaker 4: should know what.

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Speaker 3: A comma splice is by now, idiot. But fast forward

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Speaker 3: to a few days ago when my brother's best friend

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Speaker 3: passed away. My brother is of course in shambles, and

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Speaker 3: he's adamant about giving the eulogy, even though he is

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Speaker 3: a blue collar shut up. He came to me and

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Speaker 3: he asked me to edit it because he wanted to

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Speaker 3: make sure he did his best friend proud. I mean yeah,

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Speaker 3: I agreed because he's my brother and I'm a talented editor.

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Speaker 5: Dude, stop jerking yourself off.

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Speaker 3: So he sent me his first draft over email, and

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Speaker 3: it was well terrible. Ope, who's the other carbage? This

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Speaker 3: may sound harsh, yes it does, my god, but writing.

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Speaker 2: Is my craft.

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Speaker 4: I hate this guy so much.

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Speaker 3: And if you ask me to edit something, I'm going

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Speaker 3: to edit it seriously and soberly, no matter what it is.

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Speaker 5: Man has no tax.

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Speaker 3: I mean zero. I want his best friend to die

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Speaker 3: like this is. And I think a second grader writing

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Speaker 3: about the goldfish he flushed down the toilet could have

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Speaker 3: evoked more emotion.

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Speaker 2: Yikes.

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Speaker 3: He's not like submitting a screenplay to Warner Bros.

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Speaker 5: He's just trying to show that he cares about his

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Speaker 5: dead friend. I basically told him as such. He said

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Speaker 5: that verbatim in kinder words, of course, because he's in

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Speaker 5: a difficult place, and I understand that. Do you op

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Speaker 5: what a kind empathetic soul you are? But I basically

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Speaker 5: told him the truth that it was structurally a mess

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Speaker 5: and thematically, frite, if you were actually trying to help

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Speaker 5: you wouldn't give feedback like that. You can give some

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Speaker 5: suggestions and just give suggestions. It's like, hey, this is

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Speaker 5: what I think, what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Of course, I gave him a myriad what an sat word?

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Speaker 3: I gave him a myriad of examples of how to

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Speaker 3: develop this piece more coherently. But guess what, Sam what?

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Speaker 3: He was having none of it?

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Speaker 2: Huh? Who kind of thunk?

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Speaker 3: He accused me of being condescending and inconsiderate and all

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Speaker 3: of this other BS nonsense, all because he asked for

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Speaker 3: my help and I gave it to him.

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Speaker 2: I just told him the truth.

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Speaker 3: And now we're in probably the worst fight of our lives,

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Speaker 3: just a few days before the funeral. So am I

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Speaker 3: have a hole?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Bro?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, Like all right, I think it's fair

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Speaker 5: to actually give some feedback on a eulogy.

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Speaker 3: I think that's totally fine.

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Speaker 5: Right, you want your brother to commemorate his friend in

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Speaker 5: the best way possible, But like you leave suggestions, you

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Speaker 5: don't give feedback. That's unhelpful, right, That feedback is unhelpful

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Speaker 5: for someone who doesn't right.

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Speaker 3: I think it all depends on the temperament. If he's

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Speaker 3: if he came to him and he's like, listen, really

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Speaker 3: give me suggestions because I do actually want to do whatever.

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Speaker 3: Blah blah. Okay, cool, I'll make some suggestions. But if

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Speaker 3: he's just like, hey, could you look this over to Dada,

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Speaker 3: I'll give him some suggestions, but all I I'm prioritizing,

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Speaker 3: like look, you wrote this with your heart, like this

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Speaker 3: is beautiful, this is this is a great homage to

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Speaker 3: your friend. And though I mean it would have to

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Speaker 3: be like Bob, goodfriend, I have goldfish it go fus

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Speaker 3: fun baby.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I I think the whole like if

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Speaker 3: I'm in op shoes, my whole goal is to make

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Speaker 3: the friend feel good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah,