1 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 1: We made it to Friday. Oh my gosh, it is 2 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: so hot here in New York City this week. I 3 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: leave the real feel today that this is coming out 4 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: on Friday is something like one hundred and six degrees 5 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: And something about it being this temperature outside makes the 6 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: days crawl for me, crawl. I don't know if that's 7 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: weird or not. I'm okay with that, Emily here, but 8 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: you already knew that. So happy to be here with 9 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: you on five minute Friday today. I want to talk 10 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: about something I have been mulling over lately, and that 11 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: is the fact that I I never thought I would 12 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 1: be doing what I am doing now. If you were 13 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: to ask me, gosh, when I was a little girl, 14 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 1: let's go there, let's go all the way back there, 15 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: what I thought I would be doing as an adult. Well, 16 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,119 Speaker 1: a lot of us had crazy dreams when we were little. 17 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: Many of you maybe thought that you would be teachers, 18 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 1: or astronauts or professional athletes. I always wanted to be 19 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: a journalist, but I never thought that i'd be doing 20 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: so many of the things that I am doing in 21 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: this moment. I never thought that I would be living 22 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. I never thought that I would be self employed. 23 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: I never thought that I would be traveling the world 24 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: for my work. I definitely didn't think that I would 25 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: be single in my mid thirties. I didn't think that 26 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: I would be addressing large groups of people in large 27 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: formats for keynote presentations. I mean, there are so many 28 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: things that I am doing in my life right now 29 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: that I never anticipated, and I think that is awesome. 30 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: I think that it's so easy for us to get 31 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: caught up in the plan. I caught up in the particulars, 32 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: stay so focused and dialed into what we think that 33 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: we quote unquote should be doing. But if a long 34 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: time ago I didn't accept the fact that this plan 35 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: I had for myself needed to be written in pencil 36 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: and that I had to feel okay and at ease, 37 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: kind of a racing and starting over as I went, 38 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: then I wouldn't have the opportunity to be in the 39 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: position that I am in now. The best written plans 40 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: are written in pencil. I'll say that again, the best 41 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:39,959 Speaker 1: written plans are written in pencil. And I have moments 42 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 1: where I wonder what life could be like if I 43 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: had followed the plan that I had set out for myself. 44 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: But you know what, that doesn't really serve me. All 45 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: I can do is the best that I can with 46 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: what I have in this moment, and what I have 47 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: in this moment is pretty freaking awesome. So it's okay, right, 48 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:06,119 Speaker 1: It's okay and understandable if at moments you have questions, 49 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: if at moments you ask yourself what if? But I 50 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: encourage you to focus on where you're at and where 51 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: you're going to pick up the pencil and continue to 52 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: plan out the best things, knowing that the plans might change. 53 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: And that's cool. In fact, I'll be the first person 54 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: to tell you it's pretty freakin' awesome. My listener prompt 55 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: for you this week what is your plan for the 56 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: next six months? And what is your plan for the 57 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: next year. If you don't have a plan, it's okay, 58 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: don't stress. But this week I encourage you to ask 59 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: yourself what do I want from the next year? And 60 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: now a listener question. 61 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, it's Lauren from New York City. My question 62 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,640 Speaker 2: is not directly really to fitness and wellness, but there's 63 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 2: definitely a significant connection. I am curious about how you 64 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 2: handle challenging individuals will say in a workplace or business setting. 65 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:17,039 Speaker 2: So when you're faced with rather difficult personalities, what kind 66 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 2: of strategies and approaches do you use to maintain harmony 67 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 2: and achieve a positive outcome? Thank you so much, appreciate. 68 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: You, Appreciate you. Lore Okay, this can be yes, challenging 69 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: individual challenging answer. Right, there's a lot of patients that 70 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: goes hand in hand with dealing with people, whether it 71 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: be in business or in life, that just don't jive 72 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: with your style. And it's frustrating, especially within business, because 73 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 1: this isn't a relationship that you can put up a 74 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:57,040 Speaker 1: hard boundary and walk away from. In most cases, knowing 75 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 1: that there are a few things that I would recommend, 76 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: and most of these things will involve you being the 77 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: bigger person first and foremost, take a step back and 78 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: ask yourself what this person's motivation may be for acting 79 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: this certain way. When you get to a place where 80 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,600 Speaker 1: you can empathize with where they are coming from, or 81 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: at least try to understand, you may notice that you 82 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: have less of a quote unquote short fuse with them. 83 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 1: As time goes on. Then I would do my best 84 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 1: to reframe this to an opportunity. Right, there are always 85 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: going to be people in your life that will be difficult, 86 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 1: more difficult than others, and so knowing that you can 87 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:45,839 Speaker 1: use this as an opportunity to practice, let's say your skills, 88 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: do an inventory, ask yourself, how is this person communicating? 89 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: And can I get on their level Again. I'm going 90 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 1: to bring it back to this workplace example. Maybe by 91 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: trying to understand this person's communications, they may be more 92 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: responsive to you. So if this person seems to be 93 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: really effective and prefers to communicate primarily over email, then 94 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: consider first sending them an email before confronting them about something, 95 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: maybe in the hallway. If you're an in person workplace 96 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:21,160 Speaker 1: kind of person, say that five times fast. I know, 97 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: I know it can be really frustrating to be the 98 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: bigger person, but know that you have this gift of 99 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: being able to take a step back and ask yourself, 100 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: how can I best serve myself in this scenario? What 101 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 1: is within your power to protect your energy when dealing 102 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 1: with someone that doesn't have the best energy, especially again 103 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: when you can't walk away completely. Maybe it's making sure 104 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 1: that after these interactions you're doing something that makes you 105 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: feel like you're filling up your own cup. Or perhaps 106 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: it's doing everything within your power to limit the interactions 107 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,479 Speaker 1: that you two have. Whatever the case may be, trust me, 108 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 1: you will be better for it in the long haul. 109 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: I know it's hard to hear, but I promise make 110 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: sure you're following along with hurdle over on social It's 111 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 1: at Hurdle podcast. I am over at Emily Abadi another 112 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.