WEBVTT - Checking In w/ My Weekend 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.000 Welcome to Checking In with Michelle Williams, a production of 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:21.040 iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. Hey there, thank you for 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:26.240 checking in. Welcome to another fun episode. Yes, you get 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.560 just me. I guess I'm starting to get a little 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:33.600 more comfortable doing solo episodes. You know, I get very 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:37.440 comfortable being curious about the lives of others and things 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:41.240 that they have going on. And you know, my producers 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:43.640 every now and then they share with me. You know, 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:47.200 Michelle people, they're interesting in what you've got going on too. 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:53.040 So I'm excited about this week's episode. And again, I 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:58.560 appreciate y'all for always tuning in every week, downloading the episodes, y'all, 0:00:58.560 --> 0:01:02.840 that is so important. I could not be in another 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:09.200 season of Checking In. Now. By the time y'all hear 0:01:09.319 --> 0:01:15.520 this episode, I will be in Ireland. Yes, Ireland, I'll 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:17.959 be in Ireland. You're like, what's going on in Ireland. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:23.960 I'm filming something. I'm filming something pretty cool. Now. I'm 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:28.120 not sure why it's being filmed in Ireland, but that's 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:31.759 where I'll be literally by the time you get your 0:01:31.880 --> 0:01:36.040 ears to this episode. But I'm excited. Maybe i'll see 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:41.120 some relatives that are there yes, I have Irish family members. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:44.360 I won't go too much into details because I get 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:50.480 nervous about revealing certain names and all that stuff because 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:53.240 you know them security questions you have to go through 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:55.800 when you're trying to get into an account. Yeah, and 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.960 people are crazy folks, folks be they take notes of it, 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:02.200 almost everything you say. So that's why I don't do 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:05.680 those games on Facebook where it says, tell me the 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:07.880 street you grew up in when you were a child, 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:13.480 tell me Nope, because I think people we've taken that 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:18.720 data that we just so freely be thinking we're playing 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:20.800 a game and all along they trying to get the 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:24.320 answers to your security questions. But y'all go on, have fun. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:27.840 But again, I didn't mean to go down the rabbit hole. Basically, 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:31.480 what I'm saying is, yes, I do have Irish family members, 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:36.760 and I did. I did my ancestry. And the reason 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:39.040 why I know it is fact because some of my 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:44.720 ancestry came back with what do you call it? It 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:52.680 detected Irish ancestry all right, along with Nigerian and ghanad Okay, 0:02:53.440 --> 0:03:00.480 all right, cool, So I'm excited. Okay, these the past 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:07.600 few weeks have been absolutely amazing. I spoke at Dyllar University, 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:13.920 performed at the Las Vegas Raiders game. Not this past 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:18.360 Sunday that y'all just passed, but the last Sunday. I 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:21.320 was supposed to do that game a couple of weeks ago, 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.480 but I came down with the flu. Nope, it was 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.680 not COVID. We tested for COVID. It was not COVID. 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.720 It was just this flu that's running around, so I 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:33.240 could not. I was afraid that I would not be 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:36.480 able to perform at my best, so we rescheduled it 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.760 so I was able to do the Raiders game two 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:44.840 weeks ago. Then literally flew from Vegas to the Dominican Republic, 0:03:45.120 --> 0:03:49.080 which I shared in the last episode, and came back 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:53.360 from the Dominican Republic. And why do I feel like 0:03:53.680 --> 0:04:00.240 a few days after that was a Thanksgiving? I'm yeah, 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:05.360 so literally we got back from the Dominican Republic that 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:10.400 week and and then yeah, the following week was Thanksgiving. 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:16.680 So how did y'all holiday turn out? I know everybody 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:20.640 don't celebrated. How did your friends give me? Mine was 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:27.280 more like a friends giving. I hosted Thanksgiving for the 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:30.480 second time in my life. The first time I hosted 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.000 Thanksgiving was back home in Illinois, and when all my 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:39.080 family members left, there was a greasy, literally a palm print, 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:41.240 and I remember whose palm print it was. It was 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:46.320 my uncle, his greasy palm print on my walls. And 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:50.440 I said, I'm not hosting Thanksgiving again, even though that's 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:55.400 nothing that a magic eraser came scrub off or a 0:04:55.400 --> 0:05:00.240 little bit of you know, dishwashing, detergent, liquor whatever you 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:03.680 want to call him, a little microfiber cloth. But yeah, 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:08.919 so yeah, I just did a little gathering in my home, 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.400 got all the fixings, cooked a few little things the 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:16.800 night before. We did. I just we, you know, we 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:23.200 just did you know, the regular some crab stuff, doubled eggs, 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:31.320 some green some yams, some macaroni and cheese. Dressing. I did, y'all. 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:35.479 I cooked dressing for the first time in my life, 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:42.320 and it was off the chain. I used real buttermilk 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:47.320 corn bread, like, not the instant kind. I didn't use 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:50.279 my favorite kind. They shall go unnamed, but it's my 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.520 favorite kind. It's a sweeter type of corn bread. I 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:55.160 hope you're picking up what I'm putting down, but I 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.120 used a regular corn milk. You know, buttermilk corn meal, 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:02.000 and it was it was divine, was amazing. What else? 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:06.800 What else? What else? Some desserts we had pound cake, 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:16.320 pumpkin delight, and you guys already know pumpkin is acquired 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:20.760 taste for me. But it was good. It was really, 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:25.039 really really good. It was really good, Okay. And the 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.159 way that it was made, with the spices and everything 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:31.479 in it, I was like, okay, let me stop hating 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:35.159 on pumpkin. Let me stop hating on pumpkin. Okay. What 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:40.920 I'm trying to not talk about is the turkey. The 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:45.280 turkey was fabulous. It was a smaller turkey because I 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:50.120 wasn't expecting that many people. So I dried rined it 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:54.680 the night before and we spatch cocked it. Spatch Cocking 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:58.839 is when you you take the scissors or your whatever 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:01.279 your cutting device is or meat and you cut the 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:05.200 spine off and you kind of flattened the breasts up 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:08.760 in the front. Did that, and I think we should 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:12.840 have just stopped with the dry brine, or maybe we 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:17.080 did need to drive riding. I don't know, but we 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:20.360 injected it with some creole butter, like oh my gosh, 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:23.080 and just kind of seasoned it season the top a 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.480 little more because I was reading where it says you're 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:33.640 supposed to season the meat generously. Oh, it was smelling 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:38.640 so good, but it was a little salty. I think 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:43.880 all the brining and the injecting of the bird. Yeah, 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:46.440 what do y'all think? Tell me how you if you 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.520 roasted a turkey, what do you do? A lot of 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:51.680 people smoke their turkey, And one day I am going 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:56.600 to get a smoker because I do love smoked turkey 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:59.680 for sure. I loved I love how it tastes. I 0:07:59.720 --> 0:08:04.280 love smoked meat. It tastes really, really really good. And 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:09.120 then maybe we ate the leftovers for about a day 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:12.240 or two, and then, like Plice has said, you guys 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.400 have to watch his rules for Thanksgiving, it's time to 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:19.680 get rid of the Thanksgiving leftovers. Okay, I can imagine. 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:23.440 I wonder how much food poisoning. I wonder how many 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.880 people go to the emergency room for food poisoning around 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:33.480 the holidays, because maybe people don't clean properly, meaning your kitchen, 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:37.840 your utensils, and people don't maybe clean the neaed or 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:41.280 you know, I don't know. If samonella begins to form, 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:45.440 you tell me I don't know. I don't know now, 0:08:45.559 --> 0:08:51.040 I'm just not recovering kind of from Thanksgiving. I won't 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:55.160 go into details, but yeah, I believe I'm not supposed 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:59.160 to eat dairy. I got a feeling I probably have 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:03.080 to lay off of gluten. But I'm afraid to take 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:05.480 the test because I'm afraid it's gonna tell me that 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:11.200 everything that I love is bad for me. So we'll see, guys, 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:14.400 we'll see. I was excited about Thanksgiving, and I was 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:22.840 excited to tell y'all all about it. So Thanksgiving was Thursday, 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:29.000 spent the whole day chilling. Friday, Saturday morning, I took 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:34.800 an early flight to Los Angeles, checked in my room 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:39.439 at a few hours of downtime. Then Jason Bowling arrives 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:43.439 with all the goodies. He arrives with all the goodies. Yes, 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:48.840 I went to Los Angeles for Beyonce's Renaissance movie premiere, 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.640 and y'all heard me talking to my girl Noah Jones 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:55.559 a little bit about social anxiety. I think the pandemic. 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:58.640 We all got so cozy being in our homes, being 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:06.080 able to literally work virtually that now bigger events kind 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:10.439 of spooked me out. But this was with family so 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:14.160 and I know how to get in and get out. 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.520 I know where to sit. I know. I look at 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:23.160 the exit signs and I just planned my exit. Okay, 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:27.680 so yes, let's get back to about Jason Bolan arrived 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:32.280 at my hotel Saturday around it was before eleven am, 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:38.200 and just bags and bags. He had this this rack. 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:42.120 He wrote, this big old rack into my room. It 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:47.400 was so cool, him and Meek and his photographer Marcus. 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:51.959 So he pulls out all these clothes and you probably 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.520 can see some of some of the behind the scenes 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:57.920 on his page. Go to stylus j Bolan on Instagram 0:10:57.920 --> 0:11:00.840 and you can see some of the behind the scenes footage. 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:03.720 You know, Jason knows me to be a little safe. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:07.320 He does push me a little bit, but I didn't 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:11.240 know he was gonna push. Okay, what's the young man 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:13.840 on Instagram? Is he does? He go by a king push? 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:17.040 Let me see his page. I was like, it just 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:21.120 made me think of him because he did a he 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:27.360 did a fashion review. Is it what's the what's his name? Oh, 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:30.520 that's pushing tea. That's not y'all know what I'm talking about. 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:37.040 The young man. I feel horrible. He's absolutely hilarious. Yes, 0:11:37.200 --> 0:11:42.520 King's daily push. Okay, So Jason Bowling, he pushed me 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:45.839 a little bit. He pushed me to show a little 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:52.920 more than I personally like to show. So I was like, okay, okay, okay, okay, listen, y'all. 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:56.800 I do a lot. I do a lot in the 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.600 faith based world. Okay, I'll go ahead and say I 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:03.240 do a lot. And some people would call it ministry, right, 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:07.720 But yet the world knows me from the mainstream, right, 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:13.199 So it's balancing when to give it. But I also 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:16.640 have to balance, Okay, the realm of life that I'm 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:19.600 choosing to walk in, a realm that I believe that 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:23.840 I am divinely, I believe a realm that God is 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.360 pushing me to. Right, so I do kind of bow like, Man, 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:29.640 should I where this? Should I do that? Before it 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:32.760 was because I just didn't want to show my legs 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:35.960 because I didn't like my legs, right, But now sometimes 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.800 it's like, man, should I wear this? What are yes? Okay, 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.679 I'll say it. I'll be vulnerable. It is the what 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:45.640 are people going to say? I told Jason, I said, 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.000 I just don't want to look like I'm trying too hard. 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:50.280 You know what I mean? You ever see somebody on 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.640 the red carpet and you be like, what now you 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:57.080 know that? Ain't you? What are you doing? But I 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:01.120 don't know. Jason has something about him where I will 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:05.960 allow him to push me because I feel like he won't. 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:11.480 His intentions are different as it relates to me, and 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:17.080 he he knows what I do. So yeah, that's a 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:21.440 I just shared something with y'all, So please let's keep 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:24.520 this safe. You have any words of encouragement that you 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.000 want to send my way? Please do? I already know 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.760 a couple of y'all will, because weekly, you guys always 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.400 send me words of encouragement and I actually look forward 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:37.000 to some of the dms that I get from my babies. 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:41.880 So yeah, we do a fitting. We try out a 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:48.000 variety of things. Some outfits are more comfortable, and there 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:53.679 were three outfits and the one blue outfit. But I 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:56.360 didn't know if we were supposed to wear a lot 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:59.560 of color on the red carpet because the Renaissance tour, 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:03.200 especially the last wed in September when she asked everybody 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:06.040 to wear silver. You know, that was her birthday month, 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:08.880 and so I didn't know, you know, should we stick 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:13.440 in the silver category? Should we were black. You know, 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:18.880 black is always amazing. It's timeless, it's classic, it's chic. 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:22.800 You know. I love black, you know. And the dress 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:25.640 that we ultimately went with, I told Jason, I said, Jason, 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.400 I did a I did tool already. Tool is a 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.720 is a form of fabric. I believe it's spelled t 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.600 U l l E. I said Jason. I already wore 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:39.400 a black tool number at Miss Tina's gala a couple 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:41.120 of years ago. I don't and it was black. I 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.320 just don't think I should do that again. But what 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:48.760 people don't know we chose that dress too because Beyonce 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:55.560 and Kelly, they both have worn those structured shoulders. And 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:59.880 Beyonce wore I think almost two years in a row 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.360 to a Rock Nation brunching. So we have a little 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:08.320 inside joke about about that. And so I told her yesterday. 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:11.640 I told her why award and I thought that was 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:17.680 pretty cool. So it was basically tribute to her. Okay, 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:21.440 So that was that was a lot of fun. But y'all, 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:25.280 the tool was a lot. I was the back of 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:28.600 my shoe was getting caught in the fabric. I could 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.040 walk like maybe three steps, and then Jason would have 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:34.520 to come and untangle me, and sitting down in the 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:37.320 movie theater, I had to pick an aisle seat. I 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.000 had to sit on the end because I felt like, 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:42.280 I said, if I get up and have to go 0:15:42.320 --> 0:15:44.560 to the bathroom, I'm right on the end and I 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:47.080 don't have to try to crawl through a lot of people. 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:50.880 Tyler Perry was sitting a few seats down from me, 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.200 and he had to get up and use the bathroom, 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:56.760 and so before the movie started he literally said, Okay, 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:59.880 we got to come up with an exit plan. So 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.640 I was trying to figure out how it was, how 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.000 I would angle my body into seat, so when he 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:05.760 would have to get up to go to the bathroom, 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.440 he could, you know, we could try to figure it out, 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:11.760 you know. Then a couple of people other people had 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.640 to get up. I was like, Lord Jesus. So I 0:16:14.680 --> 0:16:17.040 was like, well, sitting on the end a good idea. 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:20.080 It was good technically for the dress, but I don't 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.080 know if I thought about it as far as because 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:26.600 other people having to get in and out, But it 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:34.320 seemingly was a moment. And I wear things because I 0:16:34.480 --> 0:16:38.400 like it. I personally have never put on an outfit 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:46.400 with the mindset. Oh, this is gonna eat the girls up. Oh, 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:51.080 this is gonna slay honey. Ooh four plus four, it's eight. 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:54.800 I'm eat. I'm going to eat. No, no, no no. 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.120 And that's the real truth. This is not false humility. 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:03.080 It's our some stuff I wear. You know that it's 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:07.960 pretty or I feel like it accentuates things, probably that 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:12.240 I want shared or to show. But apparently it was 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:18.639 a moment, and so I literally posted it before I 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:21.760 walked in the premiere, and we could not have our phones, 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:28.159 so I couldn't see any comments or anything till probably 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:32.560 almost four hours later, and I chose not to read them. 0:17:32.640 --> 0:17:34.920 I'm just now kind of reading a few. I chose 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:38.639 not to read any of the comments only because I 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.720 was scared. I didn't want to see anybody criticizing and 0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:47.040 like taking the air out of the room, so to speak. 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:50.679 I just and I've been doing that a lot lately. 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:54.240 It depends on what I'm posting. But sometimes my post 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:57.240 literally as I said what I said, and I'm walking away, 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.119 So in this moment, Most times when I post, I 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:05.119 do engage, you know, I'll like something or or i'll 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:11.760 respond to to something. But in this case, y'all. It's 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:17.000 hard to kind of peruse through. Let's see sixty seven 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:24.120 hundred comments, and I'm appreciative of it, but I was like, no, no, no, no, 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:28.040 you guys have at it. I could feel the love 0:18:28.600 --> 0:18:32.439 and so we'll see. I think the last time I 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:37.040 wore something like this similar with the legs kind of 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:44.439 out was the Super Bowl performance with be So that 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:48.520 was ten years ago, literally ten years ago. So the 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:51.240 running joke that I have with friends and family is 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:56.080 it's gonna be another ten years before y'all see my legs. 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:01.520 So take a screenshot, sketchet, do whatever you gotta do, 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:04.680 however you want to memorialize this moment because you might 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:08.000 not see it again. I'm just playing, I'm just playing. 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:11.879 We had a few good choices. Jason Bowling, my niece 0:19:11.960 --> 0:19:17.320 did my makeup, Carl did hair. The Glam team they 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:21.280 are LA based. Jason's assistant, her name is Tamika Smith. 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:26.840 She's amazing. So Jason the photographer and his assistant Meek, 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:31.520 they are all Dallas based. So it was a joy 0:19:32.080 --> 0:19:36.760 and it was very thoughtful that Jason decided to fly 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:39.200 to LA for that moment, and we got a couple 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:42.639 more moments coming up before the year is over, a 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:44.920 few appearances that I have to make, so I'm really 0:19:44.960 --> 0:19:52.920 excited about working with him some more. Okay, all right, 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:56.240 all right, I know y'all want to know, you know, what, 0:19:56.560 --> 0:20:01.200 can I tell y'all about the movie? Did my thoughts 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:05.000 about it? But literally every day this week, I'm it's 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:09.040 just I'm gonna be processing every moment. I've been told 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:12.920 I'm a slow processor, meaning I can be in discussion 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:16.720 with someone, I could read something, or i can watch 0:20:16.800 --> 0:20:19.359 something on television and it takes me a while to 0:20:19.440 --> 0:20:24.760 process it. So I told you, guys, be initial what 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:28.399 I initially processed, which is something consistent that I've said 0:20:28.640 --> 0:20:31.480 maybe a couple of years in a row. Now I've 0:20:31.520 --> 0:20:34.240 heard her say I can't recall if it was the 0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:38.280 Coachella when we were in rehearsals. I can't recall. And 0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:42.399 of course you're always going to have someone at you 0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:46.920 could be getting your hair done, you could, or you're 0:20:47.560 --> 0:20:50.920 doing something creative and you tell somebody I want this, 0:20:53.160 --> 0:20:58.160 and some people's response is well, I don't know if 0:20:58.160 --> 0:21:00.680 you can do that because I've never seen it before, 0:21:01.440 --> 0:21:04.520 or that it's very hard to attain. It's very hard 0:21:04.520 --> 0:21:08.800 to get, or this item is on back order, or 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:11.520 for her, it could be this lighting cue is just 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:14.040 it's too difficult to do. We would have to go 0:21:14.080 --> 0:21:17.920 back and reprogram the entire show. And if it's something 0:21:18.000 --> 0:21:22.320 she wants, she's she will probably say reprogram the shop. 0:21:23.400 --> 0:21:25.639 And we don't mean that from a diva standpoint, but 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:28.760 it's kind of like, I know it can be done, 0:21:29.160 --> 0:21:33.520 and I apologize that if it's an inconvenience to you. 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:38.600 So it's almost you could be sitting in that hair salon, 0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:42.960 you know, to get your hair done, and you decide, 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:47.400 maybe at the last minute, that you want a couple 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:51.920 of highlights. Well you know, I fine, highlights. I'm gonna 0:21:51.960 --> 0:21:53.480 have to mix the bleach. It's gonna be a little 0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:55.399 extra time. I'm like, well you get bad, ain't you 0:21:55.680 --> 0:21:57.960 get a little more body? I'm sorry, it's a little inconvenience. 0:21:58.359 --> 0:22:01.200 Now it depends this might that might be apples and oranges, 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:04.840 because I don't know. But people will always try to 0:22:04.880 --> 0:22:09.000 tell you why something can't be done. Very seldom do 0:22:09.040 --> 0:22:11.879 you run into people that say, Okay, this is a 0:22:11.960 --> 0:22:16.720 last minute request, but let me figure out how this 0:22:16.760 --> 0:22:19.440 can be done. At this point, when you've been working 0:22:19.480 --> 0:22:22.280 with somebody long enough, you already know they're gonna come 0:22:22.320 --> 0:22:25.960 with changes, they're gonna or they might like something last 0:22:26.040 --> 0:22:29.040 week and then this week they're like, no, I'm not 0:22:29.080 --> 0:22:32.919 feeling that. It just doesn't resonate with the story that 0:22:33.000 --> 0:22:36.679 I'm trying to tell. And as creatives, you have to 0:22:36.720 --> 0:22:38.679 know that that's okay. You have to know that it 0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:41.080 is okay to change your mind. Even if you're not 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:45.480 in the creative field, the field of entertainment, it's okay 0:22:45.480 --> 0:22:49.800 to change your mind, you know. So, I really really 0:22:49.840 --> 0:22:56.919 really like that being shown in this film as well. 0:22:57.560 --> 0:23:01.200 It had been a couple of years in the process. 0:23:01.240 --> 0:23:03.800 I won't give you an exact number of years because 0:23:03.840 --> 0:23:06.280 she says it in the movie, but she's been working 0:23:06.280 --> 0:23:11.520 on this show for a while, and you'll see a 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:16.000 lot of amazing, amazing moments. I don't want to give 0:23:16.000 --> 0:23:18.520 too much away, but I believe when you see it 0:23:18.640 --> 0:23:21.960 will all make sense. If it does not convict you 0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:26.800 or inspire you, you might want to check your pulse. 0:23:27.800 --> 0:23:31.080 The reason why I say that, as I stayedd yesterday, 0:23:31.640 --> 0:23:34.320 I know a lot of people are exhausted and you're tired. 0:23:34.400 --> 0:23:38.400 You're like I'm doing everything. You know, when I come 0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:41.000 home from work, I got to take care of my family. 0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:43.760 You know, when I leave this house, I got to 0:23:43.800 --> 0:23:45.919 put on my executive had, I got to put on 0:23:46.000 --> 0:23:48.320 the boss hat. I've got to put on the student hat. 0:23:48.760 --> 0:23:55.360 And you're literally not alone. So I hope that when 0:23:55.400 --> 0:24:00.080 you see what other people are doing, that it inspires 0:23:59.920 --> 0:24:04.080 you to resurrect some dreams that you have probably put 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:08.240 to the side. I saw someone tell me yesterday, well, 0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:12.200 of course, whatever she dreams, she can make it happen. 0:24:12.880 --> 0:24:16.600 That's what you do when you're rich. And I understand 0:24:16.600 --> 0:24:18.720 when you're just when you are discouraged and you feel 0:24:18.720 --> 0:24:21.720 like nothing is going your way, that's your default answer. Well, 0:24:21.720 --> 0:24:24.520 when you got money, you can, you can make stuff happen. 0:24:25.119 --> 0:24:29.680 Destiny's child didn't always have money, Beyonce, that you'll see 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:32.000 in the movie, and she states it over and over, 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:38.159 Miss Tina. They had to make stuff by hand because 0:24:38.359 --> 0:24:42.639 fashion houses wouldn't style a group of four girls, a 0:24:42.680 --> 0:24:45.480 group of four black girls. Heck, when I got in 0:24:45.480 --> 0:24:48.720 the group and when it became three, you know, it 0:24:48.880 --> 0:24:53.240 was it was getting tough for fashion houses to style 0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:58.760 three people. So what I'm trying to say is when 0:24:58.760 --> 0:25:03.960 you watch the growth trajectory of somebody, you got to 0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:06.880 know they didn't always have the money, meaning they didn't 0:25:06.880 --> 0:25:11.160 always have a budget. She's where she is because of 0:25:11.280 --> 0:25:15.159 knowing how to work with what you got. So I 0:25:15.200 --> 0:25:20.440 would kind of refrain from using letting that be a default. Well, 0:25:20.440 --> 0:25:22.000 of course you'll be able to do something you can 0:25:22.040 --> 0:25:25.000 afford to do it. Well, everybody couldn't know. The reason 0:25:25.040 --> 0:25:27.920 why someone is able to afford to do something now 0:25:28.119 --> 0:25:32.080 is because they learned to work with nothing prior. So 0:25:32.160 --> 0:25:37.600 your hard work, your determination, your consistency, literally keeping your 0:25:37.640 --> 0:25:41.919 head down, not worrying about what the naysayers are going 0:25:42.000 --> 0:25:46.399 to say. I believe that that continues to keep people 0:25:46.520 --> 0:25:51.119 further along and excelling. So I said what I said, 0:25:52.359 --> 0:25:56.520 and I'm want to stick to it. There are many 0:25:56.640 --> 0:26:00.800 people who have made it. I tell you all the 0:26:00.840 --> 0:26:04.080 story about when we went to the Dominican Republic and 0:26:04.119 --> 0:26:07.159 one of the kids who one of the adults, who 0:26:07.320 --> 0:26:12.880 is a former Compassion sponsored child, grew up in poverty, 0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:18.560 no running water, no bed, no food, but ended up 0:26:18.560 --> 0:26:21.080 being the top neural surgeon, one of the top neural 0:26:21.119 --> 0:26:26.920 surgeons in the Dominican Republic. So we can't always use 0:26:26.960 --> 0:26:30.879 that excuse well I didn't have, Well, so and so 0:26:31.040 --> 0:26:33.240 is only where they are today because they got money. 0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:38.639 A lot of people literally start from zero, start from nothing. 0:26:39.080 --> 0:26:45.159 But again, I looked at that comment with compassion and 0:26:45.200 --> 0:26:49.600 empathy because I'm like, this is probably someone who is discouraged, 0:26:50.400 --> 0:26:53.200 who feels like maybe things that they put their hand 0:26:53.280 --> 0:26:56.040 to fail. I hope to God you're just not a 0:26:56.040 --> 0:26:59.240 bitter person and you just versus man, I wonder if 0:26:59.240 --> 0:27:02.760 this person is just discouraged. So I pray for that person. 0:27:02.840 --> 0:27:07.520 It's like, man, you know, I hope they whatever it 0:27:07.600 --> 0:27:09.320 is that they've been wanting to do, that they are 0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:14.199 able to do it. And so I definitely definitely felt inspired. 0:27:14.560 --> 0:27:18.399 There's one other word that I have that I'll discuss 0:27:19.000 --> 0:27:21.760 probably on the next episode. I'm trying to process it. 0:27:22.200 --> 0:27:24.040