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Speaker 1: The Nicki Gliser Podcastick Glaser, here's Nikki. Hello here, I

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Speaker 1: am welcome to the show. It's the Nicky Glazer Podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm in Saint Louis, Missouri. Guess who's here in studio

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Speaker 1: with me?

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Speaker 2: It's me, I guess.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I wanted you.

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Speaker 1: To get where you were. Brian Frandie is here in

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis in studio. He was here this weekend working

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Speaker 1: at a local comedy club opening for Adam Conover from

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Speaker 1: Adam Muron's Everything.

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Speaker 3: How was that of weekend of shows?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Great weekend of shows? Said a great time.

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Speaker 3: You hadn't been stand up in a really long time.

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Speaker 2: Well, the last time I did like a weekend was

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Speaker 2: in was right before my wedding, and I realized that's

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Speaker 2: a long time. Totally forgot about that. Yeah, Chris said

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Speaker 2: something pretty funny because Chris and Tim came out to

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Speaker 2: see the first night of shows.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna go, but I was tired.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's what I heard.

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Speaker 1: No offense, but I would have liked to see you

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Speaker 1: and then leave, But then I would have had to

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Speaker 1: say for Adam. It's not that I don't want to

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Speaker 1: see Adam, but I.

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Speaker 2: Just didn't I thought you were out of town.

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Speaker 1: I got back in town like an hour before, and

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Speaker 1: I was so exhausted, but I did want to see you,

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Speaker 1: but I thought it would be rude if I.

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Speaker 3: Left right after you.

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Speaker 2: Sure, sure, and not safe for Adam. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So I just missed everything. You you missed everything, but

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Speaker 1: I heard you were so good.

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Speaker 2: I did a great job. Chris said something that really

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Speaker 2: struck me on the on the ride home, because I

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Speaker 2: was like talking about, like, you know, getting the rust

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Speaker 2: off and stuff, and and he was like, it's really

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Speaker 2: hard to be funny like twice a year. And I

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Speaker 2: was like, yeah, you know that's right, because I'm like,

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Speaker 2: how do I get better at this? How do I

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Speaker 2: get better at stand up? And it was like, well,

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Speaker 2: you gotta. It's hard to do it just twice a

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Speaker 2: year and then and it's not like I'm only doing

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Speaker 2: it twice a year, but like, you know, I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't. It's not my priority.

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Speaker 1: No, it's it's yeah, it's that's is the truth. When

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Speaker 1: people dabble in it. You can dabble all you want,

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Speaker 1: but don't expect to see results.

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Speaker 2: No, it's like working out, it's like.

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Speaker 3: Singing, it's like playing guitar.

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Speaker 1: I'm not like, I can't be mad at myself for

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Speaker 1: being a shitty guitar player when I play twice a month. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just it's I'm never going to grow from that.

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Speaker 1: But it was a good week of shows. You by

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Speaker 1: the end of the week, I but you felt strong

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Speaker 1: because I felt very strong.

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Speaker 2: I was doing all that. I was like doing bicep

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Speaker 2: curls all weekend, and by the end I was like,

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Speaker 2: I can lift a good amount.

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Speaker 3: Stayed at Chris's place.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I stayed at Chris's old place, his.

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Speaker 1: Old place that he doesn't live in anymore. But he's

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Speaker 1: like fixing up to maybe rent something, which.

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Speaker 2: Is the second time I've stayed there without nice. It's

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Speaker 2: very nice.

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Speaker 3: You stay there longer more than I have.

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Speaker 2: I've been there, I've slept, and Chris's more than you have.

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Speaker 3: I really, you really have home.

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Speaker 4: It's a very classy joint because one time I was

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Speaker 4: on Zoom with Chris and I saw the background and

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Speaker 4: I was like is that I was like, is that

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Speaker 4: your real background or is that a photo? And He's like,

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Speaker 4: oh no, that's my real background.

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Speaker 3: It's so nice.

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Speaker 5: He redid his whole kitchen. Yes, and it's a dream kitchen.

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Speaker 5: It looks like the Zoom kitchen background. It's that good exactly.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's very handy.

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Speaker 5: You got in there like it's a It's an expensive

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Speaker 5: ticket to get into the Convy House. I don't know

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Speaker 5: that many people that have been in there.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, he doesn't have many guests over.

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Speaker 2: Oh really well, I feel very special and Chris is

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Speaker 2: like the ultimate host there is. There could not be

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Speaker 2: a better host. When I arrived at the house, there

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Speaker 2: was like craft services set up in the kitchen, I know,

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Speaker 2: with all of my favorite snacks.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, this is what he does.

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Speaker 2: It was absurd.

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Speaker 1: You think he might just do that because you're his girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: but then you find out, no, he doesn't for anyone

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Speaker 3: He is he is. He's just someone. I was telling

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Speaker 1: This weekend because I was hanging out with my dad

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Speaker 1: and we were talking about my relationship, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: he just he'll do and this man will do anything

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Speaker 1: for me anything if I were to ask him, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, like if I'm in Dallas and he's here

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I forgot my charger, he would overnight.

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Speaker 3: He would overnight. He wouldn't go just get a new charger.

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Speaker 1: He'd be like, obviously wants her charger, and I'm going

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Speaker 1: to overnight it tomorrow first thing in the morning to

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Speaker 1: go to the like he goes above and beyond he does,

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Speaker 1: which we used to call having anal sex when when for.

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Speaker 3: Some reason we would always say not about that girl.

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Speaker 1: Really, I think we watched a porn once where the

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Speaker 1: girl went the extra mile and it was having anal

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Speaker 1: And so whenever I hear that, now.

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Speaker 5: That should be the phrase for all, like for the world.

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Speaker 5: Everyone should say I went the extra mile last night. Yes,

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Speaker 5: like that should be the euphemism.

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Speaker 3: The Hershey Highway.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's already Hershey Highway and they have mile workers.

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Speaker 1: But uh yeah we And and then last night, I

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Speaker 1: won't go into too many details, but Chris uh hung

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Speaker 1: out with Bill Maher because he was in town and

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Speaker 1: I wasn't. But they went out on the town hob

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Speaker 1: nobbin and had a boys night. Yeah, yeah, they And

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Speaker 1: yeah I'll tell that story at some point if I

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Speaker 1: have permission to do so. But they went out on

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Speaker 1: the town. They went on the wrong side of town,

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Speaker 1: if you know what I'm saying. They went out and

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Speaker 1: that just makes me so happy.

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Speaker 2: Figure out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean now it sounds like they went cruising

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Speaker 1: for hookers, which you know in many ways, the place

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Speaker 1: they went is where you would go if you wanted to.

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Speaker 2: Let's just put it this way. They spent a lot

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Speaker 2: of money.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I wonder how much he did spend, because I

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Speaker 1: will say that when my boyfriend has been an establishment

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Speaker 1: like this before.

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Speaker 3: A year ago on his birthday, when I surprised.

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Speaker 1: Him, he did greet me at the door with a

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Speaker 1: handshake when he didn't know that I wasn't a lady

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Speaker 1: of the night.

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Speaker 2: That's the most incredible story I maybe ever heard.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you hadn't heard it on the podcast I told

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Speaker 3: you just in person.

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Speaker 2: Way, Yeah, recently. I could not believe that.

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Speaker 1: It is one of my best stories ever, is that

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Speaker 1: I did that. People do think I'm a pretty cool

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Speaker 1: check for doing that. It's like kind of one of

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Speaker 1: my things where I go, Okay, that and putting a

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Speaker 1: gummy worm in my vagina one time because I knew

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend was gonna finger me when he picked me

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Speaker 1: up from the airport and that was his favorite snack.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, different Chris would not be entertained by that.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to hear about that. That would not

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Speaker 1: he would go Clays, what the hell, because I do

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Speaker 1: some gross stuff with him sometimes, But that would have

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Speaker 1: that wouldn't have turned him on at all.

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Speaker 5: He's like, these are from my craft services trade.

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Speaker 1: He uh, yeah, he's a good he's a goodie. And

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Speaker 1: he's in the other room watching football right now.

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Speaker 3: When do you do this?

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Speaker 2: He's keeping track.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're on your way out. I'm I just

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Speaker 1: got in. I I flew from Calgary this morning. Calgary

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Speaker 1: I did go through Minneapolis. I woke up at four

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Speaker 1: and then I landed at two pm Central time.

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Speaker 3: So that's a good that's all over the places.

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Speaker 1: An eleven yeah, ten hour, nine hours something like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was all over.

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Speaker 2: And you do like one show in one city one night,

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Speaker 1: Which is like not the way it used to be,

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Speaker 1: because it used to be clubs. You just stay in

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Speaker 1: the same place all weekend. And I used to always

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Speaker 1: go like, man, I can't wait. Actually I never said that.

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Speaker 1: I never have wanted more than.

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Speaker 3: What I have.

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Speaker 1: I always am kind of happy with what I have.

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Speaker 1: I've never been like I can't wait to play theaters.

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Speaker 1: I knew it was coming, but I wasn't like chomping

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Speaker 1: but I've never really had this attitude about clubs. I

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Speaker 3: I will be back in clubs because it's the way

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Speaker 1: In fact, I'm going to be back at clubs this tour.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to do some clubs. I'm doing the Brella

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Speaker 1: Improv where Brian will be opening for me. Forget the

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Speaker 1: dates on that.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember December fourth or something.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Brian Improv. That's going to be so fun to

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Speaker 1: be back in a club. And then I just found

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Speaker 1: out I'm doing the Tempe Improv November sixteenth and seventeenth.

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Speaker 1: I was supposed to be in Vegas those dates, but

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Speaker 1: they got canceled because of the F one races. So

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Speaker 1: Tempe Improv on those dates.

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Speaker 3: So no one tee.

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Speaker 2: That's the other place. That's the other place I did

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Speaker 2: comedy this year in Tempee at the Tempe Improv.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I love the name Tempe.

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Speaker 2: Tempe is great.

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Speaker 3: It's such a cute name.

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Speaker 2: Sun Devils.

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Speaker 3: And then yeah, so I was we were all over

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Speaker 3: the place.

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Speaker 1: Annie was with me open for me in Where were

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Speaker 1: we Prier Lake, Minnesota, which is like thirty minutes away

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Speaker 1: from Minneapolis, or at least the airport, but it was

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Speaker 1: a it was.

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Speaker 3: A casino called the Mystic Lake Casino.

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Speaker 5: One of those cities where you just go Minnesota.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't say Prior Lake, Minnesota, Like, no, everyone

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Speaker 1: would be like, Prior Lake, this is just a reservation

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Speaker 1: that none of us know the name of. Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: was nice that was sold out show. Thank you to

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Speaker 1: everyone for coming out to that. That was felt really

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Speaker 1: me and do stand up and uh it was awesome.

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Speaker 1: That was and they had like I like when I

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad that scientists figured that out. You know,

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Speaker 1: I pea will smell exactly like almond milk. Though when

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Speaker 2: A lot of almond milk is just like carriagene and

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Speaker 2: You can make your own.

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Speaker 2: Two questions. One is, how do you say the fluffy

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Speaker 3: And then I think no one might say pellow.

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Speaker 2: You say, you seem like a person that says pillow.

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Speaker 2: And then and then you have almond blank the stuff

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Speaker 3: Just kidding, milk.

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Speaker 2: I don't people say milk.

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Speaker 5: Atrocity, yeah, a criminal offense.

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Speaker 5: I've been dancing that one that you say, weird?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? You say, wait, spell it v E g A s.

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Speaker 1: I've struggled this with this one forever, but I say it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Vegas.

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Speaker 5: It sounds like it.

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Speaker 3: Should be Vegas. Yeah, I like Vegas.

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Speaker 1: So I got called on that years ago, and then

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Speaker 5: I guess she pronounces this part of Los Angeles l

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Sorry? Oh well, uh, I've been I've been called out

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Speaker 5: Everyone in La says los felis, which is los felis.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's how you're supposed to say it.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not.

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Speaker 2: I forgot what this man told me, but he yelled

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Speaker 3: I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's like felice means happy in Spanish, and

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Speaker 2: that's felice, like the song, but the name.

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Speaker 1: When you go there, no one's smiling. Everyone's too cool

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Speaker 5: Would you asparagus pea? If I would you get drunk

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Speaker 3: You okay? Because I don't think.

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Speaker 1: It's like smells like shit, you know, it just smells

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Speaker 1: like kind of acidic or what. It's probably gonna smell funky,

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 3: No, it doesn't like gray.

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Speaker 5: Oh, it smells like BV as well.

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Speaker 1: It smells se BV makes me sick.

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Speaker 3: That fish smell.

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Speaker 1: Smell sell your own, then you can be able to

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Speaker 1: this would be determining because I ate probably forty stalks

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Speaker 3: You know, Chris might have smelled it from the next

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Speaker 2: I could eat like a half of a half of

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Speaker 5: Really yeah, same me too.

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Speaker 3: Okay, this is a great thing.

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Speaker 5: That Brian brings up. We should smell each other's pee,

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Speaker 5: like maybe it's genetic to us, Like maybe I can't

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Speaker 1: No, because no, you can smell it on everyone. I

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Speaker 1: think if you can smell it, but some people don't

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Speaker 2: I think this reminds me of something like when I

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Speaker 2: like you suggest saying that we should all smell each

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Speaker 3: I was just gonna say that on you.

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Speaker 2: I think that's what we used to do before we forget.

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Speaker 2: was like, you should come out here. There's someone who

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Speaker 2: came to see you. Yay. And I was so flattered

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Speaker 3: That's so sweet.

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Speaker 2: I came out and she was there and she's like,

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Speaker 2: I'm a bestie and I was like, are you kidding me?

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Speaker 2: You came here to see me? Are you kidding?

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Speaker 1: And she was like, yeah, I came to see tell

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Speaker 2: Oh well, I'm not that tall.

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Speaker 3: Well, you're six foot.

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Speaker 2: Five eleven and a half. I never made it to six.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well you come off tall like Anya and Noah

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Speaker 1: They thought you were five eight.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, wait, you thought he was like five to four.

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Speaker 4: I thought he was tiny, though he was a tiny

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Speaker 4: Let's go through our heights because people don't know. I'm

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Speaker 4: five nine, Brian, you're five eleven and a half. Anya's

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Speaker 5: Brian. You've never met me, So what do I project? Like?

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Speaker 5: What am I presenting?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Survey?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you seem like a tall thin like you. You

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Speaker 2: shocked if you were five nine, not at all. Actually,

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Speaker 2: I think Nicky is much taller. I always thought Nikki

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Speaker 5: Ye, nick five eleven, you read.

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Speaker 2: Like you could play basketball.

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Speaker 3: Usually people say you're much taller than I thought.

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Speaker 1: But then recently I've been getting you seem taller on TV,

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Speaker 3: Interesting. I want to be five to ten, just like

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Speaker 3: Taylor Swift.

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Speaker 5: I just have to say, but I've met Noah. I've

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Speaker 5: seen Noah in the.

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Speaker 4: Brian, what do you think my height is?

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Speaker 2: I think, I mean, I do believe you're short. That

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Speaker 2: based on even though I've never met you, I you've

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Speaker 2: you've seen your personality is that of a short person

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Speaker 2: comes short? Okay.

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't say, let's say you're a spinner like I

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Speaker 5: look at you and I'm like, she's a spinner like shorts.

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Speaker 5: It means like it's a thing guys say, like you

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Speaker 1: You can put them on your dick and then you

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Speaker 1: could just spin them around, spin them around.

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Speaker 5: Because you are that one that is a compliment.

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Speaker 3: I like it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my god, Yeah, because you're because Noah's incredibly nice.

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Speaker 2: And then she could also destroy you. And that's what

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Speaker 1: Like, Yes, how tall are you? Noah five three? By

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Speaker 5: Three, I'm probably like three yes are you shureing?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god? If I if you were to ask

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Speaker 5: The height is okays, this makes me happy because that

448
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Speaker 5: means I'm cun to your sounding. And when I was

449
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Speaker 5: on the radio for you know, as a DJ, I

450
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Speaker 5: would meet people all the time in San Diego. It

451
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Speaker 5: would be like, oh my god, no offense. And this

452
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Speaker 5: is such a weird piece of feedback. I thought you

453
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Speaker 5: were like a bigger brunette.

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Speaker 1: What does that?

455
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Speaker 5: One hundred percent of the people that would say I

456
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Speaker 5: thought you looked different?

457
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Speaker 3: What it is all said to.

458
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Speaker 1: Meet bigger brunettio radio people's voices. I mean, now we

459
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Speaker 1: can kind of see everyone because of social media, but

460
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Speaker 1: like back.

461
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Speaker 3: In the day the radio, I fell in love what

462
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Speaker 3: the fuck? And then you matter?

463
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Speaker 2: I felt there was a back years and years ago.

464
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Speaker 2: I was listening to some random podcast off of MPR

465
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Speaker 2: or something and the person's voice was like, I think

466
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Speaker 2: I need to meet this person that I'm in love

467
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Speaker 2: with this person Yeah, And then I did wind up

468
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Speaker 2: seeing a picture of them and I was like, I

469
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Speaker 2: don't need to meet them. Yeah, I don't think I

470
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Speaker 2: need to meet them. Actually, I know. It was disappointing

471
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Speaker 2: to me because I'm like, now I know the face,

472
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Speaker 2: the voice, and it would be nice if I just

473
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Speaker 2: imagined whatever I wanted, yes with the voice, yes, But

474
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Speaker 2: can I just say it really quickly? Her name was

475
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Speaker 2: Jessica h. That was the best dude that came to

476
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Speaker 2: the show, so shout out to Jessica h shout out.

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Speaker 1: To Natalie and Maddie and Alan, who are the names

478
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Speaker 1: of the besties who I met last night or maybe

479
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Speaker 1: the night before too, and who and there were some

480
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Speaker 1: other besties who gave me present and stuff, like so

481
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Speaker 1: many came out and gave me cards and a little

482
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Speaker 1: picture frame and so many nice things. And we just

483
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Speaker 1: love it so much, So thank you so much for

484
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Speaker 1: doing this.

485
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Speaker 5: You aara bestie, and you're trying to do the thing

486
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Speaker 5: where you get into the show for free, and you've

487
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,840
Speaker 5: come alone and all that. Don't wait. If there's a

488
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Speaker 5: long line in front of me and you're waiting to

489
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Speaker 5: be polite, just cut ahead of the line and just

490
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Speaker 5: quickly be like, Anya, can I get into the show

491
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Speaker 5: really quick? I came along. Yeah, there were one of things,

492
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Speaker 5: yesdies that were waiting in a very long line that

493
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Speaker 5: almost missed the meat and grace. So just just do that,

494
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Speaker 5: promise you it'll be fine.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's that's good. Thanks Anya for saying that. All Right,

496
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Speaker 3: we gotta go to break. We'll be back with more

497
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Speaker 3: for this. All right, we're back.

498
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Speaker 1: There is a new Nikki pod memes that just came

499
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Speaker 1: up whoever does that, thank you so much.

500
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:46,760
Speaker 3: We love it.

501
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:50,200
Speaker 1: And this one is like a drawing of a man

502
00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:52,119
Speaker 1: and there are three different ones, and it says headache

503
00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:53,879
Speaker 1: and his like a head, his head has like a

504
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,280
Speaker 1: red spot on it stomach ache, and then there's like

505
00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:58,399
Speaker 1: red where his stomach is, and then Brian is just

506
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Speaker 1: the whole man is red? It is?

507
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Speaker 3: Where does it hurt?

508
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:04,719
Speaker 2: I just can't wait until that's not true.

509
00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:08,240
Speaker 3: I know, yeah one day, what are you at today?

510
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 2: Oh bad? It's been really yeah, but I do want

511
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:14,920
Speaker 2: to say, never tell us who you are, Niki pod

512
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,360
Speaker 2: Memes creator like, it's just like the voice. We don't

513
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Speaker 2: want to know what you look like. We don't want

514
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 2: to see your face. We don't want to know who

515
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Speaker 2: you actually are. We just want to imagine. I have

516
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Speaker 2: ten You might you feel like a person who's five

517
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Speaker 2: to ten, but we just want to imagine you. The

518
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Speaker 2: perfect version of you is in each of our heads

519
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Speaker 2: as a different thing. So you're going to disappoint one

520
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Speaker 2: of us if you reveal your identity.

521
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Speaker 1: I never get worried about Nikki pod Memes of doing

522
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 1: of making me upset or offending me. Yeah, and I

523
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Speaker 1: feel really safe with it. Because I don't think many

524
00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: meme accounts would make me feel safe. It's like when

525
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Speaker 1: someone does an impression of you where you're like, Okay,

526
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Speaker 1: I can't wait for this, but you're just like waiting

527
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Speaker 1: for something really offensive to happen. So Nikki Pod means

528
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Speaker 1: you never disappoint me. I'm never like what's this going

529
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Speaker 1: to be? It always makes you feel good. There was

530
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Speaker 1: one meme you did once where Chris saw it and

531
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Speaker 1: was like, will you explain this to me? To me

532
00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 1: because it was like it was something about Chris going

533
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Speaker 1: on like some expedition and then me pulling up Tinder

534
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 1: because I had made the joke like if he dies

535
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 1: doing something like okay, babe, go like scale mountaintops, but

536
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna like go get back on Rya. Yes, And

537
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 1: so once I explained it, he was fine, but he

538
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Speaker 1: was like, you want to tell me what this means.

539
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Speaker 3: I kind of liked it because I was like, are

540
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Speaker 3: you scared to lose me?

541
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Speaker 1: Sometimes you want to feel a little jolt of like

542
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Speaker 1: your partners, a little territorial.

543
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Speaker 2: Of course, it feels nice, spark.

544
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Speaker 1: Yeah, when they hit you, it means they love you.

545
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:44,159
Speaker 1: They're scared to lose you yeah, but yeah, it was

546
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Speaker 1: a fun weekend.

547
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Speaker 3: What if you think of any of your airport experience.

548
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Speaker 4: You said there was like a family there.

549
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, so there was like a family at

550
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Speaker 1: my gate today that I was at first it was

551
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Speaker 1: like a husband with the nanny and the kids, right,

552
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Speaker 1: And at first I was trying to clock if he

553
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Speaker 1: had a crush on the nanny, if they were like

554
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Speaker 1: flirting at all, and there was like some light flirting.

555
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Speaker 3: But it didn't bother me. I was like, I don't

556
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Speaker 3: think it could have just like flirting is very it's

557
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Speaker 3: there's there's.

558
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Speaker 1: A fine line, yeah, because he could have just been

559
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Speaker 1: being nice and she could be laughing at what he says.

560
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm painting this whole, Like I just

561
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Speaker 1: read this Esther Pearrell, you know, article about cheating and

562
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Speaker 1: how it doesn't mean that your marriage is unhealthy necessarily.

563
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Speaker 1: It's just a lot of people cheat just to find

564
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Speaker 1: another part of themselves or to like have a kind

565
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Speaker 1: of adventure, and it has nothing to do with your partner,

566
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 1: like not satisfying a part of you. Like there's nothing

567
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 1: they can do to like actually give you that thing

568
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Speaker 1: that they need, which is like I just need to

569
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 1: feel live for a little bit. I need a shoplift,

570
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: I need to do something wrong, I need to smoke

571
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 1: cigarettes behind the shop class or whatever. You know, like

572
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 1: you just want to feel bad and like there's nothing

573
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: your partner can do to like give you that. So

574
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Speaker 1: it's as it really has nothing to do with your partner.

575
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Speaker 1: So I liked this article that I read about it

576
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Speaker 1: because I'm interested, I think, And I posted on my

577
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Speaker 1: Instagram of this article called why happy People Cheat? Yeah,

578
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Speaker 1: And I thought it was interesting because it's just an

579
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: to me. It doesn't mean that I'm like I'm gonna cheat,

580
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 1: or I want Chris to cheat, or like I think

581
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: Chris is cheating, or I'm cheating. Like I don't want

582
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,959
Speaker 1: to be anyone to think that because I'm posting this,

583
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 1: I'm like in favor of cheating. I just like subject

584
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Speaker 1: matters that are taboo seemingly even though so many people

585
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: are doing them or it's happened so much. And I

586
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: was listening to a Dak Shepherd podcast with Esther Perell,

587
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:26,959
Speaker 1: and he said a really interesting thing, which is, like,

588
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Speaker 1: you know, we talk a lot about addiction on this show.

589
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Speaker 1: We talk a lot about eating disorders, and things like that.

590
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Speaker 1: But he's like, I think infidelity is the subject matter

591
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: out of all the things we talk about that are taboo,

592
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:42,560
Speaker 1: that affects more people than all of them. And I

593
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: thought that that was such a true statement that the

594
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Speaker 1: cheating people don't talk about it, but it's happening all

595
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Speaker 1: the time around us, and people don't have People can

596
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Speaker 1: quit and then never talk about it again. So it's

597
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Speaker 1: like it can be happening and never get addressed. It's

598
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Speaker 1: almost not like an addiction in terms of it's always

599
00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 1: gonna spiral out of control. Are kind of always on

600
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 1: a slippery slope. It's eventually you're going to reach a bottom,

601
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: like you can't do it forever. It's gonna like raise

602
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: some red flags. Cheating can happen, then go dorm, it

603
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 1: happen again, like little things pop up here and there

604
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: can be a one night stand and it happens all

605
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Speaker 1: the time. And I think, I think that's why I'm

606
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 1: drawn to it, is I'm fascinated by things that are

607
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 1: happening a ton and everyone's like, no, I would never

608
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Speaker 1: do that. No one in my family's ever cheated. We

609
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 1: never cheat. Cheating's the worst thing that you could ever do,

610
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: and it's like it's people equate it with like a

611
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Speaker 1: hit and run as how bad it is, or a murder,

612
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 1: and it's way more common. In fact, you're listening your

613
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Speaker 1: parents probably a stop sign. It's like, yes, thank you, Anya,

614
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 1: it is totally rolling a stop sign. And I think

615
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,919
Speaker 1: that the data around it is just you know, That's

616
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Speaker 1: why I like talking about molestation because this weekend Chris

617
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Speaker 1: was like, hey, if you're going to talk about this

618
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Speaker 1: and maybe give some stats on stage, because I say

619
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Speaker 1: one and four people were molested, but I don't even

620
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Speaker 1: know where I heard that. He was like, you should

621
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Speaker 1: probably look that up and like give the actual stats.

622
00:25:57,920 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 1: So I want to say the actual stat and this

623
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Speaker 1: is only self reported, sure, which so let's be honest

624
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 1: sexual abuse. Self reports are not telling the whole story

625
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,439
Speaker 1: because there's so much shame around it. But it is

626
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: even realized one in five women were molested before the

627
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: age of you know, eighteen, so like as children, one

628
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Speaker 1: in five and then one and twenty men, and I

629
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Speaker 1: would venture to guess that number for men is way

630
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Speaker 1: higher because women have a lot more, uh, we have

631
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Speaker 1: a lot more opportunity to talk about our sexual assaults

632
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 1: and it's it's less taboo for us to speak of

633
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: for getting sexual assaulted than men, So I would venture

634
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 1: to guess it's more like one in ten for men.

635
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 1: But anyway, so I was kind of hardy, had my

636
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 1: mind around like cheating or whatever. And so I'm watching

637
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: this like dad and he's taught. He's like, girls, do

638
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: you want to call your mom? Is two little girls

639
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 1: and this one little girl. I had just done the

640
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,880
Speaker 1: whordle and I had like failed really miserably at it.

641
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 1: It was like a bad one today. I like didn't

642
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 1: get it and I failed, and and five guesses couldn't

643
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: get it. And this little girl's probably like seven, and

644
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 1: I hear her like working out, and she's like, mom,

645
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 1: can I or maybe it wasn't it was a different

646
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 1: little girl because she asked her mom. So this is

647
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: a different family. Sorry, they were all kind of together.

648
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 1: She's like, mom, can I do the wordle? Or like

649
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 1: maybe do her babysitter?

650
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:11,439
Speaker 3: Can I do the wordle?

651
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: And she and that she pulls up the wordle and

652
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 1: on her iPad and the girl's going so it's either

653
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: binge binge, And I was like I wanted to go,

654
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: like it's bingeing, And I was like, how did I

655
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 1: not get binge?

656
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Speaker 3: That's like one the thing I think about doing all

657
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 3: the time. But this little girl got it.

658
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: And then she went over to dad and she was like, see, Dad,

659
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 1: it could either be this one or this one.

660
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Speaker 3: She was so smart.

661
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 1: I was like, this girl might save us from climate change,

662
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:37,399
Speaker 1: Like this is our future.

663
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 3: I kind of believe in and think, like seven.

664
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Speaker 2: Probably figure out binge.

665
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I knew the word binge. I was like wow.

666
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: So then because when she started the wordle, I was like,

667
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,399
Speaker 1: there's no way she's gonna get it. Now, you're too

668
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: young to understand the depths of that disorder. And then

669
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 1: I go, wait, there's lots of binging for like entertainment.

670
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 1: Maybe it's seeped in somehow. Now we use that word

671
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,159
Speaker 1: kind of, you know, for TV, and.

672
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 2: Maybe more young people are using that word because of

673
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 2: Netflix and stuff like that, and we just don't realize it.

674
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 2: Maybe it's more common. Maybe it's top of mind for her.

675
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I was thinking. It could be just.

676
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 2: Very yeah lucky. He's not gonna solve anything.

677
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 5: He's smarty.

678
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 3: But she was so cute.

679
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,479
Speaker 1: And I was watching this family and I was kind

680
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: of having the thing of like, oh God, I'm like

681
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 1: this older woman who's passed up on this opportunity. And

682
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 1: I'm like kind of looking at this family like, oh,

683
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: that could be me, and I could be helping my

684
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,120
Speaker 1: daughter like with the wordle and talking to her about

685
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 1: it like it seems kind of fun. And then and

686
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: then I saw the dad talking on the phone to

687
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: the mom. And the mom he first of all, he

688
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: answers the phone, he goes, he goes, he goes, hey,

689
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 1: or he didn't answer phone. He calls her, he goes,

690
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: I just want to ask you, when do do you

691
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: think our kids have ever been to the cheesecake factory?

692
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 1: You could tell she was like, what are you talking about, John?

693
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: And she he goes, no, it's a simple question, have

694
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 1: our kids been to the cheesecake factory? And then she's

695
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: again like what are you saying. He's like, Nope, it's

696
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: just one question with one answer. Have our children been

697
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: to the cheesecave? Faundery Now his children are a seven

698
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,719
Speaker 1: year old girl and a four year old boy, approximately

699
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: maybe five year old boy. And he goes, because they haven't,

700
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: they haven't. We were driving, we drove past one and

701
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: she asked, is there cheesecake in there?

702
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 3: And I go, what are you talking about? Is their

703
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 3: cheesecake in there?

704
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 1: So we took them for breakfast today and I was like, oh,

705
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: the nanny went with you to and it's like eleven

706
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: thirty and they're at their gate. I'm like, you went

707
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: to Cheesecave friundery like nine am. It was very confusing.

708
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 2: Flight.

709
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 3: Yeah.

710
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: So then I kind of like this guy's demeanor with

711
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: the mom though. He seemed like a funny dude. And

712
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: then at one point he says to the daughter, Reese

713
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: or whatever her name is, do you want to do

714
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 1: recycling club after school? Which is an adorable club, And

715
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,239
Speaker 1: I'm thinking this girl can save the world. Yes, you

716
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:45,959
Speaker 1: want to do recycling club after school?

717
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 3: And she goes. She looks up from her iPad and

718
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 3: she's like, yeah, yeah, I do.

719
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 2: I do.

720
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 3: I thought that was so cute that she's like, yeah,

721
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 3: I want to say it.

722
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: She goes after school yeah yeah, and so she goes, yes,

723
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: she does want to do it, and she goes, wait,

724
00:29:58,560 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: do waye dad, Dad?

725
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 3: Dad? Then who's gonna.

726
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: Pick up Owen? Owen needs someone to pick him up?

727
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: And he goes, no, don't don't worry. We've got it.

728
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 3: Like, but I was like, this is my daughter.

729
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: That's me always worried about like her little brother, but

730
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 1: who's gonna pick it? Like she's trying to figure out

731
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: older daughter symptoms of like trying to figure out the

732
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 1: whole thing, like worrying about all the puzzle pieces when

733
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 1: really your job is a seven year old do you

734
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: want to go to a recycling club or not? You

735
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 1: don't need to worry about who's gonna pick up.

736
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 5: Oh, we have swim practice on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

737
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 1: And I just was like, Oh, this girl is inn

738
00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 1: Like I just know what her life is going to

739
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: look like, always taking care of everyone else. I was like,

740
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: then I just just determined that one of her parents

741
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 1: is probably an alcoholic. I like, he has to figure

742
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: out owen's gonna get forgotten?

743
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 2: That happened once and then she never let that go

744
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 2: and now she's like every time there's an issue, I

745
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 2: need to be on top of it. Yeah.

746
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 1: Like I was obsessive about my sister being kidnapped because

747
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 1: I just thought my parents were a little too free

748
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 1: with her. Yeah, I had learned about kidnappers, and I

749
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: knew I wouldn't get kidnapped because I was smart and

750
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: vigilant and not that cute, and I knew my sister

751
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: was adorable and kind of like just toddling around and

752
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: would probably attract one and I was obsessed with it, obsessed,

753
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: and my parents didn't.

754
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 3: Care at all.

755
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 2: Doesn't that suck that in order to create that kid

756
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 2: that you're like, this could be my daughter. I would

757
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 2: love this kid. She had to go through some kind

758
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 2: of trauma to become that person. Yes, Otherwise she'd just be, yeah,

759
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: I'll do recyclor she would be like, no, I don't

760
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 2: want to do recycling club. She'd be like on her iPad,

761
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 2: not even look up when he spoke. Yep. But because

762
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 2: she's got an alcoholic parent, she's like a perfect child. Yeah.

763
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: Because they're at the cheesecake factory boozing it up. Yeah,

764
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: they can't believe they haven't brought their daughter to the

765
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 1: cheesecake p I am.

766
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 5: Well, they could be any kind of aholic, you know, maybe.

767
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: They That's what I mean, like exercise aholic. They have

768
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: some kind of addiction in their house, which.

769
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 2: Who the fuck does?

770
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 5: Right?

771
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:58,080
Speaker 3: Everyone does?

772
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 2: Well? What I want to know is what was the

773
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: why was the mom so hesitant to give up the

774
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 2: information of whether or not the children.

775
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: She was just like, why is my husband being so

776
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 1: cheeky right now? Like why did he not say hello?

777
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 1: And he just answered the phone with like he's just

778
00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 1: being this weird guy that he is, Like he was

779
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: trying to be funny, you know, Like I thought I

780
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: kind of liked their dynamic. It was almost like flirty,

781
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 1: like our kids haven't been to the cheesecake factory. And

782
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: then but then this is what I'm plugged by when

783
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 1: I do see young girls or young boys is like

784
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,959
Speaker 1: all I can think about. Almost all I can think

785
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: about is what you're saying exactly of like how much

786
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 1: they have to go through, Like they have to have

787
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 1: a first crush, They have to have someone make fun

788
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 1: of them. They have to worry about a test that

789
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: means literally nothing. They have to worry about college that

790
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: means literally nothing. They have to worry about. They have to,

791
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: you know, figure out what shoes go with what jeans,

792
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:55,959
Speaker 1: They have to like spin the bottle. They have to

793
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: study like what they're gonna do with their tongues when

794
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,480
Speaker 1: they make out. They have to like stay all night

795
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: thinking about that.

796
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:01,800
Speaker 3: They don't know.

797
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 1: They have to learn every lesson they have to learn.

798
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 1: They have to intern somewhere and not make any money.

799
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 3: It's life. But to go through it, I want it.

800
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:13,959
Speaker 3: I want to skip it.

801
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 2: No life sucks, say that is what we don't want

802
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: to go through life.

803
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: I saw a meme the other day that said, thank

804
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: God you only live once.

805
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 3: I can't do this shit again.

806
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 2: Ship.

807
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 1: When I get jealous of the youth, I always I

808
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: think that's maybe a defense mechanism because I have such

809
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: jealousy of young people and like, Wow, they get to

810
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,959
Speaker 1: do a whole life and they get to have all

811
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: the fun that I had as a kid. But then

812
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: I think about all the things that they like are

813
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 1: gonna go through.

814
00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 3: I just want to say that I have.

815
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: A memory, and this is maybe one of the reasons

816
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 1: I don't want to have kids, because my envy issues

817
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: are so exhaustive and so crippling to me. I'm not

818
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: joking you, and I probably reference on the pod before,

819
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: but I promise you I can now track it to

820
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 1: the day I said it.

821
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 3: I was in bed with my mom. It was after school.

822
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: We were probably watching like some kind of like daytime

823
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: TV show, fourth or fifth grade, third, fourth or fifth grade.

824
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 1: I'm guessing it was third because I remember being very

825
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 1: very young and my mom being like almost goffawing that

826
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: I said this, And I said to her, yeah, I've

827
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 1: said this before, I think, but I think this is

828
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: actually who I am. I said, because she's MYA says

829
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: something like, well, when you have kids, you'll do this,

830
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 1: and I go, I'm never gonna have kids. And she

831
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 1: was like why and I was like, because I'll be

832
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: jealous of them because they're younger than me.

833
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 2: Wow.

834
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 1: And she said what And I go, you're jealous of

835
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: me because I'm younger than you.

836
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: You have to be. How can you not be?

837
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm younger, I'm plucking tinier, I'm in third pop. I'm like,

838
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 1: I have like third or fourth grade. I just knew

839
00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: being young is the best.

840
00:34:59,160 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 3: How could you not?

841
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 5: No?

842
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: Everything in our society is about being young and youthful.

843
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: And I remember, and I just remember being like, mom,

844
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: are you jealous of me? And Laura and her going

845
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: why And the only reason I remember this is because

846
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: of her reaction being so crazy and her going why

847
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 1: would you ask.

848
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 3: Something like that? That's insane? No, I'm not. And I

849
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 3: remember being.

850
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 5: You're like, but look at my abs.

851
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember being I was tying, I was little telig. Yeah,

852
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: I had my whole life out of me. I already

853
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 1: heard her complaining about cellulite and wrinkles and things like that.

854
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: Like that's so, I honestly do think. I don't think

855
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: I would struggle with it because I think when you

856
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: have a kid, you're just like, this is my kid.

857
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 3: I'm not jealous of my kid. But we know that

858
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 3: there are moms who.

859
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 1: Are jealous of their kids, and they try to dress

860
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 1: like them, and they try to hang out with their kid.

861
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 3: You know, like heared, I would.

862
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:52,160
Speaker 2: Be jealous, absorb the youth from a child and steal

863
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 2: it from them. I would do it, vampire, I would

864
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 2: take their youth. Well, vampire, at least you give them

865
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 2: eternal life. But if I could, if I could just

866
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 2: take the youth and then and then I have their

867
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 2: youth and then they fade away, Yes, I don't. I couldn't,

868
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,919
Speaker 2: especially when I'm in my eighties or something. I don't

869
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: know if I could say no to that, I don't.

870
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 1: I mean, they're gonna yeah, yeah, where does that come from?

871
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,800
Speaker 2: It's like an episode of Charmed, Like there's like a

872
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 2: demon can suck the youth out of somebody and then

873
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 2: they turn to an old person. Yes, and then you're

874
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 2: young and you're beautiful.

875
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 4: One time I was in a cab in Los Angeles

876
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,840
Speaker 4: going to the airport, and the lady that was driving

877
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 4: me was telling me that there's like an underground in

878
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:37,360
Speaker 4: Hollywood that has all of that.

879
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 1: So no ever of young Like when you see young

880
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 1: girl girls and kids, do you ever get jealous of

881
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 1: all the fun they get to like have in their

882
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: life that you have already said goodbye to.

883
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 5: I get jealous of you and your high school girlfriends

884
00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 5: and your high school experience because it sounds.

885
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: I think that's maybe why I struggle with it is

886
00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: because I had so much fun in my childhood. I

887
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:03,720
Speaker 1: had a really and I think a lot of people

888
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: don't have great childhoods.

889
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 4: The most fun in my early thirties, So I get

890
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 4: jealous of like early thirty year olds.

891
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 5: Interesting, okay, that track.

892
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 1: I get jealous of Poppy. I thought I was gonna

893
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,279
Speaker 1: get jealous of when she entered into our lives. When

894
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: my sister had a little girl, I was like, Oh,

895
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: this is gonna test me, am I gonna be jealous,

896
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,799
Speaker 1: and I'm I never get jealous of Poppy until I

897
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: remember that she doesn't have to like figure out a

898
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: talent yet, Like she doesn't even have to. She could

899
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: still be the best at something, like she could be

900
00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: Taylor Swift and she doesn't have to pick up a

901
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 1: guitar for another like seven years.

902
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 3: She's like four, Okay, so she has.

903
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:39,719
Speaker 2: She has figured it out.

904
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 3: Well, we're trying to get her to pick some off

905
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 3: her yeah.

906
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 2: And then force once they pick it, You're like, that's it.

907
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:49,240
Speaker 2: You're never switching. I don't care how sad you get. Yes,

908
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 2: that's what I would do.

909
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 5: Like when you send me that meme of the little

910
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:56,920
Speaker 5: Korean child of playing a perfect guitar, I was like,

911
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 5: I'm jealous. I want that.

912
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 2: I'm most parents just want their kids to be happy,

913
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 2: Like my parents would always say, I just want you

914
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 2: to be happy. I don't care what you do or

915
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,439
Speaker 2: what you like. Couldn't you just want me to be

916
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 2: sad and rich? Like why didn't you force me to

917
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 2: become the best whatever that? Instead? You just let me

918
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 2: quit piano, you let me go to school free for me.

919
00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: It doesn't work, Brian, No, this is what I would

920
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: tell my kids, and I think this is actually good

921
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,360
Speaker 1: parenting advice from someone who's never gonna have kids and

922
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,399
Speaker 1: really hasn't even considered what I would do if I did.

923
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: So take it with a grain of sand. You tell

924
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: your kids, I want you to be happy. But here's

925
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: the thing. Talent is not something that is going to

926
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 1: come out of nowhere. If you want to be good

927
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 1: at something, you have to work hard. And I think

928
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 1: that obviously parents go, yeah, I mean me telling my

929
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: kid to go to piano lessons, that's me telling them

930
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:53,520
Speaker 1: to work hard.

931
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:57,439
Speaker 3: We don't. Kids don't understand that from piano lessons. They're

932
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 3: in lies.

933
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: You're going to be great at this time and you'll be,

934
00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: it seems, and then you'll be happy. Yes, it just

935
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: seems like a chore of doing a thing I'm bad

936
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 1: at still and just I'm not gonna get good and

937
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: you just have to you know, practice makes perfect. We

938
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: I used to sing songs about practice makes perfect.

939
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 3: You'll see, like there.

940
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:16,399
Speaker 1: Were all these songs, but it didn't get in my head.

941
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: I wish someone would have said, Nikki, you can be

942
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,080
Speaker 1: that on TV. You could be Kelly Kapowski.

943
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 3: Whatever. I was like, you know, looking at at the time.

944
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 3: But she is only that because she's hotter than you. No,

945
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 3: she's only.

946
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: That she worked hard, and that's the only thing you

947
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: have to do. I didn't compute the two, and I

948
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: don't know how to get kids to understand what hard

949
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,800
Speaker 1: work is and what it can mean because they don't

950
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: have they don't understand time.

951
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 2: No, well, that's exactly right. The time thing is important too,

952
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 2: because you know how, like when you wake up in

953
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:51,319
Speaker 2: the morning, like your first like thirty minutes of just

954
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 2: getting out of bed, time goes by like much faster

955
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,719
Speaker 2: like that first thirty Like if if in that first

956
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 2: thirty minutes you decide to like work out immediately, that

957
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:03,760
Speaker 2: workout will go by so fast it will not be challenging.

958
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,880
Speaker 2: That's my experience. I guess I'm just saying everyone experiences this.

959
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 2: You're like kind of half awake. So if you just

960
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 2: do the thing that like you would be dreading if

961
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 2: it was three pm, it'll just be done instantaneously. You

962
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 2: won't even realize. And that's like being a kid, it's

963
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 2: like you have nothing going on. Time is different for you.

964
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 2: If you are just put in a room and forced

965
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 2: to practice for ten years, that time will not matter

966
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 2: to you at all. It'll just fly by and all

967
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 2: of a sudden you'll be the world's greatest whatever.

968
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:33,839
Speaker 3: It's so true. That's a good point.

969
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: Sometimes when I'm on a treadmill and I'm like dying

970
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 1: and I have five minutes left, I.

971
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 3: Always go, you dumb fuck, why didn't.

972
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 1: You start five minutes earlier because you'd be dumb done

973
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 1: right now? And then I go, wait a second, in

974
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: a different realm, I am done right now, like I am,

975
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this, So just know you're.

976
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 3: Done somewhere like that.

977
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,160
Speaker 1: If you do you struggle to get through workouts, just

978
00:40:55,239 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 1: tell yourself you're done five o'clock. It's just not there yet.

979
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: But like, and also another thing, and I've talked about

980
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 1: this before. If you're trying to start working out and

981
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 1: you're like you're in the first two minutes and you've like,

982
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 1: oh my god, I have another twenty eight minutes of

983
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 1: this workout, just keep just keep thinking you're on the

984
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: last minute, or like, just and just keep saying fifteen

985
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 1: I'll quit in fifteen seconds, keep adding another fifteen seconds.

986
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: And then also if you're someone like me who's like,

987
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 1: if you're not doing it, at the ultimate level. If

988
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 1: you're not running the whole time, then fuck it. Then

989
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 1: give up. Just take it down one mile per hour, like,

990
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 1: don't give up, just go slower and stay with it,

991
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,040
Speaker 1: because I used to give up. I've given up on

992
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 1: so many workouts because I couldn't do them the best.

993
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 1: But just take it down one notch and then you

994
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 1: can get back up to that. I mean, this obviously goes.

995
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: I'm not like David Gogging is in here. This is

996
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 1: like not that interesting of information to give. But like

997
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 1: I wish I could. I wish I could have told

998
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,440
Speaker 1: myself these things earlier, because I it took me until

999
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,919
Speaker 1: this year to start just going a little less hard

1000
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:00,359
Speaker 1: on my workouts to get through them.

1001
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, and these are things that you could tell a

1002
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 2: child and they would have to they don't shape like this.

1003
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 2: You're still learning this stuff now like as an adult, Like, oh,

1004
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:09,840
Speaker 2: if I just try it a little less hard, I

1005
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: could get through my whole workout. Yes, like that, you're

1006
00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 2: you're always learning stuff, and like you, this is all

1007
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 2: stuff that I would want to like brain dump onto

1008
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 2: my child when they're five years old, so they have

1009
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 2: to I kind of.

1010
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 1: Want to have a kid just so I can relay

1011
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 1: some of this shit, you know, like and see if

1012
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: I could test without how to make a tailor. I

1013
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: want to make a Taylor Swift. I want to like

1014
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: leave us with this before we go to break because

1015
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: I've been reading that Four Agreements book. You know, Oh

1016
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: god about like B B whatever with your words.

1017
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm disagreeing.

1018
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 3: No, they're they're legit. I mean, they are the way

1019
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: of life.

1020
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 1: If you were able to agree to the four agreements

1021
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: and keep that agreement, your life will be perfect.

1022
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, you sent us.

1023
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is the thing. Whatever people do feel, think,

1024
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 1: or say. Now, this is don't take anything personally. That's

1025
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:01,600
Speaker 1: a third agreement. I think, don't take anything personal whatever.

1026
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 1: This is the paragraph. Whatever people do feel, think, or say,

1027
00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 1: don't take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful

1028
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,959
Speaker 1: you are, they are not saying that because of you.

1029
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: You know you are wonderful. It is not necessary to

1030
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful.

1031
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:22,959
Speaker 1: Don't take anything personally. Even if someone gets a gun

1032
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 1: and shoots you in the head, it was nothing personal,

1033
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: even at that extreme. I want us to ruminate on

1034
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:30,880
Speaker 1: that and talk about it when we get back right

1035
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:31,279
Speaker 1: after this.

1036
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 3: All right, we're back. Okay.

1037
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,480
Speaker 1: A book can tell you not to take anything personal

1038
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: or personally, how the fuck do you put that into practice?

1039
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 2: You don't. That's why this book sucks.

1040
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 3: It tells all these things to do.

1041
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: Don't ever lie, don't don't be impeccable with your word.

1042
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 1: The other ones, never forget.

1043
00:43:54,719 --> 00:44:00,879
Speaker 5: The other ones are assumptions that don't make a sum.

1044
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,760
Speaker 2: Sh It's like, yeah, if you if you could monitor

1045
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 2: your own life like you know, one hundred percent of

1046
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 2: the time and make and calculate every single thought and

1047
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: action that you have, then sure maybe your life will

1048
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 2: improve incrementally. But you just can't live your life like that.

1049
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 5: Well.

1050
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 1: I have a girlfriend who who's boyfriend. Her and her

1051
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: boyfriend were, you know, getting into little TIFFs here and there,

1052
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 1: and she goes, hey, let's just do this experiment for

1053
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: the next day where we don't take anything we say personally. Sure,

1054
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:34,280
Speaker 1: and I and I remember, and she said it worked,

1055
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, but how how do you not take

1056
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 1: things personally?

1057
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 3: And what what the book.

1058
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 1: Goes on to say is that when someone is saying

1059
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: something bad about you, and if someone says, hey, Nikki's

1060
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 1: not funny, that's their own opinion, has nothing to do

1061
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 1: with me.

1062
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:50,840
Speaker 3: It's built upon what they think.

1063
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,360
Speaker 2: But sure, but I don't.

1064
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: Understand why it won't affect me because I need public

1065
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 1: support to make money, and I need a roof over

1066
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:00,919
Speaker 1: my head, and I need money to have.

1067
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:04,479
Speaker 2: That you are successful is because you've been taking things

1068
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 2: personally your entire life exactly.

1069
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: But if I were to be an artist who just

1070
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 1: does every like someone like Natasha Leone, who everyone just

1071
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: who admires because she's just her son. Yeah, if I

1072
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,839
Speaker 1: just was someone like that, who just never takes anything like,

1073
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 1: who seems to just be their own unique person, what

1074
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 1: would I be? Because you know, there are times where

1075
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 1: people don't like the things I do, But as long

1076
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: as I'm confident about that thing, I don't really care

1077
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,760
Speaker 1: what their opinion is. So I guess what the point

1078
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: is is that I have a spin.

1079
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 4: On that for agreement. It's like a mantra that I

1080
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 4: live by, which is, or try to live by. Okay,

1081
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 4: don't let people. Don't give people the power to influence

1082
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 4: how you feel. Sure, so I think that.

1083
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 3: Kind of goes. How do you do that?

1084
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: You? Noah, can you give an example, like when you've

1085
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 1: used that when maybe you would have been completely hijacked

1086
00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 1: by opinion someone out of you, or like what you

1087
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:01,840
Speaker 1: could do with that.

1088
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 4: I think it maybe for me, it's more like matching

1089
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 4: someone's energy, and that's kind of like a codependent thing

1090
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 4: where if someone else doesn't feel good about something, then

1091
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:17,600
Speaker 4: I feel like I have to fix it or I

1092
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 4: have to feel bad about it. So I think I

1093
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 4: struggle with that. Maybe that mantra is something that I

1094
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 4: try to repeat in my head if I talk to

1095
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 4: my mom or something where it's like, well, I don't

1096
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 4: have to just because she's not feeling good. I don't

1097
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 4: have to change anything about my lifestyle to make her

1098
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 4: feel better, right, I play it.

1099
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 5: For me, it's like if I'm around someone in a

1100
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 5: bad mood, it can radically affect me. And I don't

1101
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 5: think most people have that, but that's where I'm like, Okay,

1102
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 5: this person's in a shit mood. I do not have

1103
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 5: to be in a ship mood, like let them be

1104
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 5: in it.

1105
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 2: I forgot the term, but there is a term for that.

1106
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:58,800
Speaker 2: It's it's like some kind of mirroring. I forgot what

1107
00:46:58,840 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 2: it was called.

1108
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, I feel the same way.

1109
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,839
Speaker 1: No, it's interesting because Chris, if he's in a bad

1110
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 1: mood about something, I can't really handle it and I

1111
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 1: need to I take it personally, like talk about and

1112
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: it will have nothing to do with me. But because

1113
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:17,880
Speaker 1: he's in a bad mood, like you know, people in

1114
00:47:17,880 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 1: a bad mood about something, they're not going to be

1115
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 1: cheery to everyone they're around, and it has.

1116
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 3: Nothing to do with me.

1117
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 1: But like he might be just not smiling as much

1118
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 1: or whatever, or not laughing at my jokes because he's

1119
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,839
Speaker 1: just not in the mood for my you'rer And I'm

1120
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 1: thinking he's never going to come back to me. You know,

1121
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 1: he's never gonna this is gonna be forever mantra. Yeah, assumptions,

1122
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:44,359
Speaker 1: that's that's so. Yes, I'm I'm making assumptions that he's

1123
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 1: never gonna get better, which you know is probably something

1124
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 1: from my childhood.

1125
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 3: Who the fuck knows.

1126
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 1: But then I notice when I get into bad moods,

1127
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 1: I he is able to he doesn't do that, and

1128
00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 1: I will sometimes when I get into bad mood, think

1129
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: that he's gonna have the same response I do, and

1130
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,239
Speaker 1: I go, hey, this has nothing to do with you.

1131
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 1: I say all of these things to make him feel safe.

1132
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 1: And almost giving him the things that I would want

1133
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: him to say to me if that were the case,

1134
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 1: that I need to hear kind of when he's in

1135
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 1: those moods. But he doesn't need to hear from me.

1136
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,799
Speaker 1: He doesn't need to hear like this has nothing to

1137
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: do with you. He's like, I know, I know.

1138
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 5: He's like, obviously, I think it's a guy girl thing

1139
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 5: sometimes because I have the same thing. When Matt's in

1140
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 5: a bad mood. Sometimes I'll ask him a question. Let's

1141
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:29,440
Speaker 5: say he's in physical pain and I'm like, hey, when

1142
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 5: are we going to this? And I'll be like I

1143
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 5: don't know, and I'm like, easy, Jesus, you know, like

1144
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 5: what is this tone? And he's like, babe, I'm stressed.

1145
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 5: It hasn't And I'm like, but you're talking to me

1146
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 5: like you're pissed. He's like, I'm I'm pain. I'm like, well,

1147
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 5: you need to fix this because this tone is not cool.

1148
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 5: But I just have to like let him be short

1149
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:53,719
Speaker 5: with me and go away. And if I'm a.

1150
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 3: Dad with him.

1151
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 5: Found out, But nine times out of ten he'll be like, Babe,

1152
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 5: I'm sorry I was short with you earlier. And a

1153
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:01,200
Speaker 5: lot of pain, you know.

1154
00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: That really helps Chris the other day, not the other day,

1155
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 1: but weeks and weeks ago, was got Yeah, it was

1156
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 1: it was something personal. It was like something I said

1157
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: that upset him, and he he made it clear very

1158
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 1: quickly like what it was about, which is a growth

1159
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: because I think usually in the past, like like many

1160
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 1: people in my life or men in my life as well,

1161
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:25,239
Speaker 1: will like just kind of like just get a little

1162
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: quiet because they're still processing it. They don't want to

1163
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:29,120
Speaker 1: tell you they're mad at you yet. But he was

1164
00:49:29,160 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 1: like open to me about like this thing you said

1165
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: kind of upset me, and I I think in the

1166
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 1: past I used to go like I'm so sorry, like

1167
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: how can I fix it? Like like damage, like oh,

1168
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 1: just taking on all the blame, like just let me

1169
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: make it right. So we were like in a good

1170
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: mood again, like I'm sorry, I'm stor I'm sorry, and

1171
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 1: I just I did that a little bit. I like

1172
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: accounted for what I did do wrong. But I also

1173
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 1: was like I'm annoyed that you're anno. Actually I'm kind

1174
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 1: of pissed off. Like I got. I was able to

1175
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 1: access the anger that I felt in that moment, which

1176
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: I couldn't help I did whether it was it was

1177
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: right to feel angry about I'm getting upset with me,

1178
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 1: I felt it, and I gave it back to him,

1179
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: and I felt really good about it because I expected

1180
00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 1: I think I've always been scared to do that in

1181
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 1: circumstances with men, because I feel like they'll go like,

1182
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 1: what the fuck, You're not allowed to get mad at me,

1183
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 1: I'm at like and then and then break up with me.

1184
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 1: But instead he said, you know, I'm just like really

1185
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 1: tired and I don't feel good. And I was like, yeah,

1186
00:50:28,680 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: like all of a sudden, I didn't give a fuck

1187
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 1: about the thing he was upset at me about.

1188
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 3: I like, apologize already.

1189
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: I let myself off the hook for it, even though

1190
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 1: I had previously felt so guilty. I also was like

1191
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: let him off the hook for being what I thought

1192
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,640
Speaker 1: was maybe overreacting to this thing that I didn't think

1193
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 1: deserve that, And I was like, of course, all then

1194
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:49,959
Speaker 1: we got snickers and.

1195
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 3: He was fine like snickers or.

1196
00:50:54,920 --> 00:51:01,640
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but not taking things personally is a really interesting.

1197
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 2: But can we look at that that little thing you

1198
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 2: read like closer, like, imagine if there was an actual

1199
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,279
Speaker 2: person trying to give you advice and they're like, don't

1200
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 2: take anything personally. If someone shoots you, just let it.

1201
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:15,239
Speaker 2: If someone shoots you in.

1202
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 1: The head doesn't mean let it go. It doesn't mean

1203
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: they shouldn't be punished for it. But you don't need

1204
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 1: to be like, I'm a bad person because I got shot.

1205
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: I'm not a bad person because I got molested. I'm

1206
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: a bad person because I got into this traffic collision. Like,

1207
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: it doesn't it's not about you. That person ran the stop,

1208
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 1: Like that person had road rage against you and shot

1209
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: you because they have issues.

1210
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 3: It's not you.

1211
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 2: What am I supposed to do with that? Though? Like

1212
00:51:39,040 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 2: I get so if what if I'm not a person

1213
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 2: that would say, oh, it was my fault that that person.

1214
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 1: You don't need that advice, then you don't need that advice.

1215
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:49,439
Speaker 1: This is for people who take things personally and who

1216
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:52,360
Speaker 1: think everything is their fault and think they can control

1217
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 1: things and other people.

1218
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 5: Here's an example to close or go back to the

1219
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 5: infidelity cheating thing. I wanted to say this earlier. I

1220
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 5: remember learning that Tommy Lee cheated on Pamela Anderson and

1221
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,920
Speaker 5: I was in my very first relationship ever, and I

1222
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,640
Speaker 5: was this is what she used to make up yes,

1223
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 5: I was like, you can cheat, Like the hottest woman

1224
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:17,799
Speaker 5: in the world at this time can get cheated on. Okay,

1225
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 5: it has nothing to do with her. This guy is

1226
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 5: just a cheater. He's a bad guy. Like, she didn't do.

1227
00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 3: Anything, he's not a bad guy, but that's lied and.

1228
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 5: He lied to her and broke their marriage. Vow. Let's

1229
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 5: just say, you can't argue that they did not have

1230
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 5: an open thing. Yes, so yes, so it had nothing

1231
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 5: to do with her. She can't take it personally like,

1232
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 5: all right, Tommy has this addiction or whatever the fuck

1233
00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 5: or needed this thing. That's not that's not my fault

1234
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,880
Speaker 5: that he cheated, right, uh huh.

1235
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. I can see that a lot of people might

1236
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,799
Speaker 2: might make it their fault, and it's important to not

1237
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 2: take it personally in that way. But I still don't

1238
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 2: find any example of getting shot in the head and

1239
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 2: then whatever the fuck forgiving the guy for shooting you.

1240
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 3: You'll forgive. It doesn't mean about forgiveness.

1241
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 1: It just means like, don't think, like why was I

1242
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 1: in the wrong place at the wrong time? What did

1243
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,239
Speaker 1: I do to that guy that made him want to

1244
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 1: shoot me?

1245
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 2: Like?

1246
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 1: How could I have done things differently? Like don't. Yeah,

1247
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 1: don't punish yourself on top of are already what.

1248
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 2: Isn't it like what that person did had nothing to

1249
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 2: do with you. You were just shot random.

1250
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 3: It's totally random.

1251
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:34,360
Speaker 2: Yeah. So the knowing that doesn't help me at all. Oh, so,

1252
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 2: like it doesn't matter what you do, someone's still gonna

1253
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 2: shoot you.

1254
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:37,720
Speaker 3: You're Selena.

1255
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 1: She's like, well, I think I got shot because I'm amazing,

1256
00:53:40,600 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 1: and my fan club president like thought I was so

1257
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 1: amazing that she had to like take my soul. Yeah,

1258
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:47,800
Speaker 1: but they're like, no, you can't have that. You're just random.

1259
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 1: You're not that great.

1260
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 3: You just got shot. Yeah, let Selena have it.

1261
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:56,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, this guy, I don't like this guy. I'm taking

1262
00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 2: it personally that he'sistic.

1263
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 5: I could see why you don't.

1264
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 2: Like and impractical.

1265
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 1: I like it because it is so simplistic and it

1266
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: I think you need to read the book.

1267
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 3: It's very easy.

1268
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 2: I've read it. You have I own it.

1269
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 5: Oh, owned it to you. There should be like a

1270
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 5: subheading that's like, obviously, take all of this ship with

1271
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,080
Speaker 5: a grain of salt. No one can do this perfectly.

1272
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 3: No one can do it perfectly. Final thought.

1273
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 1: Let's do top one bottom one because I had an

1274
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: idea for a segment today because I was doing I

1275
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: was traveling all day and I was at a gate

1276
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: for so long. I wanted to figure out top one

1277
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 1: bottom one type of person who you're sitting at a

1278
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 1: gate with for a long time, Like you have to

1279
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:44,800
Speaker 1: sit next to this person for a couple Okay, please

1280
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:45,760
Speaker 1: start with bottom.

1281
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 2: Bottom one is somebody who is coughing and just can't

1282
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 2: stop coughing.

1283
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 3: I was at the gatege that you're coughing.

1284
00:54:54,960 --> 00:54:57,919
Speaker 2: A lot, right, No, this person was with someone else,

1285
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 2: and and the person that they were with was even like,

1286
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:04,200
Speaker 2: can you please just take it down a notch? Like no,

1287
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:06,399
Speaker 2: I can tell if they were thinking that. Yeah, this

1288
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 2: person was like performatively coughing, like she was like I

1289
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 2: need to get it out, and it was everyone in

1290
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 2: the whole terminal was like, are you gonna go on

1291
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 2: the plane with us now?

1292
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 3: With that and not wearing a mask.

1293
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 2: I I didn't even look at her. I couldn't. I

1294
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:23,160
Speaker 2: couldn't even go look at her, but I assume she

1295
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 2: wasn't wearing a mask. But it didn't feel like COVID coughing.

1296
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 2: It was either like long COVID like I've had COVID,

1297
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 2: but it kind of felt like I am of sickly

1298
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 2: older person cough, even though she wasn't that old, So

1299
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,959
Speaker 2: I wasn't really worried, like from a COVID standpoint or whatever,

1300
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 2: but I was just like, how, like, where's the shame?

1301
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 2: Like when I sneeze, when I sneeze in public, I

1302
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:50,440
Speaker 2: cover my mouth. I try to make it not very loud.

1303
00:55:50,920 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 2: This person is like, I am going to let everybody

1304
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:57,480
Speaker 2: in this entire vicinity understand that I am going through

1305
00:55:57,520 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 2: a cough.

1306
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:01,319
Speaker 3: It's almost to like perform it.

1307
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,279
Speaker 1: This is this is, this is what we're getting at

1308
00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: My bottom one is also performative, and this has not

1309
00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 1: made me my bottom bottom.

1310
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 3: But this is an annoying thing.

1311
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:15,759
Speaker 1: A mother or a father showing their young baby through

1312
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: the window the planes and look at that plane, and

1313
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,799
Speaker 1: look at that man with the orange stopping so loud.

1314
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:27,000
Speaker 1: Your baby can hear you, babies have great hearing. You're

1315
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 1: performing as a great parent for everyone around us.

1316
00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 3: We get it.

1317
00:56:31,280 --> 00:56:34,919
Speaker 1: You're a very involved parent. You're really good at being

1318
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 1: a parent. Your kids are gonna be grow up to

1319
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 1: be better than other kids.

1320
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 5: You definitely don't regret this choice exactly.

1321
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 1: Yes, anya, thank you. It's just like listen. I definitely

1322
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: think that is important. I actually really admire when I

1323
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:50,879
Speaker 1: see a parent do it. Today I saw a parent

1324
00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:52,360
Speaker 1: doing it, and she was doing it at a volume

1325
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 1: that I respected, and I thought it was such a

1326
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: beautiful thing that man, this woman has been traveling with

1327
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 1: this kid all day long and she still has the

1328
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:00,520
Speaker 1: energy to be so enthusiastic and so would a horrible

1329
00:57:00,520 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: with her kid at this time of day.

1330
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:04,640
Speaker 3: And like I knew this.

1331
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: Woman had been through it, so I thought it was

1332
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:08,839
Speaker 1: like lovely that she was still like, no, how many

1333
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:10,920
Speaker 1: plans are out there and like doing all that, but

1334
00:57:10,960 --> 00:57:13,960
Speaker 1: when it's loud and you're trying to let us all

1335
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 1: know what a great mom you are. Here's my new

1336
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: theory and a little thing that people aren't gonna like

1337
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 1: to hear. If you're a mom or a dad and

1338
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:26,600
Speaker 1: you play this I'm not selfish card, and that's why

1339
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 1: your parent is like, I'm just like I was tired

1340
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 1: of being selfish.

1341
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 3: Have I said this already? You're still selfish? You're not.

1342
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:37,880
Speaker 1: No one has a baby. And then suddenly it's like

1343
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start volunteering for Greenpeace. They don't start being

1344
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: more selfless citizens. They're just less selfless about themselves and

1345
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 1: now they are putting everything on a kid that.

1346
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 2: Looks like that them selfish.

1347
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 5: You're not.

1348
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 3: You're not selfless.

1349
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 2: Even people with narcissistic personality disorder can do that with

1350
00:57:58,840 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 2: their children and having kids.

1351
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 3: Because it's themselves.

1352
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 1: So like, I'm not giving an award to you for

1353
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:08,000
Speaker 1: being like I'm yes, I know you're not bathing much anymore,

1354
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:10,480
Speaker 1: and you don't dress well anymore and you look but

1355
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 1: draggled all the time. I'm not giving you an award

1356
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 1: for like, I don't care about the way I look

1357
00:58:15,080 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: anymore because I'm focused on this thing. It's like the

1358
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 1: thing is you, and the thing didn't exist till you

1359
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 1: made it. So if you were, if you, there are

1360
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: some parents that have kids and go, oh my god,

1361
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 1: the world's fucked. I'm gonna start like volunteering for climate

1362
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:30,959
Speaker 1: change activism and like I'm trying to say the world

1363
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: that I can get behind. It snapped you into being

1364
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 1: like I need to save this planet again. It's selfish

1365
00:58:37,040 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 1: because it's for your kid that looks like you, and

1366
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 1: that's why you want to save the planet. And you

1367
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 1: didn't give a fuck about the planet before there was

1368
00:58:41,200 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: a kid on the planet that looked like you and

1369
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 1: that you made.

1370
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 3: So it's still selfish. But this is what bothers me.

1371
00:58:46,080 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 2: Walking around with a kid and showing them off or

1372
00:58:48,720 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 2: whatever is no different than walking around with like a

1373
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 2: painting that you painted. I mean, like, look at my painting.

1374
00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 2: Don't you love my painting? Isn't it so beautiful?

1375
00:58:57,200 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 3: Yes?

1376
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 2: Oh? I also hate with kids when when parents force

1377
00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:04,760
Speaker 2: you to become a part of the little game they're playing.

1378
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 3: Oh.

1379
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:07,640
Speaker 2: Really, like when when parents are like, look at the plane,

1380
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,880
Speaker 2: look at the plane, and then they go like, isn't

1381
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:11,600
Speaker 2: the plane nice? Like something like that.

1382
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:15,440
Speaker 1: They never involved me. I would like to be involved actually.

1383
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 5: Or when you're at a friend's house and their kids

1384
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 5: are running around and they're like, do you think you

1385
00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:22,160
Speaker 5: want to tell Anya what they keep?

1386
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: We keep?

1387
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, do I have to do this now?

1388
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 1: Blanket statement. Your kid doesn't have to say thank you

1389
00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:30,280
Speaker 1: to me.

1390
00:59:31,040 --> 00:59:32,080
Speaker 3: I don't need it.

1391
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 1: I don't have to say goodbye to me. They don't

1392
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:37,640
Speaker 1: need to hug me, they don't need to kiss me.

1393
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: Your kid needs to have boundaries. Your kid can be

1394
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:42,360
Speaker 1: rude if it wants. I don't need to give a

1395
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: present to a kid and get a thank you back.

1396
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 1: And if you do need to get your kid to

1397
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:48,280
Speaker 1: give the thank you to me, don't make them like

1398
00:59:48,640 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 1: stand in front of me and say it. Just like

1399
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:52,400
Speaker 1: later on tell them, hey, you should have thanked her, Like,

1400
00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:55,240
Speaker 1: don't bring me into it. I want to see I

1401
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 1: feel like stand there waiting for your kid to be like,

1402
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say it, and then it gets

1403
00:59:58,600 --> 00:59:59,800
Speaker 1: awkward because the kid.

1404
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:01,919
Speaker 3: Now I hate your kid because he's refusing to say

1405
01:00:01,960 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 3: thank you to me. GIF okay the top.

1406
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 1: One, bottom one, okay, my bottom one okay, gate okay,

1407
01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: person at the gate on you, let's the least favorite person?

1408
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:15,920
Speaker 5: Ye have speakerphone FaceTime? Please, Well, you're not that dumb.

1409
01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 5: You also aren't that poor. We can all afford twenty

1410
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:22,720
Speaker 5: dollars headphones. Just pack them with you and if you're

1411
01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 5: not going to pack them, don't do the thing you

1412
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 5: don't get to do it walk away from the gate.

1413
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 5: Do not my girls involved that you think just.

1414
01:00:29,640 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 3: Broke up with the guy.

1415
01:00:31,120 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 1: And I was like, so on on board for this guy.

1416
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:36,640
Speaker 1: And then she told me that he takes zoom calls

1417
01:00:36,680 --> 01:00:37,160
Speaker 1: in public.

1418
01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:41,360
Speaker 3: Oh, and I said it was as if she told

1419
01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:42,280
Speaker 3: me that he hits her.

1420
01:00:42,400 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 1: I go, you cannot be with this person, he says,

1421
01:00:45,480 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 1: and she goes, he just did it once, and I go, once,

1422
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 1: is he's gonna do it again?

1423
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:49,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1424
01:00:49,360 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 3: You need to leave him right now.

1425
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:54,560
Speaker 1: You cannot be with someone who takes FaceTime calls in public.

1426
01:00:54,680 --> 01:00:59,160
Speaker 1: Anyone this is and what is the protocol to stop this?

1427
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:01,880
Speaker 1: Because we need I think in an airport, I feel

1428
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 1: safe that no one's going to pull a gun on

1429
01:01:03,200 --> 01:01:05,919
Speaker 1: me because they've gone through screening. So I do feel

1430
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,200
Speaker 1: safe in an airport. I would love for someone to

1431
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 1: be talking on the speakerphone at an airport within vicinity

1432
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:14,720
Speaker 1: of me, as long as they're a white person, because

1433
01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:17,439
Speaker 1: because I would slam them if they're if they are

1434
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 1: a person of a different race, I'm not going to

1435
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 1: say anything because I'm.

1436
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 5: I always think about you.

1437
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 3: I'm not going to do it.

1438
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:25,920
Speaker 5: How can I be Nikki? What would Nikky do? I

1439
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:27,080
Speaker 5: know exactly what you do.

1440
01:01:27,280 --> 01:01:29,160
Speaker 1: I would like to do it to someone of a

1441
01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 1: different race, but I feel like they would say, I'm

1442
01:01:31,440 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: You're just doing this because I'm black, And then no,

1443
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing this because I'm the reason I wouldn't do

1444
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:40,760
Speaker 1: it is because you're black. That would be racist. But

1445
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: but I do. But I definitely wouldn't do it to

1446
01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 1: a black person, But I like a white person. I'm

1447
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:47,880
Speaker 1: dying for you to be on your speakerphone in front

1448
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 1: of me.

1449
01:01:48,120 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 5: I'm dying for it about a child or someone like

1450
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 5: this just happened flight just the other day, a guy

1451
01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 5: listening to the football game loudly as we're deeplanning. So

1452
01:01:58,200 --> 01:02:00,920
Speaker 5: we are deplanning, so we're all going to say goodbye

1453
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:01,640
Speaker 5: to each other soon.

1454
01:02:01,680 --> 01:02:04,919
Speaker 1: But we're perfect time because you're on your way out,

1455
01:02:05,080 --> 01:02:05,960
Speaker 1: you don't have to be around.

1456
01:02:05,960 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 5: What would you do if it's you're trapped in there,

1457
01:02:08,640 --> 01:02:10,680
Speaker 5: you're still on the tarmac, you're still taxing.

1458
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 3: Is that necessary? I mean that's what I'd say. I go,

1459
01:02:14,840 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 3: is that necessary? And then I just look at them

1460
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:19,959
Speaker 3: and then wait and then he goes a big game.

1461
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 2: It's a big game. I mean for me, that would

1462
01:02:21,880 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 2: be a moment of bonding for me, I think I'd

1463
01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:25,400
Speaker 2: be like, what's the score with that? But if it

1464
01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 2: was something else, like if this.

1465
01:02:27,640 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 1: Guy thought he was doing and someone's gonna say, Nikki,

1466
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 1: didn't you sing Taylor? So songs on a plane with

1467
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:34,919
Speaker 1: a bunch of people. Yes, I did, because the flight

1468
01:02:34,960 --> 01:02:35,920
Speaker 1: attendant started it.

1469
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,520
Speaker 3: Oh it was patient, and.

1470
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 1: It was it was a group of us, and it

1471
01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:42,240
Speaker 1: was obnoxious, and I'll own up to that. But I

1472
01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 1: would never do something as a single person to be like,

1473
01:02:44,720 --> 01:02:47,120
Speaker 1: everyone has to listen to this. That is a personality

1474
01:02:47,120 --> 01:02:49,360
Speaker 1: disorder and there needs to be a protocol for it.

1475
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:51,919
Speaker 1: I think maybe the thing to do is to turn

1476
01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,760
Speaker 1: up your phone all the way and listen to something.

1477
01:02:55,480 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 1: I think that's the thing to do.

1478
01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:57,840
Speaker 5: It was too passive.

1479
01:02:58,320 --> 01:02:59,920
Speaker 3: I almost did it to their level.

1480
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:02,520
Speaker 1: Yeah I would, because it's obviously calling it out and

1481
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 1: everyone around would know the joke, what you're doing.

1482
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 2: I would love to see that in practice.

1483
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 1: That would be the hamster dance song. Do you remember

1484
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:10,080
Speaker 1: the Hamster dance song?

1485
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 3: No?

1486
01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 2: No, So if someone you lived in New York for

1487
01:03:16,520 --> 01:03:18,920
Speaker 2: a long time and when when someone's on the subway

1488
01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:21,560
Speaker 2: and they were just listening to music, like, you can't

1489
01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:23,400
Speaker 2: do it on the subway. You're gonna get shanked. Yeah,

1490
01:03:23,600 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 2: you'll get shanked. So like, uh, doing the same. So

1491
01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 2: you're you're saying you'd engage in a bat.

1492
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 3: What did I say? You can't figure it out. I'm

1493
01:03:33,680 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 3: just saying it isn't.

1494
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:37,320
Speaker 5: Trapped for a while.

1495
01:03:37,720 --> 01:03:39,920
Speaker 2: So let's say you're in the subway, pops. Let's say

1496
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 2: you're in the subway in Ireland, okay, and someone's playing

1497
01:03:43,240 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 2: music on their cell phone.

1498
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 1: No, I wouldn't do it in another country because I

1499
01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:46,560
Speaker 1: don't want to be an American.

1500
01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:48,440
Speaker 3: That's like I would.

1501
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 1: Say, I have something to yell at you a boot okay, Canadian?

1502
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:55,880
Speaker 3: Okay? Top top traveling.

1503
01:03:56,640 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 5: Just happened yesterday, Okay. We were merging to the boardy

1504
01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 5: line and a gentleman I've felt this guy trying to

1505
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:05,640
Speaker 5: edge in front of me. I'm like, god, damn it.

1506
01:04:05,680 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 5: I was definitely here first. And then I just go,

1507
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:10,560
Speaker 5: who gives a shit on you? Doesn't matter? And I

1508
01:04:10,640 --> 01:04:13,800
Speaker 5: looked at him and he goes after you. I like

1509
01:04:13,880 --> 01:04:15,840
Speaker 5: that guy. I like a guy that's going to say

1510
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:16,280
Speaker 5: after you.

1511
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:17,840
Speaker 3: I like that too.

1512
01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,600
Speaker 5: Yeah. Ironically, I did get stopped, and the weirdest thing happened.

1513
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:24,360
Speaker 5: They were like, your seat is broken, ma'am, you can't.

1514
01:04:24,400 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 5: I'm like, my seat is broken, and they go, yeah,

1515
01:04:27,640 --> 01:04:29,720
Speaker 5: it was on the way to Vegas, Nikki to see you,

1516
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:32,960
Speaker 5: and I guess I go Vegas. Yeah, and the guy

1517
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:35,360
Speaker 5: also the ticket agent goes, you're not checked in. I go,

1518
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 5: I am checked in. This is my boarding pass on

1519
01:04:37,280 --> 01:04:39,080
Speaker 5: my phone. You can't get this unless you check in.

1520
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 5: I'm checked it. It was the second leg of a

1521
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:42,959
Speaker 5: journey too. He goes, you're not checked in. You didn't

1522
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:45,480
Speaker 5: check in. You need to check it. I go, okay,

1523
01:04:45,520 --> 01:04:46,640
Speaker 5: I don't know what to tell you. This is my

1524
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 5: boarding past. I did check in twenty four hours ago.

1525
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,920
Speaker 5: And he goes, well, your seat's broken. I have to

1526
01:04:50,960 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 5: give you a no boarding pass. It took forever, and

1527
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:54,920
Speaker 5: the guy behind me. I looked at him, I go,

1528
01:04:55,440 --> 01:04:57,600
Speaker 5: are you regretting your decision? Because he left me he

1529
01:04:57,680 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 5: let me go first, And he's like, oh right, I worry.

1530
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:01,960
Speaker 5: He goes, take your time. He was so nice.

1531
01:05:02,120 --> 01:05:06,080
Speaker 1: My favorite one, very quickly is someone when you are

1532
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:09,400
Speaker 1: looking for to charge your phone at the gate and

1533
01:05:09,440 --> 01:05:10,840
Speaker 1: someone goes that one's not working.

1534
01:05:10,880 --> 01:05:12,680
Speaker 2: This one over here, helpful.

1535
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:15,240
Speaker 1: Just a helpful tell me where the charger is, don't

1536
01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 1: watch me struggle, offer up yours and like an area

1537
01:05:19,000 --> 01:05:23,200
Speaker 1: fears and and someone that doesn't like scoff at me

1538
01:05:23,240 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: when I leave all my bags by myself and they

1539
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 1: don't go like, what is she gonna do? What's going on? Like,

1540
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 1: just calm down. I do this all the time.

1541
01:05:31,520 --> 01:05:32,360
Speaker 3: We're gonna be fine.

1542
01:05:32,480 --> 01:05:32,720
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1543
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:36,640
Speaker 2: Yeah. My top one is I think you're gonna really

1544
01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 2: like this one. I think you're gonna change yours when

1545
01:05:38,200 --> 01:05:41,200
Speaker 2: you hear really okayah. My top one is when I'm

1546
01:05:41,200 --> 01:05:43,280
Speaker 2: with somebody and I'm talking to them and I feel

1547
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:47,200
Speaker 2: like I'm being particularly entertaining, and then there's someone else

1548
01:05:47,480 --> 01:05:51,120
Speaker 2: who is hearing what I'm saying and enjoying and laughing

1549
01:05:51,160 --> 01:05:53,600
Speaker 2: a little bit at me being funny with like Alley

1550
01:05:53,720 --> 01:05:54,280
Speaker 2: or something.

1551
01:05:54,400 --> 01:05:56,200
Speaker 3: Yes, that's really nice.

1552
01:05:56,280 --> 01:05:58,400
Speaker 1: I get that with drivers sometimes when I get the

1553
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 1: driver to oh yeah, really good because he's not supposed

1554
01:06:01,400 --> 01:06:03,280
Speaker 1: to be listening, but he gets eating us.

1555
01:06:03,520 --> 01:06:05,280
Speaker 2: And then sometimes they can't help themselves and they laugh

1556
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:06,760
Speaker 2: out loud. They're like, oh no, now they know that

1557
01:06:06,800 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 2: I was listening this whole time and enjoying that.

1558
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:09,959
Speaker 3: Yes, oh I like that.

1559
01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:14,240
Speaker 1: I do like a making strangers laugh sometimes, like and

1560
01:06:14,280 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 1: that goes into kind of almost like putting yourself on speakerphone,

1561
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 1: like you're kind of performing in a way like oh shit,

1562
01:06:20,040 --> 01:06:20,520
Speaker 1: I think.

1563
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 2: But I'm talking to my wife, but.

1564
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:25,520
Speaker 3: You're talking loud enough that someone could help.

1565
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just telling my wife, look at the plane,

1566
01:06:28,800 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 2: you know, look at the outside.

1567
01:06:30,320 --> 01:06:32,040
Speaker 3: Any planes are there? All right?

1568
01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:35,320
Speaker 4: Noah, what's your what's your top one? Okay, well I

1569
01:06:35,360 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 4: don't think I said my bottom. My bottom one is

1570
01:06:37,480 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 4: anyone who's grooming themselves, like clipping their nails.

1571
01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 1: Or they're eating their hang now, which is what I

1572
01:06:45,040 --> 01:06:46,080
Speaker 1: did today.

1573
01:06:46,480 --> 01:06:49,160
Speaker 4: That's that's different. Like once I started hearing the click

1574
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:50,000
Speaker 4: of the nail cutter.

1575
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:53,600
Speaker 1: I I have done it before, but I put a

1576
01:06:53,600 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 1: sweatshirt over my hand to do it, and you can't

1577
01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:58,240
Speaker 1: muffle it and so it can't spring anywhere.

1578
01:06:58,400 --> 01:07:00,760
Speaker 2: I'd rather do that than on the plane.

1579
01:07:01,080 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm oh, I'm deeply ashamed. Okay.

1580
01:07:03,800 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 4: And then my top is anyone with an animal. Please

1581
01:07:07,640 --> 01:07:09,240
Speaker 4: come stay next to me so I can look at

1582
01:07:09,240 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 4: what's inside your animal.

1583
01:07:13,200 --> 01:07:13,560
Speaker 2: Pressure.

1584
01:07:13,880 --> 01:07:18,320
Speaker 3: Yeah that's a really good one. All right. Well that

1585
01:07:18,440 --> 01:07:18,880
Speaker 3: was fun.

1586
01:07:19,280 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 5: Great to see our top ones.

1587
01:07:21,880 --> 01:07:22,680
Speaker 3: Yeah that was sweet.

1588
01:07:22,680 --> 01:07:27,280
Speaker 5: That was the togetherness and connection and and like humanness.

1589
01:07:28,320 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, we just want people to be nice and kind

1590
01:07:30,760 --> 01:07:31,320
Speaker 1: and gentle.

1591
01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 5: But let's look out for each other more.

1592
01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:37,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that, all right. And and if you

1593
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:38,800
Speaker 1: get shot in the head, don't take it personally.

1594
01:07:39,840 --> 01:07:43,760
Speaker 3: Recover first. Why are you knocking on what superstition? I

1595
01:07:43,760 --> 01:07:49,320
Speaker 3: don't know anything. Okay, all right, well, thank you so

1596
01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:50,040
Speaker 3: much for being here.

1597
01:07:50,080 --> 01:07:53,840
Speaker 1: Brian. Uh come see us on tour. Don't be kissed,

1598
01:07:54,040 --> 01:07:56,000
Speaker 1: and just don't take personally