WEBVTT - Who's Calling Me??? 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.640 Wait a second, who's calling me? They didn't text first. 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:05.680 It's one more thing, Armstrong and Getty. 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:07.080 One more thing. 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:12.160 So we've got a list out from some organization on 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.200 things that cause anxiety and people in the modern world. 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:17.120 We'll get to that coming up in just a little bit. 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:21.280 Before that, we had a couple of funny things happened 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:23.600 during the show today we thought might be worth repeating. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.600 And then one maybe you haven't heard unless you've been 0:00:26.600 --> 0:00:30.960 a really long time listener to the Armstrong Ingetty Show. First, 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:35.040 Michael's story of his mom ordering at In and Out. 0:00:35.400 --> 0:00:39.080 Yeah, In and Out has a secret menu. First of all, 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.120 In and Out is a popular burger chain. I'm assuming 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:42.040 most people have been there. 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:45.280 I don't like the fact that their menu is incredibly basic. 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:46.919 When you walk in or you go to the drive through, 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:51.880 it's just cheeseburger, double cheeseburger, fries, milkshake. That's about it. 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:53.480 I mean, there is not much more. 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:57.160 Well, I found out there's a secret menu that spices 0:00:57.240 --> 0:00:59.800 things up, and apparently you can get your fries where 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:02.200 they take the sauce from the burgers and they'll put 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.920 it over the fry. So, yeah, you have sauce and 0:01:04.959 --> 0:01:05.679 fries together. 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.840 That's what my son likes, and that's animal style. And 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:09.959 that's the key here. 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:14.480 Instead of animal style, my mom ordered that she for 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.639 the first time, and she called it doggie style. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:19.160 I like my doggie style. 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:24.720 And you have to know that my mom is very sweet. 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:27.160 And yeah, I would never say anything like that on purpose. 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.520 He's not to discuss sex positions with fast Foot. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:31.920 Now, is that what you're saying? 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:36.120 Yes, man, this isn't in and out yes, hello? 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.600 Or is she just a huge Snoop dogg fan. That 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:41.600 was debut. 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.760 You could hear the kid laughing in the back of 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:46.400 my God, I would have died. 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:49.040 I would have to say, hey, this lady just said 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:51.000 she wants her fries doggies style. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:53.280 Oh yeah, that story was on repeat for a couple 0:01:53.320 --> 0:01:53.720 of days. 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.360 Oh yeah, he's telling it today. Yeah, i'd probably ware 0:01:58.280 --> 0:01:59.440 meeting strangers on. 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.840 A bus he tells him that story. Oh my god, 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.480 that's good. And what's funny is that it's genetic obviously, 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.920 because Michael has this story that he told us many, 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:10.240 many years ago. Yeah, this is Katie. 0:02:10.320 --> 0:02:11.799 This is a long time ago to so you know, 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.760 but I was about twenty three years old, maybe maybe 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.640 a little older twenty five. Okay, I was at a 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:20.799 bank and I was getting my before direct deposits, so 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:22.720 i'd have to take it in and get it cashed. 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:26.840 And so there's a beautiful woman at the as a 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:31.480 bank teller, and she's got large breast, and she's bending 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:34.600 down to the you know, get the dollar bills out 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:37.760 of the out of the drawer, and you could pretty 0:02:37.800 --> 0:02:39.919 much see just about everything, if you know what I'm saying, 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:42.320 and well. 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:43.560 Everything but the nip. 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:51.600 Exactly. Abn, that's funny, Katie. 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.240 So she's leaning over and she looks up and smiles. 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.400 She goes, would you like big bills for your check? 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:58.360 And I said, yes, big boobs would be fine. 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:01.320 Oh Michael, she set you up for that. 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:04.800 No, I wouldn't be coming on. I would not have 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:06.720 said fine. 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:10.560 And I was just horrified. And she handed me that 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:12.359 money and I just walked out. I didn't even know 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.440 if it was a correct amount. I got to my car. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:16.560 I said, you know, thank god, it's the right amount. 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.680 Horrified too. So this is a good question for you 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:23.360 as a lady. How aware are you as a woman 0:03:23.400 --> 0:03:26.000 when you're bent over and your shirt is hanging down 0:03:26.280 --> 0:03:27.799 to her like a fight glance, or I got to 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.560 look away really hard, or I'm staring right at your breasts. 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:33.360 You know what's happening. 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:35.680 Without a doubt, and you know, you know when your 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.520 shirt is providing just a little bit of a peek, 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:42.800 you're very super aware. Yeah, yep, that's happened to me 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:44.240 yesterday at the gym. 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:46.800 But but you weren't doing it on purpose. It just happened. 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.360 No, we we were We've been talking about planking. We 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:51.280 were planking, and I wasn't paying attention. I looked at 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:52.520 I was like, WHOA given a show? 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:55.160 Yeah, you know it happens. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:57.760 Well, what are you gonna do? Or a turtleneck? You know, 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.880 when you're planking, that's hard, hard to prevent. 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:03.160 The keepers agree with the Taliban, you got to keep 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.000 these things covered up. 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:08.120 Yeah, but it was it was just you know, that's 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.560 an example of how aware you know. I'm at the gym. 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:12.560 I know nobody's looking at me in that exactly. 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:15.120 But you know, as a guy, that's one of the 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:21.960 great I'm gonna say, unfair, but uncomfortable, unfair something things 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:26.479 that go on in society. Women who you know, like 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:33.080 dress provocatively or that situation there knowingly, and then you're 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:36.680 like a pervo if you if you get caught looking 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.000 in that direction. I always look away because I don't 0:04:39.000 --> 0:04:41.280 want to get caught looking that way at that direction. 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:44.840 But they go, oh, Cable'll get over there. But then 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.320 you're well, then why are you doing that? 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:47.960 I don't know. 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.400 There's the only reason to dress that way is to 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.440 get the looks. That's the whole one. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.279 You only want to looks from some people. Is that 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:54.720 the deal? 0:04:56.279 --> 0:05:00.599 Uh? No, no, because every woman wants to feel hot 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.599 at all times when they're dressed like that, and it's 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:07.640 and you know, it's there's a fine line to cross, 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:10.080 but it is flattering when you know that guys are 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:10.640 looking at you. 0:05:11.120 --> 0:05:13.240 That's why I go into a meeting. I'll just say, hey, 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:16.320 nice tits, just to clear the air because then we 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:17.360 can do business. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:19.679 Well, you're so clear that you have it on a shirt, 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:20.880 it's just as nice rack. 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.720 Well that's that was a business that sold racks. 0:05:25.920 --> 0:05:28.360 Now see in my case, she was literally talking to 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:30.479 me like in that position. 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.800 So yeah, but she knew what shirt she put on 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:35.200 that morning, Michael. Is what I'm saying. 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.440 She was using her womanly whiles to seduce you, but 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:42.840 you're too innocent and pure of heart and didn't take 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:43.240 the baint. 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:47.279 Big boobs will be fine. That's a good again, it's genetic. 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.680 I love that Michael glitched out over over some cleavage. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:58.520 Right dang? Okay, So this is a list of the 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:05.080 ten smallest things that cause stress. Man, A very very 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:07.640 long list, and this was your top ten small things 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.320 that cause you stress. I guess I'll work from the 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:13.400 bottom to the I'll start at the top bottom. 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:14.039 Dress me out. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:18.880 Phone notifications going off during a meeting fifteen percent. Yeah, 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:22.240 that rarely happens with me. I'm pretty disciplined about making 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.480 sure my phone's off, but that stresses me out. I 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:30.520 don't want to be interrupts meeting. Guy, Sure all people do. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:33.200 Does this happen everybody? I have a number of people 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:36.080 who will say, hey, I'm sorry to text you so 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:39.240 early or so late or whatever I was telling them. 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:44.080 I have do not disturb on or sleep mode? Doesn't everybody? 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:47.479 I don't I have. I don't even know how to 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:50.440 turn that on. Oh my god, you're killing if I've 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.120 never used it in my life, when would I use it. 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:56.000 All the time every day when you're sleeping? 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.840 I don't know. I have certainly sleep through the ding, 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:02.479 so it doesn't matter to man. Oh wow, and I 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:05.160 sleep alone, which is sad but makes it easier. 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:11.120 Yeah, that's wild. Yeah, I'm constantly changing the status to 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:14.400 you know, stay focused, and because I I don't want 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:15.840 my phone to you know. 0:07:15.840 --> 0:07:17.680 What it is, he's me around by the nose, you 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:19.040 know what it is. I'm not trying to come off 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.160 as extra pathetic, but I get very few texts per day. 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:22.880 Oh. 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:25.200 I don't have much of a social network, so I 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:27.840 really get very very few texts, might get three texts 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:31.080 a day. Mmmm, So makes it less likely that it's 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:33.520 going to be disturbing. I mean that pretty much explains 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:35.280 why I don't even know how to turn that on. 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:37.480 Do not disturb. 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.040 Yeah, I have do not disturb, but I have certain 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:42.120 contacts that can still get through it. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.800 Well, yeah, Jack, you might be fascinated to hear this. 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.040 If you have do not disturb on and somebody on 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:50.240 your favorites list, which would be you know, all my 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:55.400 kids and Judy. Obviously, if they call you twice, it 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:59.120 busts through. It realizes Okay, this is an emergency, so 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:00.840 you just call your hang out up. You call again, 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:03.360 and your phone rings and you can wake somebody up 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:03.760 or whatever. 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:11.840 Interesting text message alerts in general cause people anxiety. Usually 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:16.120 it's like a shot of kind of excitement, excitement anxiety. 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:18.680 Maybe that's where you gotta start define anxiety. And I 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:20.360 have trouble with that a little bit myself, since I 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:23.160 got a one kid that deals with anxiety and takes medication. 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.200 Yeah, and there's but that's that's an all purpose term 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.400 that's used in a bunch of different ways. That's I 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:31.760 knew going into this that this would come up. I mean, 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:37.200 there's anxiety, and it's generally used sense nervousness. Then there's 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.679 anxiety disorders and anxiety attacks. 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:43.360 I usually think think of anxiety as a negative though 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.560 it's an unpleasant feeling, whereas excitement isn't a positive, right, 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:50.520 Anxiety is like dread. I don't have anxiety for whatever reason. 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.640 It might be my lack I should care more and 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.160 I don't care enough, so that lowered that. That's like 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.560 my older son who's just so far down the Spacoli 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:00.280 road on that just like you know, you know what, 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.200 if you don't care, it's really easy. That's what he 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.440 says about practically. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.200 Everything the Woody Harrelson effect. 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.640 Yeah, he is not anxious. He's the least anxious person around. 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:09.960 Wow. 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:12.360 Yeah, I don't know, as you're born with it. My 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:17.479 first two kids came a year apart. One utterly fearless, 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:21.959 plunge down slides, swinging on bars that were so high 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:24.120 that he gave me a heart attack. The kid number 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.680 two very cautious, always very cautious from day. 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:30.600 One, and just on the positivity happiness gene. This is 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.719 going to sidetrack us. But I was talking to our 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:36.360 most recent sitter who's leaving. Got our first job out 0:09:36.400 --> 0:09:39.440 of college. She's twenty two. She's driving to Colorado starting 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:41.640 a new job. Very very cool. I'm very excited for her. 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:47.079 Graduated with a very fancy degree. She grew up in 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:51.480 foster homes her whole life. Oh wow, many of them horrific. 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:55.400 She spent some times went in between foster homes where 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:58.439 she was just alone in like the big giant holding 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.480 pen for foster kids. She was eleven years old. She 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.679 was in by herself in one of these places with 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:06.960 all kinds of abusive kids, just on her own until 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:09.320 a family came up on the list. I mean, just 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.920 an amazing story. Walks around with a smile on her 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:15.199 face all the time. She's one of those perma smile people, 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:19.800 just has a positive attitude. And I said, that's interesting 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:21.480 because she's telling me more about it yesterday. Is helping 0:10:21.480 --> 0:10:22.959 her take stuff to the dumb She said, yeah, I 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:24.440 don't know what are you gonna do about it? But 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.240 you know, you're just you know, I'm not plenty of 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.400 other people who had pretty good lives who were grimacing 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:32.600 all the time. So how much of that is genetic 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:34.160 and how much of that is choice? They need to 0:10:34.160 --> 0:10:36.240 figure that out. I would like to know how much 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:38.319 myself I can control, or so they can tell me 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.560 there's nothing you can do about that. You're like eighty 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:43.960 percent grimace. So he's just there's nothing, there's nothing, there's 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:44.600 no change in that. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:47.800 Yeah, I've always believed that that sort of inborn thing 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.400 you can maybe and this is just a spitball number, 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:53.280 but you can maybe change it twenty percent. You can 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:58.240 remind yourself constantly, you know, gratitude or remember your blessings, 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:00.959 that sort of thing. I often joke that I came 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:05.679 out of the womb annoyed. You can alter that sum, 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:09.840 but you're not gonna change your makeup, your emotional makeup. 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:12.520 She did. I did say, it's goin to bother you 0:11:12.600 --> 0:11:15.880 sometimes when like people have had, you know, much easier 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.840 lives than you complain. She said, oh yeah, yeah, it 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:21.720 makes me crazy when somebody's you know, their parents won't 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.440 get them the newest iPhone. When she had foster parents 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:27.880 who wouldn't feed her as punishment for not doing the laundry, 0:11:27.920 --> 0:11:31.199 write or something, Good Lord, she had one foster parent 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:35.240 group take her in. She actually asked the woman because 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.280 she thought this woman was a nice person. She knew 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:39.880 her somehow. I forget it was like a teacher or 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:41.559 neighbor or something, but she knew this woman and ask, 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.720 you know, they're going to send me out to the 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:45.760 foster home. Would you be willing to take me in? 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:47.160 And that a woman said yeah, And she thought it 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:49.640 was so great. Bake basically took her in as a 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:52.600 slave to work and wouldn't feed her if she didn't 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.719 do all the work that was expected to be done. 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:59.719 Good Lord, and that unbelievable, Wow awful. Yeah, this girl 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:00.800 turned out fantastic. 0:12:01.520 --> 0:12:03.959 Yeah, wow, that's that's a wonderful story. 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:05.440 I know I thought about having her on the air. 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:07.920 I mean, every one of her stories was so compelling. 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:08.960 Wow. 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.200 And I talked to her about how we were well 0:12:11.200 --> 0:12:13.480 aware of the statistics, and she started rattling off the 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.880 statistics of foster kids and the likelihood you end up 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:21.320 in prison or pregnant blah blah blah blah blah. Can 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:23.200 I get back to anxiety at thisappoint or Yeah, we 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:23.480 want to. 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:25.439 Talk to her about that. You know, that's been a 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.480 cause we've both supported for a long time. I'd love 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:29.600 to get to double down on that, honestly. 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:31.920 Yeah. 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:35.120 But anyway, she's sunshiny and has kind of an internal 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:37.720 optimism that's that's amazing and not anxious. 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:40.920 Okay, so now we've worked our ways up to our 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:43.720 way up to twenty one percent. My alarm clock, alarm, 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:47.160 that makes you anxious? Okay, yeah it does, Katie. 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:52.920 Uh the night before Yeah, honestly, yeah, I'll go I 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:55.320 probably checked my phone like three times a night. 0:12:55.240 --> 0:12:59.199 Before I go to That's the OCD thing, right, N 0:12:59.480 --> 0:12:59.840 I don't. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.240 I think it's just because I've forgotten to set it 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:05.520 before and then all, you know, all hell breaks loose. 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:12.239 So uh, someone near me, heavy breathing, Yes. 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:14.600 Yeah, yeah, that drives me nuts. 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:18.240 Oh that doesn't surprise me a bit, knowing you as 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.600 I do that you've got a bit of the missophonia. 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.600 Oh big time. Oh my god, my poor husband Drew 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:26.120 on his birthday. I was driving him to dinner and 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:28.400 he had he had those nose whistles, you know, when 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:34.400 somebody's like God, I was doing everything in my power, like, 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:37.719 you know, just pick pick your battles. He can't control this, 0:13:37.800 --> 0:13:40.120 not out of you deal. And finally I just just went, 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:42.880 are you whistling a tune with your nozzle? 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:50.400 Stops whistling through your nose or I will murder you. 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:52.840 Hey, what's up? Nose whistle? Yeah? 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:57.600 God, you are so my daughter's sister from another mother? 0:13:57.920 --> 0:13:58.440 That is? 0:13:58.520 --> 0:13:59.400 That is a good one. 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:02.000 Alternate Papa, any. 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:04.120 Phone calls when I'm not expecting, when a third of 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:07.360 people get anxious for that, I don't. But maybe it's 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.240 because I grew up before you ever knew who was 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:09.640 calling you. 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:12.079 Yeah, I got to tell you. I have one friend 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.720 in particular, who is I will call you if I 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:19.360 have a question guy, And he's an older guy than me. 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:25.320 And the first few times it was weird, like, why 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:28.320 didn't you just text me what's going on here? But 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:31.440 now I'm back to old school Joe. I'm like, oh, 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:33.320 look it is, and I pick up the phone then 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:37.640 talk to him, which is interesting, as you've often pointed 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:42.000 out Jack kids who've never lived that life at all. 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:47.320 They can't get back to being comfortable with something they've 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:48.400 never been comfortable with. 0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:52.600 Yeah, I don't know. I mean I think we text 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:54.320 too much, no call enough. But if you just have 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:57.160 like a one word answer sort of question for me, 0:14:57.280 --> 0:14:58.240 please text. 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.400 Oh, I'm so calling you with one word and. 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:03.320 What time am I supposed to be there? Seven o'clock 0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:08.160 is a text, not a call. Maybe if you weren't 0:15:08.160 --> 0:15:13.520 so hostile, you get more texts. Perhaps Listening to someone 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.720 chew loudly, it's a different than breathe loudly forty percent 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:20.440 per chewing will make me uh, I will pluck your 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:23.160 eyes out and feed them to you. I can't handle 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:24.240 people chewing, and. 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.120 Then I'll get mad at you for loudly chewing on 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:26.720 your eyeballs. 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:29.480 I leave you're going to feed me eyeballs. They sound 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:30.040 chewing to me. 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.360 I realize it's my problem, not yours. I leave the room. 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.960 If somebody's chewing loudly, and I've been asked before, where'd 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:36.440 you go? I I just had to leave because I 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.680 can't listen to your chew. Not your fault, it just 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:43.960 it makes me insane. When the Wi fi is lagging 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:47.400 or cuts out, that kind of makes me. I don't 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:49.640 know why that bothers me trying to watch a video 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:53.840 or something. It just keeps locking up. Yeah. 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:55.920 If I didn't depend on it for work, I think 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:58.280 I would probably just grab a book or go play 0:15:58.320 --> 0:15:58.960 golf or something. 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:00.560 Grab a book. Aren't you a saint? 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:05.160 Wow? Okay, says your eyeball. Sure. 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:10.400 Oh h People talking to me when I want silence, well, 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:17.080 oh yeah, that's always so that doesn't work. My youngest 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:19.240 is really good at just telling me, Dad, I would 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:20.680 love it if you left the room and I would 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:21.960 just got to see her by myself. 0:16:22.600 --> 0:16:27.040 Okay, good communication, a little alone time recharge. 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.800 These are more annoyances than an anxieties. 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:33.120 I agree, That's why I have trouble. Let's define anxiety here. 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:36.120 A knock on the front door when I'm prepared for guests, 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:38.720 when I'm not preparing prepared for guests, A knock on 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:39.400 the front door. 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:45.120 Yeah, the unannounced arrival at my door. How often is 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.120 it ever positive? When it is, it's. 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.280 Always oh okay, yeah, you know your neighbors said, we 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:55.360 have leftover pie or whatever it is. But it's almost 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:58.920 never left over pie. It's somebody trying to sell me something. 0:16:58.960 --> 0:17:00.720 Yeah, or Amazon. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:02.360 They'll knock on the door sometimes. 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.240 Yeah, that's weird. How random that is? Like one out 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:07.200 of a hundred deliveries they knock on the door, and 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:08.840 I think, why this one? Why? 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:09.200 Yeah? 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:10.800 All the other ones you just drop it at my 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:14.480 front door. And I always say to the people trying 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:16.159 to sell me stuff, if I want to buy this, 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:18.560 I know where to find it. Can you take me 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:21.920 off whatever list I am on? You ass hat? I 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:25.399 say at the end as they walk away under my breath. Nice. 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:25.800 Uh. 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.680 And then finally when I see someone that I don't 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:31.919 want to talk to about half of people. 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:35.280 Saw one of my mom's friends the other day, and 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.240 I ducked into the wine aisle like a dumb ass 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:42.200 because that's the first place she'd got. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.920 A bit of a betty and you know she's coming 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:44.600 to the wine Now. 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:47.520 She comes around the corner, kiddy, I'm like, shit. 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:52.400 Oh, sorry, that's funny. I don't have much of that 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:55.080 when I see some maybe at work at work sometimes 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:56.720 in my real life, I don't know. 0:17:56.840 --> 0:17:58.679 Probably looked like I was trying to steal something with 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:00.520 the way that I was like kind of looking around 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:02.520 trying to find her. It was was that was awkward 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:02.720 of me? 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:05.280 Oh no, here comes How often does that happen to you? 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:10.480 Joe my now and again? And it's it's people who 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:13.200 I know who are very very chatty. 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:15.440 Yeah that I. 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:18.600 Think, Oh oh no, oh no, oh no, we're walking 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:22.480 our dogs in the same direction. Oh no, But I 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:23.760 just I'm not chatty. 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.040 That's when you put your phone up to your ear, 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:28.640 pretend you're talking into it, and then you just kind 0:18:28.640 --> 0:18:30.040 of give them the hey, how's it going. 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:33.320 That's pretty good? And that's pretty good, Michael. 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:34.840 Women do that to me all the time. 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:43.199 Yeah, I am compulsively honest. I know that sounds like 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:44.600 self congratulations. 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:48.720 It. I have a hard time doing stuff like I 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:50.359 don't think I never have, and I don't think I 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:52.359 could either for some reason. It's weird. I don't know. 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:53.760 I just don't think I could pretend to be on 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.800 a phone call. Yeah. I have a couple of times, 0:18:57.200 --> 0:19:00.800