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Speaker 1: I have a disability? Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: I feel like we're going like full circle where, well

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Speaker 2: you know what you are special? Ope, you are special?

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Speaker 2: There we go and I think everyone just wants your specialness?

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Speaker 1: Wow wow?

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah everyone? Uh not.

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Speaker 1: Everyone is a star that shines as bright as you,

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Speaker 1: and some people want to steal that shine.

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Speaker 2: Some people want to steal your disabled shine, but not today. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: don't enable them to steal your disablement.

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Speaker 1: That's right, but that is.

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Speaker 2: Yours and yours alone. Everyone else that shares that same disability.

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Speaker 1: Yes, let's get into it. Okay. So about a year ago,

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Speaker 1: my university added psychological problems to these special needs students requests. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I have been diagnosed with severe anxiety and clinical depression.

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Speaker 1: So I decided to apply to the program. The program

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Speaker 1: and the doctor. Then they contacted my doctor about it. Well,

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Speaker 1: I got in and I now have about fifty percent

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Speaker 1: I need there's some absences allowed, et cetera, et cetera.

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Speaker 1: So it sounds like opis the new inductee, right in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's nice that OP has gotten into this

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Speaker 2: like program, but that's kind of like the saddest program

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Speaker 3: But I'm happy that I'm in the program.

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Speaker 2: But I'm depressed because I'm in the program because I'm depressed,

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Speaker 1: Out id You know, I would argue.

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Speaker 2: Putting myself make you so happy that you're in the

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Speaker 1: Now, that is that is the vicious cycle that and

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Speaker 3: I remember.

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Speaker 2: Kids used to apply this is in high school for me,

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Speaker 2: but I remember kids were like, uh, get like adhd

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Speaker 1: On the test, right, I mean, but then but if

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Speaker 3: It, then I guess you should get extra time. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like and it's like everyone's going to try

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Speaker 3: I think everyone in.

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Speaker 3: Did you get extra because you did you have any you.

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Speaker 1: Have only no, no, no, only when I was twenty

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Speaker 3: You didn't even get any of the benefits, which bullshit.

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Speaker 1: I just I don't know. I just I was My mom.

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Speaker 2: One hundred person has ADHD, which I think means I

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Speaker 1: My mom, my mom's sister, and aunt all have very

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Speaker 2: That woman cannot focus on a thing. Yeah, except she can,

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Speaker 1: There you go, lots of people do thanks atter all.

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Speaker 1: One of my friends learned about my special needs status

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Speaker 1: then confronted me the first thing you do whenever your

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Speaker 2: You just got cancer. Wait, I'm looking at the wrong

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Speaker 3: Notes over here. I am.

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Speaker 1: I am just you know, take take notes as much

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Speaker 1: They told me since I was stable and functioning, I

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Speaker 3: Is are you?

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Speaker 2: How?

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Speaker 3: How is it?

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Speaker 2: How is you only getting extra time taking away from

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Speaker 1: No, there's not getting extra time on a test never. Never. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It's like extra time on tests and like you get

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Speaker 2: It was called brewing cast, and they would like cast

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Speaker 2: the some of the lectures. But some teachers who are like, no,

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Speaker 2: So like I'm talking about I mean, yeah, maybe bro No, no, no,

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Speaker 2: you don't understand. I don't have Subway Surfer playing on

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Speaker 3: The lectures going on. How do you expect me to

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Speaker 1: It's like I need Subway Surfer instead of power points

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Speaker 1: It's true that I have been in therapy for a

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Speaker 1: quote unquote not meant for me. Some of my friends

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Speaker 1: I'm like fucking game the system. I mean even even

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Speaker 2: A little extra time like that? That's scar you know who?

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Speaker 2: That's awesome. We get a little extra time.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I wonder if this is like a hyper competitive major. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It's like, oh thirty minutes you actually in high school

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Speaker 1: How just like go to the bat like, oh, teacher,

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's amazing. I had a class that they would

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Speaker 1: That's hilarious game the system, baby. So now I am

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Speaker 1: There is an update, but Sam, as of right now,

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Speaker 2: I mean the pro they the school is deciding who

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Speaker 2: Are who are Op's friends? To say that you're not

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Speaker 3: I don't know this. This seems kind of dumb.

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Speaker 1: I don't think OPI should get out of this program.

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Speaker 1: I think Opie should get out of this friend group. Facts,

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Speaker 1: but the real problem. Yeah, dude, this friend group's too neurotypical. Yes,

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Speaker 1: First of all, thank you to everyone for the encouragement

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Speaker 1: So we talked, and at first it seemed like she

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Speaker 1: I deal with depression and anxiety, and I don't need

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Speaker 1: Congratulations, Oh my god, wants the program?

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Speaker 1: You can apply for it too, Yeah, it's there if

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's so dumb. Wow, it's so dumb.

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Speaker 2: She expressed that she feels as though this was encouraging

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Speaker 1: She felt like the university was playing favorites. Has she applied?

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Speaker 2: you next time. I sent my boss dirty magazines to

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Speaker 1: We stand a life ruining.

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Speaker 3: King implode that marriage.

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Speaker 1: That's right for no reason.

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Speaker 2: The setting a high volume independent tire shop in northern

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Speaker 3: We'll call it one two three Tire. The target, evil

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Speaker 2: The backstory, so Jay had been the GM of one

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Speaker 2: Jay's actions, Oh god, damn, Jay, you're just ruined in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we need to wrestle his member down. Yeah, we

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Speaker 2: He believes that a woman's place is uneducated, barefoot, pregnant,

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Speaker 2: How dare you shoes, sir? Yeah, unless unless it's like

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Speaker 3: Why why this guy?

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Speaker 2: If this thing out of your control happens, your life

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Speaker 1: I keep thinking, he's like, Wow, this guy's awful, but

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Speaker 2: He's so good credit being bad. Yeah, Ruth was going

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Speaker 2: John the revenge. Ruth and I decided one evening that

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I created a throwaway email and got him a

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Speaker 2: bill me later subscription to Hustler magazine, Playboy, and Benthouse,

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Speaker 1: I'm loving this.

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Speaker 2: he's not saying his wife kicked him out. He's far

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Speaker 3: Wow, Ruth, the one that hates his guts.

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Speaker 1: I love. I love how he's just deciding, like I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just make sure and take this batula and are

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Speaker 2: you pregnant? Because you should be get on it. After all,

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Speaker 2: her divorce is going to be finalized at the end

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Speaker 3: We'll call her.

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Speaker 2: Liz overheard him talking to Ruth in a less than

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Speaker 1: Like and he it's like so so obvious. And also

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Speaker 3: Fire him, bro fire him. But there's more. Oh.

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Speaker 2: The next morning, Lou called j to his office and

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Speaker 2: was far kinder than I would have been. Jay was

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Speaker 2: to lose his title of GM and go to work

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Speaker 2: in another one two three tire location an hour away

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Speaker 2: until the end of the year. Beginning in twenty thirteen.

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Speaker 2: Jay would need to find other employment. Jay was also,

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Speaker 2: I think it's probably like there was probably some contract thing,

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Speaker 2: like maybe it was on.

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Speaker 1: Contract they're obligated to.

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Speaker 3: Obvigated to a higher until twenty thirteen. Interesting.

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Speaker 2: Also, the location that Jay was relocated to added an

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Speaker 2: hour to his already hour long commute.

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Speaker 3: Nice yikes.

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Speaker 2: I suspected that Lou also encourage Jay to reconcile with

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Speaker 2: his wife, which Jay did. Oh he did, Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think they got back together,

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Speaker 2: just like the Yeah, but this gets better and crazier.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I could get more, but let's

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Speaker 1: do it.

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Speaker 2: So Jay ended his employment with one two three Tire

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Speaker 2: in January of twenty thirteen and never suspected any involvement

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Speaker 2: from me. In fact, to this day he stays in

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Speaker 2: an occasional contact with me.

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Speaker 1: That is crazy that he got away with it and

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Speaker 1: he never even suspected him.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: That means like Opie was I guess, like pretty close

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Speaker 2: to the chest about not liking this guy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because it aimed if he's reaching out to yes, even.

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Speaker 3: Like Jay is like, oh, I'm still buddy buddy with Opie. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He went to work for another tire store, this one

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Speaker 2: a corporate chain as a store manager. He put his

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Speaker 2: house in the market, bought a new one closer to

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Speaker 2: his new employer and everything. A year later, he was

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Speaker 2: fired after bringing a seven figure lawsuit on them. They

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Speaker 2: settled out of court and he moved back to the

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Speaker 2: house he was in before, as it hadn't sold.

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Speaker 1: He couldn't even sell his house.

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Speaker 3: That's how hard this guy.

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Speaker 2: His next job was five minutes from his home, and

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Speaker 2: his new boss was the guy that had gotten Jay

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Speaker 2: fired back in two thousand and four. That one lasted

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Speaker 2: a couple of years until Jay gave up on finding

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Speaker 2: employment in the area and moved himself and his whole

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Speaker 2: family to the Midwest around twenty sixteen. Now in the Midwest,

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Speaker 2: Jay is unable to keep a job in the car

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Speaker 2: business for more than a year, and as soon as

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Speaker 2: each of his kids turns eighteen, they seemed to move

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Speaker 2: right back to the area they grew up. His new

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Speaker 2: England home sold in twenty nineteen for less than he

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Speaker 2: bought it for. Ruth still works at one two three

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Speaker 2: Tire and is very happy there now icing on the cake.

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Speaker 2: In early twenty twenty one, I finally left my job

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Speaker 2: at one two three Tire, sold my house, and became

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Speaker 2: a full time RVaR. I've seen the forty seven US states,

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Speaker 2: including the Midwestern state in town that Jay resides in.

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Speaker 2: I looked him up when I got there, and he

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Speaker 2: came to see me after he got out of work

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Speaker 2: in my new Orphy. He said, boy, you must really

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Speaker 2: think something of me to look me up. And want

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Speaker 2: to see me all the way out here if we

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Speaker 2: only knew.

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Speaker 3: The half of it.

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Speaker 1: Wow, dude, damn dude.

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Speaker 2: Op is kind of maniacal bro like Jay just thinks

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Speaker 2: like op and him or buddies. Yeah, and like the

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Speaker 2: only reason that OPI went out and traveled to the

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Speaker 2: middle of America to see this guy is just to

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Speaker 2: basically gloat how terrible this guy's life is.

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Speaker 1: Also, like, if he had gotten away with with all

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Speaker 1: that stuff for six years, probably, I mean probably he

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Speaker 1: would eventually gotten something brought on him. But the reason

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Speaker 1: why his life was completely destroyed was because of Opie

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Speaker 1: I know, and he has no idea big yikes.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Also, if this person like like Jay, if Jay ever

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Speaker 1: comes across this, he has to know I mean all

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Speaker 1: of the details.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the three magazines, I mean, how many people work

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Speaker 2: at a tire shop and have had that happen and

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Speaker 2: have eleven kids? Like the about that people that that

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Speaker 2: is true for is very very small.

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Speaker 3: Guys.

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Speaker 1: If you if you think you know either op or Jay,

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Speaker 1: please do the like Beyonce. You know where they go

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Speaker 1: and they find people, go do that and then report

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Speaker 1: back to us in the comments and let us let

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Speaker 1: US want to track these people down. Yeah,