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Speaker 1: but I've actually stopped using that. And people are so

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Speaker 1: scared to sweat, and it kind of goes to your

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00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:51,320
Speaker 1: topic of um, what we convince ourselves we should do

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Speaker 1: for beauty or whatever. Like our bodies are supposed to sweat,

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Speaker 1: that is normal. So like you know, and if your

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Speaker 1: body is sweating and you smell about, it's only because

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00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:03,119
Speaker 1: there's something toxic inside of your body that needs to

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Speaker 1: get out. And so what we do with all this

434
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 1: anti purseprint and all this stuff is actually really polluting

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Speaker 1: our body. Yeah, I don't use an antip perspirant. I

436
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Speaker 1: use a deodorant good for you. So I use an

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Speaker 1: oil by living my patients. If anyone's curious, it's the

438
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 1: Rose Poetic pits. It's amazing. I just used Tom's. Yeah,

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00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,679
Speaker 1: And it's funny because I used to have an issue

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Speaker 1: if I wore a white T shirt when I was

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Speaker 1: using any purseprint. When I was younger. It would turn

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Speaker 1: the armpits of my note like almost neon orange scary,

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Speaker 1: and it wouldn't wash out. So I'm like, what the

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Speaker 1: funk is this? And then I switched and I was

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Speaker 1: sweating a lot like it was it wasn't doing its job.

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Speaker 1: And then I switched to deodorant, and I don't feel

447
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Speaker 1: like I sweat as much and I don't have those stains,

448
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: so my body didn't like it. Deep. Yeah, so I

449
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 1: don't know what the moral I think every like basically,

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Speaker 1: they challenged Monica on the podcast to do a thirty

451
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Speaker 1: day trial. That's what I'm saying about hair though, give

452
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Speaker 1: it thirty he like Docks is like, give it thirty days.

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Speaker 1: See if like the A because she complains that her

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Speaker 1: legs are always Ashley, she's got dry skin. Yeah, the

455
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Speaker 1: more you put soap, give herself thirty days. Only take like,

456
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Speaker 1: only you soap on your privates and your armpits and

457
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Speaker 1: the places that would smell. Yeah, the kid with the

458
00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:26,680
Speaker 1: dirt thing through me a little bit. Not gonna lie

459
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 1: because like, I think about my boyfriend's kids and they

460
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Speaker 1: don't look dirty. A lot of times were like, when's

461
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Speaker 1: the last time you had a bat, like, you know,

462
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Speaker 1: because they're not with them all the time, and so

463
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Speaker 1: sometimes I'm like they've been playing outside, they've been you know,

464
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Speaker 1: doing all this stuff and running around. Probably just really

465
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Speaker 1: don't like business, so they probably need a bath or

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Speaker 1: just like a shower or something. Um, but yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: I don't know, we're kind of I do think their

468
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Speaker 1: kids get in the shower like I think they take

469
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Speaker 1: because they just dop okay and just yeah, well I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm going to consider this, but I definitely I think

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Speaker 1: I do the what is it? Pits and slits and slits?

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Speaker 1: You gotta the tits though, I don't know unless your

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Speaker 1: nipples are like lactating or I mean, if your tits,

474
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,680
Speaker 1: like if you got big boobs, you gotta get I

475
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Speaker 1: don't have to even think about that. So you're like

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Speaker 1: just pitts and slits. Story of my life. God run

477
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Speaker 1: a rag through it. I forgot about that thing, so

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Speaker 1: wait really quick. Though. I was before we started this,

479
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Speaker 1: I was like, maybe I should look up even like

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Speaker 1: what skin? Does you know what the epidermis? I believe

481
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 1: the epidermis is the outer layer, so the skin is

482
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Speaker 1: the largest organ. This is according the web MD The

483
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Speaker 1: skin is the largest organ in the body, with a

484
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Speaker 1: total area of about twenty square feet. The skin protects

485
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Speaker 1: us from microbes and the elements, and it helps regulate

486
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Speaker 1: body temperature and permit sensation of touch, heat and cold.

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Speaker 1: There's three layers. The epidermist, the outermost layer of skin,

488
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Speaker 1: provides a waterproof barrier and creates skin tone. The dermist,

489
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Speaker 1: beneath the epidermis, which is the middle layer, contains tough

490
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Speaker 1: connective tissue, hair follicles and sweat glands, and the deeper

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Speaker 1: sub subcutaneous tissue. The hypodermist is made of fat and

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Speaker 1: connective tissue, and then the skin's color is created by

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Speaker 1: special cells called Millenno sites melano sites melanos are you

494
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Speaker 1: looking at like I should know how to say that?

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Speaker 1: Which produced the pigment melanin Melano sites are located in

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Speaker 1: the epidermis, So okay, yeah, well there you go. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think moral of the story is you don't need

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Speaker 1: to bathe every day, just pits and slits, pits and

499
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Speaker 1: slips obviously, I mean, if anyone's willing to try it, like,

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Speaker 1: if you're having issues, I would love for you to

501
00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: like slide into our d m s or send an

502
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Speaker 1: email because I want to know if this works for people. Yeah,

503
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 1: I actually want to know what the protocol for others are.

504
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 1: I like feel a little dirty sometimes when I'm talking

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Speaker 1: with other people about my shower, right, like I never

506
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Speaker 1: washed my hair whatever, And I'm like, but I don't

507
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: think I speak. But some people are very thrown by that.

508
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 1: So if you guys are people who don't shower every day,

509
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Speaker 1: uh slat into our d m s um at velvet's edge,

510
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: chip is at chip dorsh. Do you think that all

511
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: body out or smells bad? No, And that's what I

512
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 1: was saying to you about excuse me and just choke. Um. No,

513
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 1: I actually love the smell, like I love my boyfriend's

514
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 1: smell when he sweats. I love it. It's like good

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00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 1: to me. Um. But I do like there's a limit though,

516
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: like when someone smells oh, that's terrible. Also, that's what

517
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: I really do believe. It's what you're putting in your body.

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Speaker 1: Like I noticed, if I'm drinking more alcohol, I have

519
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Speaker 1: bad v oh. Whereas like if I don't drink or

520
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:48,600
Speaker 1: I'm drinking a ton of water, I don't smell even

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Speaker 1: when I'm sweating or like if I've been eating like

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00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 1: fried foods or you know, like it literally is what

523
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: you're putting into your body and like the toxins need

524
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: to get out and so that smells bad. So if

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Speaker 1: you're smelling, think about what you're put in. Right our

526
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 1: bodies are really amazing, Like I would imagine and this

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Speaker 1: is my if you're eating breakfast or lunch or dinner

528
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 1: right now, like I'm sure your ships are worse, smell worse.

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00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 1: You're eating crappy food and if you're eating clean, they're

530
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,479
Speaker 1: like those phantom ones that you don't even see. Silent.

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Speaker 1: It's not silent but deadly. They're just silent but silent

532
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 1: but friendly. Our bodies really are amazing. Um. Anyway, you

533
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Speaker 1: guys keep us posting on that. You can also email

534
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 1: us at the edge at velvet dot com. Woof, that

535
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: was almost bad about our practice. Okay, next week we

536
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: decided we're going to venture into the topic of vaccines.

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00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: So um, you know, Chip and I have a very

538
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Speaker 1: strong opinion about this. And before we get on our

539
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 1: little brant, I would love to know your you guys

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00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 1: thoughts and where we sit with the listeners. Um, before

541
00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: we just you know, annihilate the topic. So email us

542
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 1: please with your thoughts about this vaccine, the stuff going

543
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 1: on right now. I think it's very divisive again. We're

544
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: back in that place where everyone is like arguing their

545
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 1: side so hardcore. We've got a lot of COVID cases

546
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: rising again. All the CDC is just calling for the

547
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 1: mask mandate to come back. Like it's just all this

548
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: stuff so I can't go back into isolation. So yeah,

549
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 1: well we're going to talk about that next week. But yeah,

550
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,640
Speaker 1: email us at the Edge at velvets edge dot com,

551
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: slide into my d MS at Velvet's Edge or chip

552
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: is at chip doorsh you know how to spell it. Um.

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00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: I do have a couple of listener emails I want

554
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: to go to. So this one was actually in relation

555
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 1: to something I posted on Instagram. But we talked about

556
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: it a couple of weeks ago on the podcast and

557
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: it was about when I'm you were like talking about

558
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 1: going to water parks and I was like, let's talk

559
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: about the patriarchy. Um. But I got an email from

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00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 1: one of you guys and it says, Hey, Kelly, I'm

561
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: a longtime listener. I love your podcast and I love

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00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: your evolution as I learned, as you learn more about yourself.

563
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: I listen to your podcast where you referenced Radical Awakening

564
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Speaker 1: and the bikini pics. I was talking about the bikini

565
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,479
Speaker 1: picks that I had posted on Instagram, um, and I

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00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 1: was on vacation. It is interesting you mentioned this because

567
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Speaker 1: when I saw the bikini picks, I did think while

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00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 1: the bikini picks, I even had to step back and think,

569
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: she is way more than this, but she should post

570
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 1: whatever makes her happy. I think we are compelled to

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00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 1: prove we are attractive women. I am fifty and in shape,

572
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: but bikinis are no longer in my wardrobe. However, I'm

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00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 1: asking myself the same question on the image I project.

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Speaker 1: Am I feeding this patriarchy? I think the answer is

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00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 1: yes to a degree. What I love is that I

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00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 1: am questioning more what is important to me and what

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00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: I want to project. I commend you for always exploring

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00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: these topics. Pam. That was it was. It was honestly,

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Speaker 1: it was kind of when I read the part where

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Speaker 1: she was like, I did think while the bikini picks,

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Speaker 1: I was like, I knew I was feeling judged. I

582
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 1: was judging myself almost. It is a really weird thing

583
00:28:58,000 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: to navigate. Again, I feel like I'm in this really

584
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: weird place of trying to balance or figure things out,

585
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: and there's like I don't have answers, and so when

586
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: you're navigating things publicly, it's scary. It's like you want

587
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 1: to have your answer or your side or your stance

588
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 1: before you talk about it publicly, you know, and I

589
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: just don't. Well. I saw a meme today that just

590
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: said remember remember always remember your why. That's a good one,

591
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: which I think it's a really important thing to remember.

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00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 1: Like if if you're posting bikini picks to be like

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00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 1: for like feedback, or you want to be thirst because

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00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: for attention. I don't know that's the best why unless

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00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 1: you're willing to be like I just wanted some fucking attention.

596
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: Just it and you own it. What drives me crazy

597
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: is when it's like the photo doesn't match the caption

598
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: and it's like, okay, like stop acting like you're trying

599
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: to like cure climate change by like posting no I'm not,

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00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: this isn't specific to yours, but like there's so many

601
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 1: accounts or like, yeah, what are your thoughts on like

602
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 1: climate change? You know, it's like but they're like yeah,

603
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 1: they're like it's like a really sexy pose, and so

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00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: I think like that is someone not acknowledging their why.

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00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: Like if you're gonna be a thirst trap, be a

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00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 1: thirst trap, and that's fine, Like I think own that.

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Speaker 1: But I think if like if you're saying, like I

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Speaker 1: love this bikini, like swipe up to buy it, then

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00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: you're going to sell more of them if you're wearing

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Speaker 1: it and you're showing how it looks like versus being

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00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 1: like me, hold it up with my fingers, or if

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00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 1: you're like, oh god, soaking up the sun, like yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's there should be no shame in that.

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Speaker 1: I think it's a weird balance for me because I

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Speaker 1: do feel like Velvet Edge is evolving and this is

616
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: honestly a product of the last year, mostly of just

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00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 1: the pan Demmick and like also I think my life

618
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 1: and just maybe where I'm evolving um and also playing

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00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,719
Speaker 1: into like we were talking about this earlier, the public

620
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 1: exposure of all of this stuff and certain aspects that

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00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: are untrue, being the things that are said about me,

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00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 1: it's like you really start to be like, oh my god,

623
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Speaker 1: I didn't realize some of the stuff that I am

624
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 1: putting out there that maybe isn't exactly in line with

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Speaker 1: who I am. And I'm just doing it because it's

626
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: like a fucking mechanical beast. You just like do things

627
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 1: that you know how to do it. It just worked

628
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 1: for so many years. It's a business, and you just

629
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 1: jump on the roller coaster, you know, um, and before

630
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 1: you know it, you're kind of long down the road.

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Speaker 1: And I think that's sort of what happened for me,

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00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: and so it it kind of took it falling apart

633
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 1: for me to go, wait a second, what do I

634
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 1: actually want to say and what do I want to communicate?

635
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: And yeah, like I fucking work out really hard and

636
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: try to take care of myself and uh, sometimes I

637
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: felt really saucy and sassy and feel good about stuff

638
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm gonna fucking post this, or like

639
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: you said, I have built a business around fashion, and

640
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 1: so like you are talking, people want to know what

641
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 1: I like to wear, like the stuff I put my

642
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: clients in, or um, the things that I'm really liking

643
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: trend wise and things like that, and so but it's

644
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 1: a weird balance between talking about that stuff that I

645
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: have built a business on and then also knowing that internally,

646
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: I have so much more going on, and thank you, yes,

647
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: and so I don't want to really be put in

648
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: a one dimensional box, but I'm really trying to navigate

649
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: what that looks like, and especially with all of the

650
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 1: conversations happening about women, and you know, the over sexualization

651
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: of women, and I have fucking participated in that, and

652
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: I would be really dumb to try to say that

653
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: I haven't. It's just what we've known. But as a woman,

654
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: you should be able to own your sexuality at the

655
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: same time totally. And I don't mean it that way,

656
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 1: but I do think there's programming in me, and I'll

657
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: just keep it on me because I can't speak for

658
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 1: other people. But like I have known most of my

659
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: life that being attractive as a woman plays into how

660
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 1: you're perceived. I think it works for men too, too,

661
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: but I would venture to say that most male CEOs

662
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 1: are probably attractive to some capacity. Yeah, I think it's

663
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: less for men than women, but it just fucking matters.

664
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: And like so then you go, oh, well, I'm gonna

665
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 1: you know, you can start using it to manipulate certain

666
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 1: situations or to further yourself or whatever, and I think

667
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: social media has really exacerbated that. And so I don't

668
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: know that it's all bad. I'm not saying that. I'm

669
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 1: just asking the questions of like what am I putting

670
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: out there and what worth is it? Like is it

671
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 1: helping people? Is it helping me? Is it the wise

672
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: and right? Well, I think for you know, for Pam's reaction,

673
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: I think the reason why she's probably like people have

674
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: that reaction to when you do it versus when some

675
00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 1: like just bikini check on Instagram is doing it is

676
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: because the bikini check is one dimensional, you know, at

677
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: least that's what they're putting out there into the world.

678
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: And for when you do when like you show another

679
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: dimension of yourself, it can be sort of jarring when

680
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 1: it's like wait a minute, that goes against that. So

681
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 1: it does take a minute, I think for someone to

682
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: sit back and they have to understand your why too,

683
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: you know. So it's like I think your hy has

684
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,720
Speaker 1: to be clear when you do it. I mean maybe

685
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't. Maybe it just needs to be clear to you.

686
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: And then that's you have to like welcome the criticism

687
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 1: or like don't give a shit about it. So as

688
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 1: long as it's clear to you. I think you can

689
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: let your head down at night and be like, I

690
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: don't give a fun what people say, Like I know

691
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: my intention, but think maybe that's the problem is I'm like,

692
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: what is my intention? Right? Like I'm literally navigating it

693
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 1: very openly to you guys, uh, which, yeah, it's just

694
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 1: gonna be messy. And I think it's like the people

695
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 1: that I gravitate towards are the people who I understand

696
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: their voice and I'm like, oh, of course that's what

697
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:54,439
Speaker 1: she's saying, or of course this falls right in line

698
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,319
Speaker 1: with X, Y and Z, and so I want to

699
00:34:57,320 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 1: be a person like that that's more intentional about the

700
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 1: things that I'm saying and making sure they're really in

701
00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: line with my voice. Like I think while you're finding

702
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 1: your voice, that's confusing. I think it's I think there's

703
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: nothing more attractive than seeing someone that like UM, exists

704
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: in like pure intention. It's a really hard place to

705
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: arrive too, because you know, we're influenced where our friends

706
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: were influenced by you know, our jobs were like we

707
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:31,919
Speaker 1: just by advertising all these things. But like to live

708
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 1: with like pure intention and to know like um, it's

709
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: so funny because I feel like you know, hippish people

710
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:40,520
Speaker 1: get made fun of all the time, but I do

711
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 1: feel like that's sort of a group of people that

712
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: like live with almost and it's like, you know, they

713
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,840
Speaker 1: they're very careful about the products that they use and

714
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: like everything is done with like really good intention. And

715
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 1: I know I'm being like that's sort of a blanket statement,

716
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 1: not a group of people, but like that's often like

717
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 1: in mountain people, you know, like when like they seem

718
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: to have like a very pure intention about like the earth.

719
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 1: And I don't know, um, I find it really attractive.

720
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,919
Speaker 1: It's a really attractive quality. So I think it's a part. Yeah.

721
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: I think as a whole, our culture is going through

722
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: this big like grow up phase. Like I feel like

723
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: we as Americans, uh, you know, in compares in to

724
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: Europe And I've talked about this, we're a little bit

725
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 1: like teenagers. And so maybe right now these questions um

726
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: that are being asked of our culture in general and

727
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 1: maybe us individually, Like what I'm talking about is just

728
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: to grow up. It's like it's time. It's like an evolution.

729
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: It's hitting us in different ways. I could not have

730
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: understood this even two years ago, probably you know, and

731
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: like I probably would never have, uh even questioned my

732
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: intentions because I need my intentions. So I thought that

733
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: was like what was being put out there. But then

734
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 1: you start to really realize, you're like, oh, maybe I

735
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 1: wasn't so clear or and it's because I wasn't really clear.

736
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 1: So just I don't know. I think it's a good

737
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 1: thing to do. And if you need you guys relate

738
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: to this, let me know. That's just sort of where

739
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: I am. But alright, this next one comes from Eric,

740
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 1: and uh, this is just kind of funny. He was

741
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,439
Speaker 1: driving and he said, Hey, Kelly, true story. An hour ago,

742
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 1: I was just in the middle of listening to your

743
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: latest podcast. In the car in front of me had

744
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 1: this bumper sticker and it made me think of you

745
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: guys show sign off. It's a hedgehog and it says

746
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 1: living on the hedge, Living on the hedge. Oh my god,

747
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 1: I just got stressed about thinking about having to do

748
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 1: the sign off. Yeah, so I posted this pick of

749
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 1: my feet. I'm sure I haven't even looked. Why don't

750
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 1: you go ahead and google that? But it was so

751
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 1: funny because I was like doing this shoot for something

752
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: else actually, and the photographer was like, um, why don't

753
00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: you lean back and see what that feels like? And

754
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 1: so I'm like in this like stretched out, sort of

755
00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: like chic fashion sexy ish typing, trying to be posed.

756
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 1: He goes, is that band aid necessary? I literally had

757
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: a fucking paw patrol bandid. My wicked beatis. Oh god,

758
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: is my rating up? Though? Let's talk about that. What

759
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 1: if it went down after the band aid? Do you

760
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 1: have a four point something? Well, last time, I think

761
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: it was a four point six that had gone up

762
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 1: like a note and we were like, oh my god,

763
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't say exactly how do you I don't know,

764
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 1: you're the one looks like a four point to five.

765
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 1: Oh no, yeah, that's probably that got updated. That's probably

766
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: what because I had had sized seven, which is probably

767
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: better for people. Yeah, they're like little man foot and

768
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: it grows along foot. Um. Anyway, so the photographers like,

769
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: is that bandite necessary? I've been getting a tattoo removed

770
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 1: off my foot, you know, And so I had blistered

771
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 1: after the last laser removal. It was necessary, in fact,

772
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 1: because I couldn't really walk around in shoes. But I

773
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: was just like I had to make fun of myself

774
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: because who that that that doesn't sum up. It's like

775
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 1: just when you think you're gonna go back to like

776
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: the way life used to be and you're going to

777
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,759
Speaker 1: post a picture or you're gonna like feel sexy, here

778
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,799
Speaker 1: comes some singer and mine just happened to be a

779
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 1: paw patrol band. Well, you know, I don't know how

780
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:22,839
Speaker 1: wiki feet works, but all of these have there's like

781
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: numbers on all of the photos. Oh no, I think

782
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 1: they're like numbers of views, and that would be my guess.

783
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 1: There's a good news. Your views are going up. That's great.

784
00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:36,840
Speaker 1: You had almost on those three photos of that one shoot,

785
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: you had almost six D views? What disturbed by that?

786
00:39:43,239 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 1: For some reason? Who are you people? Six hundred thousand people? Like,

787
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: maybe it's just a photo number, because it's like they're

788
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: literally all off by one number. So maybe that's like this,

789
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 1: Oh ship, I'm even wrong. It's five mill five thousand,

790
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: four six, So I think it's the photo number. I'm

791
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: gonna go with. It's a number of people who's looked

792
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:12,879
Speaker 1: at it. Yeah, six million people. I think we're giving

793
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: this sight a little bit more credit the person. The

794
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 1: reason I even brought up this message is because the

795
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,840
Speaker 1: person said, Hope the foot fetish Bandit didn't zoom in

796
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: on that band aid too much. Will there be a

797
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: podcast up next Friday. It's been a week and I

798
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:32,239
Speaker 1: need some edge. So we're bad guys again. Sorry about that.

799
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:33,879
Speaker 1: We'll let you guys know ahead of time next time

800
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: if we're not going to be there for a little bit,

801
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,880
Speaker 1: because we got like a multiple emails of people being like, um,

802
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 1: no edge today. It's so bad when we do it,

803
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,960
Speaker 1: but but when we don't, well, I don't have the

804
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 1: time in the in the moment of Simone Biles dropping

805
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 1: out of the Olympics and whatnot, actual people get a grip.

806
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,720
Speaker 1: I'm actually I think it's beautiful. I mean, the bravest

807
00:40:56,719 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: thing anyone could do. I cannot imagine giving that up

808
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: after you've probably worked so hard. But to know that

809
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: your mental health needs to be taken care of is

810
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:06,839
Speaker 1: the best thing. And I think that's how we should

811
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 1: start operating as a country as a whole. So I'm

812
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: grateful for her friend. Like all these trolls that are

813
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 1: like trolling her and saying she let our country down,

814
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 1: It's like, what the funk have you done? Also, she's

815
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: at the Olympics, like she's just done more for America

816
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: than any of those people. But God, we were watching

817
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: the gymnastics thing last night and I literally was saying, Uh,

818
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 1: these are like sixteen What is the amount of pressure

819
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 1: that a human being at that age should actually have,

820
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: because I can only imagine what's happening with the amount

821
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: of pressure of that stage, even you know, like being

822
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: on national television and these huge capacities, all of the

823
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: interviews and events that go on with that, especially if

824
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 1: you're one of the top people. That she was like

825
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 1: the face of the Olympics this year so well, and

826
00:41:48,719 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 1: not to mention, like think about the trauma that she's

827
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 1: still working through. Totally. She was not only the face

828
00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 1: of the Olympics, she was the face of the whole

829
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 1: like sexual assault scandal, you know, And it's like, that's

830
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: got to be true, Matt. It's exposure to walk into

831
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: that every day. I don't know. I commend her for

832
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: her bravery and being honest, and like the truth is,

833
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 1: she doesn't know as ship like she owes herself to

834
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: the opportunity to be healthy. She's a human being. Yeah,

835
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 1: so she happens to be very talented a gymnastics but

836
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: that doesn't make her not humans. So anyway, you guys,

837
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: email us because we're back, baby, and we want to

838
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: know what you guys think about vaccines because we've got

839
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: some things to say. Email us at the edge at

840
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: velvet edge dot com. You can hit me up on

841
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 1: Instagram at Velvet's Edge, chip um at Chip George. I

842
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: don't know what love I love it. And also people

843
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: capital it's a thing. It's a thing. That's another share. Um.

844
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: We'll be back next week with a new episode. Do

845
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: you have big plans this weekend? I'm now and shall

846
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 1: we get a Wave Country? Yes? I mean, are you

847
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: gonna full just fold full disclosure. I was going to

848
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: go to Wave Country this morning because we were going

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Speaker 1: to record yesterday and then we moved it to today

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Speaker 1: and Alis and I had planned to go this morning,

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Speaker 1: and I did like change plans. But it's fine. I

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Speaker 1: think I like this weekend. Okay, it's as hot as

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Speaker 1: it is today, Like we got to hit the country.

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Speaker 1: The country. I'm only we should be advertising it. It's

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Speaker 1: going to get crowded. Oh my god, I'm only going

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Speaker 1: to wave a country club. I don't know if you

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Speaker 1: clorked on that. Um, Okay, Well, we'll report back next week.

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Speaker 1: If I do go, maybe i'll document some things. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys enjoyed the bath combo. Like, what

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Speaker 1: was so fucking random? I don't know. It just it

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Speaker 1: was just in the news. In the news. I figured

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Speaker 1: it was a great Like I was listening to the

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Speaker 1: arm tracksper this morning. I was like, this is what

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Speaker 1: we got to talk about. I mean it's great. Um, well,

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Speaker 1: I hope you guys have a great weekend and when

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Speaker 1: you're out there, when you're out there living on the

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Speaker 1: edge this weekend, I hope that you guys remember too casual.

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Speaker 1: It's a little rusty, but we're good. They're ro good,

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Speaker 1: They're okay. Bye.