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Speaker 1: Hi everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to work in progress. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to work in progress friends, and happy new Year.

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Speaker 1: I hope you all are feeling excited about this big

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Speaker 1: shift into twenty twenty six. It is, according to the numerologists,

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Speaker 1: the end of a nine year the beginning of a

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Speaker 1: one year, which they say has incredible power about cycles

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Speaker 1: ending and new beginnings. It's also the year of the midterms.

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Speaker 1: Can't wait to continue fighting for democracy here in the

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Speaker 1: US and hopefully by extension with our friends around the world.

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Speaker 1: I know, whether it's you know, personal, political, or something small,

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Speaker 1: everyone tends to I don't want to say launch resolutions,

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Speaker 1: although maybe I think you all know by now. I'm

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Speaker 1: more a fan of intentions than resolutions, because at least

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Speaker 1: for me, resolutions just feel like a recipe for failure.

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Speaker 1: But I think the idea of a personal reset, you know,

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Speaker 1: of wanting to be intentional about positive change in our lives,

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Speaker 1: that resonates with me. So I'm curious what you all

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Speaker 1: are thinking about in terms of what you want to

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Speaker 1: reset or reshape. I'd love to hear it. You all

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Speaker 1: send in such great questions for this, and so I

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Speaker 1: now have more questions for you. My goodness, we got

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Speaker 1: so many I'm going to try to make my way

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Speaker 1: through them. Sammy asks, what do you look forward to

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Speaker 1: the most in twenty twenty six. Gosh, I'm just excited

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Speaker 1: that the last year is over. There were incredible times

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Speaker 1: of joy and wonderful highs, but I think the year

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Speaker 1: You know, the authoritarian shift around the world and certainly

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Speaker 1: through over half of Project twenty twenty five and eleven

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Speaker 1: just like, I want to feel like, instead of going backwards,

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Speaker 1: were going forwards. Maybe that's why the numerology stuff is

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Speaker 1: clicking for me these days. The year of the Horse,

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Speaker 1: the idea that it's forward momentum. I want that for

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Speaker 1: all of us. Things I'm looking forward to. While I'm

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Speaker 1: South Africa, I'm here to make a film that I'm

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Speaker 1: really excited about. I spoke at the top of last year.

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Speaker 1: I tried to speak the intention of wanting to do

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Speaker 1: more and more comms, and I closed out twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: five making one, and I'm starting twenty twenty six, making one,

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Speaker 1: So that's incredibly fun for me. I am really looking

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Speaker 1: forward to our little one turning five in February. You know,

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Speaker 1: my partner has two really beautiful kids, and I am

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Speaker 1: lucky enough to be a present figure in their lives

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Speaker 1: about that. And I'm hoping that i get some more

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Speaker 1: time at home in the spring. I've been traveling for

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Speaker 1: work so much, and while that is an immense privilege,

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Speaker 1: it's hard to leave. And so, yeah, just hoping for

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Speaker 1: some springtime in New York and just looking forward to Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the new energy. I keep coming back to that. But

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Speaker 1: it's a good question, Sammy. The next one, I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to read your name. It seems like a question

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Speaker 1: question here, which is, do you have any advice for

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Speaker 1: a twenty year old closeted queer woman in South Alabama

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Speaker 1: in the current political climate. I'm very sorry that it's

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Speaker 1: a question you even have to ask, because I know

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Speaker 1: that the asking comes from the reality that you don't

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Speaker 1: and for our community at large. Really, you know, I

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Speaker 1: think it's a very strange thing that, in a world

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Speaker 1: filled with a lot of danger and suffering, that anyone

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Speaker 1: could be judged for who they love, especially being judged

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Speaker 1: for who they love, you know, based on a lie.

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Speaker 1: The religious books don't preach any version of homophobia, but

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Speaker 1: mistranslations in the forties did, and now here we are.

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Speaker 1: Check out Monti Matter and her incredible faith based research

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Speaker 1: on that stuff. If you need a point to bring up,

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Speaker 1: given that you are in the South, I know that

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Speaker 1: not any person not being able to live fully as

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Speaker 1: who they are, you know, trapped in secrecy or shrouded

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Speaker 1: You know, it does damage to your soul. It has

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Speaker 1: I think my advice to you would be to be discerning,

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Speaker 1: because your safety is of paramount importance. Figure out who

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Speaker 1: You'll know what the right answer is for you. My

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Speaker 1: that not everywhere is safe to take it. So I'm

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Speaker 1: sending you a lot of love, and I hope that

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Speaker 1: the future is less in the closet for you when

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Speaker 1: you feel like that's okay. And now a word from

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Speaker 1: our sponsors who make the show possible. Nabila asks if

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Speaker 1: you feel overwhelmed, well, if someone feels overwhelmed by the

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Speaker 1: world and what's going on, what would be your advice? Sister,

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Speaker 1: I am overwhelmed all the time. My only advice is

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Speaker 1: to try to spend more time around people who feel

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Speaker 1: like sunshine, to try to give of your time to

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Speaker 1: support causes in people who need and deserve support. If

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Speaker 1: you can build community not just by location but by purpose,

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Speaker 1: you will really feel less alone. And I think the overwhelm,

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Speaker 1: the overwhelm is designed to make us isolate. It's designed

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Speaker 1: our advocacy work, you know, go to a local food pantry,

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Speaker 1: do anything that will put you in joyful community with people.

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Speaker 1: Because we can do without a lot of things, but

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Speaker 1: Haley asks, what is one thing everyone should try to

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Speaker 1: better themselves year? Oh gosh, I think listening more is

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Speaker 1: the Internet, especially has made everybody feel more binary about

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Speaker 1: self love after surviving twenty twenty five, Henry, what's a

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Speaker 1: I think I spent a lot of time thinking if

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Speaker 1: And I think that would be something I'd wish for

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Speaker 1: Near's resolution. Cleo says, what is a green flag that

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Speaker 1: like someone in their energy. Oh jiel, this is a

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Speaker 1: good question. What's the most reckless thing you've ever done

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Speaker 1: year that was so sweet. Ash and I took our

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Speaker 1: I never actually toured the battleship on the Cape Fair River.

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Speaker 1: like try the holiday tourist thing. It's really cute. And

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Speaker 1: I was lucky enough to be in his presence a

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Speaker 1: few times over the years, you know, working for progress,

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Speaker 1: and he was such an incredible leader and such an icon,

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Speaker 1: and the stories that he lived were things I wish

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Speaker 1: I'd been able to have a long conversation with him

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Speaker 1: about just for inspiration, you know, i'd say on the

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Speaker 1: like purely fun and live side, I'd love to interview

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Speaker 1: Madonna like she's wild and cool and just has such

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Speaker 1: a power to her. I would. I would love that.

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Speaker 1: So if she's around, hit me up girl, Linda. Oh,

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Speaker 1: this is a great question before a big meeting or audition,

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Speaker 1: what song do you blast to pump yourself up? So

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Speaker 1: this changes all the time for me particularly, you know,

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Speaker 1: make a playlist for a character, and you know, sometimes

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Speaker 1: they start as three, four or five songs and then

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