Speaker 1: Rooking Jewels Second Dat Up Date. Today's second Date Update
Speaker 1: is brought to you by the Bare Minimum. If more
Speaker 1: dudes would learn to do just the bare minimum, their
Speaker 1: dates would go a lot better, you think, so, yes,
Speaker 1: I do, and proof of that is Stephen, who's on
Speaker 1: the phone right now. He learned that lesson the hard way.
Speaker 1: What's up, Stephen? How are you guys? Good? You're kicking
Speaker 1: yourself for not doing the bare minimum, aren't you? Uh well, yeah,
Speaker 1: hindsight twenty twenty, but I guess so. Yeah, women actually
Speaker 1: like it when guys put in a little leffert. That's
Speaker 1: what I thought too, until I went out with Aaron. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's her name, Aaron. Yeah, I met Aaron online
Speaker 1: and learned that lesson quick. Okay, what did you do
Speaker 1: for her? Though? Backfired so badly. Well, I know I'm
Speaker 1: not the greatest dater, like that's just I'm not very
Speaker 1: good at it. Okay, but you know, I wanted to
Speaker 1: be a little extra creative. So I picked up Aaron
Speaker 1: at her house, and you know, she's beautiful. I thought
Speaker 1: she was great, and I told her that I had
Speaker 1: a surprise for her. Okay, Oh, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: see that's the thing. You want something special, But when
Speaker 1: you say surprise and internet date together, it usually is
Speaker 1: going to send up some red flags for women. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I kind of thought that maybe, But you know, I
Speaker 1: thought it'd be fun just something different, set of just
Speaker 1: the same old date, just nothing really fun. So I
Speaker 1: went to the store right before the date on the
Speaker 1: way there, and I thought it'd be funny if I
Speaker 1: just picked up like four random things and then said like,
Speaker 1: let's just try to incorporate these four things, these random
Speaker 1: things into our date somehow. Like like he had like
Speaker 1: a I don't know, a deck of cards and ken
Speaker 1: cup and you're just like, let's see how we can
Speaker 1: get it all work into a date. Yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: kind of. But I did get a few other different things.
Speaker 1: So what were the things you got, because I'm on
Speaker 1: your side right now. Well, I got a pair of sandals,
Speaker 1: and then I picked up like a big red mug
Speaker 1: Bax Bleach, And then I had a toy car that
Speaker 1: was like the four thing. I guess, how are you
Speaker 1: going to work those into a date? That was going
Speaker 1: to be the fun part, all right. Bleach would have
Speaker 1: scared me right away exactly. I thought he was going
Speaker 1: to follow it up with, like duct tape and a
Speaker 1: shovel are the other two things I thought. Thinking about
Speaker 1: it now, I guess the bleach is kind of weird. Huh, yeah,
Speaker 1: really weird. Yeah, I thought it was fun. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: if these things are so different from each other, how
Speaker 1: are they all going to be able to incorporate. I
Speaker 1: thought it'd be a fun idea. And what was her
Speaker 1: reaction to all these things? Well, as soon as she
Speaker 1: saw that, she said no right away. She's like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that, and she's very clear
Speaker 1: that doesn't sound like something I want to do. So
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, what do you want to do?
Speaker 1: I kind of froze up. I had nothing in my
Speaker 1: mind that would work as a backup plan. So let
Speaker 1: me get this straight. You could make a date work
Speaker 1: with bleach, a red mug, sandals, and I can't remember
Speaker 1: what the other thing was, and you can't make a
Speaker 1: date work with just like, hey, let's go somewhere. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I don't know, Yeah, I guess not. I
Speaker 1: just panicked. I had this kind of idea in my
Speaker 1: mind that this was going to be this adventured date,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't. And It wasn't going to be that way, guys,
Speaker 1: actually do She just said, like, let's just go to
Speaker 1: a bar and drink, we'll talk, And that's what I mean,
Speaker 1: the bare minimum. Yeah, Stephen, Yeah, Well I wish I
Speaker 1: would have want that route anyways, but I didn't. Were
Speaker 1: you able to recover from the bottle of bleach? The
Speaker 1: thing was, it was tough. You know. We got to
Speaker 1: the bar and talks and I just kind of never
Speaker 1: really recovered from it. You know, we just never got
Speaker 1: in a groove at all. Really. I was just in
Speaker 1: my head the whole time and I couldn't get out
Speaker 1: of it. And I kind of was going back to
Speaker 1: just how I fumbled the ball, you know, right away,
Speaker 1: and I just couldn't get in the groove. It was
Speaker 1: all on me. I just couldn't recover. I feel like
Speaker 1: you're being too hard on yourself. I mean, you put
Speaker 1: in some valiant effort. It sounded like, I mean, if
Speaker 1: she were willing, it could have been a fun experience. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I just I really don't think she had any fun
Speaker 1: with me. All right, Well that could have happened. So
Speaker 1: you're trying to get her on the phone to see
Speaker 1: if you can get a do over. Yeah, I did
Speaker 1: try for second date, So I did send her flowers
Speaker 1: the next day. That's nice, and I just said thanks
Speaker 1: for coming with me, and I'd love to take you
Speaker 1: out again. And I did promise her that the second
Speaker 1: date would be a lot easier and much better. And
Speaker 1: did you hear anything back from the flowers. I didn't
Speaker 1: hear anything for two days, and then she did text,
Speaker 1: and she told me that she was really thankful for
Speaker 1: the flowers, but it took her two days to write you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was like a day I think the flowers get delivered,
Speaker 1: and then the next like two days after that or
Speaker 1: a day after that. And then I replied back to
Speaker 1: her asking you if she wanted to go on that
Speaker 1: second date. And then I haven't heard anything from her since.
Speaker 1: So are you sure you just don't want to chalk
Speaker 1: this up to a bad experience and find another girl online?
Speaker 1: You know, I thought about that, but I really think
Speaker 1: about her quite a bit, and I think she's great,
Speaker 1: and I think that honestly. That first date and it
Speaker 1: was so awkward and bad right off the door, I'm
Speaker 1: hoping that maybe the second date would just kind of
Speaker 1: smooth things over and I'll be a little bit more
Speaker 1: confident in making better choices. I guess making a lot easier.
Speaker 1: All right, well, we'll play a song, come back, call
Speaker 1: her and see if we can get you a second
Speaker 1: date where you can try to do better. All right, great,
Speaker 1: that's all I want to thank Brooking Jubil in the
Speaker 1: morning up dates. You know what they always say, when
Speaker 1: life gets you down, you lay there and make excuses
Speaker 1: until somebody feels bad for you and tries to help
Speaker 1: you out. Yeah, I've heard that that's the old saying
Speaker 1: catchy too. And Stephen is on the phone right now
Speaker 1: and he got knocked down by love. In the second
Speaker 1: date update, today, he went out with a girl named Aaron.
Speaker 1: He actually had some fun plans to do, like a
Speaker 1: weird date kind of thing. I don't really want to
Speaker 1: go into the whole recap of it, but he made
Speaker 1: plans for what he thought was a fun date. Then
Speaker 1: he thought that she had a horrible time. So even
Speaker 1: after the date, he sent her some flowers and all
Speaker 1: he got was a text back saying thanks for the flowers,
Speaker 1: and then no response. So he hasn't heard anything from
Speaker 1: her sense or about to get her on the phone
Speaker 1: and see if Steven can get some redemption. Stephen, you're ready,
Speaker 1: I am, Yeah, okay, And I don't want you to
Speaker 1: come out of this, Stephen feeling bad about yourself, because
Speaker 1: I mean, if this doesn't work out, you are a thoughtful,
Speaker 1: carrying seems like very gentle human beings and you should
Speaker 1: stick with that. Oh thanks for that. Yeah, but I mean,
Speaker 1: I know I'm not the best data and I kind
Speaker 1: of screw up things a lot. So all right, I
Speaker 1: tried to give you some confidence. I'm gonna dial her
Speaker 1: phone of her right now? Okay, you're ready, yep, all right,
Speaker 1: here we go. Hello, how can I speak to Aaron? Please?
Speaker 1: This is Aaron, who says, Hey, Aaron, this is Jewil
Speaker 1: from brook and Jewil in the Morning. What Jewbil from
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewil in the Morning radio show. Sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: not familiar. No you're not. I don't think so good.
Speaker 1: We're off to a great start. So we do a
Speaker 1: segment on our show that's called the second Date Update.
Speaker 1: And we recently got an email from one of our
Speaker 1: listeners about you. Oh, okay, who his name is? Stephen? Oh,
Speaker 1: he emails your guys. Yep, he emailed us. Told us
Speaker 1: a little bit about your date and said that he
Speaker 1: really liked you, but now you're not getting back to him,
Speaker 1: so he thought maybe we could find out what went wrong. Okay,
Speaker 1: I mean Steven, he's a nice guy, Like I thought
Speaker 1: he was cool. You sound so positive about Stephen. He's
Speaker 1: really sweet, probably the nicest guy I've ever been out
Speaker 1: with on a date. The only thing is he's a
Speaker 1: little bit down on himself. Down on himself. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: just I think he's a little bit too down on himself. Well,
Speaker 1: we talked to him, and he doesn't sound like the
Speaker 1: most confident guy in the world, or even near the
Speaker 1: most confident guy in the world. And he told us
Speaker 1: about your date. He said that he had planned some
Speaker 1: kind of fun date for you guys, and you turned
Speaker 1: him down instantly and were like, no, I want to
Speaker 1: go to a bar. Oh yeah, I mean I felt
Speaker 1: bad about that. Normally i'd be down for that kind
Speaker 1: of thing immediately, but I didn't explain. I was kind
Speaker 1: of hung over from the day before, so I needed
Speaker 1: to just get back to normal, So that's why I thought,
Speaker 1: let's go to a bar. Wait, so you weren't freaked
Speaker 1: out by the bottle of bleachy head or you didn't
Speaker 1: think he was an idiot for even thinking about it.
Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't think about the bleach much because
Speaker 1: I was, like I said, hungover. But I just thought it,
Speaker 1: let's keep it simple because I don't feel well, Let's
Speaker 1: just get to know each other. Okay, that sounds so nice.
Speaker 1: Yeah it does. He said. That's the part that really
Speaker 1: threw him off because he didn't know what to do
Speaker 1: with that. He said he felt kind of awkward and
Speaker 1: felt bad that he had tried to plan something that
Speaker 1: you didn't like. Oh. Yeah, he made that very clear.
Speaker 1: I mean he apologized the entire night, and I kept
Speaker 1: telling him, no, it's fine, and I even told him
Speaker 1: that I kind of felt bad for turning it down
Speaker 1: so abruptly, but he just couldn't let it go the
Speaker 1: whole date. Whoa okay, And did that just kind of
Speaker 1: get annoying to you? Well? I felt like I kind
Speaker 1: of had to pick him up, like, no, it's okay,
Speaker 1: let's let's just move on. Yeah, and like one of
Speaker 1: the most attractive things about a person can be confidence. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was just I couldn't even get to know him
Speaker 1: because he was getting himself up. I'm a terrible person.
Speaker 1: I actually visually picture him punching himself in the face
Speaker 1: when you say that, I mean, yeah, I think he
Speaker 1: kind of was inside and it made me go kind
Speaker 1: of bad because I felt like I was doing that
Speaker 1: to him. Now, you guys are just both on the
Speaker 1: state feeling horrible for him. I guess you're both feeling
Speaker 1: bad for him. Yeah. I mean, no matter what I
Speaker 1: said or did, I just couldn't really get him out
Speaker 1: of it. I mean, he's got like zero confidence. Like
Speaker 1: he went to the bathroom and he was gone so long,
Speaker 1: like I clocked it at twenty minutes before I checked
Speaker 1: on him. That's not confidence. That's like a I don't know,
Speaker 1: lactose intolerance or something. Oh no, none. I went to
Speaker 1: check on him because I was concerned, just wondering what
Speaker 1: was up. And he was outside the bathroom saying that
Speaker 1: there were people in there and that he couldn't, you know,
Speaker 1: go when there was other guys around, so he was
Speaker 1: waiting for it to be empty. He told you that
Speaker 1: he can't he can't use a yurtl when other people
Speaker 1: are around. Yeah, I mean, I guess not. I mean
Speaker 1: he was just standing outside the door that whole time.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, did you like offer like, I'll watch
Speaker 1: the girls room so you could at least use a
Speaker 1: private stall. No. Luckily, some guy came out and he
Speaker 1: sprinted inside, and I did watch the door for him.
Speaker 1: He's like, can you watch the door for me? And
Speaker 1: I was like, sure, can you watch my door? I
Speaker 1: gotta pay real bad. I could see how that might
Speaker 1: be a little bit of a turnout, A little bit
Speaker 1: that is a big turn off. Yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: didn't really even know how to feel. I just kind
Speaker 1: of stood outside the bathroom and watched for him, and
Speaker 1: then we finished our date, and yeah, I didn't really
Speaker 1: know how to feel about him. All right, Well he
Speaker 1: knows how to feel about you because he liked you
Speaker 1: a lot. I mean that's really sweet. I mean I
Speaker 1: liked the idea of him as you know. Well, I
Speaker 1: need to let you know a Stephen is actually on
Speaker 1: the other line listening to this conversation and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. What. Yeah, Stephen, are you there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm here, Hi erin, Sorry, sorry about this. You don't
Speaker 1: need to apologize, Stephen. Yeah, you don't need to apologize, Stephen.
Speaker 1: You don't have to worry about it. No, I should,
Speaker 1: I do I really should apologize to you. I shouldn't
Speaker 1: have called the radio station made I don't know you
Speaker 1: were wondering what was going on. I get it. Well,
Speaker 1: I do want to apologize. I'm sorry about it. Stop apologizing, Stephen.
Speaker 1: I felt bad that I turned on your idea, you know,
Speaker 1: for incorporating objects into our date or whatever, like I
Speaker 1: would normally be down for that. Like, I just want
Speaker 1: to be clear. I felt bad, So you don't have
Speaker 1: to feel that. No, I'm sorry about it. I shouldn't
Speaker 1: have probably done that. No, you don't have to apologize.
Speaker 1: You don't have to, Okay, Well, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just feel bad that I'm making you feel bad about
Speaker 1: like me feeling bad. So it's like, I'm sorry. The
Speaker 1: lack of confidence is kind of endearing to me. Now,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, you just have to stop apologizing.
Speaker 1: You're okay. We'll move on from here, Stephen. Aaron is
Speaker 1: telling you not to worry about it. Do you hear
Speaker 1: her saying that? Yeah? I heard her. No, and I
Speaker 1: appreciate that. But you know, I know the truth, and
Speaker 1: it's probably more on some of the things that I've done.
Speaker 1: You don't know the truth. That's the thing, like, everything
Speaker 1: about you sounds really great and attractive and something that
Speaker 1: Aaron would want, except for this, this piece of you.
Speaker 1: It seems to overshadow everything else. Like when you were
Speaker 1: talking about skiing and you made a joke about the
Speaker 1: Bunny Hills and I cracked up. Do you remember that?
Speaker 1: I mean, you're really funny and charming. Oh, thanks, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it was I'm not very good at skiing,
Speaker 1: so funny to like some how I have a feeling,
Speaker 1: Steven that you wouldn't think you were very good at
Speaker 1: skiing anything, but you thought that was funny. Yeah, of
Speaker 1: course I thought it maybe or just being nice. No, honestly,
Speaker 1: I mean you're really funny. You just need to work
Speaker 1: on your confidence a little bit and you'd be sexy even. Wow,
Speaker 1: that's very nice of you. Just say. There you go, Stephen,
Speaker 1: look at that. Aaron thinks you could be sexy. Aaron,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with Stephen on a
Speaker 1: second date? We will pay for it. I mean, I
Speaker 1: I was just trying to get his spirits up. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm ready to take that step yet.
Speaker 1: Come on, Yeah, I kind of figured that was probably
Speaker 1: what you were thinking. So I don't blame I wasn't Stephen.
Speaker 1: I wasn't just trying to be nice. I just don't
Speaker 1: know if you can stop beating yourself up. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you can stop, if you can stop this
Speaker 1: and just be with me. I mean, I love to
Speaker 1: date a second date, Aaron. I really would, And if
Speaker 1: you would, I'll work on my confidence, I guess, but
Speaker 1: I can't guarantee anything, Stephen. Try it again, Try that again,
Speaker 1: and then say that you guarantee it. I want to
Speaker 1: see if if you can do it? All right? Do
Speaker 1: it all right? Cool? Okay? I really would love to
Speaker 1: take you on a second date, Aaron. And you know,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna work on my confidence, so you know what,
Speaker 1: I guarantee it. WHOA, There you go, Aaron. That's a
Speaker 1: Stephen guarantee. That's as good as gold. And you know what,
Speaker 1: we're probably gonna have the time of our lives, probably
Speaker 1: right now, Aaron, just give him one more shot. You
Speaker 1: coundnot say no to that? All right? Yeah, I'll give
Speaker 1: you a shot, but they'll put too much pressure on it,
Speaker 1: okay to Yeah, I'm gonna play totally cool? Do you
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're a master that Steven, so good
Speaker 1: luck and all right, looking forward to it. I can wait.
Speaker 1: It's so excited, broken jubil in the morning,