WEBVTT - Feeling Things About Slamming Doors, Blow Up Dolls & Men Crying 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:04.520 All right, break it down. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.719 If you ever have feelings that you just won Amy 0:00:08.840 --> 0:00:13.000 and Cat gotcha Covin locking a brother. Ladies and folks, 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:16.400 do you just follow Anna spirit where it's all the 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:19.800 front over real stuff to the chill stuff and the aim. 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:23.360 But Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do it 0:00:23.560 --> 0:00:28.560 just stop you feel things. This is Feeling Things with. 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:32.440 Amy and Kat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things formerly 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:35.120 four Things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat and I got 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:38.280 a face fitness con artist update. I can't wait. 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:40.640 You were texting me about it and I freaked out, 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:42.879 this don't tell me tell me on the podcast. 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.360 And you were like, we can't be friends again until 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:46.720 we record the podcast because this is obviously something I 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:49.040 would tell you as a friend. But I get your 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:52.080 idea of wanting it to be organic on the podcast, 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:53.880 since that's what we talked about last week, and I 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:56.520 feel like my scams score might change. Well. 0:00:56.640 --> 0:00:58.680 To be honest, I was thinking about it, and I 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:01.120 think I was being a little bit too kind right 0:01:01.120 --> 0:01:02.360 because I didn't want you to feel like you were 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:03.040 getting scammed. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:07.199 So, okay, we'll get back to today. Last week, we 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:10.600 talked about two core feelings lonely and hurt. So you 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:12.600 can go listen to that episode if you want, or 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:15.800 you can even watch it on YouTube. Yeah, which is 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:17.880 so exciting. Yeah, we have a YouTube channel. What did 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:21.039 you say? We have as of today, well, as of 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:24.680 when we're recording this, we have eighteen subscribers. 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:26.480 But we started with one and so is it you? 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:30.160 I guess it was whoever created it? Okay, so Elizabeth, 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:32.680 and then I made Patrick follow it, and then I 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:33.640 follow it, and so then I was. 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:36.720 Like, we have three. Cool, Okay, I've I've started following it. 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:43.240 We have subscribers. Well, doesn't real what we're real Yeah, 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:47.280 I haven't yet had my kids do it on They're like, 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:51.480 are we on YouTube? Kids? Is that a different thing? Okay, 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:56.560 cat Crime's in here. We've got nineteen and counting. So 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:58.920 we just haven't had a YouTube channel for the podcast before. 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:00.680 So this is very exciting and you'll be able to 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:04.040 watch us. And we're already episode two upgrading our lighting 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:07.080 and all the things because we realized it's a little 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:09.720 dark in here. 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I'm pretty obsessed with it, 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:07.679 so shut out Kat for putting that together. Lonely and 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.960 hurt those were our feelings last week and today we're 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.560 touching on sad and angry. Now, if you remember We 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.840 left a little teaser at the end of last week's 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.280 episode because we were supposed to be talking about fear 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.239 and I was going to touch on my current relationship 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.280 my boyfriend and some fear that I had around that. 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:28.400 But that story is not just my story. So I 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.919 am holding off for a second because I talked to 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:34.320 him about it, and we're just gonna press pause. There's 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:37.080 obviously we have kids, and there are just some things 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.160 that I'm ready to share, but it's we need a 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.680 little bit of time, and I think it's important for 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.240 the fear part, very right, So it's coming. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:49.240 Yes, I think that's sad story is a really good 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:50.640 story to use for that. 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.640 So I think waiting is the best. Waiting is the best. 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:57.080 So we've we've called an audible and flipped the feelings 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.040 that we're going to go over. But before we get 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:02.360 to sad and angry, we have our feeling of the day, 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.800 feeling of the day, which is energized. Now, I wanted 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.240 my feeling of the day to be sore. And then 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:10.640 Cat's like, that's not a feeling and I'm like, tell 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.680 that to my hamstrings. It looks like a bodily sensation. 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:15.080 It's a physical feeling. 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.560 I know, I feel very emotionally sore. You could be 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:18.440 emotionally sore. 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:23.120 No, I'm sore from my sprints that I've been doing. 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:25.440 I'm still doing my sprints. I told you about that, 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:28.760 like as a friend, but now on the podcast. Yeah, 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:31.760 just so that y'all know, we're obviously not trainers, and 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:33.480 this isn't a workout podcast, so I can't tell you 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:34.960 what to do. But I've just been listening to a 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:39.280 lot of things with my perimenopausal body. I'm trying to 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:42.440 learn how I can feel it better and move it 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:45.479 better to help some of my hormones and my symptoms, 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:50.320 because otherwise I'm going to punch a hole in the wall. 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:55.360 Okay, maybe are you having some Oh I was. 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.760 I'm sure to talk about that, I know, but I 0:04:57.760 --> 0:05:03.000 don't know that it's true any It's more like feels ragey, 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:05.240 but it's I would call it more of it. Is 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:08.000 it a sensation like a sore other than the actual 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:13.600 because nobody's making me rage. My hormones are creating that 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:17.760 potentially creating that. Now, sprints take that. That's just part 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:22.000 of my regimen. Okay, Like it's one. It's like we're 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.240 gonna look at it as like this is a recipe, 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:28.719 and how I'm eating and how I'm working out and 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:32.359 how I'm resting and all plays role. All of that 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:35.120 is going to play a role. So I've been sprinting 0:05:35.680 --> 0:05:38.440 for just thirty seconds, but how many are you doing? 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.120 One thirty second sprint in the movie five? That's it? 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.000 Do you like do thirty seconds and rest for a 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:44.960 minute than thirty seconds? What do you do? Yeah? You 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.800 rest for a minute and a half, a minute and 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.640 a half to two. Yeah. And I'm also taking this 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:53.600 from a doctor that I heard, so I that's why 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:56.120 I'm hesitant to say exactly because I don't know. Maybe 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:58.080 it's not something you should go do. I don't even 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.680 know really how my body is reacting to yet again, 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.560 I'm sore, but I do feel energized from it, and 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:07.839 I feel strong, Okay. I mean I had the treadmill 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:11.160 at ten point oh, which is fast fad, and now 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:12.760 at first I did nine point zero and I was like, 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:14.719 I think I can go to ten point oh. That's 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:17.400 probably pushing it, which is why I'm sore. You also 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:23.120 were a runner was twenty five years ago. I don't 0:06:23.240 --> 0:06:26.320 so wear. I don't like running. And that's the point. 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:29.160 I think what I'm trying to do is push myself 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:34.080 cardiovascularly or shock my system to where also my body's like, oh, hey, 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:36.440 we want to build this up. Let's build some endurance, 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.880 let's build strength, and then hopefully that helps all the 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:41.960 other things in my body when it starts to freak 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.360 out from hormones, it's like, hey, we got this. We're 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.279 not scared of a little shock to the system. We 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:49.280 can handle this. You don't have to punch a hole 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.000 in the wall. We've got you well. 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:53.960 And that's a more gentle shock to your system than 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.000 a lot of things that I think people might think 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.520 to do five sprints like you. 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.000 Can five thirty seconds past, but it doesn't. Your sprint 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:03.200 doesn't have to be ten. No, it doesn't. I just 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:07.720 probably over yours myself. But that's one of the things 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:13.200 that I'm doing for myself, including well, one more thing 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.520 I'll say in part of that, which I think is 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:17.600 the energy piece too, is as I'm starting to have 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:21.440 protein coffee, which isn't anything crazy. I'm just putting two 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:25.800 tablespoons of way protein in my coffee. I'm still having 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.760 food around it, but my face is drink coffee plain. Well, 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:33.480 my face is like, is it unflavored? Yeah? 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:36.360 Okay, I'm thinking you're putting like chocolate protein powders. Well 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.680 that could be yummy, you think, yeah, it'd be thick, right. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:41.440 No, you you mix it up, it'd be real good. 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:44.640 But this is just a way I'm lacking in protein. Yeah, 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.160 And I've had multiple doctors tell me, especially being a 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:50.440 woman in my forties, that away protein is what I need. 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:52.360 And I always avoided way because I was trying to 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:55.320 avoid dairy. But it's not the same thing. And also 0:07:55.640 --> 0:07:57.840 I don't need to avoid dairy. It was just a 0:07:57.840 --> 0:08:00.320 trend at some point that I took part in. But 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:03.160 I've when you're growing, I'm growing and I don't need 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.760 to be scared of certain things. But now it's just 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:08.320 like a oh, this is a little way for me 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.280 to get some extra protein. But I do feel more 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.840 energized from it. I think because I'm getting more of 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:18.560 what my body needs, you're getting more energy, which is nutriance. 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.120 It is, and I think I'd be proud of me 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:23.600 because I also did my homework. Not that you assigned 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.640 this to me, but I felt like when I was 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.400 looking it up and researching it, I'm like, cow be proud. 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.200 I chose our feeling of the day, which is energized, 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:33.320 and I found the gift and the impairment. 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.040 Oh so you gave yourself a homework assignment and you 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.079 did it, but I felt like it was from you, Okay. 0:08:38.720 --> 0:08:40.880 Yeah, Subconsciously I was like, you better find this. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:41.360 Yeah. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:42.880 I was like, cat's going to be proud because you 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:46.080 just want to make you proud. Okay. So the gift 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:49.760 of being energized, when you acknowledge it, it's a spark. 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:53.240 It's your body and mind saying let's go. When you 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:57.280 lean into it, you build momentum, you take inspired action, 0:08:57.400 --> 0:09:00.880 you create, you move, you speak up and follow through. 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:04.440 Most of the time, right, it's often a window of motivation. 0:09:04.640 --> 0:09:08.640 So it's like, feeling energized is the door and take 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:10.800 advantage window, and it's open, so you got to go 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:12.640 in or you can stay on the other side. But 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.600 then that'll lead you to the impairment, which I'll tell 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:17.240 you about, and it's not good. When you ride that wave, 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.760 you surprise yourself with what you're capable of. You'll go 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:22.280 from a nine point zero to a ten point Oh 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:25.720 oh my gosh, just like that. Now, if you suppress 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:30.920 an energized window of opportunity, this is the impairment. If 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:34.920 you don't honor that energy, it can turn inward into restlessness, agitation, 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:38.800 or even anxiety. That buzzing feeling needs somewhere to go, 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.240 And if you silence it for too long, you might 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:45.120 start feeling stuck or numb, like you're dragging through life 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:46.120 with the brakes on. 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:46.640 Oo. 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:51.360 So don't don't miss out. If you fill a window, go, yeah, 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.720 take advantage, go for it. Yeah. So, I don't know if. 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:57.600 You've mentioned this when I don't remember when we were 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.960 talking about what we're going to do fear because the 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.440 first time we recorded, we talked about this. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.800 Last week we had to delete the episode and start over. 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:10.600 We'd had shared that I had hurt her. That's not 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:16.520 the way we're gonna put it. You felt hurt by me? No, okay, sorry, 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:20.200 because hurt because of something I was saying. You felt hurt. 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.200 Wait, let me give you a framework for this, because 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:26.200 I think this can be helpful. It's true when blank happened, 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:28.640 I felt hurt. So when you said this is not 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:33.040 a therapy podcast, I felt hurt. So here's the event 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:35.080 and then I'm taking responsibility for the feeling. 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:38.440 I love this framework because this actually is like a 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:43.640 script you can use for your relationship. And I obviously 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:45.720 know the script, but I have a hard time even 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.120 acting it out because it can be a game changer 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:53.040 in your marriage, your your partnership, a friendship, your relationship 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:56.240 with your kids, because oh my gosh, as parents, if 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:59.080 we could teach our kids to communicate this way and 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:01.320 they would just grow up knowing that, yeah, yeah, they 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.199 would enter into all these healthy relationships in their twenties. 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:07.079 Do you know the script? Do want me to say it? Okay, 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:09.320 I want you to give the thing again because you 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:12.640 said so, just gave it the frame. I love therapy words. 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:17.840 I love that this is a therapy podcast. I love it. 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.040 I love it because the framework is so good and 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:23.480 that way people can like have the script, so it's like, 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.800 obviously I need you to do it because I even 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:28.000 struggle with it. But you know, with me with scripts, 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:29.880 because I had scripts with some stuff going on with 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:32.720 my kids, like their therapists would give me scripts, and 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:34.440 I would always be so scared I was going to 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:35.800 mess it up. Like sometimes I would be in the 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.680 middle of a whole thing with them and I my 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.480 son in particular, and I'd be like, one second, I 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:43.240 will be right back, and I would go to my 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:45.800 bedroom and I would look up at the email and 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:47.679 look at the script that therapists gave me, and I'd 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:49.440 write it down. I put it in my back pocket 0:11:49.520 --> 0:11:51.679 because in the moment, I didn't want to mess it up, 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:55.520 because it's like the slight alteration of how you say 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:57.000 it changes everything. 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:59.400 Yeah, and I with any of this stuff, the more 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.559 you use it it will be so where you don't 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:02.640 have to like read something. 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:04.880 I've used these a lot, and I still forget themselves. 0:12:04.960 --> 0:12:07.480 So this one, and there's probably a lot of versions 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.440 of this that are basically the same. When you blank 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:14.040 or when blank happened? Blank is the event when blank, 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:20.520 I felt blank, what it brought up for me is blank. 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.600 Or you can say the judgment I had was blank. 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.800 And then if you want to take it a step farther, 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:28.320 you can say what I need from you is blank. 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:31.640 And then if you're really trying to have some intentional 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:33.680 dialogue you might have that person you might say, at 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:36.200 the end, can you tell me what you heard me say? 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.680 So then they'll repeat it and if they got it wrong, 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:42.160 then I can make okay, let me try again until 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:43.920 you actually hear what I'm saying. So a lot of 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:49.040 times we're listening and we're hearing judgments too, so we're 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:52.280 not actually hearing the actual words. So when you said 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:57.800 this was not a therapy podcast, I felt hurt. The 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:01.040 story I made up was that you you thought I 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:04.480 was stupid or didn't want me to talk too. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.520 Much, or I judgment I didn't value you. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:12.679 Yes, yeah, And then what I need from you is 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:15.400 a conversation about kind of the rules we have on 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.239 this podcast. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:18.520 And I need you to change it to a therapy one. 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:22.320 I just couldn't say that, but I did. I woke 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:24.600 up with that epiphany of like it is okay, Kat 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.559 is a therapist, and we are rolling with this niche 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:29.880 and our nichees feelings and feelings. 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:33.240 Are and now look how energized you are about it 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:34.640 on the therapy podcast. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:38.800 Here we are okay. So we had a delete the 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.640 first episode because I was saying over and over this 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:43.360 is not a therapy podcast. We had to delete it. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:45.600 I guess where you were. Where you were going with 0:13:45.600 --> 0:13:47.600 this is that we also had to delete the second 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:51.480 episode but not because if something anybody said or did 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:55.240 that hurt anybody or made anybody actually really good uncomfortable. 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.120 It was really good. It was really good, and I 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:02.959 honestly thought we could salvage it. But the yard people came. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.400 So I do have a company that comes to mow 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.959 my front and backyard, and we're kind of at a 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:13.920 side of the house where you can hear things front yard, backyard, 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.520 and sideyard. So there was a lot of mowing happening, 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:19.480 and we were recording on a day that we don't 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:21.920 normally record because I had asked them, please do not 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:24.320 come on this day because this is our recording day. 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.320 Will we had to record on a different day, and 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:29.760 I forgot to tell them, So then all of a sudden, 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:33.720 it's like bo and Cat's not really hearing it. I 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:36.240 hear it the whole time. I'm thinking, but you weren't 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.320 bothered by it, or you were like, oh, it's fine, 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:40.200 this is not a thing, or maybe it won't pick 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.080 up because that's what happens at your office every day. 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:45.360 So one I was like, this is really good. I 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:46.320 don't want to ruin this. 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:49.360 And I thought maybe since you weren't saying anything, it 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:53.120 won't pick up. But also I am so used to 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.480 a weed whacker being outside of the door of my office, 0:14:57.560 --> 0:15:00.600 because my office is the front of the house that 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.120 our office is in, like my actual offices. And they'll 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.640 come and I'll be just sitting there with a client 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:06.960 and I'll be can you. 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:08.640 Say it a little louder? And I'll. 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:12.560 Scream mean, and I'm like, this is the most un 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:16.080 therapeutic room there is. However, I've tried to reframe it 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:20.520 as it's good exposure therapy. In some way, I don't 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:22.520 like it, but I'm like, oh, I can roll with this, 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.720 like who cares, I can like stay in tune with you. 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.640 But I thought you thought that too, because you'd say 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.400 a thing. Yeah No, I was thinking the whole time 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:33.680 this episode is going in the trash but maybe not, 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:37.600 maybe not, maybe not, And then afterwards I was like, yeah, 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.560 it's People would be like, fine, I can't. There's like 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.640 you say it a little hour is a huge lawnmower, 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.520 And I'm picturing like being one of Cat's clients and 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:49.760 being like if I was doing brain spotting with you 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.480 or something and there was a lawnmower, I'd be like, 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:54.440 can I get a discount. 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:58.120 Literally, and I would say, yes, I'm sorry, Yeah, I 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.560 have Actually good for you for asking want people to 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:03.160 come at an appropriate time or a time that would work, 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:07.120 because I've asked so many times for our property manager 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:10.280 to let me know when they're coming. Not sure, sure, 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:14.280 of course, yes, that makes sense. Guess how many times 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:15.360 they have actually done that? 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:20.479 Zero? Zero times. Yeah, so there's no follow through. That's unfortunate. 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:24.880 So that's our that's our Episode two got deleted as well. Story. 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.200 So we're on a roll here. I hope from here 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:31.560 on now, everything we record is usable because we're treating 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:34.640 the show like it's live. We're doing it live. We're 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.720 doing it live, which is why I just rolled with it, 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:40.600 I know, and I didn't want to. Like, we did 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:43.680 have momentum and we were telling good stories, which actually, now, 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.840 don't you think about it? Isn't it so glad? The 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.480 yard people coming? This just hit me because we talked 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.800 about the boyfriend stuff and that all after I talk 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:54.640 to him. I need to wait. Also, I have to 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.760 point out you, did you notice what you just said? 0:16:57.240 --> 0:17:04.440 Boyfriend said, isn't it so glad? And we talked last week? 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:06.640 We talked last week on the episode that we can't 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:08.800 use about Glad, and you talked about I'm going to 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:09.560 use that word more. 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:12.159 Yeah, well now I already use it a lot, but 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:14.479 we're not talking about Glad today because Glad is with 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:17.879 Fear and that will be when the boyfriend conversation happened. 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:19.520 That is crazy, but it worked out. 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.760 But okay, so there's that I want to hear about 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:24.760 what you're going to text me about the con artist. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:40.440 So last week Kat gave me a little face fitness checklist. 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:42.479 I had to answer yes or no to some questions 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:44.640 that she had and ultimately you determined that it wasn't 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:48.119 a scam or whatever. Well, then this is the email 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:51.400 that I got between now and then, which also, this 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.879 didn't make it into the trash second episode, so this 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.200 is meant to happen, meant to be. So this is 0:17:57.240 --> 0:18:01.119 a perfect example of like when things go wrong, eventually 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.440 you'll be like, oh, what does this make possible? Because 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:06.640 it makes possible that now we get to update this 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:11.880 closer to the face fitness scam situation. And I get 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:15.800 an email and the subject is deadline. Your gift expires 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:19.320 tonight all caps. And then she said, hey, Amy, this 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:21.160 is the closest thing there is to working one on 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:23.280 one with me. There's going to be a problem, Maria 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:27.480 class every month if you sign up for this once 0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:32.960 in a lifetime opportunity to be a monthly it says 0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:36.000 once in a lifetime, once in a lifetime opportunity for 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:41.120 like I have to be a monthly subscriber. She said, 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:45.199 this is invaluable. This really takes your biggest insecurities and 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:49.040 eliminates them one at a time. When you join today, 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:53.959 you'll get a fifty three minute advanced facelifting routine. In 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:58.240 your members area, you'll also find a fourteen minute miracle routine. 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:01.560 It's actually a bit Z Day routine, but members started 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:04.680 calling it a miracle routine, so that's stuck. There's another 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.280 one called the Holy Grail routine. I mean you can 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:10.280 tell I'm already sold where I'm like the Holy Grail? Like, 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:13.480 how are you me at miracle? I like, where do 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:15.920 the fifty three minute one? I'm not interested in again 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:19.800 because time. Yeah, some of the stuff is so crazy 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:21.560 time wise, but this is part of her gift that 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.239 she's in Bold. The women in the group have been 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:26.159 going crazy about it. 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:27.159 M hm. 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:30.480 Then this is where I was like oh Kat with 0:19:30.520 --> 0:19:33.320 her scam questions, because this I would have to admit to, 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:36.679 she says. The first month is on me. Here she 0:19:36.760 --> 0:19:40.000 is with like the gift, She goes, that's right, I'm 0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:42.080 giving you a free month as a gift, and then 0:19:42.119 --> 0:19:44.959 she attached the link. So it's a thirty day free trial. 0:19:45.080 --> 0:19:48.760 Another special link. It'll be ninety nine dollars a month, 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:54.920 but today zero dollars for the first month, and then 0:19:55.040 --> 0:19:59.639 after the free trial you can pay until you choose 0:19:59.680 --> 0:20:03.040 to camp. So here's what I did. You want to know. 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.280 I was going to say, you did you sign up? 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:08.400