WEBVTT - EP 19. "Just A Fool In Love" with Anthony Hamilton 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:13.039 talked back. We're back, Welcome to a new episode that 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:17.360 we talked back. It's your girl a j. It's Tam Bam, y'all, 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.880 and I want to sing for y'all today because we 0:00:21.160 --> 0:00:28.800 got a nigga who can sing on the show. You 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:32.400 know that Miss Charlene woke up this morning found in 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.960 the letter that she wrote, Dick is too hard to 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:45.000 swat you know how you ever? Anthony Hamilton said it. Listen, 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:48.839 we have Anthony Hamilton, y'all, a whole life living legend, 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:51.879 and he is talking back with us. What's your favorite? Uh, 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:56.600 Anthony Hamilton's song, Tim, that's your favorite song? Absolutely? When 0:00:56.640 --> 0:00:59.680 I saw Daddy's Little Girls and he just was in 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:02.200 the bid with that wife being on all hurt over 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:06.320 Gabriel Union and I was playing, I was like, Oh, 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.720 I want you just to act like that about me, 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:12.880 and I love that song. My all time favorite Anthony 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.520 Hamilton song is off of his second album, um never 0:01:16.600 --> 0:01:23.920 Love Again and go like never love fucking I know 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:27.360 I don't go like that after your broke me down. 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:38.520 It's high to trust the feeling you love. Yeah, Hey, 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:40.720 don't get what you do in my face turned up, 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.800 I could say, smell something sting, I could sing in 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:47.720 real life and look and look, I got allergies right now. 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:55.400 Must be bitch, because let Anthony do it. I'm gonna 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:57.280 ask him to sing it. My best friend with see 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.520 if you do this show, Anthony. I know I've only 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:04.240 known you for about thirty minutes now, but my best 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:08.920 friend winning for me. Thank you? All right, y'all tune 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.520 in for Anthony Hamilton's like the head head goes whoo 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:19.960 whoo hey, Hey, this is we talked back. I'm Tim 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.560 Bam and this is a j and we got a 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:28.240 super special guest today, superstar Anthony Hamilton's with us today. 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:31.120 Thank you for joining us, Thank you all for having me. Man, 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:35.120 are you one of my favorite artists all time? Favorite? Alright, 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:38.040 you appreciate. So how do we address you? Are we 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:40.840 calling you Mr? Aquarius because I don't look you sign 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:47.040 up to Hamilton's what we call you today? You know 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:53.440 Anthony is good? It's simple, okay. Yeah, So Anthony, I 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.280 need to tell you a story. We're gonna start with 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.640 my story, all right. I met you in a club 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:04.720 and like two thousand sixteen, We were in a V 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:07.840 I P Section and I was drunk as fun and 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:12.400 I was like sing Sharleen to me, Anthony, and you 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:14.799 sang a little bit of it to me, and then 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:18.000 I started to go into this story about why I 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:22.160 moved to Charlotte and how me and my nigga at 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:24.760 the time, but we broke up. By that time, we 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:26.880 were living in London, and we went to the O 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:31.160 two Arena to see you in concert, and we got 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:34.079 in a fight because I wasn't next to him when 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:39.040 Charlene was on. We got a whole fight. If you 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:43.280 fight at an Anthony Hamilton's concert, you really got some problems. 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:50.240 Like you toxic, toxic, It's real toxic. And I even 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:54.120 hung on I gotta show you this because it was 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:58.000 like I was telling you the story about it and 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:01.960 he was looking at me like this because I probably 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:06.320 I probably wasn't caught up to your drunk that yet. Yeah, 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:09.040 you know when you when you so somebody else just 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.640 like it's not fun. But I'm gonna stay there with 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:14.200 you though I ain't gonna I ain't gonna go both. 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:17.119 I'm gonna talk to you. I'm listening to you. You 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.760 you you was like, girl, get out my face. That's 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:21.839 how you was looking like. I don't hear it, but 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:23.960 I just want to show you this. This is me 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:30.920 and you in the club that night so much. Yeah, 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:34.000 I had to send me that on I Well, I'm 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:37.120 gonna send it to you. Wow. Tam Bam and a 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:44.440 Jah so coming from where I'm from and ain't nobody worrying. 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.640 That's my two favorite albums and I still listen to 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:51.880 those albums like it came out yesterday. Okay, thank you? 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:55.400 So um, we did see your last single, not the 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:57.320 most recent one. You had another song come out with 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:04.880 last month, I mean last year, Jamika Mallory. Yeah, Mercy 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:08.960 that come about. Mercy was a song that it spoke 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:12.600 to the to the to the black man at that 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:16.440 moment who was going through a lot, who had endured 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:18.760 a lot and just needed a little time to to 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:22.440 be loved on and for people to have mercy on him, 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.120 because we endure a lot and not the fact that 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:27.360 you know, you feel weak. You just need a moment 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.920 and you need to be loved on and and poured into. 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:32.520 And we chose to make it because she was the 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:35.280 voice of the black woman that really gave a damn 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:39.560 about black Man m It was fitting to half of that. Yeah, 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.520 you know what, it really is a beautiful, powerful song 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:48.160 and uh, I know it hasn't found the home, you know, 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.039 his way into the homes of a lot of people 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:53.080 because there's a lot going on, But it will get 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:55.440 will resurface again. Yeah. I just listened to it for 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:57.880 the first time last ning. The most powerful piece was 0:05:58.040 --> 0:05:59.400 you know, the whole song is good and went to 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:01.280 Mika Mallory. He said, I'm not your enemy, but I'm 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:06.480 your energy. Yeah. Yeah, it just sets the tone like 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:09.200 you know, a lot of times when someone wants to 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.080 love on you, you know, ego gets in the way, 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:15.160 and you know you don't know how to take it. 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:19.119 You don't know how to receive it at a certain 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.480 levels of your life. Until you get out of the way, 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:24.160 you don't you don't notice that she's your energy, right 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.640 you know, now you got this new single out, you 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:30.240 made a fool of me. Now I feel like this 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.279 song is good because you're giving Lenny Williams energy and 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:40.200 this song like but has made it okay for you 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:44.880 not to know what the heck to say, right Uh, 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:53.080 And it's all right because that's but it was a 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:56.520 little triggering for me. Now let me tell you why, 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:59.920 because I took my mind back to that time fight 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.919 and the O two arena, listening to Charlene and in 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.400 that song you say you'll promise you'll be there to 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.520 the very end to protect you and love you, to 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.560 be with you for life. Now in this song. Nowhearing 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:15.320 that song, do you say, bitch until you do what 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.360 I'm doing to you? You know what I'm saying. No, 0:07:17.520 --> 0:07:20.240 wearing that song, I hear that in Charlene not nowhere 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:22.720 now And this you made a fool of Me song. 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:26.720 You're saying you're never gonna take her back? Now, that 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:30.640 was two thousand four. You you she was what she 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.040 said a thousand times. She's been asking you to get 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:36.880 your ship together, yea, and now here it is one 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:38.680 you're talking about. You ain't never gonna take her back. 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:42.200 Got her dragging her Louis Vauton out the out the mansion. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:47.040 I was mad she drug it out to you. Pretty. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:49.640 She didn't drag it out with no pain. No, she 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:54.360 did not know. She was like, she was like, all right, 0:07:54.400 --> 0:08:03.800 I'm gonna get right. Well. Oftentimes when a woman steps 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:06.080 out there a lot of times they already be ready 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:10.360 to go right. Yeah, I'm just telling you. I mean, 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.360 you know, and and a lot of times we'll be 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:19.040 ready for y'all to ago. Period. Now that's exactly she's 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:23.720 running my pressure. You don't cook girl friends always in 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:27.080 here with all that blue and hand make up all 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.440 over the place. Excuse me, why are you talking about 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:34.480 me like that? I don't understand you are talking about you, 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:38.480 but my ex is and aquaries I know about y'all. 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.800 You can't tell me nothing about an aquaries. We like 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:45.760 our face. We can be a little moodies, needs space 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:49.360 to reboot, but we're good people. We love people. When 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:52.520 we're out, we're out, But when I'm in, I'm in introverted. 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:56.360 So do you think it's a general consistent that men? 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:59.040 All right? So a woman will take you back a 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.439 thousand times, but a man will be hurt one time 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.600 and be like, I'll never take you back. So unfair 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.360 y'all expect the woman to you even had the song? 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:13.600 What does it pray for me? Yeah? Somebody need to 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:15.600 pray for me because I need my woman back out 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:19.280 of did wrong against you that proped me and my ship? Again? Lord, 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:21.760 somebody to pray for me now here you are talking 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:26.360 about I never take you back. It's I mean sometimes 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:29.400 we speak in the heat of the moment. We speak 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:33.920 in the heat of the pain. Um and uh, you 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:36.000 know a man when when a man has heard it hit, 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:39.400 hit different and cut different. Why though, why don't women 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:44.320 get the same type of men get? I think women 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:51.920 have more You guys are Wow, we're human. You're definitely human. 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:59.040 But women, I don't know, you have a higher capacity 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:09.040 to to to tolerate bullshit. Yeah, you shouldn't have to deal. 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:11.680 You know that. The way you guys are built different. 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:15.760 You guys are stronger in so many ways emotionally then 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:18.680 most like we like the average heartbreak for a man, 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:22.240 it's devastating. It's like I want to Yeah, y'all used 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:24.480 to break in the hearts, so when your heart get broken, 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:30.520 it's like everybody, Yeah, everybody gotta die. Yeah, way, Like 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:32.640 I feel like I'm dead, so I might as well 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:36.120 going to this lay under this board, this board ever 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:44.679 just gonna just gonna So I see on Instagram, like 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:49.240 Shirley has an Instagram page, y'all had a video conversation together. 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:53.719 So there's some realness to this story. Like, help me 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.560 understand that? Or is it built on it? Is it 0:10:56.800 --> 0:10:59.400 built off a real story, a real situation or yeah, 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:03.040 definitely the song came from a real, real place. And 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:06.840 U and even Charline now like I hadn't seen it 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:09.240 in a long, long long time, Like you know, I 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.840 was like, where are you being? I've been looking for you? 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:15.280 But what's going on? Um? And this you know a 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:20.480 founder and she's now with children and things going on 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:26.200 in their life. And I was kind of shocked. Wait, 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.600 which which to your old lady or something back then? 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:36.840 She was no, actually okay, but the real person was. Oh. 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:40.320 But it was just some similarities like wow, because you know, 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.160 you know when you when you you look for people, 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:46.640 he said, I don't wonder what happened to him? What 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.000 you know that It's like, wow, I didn't expect that. 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:57.440 You didn't expect her by now? Well I did. But 0:11:57.520 --> 0:12:00.559 you know, sometimes you see people when you see their 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:03.320 lives go on a certain way, you see them, you know, 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:07.040 you see them eye on Instagram or Facebook or somewhere. 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:11.880 This person was totally gone, no trace. So it was like, 0:12:12.640 --> 0:12:18.079 whatever happened, what happened? You know? This person is got 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:22.200 a real, real life life. Thank thank thanks, going on, like, 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:28.200 so when is the album coming out? Album? Will be 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:33.360 released in h August? Working on it? Yeah, in the 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:35.920 studio now we're working on it, finish it. I'll go 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.720 back in with j D to finish up on something, 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:42.200 some of my finishing touches and to write a few 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:45.000 more songs. So now you sign it? So so deafer 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:47.040 is this year? I read that this would be your 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:51.120 first in the album. No, I'm signed to my Music Box, 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:55.080 which is my label through BMG being j D. Just 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:59.040 have a great working relationship and we're pretty close, good friends. 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:02.360 And the time to work and bring out a project, 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:04.520 you want to go with people who get it, who 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:08.640 who know music, who knows the temperament of music today 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:12.160 and understand where I was when I when I had 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:16.719 that very impactful effect on the people when I when 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.920 I came into it. So he gets both. He's current 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:25.199 and he's also you know, old school j D O. 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:29.360 He has Yeah, he keeps us, he has a post 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:37.000 and each each um he's generation. And so now how 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:39.640 important is ownership to you? Because you know what this means, 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:43.920 your your first indie album, and everybody's on ownership now, 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:49.240 especially since Nipsey Hustle, Nipsey hustle, um, um past and 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:52.240 you know all his videos and started stuff started coming out. 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.160 So you have younger guys now wanting to make sure 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:58.240 they own their intellectual property. How important is that for you? 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:01.120 It's been very important, know you just some days you 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.000 sometimes you have to pay pay your dudes to get 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:07.840 to a place of ownership. Um. When when you don't 0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:11.280 really know, you don't know how to structure that. Coming 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:13.319 in as a new artist, you don't have as much 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.800 to say. So when you're proven you can be successful 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:20.800 and that you you know you're worthy of of. You 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:23.920 know hearing me out, you know it's a worthy conversation 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:28.320 because I'm valuable. I proved myself to be valuable. So 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:32.200 there's some negotiations. Um, that's gonna have to take place 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:35.680 to to be in the Anthony Hamilton business. Um. And 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.760 I proved myself to be lucal. Uh, there's a high 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.800 demand for me. So when you have that, and it's 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:46.320 a blessing, Um, you have you have more leverage and 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:49.920 the ownership means you you have control, that's power in it, 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.280 and there's a legacy that you can pass on, pass 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:57.680 it down to your children, your family, and ultimately it's 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:02.240 your it's your it's your story that can be told 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:06.480 however you wanted to be told. Absolutely. With the new 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:09.360 album coming out, are you gonna go on tour? And 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:11.440 what are you? Are you gonna get vaccinated? What's your 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.920 feelings about touring after Corona? Well during Corona because it's 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.240 not over, but you know, yeah, I'm gonna tour. I'm gonna. 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:21.080 I'm a tour when it's health. Um, I had COVID. 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:27.080 I was in the hospital two weeks in December throughout 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:30.440 the top of January, and uh, you know, I'm not 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:35.560 I'm not vaccinated yet. Um. And I'm kind of against vascinations. 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:39.040 I've never had taken really a lot of them. Mm 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:42.840 hmm um. Like it was years and years and I 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:45.920 had to go to Africa some years ago, so you know, 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:51.120 those back vaccines. But now I don't know, just kind 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.840 of you know, leary of Yeah, I'm worried about it too. 0:15:53.920 --> 0:15:56.240 Like some days I feel like I wanted to get 0:15:56.280 --> 0:16:00.320 the vaccination, and some days I think about how they 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:05.360 tested black people with Syphilist experiments and uh, Henrietta Lax 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:08.880 and how they took her DNA for all these different testing, 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:12.680 and it just makes me scared, like we're all for 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:16.960 the government and it all happened so fast, and never 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.480 mind the fact that it's not FDA approved in that 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:26.640 you know that pimental right now? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:29.240 and anytime you have to mandate something and make it 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:34.280 mandatory to have um to be able to do something else, 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:37.480 to have freedom, then that part bothers me a lot, 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:43.160 you know, like so why you know why so much pressure? Right? 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.400 And then now so now they no longer have the 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:50.600 mass mandate or like the large gathering mandates in North Carolina, 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.440 So how are you going to determine who has the 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.800 vaccination and who doesn't? Are people vaccinated go in the 0:16:55.880 --> 0:17:02.480 dark or something they may, you know, like going to 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:05.639 different places like I just did when I did the 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:09.840 video a lot of videos I've done the Grammys when 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:13.200 we perform with the baby. You got tested every day 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:17.200 before rehearsal Um, I tested everybody on my video set, 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:22.280 and that way you have a piece of mind. But 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:24.040 you know, it's gonna kind of be hard to just 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:27.280 set up testing before you go to the grocery store, 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:29.680 testing before you do this testing, you know, so let's 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:33.280 not be a way. Maybe you get up I don't know, 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:36.359 some kind of certificate or something like you said that 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:38.240 chip gonna stop lighting up in their head at a 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:42.920 bit of you don't make fake certificates. That's all that's 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:49.080 gonna happen. I would be selling down there. They go ahead, 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:54.320 a little oozy BT diamond in their head gone. I 0:17:54.359 --> 0:18:02.919 saw a video, a video online where people have been 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:07.320 putting magnets on the injection spot and it's been sticking. 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:13.479 So my mom, that's what I haven't I haven't tested 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.040 it out yet. I'm gonna do it on my parents 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:18.040 because both of them, well, my mom is completely vaccinated. 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:22.320 What you looking for across? What are you looking for across? 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:26.880 And something? A pistol to shoot the zombies in their head? 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:31.720 What I got a sage belt I'm about to put 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:40.400 on hold on Before we get into anything else, Let's 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:47.000 pay some bills real quick, all right. So we have 0:18:47.080 --> 0:18:50.960 a segment on our show called Dumb Bitch Stories, right 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:57.119 or SIMP series, where we tell a story. We have 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:00.119 any but you're gonna we want your critique on the 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:03.240 story that we do. You have a same story. Every 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:05.760 man has a simse story where once or twice. They 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:09.000 may have been played by a woman, so you never 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:11.520 been played by Yeah, you got a song made a 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:15.480 fool of me, So yeah, I'm gonna yeah. I was 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:17.560 in love with this girl named Dana. I won't give 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:21.679 a last name. Beautiful, beautiful girl. Uh bad, this is 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:24.879 the first time I light lighter skin like y'all, A 0:19:24.960 --> 0:19:29.960 little lighter brown girl, girl looking little right, had that 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:33.560 light heating different, a little bit on the higher golden 0:19:33.640 --> 0:19:40.200 side round like. She was like, uh, a little short 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:43.800 built the thing, and I just liked a lot, and uh, 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:46.359 you know I had I don't think. She's probably one 0:19:46.359 --> 0:19:49.800 of the prettiest girls that had ever had a crush on. 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.639 So she was like, well, my cousin was dating her 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:56.840 when her friend she said, well, we're gonna be over 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:59.240 at such a such house. On't you come over to 0:19:59.280 --> 0:20:02.320 the party and we can hang out, you know, something 0:20:02.359 --> 0:20:08.159 like sixteen sixteen seventeen. I walked. It probably took me 0:20:08.200 --> 0:20:11.600 about maybe almost two hours an hour and a half 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:13.919 two hours to walk there, so you were staying by 0:20:13.960 --> 0:20:17.040 the time you got So no, No, I don't never. 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:20.520 I don't have to, you know, I don't old. I 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:30.040 ain't want to always I don't want to claim brother 0:20:30.200 --> 0:20:32.439 a sixteen ye old boy. I know you were smelling 0:20:32.680 --> 0:20:36.440 number one extra onions. Cut it out. No no, no, no, no, no, 0:20:36.440 --> 0:20:40.320 no no no. I don't smell like taffold water, dog water, 0:20:41.040 --> 0:20:46.800 none of that salty. Uh. But I walked and I 0:20:46.840 --> 0:20:50.080 was so looking forward to it. She was there and 0:20:50.680 --> 0:20:53.040 she kept smiling, and we didn't really say too much. 0:20:53.080 --> 0:20:56.800 But by the time we all were in this one room, 0:20:56.880 --> 0:20:59.040 I guess it was about to be I don't know 0:20:59.040 --> 0:21:02.200 what he was about to do to a toadst something. 0:21:03.960 --> 0:21:07.240 She came and it got named. Ernest was my friend's 0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:11.520 girlfriends uncle. She sat on his lap. Was older dudes 0:21:11.560 --> 0:21:14.920 in college. We were in high school. She suddenly his laugh. 0:21:15.000 --> 0:21:16.600 She just kind of looked at me and smiled at 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:21.960 me like it just like, damn, how was fool? I know, 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:28.159 walk two hours and you man, my little hard was broke, broke, broke, broke. 0:21:29.560 --> 0:21:34.200 I've seen her after that, you know, I said, yeah, 0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.359 she trying to sit in your lap when she saw you. 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:39.840 After that. No, you didn't get no love, No, I 0:21:39.880 --> 0:21:42.360 ain't man. You know, for a minute, I was like, man, 0:21:42.359 --> 0:21:46.280 you're dirty, I said, you did meet dirty? Dirty? You 0:21:46.320 --> 0:21:52.240 know what you were supposed to do, like good bad advice. 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:54.680 Sometimes you were supposed to smash her ass and never 0:21:54.760 --> 0:21:59.800 call her back. She couldn't get done this good good 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:11.480 You heard about it though. Yeah, all right, so we 0:22:11.560 --> 0:22:15.200 did get a simple story from a young guy on Instagram. 0:22:15.600 --> 0:22:18.399 Young man. All right, so it says Hi, So we 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:21.040 need your advice. We would like to give him give 0:22:21.040 --> 0:22:24.600 people advice when they're sending these stories. Right, So it 0:22:24.680 --> 0:22:27.600 says Hi. I'm a twenty nine year old average looking 0:22:28.119 --> 0:22:31.919 uh mechanical engineer born and raised in Houston, Texas. I 0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:37.159 spent most of my entire adult life getting my education, 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:40.080 and I do pretty well financially. I dated here and there, 0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:42.440 but I've never really had a steady relationship with the 0:22:42.480 --> 0:22:46.080 woman I'm currently seeing this woman, it's been about a year. 0:22:46.560 --> 0:22:49.199 She's beautiful, but the only hang up is that she 0:22:49.320 --> 0:22:51.760 has a four year old son and me. I don't 0:22:51.800 --> 0:22:54.920 have any kids. The other thing is the kid's dad 0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:58.080 just got out of prison, and I feel like he's 0:22:58.200 --> 0:23:01.800 now completely to act to in their in their lives. 0:23:01.840 --> 0:23:05.640 He puts quotes in their lives, meaning she and her 0:23:05.680 --> 0:23:08.520 son are with this guy more than I'm comfortable with 0:23:08.880 --> 0:23:12.240 to say they are no longer together. Recently, she was 0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:16.080 laid off and I've been helping her financially. We were 0:23:16.119 --> 0:23:18.960 FaceTime in the other night a little past ten pm 0:23:19.040 --> 0:23:22.760 when I heard her doorbell rang and she abruptly hung up. 0:23:22.920 --> 0:23:25.800 I tried call him back, but she didn't answer. The 0:23:25.920 --> 0:23:29.840 next the next day, she called like nothing happened. I 0:23:29.920 --> 0:23:32.399 kind of pressed her about the night before, and she 0:23:32.520 --> 0:23:36.080 immediately got defensive, saying it was her child's father and 0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:39.000 that she didn't owe me an explanation as an explanation 0:23:39.119 --> 0:23:42.959 as to why he was there. I like her, and 0:23:43.000 --> 0:23:46.200 I kind of feel invested since I've been helping her. 0:23:46.720 --> 0:23:49.200 Do you think I should cut my losses and move 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:52.000 on or respect that she has to have some form 0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:56.400 of relationship with her ex for the sake of their child. Sincerely, 0:23:56.880 --> 0:24:00.359 feeling kind of simplesh Gold saying you may have me 0:24:00.400 --> 0:24:03.920 real quick. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, those are quick. Those 0:24:03.920 --> 0:24:08.639 are signs like she's she's not willing to step up 0:24:08.840 --> 0:24:13.040 and and to let the father know that this active 0:24:13.080 --> 0:24:17.919 relationship is special to her. He's now dictating, you know 0:24:18.840 --> 0:24:22.840 how this woman is treating it um so now, boyfriend, 0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:28.640 and she's starting to maybe catch feelings for old prison boy. 0:24:28.960 --> 0:24:32.080 You know he had none in a minute, probably coming 0:24:32.119 --> 0:24:37.640 back with that, you know that, yeah, yeah, popping off. 0:24:37.640 --> 0:24:40.439 She's probably starting to think about that. Oh my biges, 0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:43.280 my child's son is here and I'm a father's here 0:24:43.320 --> 0:24:48.680 and we're kindling some old things. UM. Definitely that's something 0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:51.200 going on. If when you hang up, I've been there 0:24:51.680 --> 0:24:54.440 knowing I ain't supposed to be where I'm at, hang 0:24:54.520 --> 0:24:57.639 up the phone real fast because uh, they don't need 0:24:57.680 --> 0:25:01.080 to hear this, and you don't need to hear it either. UM. 0:25:01.119 --> 0:25:04.200 And that's you know, when you say I don't owe 0:25:04.200 --> 0:25:08.679 you're an explanation, that's saying that I'm here, I can 0:25:08.720 --> 0:25:12.320 do whatever I want to do. I don't respect you. UM. 0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:15.800 And you know you don't have no you don't have 0:25:15.840 --> 0:25:18.960 no say over here. So he probably needs to to 0:25:19.920 --> 0:25:23.480 pull back like money doesn't need money doesn't equate to 0:25:24.600 --> 0:25:28.640 anything other than just money. UM, when you're talking about investing, 0:25:29.280 --> 0:25:32.040 you have your feelings and you know and you're safety. 0:25:32.080 --> 0:25:34.879 You don't know if this guy somebody who what do you? 0:25:34.880 --> 0:25:38.560 What do you? What are you going for? You know 0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:40.800 what I mean? Just even that mentality he may think, 0:25:41.359 --> 0:25:44.000 you know, since he's been gone. She may have been 0:25:44.040 --> 0:25:48.560 telling him like I ain't been saying about it's me 0:25:48.960 --> 0:25:53.440 and little Travis, you know, So you don't know what 0:25:53.520 --> 0:25:57.000 dynamics they they they have, and you don't know what 0:25:57.160 --> 0:25:59.879