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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please

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Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click

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Speaker 1: submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live

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Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're gonna read this one

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Speaker 1: right here, right now. Let's get you heard what she said,

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is the Strawberry Letter, subject my boys

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Speaker 1: Can't be trusted. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been worrying about

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Speaker 1: my marriage and how my past actions may threaten it.

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Speaker 1: A few months ago, my friends and I went on

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Speaker 1: a guy's trip. We always go on trips together, and

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Speaker 1: the wives got together and take trips too well. While

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Speaker 1: I was on the trip, I ate good and drank

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Speaker 1: a lot. We went clubbing, and since I love to dance,

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Speaker 1: I was salsa dancing with the ladies and may have

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Speaker 1: been a little too close to one particular lady that

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Speaker 1: danced very sensually. I didn't make out with her or

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Speaker 1: anyone else, but my body language was inappropriate for a

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Speaker 1: married man. I enjoyed myself on the trip. But here's

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Speaker 1: where my problems started. We have a couple of guys

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Speaker 1: in the group that gossip and share bits and pieces

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Speaker 1: of our trip with their wives or others. They also

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Speaker 1: are all on social media and have started recording videos

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Speaker 1: and posting them on Facebook or on Instagram, and this

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Speaker 1: is causing problems. I'm not on social media at all,

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Speaker 1: but my wife and the other wives are. I may

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Speaker 1: have been caught in a few compromising positions, and my

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Speaker 1: post them. Again. I'm innocent, but I am enjoying myself

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Speaker 1: while on vacation and should not have to worry about

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Speaker 1: my boys snapping pictures. The wrong video and the wrong

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Speaker 1: hands can impact one's marriage and career. I have told

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Speaker 1: my boys that they are breaking mancode, but once they

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Speaker 1: start drinking, they all have their phones out to take picture.

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Speaker 1: I want to enjoy my vacations in peace. How should

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Speaker 1: I handle this? Help me? Well, you certainly sound like

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Speaker 1: the adult, the grown man in this group for sure.

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Speaker 1: And if what you're saying is true that you didn't

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Speaker 1: make out, meaning go all the way or sleep with

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Speaker 1: any one of these women that you were dancing with,

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Speaker 1: that's good because you're right posting pictures of you acting

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Speaker 1: inappropriately and all of that that could get you in

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Speaker 1: a world of trouble. Not a good look for a

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Speaker 1: married man. Your friends are wrong. They seem a little,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, immature, I'll say not because they're taking

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Speaker 1: pictures and posting. I mean everyone does that, but these

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Speaker 1: are your boys, you know, and you're right, you guys

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Speaker 1: do have a certain man code. I mean women have

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Speaker 1: girl codes. We have that too. I mean, I just

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Speaker 1: think your friends are wrong. I think if your wife

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Speaker 1: sees these pictures and sees you in compromising positions, it's

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Speaker 1: definitely gonna cause some problems in your marriage. Obviously, she

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Speaker 1: trusts you in the first place to go on these

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Speaker 1: trips and kick it with your boys, but posting pictures

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Speaker 1: like these, that's gotta stop. I mean, even if you

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Speaker 1: have to go so far as to not go on

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Speaker 1: a trip anymore with these guys, because they can get

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Speaker 1: you in a lot of trouble. I just think next time,

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Speaker 1: you know, if your wife will let you go again,

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Speaker 1: you guys need to set some kind of ground rules.

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Speaker 1: Leave your phones in the hotel rooms, you know, something

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Speaker 1: like that, and get approval before you post pictures. Nobody

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Speaker 1: especially if you're not doing anything wrong about posting pictures

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Speaker 1: and people getting the wrong ideas. Steve, you know this

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Speaker 1: letter to most men listening to this letter, this is

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Speaker 1: like what this is like? Man? You did what? Every

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Speaker 1: All right? Let me let me listen. You know, y'all

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Speaker 1: take any boys trip, your wives take their trip. I

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Speaker 1: bet you the wives don't do that. I bet you

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Speaker 1: don't see the wives posting anything inappropriate. I bet you

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Speaker 1: on one of them wives trip, they probably went to

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Speaker 1: they probably did. That's what y'all do. But you ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna see it new because women ain't stupid, because women

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Speaker 1: So it leads me to ask you this question, what

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Speaker 1: kind of dudes you got? I'm just real curious, man.

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Speaker 1: Are you not familiar with the phrase, what happens in

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Speaker 1: Vegas stays in Vegas. You know where that slogan came from. Everywhere?

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Speaker 1: They ain't just talking about Vegas. What happened in Philly

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Speaker 1: at the All Star weekend? They need to stay in

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Speaker 1: that Super Bowl down in Miami in ninety five, they

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Speaker 1: need to stay down? Now. Huh what happened when the

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Speaker 1: All Star Game came to Las Vegas? Huh that needs

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Speaker 1: to stay down? Are you mad? I'm just saying, what

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Speaker 1: happened when the Kings of Comedy tour it in DC

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Speaker 1: stay there, Steve, what happened? I don't know. I'm just saying, Oh,

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Speaker 1: these things that need to stay there. What happened that

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Speaker 1: night after showtime? And Depolo that needs to stay down.

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Speaker 1: What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas is a reference

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Speaker 1: to everywhere. Now, let me say this about your boys.

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Speaker 1: You said in the letter, but you know, once you

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Speaker 1: get the drinking, y'all need to quit drinking, y'all. Stupid

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Speaker 1: ass drinking then took your mental capacity. All right, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have stupid as We're gonna have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Subject of today's Strawberry Letter, my boys can't be trusted,

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Speaker 1: and we'll be back right after this. You're listening to show,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject my

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Speaker 1: boy can't be trusted. Damn shame sitting up in here

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Speaker 1: boys don't know how to react. So here's what didn't happen.

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Speaker 1: This dude go on this trip with his boys, but

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Speaker 1: they post stuff on social media. Now, he had a

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Speaker 1: saucy club because he loved it dance and he get

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Speaker 1: But he danced some way too close. Come on, toe y'

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Speaker 1: out there with your boys. You by yourself? She up

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Speaker 1: on you. What you supposed to do? You can't punk

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Speaker 1: out and don't go back. Excuse me? What if you're

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Speaker 1: rubbing up against me? I got the rub back. That's

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Speaker 1: a man law somewhere. Yeah, yeah, you rub up on me.

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Speaker 1: I can't punk out er er er er. You know

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Speaker 1: Get your hands on her waist and let's go. Now.

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Speaker 1: You just saucer dancing and nothing happened, but your boys,

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Speaker 1: these ignorant ass puppish you. Tom went somewhere with it's

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Speaker 1: what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. They didn't create

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Speaker 1: that phrase just for Vegas. That's what's happening in New York.

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Speaker 1: Stay in New York. What happened down now at the

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Speaker 1: bachelor party, Stay at the bachelor party. All this women

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Speaker 1: do it too. What happened at the Chippendale Club? Stay

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Speaker 1: at the Chippendale Club. Women don't post stuff about each other.

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Speaker 1: You know better. And here which leads me to this,

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Speaker 1: your boys know better too. They ain't that damn young.

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Speaker 1: How old are they? Well, I'm gonna tell you something, man,

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Speaker 1: When you post, I don't care how drunk you are.

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Speaker 1: It takes something to post. See, I don't even know

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Speaker 1: how to post them. I had to high people to

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Speaker 1: post when I want something to go up. Yeah, because

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Speaker 1: I don't even know how to post. So when you post,

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Speaker 1: it take a little bit of thought. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you drunk, if you can post or not. Maybe

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Speaker 1: you're that good at it, but it take a little

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Speaker 1: bit of work to post something. I think your boys

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Speaker 1: know better. I have a question, how old are they now?

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Speaker 1: Here's the next statement I want to make. You need

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Speaker 1: doing this is you know you got some punk ass friends.

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Speaker 1: Can I just tell you that you just got some

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Speaker 1: punk ass friends? That's doing they dude like that. They's

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Speaker 1: so damn stupid they've got to post everything. If yeah,

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Speaker 1: at y'all fifteen. But you're married though, so I know

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Speaker 1: you're grown. When people post something, it's intentional that who

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Speaker 1: you know saying, oh, I accidentally posted that. No, posting

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Speaker 1: you know that who you said that? Real though? No,

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Speaker 1: for real, don't tell me you know that's how I

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Speaker 1: feel on the real Dog, you just got to tell

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Speaker 1: it like it is. And you're sitting up in the man,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna mess your marriage up with these dudes right

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Speaker 1: here over nothing. I know where you had you at

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Speaker 1: the Saucy Club. You love it dance? She bagging all

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Speaker 1: up on you. What you can't run? She backing up?

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Speaker 1: You got to you got to get crowded. What's that

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Speaker 1: over me? You pushing your booty. I'm married, I'm here

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Speaker 1: with my friend. They're gonna post it. You stopped, You

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Speaker 1: stopped backing that thing up. You stopped, you stopped pushing

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Speaker 1: lights off. They're gonna post it. Punk ass sitting up

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Speaker 1: All y'all need to quit drinking. What happens in Vegas

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Speaker 1: stays in Vegas. There's a cold. You've been to mess around,

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Speaker 1: lose your marriage because you got some punk ass friends.

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Speaker 1: There's an age limit to punk as friends. I lost

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Speaker 1: was my cut off in That's Real Dog. Twenty six

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Speaker 1: were grown it's over half a lifetime ago. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I cut them all all my punk and for you. Now.

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Speaker 1: I'd had some punk ass employees that didn't pimped me

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Speaker 1: and played me, but they weren't friends. I had one

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Speaker 1: thought was my friend. Okay, okay, post is intentional and

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Speaker 1: you got some real sorry ass free m If I

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Speaker 1: was you, I drive over whoever house posted and slapped

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Speaker 1: the sugar out of his damn mouth. Hello, I'm talking

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