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Speaker 1: our show notes all right, lady, today's conversation is for

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Speaker 1: the woman who's built something powerful, but secretly she's holding

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Speaker 1: it together with ducktip and a prayer. Okay, today's guest

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Speaker 1: can help you get your whole life. Maya Elliots, CEO

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Speaker 1: and founder of Built to Impact, helps women, especially Black women,

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Speaker 1: turn their expertise, experience, and passion into six and seven

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Speaker 1: figure coaching businesses that don't require them to be everywhere

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Speaker 4: And this is the just theory.

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Speaker 1: Maya has lived it. She rebuilt her brand from the

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Speaker 1: ground up, scaled from one hundred and eighty k to

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Speaker 1: actually support growth instead of sabotaging it. There is so

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Speaker 1: much more that we could say about Maya, or we're

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Speaker 1: going to let you hear it from her. Maya, welcome

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Speaker 1: to cultivating her space.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here.

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Speaker 3: And we are looking forward to this conversation, and so

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Speaker 3: we are going to jump right in with our quote

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Speaker 3: of the day, and Maya, these words will sound familiar

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Speaker 3: to you because these are your own words. Okay, not

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Speaker 3: knowing how to get somewhere should never stop you from going.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna say one more time to make sure we

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Speaker 3: never stop you from going. Maya, when you hear your

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 2: I love that quote, and it really came from years

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Speaker 1: That is such a great answer, and it's so inspired

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Speaker 1: shared so many great things about you and your bio.

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Speaker 1: But why I take us back to the beginning. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I mean it's it's always so funny when I'm on

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Speaker 2: Like you have to give credit to the version of

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: I just really enjoyed making people's brands look pretty on

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Speaker 2: And I didn't recognize that I had a bigger calling

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I could totally as a psychologist, like I see that,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would first consider you know, how do

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Speaker 2: So not just communicating what makes you so good, because

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Speaker 4: I want you to speak to that.

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Speaker 2: I want you to say, like, I've been working on

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Speaker 2: here's how it's helped other friends and family. I would

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Speaker 2: love to work with more women. So an example, just

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Speaker 2: to be very literal, let's say that you know I

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Speaker 2: want to I want to be like a health and

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Speaker 2: and every single time I had a kid, I had

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Speaker 2: to figure out how to snap back you know, I

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Speaker 2: had to figure out how to get back to myself,

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Speaker 2: my mindset, my health, you know, my body and all

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Speaker 2: all three of my kids, and my close girlfriends have

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Speaker 2: case studies with my friends and myself. Notate that you

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Speaker 2: first case study is going to be you for the

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Speaker 2: six years, I've had three kids, and every single time,

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Speaker 2: I've had to figure out how to get my body back,

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Speaker 2: how to get my confidence back and feel healthy and

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Speaker 2: energized again. And I've also been able to do this

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Speaker 2: for a couple people. I'm you know, considering working with

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Speaker 2: more women in twenty twenty six. And if you guys

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Speaker 2: know anybody who is currently pregnant or who's looking to

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Speaker 2: feel more confident in their body again after a kid,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm taking on free discovery calls or I

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Speaker 2: would love to work with them, you know, send them

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Speaker 2: this post or have them send me a message. It

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Speaker 3: And now let's get back to the conversation. So, and

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Speaker 3: what I love about that is that, like it's allowing

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Speaker 3: folks to take a step back, look at themselves, look

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Speaker 3: at what their strengths are, and figure out from there. Okay,

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Speaker 3: how can like I can make a business out of

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Speaker 3: this right now? That was a great example, But I

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Speaker 3: know that there's also a listener out there that's like,

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Speaker 3: but I'm not a mom. I'm still late twenties, early thirties,

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Speaker 3: and I'm not sure what I really have to offer.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I just I finished school. That's about that's

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Speaker 3: and that was a lot, right. And so for the

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Speaker 3: person who is strugg to even just initially identify because

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Speaker 3: they've gone through and they did that list that you

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Speaker 3: talked about, right, and they're looking at the list and

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Speaker 3: they're like, there's nothing on this list that I can

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Speaker 3: see that would allow me to create a business. What

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Speaker 3: would you say to that person.

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Speaker 4: I think there's a couple of things. I mean, you

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Speaker 4: can create a business out of anything.

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Speaker 2: I just there's just so many business ideas out there

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Speaker 2: for somebody to make a list and still not see something.

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Speaker 2: To me, that's a confidence issue right there, because there's

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Speaker 2: only so much that I can you know, pull out

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Speaker 2: of you. You have to be able to recognize your

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Speaker 2: value in a moment like that.

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Speaker 4: You might need.

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Speaker 2: Support, like working with a purpose coach, somebody who helps

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Speaker 2: you discover what your purpose is. You take them the list,

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Speaker 2: you tell them your story, and they can pull.

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Speaker 4: That out of you.

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Speaker 2: I used to do that early on, when I would

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Speaker 2: do like clarity and purpose calls, and they would tell

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Speaker 2: me their story and I'm like, this is your purpose,

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Speaker 2: go build this business. If you're not able to discover

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Speaker 2: that for yourself. That's what I would recommend, and just

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Speaker 2: remember to not to not minimize, you know, what you've accomplished.

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Speaker 2: I think also recognizing that skills are transferable, so knowing

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Speaker 2: that you can have a skill like something that you

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Speaker 2: really enjoyed doing. So for me, you know, I've been

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Speaker 2: a business coach for twelve years now, over a decade now,

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Speaker 2: and although I'm primarily known for launching and high ticket

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Speaker 2: and messaging, one thing that I really love to do

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Speaker 2: and to nerd out on is just make things organized.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm incredibly organized. I love operations, I love systems,

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Speaker 2: and recently I'm like, well, you know what, I want

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Speaker 2: to build a brand around being a systems expert. I

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Speaker 2: want to build a brand around being an operations consultant.

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Speaker 2: It's a completely new arena for me in terms of

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Speaker 2: what people know me for. But I've been doing this

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Speaker 2: skill for over a de kad G. So I have

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Speaker 2: to recognize that I can take this skill and not

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Speaker 2: put it in front of either my old audience or

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Speaker 2: just start from scratch. And I just have to tell

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Speaker 2: the same story the same way that I'm saying. You

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Speaker 2: guys have to like, go on your Facebook and post

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Speaker 2: about it. I go on my Facebook and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I tell the story I've been, you know, I nerd

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Speaker 2: out over SOPs and naming conventions and I want to

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Speaker 2: do this for more people. I post that on my

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Speaker 2: Facebook and I'm getting referrals and people are reaching out

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Speaker 2: to me, like, hey, do you think that you can

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Speaker 2: help me? And so you just have to recognize and

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Speaker 2: think about what do you truly enjoy doing and how

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Speaker 2: can this skill help somebody else? What you are really

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Speaker 2: good at can help somebody else. And if you're still

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Speaker 2: finding a gap, maybe you have a skills gap. Maybe

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Speaker 2: you went to college and you got an education, but

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Speaker 2: you don't necessarily feel skilled in anything, and you need

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Speaker 2: to go figure out what skill do I want to develop?

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Speaker 2: Maybe you have an idea of what you think would

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Speaker 2: be a good business, a good business idea, and you

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Speaker 2: don't have the skills yet, And that's fine, because the

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Speaker 2: beauty is you can go get the skill.

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Speaker 1: The examples and I hope the listeners have the notebook

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Speaker 1: out and they taking notes, because you are really dropping

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Speaker 1: some gems and this is super helpful and maya in

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Speaker 1: just a minute, we're going to shift up the energy

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Speaker 1: of this conversation. But before we dive into that, I

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Speaker 1: want to ask you about your perspective on setbacks and adversity,

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Speaker 1: because I know that you talked about setbacks or going

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Speaker 1: from setback to six figure careers and things of that nature,

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Speaker 1: six figures and beyond. But just what's your overall perspective

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Speaker 1: when you look back. I guess on hindsight, right, you

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Speaker 1: think about setbacks and adversity. How do you see that today?

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Speaker 1: I see your expression already.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I hate a setback and I hate adversity.

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Speaker 2: It's like I can I can be, you know, definitely

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Speaker 2: as a coult I can be like this.

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Speaker 4: Is how you need it. Your setback is a setup

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Speaker 4: for your win.

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Speaker 2: It's like I can give you all of the great

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Speaker 2: quotes and you know, I love a good juicy sermon

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Speaker 2: that hypes you up. And also the reality is it's

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Speaker 2: not fun in the moment. It's just not fun. And truly,

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Speaker 2: in those moments it's you. That's where your mind, mindset,

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Speaker 2: and your faith has to be strong, because that is

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Speaker 2: when the enemy starts to plant seeds of doubt in

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Speaker 2: your mind. That's when negative talk comes in and you

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Speaker 2: truly have to rewire your brain to shift your perspective

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Speaker 2: to see the silver lining and things. And it's not

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Speaker 2: about toxic positivity. It's not about like, let me just

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Speaker 2: say positive quotes to negate the reality of what I'm facing.

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Speaker 2: But I do want you to speak to the outcome

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Speaker 2: that you desire. And what I know is that I

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Speaker 2: actually wish that somebody would have just warned me from

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Speaker 2: the beginning that setbacks aren't evitable. It doesn't mean that

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Speaker 2: you're bad at something, it doesn't mean that you're a

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Speaker 2: bad person. It's literally how life operates. And I think,

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Speaker 2: because you know, we live in a world where we

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Speaker 2: see a lot of winds on social media, we think

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Speaker 2: that a trajectory is literally just a diagonal line going straight.

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Speaker 4: Up and there's no roads in the bump.

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Speaker 2: But it's like even when you look at the most

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Speaker 2: successful corporations and they look at their numbers quarterly, sometimes

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Speaker 2: it goes up, sometimes it goes down. Sometimes it goes up,

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Speaker 2: sometimes it goes down. And so if these corporations who

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Speaker 2: have hundreds of millions of dollars, sometimes even billions of

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Speaker 2: dollars are going up and down and they have you know,

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Speaker 2: people backing them and all of that.

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Speaker 4: What about you?

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Speaker 2: You've been in business for three years and you just

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Speaker 2: expect it to go completely, smoothly and perfectly. And you know,

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Speaker 2: in the moment, I didn't recognize that it was almost

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Speaker 2: a level of entitlement to just expect that things would

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Speaker 2: go perfectly. Like why do I feel entitled to everything

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Speaker 2: going perfectly?

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Speaker 4: Like? Who am I that my business should go perfectly?

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Speaker 4: I am a.

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Speaker 2: Flawed human being that will mess up, who is still learning?

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Speaker 2: Of course there are going to be setbacks, So no,

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Speaker 2: it's not fun in the moments. Do you think I

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Speaker 2: love getting the lesson from God in the moment to

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Speaker 2: be like, but God told.

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Speaker 4: Me, Like, I am grateful for the lesson. But by God,

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Speaker 4: you really could have just.

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Speaker 2: Like whispered in my ear, I didn't need to go

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Speaker 2: through five months of doubting myself and crying and one

641
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Speaker 2: to my clients like me, am I really supposed to

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Speaker 2: be doing this?

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Speaker 4: The discovery calls and coming through.

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Speaker 2: It's not exciting, but it is something that is normal,

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Speaker 2: and it gives you a chance to pay close attention

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Speaker 2: to where you can grow. And it also gives you

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Speaker 2: the opportunity to pay attention to where you can ask

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Speaker 2: for help and grow your community or find a good coach.

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Speaker 1: We appreciate and honest ask answers, So thank you so much,

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Speaker 1: like not the flowers stuff. You're like that shit sucks. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's beave forgot. Yeah all right, I think it might

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Speaker 1: be time. Okay, so maya because we recognize, appreciate it,

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Speaker 1: and celebrate the multifaceted woman, and we believe that it's

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Speaker 1: okay to be bougie, classy and ratchet. You can still

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Speaker 1: be elegant and dance to strip club music if you

656
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Speaker 1: so choose. We want to invite you to the oh

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Speaker 1: you blatchet segment? Do you take on the challenge?

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Speaker 4: I think we said we want to invite you to

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Speaker 4: talk on camera with us. I was like, where is

660
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Speaker 4: this going? That would have been That would have been interesting.

661
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Speaker 4: I mean not that I'm opposed to that, but that

662
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Speaker 4: is hilarious. So you said, oh my gosh, they're gona

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Speaker 4: have you working twenty eighteen. MYA definitely would have done it.

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Speaker 4: I don't know about twenty twenty six, but I will

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Speaker 4: I do up a child. Okay, I love it. I

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Speaker 4: love it.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's not as it's not as much as tworking

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Speaker 1: on camera. So this should be good. So now that

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Speaker 1: you've agreed, we're going to tell you what to expect.

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Speaker 1: So we are going to ask you three questions. We

671
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Speaker 1: then are going to share three sentence completions, and then

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Speaker 1: we have some photos pulled up of you and we're

673
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Speaker 1: gonna share one with you on the big screen after

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Speaker 1: you choose a number out of one and three, and

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Speaker 1: we'll ask you to look at your face.

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Speaker 4: She's like, oh my god, I got you long. I

677
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Speaker 4: don't know what you gotta pull up. They're so cute.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I can't wait to share the photos, but we

679
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Speaker 1: want you to share some context about the photo that

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Speaker 1: we wouldn't know by looking at the photo once we

681
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Speaker 1: get to that part. But first we're going to ease

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Speaker 1: into this segment. So the first question here is what's

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Speaker 1: the best piece of wisdom or advice you've ever received?

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't know the best, but I'll tell

685
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Speaker 2: you the most recent that I received. This is a

686
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Speaker 2: download the Holy Spirit.

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Speaker 4: You know. One of the things that I love about

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Speaker 4: life is just enjoyment. I want to enjoy my relationships.

689
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Speaker 4: I want to enjoy life. And one of the things.

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Speaker 2: That God told me is that enjoyment also comes at

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Speaker 2: the cost of just being obedient quickly. And so to

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Speaker 2: enjoy my relationships, I need to forgive quickly. I need

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Speaker 2: to apologize quickly. I need to have a desire to

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Speaker 2: be at peace with people quickly. And so I would

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Speaker 2: say that's the most recent piece of wisdom that I've received.

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Speaker 4: I love it. I love that.

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Speaker 3: That was very, very wholesome compared to the next question

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Speaker 3: that we have. And so, speaking of being multifaceted, and

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Speaker 3: you know what you thought we were going to have

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Speaker 3: you doing.

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Speaker 4: You don't have to do this on camera if you

702
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Speaker 4: don't want to.

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Speaker 3: However, when the music comes on, whatever that music might

704
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Speaker 3: be for you, when you're getting ready to do whatever

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Speaker 3: it is next thing in your day and you're turning

706
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Speaker 3: on the music, are you turning on music that's gonna

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Speaker 3: have you twerk or two step?

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Speaker 4: Ooh, that's a good question, Okay.

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Speaker 2: Typically, to be honest, I listen to a lot of

710
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Speaker 2: just like worship music, but I naturally the way that

711
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Speaker 2: I end up moving my body, I'm like, this beat

712
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Speaker 2: was almost a little bit too good, because you almost

713
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Speaker 2: caught me torking listening to some worship music. So what's

714
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Speaker 2: going on here? So I'm gonna get something with a

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Speaker 2: good beat more than I'm gonna do a two step.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, we like that.

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Speaker 3: We like that.

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Speaker 1: Yep, yeah, it'd be like that sometimes.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: Number three for you, maya, is what's the sexiest item

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Speaker 1: you own?

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Speaker 3: Ooh?

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Speaker 4: The sexiest item I own, honestly is probably just me,

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Speaker 4: my body, my mind, and my confidence. I love looking

725
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Speaker 4: in the.

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Speaker 2: Marriage good so good, So I'll say me and my body,

727
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Speaker 2: which is great because I get to own it and

728
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Speaker 2: have it all the time.

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Speaker 4: It's never going to expire.

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Speaker 3: Ooh what lovement answer? Okay, all right, our sentence completion.

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Speaker 3: One question or topic I wish people asked me about

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Speaker 3: more often is.

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Speaker 4: Oh, my gosh, these are good.

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Speaker 1: I have no idea.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, I'm not even sure because I'm I'm I'm a

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Speaker 2: woman of few words, Like, of course I can get

737
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Speaker 2: on podcasts and I answer questions, but I'm really like,

738
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Speaker 2: don't ask me anything because it requires me to be vulnerable,

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Speaker 2: and that's something I'm always working through.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think just whatever the person needs in the moment,

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Speaker 2: typically what I'm talking. I like to edify other people

743
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Speaker 2: so it's I don't think there's something in my mind

744
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 2: that I'm like, I wish people would ask me more

745
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Speaker 2: because I just want to share this. I want people

746
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Speaker 2: to ask me for what they need in the moment,

747
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Speaker 2: and I just hope that I can encourage them and

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Speaker 2: edify them.

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Speaker 1: That's a good answer. Thank you for sharing. Okay, Now

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Speaker 1: the next contense completion is the most embarrassing thing I've

751
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Speaker 1: ever done to get my crushous attention is.

752
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Speaker 4: Oh gosh, what have I even done?

753
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Speaker 2: I'm thinking about like middle school and stuff like probably

754
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Speaker 2: try to leave them a note or like call them on.

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Speaker 4: The phone, and then it's so nervous and shy. And

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Speaker 4: my mom used to work at them all when I

757
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Speaker 4: was younger.

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Speaker 2: She worked at like the fragrance counter, so she would

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Speaker 2: give like the guys in my school, like the little

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Speaker 2: sample coloonnes I'd be like, did you see did my

761
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Speaker 2: mom give you cologne?

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Speaker 4: So I don't know, just a little dirty stuff. I'm like, Oh,

763
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Speaker 4: I just want their attention. I hope they like me.

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Speaker 4: That's cute. That's cute.

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Speaker 3: I love that. And so you were trying to get

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Speaker 3: their attention because they needed to see something in you, right,

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Speaker 3: so this next sentence completion is.

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Speaker 4: What I love most about my my self is.

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Speaker 2: Ooh.

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Speaker 4: What I love most about myself is my playfulness.

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Speaker 2: I love to laugh, I love to giggle, and I

772
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Speaker 2: think maybe sometimes I can come off as flirty, but

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Speaker 2: I just love to enjoy. I love to have a

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Speaker 2: good time with people. I just want to feel good

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Speaker 2: around people and just laugh and smile. I don't like

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Speaker 2: to take things too seriously. I just want to enjoy people.

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Speaker 3: As we love it.

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Speaker 2: We love it.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 1: So that is the those are the questions and since

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Speaker 1: its completion, so we have three photos pulled up. Oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh, now my these pictures are so cute. Okay,

783
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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. So what we want you to do

784
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Speaker 1: is choose the number out of one in three. One

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Speaker 1: of these pictures is super sexy. Okay, I need to

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Speaker 1: know the outfit details. Okay, let me stop. Choose the

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Speaker 1: number out of one in three, and once you share

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Speaker 1: that number, we'll share the picture with you on the

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Speaker 1: big screen, and we want you to describe the photo

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Speaker 1: for folks only tuning into the audio, and then give

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Speaker 1: us the context that we wouldn't know by looking at it.

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Speaker 4: Gosh, let's go three.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, this is the one. Okay, get ready to

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Speaker 1: get ready and don't forget my I describe the photo first,

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Speaker 1: this picture down. Wait, it's using this picture. Okay, here

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Speaker 1: we go and.

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Speaker 2: My gosh, yes, I'm gonna describe the photo like it's

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Speaker 2: just like an AI.

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Speaker 4: Description or I'm trying to what.

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Speaker 1: So for people who are just listening to the audience,

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Speaker 1: they're like, what photo are they talking about?

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Speaker 4: Like what are you wearing with the vibes?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

804
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Speaker 2: Well, this is the photo of me where I'm in

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Speaker 2: some sexy lace heights and a black blazer with a

806
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Speaker 2: bra under it and some frilly I guess the arms

807
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 2: are frilly. I got the red lip, got the got

808
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Speaker 2: the pin, and I'm walking with confidence. I clearly look

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Speaker 2: like I'm walking into my man's hotel suite. I don't

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Speaker 2: know where I'm going at this photo.

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Speaker 4: This is so cute.

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Speaker 1: What's contents about the photo? And we wouldn't nobody looking

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Speaker 1: at it like is there a story that happened when

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Speaker 1: you were doing the shoot? Or like what was going

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Speaker 1: on on that day? Or how are you feeling? Literally confident?

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Speaker 1: But give us some tea.

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Speaker 2: Actually, I think this day I wanted I'm outside of

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Speaker 2: the Epicurean in Atlanta, and I needed to take pictures

819
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Speaker 2: at the hotel because that's why I hosted my last

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Speaker 2: and final Impact weekend.

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Speaker 1: Nice. Thank you so much for sharing, and thank you

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Speaker 1: for playing along with us for the Oe Blatchets segment.

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Speaker 3: That was fun.

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, I'm nervous. I was like, old,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on. What's the photo? And

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you did great photo, you did great, so good, great,

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Speaker 4: and so Maya.

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Speaker 3: You just mentioned from this photo that was of your

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Speaker 3: last Impact weekend, So tell us about that weekend. Tell

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Speaker 3: us about what's coming up next for you in terms

831
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Speaker 3: of you mentioned you alluded to it earlier, but tell

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Speaker 3: us what's next for you. Yeah, So that was my

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00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 3: last weekend. I had done I think seven or eight

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Speaker 3: Impact weekends, which was really just honestly the highlight of

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Speaker 3: my career being able to have these weekends and help

836
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Speaker 3: women in business and talk about mindset and messaging and marketing.

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Speaker 3: And now I'm transitioning from Built to Impact my original

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Speaker 3: company to Work Hard Livesoft and this is really about

839
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Speaker 3: women who work hard, but they do desire to see

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Speaker 3: you know, the softer side. I think that you know,

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Speaker 3: if you started your business.

842
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 2: During the girl Boss era where we wanted to be

843
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Speaker 2: a boss and we just wanted to handle all of

844
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Speaker 2: the things, at this point in your career, you're probably

845
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Speaker 2: a little bit burnt out.

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Speaker 4: You're like, I don't want to be the boss.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to be big dog no more. Okay,

848
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Speaker 2: somebody retire me. And you know, what I've seen is

849
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Speaker 2: that we have just really honestly entered in to two extremes.

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Speaker 4: Right.

851
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 2: We did the girl Boss era where we were like

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Speaker 2: so hard, we were so tough, we cared about working

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Speaker 2: the fourteen hour days and we wore like a badge

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Speaker 2: of honor. But then on the you know, the pendulum swing,

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Speaker 2: we've gone to like I just want to live the

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Speaker 2: soft life. And it's like we were doing nothing, but

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Speaker 2: we didn't replace it with any systems. And so work

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Speaker 2: card live soft is knowing how to do the right

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Speaker 2: strategic work so you can live a fruitful life. And

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Speaker 2: so I talk about how I built a seven figure

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Speaker 2: business and how you know, I love my home, I

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Speaker 2: love my car, I love that I you know, get

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Speaker 2: to take vacations. But it's a result of doing the

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Speaker 2: hard work, and so that's what I'm all focused on,

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Speaker 2: and just helping people build, as you know, a systems

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Speaker 2: in their business so their business can serve their life

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Speaker 2: instead of them living a life that has to serve

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Speaker 2: their business.

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Speaker 1: That is amazing. I think we all want that because

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Speaker 1: you hit the nail the head as far as the

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Speaker 1: Girl Boss era because we were writ it. Everybody wants

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Speaker 1: sof life now. So Maya, if you could do as

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Speaker 1: a favor and let our listeners know where can they

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Speaker 1: connect with you, support you, and yeah, I get to

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Speaker 1: know you more.

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Speaker 1: And before we meet again, repeat after me. I release

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Speaker 1: the old with gratitude and prepare for the new with intention.

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