1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: I'm ending my five years of marriage over a paternity test. 2 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: My mother in law requested, Am I the asshole? You know? 3 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:13,160 Speaker 2: Sometimes you get a request and then you have to 4 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 2: submit another request for divorce. 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: All paperwork, baby, all paperwork. That's how we Requests lead 6 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:24,360 Speaker 1: to more requests. And already say give a dog a 7 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: bone and an ass for the skeleton, you'd give someone 8 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:31,640 Speaker 1: a DNA test. They ask for a divorce, then go, 9 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: I don't know where to start. This whole situation is embarrassing, 10 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:40,519 Speaker 1: and I am dying done with it. And I am 11 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:43,919 Speaker 1: just done with it. I've been with my husband for 12 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:47,879 Speaker 1: five years now, married for three. Well, long story short, 13 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 1: his mom was always overwhelming and bold with her input. 14 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: To put it nicely, I generally think it's not fair 15 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: to be mad at your partner for something he didn't 16 00:00:57,120 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: do himself. He can't control what his mom does or says. 17 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: But what's also not fair is him not addressing it 18 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:07,120 Speaker 1: when I am clearly uncomfortable or upset and instead of 19 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: just talking to me into and instead just talking me 20 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: into brushing it off or going with it. So basically 21 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: like husband's like like, hey, you know, I know my 22 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:20,160 Speaker 1: mom's saying like acting a little crazy, but just get 23 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: over it. Yeah, it's just ignore. It's his mom being mom. 24 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 1: If she attacks you just be like, give her a 25 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:30,479 Speaker 1: little juke, you know what I mean. Get better at football, bro, Yeah, 26 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: come on, come on, maybe uh, get better at debates 27 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 1: so you can actually win these arguments against my mama. 28 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: I'm a master debater, I believe it. I never nor 29 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 1: would I ever have a back and forth with my 30 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: mother in law. Just not worth barking at each other. Right, So, like, oh, 31 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to fight, makes sense. I always kind 32 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: of just brush it off. If it's a snarky comment 33 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 1: or if it's a better way to do something in 34 00:01:56,960 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: her opinion, I'll just tell her thanks for the suggestion, 35 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: but you are fine smart. It's actually true, the saying 36 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: when you marry someone, you marry their family. I think 37 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 1: the way to handle it is each spouse should keep 38 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 1: his side of the family in line. For lack of 39 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: a better way to say it, which is like, you know, like, 40 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: all right, if my family's out of line, I'll say 41 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: something off. Your family's out alne and you say something 42 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: that's on you, bro. I deal with my parents and 43 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: their standagans, and I expected him to do the same. 44 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: He never did that fucking bitch, asshole. He always asked 45 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: me to give her some grace, which I feel like 46 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: is like a little bit of a red flag if 47 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 1: you're not going to bat for your significant other. Yeah, 48 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: like you again, Like like op said, you can't necessarily 49 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:43,399 Speaker 1: control the uh uh the other person's family. You can't. 50 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: You can't necessarily control what your family says, but you 51 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: can support your significant other through what your family says. 52 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: There's also kind of a point, there's the exact line. Well, 53 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: it's hard when that person is insulting you too. For 54 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: a while now, she has been making comments about how 55 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: my son doesn't look like my husband when he was 56 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:07,600 Speaker 1: a toddler, basically accusing me of sleeping around. Oh no, 57 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: this rightfully upset me. Sorry, my jeans are strong. What 58 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: did I tell you? I was short with my husband 59 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,440 Speaker 1: because he didn't address how out of pocket and disrespectful 60 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: this whole thing was. It's been a week since my husband, 61 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: well soon to be ex husband, told me he would 62 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: be doing a paternity DNA test, not because he thinks 63 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: that it's not his son, but he wants his mom 64 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: to shut up. Mom, you know, for first you know 65 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: what I mean. I want you nut up and just 66 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: tell your mom to get off your back yourself, nut 67 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: up and tell her that it's your nut come. Yeah. 68 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: I feel like man cannot stick up for himself. He 69 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: really can't, or doesn't want to, or maybe believes it himself. 70 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 1: Who knows, yes, exactly what you read. I don't know 71 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 1: which one is worse, him accusing me of cheating or 72 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: this shit. But all I know is this is audacious. 73 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: I didn't cheat, and I am not concerned one bit 74 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: about the test results. I wasn't going to stop him 75 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: from taking a DNA test or whatever, but I just 76 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: know I don't want to deal with this any longer. 77 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 1: I'm looking for an apartment, and I talked to a 78 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: lawyer the day after he brought up the DNA test. 79 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:23,039 Speaker 1: I've been acting more than normal since. So oh, he's 80 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 1: not letting anything clue the husband in that she's thinking 81 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: about leaving. We'll be getting the results in two days. 82 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: I can't wait. He will also be getting divorce papers 83 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: with that too, fice cold. I know for a fact 84 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: he won't see it coming. I tried my best to 85 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 1: make this whole thing work and manage my relationship with 86 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 1: my mother in law as gracefully as possible. But thinking 87 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 1: about it, it's not just my mother in law that's 88 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: a problem, but how he's handling things that's the problem. 89 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:01,600 Speaker 1: Bingo and side note, I've never been more glad that 90 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: I didn't leave my job when I got married. He 91 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 1: makes more than enough to take care of the financial 92 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:09,920 Speaker 1: side of things. I thought I would get bored. I 93 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: only have to be on site two days a week, 94 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: and I really do love my job and the company, 95 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: so I didn't leave. Best decision I ever made. He 96 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: is unreliable, to say the least. We stand an independently, 97 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: so Op's got income, so it makes it easier for 98 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: her to leave her husband. Love that. I know that 99 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: divorce can be hard on kids, but I experienced the 100 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: other side. Living with two parents that hated each other 101 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:37,159 Speaker 1: and violently fought almost all the time is hard, maybe 102 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: even harder. They thought that staying together would be good 103 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: for me and my siblings. Newsflash, it wasn't. It was traumatizing, 104 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: to say the least. I don't remember. I either read 105 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 1: somewhere or maybe my therapist told me that when you 106 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: fight with your spouse, you shouldn't see it as me 107 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: versus you, but more like me and you versus the 108 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:57,719 Speaker 1: particular situation or problem on hand, and try to figure 109 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: it out. But it's really hard to do that when 110 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 1: you start hating that person. I love that idea of like, 111 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: it's not me versus you, it's the problem in us. 112 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: It's kind of like reframing. 113 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's you, me and the relationship. 114 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: Right. 115 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:18,080 Speaker 2: It's like, hey, let's let's externalize this thing so we 116 00:06:18,120 --> 00:06:18,920 Speaker 2: don't end up. 117 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: Hurting the relationship. Yeah yeah, yeah, and you want to 118 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: protect the relationship. I don't want my son to live 119 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: like that, because I tell you one thing, I can't 120 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 1: stand my husband anymore. I don't know if this is 121 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: a weird way of saying it, but I just don't 122 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 1: respect him anymore. If that makes any sense, which I 123 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 1: think it does make sense. I get it. I just 124 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: see an unreliable man, and I know for a fact 125 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: that our fights won't be the same as before. I 126 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: would have said, what a waste of five years, But 127 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: I have a sweet and smart grumlin now, and having 128 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: a child really pushes you to be better and to 129 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 1: do better, so I can't complain. And there is an update, 130 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 1: so and it's pretty juicy. So we'll get into that. 131 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:03,839 Speaker 1: But what do you think about just like ope leaving 132 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: in this way? What do you think about her keeping 133 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: it secret too? So I think that this we what 134 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: do we always say on the show, Sam, there's gotta 135 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: be some like red flags, And I think, OHP saw 136 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: the red flags and the mother in law but like 137 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,400 Speaker 1: just like kept ignoring it. Yeah, you know, she's just 138 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: like it's just building up. But then the DNA test 139 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: was the red flag. And it's not even the mother 140 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: in law asking for the DNA test, it's the husband agreeing, yes, 141 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: that's what it is. 142 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 2: And I think it's like she saw over and over 143 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 2: and you know what, she was aware of it. She 144 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 2: was saying like throughout that time period, like, hey, why 145 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 2: isn't he standing up for me? 146 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: Why isn't he like trying to do something? Because he 147 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: don't get a backbone, No he don't. So his mom's 148 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: blown his back out all the time. 149 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 2: That's right, And obviously like OHP knows if she's the 150 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 2: mom or not, right, and she knows that she is 151 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 2: the mom, So she's like, you're just gonna look like 152 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 2: a freaking clown when these things come back so uh yeah, 153 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 2: I totally agree, and also like I could just see 154 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 2: how we've talked. We've also talked about asking for the 155 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,480 Speaker 2: DNA test. It just what is it insinuate? It insinuates 156 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 2: you had a child with someone else. So it's kind 157 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 2: of a hard thing to come back from that. I 158 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 2: can't really blame. 159 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I also understand the whole thing of like 160 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: I don't respect him anymore. Yeah, because it's like there's 161 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 1: a certain like sometimes you take an action that reframes 162 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: every other action, and I think the husband made a 163 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: decision to support his mom over his wife. Yes, and 164 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: now it reframes every action he's done before. And he 165 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: looks like a weak, little silly sausage, looks like a 166 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:42,240 Speaker 1: fucking wet noodle. A flaccid Yeah, the most flaccid wang 167 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 1: waddling in the wind, little wang, little wang att Yeah, 168 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: more vibrating not It's like, what's update? Here's the update. 169 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: So the day he was supposed to receive the results, 170 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: I called my father in law and invited them to 171 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: come over that evening. He was working. When he got 172 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: the results, he sent them to me and told me 173 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: he would talk to his mother in law and told 174 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: me he would talk to his mother to finally put 175 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: this to rest. I informed him that I had already 176 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:18,960 Speaker 1: invited them for this evening and I'm just waiting for 177 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: my apology before I leave. I asked that they come 178 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: home so we can talk before they come over. He called, 179 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: and I basically told him that this is not working 180 00:09:28,400 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: for me anymore. I've already talked to an attorney filed 181 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: for divorce, and it might be more expensive than a 182 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:39,320 Speaker 1: paternity test, but it would be more effective in making 183 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: his mother happy. Oh, which is obviously what this husband wants. 184 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:48,199 Speaker 1: Make mommy happy, and not Opie, damn OPI. He's dropping 185 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: bombs over here, and no, I don't care that he 186 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: was working when I told him, I don't think you 187 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: would care either. He left work and came home. Long 188 00:09:56,679 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: story short, we had a spectacular fight. He said that 189 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: I am not thinking about my son and I am 190 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: overreacting because it's not like he went behind my back, 191 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: and if he knew that I was this upset, he 192 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: wouldn't have done it. But he knew. We thought about 193 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: it when he brought it up, but he just didn't care. 194 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 1: When I gave him the divorce papers, he said he's 195 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 1: not signing anything, and he'll ask his mother to apologize 196 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: when his parents arrive and get done with this. Listen, 197 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,800 Speaker 1: I don't need him to sign it to get a divorce. 198 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: It would just make things complicated. That's it. So basically, 199 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: she's saying like he doesn't she doesn't need his signature, right, 200 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,079 Speaker 1: and it just makes it a little harder. But she's 201 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: fine with that. His mother said she has nothing to 202 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 1: apologize for. She wouldn't apologize for having suspicions. She didn't 203 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: accuse me of anything, and I can leave if I 204 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: wanted to. So that's that. I did leave that night 205 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: because I wasn't going to get an apology, and he 206 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: didn't seem to understand that. Him reinforcing that it's okay 207 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: for her to meddle is why I want a divorce 208 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: in the first place. He eventually told his parents he'll 209 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 1: be coming over from time to time to check up 210 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: on them. He is their only child, and not to 211 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:11,320 Speaker 1: bother coming over anymore until she apologizes. So basically it's like, 212 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm kind of done with you until you apologize. Wow. Fair, 213 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:18,480 Speaker 1: She wasn't amused. She told me I am taking her 214 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 1: son away, and some whore would take my son too. 215 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: She is not someone that you can talk to. I'll 216 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: tell you very much. It's like talking to a wall. 217 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:32,520 Speaker 1: All she knows is insulting or being passive aggressive on 218 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 1: a good day, We're not getting a divorce. We talked 219 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: today after he said I can always file for divorce, 220 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:43,440 Speaker 1: but we should try at least couples counseling because he 221 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:46,200 Speaker 1: doesn't want to co parent. He doesn't want to lose 222 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: his son, plain and simple. Although it's not like if 223 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: we were to get divorced he wouldn't be able to 224 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: see his son. But whatever, he did say when we 225 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: talked the second time that he can see how he 226 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 1: was wrong, especially knowing his mother. He also mentioned and 227 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:03,240 Speaker 1: that he'll just shut her down if she meddles this time. 228 00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 1: But what can I do with just words. I hope 229 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: you can learn a thing or two on how to 230 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: deal with his mother in counseling, because she is truly overwhelming. 231 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:15,319 Speaker 1: So there is a little bit more. But it sounds 232 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: like she's not divorcing him yet. Sounds like it. I'm 233 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,680 Speaker 1: kind of surprised, actually surprised. I was ready to go 234 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 1: full on divorce champ right, come on, I was excited. 235 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: I was excited if counseling would help him understand that 236 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:36,320 Speaker 1: a couple means two people, not three, and our marriage 237 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: is a bit crowded right now, That's enough for me. 238 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: People saying that I am overreacting in my last post 239 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 1: made me ask myself, do I actually want a divorce 240 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: or am I just mad? Which is a good question 241 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: ask yourself. It is a good question to ask. I 242 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: wanted the divorce at the time because it seemed like 243 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 1: the only solution. But if counseling would help us, I 244 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: can try to work things out. I hope this is 245 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 1: a good decision. If not, I am not stuck. I 246 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 1: can just take my mom and leave. I have a 247 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: friend who got divorced in twenty days, an uncontested divorce, 248 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: So if it's uncontested, I guess it's like much easier. Wow, 249 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: when you're on the same page regarding how things would 250 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,320 Speaker 1: be divided, including custody, it's a matter of how long 251 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: the court would take to review and finalize the divorce, 252 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: and you'll be done. That was my plan. Nonetheless, I 253 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: am the one working from home, and my son is 254 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 1: still so young. It's totally up to him if he 255 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: wants to see his son every day when he gets 256 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 1: off work, or if he wants to see his son 257 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: just a couple of times a week, that's fine too, 258 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 1: But I am not tolerating this anymore. Oh and one 259 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:44,319 Speaker 1: last thing. People my last post were debating if paternity 260 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 1: tests should be mandatory or not. I thought that from 261 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 1: what I wrote, it was clear I didn't cheat, and 262 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: I have nothing against the paternity test itself. It should 263 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: be obvious to everyone that it's not fair for the 264 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: child nor the man to be tricked into living a lie. 265 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,199 Speaker 1: If he was the one who had suspence, that's a 266 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:03,959 Speaker 1: big deal. We would have talked about why he thinks 267 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:06,839 Speaker 1: that taking the paternity test for his peace of mind, 268 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 1: and made sure we can trust each other, then move 269 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 1: on all without anyone interfering, let alone requesting the effing 270 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 1: a paternity test at it too. Someone asked curious why 271 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: they asked for the test and why you're so against it. 272 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to assume there was troubles in the past, 273 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: but I feel like there's a lot of lead up 274 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 1: and information left out here. At this point, I've shared 275 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 1: so much that these aren't too many details. I guess 276 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: I'm not religious. I also dated women at a certain time. 277 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 1: She doesn't like that and thinks that me not being 278 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 1: religious or not me being or me being not straight 279 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 1: means I have no values or something. She hates that 280 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 1: her son married a non religious person. He is a believer, 281 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: but he's a non practicing believer. Either way, his religion 282 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: or my lack of belief doesn't cause us any problems 283 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: in our day to day life. I hope this clarifies 284 00:14:54,640 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: things for you. So that is the full shebang. It 285 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 1: sounds like she's still staying in it. Yeah, Like I guess, 286 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: like all right, you know, maybe this was like you know, 287 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: there's a warning and then there's like a bomb dropping. Yeah, 288 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: and then it's like all right, like I he's been 289 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: shaken out of maybe maybe maybe so and you know what, 290 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 1: we'll see if this change holds. Yeah. 291 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 2: I'm good and good on her for, you know, giving 292 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 2: that chance. I think any time to like pause and 293 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 2: just like reflect. And they're going to a couple's counseling. 294 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 1: But it sounds like she's like like, we'll see if 295 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: this works. Yeah, we'll see if this works and if 296 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:39,080 Speaker 1: it doesn't, like I have my original option. Yes, not 297 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: as optimistic. Yeah, but all right, So, like I guess 298 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 1: the question I'm like, I like, is asking for a 299 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 1: paternity test an automatic relationship ender. 300 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 2: If it's basically saying I think I think you cheated. 301 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 2: Not only is it I think you cheated. I think 302 00:15:56,840 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 2: you cheated had a kid with someone else and tricked 303 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 2: me into raising them. It's pretty crazy. 304 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 1: Is having that fear worthy of to destroy like ending 305 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 1: the relationship? It all? 306 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:16,800 Speaker 2: It all depends, Like we've had many stories where they 307 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 2: had a fear that was correct. Yes, right, So yeah, 308 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: I totally think there's instances And to Opie's credit, she 309 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 2: kind of mentioned like, hey, if there was something where 310 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 2: there were some I don't know if she said evidence, 311 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 2: but like some reason why behind why he wanted it 312 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 2: other than just his mom wanted it and he was 313 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 2: like spinelessly going along with it, then that would have 314 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 2: been potentially a different story. 315 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,920 Speaker 1: Would but would it have shaken the foundation of the 316 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:46,680 Speaker 1: relationship still if it came from him, for sure, I 317 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:49,080 Speaker 1: think it's not. Does it come from him? 318 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:54,040 Speaker 2: Does he have a substantial reason to believe that that 319 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 2: that is the case, if he if he confronts her, 320 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,000 Speaker 2: if if he has a text of some other dude 321 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 2: is like, I don't feel good about you know, lying 322 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 2: to your husband that I'm the real father. Well, there 323 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 2: you go, ask for the maternity test, you know what 324 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:09,920 Speaker 2: I mean. And there's stuff in between. But uh yeah, 325 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 2: I think if you have the right evidence and reasons, 326 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 2: that can. 327 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 1: What if what if? What if you want? What if 328 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:18,960 Speaker 1: you're you're you're a dude, I am a dude. You 329 00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: have a wiener, You have a wiener? Okay, So uh 330 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:26,439 Speaker 1: one of my friends, when he was engaging in his 331 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:30,439 Speaker 1: next relationship, he was like, I only want to engage 332 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 1: in a non monogamous relationship. Like he says that at 333 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: the beginning of his relationship, like I only want to 334 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 1: engage in a non monogous relationship. And if you're cool 335 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 1: with that, cool, Like, let's let's start dating. If you're not, 336 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: like this is I'm probably not for you. Yeah, So 337 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: what if at the beginning of the relationship you're like, Hey, 338 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: this is just my thing, but I don't want to 339 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 1: raise a kid that's not mine. And so just to 340 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: ensure that I'm raising a kid not that's not mine, 341 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: I always do a paternity test for every kid that 342 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 1: I'm associated with. It with all right, So like that's 343 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 1: just my policy. It's not that I don't trust you, 344 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: it's just my policy as I get a pptornity test 345 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: for all the kids that I'm that I am saddled 346 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:15,600 Speaker 1: with responsibility of So so what if, like what if 347 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:16,680 Speaker 1: you just make that your policy. 348 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:19,600 Speaker 2: I've actually thought about this before, not like me doing it, 349 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 2: but just like so like in rap right, there's a 350 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:24,639 Speaker 2: lot of like, oh, actually, maybe a paternity test I 351 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:28,439 Speaker 2: can't deny if legally requested or whatever. Right, that's because 352 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 2: they're living life as a rapper. Yeah, where where these 353 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: girls are like, oh this is a meal ticket for me, 354 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:38,119 Speaker 2: and like maybe I can like be straight for life 355 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 2: if I have fucking futures baby or whatever. Right, if 356 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:46,200 Speaker 2: you're not future, that's a very different scenario. 357 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: But what are they you, like like if you if 358 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: if you if that's just your policy and you bring 359 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 1: it up before you're in a relate, like when you're 360 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 1: in a relationship, like and you're just like covering your 361 00:18:56,359 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 1: bases basically, Yeah. 362 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:01,040 Speaker 2: I think what I'm saying is I think the policy 363 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 2: can be fine based on that person's life, maybe past relationships, things, 364 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 2: things that have happened. But if it's out of nowhere 365 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 2: and you have your kind of like a quote unquote 366 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 2: like normal person just like going about living living your life. 367 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,679 Speaker 2: Like it's kind of like where's it coming from, and 368 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:26,239 Speaker 2: you're starting off on missed on the wrong foot at 369 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:28,359 Speaker 2: least maybe mistrust. 370 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: In a worse scenario. 371 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 2: So like again, if you have more of a reason 372 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 2: to want this and that's your uh personal boundary because 373 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:42,680 Speaker 2: of a reason, I think that can totally be be fine. 374 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 1: Because again, but usually the reason is gonna be like 375 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:47,399 Speaker 1: I thought you cheated, yes, right, which is gonna be 376 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 1: gonna be like fucked. Yeah. Yeah, maybe maybe a person 377 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 1: has scares. I don't know, but yeah, I think it 378 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 1: totally can be fine in what you think your policy 379 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: if it's just like I'm a dude and that's my boy. 380 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,440 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. The policy has to come from somewhere. Yeah, 381 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 2: that's the only Oh, sell Its okay. 382 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 1: If you don't want this to happen to you at 383 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: the start of any relationship, just say, hey, my policy 384 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: is I get a paternity test. That's right. If if 385 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:15,399 Speaker 1: anyone's pregnant my Wiener boys, Wiener boys, get that paternity test. 386 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: Baby anyway, Uh oh, I hope, Ope ends up in 387 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 1: the relationship that is the best for her. Yes, I 388 00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:27,880 Speaker 1: pray for that. I pray for it. Anyway, what would 389 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 1: you do if you were ope? Would you divorce, divorce, 390 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: divorce or would you stay with this loser of a guy? 391 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 1: Let us know in the comments below. If you want 392 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 1: to submit your own story, go to our slash okop 393 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,679 Speaker 1: show or subreddit, or you could call us right now 394 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: and leave us a voicemail. That's right, four four zero 395 00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:47,119 Speaker 1: five's are a six' five six.' seven send us your 396 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 1: stories see in the next one. See soon this is 397 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,639 Speaker 1: an Episode from deep Within. The archives time For. Okop 398 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: relam my girlfriend laughed in my face and said NO 399 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:01,679 Speaker 1: when i proposed, to HER so. I LEFT am i the? 400 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: A hole i think she was the a hole when 401 00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:07,719 Speaker 1: she laughed in? Your face. Also rude just just let 402 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: the guy, Down easy no need. To, laugh also if, 403 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,920 Speaker 1: you're proposing make sure you talk about. It beforehand that 404 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:15,040 Speaker 1: is that is a very. 405 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 2: Good, POINT also i completely disagree, with YOU and i 406 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 2: think that he should grovel and be thankful she even spoke. 407 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 1: TO him i think that's, actually true graced him with. Her, 408 00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:29,159 Speaker 1: work well you, KNOW what i actually disagree with. YOU 409 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: there i think my man needs to read up On Some. Andrew. Tait, 410 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:40,119 Speaker 1: GEE yeah i don't propose. To bitches they proposed. To 411 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 1: me they proposed. To Me andrew tate every here. 412 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 2: We go my twenty five Female girlfriend mollie twenty six 413 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 2: female For The Double Female, double female actually only for 414 00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 2: the last, six months started this Joke that i've made 415 00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,359 Speaker 2: very CLEAR that i. Don't like what's? The joke it 416 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 2: consists of her saying no quickly. TO anything, i ask 417 00:22:05,880 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 2: can you call nine one One because i'm? 418 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 1: Bleeding? Out no can you. 419 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 2: Take this package because someone's gonna? 420 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:13,520 Speaker 1: Murder me no. 421 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:18,120 Speaker 2: LIKE that i know it, sounds SILLY but i asked 422 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 2: her to get a glass of water. 423 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 1: For me she. 424 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,840 Speaker 2: Says no and after, A minute i'm almost getting up 425 00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,200 Speaker 2: and she says that she, was joking and she gets 426 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:25,520 Speaker 2: some water. 427 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: FROM me i asked her to watch. The dishes she. 428 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 1: Says no, SHE says i, love you she. Says no, 429 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 1: dang wow ask. PRETTY harsh i asked her to take. 430 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 1: Her clothes she. 431 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:45,119 Speaker 2: Says no everything is just joking for about thirty seconds to. 432 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:49,480 Speaker 2: A minute then she, does it but she's addicted to. 433 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:51,920 Speaker 1: Doing it she needs to do a stand, up step 434 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 1: get all this with no. Energy OUT and i like 435 00:22:55,680 --> 00:23:02,800 Speaker 1: that she's she's addicted. To it. She's, addicted god, just 436 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 1: one get off and depriving your significant other? Of yesses, 437 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:11,640 Speaker 1: oh yeah edge that. Other Hmm and i've already made 438 00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,800 Speaker 1: it clear several TIMES that i do not, like this 439 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:20,880 Speaker 1: even more so when SHE says i love. You, understandable 440 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: yeah that. Would. 441 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 2: Hurt, man yeah she's the only PERSON that i say, 442 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,720 Speaker 2: that to so it's special. 443 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,679 Speaker 1: To me oh so does she say it back after she? 444 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 1: Says no or does she just stop, but NO like 445 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:37,240 Speaker 1: i love? You no? No. Nah yikes and there are 446 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 1: things that are SERIOUS that i need her to. Answer 447 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 1: seriously and if she says no to, EVERYTHING jokingly i 448 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: can't tell when it's a. Real no, and yes that's, already. 449 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 1: Happened dude that sounds like a like a toddler kind 450 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,160 Speaker 1: of phase where it's, Like truth i'm gonna say no. To, everything, no, 451 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 1: no no. 452 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 2: No no that reminds me when when me and my sister, 453 00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 2: WERE little i would have these stupid catchphrases and one 454 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,439 Speaker 2: of them was that gives. Me gas so she, just, 455 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,359 Speaker 2: say hey can you pass the milk for the cereal 456 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:06,639 Speaker 2: like that gives, me gas and she would just. She 457 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,800 Speaker 2: would it got to the point where she just started like. 458 00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 2: HITTING me i love. 459 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: That catchphrase my sister actually also had a catch trail 460 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:19,000 Speaker 1: where it was that was. Actually good hers was TO anything. 461 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: I said it would be like. Your, Face yeah, i'm Like, 462 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 1: so via can you pass? The milk your face could pass? The, milk, 463 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: yeah bro that wasn't, even, Good, DUDE sophia i, SEE 464 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 1: you i, see you fellow FELLOW catch i. See you 465 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,399 Speaker 1: touch me if you can't, catch me if. 466 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,200 Speaker 2: You, CAN now i kept saying that this is BORING 467 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 2: and i don't. Like it she'll stop doing it and 468 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:43,680 Speaker 2: then goes back to doing it after. 469 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 1: A week it seems like she really likes, doing it 470 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: just like like. 471 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 2: Just, unreasonably, so yeah why do you get off on this? 472 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 1: So? Much dude she just. Loves depriving maybe she has, like, 473 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 1: yeah yeah like an, affirmation kink like maybe she wants 474 00:24:58,200 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 1: to be a. Domin matrix. 475 00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:04,680 Speaker 2: Maybe maybe and after a brief discussion because she played 476 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 2: this prank out in front of, our, friends. 477 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,040 Speaker 1: Okay prank is is this really? A prank it's it's just. 478 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:15,080 Speaker 1: A prank bro saying no isn't. A PreK it's just. 479 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:18,200 Speaker 1: A prank it's just, A, Frank bro it's just. A prank, 480 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:22,119 Speaker 1: PRE yes i mean, no ah. 481 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:27,680 Speaker 2: This, this one this prank consisted of me, asking love 482 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: can you get me? Some medicine and she, said no. 483 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:36,600 Speaker 2: Damn kidding so after, that incident she stopped doing it 484 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 2: for about. A month so now we're in a. 485 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,840 Speaker 1: Dry. Phase, yeah no, no phase, no, fase no. 486 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 2: No phase yesterday we welcome to my parents in laws 487 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 2: and our two best friends over to. Our house everybody 488 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,879 Speaker 2: KNEW that i was planning to propose. 489 00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: To Her, oh god in front of your family, and 490 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,399 Speaker 1: friends when this girl will just blurt out no to 491 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 1: anything you ask. 492 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:06,280 Speaker 2: Everyone everyone you're the closest people in, your life everyone, 493 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 2: you love and opis setting herself up for failure. 494 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 1: Though actually actually like actually this is. A thing like 495 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,680 Speaker 1: at least just do it like on a mountaintop where 496 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 1: there's no like. Only, goats yeah at least That no. 497 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:29,920 Speaker 1: Scottish islands will you? Marry? Me, no no No STREK 498 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:33,440 Speaker 1: and i called all my loved ones because we had 499 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,800 Speaker 1: always planned this proposal to have them all, in attendance 500 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 1: participating in. This special so they did talk. About it. 501 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,360 Speaker 1: They did it seems like, they're, like hey we want 502 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 1: ourself to be. There discussion it seems. LIKE right i 503 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: asked her will you marry me in front of all, 504 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,480 Speaker 1: the people in front OF everyone? I love and she 505 00:26:52,680 --> 00:27:02,560 Speaker 1: gave me a resounding, sturdy, no, nope, yikes nada no marriage. For. 506 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,720 Speaker 1: You wow how long does she keep the? Face on 507 00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:07,800 Speaker 1: how long? Was? 508 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:15,720 Speaker 2: It, OH well i was, so grumpy panicked and upset 509 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:20,200 Speaker 2: with everyone looking. IN shock, i, mean bro her whole, 510 00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:25,840 Speaker 2: FAMILY'S there i would. Be aghast we stood there for about, 511 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:29,560 Speaker 2: thirty seconds which feels like an eternity when something like. 512 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 2: That happened thirty seconds a long time for her to 513 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 2: start laughing and say she was just joking and then finally, 514 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 2: say yes. 515 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,800 Speaker 1: Not, the moment, you know not like not quite. 516 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:47,560 Speaker 2: THE moment i mean it's she should have like it's, been, 517 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:48,640 Speaker 2: communicated seriously she would. 518 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,760 Speaker 1: Have stopped but this point to bring it back after, 519 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,160 Speaker 1: A month, i know that's. What's worse like that's what's 520 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,000 Speaker 1: the terrible thing about it is like like opie, things 521 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 1: okay like now it's. Finally done it's been over. A 522 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,960 Speaker 1: month i could finally get married without her getting in, 523 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,560 Speaker 1: the way and, then bam she. SNIPES her i feel 524 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,560 Speaker 1: like that's actually the best time to use it in 525 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 1: terms of like the most pranky. That got you gotta, 526 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 1: give it you gotta give it to the. Girl's, prank 527 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:20,040 Speaker 1: bro that is. A prank i was so embarrassed, and 528 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 1: disappointed as you. 529 00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:26,280 Speaker 2: Should, be, YEAH yeah i just put the ring back 530 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,520 Speaker 2: in the box AND said i was gonna leave to. 531 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:33,919 Speaker 2: COOL off i didn't even let her say, anything no 532 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:34,520 Speaker 2: no room for. 533 00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 1: Another. No yeah imagine if she followed up with a 534 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,960 Speaker 1: note that's actually that would be. Slightly hilarious, my god 535 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: why is this woman so convinced that she has to 536 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 1: say no all? 537 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 2: The time, It's insane like find another bit like. 538 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 1: Also like that it probably is the funniest way to end. 539 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,440 Speaker 1: A marriage where it was, just, like yeah my fiance 540 00:28:58,640 --> 00:28:59,840 Speaker 1: just couldn't stop, Saying NO. 541 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:04,200 Speaker 2: So i, said no that. Our, relationship yeah she kept. 542 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,440 Speaker 2: TEXTING me i was not answering, her calls saying that. 543 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 1: It was just, a joke just, a, prank bro AND 544 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 1: that i knew she always. Did that, you knew you 545 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 1: KNEW why i always? Do THAT and ophi, WAS like i. 546 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,480 Speaker 1: FUCKING hated i know you always, do it and it's, The, 547 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 1: Words Hey devil's i'm playing, Your part. Devil's advocate it's a. 548 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: Prank bro, Come on you're not allowed to say. That 549 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: anymore i'm banning officially saying it's a prank. Bro band 550 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:43,000 Speaker 1: this is gonna be like. Bro is this girl's note 551 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 1: says it's a prank bro way too, many times way. 552 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,800 Speaker 1: TOO much i put in my fist out, no more 553 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:51,400 Speaker 1: it's a prank. 554 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 2: Bro over she SAID that i left her in a 555 00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,560 Speaker 2: difficult situation in that house because it was VERY clear 556 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,200 Speaker 2: i had given up on the proposal and did so 557 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:01,480 Speaker 2: in front of my parents and. 558 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: In, laws bitch maybe you shouldn't have. Said no maybe 559 00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 1: you should have. Said yes maybe he could like he 560 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 1: ruined a perfectly, great moment an incredible moment all, the 561 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,040 Speaker 1: friends like everyone. Care About. 562 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:18,080 Speaker 2: Good god she's STRESSED that i was making the situation 563 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 2: uncomfortable because of a. 564 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,600 Speaker 1: Silly, joke dude you just got to read. The, room 565 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 1: man read, the room. Read you this girl needs to 566 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 1: do some comedy, lessons actually because girl does not know how. To, read, 567 00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 1: yeah yeah build up your, crowd, Work, lady like, come, on. 568 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's, like hey so anyone ever happened? 569 00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: To YOU am? I? Right GUYS am? 570 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:45,760 Speaker 2: I right they're, just like what you just turned down my? Fucking, 571 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 2: DAUGHTER well i slept in a Hotel and i'm still. 572 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 2: In it things are not. Looking, good yeah this relationship is. 573 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:59,160 Speaker 1: Falling, apart yeah my parents, supported me but my in 574 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,320 Speaker 1: laws called me an a hole for giving up and 575 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:08,680 Speaker 1: proposing and disproportionately humiliating. Their, daughter mayby don't, say no. 576 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,280 Speaker 2: Bro o p was the one that. Was humiliated and 577 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:16,719 Speaker 2: we're talking. About acumulating that is the Ultimate this this 578 00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:19,160 Speaker 2: is your your, just desserts you KNOW what? I mean 579 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 2: i really think there's a time, for jokes and that 580 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 2: moment clearly. Wasn't It, sis yep she KNEW that i 581 00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 2: didn't like it and decided to do, It anyways SO 582 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:30,440 Speaker 2: am i the? 583 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 1: A hole i don't? Think? So yeah, well yeah definitely. An. 584 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 1: Escalation yeah do we have a? Devil's ADVOCATE like i 585 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:45,800 Speaker 1: got a devil? Advocate here. You go let's, you, know like, 586 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,160 Speaker 1: all right you're about to marry. This girl you know what. 587 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: She's about she. Loves saying notice, it like if you're 588 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,320 Speaker 1: gonna marry, this person you gotta expect it at, this 589 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: point or sit her down and, be like this is. 590 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:01,880 Speaker 1: Gonna happen you better not, say, yeah yeah but she 591 00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,960 Speaker 1: might even say it still, like this this is the person, you're, 592 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 1: Burying right so, it's like, you know it's in the 593 00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 1: in the grand scheme of things. Like that her saying 594 00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,680 Speaker 1: no momentarily doesn't really, do anything like it's, NOT like, i, 595 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 1: mean sure, momentary embarrassment, but Like but opie probably knows 596 00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:23,360 Speaker 1: she's got to. Say yes you've already talked about. Saying. 597 00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,400 Speaker 1: Yes yes opie is just so annoyed because he just 598 00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:30,240 Speaker 1: doesn't like, this amazing. Amazing joke, it's, yeah yeah it's 599 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:34,959 Speaker 1: like you don't get the art of. Comedy exactly this 600 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:39,920 Speaker 1: is actually it's very, high brow. Very intellectual comrade is 601 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 1: to the mood of. The roof, it's, like uh, you know, 602 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: you know uh not handsome, squid word but like like 603 00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:48,760 Speaker 1: the squid word that's like in the tuxs like rich. 604 00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,120 Speaker 1: Squid word and he has that like brow. Over there 605 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 1: that's how high the. Brow is by, THE way i 606 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,480 Speaker 1: since all of you all are are real, FANS here 607 00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 1: I might i might need to do a little bit 608 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:03,680 Speaker 1: of a segue into another special moment relationship not not like, 609 00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 1: you know but you know you can have a relationship with. 610 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,600 Speaker 2: A stranger this is, you know this is true. A, 611 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:13,800 Speaker 2: encounter OKAY. 612 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,840 Speaker 1: Yeah I got i got an entangled entanglement. For. You. 613 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,200 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah SO so i last like a couple of, 614 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,040 Speaker 1: EPISODES ago i was talking about this this GIRL that 615 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:25,040 Speaker 1: i met on, The, Beach? Right alexa You? Met, alexa, right, 616 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:28,600 Speaker 1: yes dude best like best way. Woman Ever so alexa 617 00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:32,480 Speaker 1: is like a pretty good. Looking girl and when you 618 00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,360 Speaker 1: meet girls with a good, looking girl you have hot. Girl, 619 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:40,640 Speaker 1: Credibility right hot girl credibility, is, everything, Yes right because 620 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,800 Speaker 1: if you have a hot girl that's, saying, like oh 621 00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:44,960 Speaker 1: like this person is like cool enough to hang, out 622 00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,960 Speaker 1: with then any other girl you, approach like, oh okay 623 00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:53,840 Speaker 1: this this guy's probably the defenses, are Down. John no 624 00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 1: AND so i meet this girl at. The beach she's. 625 00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 1: Like journaling, uh, WELL okay i don't. Meet her ALEX 626 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 1: and i arrived early to. The beach we're supposed to 627 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,280 Speaker 1: meet some. Other people this girl is just kind of like. 628 00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,600 Speaker 1: Journaling alone there's a bunch of people on. The beach, 629 00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:10,880 Speaker 1: i'm like that girl's very cute And so ALEX and 630 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 1: i sit right next. To her, OH yeah i start talking, 631 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:18,479 Speaker 1: to her askring about the. Journaling stuff the journal looked, 632 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,920 Speaker 1: really cool and we just like hit it, off immediately 633 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,759 Speaker 1: just like we ended up talking for like probably like. 634 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 1: An hour it's such a it's such a perfect, conversation. 635 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,560 Speaker 1: STARTER dude, i, like dude a girl, that journals, oh 636 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 1: oh oh. SO good i love a girl that loves 637 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,480 Speaker 1: to self, improve anyway, super cute very intellectual ONE. TO 638 00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:41,360 Speaker 1: ucla i Get her instagram and then we. Like plan 639 00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:43,520 Speaker 1: we Start with, i'm, like hey do you want to 640 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:45,279 Speaker 1: go to a museum and get a little tipsy and? 641 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:49,200 Speaker 1: Hang out? Oh yeah and she's. Like yes and then 642 00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:51,279 Speaker 1: then last time, WE talked I showed john the. Text 643 00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:54,560 Speaker 1: messages she didn't respond for like. Two, days dude SHE 644 00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:58,880 Speaker 1: was i still think you're a little overblowing it two days. 645 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 1: To day, some people some people are. 646 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:04,080 Speaker 2: JUST bad i have a very very very close FRIEND 647 00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,920 Speaker 2: who i, love dearly who is terrible at TEXTING and 648 00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:08,080 Speaker 2: i and, it's. 649 00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:09,799 Speaker 1: Known yeah you KNOW what, i mean to be fair, 650 00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:13,760 Speaker 1: THERE there i have like three hundred red. Text us, 651 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,000 Speaker 1: SO yeah i remember, One time, you're, LIKE dude i 652 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,440 Speaker 1: have like a thousand UNDREAD exs i need to go. Through, all, 653 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:20,880 Speaker 1: YEAH yeah. I know let's see what it's at right, 654 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,880 Speaker 1: right now it's at uh, forty two, so, hey yeah chipping. 655 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,640 Speaker 1: Away baby at, that point it's like it's like it's 656 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: so it's so many it's not even a. Real, num 657 00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,680 Speaker 1: yeah it's not representative of how much Of an and 658 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:35,279 Speaker 1: you're responding to the the top Ip, Like, John YEAH 659 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:41,319 Speaker 1: john's vip. Number one, so yeah we connect. Really well 660 00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:44,080 Speaker 1: she doesn't respond for a couple, of days but then, she's, 661 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,120 Speaker 1: LIKE yes i would love. To go we schedule It 662 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:52,720 Speaker 1: for sunday At, the getty, all right and it's three thirty. 663 00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:54,879 Speaker 1: Rolls around we had just done a little party which 664 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 1: you should have, come to by, The, way saturday but it, 665 00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:00,840 Speaker 1: was fun, AND uh i meet her At the Getty 666 00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:02,800 Speaker 1: and i'm a. Little nervous i'm actually very very NERVOUS 667 00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,279 Speaker 1: because i didn't realize you had to like reserve spots for, 668 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,400 Speaker 1: the getty which you. Actually don't but ended up all 669 00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:10,640 Speaker 1: being fine and instantly again do the. Connections there she's. 670 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 1: So cute she's, so cute and like. Conversation's flowing we 671 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 1: like make these. Babies laugh we're, dancing, together said we make. 672 00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,680 Speaker 1: These babies, oh yeah we make. These, babies no we 673 00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:26,200 Speaker 1: make these. Babies, laugh amazing amazing that, it's dude it's 674 00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:29,799 Speaker 1: it's so. Freaking. Cute yeah like we're getting along and 675 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:31,600 Speaker 1: we're talking to all these. Random people we learned like 676 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 1: sword fighting from these swordsmen, people nice and, then, we're 677 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:38,799 Speaker 1: uh we're about to get. Kicked out it's like five. 678 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,120 Speaker 1: Point thirty we're gonna go to a. Wine bar and as, 679 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,879 Speaker 1: we're leaving we see this guy in like this tie 680 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 1: die shirt that says porn and biscuits on it, or 681 00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:50,000 Speaker 1: sorry biscuits and, Porn Right and, i'm like what the 682 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,480 Speaker 1: hell is? Biscuits, Important yeah and so we go up 683 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:56,000 Speaker 1: to this guy and, we're like what is? Biscuits important and, he's, 684 00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 1: like well, You know I'm From. North carolina it's like 685 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:01,040 Speaker 1: like this really cool little shop on on the, east 686 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,640 Speaker 1: coast like right on the Water In, north carolina and 687 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:05,440 Speaker 1: tells us a little bit more. About it i'm like 688 00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:07,920 Speaker 1: that kind of. Sounds interesting AND so i turned to 689 00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:11,000 Speaker 1: This girl i'm With and, i'm like do you want? 690 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,879 Speaker 1: To go and she's, Like Yes and I'm like, i'm 691 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,320 Speaker 1: serious and She's like i'm, serious Too and, i'm, like 692 00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,560 Speaker 1: okay we're gonna get tickets, later, Today right and so 693 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,439 Speaker 1: we Go to we go to this, wine bar having 694 00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,400 Speaker 1: a phenomenal time talk about. Sex cults then we go 695 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,960 Speaker 1: to the we walk down to. The ocean we're, swinging 696 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,600 Speaker 1: together looking to each. Other's eyes it is, so cute, 697 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,800 Speaker 1: an awesome. Amazing date then we go and walk along 698 00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 1: the beach, and like, you know having some. Deep conversations 699 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 1: and we go to this tower and we're talking about 700 00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:44,879 Speaker 1: how like our parents met and then she's looking at 701 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:46,799 Speaker 1: Me and i'm looking, at her and then we're going 702 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:50,640 Speaker 1: for a. Little smooch, oh yeah and it, was oh 703 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,239 Speaker 1: it was. So great it was, so, great dude it was. 704 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: So great this is like. Oozing, romance yeah it's. Like 705 00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,520 Speaker 1: preposterous and there was a point where, she's like you 706 00:37:57,560 --> 00:37:59,120 Speaker 1: can't look at me. Like that we. Just Met and, 707 00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:00,640 Speaker 1: i'm like you can't look at me. Like that we. 708 00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,560 Speaker 1: Just met, and yeah we were staring at the other's eyes. 709 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:09,480 Speaker 1: A lot and then we're, you know we're wrapping up 710 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:13,680 Speaker 1: a little little makeout sash and walking back to the 711 00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: Boardwalk and I'm like i'm Serious About north carolina and 712 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:19,920 Speaker 1: She's like i'm, serious too And like i'm gonna buy 713 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:23,920 Speaker 1: the tickets. Right now and so we are Leaving this 714 00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:28,080 Speaker 1: Friday For north carolina to drive to biscuits. And. 715 00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:32,879 Speaker 2: Porn, dude, Wow wow i'm glad you saved It that. 716 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:39,839 Speaker 1: Holy. Shit dude wow she's, so, Cool, dude wow she's, so. 717 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:46,200 Speaker 1: Cool dude, Hell yeah. I'm hyped the, question though is 718 00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,560 Speaker 1: is this the end of hot? BOYS summer i mean 719 00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 1: falls around the corner if you think, about it you 720 00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,640 Speaker 1: know that's, you Know the christians like we lost a 721 00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,439 Speaker 1: real we lost a good. One, today boys it very 722 00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,680 Speaker 1: well COULD be i HAD a i had a brief hot. Boy, 723 00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:00,880 Speaker 1: summer yes brief, but. 724 00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 2: Brief, but flaming, but, raging, raging flaming very. 725 00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,960 Speaker 1: A flaming hot boys summer is hot boys looking for other. Hot, 726 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:15,440 Speaker 1: boys oh hot boys looking for other. Hot boys that is. 727 00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:16,080 Speaker 1: The hottest. 728 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:21,239 Speaker 2: That's monstrous like the the frequency, of sex, oh, dude 729 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:25,279 Speaker 2: happening it's ten times. A, day yeahs you're gonna have, 730 00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 2: a thousand a thousand fucks in, A summer, a thousand 731 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:29,960 Speaker 2: so many fucks will be, so many. 732 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,160 Speaker 1: So MANY but i. Don't, KNOW well, i mean we'll 733 00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,640 Speaker 1: see how. This Goes i'm i'm feeling good, about it, 734 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:41,840 Speaker 1: but things things could. Fall apart life and, love is, 735 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:46,880 Speaker 1: of course is fluid, and FLEETING but. I am i 736 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,920 Speaker 1: am very EXCITED and i hope it goes well and 737 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,600 Speaker 1: you'll share it with our with our wonderful friends who's. Stuck, 738 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:56,239 Speaker 1: through yeah, so yeah anyone who's actually listening, to, this 739 00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,160 Speaker 1: dude shout out out to listening to my. Love life, 740 00:39:59,239 --> 00:40:01,560 Speaker 1: oh yeah