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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: Rest is a non negotiable, so I think about the

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Speaker 2: easiest one that comes to mind is with your career.

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Speaker 2: How important rest is part of your plan. You won't

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Speaker 2: be able to be consistent in showing up for your

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Speaker 2: job without burnout if you don't take time to rest. Hey, lady,

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Speaker 2: have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you? Well,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 1: and empowering women like you.

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Speaker 2: We're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Brussard and educator and psychologists.

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker.

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Speaker 2: Join us every week for authentic conversations about everything from

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Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends as we create space for black

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Speaker 2: Now, let's get into this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: It's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her Space podcast.

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Speaker 2: Are you currently a resident of the state of California

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Speaker 2: forward to hearing from you. Our quote of the day,

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Speaker 2: Constancy isn't about the perfection. It's about making small, regular

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Speaker 2: efforts over time. Now, I'm going to repeat that one

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Speaker 2: sure you truly heard it and you let it think

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Speaker 2: in Consistency isn't about perfection. It's about taking small, regular

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Speaker 2: efforts over time, all right, t you know how we

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Speaker 2: do when you hear that quote? What comes up for you,

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Speaker 2: particularly as we think about what we're talking about today.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Okay, So when I hear this quote

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Speaker 1: consistency is just about showing up regularly and sort of

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Speaker 1: to be I think about my gym journey. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: Like that's that's the accomplishment. I showed up. I did

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Speaker 1: showing up is the name of the game. What about

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love what you said about the showing up

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Speaker 2: and then about the sustainability piece. Right, that consistency, particularly

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Speaker 1: Yes, I loved that so much, Tom. And you know

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Speaker 1: But the keys that we're sharing today, you can apply

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Speaker 2: Okay. So the first thing is anchor into your why.

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Speaker 1: that it hasn't reached yet. How do we stay consistent

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Speaker 1: in the meantime? Right? I am a huge fan of

436
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Speaker 1: the comedian Nate Jackson, and he was just on The

437
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Speaker 1: Breakfast Club recently and he was sharing on the show.

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Speaker 1: I was so inspired by the episode. He was sharing

439
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Speaker 1: on the show that he has been in his industry,

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Speaker 1: in his field doing comedy for about twenty three years,

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Speaker 1: and I'm just like, wow, twenty three years he's been

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Speaker 1: doing this. He's just on The Breakfast Club. Now, he

443
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Speaker 1: just got his own Netflix series, And just to think,

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Speaker 1: I know you might be like, girl, I ain't trying

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Speaker 1: to wait twenty three years. But here's the thing. When

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Speaker 1: we are patient and you submit to the process and

447
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Speaker 1: commit to the process, you get everything that you are

448
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Speaker 1: needing along the journey that is going to allow you

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Speaker 1: to sustain and maintain what's meant for you at that

450
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Speaker 1: time because what you hate. Wouldn't you be so disappointed

451
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Speaker 1: to get what you pray for and you not have

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Speaker 1: the capacity to handle it, Because I know I would.

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Speaker 1: So now I'm like, Okay, everything in God's time, Dom,

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Speaker 1: Everything's happening the way it's supposed to happen for us.

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Speaker 1: And just knowing that we are being prepared for what

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Speaker 1: we're going to be holding soon, and I think that

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Speaker 1: is just so inspired, and that keeps me motivated because

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Speaker 1: it begins tough sometimes what we want to say it does.

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Speaker 2: And I just think the affirmations that you named, that

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Speaker 2: you called out are affirmations that are so helpful in

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Speaker 2: this and in that particular moment when you feel like

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Speaker 2: you're in an invisible season. And so I just want

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Speaker 2: I just if you could call, if you could say

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Speaker 2: those affirmations one more time for the folks and they

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Speaker 2: can hear it.

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Speaker 1: Yes, let's say it again. I hope I remember them all,

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Speaker 1: but I do. I do think about them often. So

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Speaker 1: Number one is I think it was everything in God's time, right,

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Speaker 1: What's for me is never going to miss me. So, lady,

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Speaker 1: if you got to say that in the mirror every day,

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Speaker 1: what's for me is never going to miss me. You

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Speaker 1: don't want someone else's blessing, that's not for you. What's

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Speaker 1: for you is never going to miss you. The next

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Speaker 1: one is everything is working out for my good, even

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Speaker 1: when I don't see it or understand it in the moment,

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Speaker 1: It's all working out for my good. It's all working

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Speaker 1: out for a bigger purpose. And I miss one. Damer

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Speaker 1: said it.

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Speaker 2: Those were the main ones.

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Speaker 1: Those are the main ones. Okay, all right, y'all, let's

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Speaker 1: get into these journaling reflection questions. So number one is

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Speaker 1: can I keep going even if I don't get instant

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Speaker 1: feedback or results. Ideally we hope the answer is yes. Right,

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Speaker 1: So you may want to practice this in other areas

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Speaker 1: of life to build that discipline and not get the

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Speaker 1: instant gratification. So that may be something we want to

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Speaker 1: build because a lot of times in the journey, rarely

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Speaker 1: do you see something. I mean, sometimes it does take

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Speaker 1: off right away, right, whatever it might be, but a

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Speaker 1: lot of times it doesn't. Right. Number two, what am

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Speaker 1: I learning or improving on right now that'll think that

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Speaker 1: I'll think myself for later? So what am I learning

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Speaker 1: or improving on right now that I'll think myself for later? Well,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you something real quick. Listen, doham and I.

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Speaker 1: We could have a TV show. Okay, we can have

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Speaker 1: a big network deal because guess who knows how to

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Speaker 1: show up? That's one of our selling points, right, we

498
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Speaker 1: can let the companies know what the big books like.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, we've been doing this out of our own

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Speaker 1: post and you know from the sponsors that we try

501
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Speaker 1: to get. We've been doing this consistently for this long, right,

502
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,199
Speaker 1: and that show it speaks to what you can do

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Speaker 1: in the future. Right, So that's important. And number three

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Speaker 1: is how can I remind myself that unseen work is

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Speaker 1: still valuable?

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Speaker 2: Ooh, I love that? Yes, yes, okay, So then that

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Speaker 2: takes us to key number four. Make rest part of

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Speaker 2: the plan, now, lady, it doesn't matter what goal it

509
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Speaker 2: is that you were working towards. Rest is a necessity.

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Speaker 2: Rest is a non negotiable right, So I think about

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Speaker 2: the easiest one that comes to mind is with your career, right,

512
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Speaker 2: how important rest is part? Is that part of your plan.

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Speaker 2: You won't be able to be consistent in showing up

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Speaker 2: for your job without burnout if you don't take time

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Speaker 2: to rest. The rest might look like taking vacation days

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Speaker 2: all right, Now, these next two things I know are

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Speaker 2: more difficult for a lot of us. Yeah, ending and

518
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Speaker 2: truly ending your workday and protecting your off hours. So

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Speaker 2: what does that look like? Well, if your job is

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Speaker 2: the hours that you are set to work. If your

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Speaker 2: job ends at five o'clock, that means at five o'clock

522
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Speaker 2: you're walking out the door, right, And that means that

523
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Speaker 2: when you get home, you're not doing anything related to

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Speaker 2: that job at nine o'clock at night, at midnight. That

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Speaker 2: defeats the rest that you need to show go up

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Speaker 2: consistently when you take time off. And I know that

527
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Speaker 2: I have been guilty of this, and so this is

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Speaker 2: why I'm pointing it out because if I'm doing it,

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Speaker 2: I know other people are doing it. If you take

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Speaker 2: time off in your workday for an appointment because you're

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Speaker 2: taking care of your health or whatever it is. If

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Speaker 2: you take two hours out of your workday because you

533
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Speaker 2: have to go and end to an appointment, we're not

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Speaker 2: working two hours at the end of the day, we're not.

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Speaker 2: That defeats the purpose of rest. That doesn't uphold boundaries. Now,

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Speaker 2: I also want to now withe that there are exceptions,

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Speaker 2: that there may be times when that is that is necessary.

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Speaker 2: But again it is the exception, not the norm or

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Speaker 2: the rule. Rest has to be a part of your plan.

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Speaker 2: I also think about working out. You know, bitiness trainers

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Speaker 2: all often say that recovery, rest and recovery are necessary. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and you can have an active recovery day, but you

543
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Speaker 2: also need rest. I'm saying this to myself as I

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Speaker 2: am like tapping tapping back into my consistent fitness journey

545
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Speaker 2: and working out. Working out for three hours every day

546
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Speaker 2: is not going to be sustainable for me. I need

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Speaker 2: to have rest within there. Otherwise my body is not

548
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Speaker 2: going to get the opportunity that it needs to three set.

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Speaker 2: Are you doing three hour workouts some days?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Some days? Okay, excuse me, getting everybody up, Okay, I'll

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Speaker 1: see you. Not every day, I feel, y'all. I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh God, but yes, rest is important, and go you

554
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Speaker 1: all up in my business all my driveway, Tokomo. So so

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Speaker 1: don't be working at you know, eleven and midnight. And

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I was me last night. But

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Speaker 1: I think something else that we pointed out in our

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Speaker 1: previous episode, so letty go check this episode out from

559
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Speaker 1: last week, is that it depends on what season of

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Speaker 1: life you're in, right, you might be. And I think

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Speaker 1: Don was talking about in last episode about when she

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Speaker 1: was getting her degree, pursuing her degree, there was like

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Speaker 1: a period of grind time, right, And when I was

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Speaker 1: pursuing everything in my life, there's a period of grind time.

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Speaker 1: But I think the most important thing is like, ideally

566
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Speaker 1: we wanted to be the exception and not the role,

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Speaker 1: because that becomes a habit.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: If you're grind, grind, grind, listen, that is me all

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Speaker 1: the way like I listen workaholic, that is I am

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Speaker 1: in recovery, okay, And so it is important to rest,

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Speaker 1: and even thinking about rest or thinking about rest, I'm

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Speaker 1: thinking about today we're bulk recording, and Don and I

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Speaker 1: both were like, yeah, we were going to do like

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Speaker 1: two three episodes. I think we're going to do one

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Speaker 1: and I think we're going to go lounge and eat

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Speaker 1: and take a nap, and I'm like excited to do

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Speaker 1: that after. And so it's all about also listening to

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Speaker 1: your body. Sometimes if I take a nap during the day,

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Speaker 1: I'm up all night because I have the energy and

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Speaker 1: I'm excited and I'm in flow, right, And I think

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Speaker 1: that's a case where I'm listening to my body. My

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Speaker 1: body wants to perform, my body wants to do something,

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Speaker 1: but then't. There are other times like today where it's

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Speaker 1: like I want to eat and lay on the couch

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Speaker 1: and do nothing. And that's okay too, So it's important

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Speaker 1: to remember that as well. All Right, let's get into

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Speaker 1: these questions. So the first question here is do I

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Speaker 1: treat rest as a part of the process or only

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Speaker 1: as a reward for overworking. But this question is off

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Speaker 1: of my business. But that is the question. Okay. The

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Speaker 1: next question is how do I feel physically and emotionally

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Speaker 1: when I'm well rested compared to when I'm depleted. That's

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Speaker 1: a good one. That self awareness is key and even

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Speaker 1: documenting that, writing that down on your journal so you

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Speaker 1: can understand, like, wait, what is my baseline? What is

597
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Speaker 1: my body calling for right now? And then trying to

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Speaker 1: do what your body's calling for. And the third question

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Speaker 1: here is what's one boundary I can set this week

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Speaker 1: to protect my energy? Love it? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I love those questions. So then that takes us

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Speaker 2: to our fifth key track the effort, not just the outcome.

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Speaker 2: So oftentimes when we are trying to achieve a particular goal,

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Speaker 2: we focus solely on the goal and not not the

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Speaker 2: small steps along the way or the effort that it

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Speaker 2: took for us to get there. It's I gotta get

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Speaker 2: this thing achieved, I gotta check this box, and I

608
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Speaker 2: need to do whatever it takes to keep get to

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Speaker 2: get there. Well, if we focus solely on that piece,

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Speaker 2: the big goal, that can lead to a being inconsistent

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Speaker 2: that could lead to us being burned out. And so

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Speaker 2: when we slow it down, we break it down and

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Speaker 2: we take time to reflect. Okay, So let's say that

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Speaker 2: I have this thing that I'm working on and I've

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Speaker 2: set a deadline for myself for a year. About you,

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Speaker 2: but sometimes a year flows by. It goes by so

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Speaker 2: fast that I'm like, wait, hold on. I look up

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Speaker 2: and I'm like, wait, it's been a year already, okay,

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Speaker 2: And so part of what helped with the consistency is

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Speaker 2: to take time to track that effort. Right, So, like,

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Speaker 2: again we're going with this year example, After the first month,

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Speaker 2: take time and reflect on what all have you done?

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Speaker 2: How much effort did it require for you to show

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Speaker 2: up consistently towards accomplishing this task this goal? And then

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Speaker 2: what is it gonna take for you to do this

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Speaker 2: again next month and then the month after that? All right?

627
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Speaker 2: Recognizing that that is what's gonna keep you consistent. Thinking

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Speaker 2: about the effort. Sometimes it's you know, what, I have

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Speaker 2: this task that I'm giving myself a year to complete

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Speaker 2: and it takes little effort. Okay, Well, if I'm pausing

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Speaker 2: and I'm recognizing that it takes a little effort, and

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Speaker 2: I don't mind. I'm in a season where I need

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Speaker 2: something that is little effort. Oh well, then hell yeah,

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Speaker 2: I can be consistent with this for a year because

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Speaker 2: it's taking me little effort and that's the season that

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Speaker 2: I'm in.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love this one so much because when you

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Speaker 1: are trying to build a habit and trying to be consistent,

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Speaker 1: I believe that there's so much power and experiments looking

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Speaker 1: at your life and looking at your effort as an experiment.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to give two examples. So one, before I

642
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 1: had my daughter, I was I had this speaking engagement

643
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Speaker 1: almost every month. I was flying in different cities doing

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Speaker 1: different workshops and keynotes and all this. Right after I

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Speaker 1: had my daughter and I took a break from my

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Speaker 1: career and I kind of went back in my shell

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Speaker 1: and I was really loving just being at home and

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Speaker 1: not doing much, not being seen. And then I was

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Speaker 1: at the stage where I was like, Okay, I got

650
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:30,960
Speaker 1: the itch after a while, and I was like, okay,

651
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 1: I'm ready to get back out there. And I was

652
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 1: asking myself, like do I still got it. I ain't

653
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 1: been in the gym a minute, Like, not in a

654
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 1: gym literally right. But I haven't been in my craft

655
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: in a minute, like I can I still do this?

656
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 1: And so one of the things I did, I was

657
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 1: in my head like I don't know if I can

658
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: do it. I said, Okay, I'm just going to show

659
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 1: up and do a webinar every single month to get

660
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: myself back into the habit of doing it right. It

661
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 1: wasn't about perfection, it was about just showing up. And

662
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: I like to say that set a goal to do

663
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,439
Speaker 1: something ten times and see where you are the first

664
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:00,879
Speaker 1: time you do it compared to the right. So at

665
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: this point in the game, I'm probably about nine or

666
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 1: so webinars, cause I think I started in December and

667
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:07,920
Speaker 1: we're in August now at the time we're recording. And

668
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 1: so at this point, the webinar I did the first time,

669
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 1: it's way better than the webinar that I've done last month, right,

670
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 1: the latest one. I have another one coming up at

671
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 1: the end of the month. So I think sometimes when

672
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 1: you do an experiment in that way, you can just

673
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 1: get yourself into the habit of doing and not be

674
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 1: so concerned with the outcome. Right now, the other thing

675
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: is my daughter brought a plant home. Baby z right,

676
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 1: that's what we call on the podcast. Baby Z brought

677
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: a plant home and we started watering the plant. I'm

678
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: a terrible plant mom, but I'm working on it, right,

679
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 1: I'm working on the effort, not the outcome. So it

680
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 1: like some time went by and I was like, I'm

681
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 1: not seeing nothing happen with the plant's not growing. So

682
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: I did some research. I ended up ordering some planters.

683
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,799
Speaker 1: I got some of the soil, and I got some

684
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 1: new seeds, and then we tried again. I was like,

685
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: all right, so we put about I think I had

686
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,919
Speaker 1: about five different planters out by the window and we're

687
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: watching it and I'm like, I'm not these plants but

688
00:38:58,640 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: a glow grow. My baby is waiting for these plants

689
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 1: to grow, and she's like, Mommy, are plants grow? So

690
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, y'all, motherfucker's better grow. So a while went

691
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:08,879
Speaker 1: by and I finally saw a little bit of green

692
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 1: coming up out of two so I was like, all right,

693
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,960
Speaker 1: So I shouldered and I was so excited. Then it stopped.

694
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,839
Speaker 1: I was like, bro, it was like two months, and

695
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 1: I the thing is, over the course of two months,

696
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: I as someone who was formerly a bad plant mom,

697
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 1: I got into the habit of checking them daily, watering

698
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: them daily. So I'm building the habit, but I'm also

699
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,799
Speaker 1: still low key looking for the outcome. So then what

700
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: I did was I decided to do some research and

701
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 1: understand what do these types of seeds need in order

702
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:34,840
Speaker 1: for them to grow right. And what I found in

703
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: my research is that it probably wasn't getting enough sun

704
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: and maybe it was getting too much water. So then

705
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: I ended up getting this lle I'm looking over at

706
00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 1: the plants. I got this led light or this lamp

707
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 1: that stays on for four hours to give it enough sun.

708
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 1: Got these water balls where it waters it by itself,

709
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: but I still check it every day. I say all

710
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 1: that to say, sometimes when you're in that process or

711
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: a phase of tracking the effort not the outcome, you

712
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: also sometimes need to tweak what you're doing. If you're

713
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: not getting results and you're being consistent, you sometimes have

714
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 1: to tweak it. So let's getting a coach, getting someone

715
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: who's been where you've gone right, and tapping into people

716
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 1: who are who can give you something to help you

717
00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: sort of you know better what you're doing, iterate on

718
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 1: your process, and get better at what you're doing. So

719
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 1: finally we had these new plants. I only tried with three.

720
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 1: Now we got these new plants with the led light

721
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 1: and the little water balls that I'll lessen your picture

722
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 1: after we do our recording. And one of the plants

723
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 1: is already growing and is growing taller than the previous

724
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 1: one was growing. So now I'm getting into the habit.

725
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 1: So I'm checking the plants every day. I have a

726
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 1: better process, and now I can look forward to the

727
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: outcome more because I've been tracking the effort, right, So

728
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,120
Speaker 1: I think that's a reminder when it comes to this

729
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,839
Speaker 1: particular step of the phase of how we can use

730
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 1: that in our daily life and in our practice.

731
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 2: You know, I love that and I can't wait to

732
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:52,320
Speaker 2: see the pictures.

733
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 1: I'm so excited girl. Thank you. Now, the questions that

734
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 1: we want to dive into for this particular key here,

735
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: Number one is how can I measure my consistency in

736
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: ways that encourage me to keep going? That's a good one.

737
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: To what smaller wins can I celebrate this month? And

738
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:15,279
Speaker 1: the number three if I only tracked effort, what would

739
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 1: my progress look like? Great?

740
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 2: Ooh, I love that. So then that takes us to

741
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 2: number six. Adjust without quitting Now tie. I think you

742
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 2: just gave us the perfect exam that right of adjusting

743
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 2: without quitting that like, okay, so you all have this

744
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 2: plant and you're determined, I'm not giving up on this plant.

745
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 2: I'm trying to be My goal to your goal is

746
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 2: to be a better plant mom, right, so now send

747
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 2: me the outcome of what's going to happen with these plants,

748
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:55,799
Speaker 2: but to be a better plant mom. And so this

749
00:41:56,000 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 2: one strategy that you initially tried wasn't working, so you

750
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 2: had to pivot and try something different. You didn't just say, well,

751
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,879
Speaker 2: these plants aren't growing. Well, I'm done with this, I'm out.

752
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 2: You said, okay, what can I do differently to try

753
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 2: and get the desired outcome? And so I love this

754
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:25,520
Speaker 2: the piece of adjusting without quitting. And to me, what

755
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 2: also comes up around this is that you may have

756
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 2: this thing that you're trying to be consistent with and

757
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 2: you may be in a different season. And so what

758
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 2: that means is you make an adjustment to how you

759
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 2: show up, but you still show up. Right. An easy

760
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: thing to think about is and this is what comes

761
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 2: up for me, just only based on the space that

762
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 2: I'm in currently about being consistent with working out right.

763
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 2: And so one of the things things that I have

764
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 2: consistently struggled with in my my fitness consistency journey is

765
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 2: when I travel, what do I how do I remain

766
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 2: consistent with working out right? And so for me, this

767
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 2: example of adjusting without quitting looks like, Okay, so I

768
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 2: have certain things that I do when I'm at home

769
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 2: that are part of my fitness routine. Depending on where

770
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 2: I'm traveling, that might not be available to me. And

771
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 2: so then how do I adjust working at my workout

772
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 2: routine without completely quitting? Because I know for me that

773
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:53,959
Speaker 2: usually that's when I end up not being consistent because

774
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 2: I go on vacation or I have to travel for work,

775
00:43:57,200 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 2: I don't work out, I come back home and it

776
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 2: takes forever for me to start the fitness routine again.

777
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 2: And so ideally, how I can remain consistent is when

778
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 2: I'm traveling, I find something to do that allows me

779
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 2: to have some level of physical activity and engagement. And

780
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 2: it might not look like what I'm doing at home.

781
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:28,799
Speaker 2: It might not be a three hour workout. Chances are

782
00:44:28,840 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: it's not gonna be a three hour workout when I'm traveling.

783
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,440
Speaker 2: Maybe it's only fifteen minutes. And what I have to

784
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 2: tell myself remind myself is that those fifteen minutes, it's

785
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 2: about the effort, right, It's about really recognizing that I

786
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 2: am still doing the thing, even if it doesn't look

787
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 2: exactly how I'm used to doing it.

788
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: That is such a beautiful example. I'm so glad you

789
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,240
Speaker 1: share that one, because that's just a really great depiction

790
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 1: of this in action. Like when you're you still showed up,

791
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: but it didn't look exactly the same as it looked

792
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 1: at home, but you're still in the habit of showing up,

793
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: so when you get home, it's easier to get back

794
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: into your routine and get back get back into the

795
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,399
Speaker 1: three hour workouts, which I love so much. The other

796
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: thing that I thought about with this particular key here

797
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 1: is that sometimes the goal may change, but the mission

798
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily change. And what I mean by that is,

799
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 1: so you know, before Domini started the podcast, I was

800
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 1: managing a blog that I started when I was in

801
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: grad school, and I had the blog for about seven years,

802
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 1: and I was managing the blog and the podcast. When

803
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: we first started simultaneously, it felt like it was too much,

804
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:44,920
Speaker 1: and so I had to ask myself like, Okay, wait

805
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: a minute, what is my goal? Like, what is the goal?

806
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: What is the why? What am I doing? And I

807
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,359
Speaker 1: realized that, well, the goal may have changed because at

808
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: that point in the game, people were not reading blogs

809
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:57,760
Speaker 1: like that. They were more so looking at like video

810
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 1: content or audio content. So I'm like, I can still

811
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 1: achieve my mission by doing the podcast fully and retiring

812
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: the blog. So I retired the blog and then was

813
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:08,560
Speaker 1: able to put all my effort into the podcast that

814
00:46:08,600 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 1: we have together. And so one of the questions that

815
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 1: comes up around this particular key that we're discussing is

816
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 1: am I stopping because the goal is no longer right

817
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: for me? Or because I'm frustrated by the process? Right?

818
00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:25,799
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that is a question we have to ask

819
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 1: ourselves at time. Right. The second question is what's one

820
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: thing I could change that might make this work better?

821
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 1: And that's where we get into the feedback loop, because

822
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 1: sometimes we may be forcing something trying to do this thing,

823
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:40,719
Speaker 1: or like I got this brilliant idea, but maybe you're

824
00:46:40,719 --> 00:46:43,399
Speaker 1: in a new field or industry where you don't know much,

825
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:45,759
Speaker 1: but you know you want to do something. That's when

826
00:46:45,800 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 1: we want to seek out feedback from someone who's been

827
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: where we've been, whether it's a book, a mentor some

828
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 1: type of content a podcast. Tune into that to understand, like,

829
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 1: what are the best practices in this industry?

830
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 3: Right?

831
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,800
Speaker 1: Do I need to change something with my current process

832
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 1: versus quitting and giving up up? Right? We have to

833
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,440
Speaker 1: be open to feedback. We have to be coachable on

834
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 1: the journey. And then number three is how can I

835
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,120
Speaker 1: pivot without losing sight of the bigger vision?

836
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 2: And so then that takes us to our final key

837
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 2: lean on each other and community listen. Okay, So it's

838
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 2: thinking about what that overall goal is, What is the

839
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 2: outcome that you're trying to reach, What do you need

840
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:33,879
Speaker 2: to be consistent and who can show up for you

841
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 2: in that regard? Right? So I think about with when

842
00:47:41,239 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 2: it comes to parenting, that there are you have your

843
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 2: other moms. You know, you have different mom groups, you

844
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 2: have different parenting support groups, you have different family members

845
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:02,439
Speaker 2: that are also parents, Right, But it doesn't necessarily mean

846
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 2: leaning on each other, doesn't necessarily mean that it has

847
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 2: to be people who are in the same position as you. Right,

848
00:48:13,040 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 2: in my role as an auntsie, I'm able to show

849
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:21,600
Speaker 2: up for my friends and family members who are parents

850
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 2: in ways that allow them to take breaks. Right, So

851
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 2: I'm not showing up. I can't talk to them about

852
00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 2: the PTA stuff, right, or what's happening at daycare, because

853
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 2: that's not that's not a shared identity. But if they

854
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:50,439
Speaker 2: need some adult time, right, if they want to have

855
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 2: date night with their partners, I can baby sit. And

856
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,879
Speaker 2: so then so there are ways in which you can

857
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:04,280
Speaker 2: lean on each other and your community that doesn't require

858
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: that those persons have that same goal or identity as you.

859
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 1: Yes, Tom, you hit the nail on the head with that.

860
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 1: And I think that when it comes to other aspects

861
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: of life, right, like work, do you have colleagues or

862
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:21,560
Speaker 1: mentors that you can share progress and challenges with?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: When you think about your health and fitness, right, do

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Speaker 1: partner or even a coach you can chat with? Think

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Speaker 1: about creative projects? Do you have someone else in your

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Speaker 1: field who can offer that encouragement or collaboration? And then

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Speaker 1: when I think about the podcast specifically, I mean I

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Speaker 1: think about when I had my blog, I was not

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Speaker 1: nearly as consistent as I have been with the podcast,

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Speaker 1: And I think A lot of that is because we've

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Speaker 1: been able to do this as a team.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: It's so funny because there have been times over the

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Speaker 1: journey where one of us usually we're like, it's like

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Speaker 1: a yin and yang. If one of us, if our

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Speaker 1: energy is like offer, we're like, gird, I'm tired, da

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Speaker 1: da da, I need some help, Like need I need

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Speaker 1: an energy boost? The other ones able to offer that

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Speaker 1: energy boost. Usually we're not both kind of having a

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Speaker 1: low moment at the same time. It's usually we're able

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Speaker 1: to leverage each other's energy, and that has been so helpful.

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Speaker 1: the other one is able to lift us up right.

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Speaker 1: And so I think that's one of the ways that

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Speaker 1: we've been able to be consistent with this particular venture,

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Speaker 1: is leaning on each other, but also leveraging our community

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Speaker 1: and like looking at the reviews, looking at the comments,

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Speaker 1: remembering feedback that we've heard from our live show that

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Speaker 1: we had right thinking about people who've been impacted, and

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Speaker 1: leveraging that. So think about how this may apply to

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Speaker 1: wherever you are in your life and what you're focused on,

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Speaker 1: and how you don't have to do it alone. You

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Speaker 1: can tap into, whether it's your higher source, God, the universe,

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Speaker 1: whatever you call it, because everybody has their own names.

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Speaker 1: When you think about you know, your ancestors or your

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Speaker 1: spirit guides, or even online communities like tap into support

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Speaker 1: as you are traveling on the journey because it's so

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Speaker 1: important we need it. And then some of the questions

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Speaker 1: you can think about when it comes to this particular

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Speaker 1: key include one, who can I invite into this journey

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Speaker 1: to help me stay committed. I just want to share

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Speaker 1: this one quick thing. So when I was first getting

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Speaker 1: started with my workout journey after having my daughter, I

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Speaker 1: struggled so much to move my body. I just felt

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Speaker 1: so heavy and I felt so just disconnected from my body.

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Speaker 1: It was a true challenge to actually move and do anything.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, it was so hard. And I remember

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Speaker 1: I ended up paying for on fiver dot com. I

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Speaker 1: got this pay for this trainer, but all I had

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Speaker 1: him do was hold me accountable. And I was just like, hey,

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Speaker 1: can you just literally text me on these days at

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Speaker 1: this time and make sure I worked out? And that's

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Speaker 1: what I could afford. At that point, I could afford

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Speaker 1: a full time trainer. It was like that was it.

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Speaker 1: So I was doing home workouts, and that's why I

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Speaker 1: invited into my journey to help me stay committed, because

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Speaker 1: that served me in that. Season. Number two is how

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Speaker 1: can I create an accountability structure that feels supportive, not pressured?

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Speaker 1: And number three and what ways can I show up

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Speaker 1: for others pursuing their goals too? I love that one

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Speaker 1: because I truly believed that the energy you put out,

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Speaker 1: especially when you're supporting others, truly believe it comes back

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Speaker 1: to us. So we covered a lot today. Anything else

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Speaker 3: That?

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Speaker 2: I think, yes, you said it best. We covered a

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Speaker 2: lot today, and so I'm going to run through real

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Speaker 2: quick the seven keys. Number one anchor into your why.

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Speaker 2: Number two build sustainable systems. Number three embrace the invisible

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Speaker 2: season number four make rest a part of the plan.

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Speaker 2: Number five track the effort, not just the outcome. Number

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Speaker 2: six adjust without quitting. And number seven lean on each

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Speaker 2: other and community.

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Speaker 1: There we go, And lady, if you enjoyed this episode,

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Speaker 1: my journey by balancing effort and rest to achieve my goals.

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