WEBVTT - I Choose … a Quick Spring Reset with Adele House

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Girl. Hi everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>on Beverly Hills nine O two one oh in nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>ninety five, but it has evolved into something so much

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much. Hello everyone, welcome to I Choose Me.

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<v Speaker 1>This podcast is all about the choices we make and

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<v Speaker 1>how to choose ourselves. This week we reset. Wait didn't

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<v Speaker 1>we just do that? Yes? Yes, we gotta do it again,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys. And again. That's the thing because the world

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<v Speaker 1>is moving fast, the pressure is constant, and most of

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<v Speaker 1>us are already feeling behind every morning before even that

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<v Speaker 1>first cup of coffee. So what do you actually do

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<v Speaker 1>when you're spinning out? When you ignore your tools, when

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<v Speaker 1>you hit the wall. I am so lucky to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to share with you my Bessie adele House, who

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<v Speaker 1>is a retired psychologist, and we're going to talk honestly

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<v Speaker 1>about how to reset in real time and some simple

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<v Speaker 1>practical ways to choose yourself before everything unravels. So welcome

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<v Speaker 1>back adele House.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, good to see you, Good to see you.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to really get into the nitty gritty of

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<v Speaker 1>the reset, resetting ourselves because I know, I, for one,

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<v Speaker 1>already feel like I'm not going to use the word failure.

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<v Speaker 1>How do we manage our feelings of not being good

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<v Speaker 1>enough when it comes to resolution, not being able to

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<v Speaker 1>have that level of commitment or you know, when you

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<v Speaker 1>don't meet one of your resolutions, I think it's natural

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<v Speaker 1>for us to feel the F word.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, well, first, let's start with this idea of not

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<v Speaker 3>meeting your resolutions, because already we have set ourselves up

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<v Speaker 3>to not meet our resolutions. Wait why, Okay, So a

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<v Speaker 3>resolution is a very black and white idea. It's a

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<v Speaker 3>very closed idea.

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<v Speaker 2>I am resolute on changing.

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<v Speaker 3>This to this. It's close ended in a way. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think I heard you. I don't know if it

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<v Speaker 3>was a podcaster or you did a post on Instagram

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<v Speaker 3>or something, but you talked about, rather than resolutions, considering

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<v Speaker 3>the idea of affirmations, and I was so inspired by that.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought that was so brilliant.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's the same idea.

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<v Speaker 3>But an affirmation is an open ended idea. It's an

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<v Speaker 3>open conversation with yourself. So already you're setting yourself up

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<v Speaker 3>for success. You're setting yourself up for fluidity, right, and more,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, your brain will be more what's called neuroplasticity, right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's like a it's your brain will work with you,

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<v Speaker 3>not against you in a closed system. So I think

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<v Speaker 3>that's the first thing is to really think about and look,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to if resolutions work for people, if

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<v Speaker 3>that kind of hard and fast, black and white tough

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<v Speaker 3>love works for people, you know, whatever works. But it's

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<v Speaker 3>my understanding that I've never really known. I've never really

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<v Speaker 3>met anyone who's like, resolutions are my jam.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. Most people are dread them. Yeah, most people.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't do them anymore, or if they do, then they're

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<v Speaker 3>mad at themselves. There is a study I don't I can't.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to totally screw up the statistics. But I

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<v Speaker 3>think by by week two after January first, yeah, eighty

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<v Speaker 3>percent of people or something have already blown their resolutions.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm thinking that we need a new paradigm here.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's a good idea. What's our new paradigm?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think you came up with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Affirmations.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I think that is so inspired. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>We can call them affirmations, we can call them mantras.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that word a little bit better because that,

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<v Speaker 1>to me sets me up to know that that's something

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<v Speaker 1>I need to repeat on the daily as a mantra.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, oh yeah, that makes.

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<v Speaker 1>My brain going in the right direction.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I just want to.

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<v Speaker 3>I looked up affirmation before we jumped on today because

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to even see, like, what is the definition

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<v Speaker 3>of an affirmation? And it is emotional support or encouragement. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll take that right to give ourselves that gift or

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<v Speaker 3>a mantra.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's take our affirmation. Let's make it a mantra.

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<v Speaker 3>The wantra does imply a kind of daily practice, and

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<v Speaker 3>that's a lot about what we're talking about now, is

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<v Speaker 3>like practicing daily these ideas and concepts and ways of

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<v Speaker 3>moving through the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have a did you have a New Year's

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<v Speaker 1>affirmation or mantra?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 3>I have two mantras that I've had for probably twenty

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<v Speaker 3>years or long or maybe longer, that I use on

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<v Speaker 3>the rag, probably daily.

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<v Speaker 2>And that, again, is that kind.

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<v Speaker 3>Of daily practice as opposed to like, oh, tomorrow, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to take time for myself and I'm going to

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<v Speaker 3>do a box breathing. It's more like, you know, how

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<v Speaker 3>about these two minutes? I just do it because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>feeling overwhelmed. Right, Remember what am I feeling? What do

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<v Speaker 3>I need? How do I meet that need? The mantra

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<v Speaker 3>can be used for that too. I'm happy to share them.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, yes please, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So my And it's funny that one of them probably

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<v Speaker 3>would be yours too, because just you know, knowing you

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<v Speaker 3>all these years and knowing kind of how you get

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<v Speaker 3>mired in your self flagellation, I can see how this

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<v Speaker 3>would work for you too. I came to it probably

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<v Speaker 3>twenty years ago in therapy with a therapist, and I

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<v Speaker 3>still use it today, and it is the most grounding

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<v Speaker 3>and most calming thing I can say to myself, and

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<v Speaker 3>it works in almost every situation, and mine is I

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<v Speaker 3>am enough.

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<v Speaker 1>Very simple.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so simple, very powerful. I can apply.

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<v Speaker 3>It in almost any situation. And it is free for

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<v Speaker 3>anyone for the taking.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>If somebody goes, oh, that's exactly what I need to

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<v Speaker 3>be saying to myself. Take it, use it, benefit from it,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I have another one when I have When

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of like a scaredy cat person. I have a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of fears.

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<v Speaker 1>As you know, mountain men. Adele's afraid of quote mountain men.

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<v Speaker 2>I am, and I don't even know if I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>even met one, but I.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel like I don't even know what a mountain man is.

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<v Speaker 1>It isn't like a beast that comes out on a

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<v Speaker 1>mountain at you or.

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<v Speaker 3>Man that I can't talk sense too if he wants

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<v Speaker 3>to hurt me. Okay, that is so stupid. But so

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<v Speaker 3>you might imagine my mantra for a lot of things,

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<v Speaker 3>like the fears that I have as I am safe again,

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<v Speaker 3>super simple, super straightforward. It also works for if I

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<v Speaker 3>feel emotionally unsafe, right, like, if I'm in a situation

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<v Speaker 3>that doesn't feel safe to me, emotionally, I am safe.

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<v Speaker 3>I am safe, I am safe, And it pulls me

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<v Speaker 3>down into the ground in a way where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>what it says to me is I've gotten my own back.

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<v Speaker 3>If I need to remove myself from this situation, I

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<v Speaker 3>can do so. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's very empowering to.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'd love to help you, and also your listeners

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<v Speaker 3>come up with their own mantras I have.

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<v Speaker 2>I have like a little formula.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, this is good. Tell me what's the formula.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's the formula. It's pretty easy.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you think about you, your brain, the way

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<v Speaker 3>you talk to yourself, you Jenny, and the things that

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<v Speaker 3>get you into trouble, right, the things that make you

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<v Speaker 3>negative self talk right hard, on yourself, start to feel

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<v Speaker 3>like the F word, start to feel guilty?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>What is the thing you say to yourself that it's

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<v Speaker 3>just private to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>And you've been saying it for years, maybe even before

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<v Speaker 3>I knew you, like when you were a kid.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>Are there a couple of phrases or sayings that you

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<v Speaker 3>say to yourself, You're gonna have to be vulnerable and

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<v Speaker 3>share with us.

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<v Speaker 1>You are going to fail at this. You should have

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<v Speaker 1>no right to venture into this project or this conversation

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<v Speaker 1>or sit at this table.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, good. So the story or the narrative.

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<v Speaker 2>That's sort of a repetitive.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of story in your life and in your mind

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<v Speaker 3>is you can't do this, right?

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<v Speaker 2>Who do you think you are?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? So what is the opposite of that we got

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<v Speaker 2>this right?

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<v Speaker 3>So you've actually already created your own mantra? I might,

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<v Speaker 3>I might look at why you're not saying I got this.

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<v Speaker 1>When I say we got this, I'm meaning me, the

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<v Speaker 1>hole me, the me, the little girl in me that's afraid.

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<v Speaker 1>And because I do a lot of that sort of

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<v Speaker 1>inner talk to my younger self, and I find it

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<v Speaker 1>really helpful because I am a I like to care

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<v Speaker 1>for people, and so I enjoy caring for myself, my

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<v Speaker 1>younger self. So when I say we, I mean we

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<v Speaker 1>as in all the stages in the ages of me.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so you have actually already come up with your

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<v Speaker 3>own mantra, and you did the formula that I'm pitching

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<v Speaker 3>to you, So you naturally did this, and so I'm

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<v Speaker 3>affirming to you that the we got this mantra is right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's spot on for you. And so I think anyone

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<v Speaker 3>who's listening would do the same thing, right, they would

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<v Speaker 3>sort of go, what is the thing I say to

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<v Speaker 3>myself all the time? That's hard, Like, you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>don't get to have this relationship, right, this is you're

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<v Speaker 3>not this person's.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's another one that I've always A narrative I've

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<v Speaker 1>always had is that I can't have a healthy relationship. Interesting,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know it's so untrue, right, But yet I'll

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<v Speaker 1>I'll every time I reach a roadblock or an obstacle

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<v Speaker 1>within a relationship, I'm so hard on myself that I

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<v Speaker 1>will go right to that black and white thinking of

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<v Speaker 1>why why are you even trying? You can't do this?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>So, if if we were actually in therapy. I'd want

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<v Speaker 3>to spend some time on that, like where that came from,

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<v Speaker 3>how long you've been saying it to yourself? Who told

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<v Speaker 3>you that? Or when did you tell yourself that? But

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<v Speaker 3>because we're doing more of a mantra thing, let's jump

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<v Speaker 3>right too. What's the opposite of that? And let's get

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<v Speaker 3>you a second mantra?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, the opposite of that would be I am capable

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<v Speaker 1>of having healthy relationships, and I'm worthy of healthy relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>When you said that, how does it feel when you

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<v Speaker 2>say that?

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<v Speaker 1>It feels true good to that reasonable mind of mine, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But it does also feel like the opposite of what

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<v Speaker 1>I've always told myself, So it feels a little uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>So the more you say it right, the more your

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<v Speaker 3>brain chemistry actually changes and really starts to believe it,

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<v Speaker 3>not just superficially, but deeper in your brain but also

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<v Speaker 3>in your heart and in your soul, and it becomes

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<v Speaker 3>a much faster thing that you say to yourself. In

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<v Speaker 3>the same way that I think one was quick.

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<v Speaker 2>You were quick to say.

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<v Speaker 1>It right, so easy to say that one. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's the key is practicing it, not just like saying

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<v Speaker 1>it once and thinking oh, I did the work, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>But practicing it on the daily.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, in the same way that you practice the negative

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<v Speaker 3>self talk on the daily, all you're saying is, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>my gosh. I'm aware now that that's something I've said

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<v Speaker 3>to myself for ten years, or twenty years or thirty years.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm aware now that that has harmed me, and that

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<v Speaker 3>my even feelings about myself and the way I've behaved

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<v Speaker 3>in the world are a reflection of that thought.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm also aware now that if I choose.

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<v Speaker 3>To say the much kinder and much more self loving

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<v Speaker 3>mantra to myself, then I'm going to guess that that's

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<v Speaker 3>going to snowball into better feelings, better ways of being

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<v Speaker 3>in a relationship or in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I do this, and I'm imagining that there

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<v Speaker 1>are quite a few people listening that do this, and

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<v Speaker 1>if not, maybe you could start doing this. I write

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<v Speaker 1>down the affirmation the mantra on a post it note,

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<v Speaker 1>and I put it on my mirror and my bathroom

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<v Speaker 1>so every morning when I'm brushing my teeth, I'm seeing

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<v Speaker 1>that whether I'm saying it, I'm at least seeing it

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<v Speaker 1>with my eyeballs. I'm reading it. It's sinking in and

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<v Speaker 1>then again at night when you brush your teeth before bed,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's the moment to just take that pause and

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<v Speaker 1>repeat that to yourself. I think that's one of the

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<v Speaker 1>tricks that I've used is post it notes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>Put it on your wallpaper, on your computer, on your phone,

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<v Speaker 3>so the minute you pick your phone up, before you

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<v Speaker 3>start scrolling, you just see I am enough. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>imagine just seeing it, you know, twenty five times a.

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<v Speaker 1>Day, right, I mean, because yeah, we all check our

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<v Speaker 1>phones too much, too much, too much. Okay. I love

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<v Speaker 1>what you taught me many many years ago, which when

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<v Speaker 1>I was spinning out, having you know, a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>ruminating thoughts that were unhealthy or damaging or self doubting,

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<v Speaker 1>you taught me to envision the stop sign in my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>That was, like, I think, the first actual tool I

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<v Speaker 1>ever put in my tool box of how to take

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<v Speaker 1>care of myself. And I always attribute that and credit

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<v Speaker 1>you for that because I remember the moment. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember much, you guys, but I remember the moment lying

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<v Speaker 1>on my brown overstuffed couch, shabby sheet couch in my

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<v Speaker 1>house that was in the Hollywood Hills at the time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just I was laying down and talking to

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<v Speaker 1>you like I was spinning, spinning, spinning. So I called

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<v Speaker 1>you and you were like, Okay, here's what we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to do. I want you to envision a stop sign.

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<v Speaker 1>And you told me to get really clear about all

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<v Speaker 1>the shapes of it, every line on it, the shape

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<v Speaker 1>of the words, just the way they stood out, be

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<v Speaker 1>very specific about what that and focus on what that

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<v Speaker 1>stop sign looks like. And voila, all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>you stopped spending it because now you're focusing on a

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<v Speaker 1>stop sign, which is telling my brain to stop doing

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<v Speaker 1>what it was doing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was a remarkable moment, I think for both

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<v Speaker 3>of us because we barely knew each other. We're probably

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<v Speaker 3>six months in of knowing each other. If that was

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<v Speaker 3>a therapist, then right, But something was there for both

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<v Speaker 3>of us for you to think to call me. I

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<v Speaker 3>think you were having a panic attack when I think

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<v Speaker 3>about it now, And for me to be able to

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<v Speaker 3>meet you there and give you a tool that you've

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<v Speaker 3>been able.

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<v Speaker 2>To use all these years.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably even was helped me on my own trajectory of

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<v Speaker 3>deciding to become a therapist.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I love that you were destined to help people.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you do it all day long, every day.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and yet I love being of service. And I'm

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<v Speaker 3>also I don't give too much of myself. Even when

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<v Speaker 3>I was in private practice, you know, I was able

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<v Speaker 3>to set my boundaries in terms of hours, how many

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<v Speaker 3>people I was going to take, and also being able

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<v Speaker 3>to go home and be home and be with my

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<v Speaker 3>partner and be with my friends or family or just

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<v Speaker 3>by myself and not take it with me. And I

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<v Speaker 3>felt like I was a good enough therapist even if

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't worrying about my clients all night long or

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<v Speaker 3>or being widely available for them. You know, twenty four

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<v Speaker 3>to seven, I knew that I was good enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You are better than good enough, I'll tell you that,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think anybody that's listening kind of will share

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<v Speaker 1>that with me, because you give just really great tactile

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<v Speaker 1>tips and ways to help ourselves choose ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>And like you said earlier, it's because I do them myself, right.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not just sitting here saying like, do this and

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<v Speaker 3>do that like I've done. I do them myself. I've

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<v Speaker 3>done them myself. It's how they allowed me to be

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<v Speaker 3>the best version of myself, and I wish that for

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<v Speaker 3>you. You're already there and all your listeners. It's it's we

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<v Speaker 3>are living and breathing and walking examples of people who

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<v Speaker 3>went through hard times depression, anxiety, loss and continued to

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<v Speaker 3>do the work. And all we're doing is paying it forward,

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<v Speaker 3>right We're sharing it with everybody else we can, because

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<v Speaker 3>we want people to have these tools.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's important because we need to support one another

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<v Speaker 1>and learning how to support ourselves. I think, yeah, for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>with all that's going on in the world, with all

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<v Speaker 1>the things you see on the news every single day

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<v Speaker 1>that are hard breaking and very worrisome, how do we

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<v Speaker 1>get through dealing with all of that and still remain

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<v Speaker 1>in our lane and choosing ourselves and living our lives

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<v Speaker 1>and not getting twisted into all this negative stuff that's happening.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that is a really hard question because I

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<v Speaker 3>struggle without myself.

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<v Speaker 2>But I appreciate the question too.

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<v Speaker 3>I think all the more reason why we need to

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<v Speaker 3>be as present as we can right now and tuned

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<v Speaker 3>in as we can right now, because the better we

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<v Speaker 3>choose ourselves, the better we take care of ourselves, the

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<v Speaker 3>better we say what am I feeling and what do

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<v Speaker 3>I need the better we can be for somebody else,

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<v Speaker 3>And there are a lot of people who need our

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<v Speaker 3>help right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, I sort of feel like sometimes when I hear

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<v Speaker 1>bad things that are happening, I watch it unravel on

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<v Speaker 1>the news that I'm turning my back on it, almost

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm choosing to stay present in my own life,

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<v Speaker 1>and that gives me a sense of sort of feeling guilty.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe, so maybe we go back to that same idea

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<v Speaker 3>with you of small bites. Right, you can't save the world.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't save the world, but we can certainly help

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<v Speaker 3>in small ways, right, we can whatever that means for you,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, being of service, giving of your time, making

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<v Speaker 3>a donation, speaking out where we can. If we see something,

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<v Speaker 3>say something right. If you're out in the world and

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<v Speaker 3>you see somebody being mistreated, you say something right. So

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<v Speaker 3>small bites and they add up. And if everybody's taking

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<v Speaker 3>small bites to try to help where they can, then

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<v Speaker 3>you're doing your best.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is again what you know all you can do

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<v Speaker 2>you can do.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, I thank you for all the things you've

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<v Speaker 1>taught me over the years, and all the things you

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<v Speaker 1>can share with our listeners. I want us to check

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<v Speaker 1>back in. I have something else going on in my

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<v Speaker 1>life that I really feel like I need to talk

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<v Speaker 1>through with you. We can either do that on the

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<v Speaker 1>air or not, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Anytime, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, I love you.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye.