WEBVTT - Shady Highlight: Are Those Your Real Eyes?

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<v Speaker 1>So Alexandria asked me, this is for you to robbin.

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<v Speaker 1>Are those your real eyes? What? Okay, I'm gonna need

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<v Speaker 1>for you all to get to know the green eye

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<v Speaker 1>Bandit's better, okay, because we were born with these eyes absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what, It's so funny. When I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little girl, I can remember people coming up to me,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, at adults, Like I would be in the

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<v Speaker 1>store with my mom and adults will be like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my gosh, your eyes are so pretty, and I literally

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<v Speaker 1>honestly had no idea what they were talking about. I

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<v Speaker 1>I did not know that my eyes were green and

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<v Speaker 1>that my eyes look different from anyone else's. So I

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<v Speaker 1>literally be like, like, are they talking about the shape

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<v Speaker 1>of my eyes? You'll not have a mirror in the house. No,

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<v Speaker 1>we did, But I didn't know that I look different,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like, I had no idea

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<v Speaker 1>that because maybe because my brother has like eyes, my

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<v Speaker 1>mom has, my grandmother has blue eyes, my cousin has

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<v Speaker 1>blue eyes. So maybe for me, it's like, okay, everybody

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<v Speaker 1>got light eyes, like you know, so so for me,

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<v Speaker 1>like light eyes, green eyes was nothing special, And I

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<v Speaker 1>never noticed that I was different because I had green

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<v Speaker 1>eyes and it's so and it's so funny. One day

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I was like, let me look in

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<v Speaker 1>the mirror. Figure out what these people are talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>This is probably last year. Okay, Robin's hilarious. So I

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<v Speaker 1>literally stood in the mirror and was like and I looked,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, okay, it's the color of

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<v Speaker 1>my eye. I can't y'all. Robin Dixon is a mass Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so dumb, y'all. I'm so dingy. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so so. I'm glad you figured out. How old

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<v Speaker 1>were you? When you figured it out? I said you

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<v Speaker 1>had green eyes? We I mean, dingy is just for life.

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<v Speaker 1>So um, I don't really know how old I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't remember. I can't put like a number on that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just remember being so confused. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I probably was like a little girl, like five years

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<v Speaker 1>old or something, you know what I mean. Like and

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<v Speaker 1>I would just be like, thank you, Like what are

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<v Speaker 1>you talking about? Like, no idea, Well you know, did

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<v Speaker 1>you know when you were five? Did you did you

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<v Speaker 1>know you had green ups? I knew that people people

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<v Speaker 1>cut the same thing. People come to my mom and

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<v Speaker 1>they would they asked because I had like a dark

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<v Speaker 1>rim around my eyes, especially at the bottom, and they

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<v Speaker 1>would ask my mom why did she put makeup on me?

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<v Speaker 1>And she would get mad, like, who are these white

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<v Speaker 1>ladies talking to me about my child and thinking that

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<v Speaker 1>I put makeup on a five year old like I

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<v Speaker 1>did not, and that's ridiculous and why can't my child

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<v Speaker 1>just be pretty? Right? So I knew it was something

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<v Speaker 1>different because it was all this discussion. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>like my sister was always like if I have an

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<v Speaker 1>older sister who is um, always keeps it real and

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<v Speaker 1>was always like, yeah, you're pretty, but you had nothing

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<v Speaker 1>to do with that. That was mommy and daddy and

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<v Speaker 1>that was their genes and UM had nothing to do

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<v Speaker 1>with you. So, um, you know, you need to be

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<v Speaker 1>smart and that's what you can control, but your face

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<v Speaker 1>and you had nothing to do with that. It's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>even get too excited, I said, we God, damn no,

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<v Speaker 1>that was Mama and Papa Graves. Ship. Well, let me

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<v Speaker 1>just stay in the bed today. Good God. Anyway, thank

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<v Speaker 1>god I have thick skin. All right, So we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>take one more of what you guys asked before we

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<v Speaker 1>wrap up. Okay, so how do your boys handle filming

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<v Speaker 1>now that they have done it for a while and

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<v Speaker 1>they're getting older. Good ask a good question. So I

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<v Speaker 1>have to pay my children to go to work. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, I'm gonna stop you right there. Okay. So

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<v Speaker 1>Robert and I had this discussion prior to us filming.

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<v Speaker 1>I think see this past season season six, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh my god, the girls have given me

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<v Speaker 1>a hard time about filming, and Robin was saying the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing about her kids. So she was like, Giselle,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna pay them, and I was like, what, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god. That's a good idea. And in that way,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll feel a sense of ownership they have a job. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm literally like, all y'all, you'll have to work today.

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<v Speaker 1>It's time to go to work. And so now like

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<v Speaker 1>when they aren't going to work, they're like, when do

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<v Speaker 1>I go to work next? Because they want you pay

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<v Speaker 1>them like an hourly rate. I pay them and this

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<v Speaker 1>is the other thing I pay them according to the

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<v Speaker 1>scene and how well they did my god, Robert producer,

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<v Speaker 1>Now what I mean by like how well they like

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<v Speaker 1>DoD they behave or where they like being difficult? Or

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<v Speaker 1>because that's the other thing. They get in front of

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<v Speaker 1>the camera and they act like they have no sense

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<v Speaker 1>and they want to give me the hardest time, and

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<v Speaker 1>they like, you know, they just they roll along the floor.

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<v Speaker 1>When I'm trying to have a conversation. I'm like, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>are killing me right now. And I'm like, okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to look crazy and where I'm like yelling

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<v Speaker 1>at my kids and stuff, so I'm just gonna let

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<v Speaker 1>you all just do whatever. But they'll literally be like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, hiding under a blanket and and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>like y'all cut it out. So they get paid based

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<v Speaker 1>on you know, how long of a period of time

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<v Speaker 1>and how well they performed. Wow, Wow, that that's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's this like ten dollars an hour, twenty dollars

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<v Speaker 1>an hour, So I've paid them anywhere between, like so

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<v Speaker 1>it's per scene, right, So I paid them, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say, anywhere between like ten to thirty dollars. It's

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<v Speaker 1>nice depending on like what it was, like how how

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<v Speaker 1>much they did or like what you know what I mean. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. Yes, I actually told my girls, um

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<v Speaker 1>the same thing. I was like, I'm gonna give you

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<v Speaker 1>guys an hourly rate. Right. So we had our first

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<v Speaker 1>scene season six and we were done with it and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like at the end of it, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, guys, I'm gonna give you y'all y'all's earnings

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<v Speaker 1>and they were like, no, Mom, it's fine, we just

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<v Speaker 1>want like they literally would not take money. They were like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's fine, you know, we're here for you, like they were.

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<v Speaker 1>They shocked me, And I think it's a difference between

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<v Speaker 1>girls and boys. They shocked me. They were just we're

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<v Speaker 1>just here for you, like whatever, it's fine. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's also like they're teenagers, so they're probably actually

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying like the show now, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like now it's like, okay, we're actually a little popular.

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<v Speaker 1>People know who we are. My kids are boys and

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<v Speaker 1>like their friends, like they get sick of their friends

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<v Speaker 1>because their friends. Mom was watched the show to come,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, come telling them about themselves and showed it

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<v Speaker 1>like oh my god. So that that really shocked me.

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<v Speaker 1>And because they that was so sweet at themselves and

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<v Speaker 1>you never paid them, no, I mean, I've given them

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<v Speaker 1>whatever they want. Of course, they get paid in other ways. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, so this is my last one. So because

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<v Speaker 1>this is really sweet, So Kelly says to me, I

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<v Speaker 1>love your spirit. How do you keep it up when

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<v Speaker 1>things get tough? Because you know, things always get tough,

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<v Speaker 1>and my mom always told me that when that, when

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<v Speaker 1>things get tough, make sure you wear your lipstick. They

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<v Speaker 1>keep your lips popping. So I always live g loss

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<v Speaker 1>with me. As long as my lips are popping, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel good about myself. Okay, yeah, alright, well I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's not my solution. I don't think, yes

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<v Speaker 1>that it just makes you know, if your lips are

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<v Speaker 1>popping and you feel good and and you know you

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<v Speaker 1>got a little yellow shine on the lips, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>way you can have a bad day. Right, That's that's

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<v Speaker 1>very true. And to piggyback off of that in closing, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to leave you know everyone, I think we

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<v Speaker 1>wanna we gotta start giving some motivational Yes, we do

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<v Speaker 1>kind of messages we do, so we want to motivate people. Yes, yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>so I actually shared this on my Instagram story. But

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<v Speaker 1>I want to reiterate two traps you need to avoid

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm very good at this. Avoid caring what they

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<v Speaker 1>think and avoid thinking that they care. So I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that's the solution to, like, Okay, when things are

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<v Speaker 1>going wrong or when we gotta read the second one again.

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<v Speaker 1>I was confused on the second Okay, thinking that they care. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>like that so avoid stops like, don't even think that

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<v Speaker 1>they care that they care. Okay, I got it right,

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<v Speaker 1>because because I find a lot of times when you're

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<v Speaker 1>like beefing with someone or like you have a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>falling out with someone and you're sitting at home and

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<v Speaker 1>you're like thinking about it all the time and you're

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<v Speaker 1>mad and angry that person ain't think about you. They're

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<v Speaker 1>going about you. They're going to live their life, they

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So it's like you're sitting here giving them

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<v Speaker 1>all of your energy and they over there you know,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah the cheesecake factory eating exactly exactly. So so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so so let's let's stop caring what people think or

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<v Speaker 1>thinking that anyone cares. And that's like I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that's a solution to, like when you do have issues

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<v Speaker 1>and problems, like just you know, face some head on,

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<v Speaker 1>like don't be embarrassed, no, you know, just go through

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<v Speaker 1>your struggles and and do what's best for you, and

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<v Speaker 1>don't worry about what anybody thinks. No, because guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>it don't matter. It don't matter. We hope you enjoyed

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