WEBVTT - Meet the Parents 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.800 This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:04.640 with iHeartRadio. 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:06.640 It's almost Famous podcast. 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:08.600 We are here today with a very special episode. We 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:11.640 have two people very close to me and my life. 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:14.760 My parents are joining us today, Dave and Amy Higgins, 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:18.800 the newest grandparents of Wainona Elaine Higgins. I am an 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.880 only child actually, to remind everybody, and so this like 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:27.160 I'm their one and only shot at having a kid, grandchild. 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:29.520 I'm having a kid. Yeah, you're a grandchild. 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.839 We are here in Evergreen, Colorado today because my parents 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:38.240 have been out here. They came out five days before 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:40.320 when he was born. We have like the last five 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:44.720 days together, got to hang out and then they rented 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:47.840 an airbnb through the month, so they're here for another 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:52.280 week helping out around the house. We remodeled a bathroom. 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:53.800 We'll talk about all this stuff we've been up to 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:55.600 obviously hanging out with Winny a Ton. 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.360 It's been an amazing time. So we're gonna break down. 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.240 I think today, according to the notes that I have 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:04.040 what it's like to be grandparents. 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:05.679 I know this is so exciting. 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:08.160 We've been talking to Ben so much, but I had 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:10.479 no idea you guys were staying there for the entire month, 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:13.200 or you were there before the baby was born. I 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:16.200 love that idea. That's great for grandparents that live out 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:20.720 of state. I but hello, hello, and welcome to the podcast. 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:22.800 Mister missus Higgins. It's so lovely to have. 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:24.280 You, Thanks for having us. 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:25.240 Good to see you. 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.399 Ashley, good to see too. 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:29.679 You guys are so sweet and I'm so happy that 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.319 your grandparents yees. Like Ben said, I do feel like 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:36.240 it almost adds a little special element being that you 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:39.440 do have an only child that like now you kind 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:44.000 of have your second child in a way in a 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:48.960 grand child. Tell us about the story in which Ben 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:52.200 told you that you were going to be grandparents. 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:56.520 That is David's Let him tell that story, because okay 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:57.320 was great. 0:01:57.840 --> 0:01:58.080 Yeah. 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:01.280 So back around Father's Day, we drove out here in 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.960 r V and when we hit then in Jess's house. 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:08.840 We went in the house and we were probably not 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:11.440 even in the house for no more than five minutes actually, 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:14.880 and Jess goes, I want to see the RV. So 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:18.680 we go out and she presents me with a Father's 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:21.880 Day card and I'm going to mess up probably the 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:25.520 verbiage of it, but the key was. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.560 You're not only you're not only a great father, you're 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.359 also a great grandfather. 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:37.400 Not a great grandfather. 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.920 And I looked there and go, are you telling me something? 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:40.240 Girl? 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:43.919 And she goes yep, And then everything went south from there. 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:47.600 Oh my gosh, I love that. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:52.359 Oh that's awesome. How in the loop were you about 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:53.400 them trying to conceive? 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:56.600 Oh, I mean. 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.160 We knew when. 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.160 Kind of the timeline of when they thought they wanted 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.600 to start trying, and then we knew you know, a 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:09.760 lot about the just things that went into to that, 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:12.520 and not a lot of detail, but we knew they 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:17.480 were actively trying, and so you know, we were patiently 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:21.240 waiting for that big news someday. And yeah, no, it 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:21.680 was great. 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:23.800 Actually, I don't know if your parents were this way, 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:26.080 and maybe it's just a memory I made up of 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:29.120 my head, but I felt like, like, in the most 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:32.880 healthy way possible, they've wanted to be grandparents since I 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.480 was like a child. Like I feel like they all 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.000 like they had a kid to be grandparents. 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:43.280 That was well, my mom was definitely like your biological 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:43.880 clock by a. 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.200 Grandma, you know, like once I was in my upper twenties, 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:51.560 she and then you know, she was always like, why. 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:54.480 Do you want to wait another like two years? You know, 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:55.600 blah blahlah blah. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:58.840 We were married, It's like, mom, chill out. Yes, she 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:02.600 was very eager. My dad honestly didn't like give a crapola. 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:05.720 But then when the kids were here, my dad was 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:10.560 very excited about them. So, guys, I need to know 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:14.640 about how Ben has been as a dad so far. 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:17.480 Is he fitting the exact involved as you imagined? 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:18.760 You know? 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.360 I never had a doubt. 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.440 Yeah, none of us did, but I just couldn't believe that. 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:28.960 Like even the very first time we met mynah at 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.560 the hospital and she needed to diaper change. 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:33.719 I mean, this. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:36.760 Boy picked her up, took her ride over, started in, 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.280 told me all about the proper ways that you were 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:43.479 supposed to clean a baby girl up and be careful 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:46.960 of her umbilical cord, you know, and just was diapering 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:51.720 this brand new baby up. And I just was I 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:52.839 was just thrilled. 0:04:52.920 --> 0:04:58.080 I knew he was born for it good, you know, 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:01.679 I mean, he's just he's just such a tender person anyway, 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:03.880 So now it didn't surprise me at all that he 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:05.960 jumped right in there, but it was it was just 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:06.880 too sweet to see. 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:08.040 I'll tell you I had. 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:09.840 To watch a lot of videos. It's front to back. 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:11.920 Just let everybody know when you have a baby girl, 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:13.880 you have to make sure you go front to back. 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:14.720 Un wipe. 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:20.200 Yes, guys, have you been How was your role been 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:23.600 at the house. I know you're probably trying to balance 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:27.359 that delicate line that is like being helpful but not 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:28.320 being overbearing. 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.120 Yeah, how do you think we've managed that? 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:33.719 I think pretty well. You know, it is very interesting. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:37.000 When we first got back from the hospital, Ben and 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:40.880 Justin bte us over and they kind of had this plan, 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.719 this daily plan as far as here's the feeding, here's 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:49.160 the quiet time, here's when we need some help. So 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:52.240 they did a really great job of laying that out. 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.680 And like Ben said, you know, we had some projects 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:57.360 to do as a bathroom model, that type of thing. 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:03.560 So it was really well planned by those two and 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:04.880 it made it made it easy. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:08.760 I have to say, I was so thankful after the 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:14.000 first the couple first days that the kids took guests 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:16.640 work out of it for us to so that we 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:20.360 didn't feel like awkward and what do we do with ourselves? 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:23.680 They set out a really nice timeline and. 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:25.719 I really appreciated it because it's worked. 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.159 Really I think it's worked really well, and we've been 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:31.200 very productive. We've got a lot of great things done, 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:36.040 and I think for me, a lot of it has 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:39.200 just been that freedom to know not only what our 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.680 expectations they expected from us, but just to be able 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:45.440 to spend enough time that we can watch the two 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:49.440 of them as new parents. And I tell you, Jessica 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:53.159 is the m them both are just rocking it that 0:06:53.360 --> 0:06:55.040 I can't be more proud of. 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:57.000 Them than well, just they're crushing it. 0:06:57.080 --> 0:06:57.920 They're crushing it. 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:02.840 There's a you know, when we got home, so originally Ashley, 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:07.280 about a month ago, I had this really solid thought 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:08.640 in my head, I want to spend the first two 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:10.800 nights without anybody coming. 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.360 Over at home. 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.080 Well that didn't really work out because Jess's family, based 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:19.160 on when we had Winnie, their last day in Denver 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.600 was the day we got home from the hospital, and like, 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:23.560 we're not going to tell them, hey, sorry, don't come over, 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:24.640 we want them over. 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:26.120 And so they came over. 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:29.240 And then that night Jessica and I sat and talked 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:32.160 and said, hey, what do we want out of these 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:33.000 first couple of weeks? 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:34.080 And part of that was okay. 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:37.200 We won a few days just us to kind of 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.320 get in start getting into that routine of what it's 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:39.840 going to look like. 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:41.200 But we also want. 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:46.120 People around because that's really fun to like experience, and 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.680 so we set up like a schedule because I think 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.680 the best communication is the clearest communication. It also is 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:56.840 very important to note that my family does not sit 0:07:57.440 --> 0:08:01.239 well ever, and so we had to have a project, 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.360 and so we did. We remodeled the bathroom in the 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:06.880 course of this month. That's great that they help with 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:09.000 and so it's gone really great. I mean they've gotten 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:12.200 good time with Winnie, They've gotten to get the memories 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:13.000 of seeing. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.280 You know, us start to become parents. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:16.360 And then also we've gotten a lot done around the 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.320 house that's going to be really helpful for us for 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:18.840 the future. 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:22.400 That's perfect. You guys have the right mentality. 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:25.520 Super quality time with Whalen man. Yeah, and the dog. 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:28.600 Ben. 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:32.000 What's your relationship with Whalen now? Because I told him, 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:34.440 I was like, you are going to of course love 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:38.080 Whalen still, but he will not no longer be your baby. 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.000 You're wrong. It's closer than ever. 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:44.520 And that's just because he's so obsessed with winning. 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.960 It really is because he's made it so easy, like 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:51.120 he's been the best dog to her. 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:53.240 He licks her in the morning, he looks her at night. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:55.439 It's so and then he kind of leaves her alone 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.280 the rest of the day. But if she naps on 0:08:57.320 --> 0:08:58.719 the couch and her like. 0:09:00.559 --> 0:09:03.800 Sleepy pillow thing, he lays his head right next to 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:05.080 hers and falls asleep too. 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:06.720 That's so cute. 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:10.600 I just like and so nowadays, like my we have 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:12.240 a very similar team. You want to get him out, 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.719 so I walk with him a lot, whereas I'm so 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:15.600 proud of that dude. 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:16.400 He's the best. 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:18.200 Yeah, that's really sweet of him. 0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:30.800 What is your biggest piece of advice for Ben now 0:09:30.920 --> 0:09:32.880 that he is a father, If you could like go 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:36.439 back in time and give yourselves advice about parenting, what 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:36.880 would it be? 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:40.280 I know this is like a huge vague question, but 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:41.880 or not. 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:45.479 Just me, anybody listening to Yeah, of course, like anybody. 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:49.400 Yeah, okay, I think for me, I'm not speaking for David, 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:54.040 but for me I and it's been one of my 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:59.199 things even when we were raising Ben, was too not 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:03.040 only just do your best to raise a healthy human. 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:03.120 But. 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:10.040 To be willing to kind of be patient and struggle 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:15.599 through the what it takes to raise an individual like 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:20.640 so give them, Give your child, even as a newborn, 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:27.280 even the opportunity to kind of learn for themselves the 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:27.720 things that. 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:29.960 They like, or to. 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:38.200 Explore different options and have conversations, to have a healthy 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:43.440 environment to agree or disagree. And you know, I think 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:48.000 that starts early on, even you know, And so for me, 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:51.040 that's I just always wanted to make sure that I 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:56.040 was raising a child who learned to know themselves. 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:57.240 So I don't know about you. 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:00.840 Yeah, well, it's been fun to witness it from our 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.520 aspect because Ben and Jess have just absolutely done a 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:05.120 great job. 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:08.000 And you know, one of the things that I would encourage. 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:11.120 Him to do is to to live in the moment 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:16.400 because these moments are so special right now, Yeah, and it. 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:20.599 Goes fast and yeah, you know, you know how it 0:11:22.559 --> 0:11:23.720 was really really fast. 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:27.480 So I think what they've done at this point in time, 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:32.239 the foundation that they've laid, has been absolutely marvelous. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:36.559 And uh, it's been fun to witness it really is 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:37.920 so sweet. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.719 The one thing when people say like, well, what was 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:44.200 the differentiator with your childhood? You know, obviously being an 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:48.599 only child, people have their you know, assumptions of what 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.200 life was like growing up. And that was one thing 0:11:51.240 --> 0:11:53.120 that was always really good about our HOUSEPLD was I 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:54.120 was never spoiled. 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:57.280 You only had balls. I know this, that's the only 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:58.840 toy you got. That's the only toy. 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.559 Yeah, I have any I mean literally, if you asked them, 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:06.120 I would say, YE had a closet full. But but 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.200 the like I probably was. 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.440 They went a little like on the opposite of spoiling. 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.360 Like it was never this entitlement. You get what you want, 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:15.000 you get what you asked for. 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:15.720 It was. 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:20.560 I never grew up feeling like I was owed anything, 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:22.920 which is I think a really healthy way to grow up, 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.319 because you don't grow up going the world owes me something. 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.319 I think The second side of that, which I've always 0:12:28.320 --> 0:12:31.440 said and they know, is there was our house always 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.880 had open dialogue. So hey, you know as small as 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:36.480 like I don't want to clean my room, Like why 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:37.560 would I clean my room today? 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:38.960 I'm going to sleep in it tonight. 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:43.280 And being able to have those conversations to because when 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.600 you're a child, you don't have logic to talk through, 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:51.000 you know, respect, cleanliness, hygiene, and like be able to 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.599 have that explain to you other than just themnds that 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:56.800 some adult gives a child I think really helps a 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.920 child like under like get a picture of what we're 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:01.120 in the world and what doesn't. 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:02.680 And then as you get older, you. 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:04.920 Have the ability to still ask those questions and stay 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.040 curious on why is this the way it is or not? 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:09.480 And I think those are two things that always stand 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.800 out to me. That was uniquely different, probably than other households, 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:16.360 but set me up to not be devastated by the 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:18.880 world once I like got on my own. 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:21.559 Oh that makes me feel good because I feel like 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:23.800 I do that with Dawson now. When I tell him 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:27.160 we're he needs to do something, even if it's as 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.959 simple as getting dessert after dinner, I'm like, okay, so 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:32.480 let me explain to you the situation. 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:34.600 And that makes you feel like, oh, I'm doing I'm 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.480 using a little Higgins family tippit. 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:37.920 I love it. 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:43.240 Guys, what was the hardest age a parent been at 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:44.600 other than teen? 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.199 Don't like, I think because everybody will say teen. Everybody 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:50.359 asked us who says teenage years? And I think that's unfair. 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:50.960 Because it comes times. 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:51.840 Boys are different. 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:56.120 Almost all girl parents say that teenage years are the hardest, 0:13:56.240 --> 0:14:01.440 but sometimes boy parents are when they're younger me David, Well. 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:06.680 I know for me, my hardest parenting times were six 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:11.719 months to twelve months Okay, before he was walking. He 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:12.719 waited too much. 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:15.679 Thank you for validating my feelings on this. 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:19.680 Yeah, I just was like, man, this is ridiculous. 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:21.400 He can't breathing for himself. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.200 He's heavy. 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.200 This child has to learn to walk. My back is breaking. 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:31.520 And it really wasn't until he started to walk that 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:34.200 I thought, Oh, hell loujah, I'm going to survive. 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:36.800 So okay, because that's where I'm at now. 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:40.000 I even apologize to Hated yesterday because he's seven months 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:45.000 and I do find that hard. I would say, I 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:46.800 think you're probably right with the six months to a year. 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:51.120 I sometimes say like four months to like tennish when 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:55.280 they start crawling. I feel like I was like apologizing 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:57.760 to him because I was like, I'm sorry that your 0:14:57.800 --> 0:14:59.960 brother gets interacted with all day long. It's just like 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.080 you're at this weird age where we don't know what 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:03.640 to do with you, Like, am I supposed to just 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.960 like jingle toys that you you can't move, You have 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:10.240 to stay in one place all day. You don't understand anything. 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.880 You have absolutely zero independence, like yes, so thank you. 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:17.120 I do think that this is the hardest stage because 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.440 they're very cognizant to what's going on around them. 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.080 However, they can't really interact. 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:24.400 I agree, Yeah, yeah, okay, how about you, dear. 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.120 Well, I would say probably more along the lines when 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:30.359 Junior highe probably hits. 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:32.360 Yeah. 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.480 I mean, but you know, that's when all the guys 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:38.200 show up at the house and crazy stuff starts going on, 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:43.920 and and sleepovers are happening, and mom and dad get 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:47.160 very few hours of sleep because a lot of stuff's 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:51.240 going on down the basement. And you know, that was 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.360 probably a difficult time for me personally because I was 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.560 pretty regimented and you're still working. 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:03.280 Yeah yeah, and uh, i'd say, barbaly. 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:06.760 That period of time, it goes fast, right though. I 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.280 mean the way like I think when you're in it. 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.920 I think the perspective, like they said, enjoy the moments 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.360 are something I'm learning already because when he turns three 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.920 weeks old today, which is not old, but it's three weeks, 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:22.200 feels like it's flown by. Yeah, that's twenty one days 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:26.680 of waking up and seeing her face. But then you 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.000 think about like middle school and how hard that has 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:30.960 to be on a parent, right you have, like you said, 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:33.560 sleepover is not getting much sleep. You're the kids are 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:35.600 starting to get into things they should not be getting into. 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.720 But that goes by in two years and then that's 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:41.120 done and then all of a sudden you're on your 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.480 you know, fast track to high school to college and 0:16:43.560 --> 0:16:46.120 then off and running. And so I think there is 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:50.560 always this really important lesson of perspective of time, even 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:53.360 in the midst of like these crazy seasons. 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:59.200 Yes, is there anything that Ben has been stressing over 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:03.640 already or you foresee him stressing over in the future 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:08.399 that you just having gone through it, you are like, no, no, 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.600 please do not stress over that. 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:15.800 Oh there's something already. She's looking at him loving. 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:20.840 It's just hysterical because when they first been talked about 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.600 having babies, maybe even before he and just were married, 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:26.440 he's like, well, I just can't raise a girl. There's 0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:29.680 just no way I can't raise a girl. And I said, 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:31.800 do you realize by saying that you're gonna have like 0:17:32.520 --> 0:17:33.119 four girls? 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:33.320 Now? 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.000 I think they're going to have all girls. 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:41.439 And I'll tell you what, and immediately I can't imagine anything, 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:45.200 but this boy at this moment having a little girl. 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.280 I mean, yeah, she is. 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:50.240 He loves I mean, it's just all over his face 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:54.640 how much he just loves watching her. And she already, 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:57.720 you know, likes to snuggle on his chest and it's 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:01.000 just and he's going to be great no matter what 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:05.560 babies he has. But he literally was like stressing over 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:08.879 the fact of having a girl. And now already I 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:10.320 can see it going, Ah. 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:13.359 This is amazing. I have a little girl. Yeah, he paints. 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:17.440 He paints the nursery right off the bat. You'll pink. 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:19.040 I'm like, oh, you'll be fine. 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:21.040 Oh he is Danny Tanner. 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:24.280 Okay, he's gonna have like three girls plus, and he's 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:27.000 going to act Jess as a wonderful and wholesome with 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.800 them and be the perfect guide to life, just as 0:18:29.920 --> 0:18:30.399 Danny was. 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:33.840 The Interesting Ding Ashley, Jessica and I were talking about 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:35.080 this last night when I told her that they were 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:36.160 going to jump on the show today. 0:18:36.960 --> 0:18:40.080 You know, we did this episode with just jess and 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:42.720 I a few days before when he was born, and. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:44.200 We kind of I think at the end you asked 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:47.399 us questions, who's going to stress more, Who's gonna, you know, 0:18:47.480 --> 0:18:49.760 worry more and all this stuff, and we answered those 0:18:49.960 --> 0:18:52.920 as honestly as we could. I will say, Jessica like, 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.560 and I think I said this right away, but it's 0:18:55.600 --> 0:18:58.560 making more sense to me now, Like she's changed in 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:01.000 the best of ways, like the only beautiful of ways, 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:03.680 the most like I'm so just like proud to be 0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:07.480 her husband, excited to be her husband, but like she 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:10.040 is all over it. And when I say all, like, 0:19:10.119 --> 0:19:13.159 they can see this. Like Jessica was somebody who was 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:17.240 fairly aloof in like her daily life, but always so intelligent, 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:20.960 but like would forget random things of the house or 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:24.600 you know, not see something that was on the floor. 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:28.159 Something's changed inside of that person. Like she is on 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:31.560 top of it. She knows Whennie so well, she cares 0:19:31.600 --> 0:19:32.480 for Winnie so well. 0:19:34.000 --> 0:19:38.280 We started today a new ritual where jess has to 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:40.480 leave the house by herself for twenty minutes, just for 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:43.520 twenty minutes to like start getting in the like the 0:19:43.640 --> 0:19:45.840 muscles to leave because. 0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:48.600 She is, like she is so in love and so 0:19:49.760 --> 0:19:52.440 a tune that if not like I don't. 0:19:52.359 --> 0:19:54.159 I don't know what it would look like, but I 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:56.879