Speaker 1: Good. All right, break it down.
Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just won'ts ay
Speaker 2: and Cat got your cob and locking a brother Lady's
Speaker 2: and felts do you just follow in the spirit where
Speaker 2: it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
Speaker 2: stuff and the.
Speaker 3: M but Swayne, sometimes the best thing you can do
Speaker 3: it just.
Speaker 2: Stop you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy
Speaker 2: and Cat.
Speaker 4: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy, I'm Cat
Speaker 4: and out of the gate. We got the feeling of
Speaker 4: the day. Yeah, and I'm smiling as I say this
Speaker 4: feels weird. The feeling of the day, which I've sort
Speaker 4: of gotten over, is anger, because you're I woke up angry.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, what kind of anger?
Speaker 4: I don't know what? Like are there different types of anger?
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess I know that there's different feelings
Speaker 4: involved in that, but like anger is the one I'm
Speaker 4: touching on. Like it's like a spectrum, Like, yeah, what
Speaker 4: level of anger? Okay, let's do it like salsa? Like
Speaker 4: am I mild salsa? Or am I medium?
Speaker 3: I'm hot? Okay?
Speaker 4: It's like what would mild be.
Speaker 3: Like frustrated, annoyed?
Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, I'm not so, I'm for sure mild.
Speaker 1: Okay, what's medium? Mad, upset, pissed off?
Speaker 4: Oh I don't like the feet word. You don't like
Speaker 4: that now, so that's fine, we'll roll with it. I'm
Speaker 4: definitely medium Okay, so so far Okay, now hot hot salsa.
Speaker 1: That would be like enraged or I mean, there could
Speaker 1: be a little actual rage in there.
Speaker 4: I don't feel like I'm raging furious. I'm furious. I'm
Speaker 4: like so frustrated and makes me furious. I'm perplexed. You know,
Speaker 4: we're just like feeling I'm confused and that leads to anger,
Speaker 4: Like I'm just frustrated?
Speaker 3: Am I?
Speaker 4: All of these salas A my mild medium hot, which
Speaker 4: would mean I'm hot?
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you you're you have a you have a
Speaker 1: mild feeling, but to the hot level.
Speaker 3: Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: So it's like like.
Speaker 3: On the spectrum of frustrated euro up here. Yeah.
Speaker 4: I just woke up with this. I couldn't shake it.
Speaker 4: So I busted out a coping tool, which would be journaling,
Speaker 4: and I journaled for twelve minutes.
Speaker 3: Did you time it?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Because I started journaling it and then twelve minutes later
Speaker 4: I was done.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you said a timer for twelve.
Speaker 4: I didn't actually set a timer, but like the clock,
Speaker 4: I knew what time was when I started, and I
Speaker 4: was like, oh wow, I just wrote for twelve straight minutes.
Speaker 3: Were you like scribbling?
Speaker 4: I tried to write as fast as possible because that's
Speaker 4: just very That's what's therapeutic for me, especially if I'm
Speaker 4: dumping things out and I just like let it flow.
Speaker 4: Like whatever was coming to my brain, I wrote it.
Speaker 4: It'd be actually be interesting now that I've gone the
Speaker 4: day and I'm a little more calm if I read
Speaker 4: what I wrote this morning, because I know that I
Speaker 4: was dumping a lot within that twelve minutes. I know
Speaker 4: that there's things I wrote down I wouldn't recognize.
Speaker 3: Now, Wow, you don't think.
Speaker 4: I think that there's sentences where I'd be like, huh,
Speaker 4: I read that. Yeah, I think that was very helpful
Speaker 4: for me. It helped me like lay out my thoughts
Speaker 4: and continue on with my morning with ease, because I
Speaker 4: didn't like waking up with that feeling. And then I
Speaker 4: sent you a text after at some point in the morning.
Speaker 4: I know that I texted you and you replied with this,
Speaker 4: You can do this. They suck. That's how I read it.
Speaker 4: You can do it. Is that a movie quote?
Speaker 1: Yes, isn't that from water Boy?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Okay, so that's how I read it.
Speaker 3: You can do this.
Speaker 4: You can do this. They suck. You're a beautiful sunflower
Speaker 4: and they're an ugly weed that thinks they're a flower,
Speaker 4: but really they just kill everything around them. And I
Speaker 4: was like, oh my gosh, that's true.
Speaker 3: It was helpful.
Speaker 4: It was helpful because it just helps me understand the
Speaker 4: boundary I need, which is the gift of anger. So
Speaker 4: which when we started this podcast, we started with all
Speaker 4: the coreat feelings, and we know that one of the
Speaker 4: gifts of anger is perspective. It's information, and it helps
Speaker 4: us know where we need to have some boundaries and
Speaker 4: what we need to do. And so I was like,
Speaker 4: not mistake.
Speaker 1: And I think because anger is a justice emotion and
Speaker 1: it shows us like how to care for ourselves well
Speaker 1: and care for others well, it could be helpful to
Speaker 1: feel that because that means that you care about yourself.
Speaker 1: You're like this, I deserve to be treated better depending
Speaker 1: on the situation.
Speaker 4: My inner alarm was going off, like saying hot, hot,
Speaker 4: seek get the gualk chips, some more chips. Like that's
Speaker 4: how I feel like randomly have a salsa analogy to
Speaker 4: gauge our anger. Yeah, which I love now that. Yes, listeners,
Speaker 4: next time they're either eating salsa, they're gonna think, am
Speaker 4: I angry about anything? Or next time they're angry, they're
Speaker 4: gonna start craving chips and salsa because we've like put
Speaker 4: this in their mind.
Speaker 3: Salsa is my anger.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you'll be like maybe the remedies you
Speaker 4: go eat that salsa. Be like, I'm hot right now,
Speaker 4: so I'm gonna make myself eat hot, which I never
Speaker 4: buy hot, by the way, I always buy mild or medium.
Speaker 3: I like mild. I don't like spice.
Speaker 1: I don't get people who really like spicy food. But
Speaker 1: then you can't really even taste it because your mouth
Speaker 1: is so hot.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you keep eating just to get rid
Speaker 4: of the hot. It keeps adding to the hot.
Speaker 3: Yes, I don't get that.
Speaker 4: I know that's your wedding. Yeah, I know, but sometimes
Speaker 4: it's just really good.
Speaker 1: It's like almost a little bit of like self harmy.
Speaker 4: Do you know you may not know this about me,
Speaker 4: because I don't know if you ever listen to this
Speaker 4: on the Bobby Bone Show. But that one time I
Speaker 4: lost a bet and I had to take the hottest
Speaker 4: shot in the world, and I almost died. You told
Speaker 4: me this, Okay, I don't know if I ever.
Speaker 3: Wasn't it like you to eat the pep?
Speaker 4: You do know it was a It was an alcoholic shot,
Speaker 4: like I don't know if it was tequila or what
Speaker 4: the actual alcohol was, but it was labeled the hottest
Speaker 4: shot in the world, and we ordered it off the internet.
Speaker 4: Who knows if it was safe or not. And none
Speaker 4: of us were prepared for what was about to happen,
Speaker 4: like and none of us throw up. I did not
Speaker 4: go to the hospital. I thought I was going to
Speaker 4: need to go to the hospital, but I did not
Speaker 4: throw Oh I did throw up, But the problem was
Speaker 4: when I started throwing up, it was coming out of
Speaker 4: my throat and out of my nose, and so then
Speaker 4: the then my face was burning. So it was like
Speaker 4: a chemical peel on my face because it was coming
Speaker 4: out of my mouth and my nose, and my eyes
Speaker 4: were watering and I had goosebumps and chills.
Speaker 3: Like, what was the remedy for this time? You didn't
Speaker 3: like drink milk.
Speaker 4: They had to go get milk. See, they didn't even
Speaker 4: have that, so we weren't prepared. I wasn't either. I
Speaker 4: just thought, Okay, I'm gonna take the shot and it's
Speaker 4: gonna be hot and then we're gonna move on. Well,
Speaker 4: I took the shot and then it hit me, and
Speaker 4: what hit me was I might need to go to
Speaker 4: the hospital. What I was feeling were things I have
Speaker 4: never felt in my body before. And then I had goosebumps.
Speaker 4: Then I was in the bathroom. Then my face was burning.
Speaker 4: Then they finally brought me milk. I was chugging it,
Speaker 4: pouring it all over my face, trying to get it
Speaker 4: to calm down. Then I'm like on my like hands
Speaker 4: and knees over a trash can and then I mean
Speaker 4: I was out the rest of the show, like I
Speaker 4: never Sully. But Bobby was like, yeah, I definitely thought
Speaker 4: we were all going to get fired that day because
Speaker 4: like I was gonna die, that would be bad. Worst
Speaker 4: case scenario would be death. But he just thought we
Speaker 4: were gonna be in some serious trouble because our boss
Speaker 4: is gonna be like, what the heck, you can't do
Speaker 4: stuff like that? Yeah, you put her in danger.
Speaker 3: Get the day off the next day.
Speaker 4: No, I think I'm a champ, and I went back
Speaker 4: to work. But anyway, I wasn't that level of angry.
Speaker 4: At least we know that I wasn't hottest shot in
Speaker 4: the world for a second.
Speaker 1: This is my question to that, Why are they making that?
Speaker 1: Because that means nobody can drink that and enjoy it.
Speaker 1: Who's buying and other than people who are pranking people,
Speaker 1: which that should be illegal.
Speaker 4: Well, it's not just a prank. It's also like I
Speaker 4: want to take the hottest shot in the world. Like
Speaker 4: I knew what I was doing. I wasn't mean, I
Speaker 4: wasn't meaning pranked, but I guess what the people that
Speaker 4: are idiots like us?
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that's who they're marketing to.
Speaker 4: Feel like they have the hottest chip in the world
Speaker 4: they have.
Speaker 1: Like why, I just don't get that, like I'm novelty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but how much could be making off of that? How
Speaker 1: many people are buying that?
Speaker 3: I don't know I've met.
Speaker 4: They're out of business, you know who some of those
Speaker 4: only fans people or supermodel people. I don't know who
Speaker 4: they are, but they'll be like I put my breath
Speaker 4: into a bottle and they sell it for money, or
Speaker 4: they or they pass gas in a bottle and they
Speaker 4: sell it, and they sell it you know, like yeah,
Speaker 4: people are making money.
Speaker 3: And the most like a little different than.
Speaker 4: Well, I know. It just made me think of bottling
Speaker 4: things up and selling it and making money, like if
Speaker 4: we could, Like I feel like, like, are we missing
Speaker 4: out an opportunity here?
Speaker 1: Do you want to pass gas and a bottle and
Speaker 1: start selling them in bulk? Is there a market for that?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 4: I don't want to think about that, Like that's why.
Speaker 3: I mean, first, that's an easy one. I know. Yes,
Speaker 3: are we missing out on an opportunity one hundred percent?
Speaker 3: Because we could probably.
Speaker 4: Or like air from wherever or my or my baths
Speaker 4: like Sidney Sweeney just soap out of her bath water.
Speaker 1: Yeah, why why don't we Well, I don't know anybody's
Speaker 1: buying my bath water personally.
Speaker 4: But feeling things merch coming soon, people.
Speaker 1: Are so excited and then it's like soap from our
Speaker 1: like dirty bathwater, our dishes, oh dishes. It could have
Speaker 1: to be because I don't I can't take a bath,
Speaker 1: so I can't.
Speaker 3: Sell my bath water.
Speaker 4: I love a good bath.
Speaker 3: I don't like sitting in dirty water, but.
Speaker 4: I shower before you shower before you take a bath.
Speaker 1: But then you're sitting where you're dirty feet were. I
Speaker 1: just don't like it. I've accepted that it's probably just
Speaker 1: not for me.
Speaker 4: It's not your thing. Yeah, okay, Well back to the anger.
Speaker 4: We went over the gift and I I just want
Speaker 4: to remind people of the impairment if you don't feel it,
Speaker 4: Because if I had woken up feeling angry and I
Speaker 4: just sort of suppressed it and didn't journal through it
Speaker 4: and then text a friend about it and get affirmation
Speaker 4: that I'm a beautiful sunflower and the other for a
Speaker 4: sense of weed. If you don't feel it, when you
Speaker 4: suppress anger, it doesn't disappear. It's still there, and then
Speaker 4: it can turn into resentment. It can turn into really
Speaker 4: passive aggressive behavior, which we don't want to be that way.
Speaker 1: To think about the feeling that's energy. It's going to
Speaker 1: find a way to come out one way or the other.
Speaker 1: You might as well use it in a way that's
Speaker 1: helpful for you.
Speaker 4: And it can get you feeling really down, and you
Speaker 4: don't want to feel down, and then unfelt anger go
Speaker 4: sideways real quick. It's sort of like that shot, you know,
Speaker 4: and then.
Speaker 1: You're unfelt anger as much like a Carolina Reaper pepper shot.
Speaker 4: Yes, and you'll end up burns your nostrils in a
Speaker 4: trash can and vomiting for face on fire. And that's
Speaker 4: just really like, it's an unhealthy situation. And that's what
Speaker 4: I'm like, you know what, and dealt with anger?
Speaker 3: What that does?
Speaker 1: It turns pain, which sometimes feeling anger can be painful
Speaker 1: into suffering suffering. There's a difference thing a man, you
Speaker 1: were suffering, it sounds like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and so like why suffer? Just go ahead and
Speaker 4: feel the anger, lean into it. And that's what I did,
Speaker 4: and I feel better now. It's so much so that
Speaker 4: I really need to go back and see what I journaled. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I want to interesting And what I realized too when
Speaker 4: I looked at the dates of my journal I hadn't
Speaker 4: journaled in a while, and I was like, whoa, I
Speaker 4: need to get back into this because it did for me.
Speaker 4: It felt good. And that's why it's always important to.
Speaker 3: The date with the dates.
Speaker 1: You know you're good at that, you're good at journaling,
Speaker 1: which a lot, but I haven't been.
Speaker 4: But I like, what has life been good. Is it like,
Speaker 4: do I only want to journal when things are a
Speaker 4: little more confusing, because I I'd rather I also want
Speaker 4: a journal on the good days.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was just.
Speaker 4: Don't forget if anybody finds my journals when I die,
Speaker 4: burn that.
Speaker 3: That's only if you're writing down all your affirmations.
Speaker 4: But what I wrote this morning, we need to burn
Speaker 4: it twelve minutes of.
Speaker 1: Well, speaking of feelings, I was feeling I had a
Speaker 1: lot of anxiety, let's say, not anger, so fear, a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff happening. And I saw this TikTok of
Speaker 1: this girl who was making a necklace much like the
Speaker 1: one that is hanging around your neck.
Speaker 3: That is a dude, Oh me.
Speaker 4: My original katvan Buren.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, can we get a zoom in on
Speaker 1: the necklace?
Speaker 4: Beautiful?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, well just imagine. But I saw this TikTok
Speaker 3: TikTok of this girl. We can't we can't get a
Speaker 3: zoom in on this.
Speaker 4: Oh, I mean it's like a zoom but.
Speaker 1: I could I get closer to the camera. Well, I
Speaker 1: saw this video of a girl who had made this necklace.
Speaker 1: It's a doop of the anthro ones, which I think
Speaker 1: they have a lot of places, but on anthropology they
Speaker 1: sell them for a high sticker item.
Speaker 4: Sticker price, sticker price sticker price.
Speaker 1: Anyway, so I was feeling anxious, and one thing I
Speaker 1: have learned is that for me, being creative is the
Speaker 1: antithesis of anxiety. For me, I think for a lot
Speaker 1: of people, it gets set energy out. Whis why I've
Speaker 1: gone through the hobbies, including painting manicures. Actually, don't zoom
Speaker 1: it on this one.
Speaker 3: I broke an nail. What else have I recently?
Speaker 1: Pottery, air dry and ceramic puzzles, puzzles. I almost got
Speaker 1: into airbrush t shirts, but I didn't. So anyway, I
Speaker 1: went and I got all the supplies to make these
Speaker 1: and it I literally sat in my kitchen table from
Speaker 1: probably nine am to three.
Speaker 4: It was obviously that you didn't have any clients, let's
Speaker 4: hope no clients.
Speaker 1: I did have things that needed to get done, right,
Speaker 1: but I think my brain was so discombobulated that I
Speaker 1: just needed an outlet to be able to just create something. Anyway,
Speaker 1: So now I have these beautiful necklaces that I'm giving
Speaker 1: away to everybody.
Speaker 4: You have lots, but I am requesting one of your
Speaker 4: little teeny tiny beaded ones like this one's great and
Speaker 4: I love it, but I really want a multicolored teeny
Speaker 4: tiny one please.
Speaker 1: So you like that one, but you mildly like that one,
Speaker 1: and you spicy hot salsa like the other one.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, Like everything we do now is like related
Speaker 4: to salsa, which honestly does sound really good. Now, Like
Speaker 4: I could really go for some like a trio.
Speaker 3: Do you know what a trio? Three?
Speaker 4: The trio?
Speaker 3: Okay? So salsa guak duh? Yeah, okay, sick, you know, sick.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to bring that up because I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people who are I mean the world
Speaker 1: right now in general, there's a lot of stuff going on,
Speaker 1: and I can joke and laugh about how I start
Speaker 1: new hop every other week, and at the same time
Speaker 1: that is a coping skill for me that I've learned
Speaker 1: really works, and then I get to give people things.
Speaker 4: Okay, So creativity is the opposite of anxiety? Is creativity
Speaker 4: the opposite of anger?
Speaker 1: Well, if your anger brings you anxiety, it could help
Speaker 1: with that. But you can do a lot of I mean,
Speaker 1: journaling could be the opposite of that's creative.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I I mean, you're.
Speaker 3: Trying to see if that could work for you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. I'm trying to think if I
Speaker 4: need like to dive into some sort of hobby. Journaling
Speaker 4: isn't Yeah, writing is creative, but me, just.
Speaker 3: Like you, weren't doing creative writing writing.
Speaker 4: Down every thought that's coming into my brain so that
Speaker 4: I have like free flow, like like my pen didn't
Speaker 4: really leave the pad, which I got that from. Speaking
Speaker 4: of creativity, The Artist's Way, Yeah, that book where just
Speaker 4: start writing pay doing your morning pages.
Speaker 1: So if you were to what's that's a creative thing
Speaker 1: that you've enjoyed?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I need to you. A couple years ago, were
Speaker 3: trying to paint.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I was a huge puzzler, huge I was
Speaker 4: bird watching. But maybe I need to get into necklaces.
Speaker 4: Like honestly, your little board that you have that measures
Speaker 4: out with like the like that you got that on Amazon.
Speaker 4: I went to hobby lobby and.
Speaker 3: I like to see the stuff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, that's good because yeah, you never know when
Speaker 4: you're ordering it. Yeah, okay, why helping people if they
Speaker 4: want to figure out, like if they want to do
Speaker 4: it as well.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: If you've got a hobby, send it in. Let us know,
Speaker 4: create abby, Like, what's your creative hobby?
Speaker 3: Not too expensive?
Speaker 1: I think that's the other thing is I went to
Speaker 1: hobby lobby and spent like sixty dollars and got enough
Speaker 1: stuff to make fifty necklaces.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you have gifts for all your friends for
Speaker 4: the next year.
Speaker 3: Like this was three dollars, but this would be.
Speaker 4: A really special birthday present. Yeah, Like, I mean think
Speaker 4: about it if with I know we're six months from Christmas,
Speaker 4: but it's still a good Like what if this year
Speaker 4: you did that, You went to hobby lobby and over
Speaker 4: the next few months months you start making gifts for
Speaker 4: the people in your life, and then boom, You've got
Speaker 4: a homemade, really cute, special Christmas gift that looks like
Speaker 4: it came from anthropology.
Speaker 1: So if I'm using girl math correctly, I'm saving so
Speaker 1: much money. Yes, because this is now the gift everybody
Speaker 1: will receive it.
Speaker 4: If you gave me this for Christmas, I would.
Speaker 1: Be like, Okay, this is I show. It just came
Speaker 1: a little early Christmas. I let you open it early
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas, Christmas? What is it they typically do Christmas
Speaker 1: in July?
Speaker 3: Can I have a back? I'll wrap it up.
Speaker 4: But I think this makes you think of my ADHD
Speaker 4: which certain things I've really been working on is trying
Speaker 4: to be more prepared and being on time, so we're
Speaker 4: on time, on time, like to.
Speaker 1: A place or like because remember that one time I
Speaker 1: gave you a birthday present, I think six months after
Speaker 1: your birthday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it say cat language cards and stuff.
Speaker 4: That's okay, I don't know. I mean like on time
Speaker 4: physically to play places, like work stuff on time check,
Speaker 4: no problem. But like if my boyfriend and I are
Speaker 4: going somewhere, like last week, we went to this writer's
Speaker 4: round thing at this place that's in Franklin, Tennessee, which
Speaker 4: is right outside of Nashville, so cute. It's called the
Speaker 4: Red Wheel, and.
Speaker 3: That's out of town where you went on your vacation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, where we went on vacation. So sometimes going on
Speaker 4: vacation might be you know, driving fifteen minutes up the
Speaker 4: road to a restaurant. But his dad was a part
Speaker 4: of this opening night, And if you're in Franklin or
Speaker 4: in Nashville, it's like a summer series thing that's happening,
Speaker 4: so it'd have to be this this summer twenty twenty
Speaker 4: five podcasts are weird. What if someone's listening to this
Speaker 4: in twenty twenty seven, I'd be like, too late, Yes,
Speaker 4: you missed it. Because some people I get emails from
Speaker 4: people sometimes they're like, I just started listening to your podcast.
Speaker 4: I went all the way back to the beginning.
Speaker 3: I think that they know that they know. Yea, they know.
Speaker 4: We don't get the restclaimer that this was in the past, right,
Speaker 4: it also had a different name. We've evolved, so it
Speaker 4: was last week he was picking me up, and I'm
Speaker 4: getting to where I'm noticing my brain is my little
Speaker 4: things that I'm doing to try to work towards being
Speaker 4: on time with ease are working because I'm just naturally
Speaker 4: getting ready earlier. I'm doing things in an order that
Speaker 4: make more sense, like I should go ahead and get
Speaker 4: ready now and then work on x y Z instead
Speaker 4: of working on x y Z, which then lead me
Speaker 4: to getting ready and I'm rushing, and then he gets
Speaker 4: here and I'm not ready, like genius, Well that is,
Speaker 4: I guess that's how a normal, what a typical neurotypical
Speaker 4: neurotypical brain may function that way, where they can organize
Speaker 4: things in a way that makes the most sense, like
Speaker 4: I'm more greasy with it, which ends up an issue.
Speaker 4: So all this to say, I've been aware of it,
Speaker 4: and it's kind of fun because I'm like, I am
Speaker 4: going to be ready on time and this is so
Speaker 4: great and I'm proud of myself and I am celebrating it.
Speaker 3: Or were you late to that event? No?
Speaker 4: I was on time, That's my point. Like, and I
Speaker 4: noticed what I did to set myself up for success
Speaker 4: to be on time. Like when he showed up here
Speaker 4: and I was ready to go, he was like, you're ready?
Speaker 3: What? And it was like.
Speaker 4: Prepared to He's prepared to wait? Which ironically or coincidentally,
Speaker 4: whichever word fits you pick At the Writer's Round, one
Speaker 4: of the songwriters wrote that song Waiting on a Woman.
Speaker 4: Now I can't sing what it is, but he's like,
Speaker 4: wait not. I think Brad Paisley ended up singing it,
Speaker 4: but this is the songwriter, wait, waiting on a Woman?
Speaker 4: I can't You don't not familiar? Yes, I believe Brad
Speaker 4: did record.
Speaker 3: Is that ironic or coincidence?
Speaker 4: That's why I said both, And you pick.
Speaker 3: Ironic it's ironic? Isn't it a coincidence? Ironic?
Speaker 4: Is it's ray on your wedding day? Is that ironic
Speaker 4: though it's a free ride when you've already paid.
Speaker 3: It's good advice that you.
Speaker 4: Just didn't to take, and who would have thought it?
Speaker 4: Figures it's I never knew the traffic jim when you're
Speaker 4: already late.
Speaker 3: That's not ironic.
Speaker 4: Oh, okay, we have When Varble and Don Samson wrote
Speaker 4: this for Brad Paisley, and When and Dawn were both there,
Speaker 4: so both of the songwriters are there and they sang
Speaker 4: it and it was funny because my boyfriend are sitting
Speaker 4: there and this is whole song about waiting on a woman.
Speaker 4: But it takes you through a timeline where he's like
Speaker 4: waiting to meet a woman, and then when he meets her,
Speaker 4: he's waiting on her to always be ready. But then
Speaker 4: he passes away first and he's in heaven waiting on
Speaker 4: his woman. But he this is where he's fine waiting.
Speaker 4: He'll find a bench because he doesn't want her to
Speaker 4: leave her life on earth to come. So he's fine
Speaker 4: with waiting because he got used to waiting on a woman.
Speaker 4: But anyway, the fact that he sang that song on
Speaker 4: an evening that my boyfriend.
Speaker 3: Didn't have to wait on that's ironic. So then okay,
Speaker 3: that's ironic.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, so it's like then singing a song about
Speaker 4: waiting on a woman on the night that your boyfriend
Speaker 4: didn't have.
Speaker 1: To wait on a woman, and if he did have
Speaker 1: to wait on you, it would be a coincidence because
Speaker 1: he didn't have to wait.
Speaker 3: Then it's ironic.
Speaker 4: There, Okay, right, I don't Okay, now it's like too much.
Speaker 4: But I use the Atlantis song a lot when I'm
Speaker 4: trying to figure out ironic.
Speaker 1: I like, but I don't think her stuff is really ironic. Well,
Speaker 1: then why she put it in the song just because
Speaker 1: she wanted to make a song. I feel like she's
Speaker 1: so very she's smart, like she would make it work anyway.
Speaker 1: I nudged him during that song and I was like,
Speaker 1: you don't have to wait.
Speaker 4: On me today, you don't have to wait on me today,
Speaker 4: and other things since then. I just maybe because I
Speaker 4: celebrated it and I want to not break my streak.
Speaker 4: I'm trying to stay the course and just get more
Speaker 4: places with ease. And I don't know there's something about it,
Speaker 4: because I don't know if it's just ADHD people or
Speaker 4: other people may have this too, Like the whole time
Speaker 4: blindness thing, but like there's things that just are difficult
Speaker 4: for me, and that's sometimes organizing what order in which
Speaker 4: I need to do things. Yeah, so here we are.
Speaker 4: I have a list of borderline impossible things for ADHD brains,
Speaker 4: so I thought we could go over it because that'd
Speaker 4: be like, that's one of them.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think also even if you don't have ADHD,
Speaker 1: this is helpful because sometimes when people hear this, they're like, wait,
Speaker 1: that's hard for you. So it helps you have a
Speaker 1: little bit or compassion and empathy for somebody who's struggling
Speaker 1: to do something that seems kind of like a mundane task.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because it's not like we're trying to do it
Speaker 4: on purpose. But I do have awareness of it. And
Speaker 4: so that's where it's tricky, which you've said before, sort
Speaker 4: of like therapy is.
Speaker 3: The awareness is the booby trap of therapy. Yeah, the
Speaker 3: booby trap.
Speaker 4: It's all a booby trap because then what you're aware,
Speaker 4: it's like, Okay, well I can continue to live life
Speaker 4: this way, or I can try to do something about it. Yeah,
Speaker 4: which I'm I'm personally not medicated, but for other people
Speaker 4: they may want to medicate. But I do neuro feedback,
Speaker 4: which has been helping my brain. I go on and
Speaker 4: off with that, and I've even bounced around to a
Speaker 4: couple of different places and I try to figure out
Speaker 4: what works for me, and I started taking well, I
Speaker 4: do like lions Maine and my coffee and some other
Speaker 4: mushrooms like cordyceps. Okay, like not harooms type shrew me
Speaker 4: type things, more of the adaptogens. Okay, let me know. Okay,
Speaker 4: if this resonates for your ADHD rain car maintenance, yes, Like.
Speaker 3: I just can't change my oil so much.
Speaker 4: So well, like physically you mean, just go get it changed,
Speaker 4: or you you can't actually change it yourself because of both, Well,
Speaker 4: but I don't want to change it myself.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm both.
Speaker 1: I have such a hard time when I get a
Speaker 1: little bit panics when I see the car engine light
Speaker 1: so much so. I think I've told the story on
Speaker 1: the podcast where I waited too long and my car
Speaker 1: broke down in the middle of a very busy intersection.
Speaker 3: I had to get my car towed, no oil left.
Speaker 4: Interesting though, but I think this is because I have
Speaker 4: ADHD with like not really a lot of anxiety. I
Speaker 4: think you have ADHD with a lot of a lot
Speaker 4: of anxiety. Like when we travel together, you want to
Speaker 4: get to the airport two hours early. I want to
Speaker 4: get there twenty minutes before boarding, like especially if I'm
Speaker 4: not checking a bag and I have TSSA free and
Speaker 4: you you like freak out over that, but like it's
Speaker 4: a owt you do.
Speaker 3: I react normally to somebody, Okay.
Speaker 4: Now you're like hyper ventilating.
Speaker 1: Okay, but you lived too much on the edge, Like
Speaker 1: why would you put yourself in that situation? And remember
Speaker 1: when we were in New York, literally our flight was
Speaker 1: leaving in an hour and we hadn't even left the apartment,
Speaker 1: and I was trying to be so cool, and I
Speaker 1: think in the it was finally the uber that.
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm god of freaking out over here, like.
Speaker 1: Shaky, yeah, because why would you not just get there
Speaker 1: early so you could make sure.
Speaker 4: I know, but that's part of my growth. And now
Speaker 4: I will meet you halfway. And I think knew me
Speaker 4: the last week or so would be able to get
Speaker 4: to the airport early, because why wouldn't I want to
Speaker 4: do that with ease. But my point back to the
Speaker 4: check engine light or something in the car, is like
Speaker 4: you get nervous with it, like I'm like, ugh, who cares,
Speaker 4: there's a light on? Like we'll figure that out later.
Speaker 4: But it just seems a little overwhell. It's like I
Speaker 4: don't want to deal with it, so I just I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 4: i'll do it later today. And then that turns into
Speaker 4: later tomorrow, which turns into.
Speaker 1: You to minimize it, where I'm just like I avoid it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I minimize avoid it, and you anxiously avoid it
Speaker 4: or something.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: It's different though, like his energy is different, but same,
Speaker 4: different but the same. What about returning things, because like
Speaker 4: I often.
Speaker 1: You know that I hadn't returned things from Amazon for
Speaker 1: about like five years. It was a recent thing that
Speaker 1: I realized how easy it was to return things from Amazon.
Speaker 4: Wait, you returned something to the Amazon?
Speaker 3: No, I didn't. I have.
Speaker 1: I used to have a box in my closet with
Speaker 1: things that needed to be returned that I didn't return.
Speaker 3: It was like a joke from all my friends.
Speaker 1: They're like, you'll never return this if you buy it
Speaker 1: off of Amazon, and I didn't.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize it was so easy. Okay, it felt
Speaker 3: like a lot.
Speaker 4: So I guess what I'm asking for Cody on is
Speaker 4: did you decide to return things from five years ago
Speaker 4: or you just started returning?
Speaker 3: I just started. I think I gave most of that
Speaker 3: stuff to Goodwill. I think I sold some of it
Speaker 3: on Facebook marketplace.
Speaker 4: Good for you. Yeah, I think just returning stuff, like
Speaker 4: especially from impulse purchases, can be very returning your aff
Speaker 4: to them all. Yeah. Like I bought a new collared
Speaker 4: workout shirt from Target for pickleball. I needed a caller
Speaker 4: shirt for where I was playing, and it was way
Speaker 4: too tight. And I keep saying, I'm gonna go to Target,
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go to Target. I'm gonna do Target, and
Speaker 4: guess what, I still have it and it's too tight,
Speaker 4: Like I'm not gonna be able to wear it, and
Speaker 4: I don't. I don't think I'll miss a window. But oftentimes,
Speaker 4: depending on where you got it from, you miss the
Speaker 4: window and then we accept defeat. Getting gas before the
Speaker 4: tank is empty.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is interesting again. If my gas light is on,
Speaker 1: I get anxious, Like there's some people that drive their
Speaker 1: car till zero.
Speaker 3: Could never be me.
Speaker 4: See, that's weird. That is total me. So have you
Speaker 4: ever run out of gas? I haven't in forever. No,
Speaker 4: I always to make it. But my car says now
Speaker 4: it goes from to like towards empty, and then it'll
Speaker 4: say please refuse like a little written note. And then
Speaker 4: when it gets to the note changes from please refuel
Speaker 4: to refuel immediately.
Speaker 3: That's when you do it. I do it.
Speaker 1: But you didn't answer my question. Have you ever run
Speaker 1: out of gas? Yes, okay, you've got to avoid it.
Speaker 4: But it's been a long time. I just know I
Speaker 4: said it's been a long time.
Speaker 3: That's then but no, so no or something like that.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, that's just filler words. I realize sometimes I
Speaker 4: say butt and it doesn't even make sense, Like if
Speaker 4: I hear myself back and I'll be talking, like even
Speaker 4: during some of our episodes, like if I have to
Speaker 4: listen to something and I hear it back, I'm like,
Speaker 4: why did I just say butt?
Speaker 3: Right there?
Speaker 4: I say, so, that was probably me just saying but
Speaker 4: but anyway, but so but but but is a filler
Speaker 4: word for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you haven't have gas, but now your car
Speaker 1: helps you. But here's the here's the thing. What if
Speaker 1: refill immediately happens while you're not close to a gas station.
Speaker 4: I get yeah, I get that. I'm trying to be
Speaker 4: better at it. I mean, my son, he freaks out
Speaker 4: about the gas tank. And even last night we were
Speaker 4: driving and he was like, how much guess do you have?
Speaker 4: And I said I have half a tank and he
Speaker 4: was like, dad fills up around half a tank. And
Speaker 4: I was like, isn't that nice? Isn't your dad so prepared?
Speaker 4: I mean, a lot of the tank a wild well,
Speaker 4: a lot of people won't. They'll go between half a
Speaker 4: quarter of a tank and they are definitely getting gas.
Speaker 4: I have never been that way.
Speaker 1: You know, what I really feel like a win is
Speaker 1: is when you fill up your gas. Like if I
Speaker 1: have to fill up my tank out, I be like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it in the morning. When you actually
Speaker 1: do it for your morning self so and then you're
Speaker 1: not rushed to work.
Speaker 3: That feels like I climbed a mountain. M h. I
Speaker 3: feel so proud of myself.
Speaker 4: I got gas the other day and I got so
Speaker 4: bored doing it. I didn't fill all the way up.
Speaker 4: I think I got to half a tank.
Speaker 3: You're like, this place is lame. I'm out of here,
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 4: I was like, why I drove off and it only
Speaker 4: was it half a tank, and I was like, why
Speaker 4: am I this way?
Speaker 3: All of those people go and fill up that half.
Speaker 3: You only filled up because.
Speaker 4: I was over it. And I was like, what what
Speaker 4: is wrong with me? Because now I'm gonna have to
Speaker 4: come back even sooner and you're to come do this again.
Speaker 4: It's stupid, Like I do not be like me.
Speaker 3: Stati didn't have good vibes.
Speaker 4: I don't know, just don't be like me. Although I
Speaker 4: am a working Morgan progress maybe I'll maybe with just
Speaker 4: like now I'm gonna be ready when my boyfriend's coming
Speaker 4: to pick me up. I'm gonna turn over a new
Speaker 4: leaf and like start filling up it three quarters of
Speaker 4: a tank.
Speaker 3: Imagine that too much? Then you're doing it like every other.
Speaker 4: Day, okay, okay, grocery shopping with a plan. I always
Speaker 4: have like a list in my head and I'm like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure I have basil, but we're definitely out
Speaker 4: of paprika, and so I'll buy paprika and not get basil,
Speaker 4: and then I'll get home and I have the opposite.
Speaker 4: It's like literally the opposite, or like you know, when
Speaker 4: you're doing something and you have to like tell it
Speaker 4: to yourself. Like I was making cupcakes the other day
Speaker 4: and I was like, third a cup of oil, third
Speaker 4: a couple of Oh.
Speaker 3: My god, third a cup of oil.
Speaker 4: And then I go and I'm like, third a cup
Speaker 4: of oil, and I know it's a third a couple
Speaker 4: of oil, but I have to check the box a
Speaker 4: million times. But then of course I don't check the
Speaker 4: box for the full instructions because it's like mix all
Speaker 4: the wet and then add it to the dry, but
Speaker 4: I just throw it all in at the same time.
Speaker 4: And I was like, why did they want me to
Speaker 4: do like separate.
Speaker 3: Overly check this one thing?
Speaker 1: But then you totally disregard Yes, exactly speaking, I literally
Speaker 1: have to read the recipe seventeen times, but like you
Speaker 1: know that you know, but then at the same time
Speaker 1: you're like, did I make that up? Or like did
Speaker 1: I am? I seeing it backwards? Like is it correct?
Speaker 1: What would it be?
Speaker 3: Like I always wanted to have a photographic memory.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, amazing, we would rule the world, the world.
Speaker 1: The world would be so induvsive, Oh my gosh, people
Speaker 1: would be in all of us.
Speaker 4: Instead, I'm like digging the box out of the trash
Speaker 4: because I threw it away thinking I remember exactly what
Speaker 4: I need, and I'm like, okay, better go get those
Speaker 4: instructions out of the trash can again, and then I'm
Speaker 4: reading them and I'm like, why am I this way?
Speaker 3: Literally like three eggs? Three eggs? Three eggs? Like I
Speaker 3: got it.
Speaker 1: You throw it away and then you're like how many eggs?
Speaker 1: I think it was three, but like I can't be
Speaker 1: so sure. It might be two, but like that would
Speaker 1: be creazy.
Speaker 4: And then did I put three? Ten? Thank god, there's
Speaker 4: three little yellow things floating in there are I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Know the amount of times I'm like did I put
Speaker 1: the baking soda in?
Speaker 3: Or did I not put it in?
Speaker 1: Like I'm not sure, and so I try to go
Speaker 1: in an order of the ingredients, but sometimes you get
Speaker 1: ahead of yourself.
Speaker 4: Did I take my medication or did I not? Should
Speaker 4: I double up or go out more harmful to like
Speaker 4: not take it or have too much?
Speaker 1: And then I told myself so many times, just get
Speaker 1: one of those pill boxes.
Speaker 3: Then you'll always know if you've taken it or not.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, I'm gonna do that, and then
Speaker 1: I'll like say I'll do it later, and then later
Speaker 1: it never comes, and then I tell myself I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 4: You know what, I think that pill boxes are like
Speaker 4: journals for ADHD people. You know how a lot of
Speaker 4: HD ADHD people have lots of journals. Yeah, like I
Speaker 4: need a new journal. I need a new planner for this,
Speaker 4: I need a new I have so many different pill
Speaker 4: box type containers. Yeah, because I have one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, because I've never bought one.
Speaker 1: Oh really, I keep telling myself I'm gonna buy one,
Speaker 1: so then I don't forget if I'm taking my medication
Speaker 1: or not, or my vitamins or anything, and then I.
Speaker 4: I never do it. Come up to my Amazon shop
Speaker 4: in my bathroom. Why didn't you return them because I
Speaker 4: wanted hard? No, you just wanted I wanted them all,
Speaker 4: just like I want all my journals. Did you see
Speaker 4: that super cute journal?
Speaker 1: Your emotional support pill boxes? That's why I have so
Speaker 1: many water bottles.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not that way with water bottles, just because
Speaker 4: I don't really like drinking water, But so you.
Speaker 3: Should get water bottles. Maybe that's what I'll get you
Speaker 3: for Christmas.
Speaker 4: Yeah, do you see the super cute journal? I head
Speaker 4: out there at the five minute journal with flowers. It's
Speaker 4: really cute. Yeah, it makes me want us to make
Speaker 4: a journal one day. Maybe we will for Christmas, maybe
Speaker 4: we will TBD so grocery shopping with a plan that's
Speaker 4: hard for people, day AHD filling out any paperwork when I'm.
Speaker 1: Talking about this, but the paperwork because I need to
Speaker 1: change my name. But I'm like, it sounds like so
Speaker 1: much work.
Speaker 4: I think I'm getting to the point where maybe I
Speaker 4: could do it, like I have to adult and do it,
Speaker 4: but I also have help at times. Shandon's in the room,
Speaker 4: so I feel like I need to acknowledge it. And
Speaker 4: she definitely helps make a lot of my paperwork, so
Speaker 4: I feel like she's like, I know how you get
Speaker 4: it done.
Speaker 3: You're like, I don't have a problem with that, And.
Speaker 4: I'm actually pulled out everything. My kids are doing great,
Speaker 4: medical school forms, insurance.
Speaker 1: I just got an urgent message that if I didn't
Speaker 1: feel something now, something would beat.
Speaker 4: I didn't just text it on our you don't have
Speaker 4: to give me credit ever, haha.
Speaker 3: Okay. But also for her to be like, oh, it's
Speaker 3: no problem for me.
Speaker 4: I know I can't act like that, like I know that.
Speaker 4: I know that that's and I also see that as
Speaker 4: like a gift, and I also know that I can't
Speaker 4: always rely on that, Like I need to have agency
Speaker 4: over my life and I need to do things.
Speaker 3: That's you saying, Okay, this is hard for me. I
Speaker 3: need help in this area.
Speaker 4: So you ask me, and I'm to a place where
Speaker 4: in my life I have been able to have that.
Speaker 4: I didn't always have that, and I justly didn't do
Speaker 4: things like paperwork. It's like, Oh, I finally, how did
Speaker 4: you know you've made it well? Making appointments? Oh my gosh.
Speaker 4: I've been trying to make myself be in charge of
Speaker 4: this part of my life of like calling and doing things.
Speaker 3: And are you calling or are you doing it online? That's
Speaker 3: a game changer.
Speaker 4: I'm texting or calling.
Speaker 1: If I have to call to make an appointment, probably
Speaker 1: not gonna happen.
Speaker 4: I guess it's mostly by text.
Speaker 1: If I can do it online, I think I'm good.
Speaker 1: But if I there's some places you go online, you
Speaker 1: send a message and then they call you to make the appointment,
Speaker 1: I'm out.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, especially if you call me back at a
Speaker 4: time where I don't know. I'm in that mode. Where
Speaker 4: I can't. Like, there's some things where I can like
Speaker 4: check on my text messages and I'm like good. And
Speaker 4: there's other times texts come in and I'm like, I
Speaker 4: don't know what to do. I'm just not even gonna
Speaker 4: open it. And it's like if someone that I want
Speaker 4: to hear from and that I really enjoy and I
Speaker 4: like them, but I'm like, I don't know. I physically
Speaker 4: I cannot open this text right now, and I'm like,
Speaker 4: what the what the what the what the what the
Speaker 4: It's so stupid. I don't like being this way mailing stuff. Yeah,
Speaker 4: birthday cars, that's why Kat becoming one of my nearest
Speaker 4: Sindira's closest friends ever. And you're having ADHD. It's like
Speaker 4: I finally met someone that I've never felt more seen
Speaker 4: and the same with on.
Speaker 1: Which is just because I forget your birthday.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because but you also know what it feels like.
Speaker 4: It feels horrible, like as the person that just.
Speaker 1: Goes on it's so sweet. I'm like, I only know
Speaker 1: that you're saying this. It's because I've gotten your birthday
Speaker 1: wrong every time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like I met my match and your birthday.
Speaker 1: Is still on the wrong day in my calendar right now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's myself I was going to change.
Speaker 4: I think it's also more fun too that like every year,
Speaker 4: I'm going to look forward to seeing if it's you
Speaker 4: know that you get my birthday right, But I have
Speaker 4: empathy for people if they get it, like, of course
Speaker 4: do I want my birthday to be celebrated, like we
Speaker 4: all we do want to be remembered, and it feels good.
Speaker 4: And also if someone were to forget and be like,
Speaker 4: oh shoot, I am like, you know what been there?
Speaker 4: It's okay because I know when I've done that, it
Speaker 4: wasn't on purpose. However, one of the things that I
Speaker 4: did have to implement was a calendar and I have
Speaker 4: to utilize that more and I have it written down
Speaker 4: and I have the reminders and then you know, if
Speaker 4: you text someone. The thing is, it's tricky on an iPhone.
Speaker 4: If you text someone on the wrong day their birthday,
Speaker 4: iPhone will be like is this this person's birthday? And
Speaker 4: then they want to save it for you is that day?
Speaker 4: So if you think that that's it and you click
Speaker 4: save that it'll save it for you.
Speaker 3: I mean, then you're screwed. Manually put your birthday in
Speaker 3: the wrong day.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's okay, I forgive you.
Speaker 1: But that is nice that there's not pressure because if
Speaker 1: you forget something or something like that happens, there's not
Speaker 1: pressure for you to do everything perfectly because I'm like, oh, same.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we don't just it's not like you do.
Speaker 4: You're not just gonna be like, oh, I'm gonna keep
Speaker 4: living this way although every year, but you show up
Speaker 4: in other ways, like really awesome other ways, Like I
Speaker 4: think everyone has their gifts and strengths, and I just think.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm always earlier on your birthday, so it's not
Speaker 1: like I forget your birthday.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so just.
Speaker 3: Gifts and strength, thank you.
Speaker 4: Thank you, so returns, birthday cars, important documents, mailing stuff,
Speaker 4: getting them into an actual mailbox. It feels harder than
Speaker 4: you would think, harder than it should, quite honestly. And
Speaker 4: then canceling subscriptions we don't use, like.
Speaker 3: That one is geared towards you. Yeah, how's your face? Fitness?
Speaker 3: Oh I cancel, canceled, cancel.
Speaker 4: I haven't even been doing it.
Speaker 3: You're not even doing exercises.
Speaker 4: I mean sometimes I open up my limps, but.
Speaker 3: Occasionally I'm like.
Speaker 1: See, maybe that's like your hyperfixation is like I hyper
Speaker 1: fixate on all these different hobbies. You hyper fixate on
Speaker 1: all these different like things, like.
Speaker 4: Really fitness as a hobby. It was, it was very
Speaker 4: time continued.
Speaker 3: It's not a hobby. Why what do you do for fun?
Speaker 4: I was yearning about Posta and the this muscle, I was,
Speaker 4: it's anatomy. It's not a hobby. I'm sorry Faceditness is
Speaker 4: not a hobby. It is jumping on a mini tramplate.
Speaker 3: If you like to tramp.
Speaker 4: I love to walk with my weight to best.
Speaker 3: That's a hobby.
Speaker 6: Is walking standing on my vibrating plate? Is that a hobby?
Speaker 6: Is walking standing on my vibrating clate?
Speaker 4: What is that a hobby? What my vibrating clate? You
Speaker 4: know the plates that you stand on. Wait, you don't
Speaker 4: know about a vibrating plate. First of all, what a
Speaker 4: vibrating fight. It's like a ron thing.
Speaker 3: And why you never told me about that? Hiding this
Speaker 3: from me?
Speaker 4: You stand on it and it's shaking your whole body,
Speaker 4: it's opening up your lengths.
Speaker 1: I've never heard of this. It reminds me of my
Speaker 1: great grandma had this exercise machine. No, it was like
Speaker 1: a little wooden square on a swivel, and you stood
Speaker 1: on it and you went like this. It's called the
Speaker 1: twisty turvy. And that was how they worked out. Is
Speaker 1: they just stood on their twisty turfy. Oh they did this.
Speaker 3: Your gret grandma didn't have.
Speaker 4: One of those. I saw My grandma did not. She
Speaker 4: bold and sat in her recliner smoked cigarettes. Okay, was
Speaker 4: her activity. I took this from my great grandma's house.
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure when she passed away, and I think
Speaker 4: my mom still has it. If you would like to
Speaker 4: borrow it.
Speaker 3: That could be a hobby. I twist.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I guess my hobbies maybe different than here.
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to hate on your hobbies. I don't
Speaker 1: think that's a hobby. I think that's just something that.
Speaker 4: You do spend time doing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the hobby to like, what's the definition of an
Speaker 1: interest that brings you like joy and that you I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess that would fit.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'll give you that. The vibrating plate isn't a hobby,
Speaker 4: but face fitness might be.
Speaker 1: Okay, And you know, I shouldn't have reacted that way
Speaker 1: because if that really is.
Speaker 4: What if I was like, what's your hobby? Skincare.
Speaker 3: I just like, how much time can you spend?
Speaker 4: Skincare is not but like face fitness would fall like,
Speaker 4: but some people might be really into like testing out
Speaker 4: different types of skincare and figuring out what works for
Speaker 4: them and then telling their friends and make up a
Speaker 4: hobby like you're how to do your eyes a fun
Speaker 4: way or makeup?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, I'm being a little judge. So if
Speaker 1: you have facebitness to be your hobby.
Speaker 4: That, well it's not anymore. I quit.
Speaker 1: Okay, So what's your next hobby going to be? Can't
Speaker 1: be vibrating plate. Let's see, I really love cleaning.
Speaker 4: I love it. I've been really getting if I've been
Speaker 4: on my laundry gain like you would not.
Speaker 3: Believe, like laundry is your new hobby.
Speaker 4: Well, I've always loved laundry, but I am at peak
Speaker 4: laundry level where I rarely have.
Speaker 3: Anything to do.
Speaker 4: A dirty item come to my house, no like, and
Speaker 4: I'm I'm trying to make sure my kids are on it.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, if we've got laundry, we're getting done now.
Speaker 4: It's it probably doesn't make sense water wise. Are you
Speaker 4: like doing special things with the laundry? Or you just
Speaker 4: like like to no, I'm just like on it. It's
Speaker 4: like if if it's if it's in the wash and
Speaker 4: it's in the dryer, and then I'm gonna put it away. Okay,
Speaker 4: Like I'm I'm not doing this thing where I have
Speaker 4: piles everywhere because I part of my ADHD at times
Speaker 4: is to create piles. And now I still have certain piles,
Speaker 4: but my laundry is good. I'm pretty sure I have
Speaker 4: a load in the dryer right now, and when we
Speaker 4: get done, I'm gonna go put it away. And I'm
Speaker 4: gonna put it away.
Speaker 3: Okay. Well, i have a doffe and I'm.
Speaker 4: Not even going on vacation for like two more weeks,
Speaker 4: and I've already started organizing on a rack what I'm
Speaker 4: gonna pack? Who am I?
Speaker 3: Okay, but that's not a hobby.
Speaker 4: Well, but this is just norly I'm packing last minute.
Speaker 4: But I'm telling you, like, I don't know if it's
Speaker 4: my neural feedback or if it's just like my awareness
Speaker 4: and I'm trying to be more intentional.
Speaker 1: Are you excited about your vacation? Maybe can I tell
Speaker 1: you the definition of hobby? This might help us narrow
Speaker 1: down what your next hobby is going to be an
Speaker 1: activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure. Hobbies
Speaker 1: are not pursued with intention of making a profit. So
Speaker 1: that's why I'm not selling my jewelry. I'm just giving
Speaker 1: it away, right. However, is this done in your leisure
Speaker 1: time for pleasure? Is is laundry done in your leisure
Speaker 1: time for pleasure? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean like I was like, and if that is
Speaker 3: satisfying to you.
Speaker 4: It was satisfying.
Speaker 3: Put it away. You have a certain like detergent that
Speaker 3: you love.
Speaker 4: That's unscented, freeing clear because my dermatologists, I had that rash. Remember, Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm brad that rash. I can't even use scented detergent.
Speaker 4: I can't even use fabric softener anymore. I use vinegar,
Speaker 4: and I can't even use dryer sheets. I use wool
Speaker 4: balls and I put a drop of vanilla essential oil
Speaker 4: on the balls.
Speaker 3: Does it work yeah?
Speaker 4: Okay, but it's it's taken me a minute to get
Speaker 4: used to and then the balls they get lost.
Speaker 3: Okay. So are you satisfied with your hobby life?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: Okay, So let's we'll brainstorm a something for you to try.
Speaker 4: Okay, i'd be. I want our listeners to email us
Speaker 4: their hobbies. Oh yeah, okay, great ideas like I'd like
Speaker 4: to horseback ride, but it's expensive hobby. Well, it's harder
Speaker 4: than you would think. I've been trying to find a
Speaker 4: place for my kids to go because they did equine
Speaker 4: therapy and I thought, oh, they would really enjoy doing that,
Speaker 4: and it's hard to track down a place with a
Speaker 4: horse to go ride. So you're right, it's not easy.
Speaker 4: But I think if we could figure it out, I
Speaker 4: would want to ride horses, but not like competitively, just therapeutically.
Speaker 3: Have you seen those hobby horse things from Denay?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, but no, maybe day.
Speaker 4: Hey she's got this character is Judy hobby horsing?
Speaker 3: Judy does she jump around on a horse on a stick? Yes? Okay,
Speaker 3: that's a thing they have.
Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about, but hobby horsing
Speaker 1: is a real hobby that people now do, and it's
Speaker 1: they have like horse competitions.
Speaker 3: But you're just running around on the horse stick.
Speaker 4: Okay, that's not me.
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that. That would be easier than going
Speaker 3: to find a horse. I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: Okay, So send in a hobby, so then you can
Speaker 1: pick one that you're definitely going to do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, y'all can email us your hobbies. Hey, they're at
Speaker 4: Feeling Things podcast dot com. And speaking of emails, we
Speaker 4: have an email at the day. This is just a
Speaker 4: very simple direct question that I thought we could address
Speaker 4: because you know, other people might be in this situation.
Speaker 3: Maybe not.
Speaker 4: It's kind of unique, but she said, Hey, hoping y'all
Speaker 4: can help a girl out recently matched with a man
Speaker 4: on a dating app. The thing is, we both have
Speaker 4: kids in a mutual activity and have never spoken. So
Speaker 4: I've been talking to him but he doesn't seem to
Speaker 4: recognize me in real life. Do I tell him or
Speaker 4: play dumb until we hopefully have a date? Thank you,
Speaker 4: smiley face.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I'm curious what you would do. So this
Speaker 1: is somebody who mets him in a dating app. It
Speaker 1: sounds like her child is maybe on like the same
Speaker 1: soccer team as this person's child.
Speaker 3: What would you do?
Speaker 4: Well, I'm like, why hasn't he put two and two together?
Speaker 4: I would be like, do my pictures look like me?
Speaker 1: Or maybe it's just that, like there is a bigger
Speaker 1: thing than a soccer team, Like, let's say they both
Speaker 1: go to the same gym, like gymnastics gym, that could
Speaker 1: be therebe hundreds of people there, So.
Speaker 4: I guess I would probably say something in the app
Speaker 4: if we've been messaging, I'd be like, hey, do you
Speaker 4: have a kid that plays soccer?
Speaker 3: Sports?
Speaker 4: Basketball? And then I mean.
Speaker 1: Like, I think that's an easy point of conversation and opener, right.
Speaker 4: Like, hey, random, but I think it's weird. We've been
Speaker 4: chatting on here and you definitely saw me at the
Speaker 4: basketball game this weekend and didn't say anything.
Speaker 3: That's awkward to me.
Speaker 4: Okay, so what's she supposed to do?
Speaker 3: That's what No. I'm saying, like, it's awkward to then
Speaker 3: see them and act like you don't know them.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm glad we read this because I think
Speaker 1: this can bring a lot of something that's bringing her anxiety.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's that big of a deal.
Speaker 1: I think you'd say, hey, I think our kids are
Speaker 1: on the same rowing team or something like that, or
Speaker 1: go to the same.
Speaker 4: Art class, or now I think our kids are the
Speaker 4: same hobby horse club. Are you at hobby horse thing
Speaker 4: the other day?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: But I don't.
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess don't play dumb, although don't remember
Speaker 4: remember my boyfriend he had seen me. This is a
Speaker 4: little bit different, but it's like, why didn't you say
Speaker 4: that you had ever met me before? Because because I
Speaker 4: didn't recognize him, But he met me at Whole Foods,
Speaker 4: like over a year before we ever went out, and
Speaker 4: on our first date, he never brought that up, and
Speaker 4: I didn't recognize him. I didn't remember meeting him at
Speaker 4: Whole Foods, so I brought up like it's weird, Like
Speaker 4: he didn't tell me till the second day, and then
Speaker 4: I'm like, wait a second, well, okay, now I remember
Speaker 4: us meeting at Whole Foods. Why didn't you say that
Speaker 4: on the first date. And this is one of the
Speaker 4: things like he's heard on the podcast that he's like,
Speaker 4: I need to clarify some stuff and stand up for
Speaker 4: myself because on our first date, if I had said
Speaker 4: that to you, you might have been like, what, No,
Speaker 4: this is weird.
Speaker 3: Would you have thought it was weird? Maybe? Oh?
Speaker 4: But then by the second date, I was already liking him.
Speaker 4: So he's like I waited till I knew like, okay,
Speaker 4: I think she's into me, so safe I better.
Speaker 3: Tell you now. So it doesn't feel like he's like
Speaker 3: a stalker.
Speaker 4: Yes, okay, because he came up to me like yeah,
Speaker 4: because what he said to me at Whole Foods is like, hey,
Speaker 4: my kids and I listen every day. You'll do great
Speaker 4: job with the show. Okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Well, then if we're out on our first date and
Speaker 4: then he brings that up, I'd be like, oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think your situation is a little different, just
Speaker 1: because it could come off that way. This is like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just bring it up because he either doesn't know
Speaker 1: or he doesn't know what to do either. Yeah. What
Speaker 1: if he's thinking the same thing and he's like, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you said something. I didn't know if I should
Speaker 1: say something or not.
Speaker 4: Okay, So so that answers that. Yeah, so say something,
Speaker 4: say it in the app.
Speaker 1: And if he thinks that's so weird that he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm never speaking to you again, he's weird, Like, that's
Speaker 1: not a reason to not reply, right, Like you've dodged
Speaker 1: a bullet.
Speaker 4: If that's the case, screw him, kidding, not yet, No,
Speaker 4: not like that, like that okay, and we'll wrap with
Speaker 4: a we did an email the date, so we'll do
Speaker 4: a voicemail of the day. This is from Shannon in Colorado.
Speaker 4: She is talking about it Talks episode from a while
Speaker 4: back where one of our listeners had had a supervisor
Speaker 4: say that she shouldn't do a certain part of her
Speaker 4: job because she's a woman, and this is her thoughts
Speaker 4: on that, because this has happened to her as well.
Speaker 4: Here is the voicemail.
Speaker 5: Hi, Amy and Kat. My name is Shannon. I am
Speaker 5: from Colorado and I was just listening to the podcast
Speaker 5: in regards to the young lady who had a supervisor
Speaker 5: saying things about her and that she should not be
Speaker 5: doing work because she's a woman. I have had this
Speaker 5: situation happen as well, and I think I have come
Speaker 5: out of it by just asking the gentleman, so can
Speaker 5: you please elaborate on that and explain to me what
Speaker 5: part of my job you feel like I can do.
Speaker 5: So then that maybe he is thinking that your job
Speaker 5: consists of something else, or again, maybe he was joking,
Speaker 5: or maybe you know, if to assume what men's brains
Speaker 5: are thinking, and so I like it better just to
Speaker 5: come out and say, can you explain what you mean
Speaker 5: by that? And then that leaves it all in on
Speaker 5: their plate to explain how they were thinking or what
Speaker 5: their process was during that time. Thanks have a great week, So.
Speaker 3: There you go.
Speaker 4: That is from Shannon, and I like that. Just that
Speaker 4: can apply to if a man is saying that about
Speaker 4: you being a woman, or just any time you need
Speaker 4: clarity around something, to just pause and ask that simple
Speaker 4: question like.
Speaker 3: Could you elaborate?
Speaker 4: Elaborate? Can you further explain what you mean by X,
Speaker 4: y Z whatever they asked you? And then yes, it's
Speaker 4: the balls in their court and they have an opportunity
Speaker 4: to explain themselves.
Speaker 1: I like her curiosity how she was like, it's really
Speaker 1: hard to assume what men's brains are thinking, so she
Speaker 1: really is asking versus making assumptions.
Speaker 3: So thank you.
Speaker 4: Love that advice. Thank you Shannon, and y'all can call
Speaker 4: and leave us voicemails anytime. Eight seven seven, two oh seven,
Speaker 4: two oh seven seven, So voicemails, emails. We're attainable, reachable.
Speaker 1: Reachable, We're attainable. I guess we're both. Is that ironic
Speaker 1: or a coincidence?
Speaker 3: You pick?
Speaker 4: Okay, we have you had the day that you need
Speaker 4: to have? Follow us on Instagram Feeling Things podcast, right, Yeah,
Speaker 4: a fir change shit at Feeling Things podcast. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 4: it just felt weird. You know sometimes when you say
Speaker 4: something and it feels weird.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: At Feeling Things podcast, Also on YouTube and TikTok. We're everywhere.
Speaker 3: See a Facebook. Oh Facebook too. Wow, Look at us,
Speaker 3: Look at us all grown up?
Speaker 4: Okay, bye bye