Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with de Nungler and Jared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast What's Up? Everyone. Welcome
Speaker 1: to an all new episode of Help I Suck At Dating.
Speaker 1: We've got a great episode in store for you all.
Speaker 1: Today we have the very lovely, the one and only Tosh.
Speaker 1: How do I say your last name? Is that Hawkins? Hawkins? Hawkins?
Speaker 1: I know that was kind of more just to play
Speaker 1: a dig at Jared because he always asks guests how
Speaker 1: to pronounce the very obvious last names. Tomas Hawkins is
Speaker 1: joining us here in the Internet studio. UM, welcome, Tosh.
Speaker 1: How are you? It's gonna see you look great? Good?
Speaker 1: Thanks for having me. Yeah, we're stuck to have you.
Speaker 1: Were once we said once I saw the email that
Speaker 1: we landed you, I was like, no way, we just
Speaker 1: I gotta come on and talk to you guys. Yeah,
Speaker 1: definitely going. Um, so we just kind of talked about
Speaker 1: a little bit for the listeners out there that don't know.
Speaker 1: Taj was on Paradise? Was it season six? Since season seven? Yep?
Speaker 1: The last two seasons, the last two. Are we gonna
Speaker 1: see you on season eight? You will not see me
Speaker 1: on season eight? Um, I skipped out this year than it. Well,
Speaker 1: maybe season nine, I guess we'll see. Um, So Taj
Speaker 1: and I were on season six together. Even though I
Speaker 1: was there for a very short amount of time, you
Speaker 1: were there for also a short amount of time, I think, right,
Speaker 1: very short, like you blinked and I was already gone.
Speaker 1: And what was your season seven experience like compared to that?
Speaker 1: I feel like it was definitely a lot longer. But
Speaker 1: I really got some time on the beach, and so
Speaker 1: it was a It was a wild ride, to say
Speaker 1: the least. My favorite Taj memory is when it was
Speaker 1: nine five and degrees in a d percent humidity and
Speaker 1: Taj is in the pool eating spaghetti, screaming at producers.
Speaker 1: I literally, I can't do it. The heat down there
Speaker 1: is is atrocious spaghetti. It's pretty bad. It's my idea
Speaker 1: of a good time. Was it red sauce with spaghetti?
Speaker 1: It was classic Italian that sounds pretty good. Looks isn't
Speaker 1: gonna skip on the spaghetti if she's gonna eat it
Speaker 1: in the pool of Mexico? All right? Um, I do remember, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't remember exactly what it was, but I just remember, uh,
Speaker 1: I remember watching it back A was the best part
Speaker 1: for me. But um, so, what's up with you now?
Speaker 1: You're living in Denver. You're a real estate agent. Yeah,
Speaker 1: in Denver, living the real estate life and grind out
Speaker 1: here helping people buy and sell homes. So you know,
Speaker 1: Caitlyn and I are in the market to buy a
Speaker 1: house around the Denver area. Yeah, well, yeah, Denver is
Speaker 1: a great place. But you own a house outside Vegas.
Speaker 1: You are also renting in l A. Now you guys
Speaker 1: are thinking about buying another property in Denver. No, we're
Speaker 1: going to drop the rental in l A. I think
Speaker 1: we're over it. You're over it, is Caitlin over it.
Speaker 1: That's more of the question. It's just like we're paying
Speaker 1: three thousand dollars a month for a tiny apartment that
Speaker 1: we never spend any time in. So it just doesn't
Speaker 1: make sense for us. We're just loose, like we're just
Speaker 1: hemorrhaging money basically with this. We want to build equity
Speaker 1: and something else. And we love Colorado. She's been out
Speaker 1: there a few times. Um, but I don't know. We're
Speaker 1: trying to figure out where it's going to be. We
Speaker 1: want to be in the mountains somewhere, but it's like
Speaker 1: kind of expensive to be in the mountains out there
Speaker 1: right now it is. Um, well, I'll have my people
Speaker 1: call your people and see I can help you out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be great. I hoo. Guess I was something nice?
Speaker 1: Give us like a fift discount. That's all we ask for.
Speaker 1: I got you. Um okay, So you're in Denver, you're
Speaker 1: working as a real estate agent. What part of town
Speaker 1: do you live in? So I'm in downtown Denver, like
Speaker 1: five points, uptown area, um, near Rhino, low High, Like
Speaker 1: it's it's all a great, great area. Nice. I I
Speaker 1: follow that exactly, but it's just funny. I'm sure someone
Speaker 1: listening to that that's never been to Denver is like,
Speaker 1: what is she saying right now? Low Dope but low High, Rhino, Yep,
Speaker 1: River North, you know all these crazy names for parts
Speaker 1: of town. Yeah. Um, Jared, I want to pivot real
Speaker 1: quick because this just came to my mind. Looking at
Speaker 1: you with a face, I haven't seen your Um, are
Speaker 1: you watching Bachelor in Paradises here? I am, I'm keeping up.
Speaker 1: And what did you think of Jared's co starring role
Speaker 1: this pastia? I thought you and Ashley did a great job.
Speaker 1: Thank you. We had like four months Bachelor Nation mom
Speaker 1: and dad on the beach. I think it was like helpful, right,
Speaker 1: Like everyone who gets down there, they're like, I want
Speaker 1: what you know all these couples have, and so I
Speaker 1: think it was a good example for people who were
Speaker 1: on the Well, that's very sweet of you to say
Speaker 1: they don't want what we had today. I was there
Speaker 1: was We're putting this stupid rug underneath the bed. I
Speaker 1: had to get my dad over, and Ashley's trying to
Speaker 1: help out because she wants this rug desperately underneath our
Speaker 1: bed frame. But our bedframe we have, we have like
Speaker 1: the the temp repedic, which is so nice and we
Speaker 1: get to like elevating things like that. But I was like,
Speaker 1: let's not put a rug underneath because I like the
Speaker 1: hardwood floors. But she wanted the rug. And then we're
Speaker 1: going back and forth, and I think this thing was
Speaker 1: so frustrating because we everything we had to lift in parts,
Speaker 1: and then the howuch we have is the exact same thing.
Speaker 1: It's a long story, but Ashley is always like can
Speaker 1: you do that? Can you do this? Can you do that?
Speaker 1: And I totally understand why she has to do this,
Speaker 1: but like, obviously with work and I'm not feeling well.
Speaker 1: It's very stressful anyway, just like total marriage problems right there.
Speaker 1: But going down to Paradise, it was quite fun going
Speaker 1: down and like the coolest part was well not the
Speaker 1: coolest part, but one of the coolest parts was being
Speaker 1: able to go down there and then witnessed all the
Speaker 1: drama happening without being involved in the drama. We were
Speaker 1: having our popcorn watching everything go down with no stress.
Speaker 1: We were so excited at anytime a new cast proper
Speaker 1: would come in because we just wanted more more to watch. Uh,
Speaker 1: it was fun. It was cool. And there was a
Speaker 1: preview next week with our dates where we go jet skiing,
Speaker 1: which is a lot of fun. There was a quick
Speaker 1: clip of me and a jet ski so that was fun.
Speaker 1: And it was weird. It was I guess I won't
Speaker 1: talk about it yet because it doesn't air until next week,
Speaker 1: but uh, it was definitely weird and wonderful all at
Speaker 1: the same time. And that's the that's that's about. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a lot to unpack there. There's a couple of
Speaker 1: things I want to touch on. Um, I love how
Speaker 1: the first thing you mentioned. I love how it's Yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to rug, but I actually wanted a rug.
Speaker 1: So anyways, a sword to us putting the rug in,
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter because I don't care. She there are
Speaker 1: certain things that I want to partake in. So for example,
Speaker 1: when we're putting the family room together, she's she puts
Speaker 1: everything together, and then she's like, do you like these pillows?
Speaker 1: And they said, yeah, they're fine. She's like, well, I
Speaker 1: don't want something that you think is just fine. I
Speaker 1: want something that you like. And I said, okay, I
Speaker 1: like these. She says, well that doesn't fit with our scheme. Well,
Speaker 1: then I don't care. It's the ones that I actually
Speaker 1: like don't fit the overall scheme of the family room
Speaker 1: and I can't get them. Then get ones that you like,
Speaker 1: and as long as I'm okay with them, I'm fine
Speaker 1: with it. So anyway, then true true story. Went to
Speaker 1: home goods. This was like two weeks ago, maybe three
Speaker 1: weeks ago, I can't remember. I went to home goods.
Speaker 1: She says, Jared, I want you to pick up Oh,
Speaker 1: it's hobby lobby. Hobby lobby. That's right. Went to hobby
Speaker 1: lobby and it was a big Saturday. Went to hobby
Speaker 1: lobby and we went to the Halloween Store and home depot.
Speaker 1: It was a lot fast forward. We're in hobby lobby.
Speaker 1: She says, Jared, I want you to pick out anything
Speaker 1: you want. It's going to go in the family room
Speaker 1: and it's gonna be yours. I said, great. I'm looking around.
Speaker 1: I'm pushing Dawson in the cart. I come across this
Speaker 1: canvas map. It's the map of the world. It's black
Speaker 1: and white. It looks a little um like this. Similar
Speaker 1: to that, Yes, similar to that, but it's more. It
Speaker 1: was more beige. It looked more of uh pirates, like
Speaker 1: a pirate smack X marks the spot. And I wanted it.
Speaker 1: I wanted to put it up in the family room.
Speaker 1: So I brought it over to Ash and said, here
Speaker 1: we go. This is what I want. I think it's
Speaker 1: gonna look really good in the corner overneath a little
Speaker 1: cabinet that we have. It's gonna look great. She just
Speaker 1: stares at me for a good two to three seconds
Speaker 1: with the fake smile. I know Actuley well enough to
Speaker 1: know when she's faking a smile, and she goes, that's um,
Speaker 1: that's nice, And I said, do you If you don't,
Speaker 1: I mean, I want this but if it's gonna, you know,
Speaker 1: ruin your life, then I don't want it. And she goes,
Speaker 1: I just don't think i'd be able to look at
Speaker 1: that every day and not be bothered by it, and
Speaker 1: I said, okay, well, I guess we're not getting it.
Speaker 1: So long story short, we did not get the map,
Speaker 1: and then she got something that she was said I'm
Speaker 1: gonna love. It's very fowlish. I said, yeah, I don't care.
Speaker 1: But then she gets mad because I don't get enthusiastic
Speaker 1: about the things that she picks out. And I say, Ashley,
Speaker 1: I like them. I'm fine with that. I don't have
Speaker 1: an opinion. But if if the things that I like
Speaker 1: are not allowed up, then I'm not gonna have and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be fine with everything else. And that's totally
Speaker 1: fine by me, but don't get mad at me. If
Speaker 1: I'm just fine about it, I'm not enthusiastic about it.
Speaker 1: So that's my story right there. Well, for the record,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you already know this, but that's literally, to
Speaker 1: a tee, exactly how Kylin and Eyes relationship works, where uh,
Speaker 1: she wants me to be involved in the decision making process,
Speaker 1: but whenever I'm involved, I make the wrong decisions and
Speaker 1: then she just goes with whatever she wants anyways, which
Speaker 1: I appreciate cause I'm in the same boat as you. Like.
Speaker 1: I literally couldn't care less. Does Kylen get mad when
Speaker 1: you say, oh, that's fine? And she says, well, I
Speaker 1: want you to like it more than just being fine
Speaker 1: about it. And then I said, okay, well I like
Speaker 1: this more. And then she says she thinks anything less
Speaker 1: than me opening the front door and screaming about how
Speaker 1: great it is that it's not. It's not as good
Speaker 1: as she wants. She put up things that you don't
Speaker 1: notice and gets mad when you don't notice it. I
Speaker 1: don't think i've experienced that yet. Oh my god, I
Speaker 1: walked through the front door. I'm home for ten minutes
Speaker 1: after working. Ashley goes, um, you didn't say anything about
Speaker 1: the pumpkins outside. I said, there's pumpkins outside. And I
Speaker 1: go outside and the pumpkins are on the front deck
Speaker 1: and I said, oh, they're nice. She goes, you don't
Speaker 1: like them. You didn't even notice them, And I said, no,
Speaker 1: I like them. They're nice. I just they're on the owner.
Speaker 1: I was focused in getting in the house. I didn't
Speaker 1: look at the pumpkins on the front porch. They're very nice.
Speaker 1: Please don't add stress to my LIFEJH. What's your thoughts
Speaker 1: on all this? You don't want to be okay, Look,
Speaker 1: you guys are making me question it for sure. No,
Speaker 1: I think that anytime, like just nod your head say yes,
Speaker 1: you know, keep it cope aesthetic. That's like my policy
Speaker 1: for sure. Would you rather go to hobby lobby with
Speaker 1: a significant other and just argue about what's going to
Speaker 1: be bolted to the wall or be in a pool
Speaker 1: eating spaghetti with red sauce? I would pick the pool
Speaker 1: and sketty all day. I gotta I might pick the
Speaker 1: pool and sketty. Today, Today's the day I picked the
Speaker 1: pool in the sketty. Yeah, not a bad choice. My
Speaker 1: big thing right now, Jared, is I'm doing a lot
Speaker 1: of backyard work and Caitle and I went to the
Speaker 1: nursery the other day to pick up plants and stuff,
Speaker 1: and we like disagree on some things. But she I'm
Speaker 1: like whatever. It goes shopping for something, I'm always like,
Speaker 1: I walk in, i see something, I'm like, I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm gonna get. She's different because she'll go
Speaker 1: in and she'll see something and she'll be like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I like this mental note, and then she'll walk around
Speaker 1: and see something else. I like this mental note, and
Speaker 1: then she likes She does every she does like two
Speaker 1: laps around the store and figure out figures out exactly
Speaker 1: which one she likes the most, and then she can't
Speaker 1: make up her mind between your top three favorite things.
Speaker 1: I just think that's just like a fundamental difference between
Speaker 1: guys and girls. You know, Guys want to go and
Speaker 1: make snappy decisions. Girls want to take their time and
Speaker 1: weigh all the options. Not to generalize, but it's funny
Speaker 1: because we'll go into a store, make a cook decision
Speaker 1: and say, hey, I like this one. This is good,
Speaker 1: and then of course your significant other will say, well,
Speaker 1: you didn't look around, and it's like, okay, let's look around.
Speaker 1: What always happens, You always circle back to the first thing.
Speaker 1: It always, and I don't want to be if I
Speaker 1: don't know what I'm missing out on it, then I
Speaker 1: don't have to be stressed out about what potentially I
Speaker 1: might have missed out on. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: You never knew it existed, so you were you were
Speaker 1: down there for like a while. You weren't down there
Speaker 1: just for like a day and saying hi to like
Speaker 1: you spent time down in Paradise. It seems like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we spent three four nights, three three nights, I think
Speaker 1: down actually in Paradise. It was nice. They gave us
Speaker 1: the Boom Boom room, so we had a c we
Speaker 1: had our own bathroom, total game changer. It was so nice.
Speaker 1: I felt so grateful being down there. Plus, because we
Speaker 1: weren't part of the cast and we weren't bringing drama,
Speaker 1: we got to wake up at I would stroll down
Speaker 1: you know how there's you guys know this. There are
Speaker 1: two ways to get from where we live on Paradise
Speaker 1: to where the pool is where you get all the food, drinks,
Speaker 1: so on and so forth. You can walk across the beach,
Speaker 1: which is what casts us to do, or there's a
Speaker 1: back way that producers use and it's a back you know,
Speaker 1: you use it anytime you need to do an interview.
Speaker 1: We got to use that whenever we wanted. So I'd
Speaker 1: wake up, walk through the back down to the pool area,
Speaker 1: grab some ice coffees, walk back to the bedroom. Ashley
Speaker 1: and I would hang out for a while, we go
Speaker 1: down the pool, then get miked up and just start
Speaker 1: asking questions and then we would It would be great
Speaker 1: because I felt like we were uh facilitating some producer questions,
Speaker 1: which is what Ashley and I exactly wanted to do.
Speaker 1: You're like, well, how do you guys feeling? What's going on?
Speaker 1: What's going on with you? Do you think you guys
Speaker 1: are heading in the right direction? Are you falling in love?
Speaker 1: Do you think you're gonna give her a rose? Are
Speaker 1: you confused at all? Do you think you're gonna get
Speaker 1: a rose? Do you think you're gonna go home? How
Speaker 1: do you feel? What's your game plan for going into
Speaker 1: the rose ceremony? Because right now you don't have a rose?
Speaker 1: It was fun. So what was your impression of all
Speaker 1: the cast members that you met? They're great? Like who
Speaker 1: is your favorite? Who did you like the least? Give
Speaker 1: us some juicy tea? Here mintage and needs some juicy tea.
Speaker 1: So you've both been watching right? Yeah? Who I mean?
Speaker 1: Brandon and Serene are just as picture perfect couple in
Speaker 1: person as you would imagine, both so sweet, so sweet. Um,
Speaker 1: I love Casey Tall has the beard. I don't remember
Speaker 1: him at all as from I, No, I can't remember.
Speaker 1: He is cute, He's got like the silver fox look
Speaker 1: to it. He's also very smart and so funny, has
Speaker 1: such a dry sense of humor. I loved hanging out
Speaker 1: with Casey because he was also he's a little bit older,
Speaker 1: he was a little bit more jaded, which you know,
Speaker 1: going into this process, I'm jaded as well, because so
Speaker 1: many people were worried about like, oh, God, like they're
Speaker 1: gonna For example, Jill Jill, who I love so much.
Speaker 1: Jill lives in Rhode Island. She's fantastic. She was very Yeah,
Speaker 1: I thought I told this story in the podcast. The
Speaker 1: first night Audrey's, our coffee shop was open, the coffee
Speaker 1: shop and lounge was bartending, and it was absolutely freaking slammed,
Speaker 1: thank God, and this girl came in. She ordered a
Speaker 1: drink and then she leaned over to me as I
Speaker 1: was making drinks, and she was try to say something
Speaker 1: full transparency. Thought she was a fan, just trying to
Speaker 1: say hi, And I was like, huh, I'm sorry what
Speaker 1: and she goes, I'm on, I'm on this season of
Speaker 1: the Bachelor. I said, shut that up. And then obviously
Speaker 1: it was Jill and we talked for a while and
Speaker 1: she's so wonderful, So going going into Paradise. And then
Speaker 1: on Paradise, Jill was so concerned that she was gonna
Speaker 1: look crazy and she was gonna be crying all the
Speaker 1: time and doing all these faces. And I said, listen, Jill,
Speaker 1: keep doing that. Whatever you Whenever you feel like you're
Speaker 1: gonna cry, just cry. Just go over the top. People
Speaker 1: are gonna love. You're gonna be so relatable. Just be yourself.
Speaker 1: Don't be concerned about how you're gonna look. And I
Speaker 1: promise only good things will come from it. And hopefully
Speaker 1: I'm right. So far, I feel like we're right. But
Speaker 1: Jill is amazing, Casey is amazing. Uh La. Who else
Speaker 1: is down there? I can't even Johnny. I didn't really
Speaker 1: get to know. So Johnny and Victoria both very nice,
Speaker 1: very nice, but just very quiet catching themselves. Um so
Speaker 1: I didn't really get to know them as well. Logan,
Speaker 1: Logan was fine, he was like very nice, but there
Speaker 1: was like I don't like, I don't remember anything about Logan.
Speaker 1: I gotta be honest, very nice, but like Casey, I
Speaker 1: remember so funny, such a great dry sense of humor.
Speaker 1: Uh Lace is just insane in the most wonderful way possible.
Speaker 1: Love Lace Jacob was so nice, so outgoing, like very
Speaker 1: down to earth, um and just like just crazy. Uh
Speaker 1: who else is like a prominent character? Why am I
Speaker 1: forgetting all these people? I feel like you're forgetting Mike, Sierra,
Speaker 1: Michael A. God, Yeah, I love Michael Ay. He's the best. Michael. Well,
Speaker 1: when we got down there, Michael and Sierra were a thing,
Speaker 1: like a thing. They were already in relationship, and that
Speaker 1: was such a curveball because I just didn't see them together.
Speaker 1: But then Sierra is so um. I don't want to
Speaker 1: say sweet, because she is so sweet, but it almost
Speaker 1: feels like it's not. She's genuine, but she's also just
Speaker 1: so endearing, like she cares. You know when when you're
Speaker 1: talking to you know, how you talk to someone and
Speaker 1: you feel like they're actually invested in what you're saying.
Speaker 1: That's Sierra And it was refreshing seen someone like that. Uh. Michael,
Speaker 1: Michael is the man. Michael A is just He's just Dean.
Speaker 1: It would be like we would want to play we
Speaker 1: would want to grab a beer and play eighteen holes
Speaker 1: with Michael A. He's just that guy. He fits in perfectly. Justin.
Speaker 1: Justin is again another guy with a super dry sense
Speaker 1: of humor. Is so funny. Uh love Justin. Aaron, Dude,
Speaker 1: Aaron is fantastic. Aaron is so funny. He's so funny.
Speaker 1: I don't understand why they don't show more of his
Speaker 1: funny side. He's like he made fun of himself. He
Speaker 1: told me he wasn't coming to Audrey's until we get
Speaker 1: protein powder, So I gotta get protein powder in the
Speaker 1: coffee shop. Was that like a recruiting mission for you
Speaker 1: while you were down there? Was to see how many
Speaker 1: of these contestants you can get on your good side
Speaker 1: enough to get to come to Audrey's for a thousand?
Speaker 1: I said, hey, you guys are very nice, but do
Speaker 1: you mind if I use and abuse you and try
Speaker 1: to sell as much tickets to my coffee shop as possible? Now,
Speaker 1: I mean it was I'd love to have every single
Speaker 1: one of them down there. Genevieve Genevie is so sweet too.
Speaker 1: She's so sweet. She's very much like Ashley Genevieve. It's
Speaker 1: so funny you mentioned that, because every time Genevieve was
Speaker 1: on screen, I lean over to Kitle and I'm like
Speaker 1: she reminds me so much of Ashley every single time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like their their faces are like almost identical. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know, Yeah, they very similar, Taja. If you were
Speaker 1: on Paradise to see who would you be interested in?
Speaker 1: Who would I be interested in? I feel like that's
Speaker 1: such a tough question. I think that there's some really
Speaker 1: great guys down on the beach, Like Casey definitely caught
Speaker 1: my eye when I watched him, and um, let's see,
Speaker 1: I know that there's like a few Rodney just hit
Speaker 1: the beach. He's a great looking guy, has a great personality.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's here I would be eying if I
Speaker 1: were on the beach right now, Casey and Rodney, gotcha.
Speaker 1: Rodney seems to be a little bit of a bachelor
Speaker 1: and bachelor in Paradise right now. He's a hot commodity.
Speaker 1: When you're that hot, it's easy to be a hot commodity.
Speaker 1: I guess it's it's so interesting because this year is
Speaker 1: the first Maybe it's not the first year, but it's probably,
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, I guess this makes sense. It's the
Speaker 1: furthest root. We've been removed from any of the cast
Speaker 1: members that are on the show. So like in years past,
Speaker 1: if we were to watch the show, which I normally wouldn't,
Speaker 1: but I would watch it because I like seeing my
Speaker 1: friends in funny situations. This is the first season since
Speaker 1: my very first show probably where I have zero connection
Speaker 1: to any of the people on the beach. So it's
Speaker 1: like I'm tuning in just for the for the whole
Speaker 1: scope of the show. I'm not necessarily tuning in to
Speaker 1: watch someone cry or like someone that I know personally
Speaker 1: like embarrass themselves. So that's kind of interesting. It's it's
Speaker 1: kind of, um, I don't love it for this, like
Speaker 1: for the sake that I'm less invested in it, I guess,
Speaker 1: But it is a lot of fun to watch still,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I still feel like the show is
Speaker 1: kind of like not going downhill. It's just taking a
Speaker 1: weird turn in the past like three or four years,
Speaker 1: as you know, Like it's just it's so much different
Speaker 1: than it used to be. I don't know, Like I
Speaker 1: honestly think once a long left, things just kind of
Speaker 1: changed quite a bit. Um not for not for better
Speaker 1: or for worse, I guess, but I just have noticed
Speaker 1: it's a significant shift in uh, just kind of the
Speaker 1: way everything is put out there. But um but yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Um, but Tash, are you single in
Speaker 1: Denver right now? Is that? Is that what we're hearing? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm super single. Help I suck at dating? What do
Speaker 1: you suck most at? I? I think for me, I
Speaker 1: am such a hard worker and have a very strong
Speaker 1: work ethic that I just at this point, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I have the time to
Speaker 1: like go grab a drink or go grab dinner with
Speaker 1: someone because I'm just so invested in focused on myself,
Speaker 1: um and really building out my life for myself. So
Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll see. I'm like, we gave the show,
Speaker 1: you know, a shot. I'm like gonna throw these dating
Speaker 1: apps in the trash so we'll see. I don't know,
Speaker 1: have you been going on dates? I haven't. I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm just gonna like focus on myself and just
Speaker 1: meet people organically. Um. Denver is known for like the
Speaker 1: guy to girl ratio, But honestly, like the quality of
Speaker 1: men here just like aren't checking off any boxes for me.
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna sit tight and see how things
Speaker 1: unfold on the dating scene. But I'm a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 1: So I haven't given up. I just we're gonna put
Speaker 1: on the back burner for a little bit. Beautiful, hard working.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine that there's I can't imagine that your
Speaker 1: struggles come from a lack of interest. So that means that,
Speaker 1: like you said, there's probably a lot of guys out
Speaker 1: there that just aren't meeting your your you know, call
Speaker 1: exactly what you need. So what are you looking for
Speaker 1: a guy? I'm looking at someone who can match my
Speaker 1: energy when it comes to their work ethic and like
Speaker 1: having gold in life. I feel like a lot of
Speaker 1: guys don't have goals for themselves. Are like, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: just bumming around like chilling, and I'm like, but what
Speaker 1: are you working towards? And they're like nothing, And I'm
Speaker 1: like that does not work for me. You're gonna need
Speaker 1: to be like working towards something in your own life, um,
Speaker 1: even whether that's like sports or you know, I want
Speaker 1: to go snowboarding or skiing every weekend, Like that's great.
Speaker 1: I like to go on hikes, Like you gotta have
Speaker 1: something that you're ambitious or passionate about. And I think
Speaker 1: that that's like the main thing that I'm looking for so, yeah,
Speaker 1: I gotta have some drive. I will. I will echo
Speaker 1: the fact that the dating pool in Denver is pretty sparse.
Speaker 1: Even as a guy, I noticed the other guys. I
Speaker 1: was like, man, it would suck to be a girl
Speaker 1: here because a lot of these guys are just not cool.
Speaker 1: I was actually think it about this earlier today because
Speaker 1: I find myself that I tried to I mean not lately.
Speaker 1: I haven't been going to the gym a lot, which
Speaker 1: makes me feel self cautious. But I try to keep
Speaker 1: myself as appealing as possible. I shower, I clean up,
Speaker 1: you know, I try to stay in shape. But obviously
Speaker 1: I'm a straight man, so I can't understand what it's
Speaker 1: like to be attracted to men. But as a woman,
Speaker 1: or I have a lot of friends were gay who
Speaker 1: are attracted to men, I just don't. I will never
Speaker 1: understand it because as someone in my own body, where
Speaker 1: I at least put effort into myself, I'm disgusting. Like
Speaker 1: I smell, I am harry, I just am as I
Speaker 1: just I look at myself and I'm like, who could
Speaker 1: possibly be attracted to me? I'm a guy, I have
Speaker 1: a short fuse. You know, I want I don't get
Speaker 1: too angry, but like i' mean secure, I have a
Speaker 1: difficulty talking about how I actually feel. My question is
Speaker 1: what do you like about men? What is it? You know,
Speaker 1: still trying to figure that out. Like, like it's unfortunate
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I want to find a man, but
Speaker 1: like it just it just doesn't working out. And I
Speaker 1: feel like good things come to those who wait, and
Speaker 1: I refused to settle. So we're just gonna We're gonna
Speaker 1: see how it goes. But yeah, I mean, guys have
Speaker 1: like some good redeeming qualities about them. I would say,
Speaker 1: I don't. They're like I'm at a loss for what
Speaker 1: those are exactly at this time, but yeah, I would
Speaker 1: agree with that, Jare. That was a that was a
Speaker 1: long winded way of saying that guys just suck. I
Speaker 1: guess right, yeah, pretty much, it is true. I think
Speaker 1: like it's it's funny because like obviously you like your
Speaker 1: friends and everything, but I would say, on average, the
Speaker 1: average guy really sucks, you know what I mean. It's
Speaker 1: just I mean, I agree with what you were saying,
Speaker 1: the whole overarching point of what you're trying to make there,
Speaker 1: Jared Um. But we'll think about it from. So when
Speaker 1: there's a guy's that's single who's looking for female partner,
Speaker 1: I feel like there are a lot of girls who
Speaker 1: say I have the perfect person for you. Comparatively, if
Speaker 1: there's a girls single and you have a guy friend
Speaker 1: and she's looking for a guy, the guy would say,
Speaker 1: you don't want to date any of my friends. They're
Speaker 1: all they're all twelve year olds, and you should. You
Speaker 1: could do a lot better, don't date my friends. So
Speaker 1: I feel like that pretty much sums it up exactly
Speaker 1: what I was thinking earlier. But anyhow, it's funny. First
Speaker 1: of all, do you like being called Taj? I've noticed
Speaker 1: that Dean said that, Yeah, Tash for sure. I feel
Speaker 1: like my mom called me and everyone else calls me
Speaker 1: tsh not sweet. Well, I'll keep well Taj. It's funny
Speaker 1: that you talk about work ethic because I have a
Speaker 1: question for you. Say you're doing a job for like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, twenty five years you were excelling. You
Speaker 1: were at the top, arguably the goat of whatever industry
Speaker 1: you did. You were the goat and realest. I feel
Speaker 1: like I know where Please get to the point I
Speaker 1: was making. So you found a partner who supported you,
Speaker 1: who's there with you, but then said, listen, I want
Speaker 1: you to retire. I want you to be with the family. BOM.
Speaker 1: But you for twenty years built up like has done
Speaker 1: things that no other real estate agent has ever done,
Speaker 1: and you are in such a good place and you
Speaker 1: know you can do it for longer, and you've worked
Speaker 1: so hard to get here, And your partner was like,
Speaker 1: I don't care. I want you to retire and spend
Speaker 1: more time with your family, even though you probably already
Speaker 1: have a decent work you know, family life balance. What
Speaker 1: would you how would you feel? We're gonna get We're
Speaker 1: gonna get to Tajwan's answer right after this break. All right,
Speaker 1: welcome back from the break TOJH. What's your answer to this, uh,
Speaker 1: just incredibly natural scenario that Jared painted for us. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: my answer would be you can off, Like, if I'm
Speaker 1: excelling in my career, I feel like as my partner
Speaker 1: in life, you should be supportive of that. And if
Speaker 1: you aren't, then like, go live your life, be happy.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's all that matters at the end
Speaker 1: of the day. But yeah, no one's ever going to
Speaker 1: be able to tell me what I can and can't do.
Speaker 1: I don't care how long we've been married. You know
Speaker 1: what Jared's talking about right now. Oh, he's definitely talking
Speaker 1: about Brady. Come on, it wasn't even in my head.
Speaker 1: It was honestly, just an honest question. You said you
Speaker 1: were such a hard worker. But now that you mention it,
Speaker 1: there is something going on in the football pop culture
Speaker 1: world where the headline all over the place is that
Speaker 1: Tom Brady and his wife Giselle Bunching have hired divorce lawyers.
Speaker 1: So the story that I heard was that Giselle hired
Speaker 1: a divorced lawyer first, and then Brady hired his. Ha somebody.
Speaker 1: Hana's asking Dean, what would what would you do if
Speaker 1: Klin told you to stop skydiving or doing something that
Speaker 1: you love. Would that be a deal breaker for you?
Speaker 1: It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. I would
Speaker 1: just um tell her tough cookies. Well, you know, because
Speaker 1: I mean I kind of agree with what you were
Speaker 1: saying earlier, where it's like, it's not like that necessarily excelling,
Speaker 1: but you should have a partner that uh encourages you
Speaker 1: to do the things that you want to do. Even
Speaker 1: if that I mean, it's different, because, like I guess,
Speaker 1: is it different. The way that I think about is
Speaker 1: Giselle and Tom Brady have They've unlocked an infinite money
Speaker 1: glitch and they're going to be fine for the rest
Speaker 1: of the money is not an issue, And so it's
Speaker 1: like Tom could quit football tomorrow, which could quit modeling tomorrow,
Speaker 1: and they would be perfectly fine for the next ten generations.
Speaker 1: But like, Tom's not doing it for the money at
Speaker 1: this point, He's doing it because he loves it, which
Speaker 1: almost makes it even worse, Like if he wants to
Speaker 1: play football, he should be able to play football. But
Speaker 1: at the same time too, like if Giselle wants a
Speaker 1: husband that's around more often, she should have a husband
Speaker 1: that's around more often. So I don't know, it's a
Speaker 1: pretty tricky situation. I guess so from people twenty one
Speaker 1: hours ago, the headline goes, Giselle Bunchet has been working
Speaker 1: with a divorce lawyer for weeks amid marriage troubles with
Speaker 1: husband Tom Brady. So I think from what I'm hearing
Speaker 1: is that Giselle and this is speculation. These are from
Speaker 1: like people in the area that are somewhat connected to
Speaker 1: the Brady camp because Brady was so integrated, and then
Speaker 1: because of my bachelor's status, I've been able to talk
Speaker 1: to some people locally. It feels like Giselle is done,
Speaker 1: She's over. She is tired of Tom and football, and
Speaker 1: there's a lot going on. It's not just about football,
Speaker 1: but I think it feels that Giselle is the one
Speaker 1: who's like it's over, and like she's the one who's
Speaker 1: really really making sure that they are getting divorced. So
Speaker 1: that makes me sad. Anyway, let me read the article
Speaker 1: really quickly. So Tomm Brady Gazelle budgeton Seed to be
Speaker 1: heading to the end zone. That's funny, also quite sad.
Speaker 1: Both of her tame divorce lawyers, multiple sources have told
Speaker 1: page six exclusively. I don't know how that's exclusive, seeing
Speaker 1: it's all over the place. Now the couple had been
Speaker 1: living separately for the past couple of months following an
Speaker 1: epic fight, that's what also I heard, and now they're
Speaker 1: apparently looking at dividing up their multimillion dollar empire. Quote.
Speaker 1: I never actually thought this argument would be the end
Speaker 1: of them, but it looks like it is. One source
Speaker 1: in the no Uh tells page six quote, I don't
Speaker 1: think there will be any coming back now. They both
Speaker 1: have lawyers and are looking at what a split will entail,
Speaker 1: who gets what, and what the finances will be now.
Speaker 1: The seven time Super Bowl champion who is now forty five,
Speaker 1: and the super Bowl supermodel Giazel forty two say both
Speaker 1: are very involved in their children's lives and would share
Speaker 1: joint custody in any separation. The couple would likely file
Speaker 1: for divorce in Florida, as that's where they are primarily based.
Speaker 1: Another source who knows the couple confirmed they are looking
Speaker 1: at dividing their assets, which includes a twenty six million
Speaker 1: dollar property portfoil portfolio. Uh, it's just I can't but like,
Speaker 1: it's just there has to be more going on. There's
Speaker 1: no way this is because he retired and then unretired.
Speaker 1: There's no way. And if it is that, then that
Speaker 1: is in sanity because most likely he's going to retire
Speaker 1: after this year. Anyway, he came back, he's playing fine
Speaker 1: like he's but it's not. He's definitely not at the
Speaker 1: top of his game. And I don't think it's a
Speaker 1: related I think because he's just got a lot going on.
Speaker 1: Like when he came back from the eleven day absence
Speaker 1: and that his his photo went viral. Everybody thought he
Speaker 1: got plastic surgery, which maybe he did get some work done,
Speaker 1: but looking at him, this is gonna sound so creepy,
Speaker 1: But I do feel like there are very few people
Speaker 1: who know Tom Brady's manners is more than myself, just
Speaker 1: because I've been watching the guy and I've seen every
Speaker 1: freaking interview with him over the past twenty years, seeing
Speaker 1: him on the field, off the field, way he's carrying himself, like,
Speaker 1: you can tell that there is just this disconnect. There
Speaker 1: is a disconnect and obviously stands from what's going on
Speaker 1: at home, and I feel, dude, it would suck so
Speaker 1: badly if he gets divorced and retires in the same year.
Speaker 1: So selfishly, I'm thinking, you know, now that he's potentially single,
Speaker 1: is he playing for a few more years? That's what
Speaker 1: I would think. I think the divorce means he's got
Speaker 1: at least three more years left in the tank. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna say that would make me happy, because that's
Speaker 1: just wrong. But I wouldn't be sad if he played
Speaker 1: for a few more years. I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: think it's wrong. I think what like if the whole
Speaker 1: reason he was going to retire was because he was
Speaker 1: going to spend more time with his family, And now
Speaker 1: that the family is broken in a half, I think
Speaker 1: that's so overplayed at this point. Do we, honestly you know,
Speaker 1: is he the most present father? Like, is he there
Speaker 1: a percent of the time? No, because he has another job.
Speaker 1: I understand that. But do I think for one second
Speaker 1: that Tom Brady is a distant father from what I've
Speaker 1: seen and gathered. No, I don't think that's one second.
Speaker 1: Now I'm not in the family. No, So I could
Speaker 1: be wrong, But it feels like he's a very present,
Speaker 1: loving father. The kids are always there with the games,
Speaker 1: Like you see him go on vacations with them, and
Speaker 1: you see him he's traveling and looking at schools for them,
Speaker 1: and he goes to New York to visit his son, Jack,
Speaker 1: who he had from a previous relationship. Like it feels
Speaker 1: like he's still very much of a pre and father.
Speaker 1: So I understand when Giselle says, Hey, I want you
Speaker 1: at home more, because not only do I want you
Speaker 1: to spend more time with our family, but like I
Speaker 1: want to do other things. How much money do you
Speaker 1: guys have, Like how can you not hire help to
Speaker 1: deal with the kids. So Giselle, you can do what
Speaker 1: you need to do for work, Tom does what he
Speaker 1: needs to do for work, and then you guys both
Speaker 1: have family time and and help, you know, and and
Speaker 1: raise your kids and be there for them. Like it
Speaker 1: just feels like, are you the only couple in the
Speaker 1: world that both parents have to work? Some it's factual,
Speaker 1: that is incorrect. There are many Growing up, both my
Speaker 1: parents worked, you know, Dawson growing up, both his parents
Speaker 1: will be working, you know, And that's where we try
Speaker 1: to get help and we try to figure out, okay,
Speaker 1: like we'll have the babysitter here. Like two of my
Speaker 1: closest friends in Rhode Island, I know for a fact
Speaker 1: they have nanny's Monday through Friday because they work nine
Speaker 1: to five. Both of them do. Like it's just the
Speaker 1: way it goes. So anyway, this is a long way
Speaker 1: of saying that if it is because he is continuing
Speaker 1: to play football even though he's going to retire before
Speaker 1: he's even fifty, which is an anomaly because everybody else
Speaker 1: in the world retires when they're sixty five. Ah, it
Speaker 1: just it just it can't be just because of football.
Speaker 1: It can't be, and if it is, that's crazy. Dan,
Speaker 1: that was a lot. I don't think we're seen you
Speaker 1: so worked up about anything in my life before. Very
Speaker 1: passionate you make. You do make a lot of good points, though.
Speaker 1: I agree with basically everything you said, and I agree
Speaker 1: it's got to be something bigger than football. But they're
Speaker 1: using football as like the crutch to lean on. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe that's the Then that's sad too. That shouldn't be
Speaker 1: the crust lean on. Just like if you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know, doesn't Does it change your opinion of Brady
Speaker 1: at all this whole situation. Do you think of him
Speaker 1: anymore any less of a of a of a idol?
Speaker 1: I guess no, not at all. I mean I feel bad.
Speaker 1: I feel because I I love Tom so much over here,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what's and times up by ten? But
Speaker 1: it's just more um, Yeah, I feel bad, like this
Speaker 1: sucks man, because it's very clear that this is impacting
Speaker 1: his on field performance. So you're telling me that his
Speaker 1: last year in the NFL won't be as great as
Speaker 1: it could be because everything that's happening off the field.
Speaker 1: Oh and by the way, you'll retire and be divorced
Speaker 1: right around the same time that socks. I hope that's
Speaker 1: not the case, so hopefully I don't know. And plus
Speaker 1: why would if you're like why there has to be
Speaker 1: more than football because it feels like Brady's going to
Speaker 1: retire after this year. Even Pro Football Focus had a
Speaker 1: report before the year began that said, like, this is
Speaker 1: Tom Brady's last season, his farewell tour, so to speak.
Speaker 1: I'm curious if Brady was putting that out there to
Speaker 1: be like, heyl only one more year, that's it, just
Speaker 1: one more year, hold on, it's not get divorced. I'm
Speaker 1: wondering now in hindsight, if that was Brady going to
Speaker 1: the press and been like, listen, like, this is my
Speaker 1: last year. Make it known, make it known that it's
Speaker 1: my last year. And then hopefully Giselle like will believe
Speaker 1: me when it's not just coming from me, but it's
Speaker 1: coming from all these reporters saying he's done, he's done,
Speaker 1: he's done. But if they're still getting divorced, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: It's crazy. I feel bad for the kids too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the kids. I do want to say, I do want
Speaker 1: to say, uh to relate it from Tom Brady and
Speaker 1: Giselle's obviously uh unachievable life to my own. Um, I
Speaker 1: played golf this past weekend. I played on Saturday, and
Speaker 1: I played it on a Sunday, and uh, Jared, I'm
Speaker 1: sure that's been a while for you be able to
Speaker 1: do something like that. On Saturday, I played pretty well.
Speaker 1: I shot an eighty two, which is pretty good, pretty
Speaker 1: good for me to say, that's like, that's one of
Speaker 1: my better scores. And then Saturday night, Caitlin and I
Speaker 1: got in a big argument with each other and I
Speaker 1: was like sleeping over my friend's house playing video games
Speaker 1: with him, and she was like, I want you to
Speaker 1: come home, I want you to snuggle and all this stuff.
Speaker 1: So we got this big argument. I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: not coming over to snuggle on he playing with video
Speaker 1: games with Josh blah blah blah blah blah. And we
Speaker 1: were both like upset with each other because for obviously
Speaker 1: whatever reasons. And then Sunday I go to play golf
Speaker 1: and I shot like a n and nothing was different.
Speaker 1: If if anything, I should have shot a better score
Speaker 1: because I had, you know, practice the day before. But
Speaker 1: the only thing that was different was my mental game
Speaker 1: was way off. And so I see why Tom isn't
Speaker 1: playing as well this season as maybe in years past
Speaker 1: he would have because mentally, uh, whether he's distracted, whether
Speaker 1: he's upset, whatever it is, it has a big effect
Speaker 1: on you. If it has an effect on me as
Speaker 1: a very bad golfer, it's going to have effect that
Speaker 1: people are playing at the highest level, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I like that analogy Tom Brady playing football
Speaker 1: and Dino They're playing golf. Very similar, very two very
Speaker 1: similar things. TAJH. What's your take on all this? I
Speaker 1: gotta know, No, I feel like I see all sides,
Speaker 1: but I feel like Tom should be able to play
Speaker 1: the sport that he loves and be supported in that.
Speaker 1: But also I can see and understand like you want
Speaker 1: on Giselle side, do you want your husband to be
Speaker 1: there and raising the family together. So, I mean, they
Speaker 1: I feel like they have so much money, but they
Speaker 1: could figure it out, right, It shouldn't. It has nothing
Speaker 1: to do with like the sports or modeling your careers.
Speaker 1: Like they have so much money that it shouldn't even
Speaker 1: be an issue, Like you can work it out. That's
Speaker 1: my perspective. Yeah, I I that's why I think it
Speaker 1: has to be more than football. There's no way that
Speaker 1: they can't because it's it's almost done. I mean, he's
Speaker 1: so much closer to retirement that he is at the
Speaker 1: you know, his the peak of his career that you're
Speaker 1: telling me that, even if it was about football, Gizell
Speaker 1: was couldn't say, Okay, two more years and then you're done.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't know. It's hard, it's hot, just sucks.
Speaker 1: That's a good point you make. Two. It's like, he's
Speaker 1: if he doesn't retire this year, it'll be next year.
Speaker 1: If it's not next year, it'll be the year after whatever. However,
Speaker 1: soon it's going to be for him to retire. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be. So it's coming pretty it's pretty soon. And
Speaker 1: you're gonna tell me you're gonna stick with this guy
Speaker 1: for twenty plus years as he's in the NFL, and
Speaker 1: then at the very end you're gonna be like, sorry,
Speaker 1: you're working too much. It's just that that does seem fishy.
Speaker 1: So there's definitely something bigger, right, It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1: So that's why I think I'm nervous. Because I'm nervous
Speaker 1: more things will come out, and I'm not that Tom
Speaker 1: did anything wrong. I don't think he did anything wrong,
Speaker 1: but I could see it just being a he said,
Speaker 1: she said scenario, And I don't want it to get ugly,
Speaker 1: and I feel bad if it starts getting ugly at all.
Speaker 1: And I'm that's what I'm nervous about that it comes
Speaker 1: out that, you know, Giselle sim says something and then
Speaker 1: Tom doesn't want to address it because he wants trying
Speaker 1: to be the bigger man. But then it's like he
Speaker 1: says something, I don't know. That's what. I don't want
Speaker 1: it to go down that road, and it sucks if
Speaker 1: it does, especially like you said, like his kids are
Speaker 1: born into so much money, they're gonna be fine for
Speaker 1: the rest of their lives. Their dad is Tom Brady
Speaker 1: and their mom is just l bunching, Like I mean,
Speaker 1: come on, they have a pretty good having said that,
Speaker 1: you know, if they go to school, I mean like,
Speaker 1: that's Tom Brady's kid, that's just zel Budget's kid. Like
Speaker 1: if I was that was that's all I would talk
Speaker 1: about with his friends. And so that's got to be
Speaker 1: tough to be like, you know, oh, your mom's and
Speaker 1: dad's getting divorced hunt and having everybody know exactly what's
Speaker 1: going on? That would be tough, right, the publicity of
Speaker 1: it all. I guess yeah, you know that causes some
Speaker 1: they can call some stuff anyway, Well let's the way. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to cut you off entirely. No, go, I've
Speaker 1: got a question for you, because Dawson is going to
Speaker 1: be quite a public figure, you know, Like what it's
Speaker 1: your take on all that? He It was very exciting
Speaker 1: because Dawson made his TV debut on Tuesday night. It
Speaker 1: was a great picture. Actually, I meant to bring that up.
Speaker 1: You guys chose a very cute picture of him. Yes,
Speaker 1: he looked adorable. Uh, it was really cool. That was
Speaker 1: a cool moment when they showed his picture up there.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I think, yeah, I don't think Ashley
Speaker 1: and I have given really too much thought about it. Um.
Speaker 1: You know, everybody asks will Dawson be allowed to watch Paradise?
Speaker 1: And of course he will at some point if he
Speaker 1: ever wants to, when he's a little bit older, which
Speaker 1: I I kind of like because of course, people have
Speaker 1: tweeted at us saying that Jared and Ashley shouldn't be
Speaker 1: a couple to look up to. All she did to
Speaker 1: his cry for him he rejected her, or that's not
Speaker 1: something you wanted to look up to, to which I
Speaker 1: would completely argue that point because sorry, that we had
Speaker 1: rough patches, and a lot of our rough patches was
Speaker 1: aired on TV. Sorry that you have a perfect relationship
Speaker 1: and it was perfect since the day that you two met,
Speaker 1: and that you guys never had to overcome any obstacles
Speaker 1: and it was always loving and you never had any issues.
Speaker 1: Shut up, That's what I have to say about that. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I didn't mean we're talking about people tweeting at me,
Speaker 1: because they'll say because when we walked in, of course,
Speaker 1: people you know on Paradise, they made it sound like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, you can have what Jared and Ashley have
Speaker 1: and they said, well, why would you want that? One
Speaker 1: girl's crying, the other one rejected you, And it's like,
Speaker 1: you know why, everybody. I'm actually excited to a certain
Speaker 1: extent to have Dawson watch Paradise because he'll learn that
Speaker 1: mom and dad love each other very much. And there
Speaker 1: there were trouble there. There weren't bad times in our
Speaker 1: relationship before we got together, and we work through things
Speaker 1: and we came together. We ended up growing more in
Speaker 1: love because of it, and we did have issues, and
Speaker 1: we we were able to overcome that and find something
Speaker 1: wonderful on the other end. And in your life, you're
Speaker 1: gonna find obstacles. Even with the person that you fall
Speaker 1: in love with and the person that you end up
Speaker 1: being with, hopefully for the rest of your life, there
Speaker 1: will be issues. There will be times where you're like,
Speaker 1: is it worth it? Should we be together? Like you'll
Speaker 1: doubt yourself. And that's what life and love is all about,
Speaker 1: is is working together and being half of a whole
Speaker 1: and making sure that you put each other first, like
Speaker 1: that expression of putting one another like putting each other first.
Speaker 1: To me, one of of one of the ways that
Speaker 1: you put your significant other first is remembering that in
Speaker 1: the bad times and when you are arguing and you
Speaker 1: do have issues in your relationship and remembering, Okay, I
Speaker 1: still have to remember that, like we can work towards
Speaker 1: this instead of just being like, nope, it's over, I
Speaker 1: don't want to be together anymore. Like of course, there's
Speaker 1: a certain line that you have to balance. They'll get
Speaker 1: to a point where you say, okay, are we more
Speaker 1: unhappy than happy? But anyway, that was my whole in
Speaker 1: venting about that. People. You know, anybody who tweet you
Speaker 1: make a lot of good points. A lot of the
Speaker 1: people that say the most stuff online are the ones
Speaker 1: with the biggest issues that are going on in their lives.
Speaker 1: Like let it's just you know, let he who's without
Speaker 1: sinding cast the first stone, right, that kind of thing.
Speaker 1: Like these people are just as guilty of all these things,
Speaker 1: but just because they're watching you on TV do these
Speaker 1: things gives them the high uh, the high ability, I
Speaker 1: guess to go on and be critical of everything. Yeah, Taj,
Speaker 1: this is how that works. That's how this works on
Speaker 1: this podcast. Usually it takes me about three minutes to
Speaker 1: say something that Dean can narrow down in about fifteen seconds. No,
Speaker 1: I like seeing you worked up like this. It's either
Speaker 1: Tom Brady and Giselle or this that gets you so
Speaker 1: worked up. But I'll sit back and just let you
Speaker 1: do your thing. I love it well, seriously, So we
Speaker 1: have column. So that's gonna do it for this week's
Speaker 1: episode of Help I Suck at Dating. Tosh, thank you
Speaker 1: so much for joining us. You're gonna stick around for
Speaker 1: Thursday's episode with our callers, right, yeah, yes, definitely, I'll
Speaker 1: be here. Perfect. So We have three callers calling in
Speaker 1: on Thursday to talk about all the things that they
Speaker 1: suck about in dating. Dean, You're awesome. Everybody listening. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for listening to podcast. It means the
Speaker 1: world to us. Make sure you're tuning in Thursday and
Speaker 1: next week, where hopefully we all suck just a little less.
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