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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha.

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Speaker 2: I'm welcome to stuff I Never told you, production by

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Speaker 2: Heart Radio, and welcome to another edition of Happy Hour.

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Speaker 2: As always, if you choose to drink or whatever you're

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Speaker 2: choosing to do, please do so responsibly.

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Speaker 1: Samantha, what are you up to?

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Speaker 3: So my voice is still not back if you're listening

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Speaker 3: to this in real time, we had to pause recording,

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Speaker 3: but my voice is still doing this. So trying to

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Speaker 3: remedy that. I am drinking some throat coat tea with

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Speaker 3: my citrone. We'll see how this works.

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Speaker 4: What about you?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm on my go to red one.

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Speaker 2: It has been the there's a lot of seasonal changes.

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Speaker 1: The weather is all over the place right now. But

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling good.

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm feeling nice and yesterday I got a lot

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Speaker 2: of stuff done, which.

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Speaker 1: Makes me feel I feel really good about myself.

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Speaker 2: But this episode is kind of a rambly one, and

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Speaker 2: it does sort of relate to the first Happy Hour

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Speaker 2: I ever did.

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Speaker 1: Dead Inside even though I sound so, I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I feel good.

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Speaker 2: So last Friday, it was a Friday, the thirteenth, and

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Speaker 2: it was my quarantinniversary, which I'm a weirdo that celebrates

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Speaker 2: that every year and I have a tradition around it,

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Speaker 2: and also Saint Patrick's Day I now associate with vaccines

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Speaker 2: because that's when I got my vaccine. I got it

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Speaker 2: on Saint Patrick's Day. And in the picture I'm wearing

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Speaker 2: like my Saint Patrick's Day shirt. But I had this

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Speaker 2: whole plan and I was going to get the food

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Speaker 2: that I always get for Quarantine University, and I was

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Speaker 2: just so excited about it.

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Speaker 1: I was going to watch the movies, which I did do.

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Speaker 2: And before I get into this story, I just want

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Speaker 2: to say everything is fine. Okay, everything's fine. But my

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Speaker 2: sleep schedule has been all over the place. I've said

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Speaker 2: that recently. I will wake up at three am and

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Speaker 2: get up, not like just try to go back to sleep.

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Speaker 1: I'll just get up.

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Speaker 2: And in some days occasionally I do sleep until like

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Speaker 2: nine thirty. And so on Friday thirteenth, March thirteenth, I

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Speaker 2: slept until nine thirty. It's pretty rare, but it does happen.

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Speaker 2: And I woke up and I had like thirty messages

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Speaker 2: on my phone, which, as you know, is a terrifying circumstance.

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Speaker 2: And it turns out that the Lovely neighborhood cat that

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Speaker 2: I want to adopt was hit by a car. Oh no, yes,

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Speaker 2: he is fine. Like I said, it's okay. But there

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Speaker 2: were all of these messages on our group, like our

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Speaker 2: apartment group chat, and because somebody's phone for some reason,

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Speaker 2: it sends me like an extra text when they emoji anything.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: It was just a lot of text, and I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Scrolling through this drama trying to because the cat. I've

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Speaker 2: learned a lot about this cat. Okay, First of all,

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Speaker 2: his name is Blue and he's gone through two owners

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Speaker 2: on the street. But I guess he's just a neighborhood cat.

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Speaker 2: But everybody was trying to figure out, like what do

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Speaker 2: we do the cat is hurt. We need to know

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Speaker 2: from the past owners what they're gonna do or if

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Speaker 2: they're still the owner. And somebody in the apartment building,

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Speaker 2: a very kind person took the cat to the vet

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Speaker 2: and did what the past owner said to do. I'm

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Speaker 2: hesitating on this and I'm going to get into this.

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Speaker 2: This is why I want to talk about it. But

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Speaker 2: I guess that they kind of relinquished ownership when this happened,

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Speaker 2: so they were the owner at the point, but now

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Speaker 2: it seems they're like, nope, but not my responsibility anyway.

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Speaker 2: So the person took the cat in. The cat went

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Speaker 2: through all these procedures, but I think because of the cost,

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Speaker 2: comes back to our apartment where he currently is living

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Speaker 2: and healing. But this is where I was kind of

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Speaker 2: got interesting because two things happened. One is that our

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Speaker 2: group chat kind of spiraled into a debate about pet ownership.

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Speaker 1: Yes, about like.

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Speaker 2: Because the person who took the cat to the vet

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Speaker 2: came in and he was like, let's publicly shame them.

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Speaker 1: And then.

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Speaker 2: The person who brought the cat in was like, no,

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Speaker 1: Right my landlord he does not mess around with that stuff.

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Speaker 2: I one time somebody accidentally messed with the door and

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Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my gosh, what he's intense.

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Speaker 2: But it goes back to I did an episode about

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Speaker 2: him Forever. It was another happy hour where I was saying, like,

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Speaker 2: men don't get it, because I feel like a lot

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Speaker 2: of times he just says these things, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: do you not realize, like you're your grown up man

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Speaker 2: and I'm a young woman and you're like barging into

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Speaker 2: my apartment, Like I don't I don't think. But anyway,

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Speaker 2: she it was a woman who took in the cat.

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Speaker 2: She was very like, do not involve me in this

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Speaker 2: public because she'll know it's me because they've been in contact.

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Speaker 2: But she was also saying she did and blame the

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Speaker 2: person who hit the cat because the person who hit

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Speaker 2: the cat got out of the car. And she said,

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Speaker 2: and I've thought this too, because this is how my

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Speaker 2: cat died. You know, if you have a cat that's

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Speaker 2: It's a risk. And even like I don't drive my

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Speaker 2: look under and like make sure anyway, there's there's now

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Speaker 2: a go fund me for the cat, and uh, it's

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Speaker 2: posted all on the all all along the street, and

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Speaker 2: I've seen people scanning for it, and I donated to it,

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Speaker 2: and people have donated a lot of them. Really, yes, yes,

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Speaker 2: And I didn't realize gofund me took that big of

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Speaker 1: I knew they took a cut, but.

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Speaker 2: Wow, how much it was like a third or maybe

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Speaker 2: a little bit more than a third.

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Speaker 1: Wow, relly. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, there's a GoFundMe for this cat and it's

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Speaker 2: going well. But he's gonna have to have his tail amputated.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, yes, I know, I know, but the cat

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Speaker 1: is as well cared for.

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Speaker 2: We're getting updates like every day I had a picture,

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Speaker 2: it relates to the first half hour did dead inside is.

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Speaker 1: That my apartment building.

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Speaker 2: When I first moved in, I was very active about, like,

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Speaker 2: very a lot of people move in and out very quickly,

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Speaker 2: and so over time I just kind of stopped and

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Speaker 2: I was like, well, it could be gone in a month,

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Speaker 2: which did happen with Chris, who I did not like,

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Speaker 2: I just stopped doing it, and now there's this group

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Speaker 2: It's that one person and I because I slept late

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Speaker 2: that day, I missed the whole thing and everybody had

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Speaker 1: Do this and I'll save the cat. What do you need?

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Speaker 2: And then I'm like the jerk who didn't say anything.

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Speaker 4: But you actually love this cat.

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Speaker 1: I know I love the cat. I love the cat,

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Speaker 1: but it gets worse, Samantha. Okay, so.

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Speaker 2: I my friend Katie comes over frequently. She somehow got

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Speaker 1: But yes, it's complicated. I don't want to talk about.

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Speaker 2: It, but no, my friend has involved her so more

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Speaker 2: I had to work and all this stuff. And so

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Speaker 2: I did officially enter the chat yesterday where I was

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Speaker 2: like I've seen these gofund me things and they're working, yay,

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Speaker 2: and now I'm in there. But I just feel like

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Speaker 4: Which is funny because you would have taken in the cat.

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Speaker 1: I would have taken in the cat.

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Speaker 2: But now now I realized the cat pretty much lived

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Speaker 2: here anyway. And I had suspected and I said, I

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Speaker 2: our landlord was cool with it, because when I moved in,

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Speaker 2: he said no pets. So I was trying to be

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Speaker 2: the landlord is very invested in this whole thing.

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Speaker 3: He loves, Oh my god, because he likes.

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Speaker 4: To like argue with the neighbors a lot he does.

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Speaker 1: He does.

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Speaker 2: He asked me to move my car back into its spot, uh,

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Speaker 1: Now he seems to care about the cat a lot.

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Speaker 1: Actually nice.

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Speaker 4: That cat is really lovable. I met at once and

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Speaker 2: I love the cat too, But I feel bad about

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Speaker 1: I had my suspicions you invited him in, I did.

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Speaker 2: He loves my I have like a welcome matt that

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Speaker 2: loves to just get on it and roll on it.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, there you go. So I just opened

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Speaker 1: But I didn't know.

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Speaker 2: So I was worried that he'd get trapped in the

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Speaker 2: the There's like a fenced off area where my landlord

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Speaker 2: get in that area because I don't know the code

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Speaker 1: And then I can't even till the cat's out.

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Speaker 2: I don't want him to be trapped in the laundry room. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but it was just it's just been a whole one

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Speaker 2: like things that have been stressing me out far beyond

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Speaker 2: what I think probably should have. Yeah, because I'm like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, I needed to get in this group chat.

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Speaker 2: They think I'm horrible.

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Speaker 4: So is this girl going to keep the cat? Now?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I do so she's actually not the

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Speaker 2: one caring for the cat. Oh no, she's you know

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Speaker 2: who's caring for the cat is the guy who's always outside.

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Speaker 1: No, yes, yes, that's his buddy, as he says, and

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Speaker 1: he looks like he's taking good care of him.

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Speaker 2: This is another character in my life and my apartment listeners.

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Speaker 2: It's just a guy who's always outside, and I have

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Speaker 2: truthfully tried to avoid him, mostly because this is another

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Speaker 2: don't always want to have the like sometimes I'm like,

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Speaker 2: I've got to go. We can't have a conversation right now.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, he's caring for the cat. But the woman

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Speaker 2: I keep saying. She it's a he I learned right

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Speaker 2: It's kind of funny these text exchanges. And then it

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Speaker 1: And the pandemic really did change me.

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Speaker 2: To bring it full circle to quarantine universary, I have

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Speaker 1: Who's like, oh God, please, I don't want any small

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Speaker 4: No, I think because not everyone thinks like you.

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Speaker 3: Not everyone is as kind as you, and not everyone measures.

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Speaker 3: When I lived on the West Side in a quadplex,

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Speaker 4: They were not the same people. The expectations were odd.

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Speaker 3: The expectations was like, you could drive me four hours

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Speaker 4: I can't do this all the time. It's a.

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Speaker 2: It is, it is, And I know, like one of

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Speaker 2: So I think that's one of the reasons that really

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Speaker 4: Mean, you're on a text thread.

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Speaker 1: I am, that's.

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Speaker 2: Right, and there is somebody there is somebody in the

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Speaker 4: So maybe they don't like the gat.

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Speaker 1: Maybe they don't live there anymore.

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Speaker 2: That's also the other thing is we have like so

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure that's bad? Yeah, yeah, So I'm not

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Speaker 2: That's when you're like, I no longer live here. Please

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Speaker 2: take me after this. Oh anyway, if listeners have any

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Speaker 2: And like you said, maybe that's just how we mesh

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Speaker 1: Am I will I can tell you about this cat?

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Speaker 1: Is what I can.

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Speaker 4: Say, kat leans you together.

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Speaker 2: The cat did bring us together. I have to say,

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Speaker 4: For this cult and now people don't jump on and

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Speaker 4: just give them money.

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Speaker 2: And then I got like a a generic thank you

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Speaker 1: Like, do you write this?

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Speaker 2: Do you know I live in the building or is

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Speaker 3: I always get thank you I want to do go

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Speaker 3: fund me, so that must have been specific.

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Speaker 2: Well, they definitely don't know who I am, and I

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Speaker 2: know how to spell it. Anyway, that's that's a whole

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Speaker 2: different topic of the Like it wasn't performative because I

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Speaker 1: Don't right right?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I see, I really care, I do.

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Speaker 2: I do. So that is an update on my apartment

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Speaker 2: building and my beloved neighborhood cat. Yes, yes, yes, and

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Speaker 2: I'm sure I'll have another update soon because the money

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Speaker 2: the amount has been met, so wow, yes, yes, yes, yes. Anyway, listeners,

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