1 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: Hey fam, Hello Sunshine, and Happy New Year's Eve. Today, 2 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: on the bright Side, we're going back to our recent 3 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: conversation with the cool mom herself, Lizzie Mathis. From hosting 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: to decor to Delicious Dishes, Lizzie's here to give us 5 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: the recipe on how to host the most memorable gathering. 6 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: It's Tuesday, December thirty. First, I'm Danielle Robe and. 7 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 2: I'm Simone Voice, And this is the bright Side from 8 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 2: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to 9 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 2: share women's stories, laugh, learn, and brighten your day. Well, 10 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 2: as the clock ticks down tonight, I wonder if any 11 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 2: of you are like me right now, running around last 12 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 2: minute trying to gather all the perfect ingredients for a 13 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 2: memorable New Year's Eve party. But beyond fancy cocktails and 14 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 2: orators and all that, what does it really take to 15 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 2: create an experience that guests will remember long after they leave. 16 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 2: Well that's where Lizzie Mathis comes in. She's our guest 17 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 2: today and a woman who knows all about turning spaces 18 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 2: and moments into something truly special. Lizzie's the co host 19 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 2: and executive producer of Honest Renovations, a show that brings real, 20 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 2: beautiful change to homes and families alongside her bestie Jessica Alba. 21 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: Plus, Lizzie's also the star. 22 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 2: Of Dinner Party People, where she helps hosts transform their 23 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 2: dream dinner parties into unforgettable experiences. 24 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: So, in addition to hosting incredible gatherings, Lizzie is also 25 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 1: the founder and editor in chief of the Cool Mom 26 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 1: co and the host of the Cool Mom Code podcast. 27 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 4: Basically, Lizzie makes everything cool. 28 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,120 Speaker 1: She is just the most fun person to be around 29 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: and has incredible perspective on hosting and offers really simple 30 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: yet effective ways to take your party from ho home 31 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: to home run. 32 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 4: Yes, I said that and I mean it. 33 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: Lizzie Masses, Welcome to the bright Side. 34 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 5: Oh thank you for having me. 35 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 3: We're so happy to have you. 36 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 5: Look, I'm looking at two very bright, shiny faces today. 37 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: I was going to say the same thing about you, 38 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: and it's not every day that we get to have 39 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: a friend on the. 40 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's sweet. 41 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 5: I love you girls. I'm so proud of you. I'm 42 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 5: really happy that you guys are doing this and bringing 43 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 5: sunshine to people on a daily basis. This is really cool. 44 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: Thank you well, we owe you a big congrats because 45 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: we heard that you're getting renewed for season three of 46 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: Honest Renovations. 47 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 3: Amazing. Congratulations on that show. 48 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:27,359 Speaker 4: Well, you know, you know. 49 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 5: How you have like some of those quiet days. Yeah, 50 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 5: I don't have those on the show. 51 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 4: You don't have those in general? 52 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 5: I do. I do. Actually, if you talk to my husband, 53 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 5: I have very quiet days. See thinks that I am 54 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 5: home like I'm just the most silent person ever, but 55 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 5: out and about like when I'm around like energy and 56 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 5: like you know, the show I do brings something out 57 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 5: of me and I just have a good time. Season 58 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 5: two is out. Our holiday episode dropped a couple weeks ago. 59 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: One quick question about the holiday episode. Yeah, because you 60 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 1: guys have done so many seasons of Reno's, what's the 61 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 1: difference between a reno and a holiday renovation. 62 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 5: Well, the holiday episode were geared a lot towards the holidays. Obviously, 63 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 5: this specific Holiday family was just really special because they 64 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 5: had seven kids, all of them brilliant like either musically 65 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 5: or in science and the arts and mathematics, and three 66 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 5: were away at college and so four in the house 67 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 5: and they love the holidays. But within their home they 68 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 5: would have like sixty people over something like wild right 69 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 5: six zero six zero, and their space was like moderately spaced, 70 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 5: And so our goal was to come in to try 71 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 5: and figure out how do we won bring this family 72 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 5: for their day to day lives. How do we make 73 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 5: their house work more for them and for the kids 74 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,839 Speaker 5: that come back sometimes for the summer or come back 75 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 5: in and out from college. But then also the four 76 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 5: that are there all the time and going through their 77 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 5: daily lives with mom and dad. How do we make 78 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 5: mom and dad feel super special? How do we make 79 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 5: their breakfast, to their dinner, to their holiday party all 80 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 5: feel great and fit in this space? And so that's 81 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 5: what makes it such a special holiday episode. 82 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 4: Okay, Simone, I have a question for you. 83 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 1: When you first saw Lizzie and her husband Lisa together, 84 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: did you think how are two like? How are two 85 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: beautiful people in this relationship creating three beautiful children? 86 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 4: They're like, it's a model family. 87 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah. The jeans are off the charts 88 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 3: in this family. 89 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:24,799 Speaker 2: But I will say no, I was not surprised because 90 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 2: I knew that they. 91 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 3: Were both models. So when you know that, that makes 92 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 3: a lot of sense. 93 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:33,359 Speaker 4: That's the models entrepreneurs. Yes, lots of titles and. 94 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,480 Speaker 5: The titles, all the titles, but you know, at the 95 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:37,359 Speaker 5: heart of it, to be honest with you, when I 96 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 5: met Lisa, I was just so lucky to meet someone 97 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 5: whose values literally coincided with mine almost every point. And 98 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:48,239 Speaker 5: that's what we've built a foundation on. To be honest 99 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:50,799 Speaker 5: with you, it just happens to me that he looks 100 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 5: good in the making, Like that's that's. 101 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 4: All My dress is so cool? 102 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 5: Oh God, please, that's all me. 103 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 4: Girl back. 104 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 1: Okay, So you and your husband been moved from New York. 105 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: You're originally from Michigan, but you moved from New York 106 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 1: to LA and you have three kids, you have a 107 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: new home. Like you guys are kind of starting over 108 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:12,200 Speaker 1: in some ways, but you're creating these new holiday traditions, 109 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: and I'm curious how you're spending your Christmas. 110 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,559 Speaker 5: Not really starting over. We've Easa and I've been together 111 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 5: for almost what twenty years? This is what I will say. 112 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 5: This is what I will say. No matter where you are, 113 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 5: whether you're in a new home, whether in you'r a 114 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 5: new space, a new city, no matter where you are, 115 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 5: the beautiful thing about traditions is that they follow you. 116 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 5: That that's what makes you feel like any place you 117 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 5: are is home. So a lot of times we'll go 118 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 5: back and we'll spend like if we get two weeks 119 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 5: off for the holidays, the kids off swim school and things, 120 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 5: that we'll spend a week in New York because New 121 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 5: York does feel so much like home for us, and 122 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 5: we will do a lot of like holiday traditions there. 123 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 5: But even if we're in LA it doesn't matter. But 124 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 5: one of the things I think is interesting is just 125 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 5: me and Lisa bringing our traditions together and now doing 126 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:04,239 Speaker 5: it with right now with kids, it feels so much 127 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:08,839 Speaker 5: more rich and so much more festive, and everything through 128 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 5: their eyes is so exciting. And holidays have become not 129 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 5: have become I've been a mom for like twelve years 130 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 5: ago by, but holidays are just they're at fun. 131 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 4: And you're spending Christmas with your co host, Jessica Albo. 132 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 5: This yere So jess and I we've spent Christmas together 133 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 5: for like the last like four years or something crazy 134 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 5: like that. It started obviously because jess and I were 135 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 5: so close and our families are close, and so she 136 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 5: has a huge family and I have a very small family. 137 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 5: So I just always loved being around all this love 138 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 5: and people and energy, and they turn it out. There's 139 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 5: like different Christmas trees all over the place. There's like 140 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:49,240 Speaker 5: black Sanna's and brown Sanna's everywhere. I remember the first 141 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 5: time I walked in, I said, is what's up of 142 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,479 Speaker 5: all these brown Santas? She said, well, how else do 143 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 5: you see me? Like? How else do you want it 144 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 5: to be? 145 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:55,359 Speaker 1: Like? 146 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 5: It just comes natural, and so it's always just a 147 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:02,600 Speaker 5: really fun, festive time. And then when my mom passed, 148 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 5: that was super hard because it felt like such a 149 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 5: lack of family, Like she was like the nucleus on 150 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 5: a lot of those holidays. And so Jess's family was 151 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 5: a really sweet place to be because they were so 152 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 5: rooted in family. 153 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 4: That's really sweet that you have that. 154 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: It's nice in la like when you're a transplant anywhere 155 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: to feel like you have a home. 156 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 5: Yes, to feel like you have that support system and 157 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 5: that love, and like you can still experience the holidays 158 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 5: how they're meant to be experienced. 159 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: You We have to take a quick break, but don't 160 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: go anywhere. We'll be right back with Lizzie Mathis. And 161 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: we're back with Lizzie Mathis. 162 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 2: You talk about your mom, And I wonder if you 163 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 2: had a similar experience to me growing up. Maybe not, 164 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 2: but I watched my mom host these really magical gatherings 165 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 2: around the holidays, and she just was known in our 166 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 2: com unity as someone who made everyone feel welcome. And 167 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,800 Speaker 2: she had this warmth that immediately when you walked in 168 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 2: the door, like he felt like you were home. What 169 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 2: did you see modeled for you in terms of how 170 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 2: gatherings were hosted in your home? 171 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 5: Just that I mean, it is exactly that same experience. 172 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 5: My mom loved community. She was a single mom, three kids, 173 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 5: and she just wanted people to come over all the time. 174 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 5: My mom would always have a plate of food and cooking. 175 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 5: And my mom would literally be like baking chicken or 176 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 5: making fish or mac and cheese or greens or whatever, 177 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 5: and she'd call people and be like, Hey, I'm cooking, 178 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 5: come through. See that's how we got to play. 179 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 3: I miss that. I missed the spontaneous, like I'm going 180 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 3: to come through and. 181 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 4: Chicago Everyone's and everybody's door. 182 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 3: I love that. I missed that. 183 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 5: I think that's and so that's how I grew up. 184 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 5: And so the holidays felt extra special because she would 185 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 5: have an apron on instead of just her her sweater. 186 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 5: And she would be in there and there would be 187 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 5: garland everywhere, and you know, things that remind you of 188 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 5: Christmas trees and Doile's and all things, right and so, 189 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 5: and she would bring out the fine china. 190 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 3: Right, it would be like. 191 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 5: These beautiful gold leafed platters and all these things. It felt, 192 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:19,679 Speaker 5: it felt special, and the holidays felt like something that 193 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 5: you were like meant to remember. And I don't think 194 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:26,439 Speaker 5: I can piece together a negative experience during the holidays. 195 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 5: That was her moment. Those were her moments to shine. 196 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 4: Do you try and host the way she did? Are 197 00:09:32,400 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 4: you a different kind of host? 198 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:36,560 Speaker 5: You know, I'm a different kind of host. I'm not 199 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 5: so stuck on like the fine china and making sure 200 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 5: that the you know, and the crystal is out and 201 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:43,400 Speaker 5: all these things. 202 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 3: All that that's also generational too, right, rational. 203 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:48,559 Speaker 5: Right, But although these things have been passed down to me, 204 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 5: but it's hard going back there into the shed to 205 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 5: pull them out one time a year and all like, 206 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:56,079 Speaker 5: don't break it. Yeah, And then I'm like looking at 207 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 5: my six year old and I'm like two hands, two hands, 208 00:09:58,400 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 5: two hands. 209 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 3: It's this rough, grandma. 210 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, these are come on now, Okay, this is unreplaceable. 211 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,120 Speaker 5: But I think that I the core of it, the 212 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 5: excitement of having people come over and being able to 213 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 5: feed them and show love through food and community, that 214 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 5: feels the same, That feels rooted in what I was 215 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,839 Speaker 5: raised with, right, and so that I always get excited about. 216 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 2: It's interesting that you bring up the aesthetics versus the 217 00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 2: emotion of the gathering, and I think the emotion that 218 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 2: your guests have when they leave your home that's the 219 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 2: most important thing, right, It's not that they sip champagne 220 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 2: out of fine china or they ate off of Grandma's plate. 221 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 2: I know that you think about meaning too whenever you're 222 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:43,960 Speaker 2: planning a gathering. So what do you think is the 223 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 2: difference between curating just a fun, spirited holiday party versus 224 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:52,559 Speaker 2: a holiday gathering that truly is imbued with meaning. 225 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 5: I think that depends on a lot. I think it 226 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:59,080 Speaker 5: depends on who is at the party too, right, Like, 227 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:01,640 Speaker 5: is this just a social gathering where it's just a 228 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 5: couple of friends and you have them coming over and 229 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 5: you guys do an activity or is it like something 230 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 5: that is rooted in family and like tradition and like 231 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 5: you know, So I think that kind of just depends 232 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:13,360 Speaker 5: on your guest list. 233 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 4: Where do you start with it? I think that you like, 234 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 4: do you start with decor. 235 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 5: I think you have to start one with what you're doing? Right? 236 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 5: So mom, like you have to start with what kind 237 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 5: of event do I want to host? Is this going 238 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,960 Speaker 5: to be something where I'm just inviting some of my 239 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 5: friends over and we're just going to catch up, or 240 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,440 Speaker 5: is this going to be something where I'm inviting like 241 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 5: my family over and we are doing a holiday tradition 242 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 5: that we do every single year. This is something that 243 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 5: like it's clockwork right, like we know and we expect it. 244 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 5: So I think you got to start with who the 245 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 5: guest list looks, like, what are you trying to achieve? 246 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 5: From there? I think you pick out a theme, right, 247 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:53,680 Speaker 5: It's all about like what your vibe, what energy you 248 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 5: want to have at the event. 249 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: Like at the party, my friend Michelle taught me something 250 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: that I thought was so brilliant because is one of 251 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: my pet peeves at gatherings is when you invite a 252 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: bunch of people somewhere who don't really know each other, 253 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: and you want them to meet each other, but there's 254 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 1: nothing to facilitate that interaction because people leave without ever 255 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:15,439 Speaker 1: really connecting. And then it was like, what's the point. 256 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: So she said a friend of hers did this. She 257 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 1: wrote note cards with a name on one side, on 258 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:24,200 Speaker 1: the other side it was like a fun fact about 259 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 1: that person, and then she laid them all out on 260 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: the table when you walked in, and you had to 261 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:30,959 Speaker 1: pick up a note card not your own, of somebody 262 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: else and go find them at the party and read 263 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:36,760 Speaker 1: them the fun fact. And that way you got to 264 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:39,600 Speaker 1: meet each other, which I thought was absolutely brilliant. 265 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:43,600 Speaker 2: It was so prea Parker. It's like a human scavenger hunt. 266 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, it was so great, And I was thinking, like, 267 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 1: what are things like that that can help us break 268 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: the ice? Like you have friends from so many different 269 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: walks of life. When you bring them together, what do 270 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: you do to make them connect? 271 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 5: I like that idea, though, just like at the time, Yeah, 272 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 5: but didn't are you just drink with that person the 273 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 5: entire dinner party? 274 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: Well, I think everybody like, comes, you're not at seven pm? 275 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:06,199 Speaker 3: You're not it? 276 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:07,080 Speaker 5: You're not it? 277 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 4: Who is Jenny? 278 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 1: Where is j. 279 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 5: I love that idea though, and I think my idea 280 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:15,199 Speaker 5: kind of falls along that same line is that you 281 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 5: never sit someone who knows someone else next to each 282 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 5: other at the party. 283 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, I don't like that. 284 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 5: I know, And let me tell you why. I go 285 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 5: to a ton of dinner parties and dinners like a ton, 286 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 5: and whenever I sit next to anyone I know, the 287 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 5: entire night, I see nothing else but you, and I 288 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:37,719 Speaker 5: zone in on you, and I'm like, okay, let's get 289 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 5: into it, and then we just catch up. And before 290 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 5: I know it, I haven't talked to the host, I 291 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:43,720 Speaker 5: haven't talked to the person you know across from me. 292 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,440 Speaker 5: And you don't get as stuck with people that you 293 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 5: don't know, right, So I'm talking to the person to 294 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,559 Speaker 5: my left, to my right, across from me, diagonal from me, 295 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 5: and now we're talking. Now we're in a group setting, 296 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:56,680 Speaker 5: and so now your ears are a little bit more open, 297 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 5: and you're connecting with so many more people, which is 298 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 5: also very terrifying, because if you're at a dinner party 299 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 5: where you don't know a lot of people, it can 300 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:06,160 Speaker 5: push you out of a comfort zone. 301 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 2: I think it depends on, like where my social battery 302 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 2: is as I'm heading into that event. If I'm drained 303 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 2: and I don't have the energy to like hold a conversation. 304 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:18,680 Speaker 3: That can be tough. But I agree with you. If 305 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 3: you drain and you can have. 306 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:21,960 Speaker 5: Then you got to stay home. But you have to 307 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 5: know that about yourself though, right, because I'm the same way. Yeah, 308 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 5: when I'm drained and I just can't take it, I'm like, nah, 309 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 5: I'm good. I'm just gonna sit this one. 310 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 3: Out because you're like, I need to be with my 311 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 3: comfort friends. I need to be with somebody that I know. 312 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, that's when you call it. That's all. Ditch 313 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 5: it and go to difference. That's true. 314 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's I want to ask you about 315 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,400 Speaker 2: curating the guest list because I feel like this is 316 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 2: a common debate when we talk about hosting. Do you 317 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 2: invite everyone or do you maintain the sense of generous 318 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 2: authority and be selective about having the right mix of 319 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 2: people there. 320 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:57,600 Speaker 5: Generous authority is a new term. 321 00:14:57,760 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 2: That's not my term. I can't take that any for it. No, 322 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 2: it's just I can't remember authority. It's this idea of 323 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 2: as the party planner, you are allowed to exercise a 324 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 2: measure of authority that is generous because you're saying I'm 325 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 2: creating this space for the evening, like this world for 326 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 2: the evening, and I'm inviting you into it, and with 327 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,040 Speaker 2: part of that comes a responsibility on my end to 328 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 2: curate the best experience for you. 329 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 5: This is the interesting part though, because normally, when you're 330 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 5: creating a guest list, you only have a certain number 331 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 5: of spots to fill rightly. Yeah, so this is always 332 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,240 Speaker 5: very difficult, especially for people who know a lot of people, yes, 333 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 5: and who want to mix it up. For me, I 334 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 5: think it is depending upon once again, let's go back 335 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 5: to our theme or why we're even hosting the dinner 336 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,600 Speaker 5: party in the first place, and you tie into how 337 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 5: you think different people from different walks of life, different careers, 338 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 5: different viewpoints or whatever it is, how they can feed 339 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 5: into the greater good of the entire conversation, right and 340 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 5: the entire dinner party. So does it make sense for 341 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 5: them to be there? That's one I think when you 342 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 5: also are bringing different people together, you want people to 343 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 5: have takeaways, you want people to mix and mingle and 344 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 5: meet new people, You want people to connect, and so 345 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 5: I think you have to constantly remember and keep that 346 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 5: in mind. Does this make sense for them to be here? 347 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 5: And if it does, then yes, go for it. But 348 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:22,120 Speaker 5: if it doesn't, then they got to get cut. But 349 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 5: that's the hardest part though, because people feel very affected 350 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 5: when they're not invited to things, and so that's a 351 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 5: hard one too. 352 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 3: It's hard, but I think we have to give ourselves 353 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 3: permission to do it and just know that, like you. 354 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 5: Got to give yourself generous authority, exactly know that not 355 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 5: everybody is meant to be at every single event I have. 356 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 1: Like my mom was so big on like inclusion that 357 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: when I was a kid, she would make me have 358 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 1: play dates. 359 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 4: With all the kids in the class that nobody wanted 360 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 4: to play with. 361 00:16:53,760 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 5: Oh, I love her. 362 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 1: So I think it's so deeply ingrained in me. I 363 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: can't stand the idea of leaving somebody out. It gives 364 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:03,360 Speaker 1: me like such agidave. 365 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 5: So then you can't host anything because you know way 366 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:06,200 Speaker 5: too many people. 367 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:08,160 Speaker 4: I can't host. I'm a really good guest. 368 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 1: Yes, if I were to host, though, I would like 369 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: to host like you. 370 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:16,399 Speaker 4: You are a chill host with authority. 371 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,080 Speaker 5: I don't like to put pressure. My biggest thing I 372 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:21,440 Speaker 5: hate when you walk into something and people are like, yes, 373 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 5: so we're gonna have everyone get up and speak and 374 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 5: like introduce you, and I'm like, why, like one, do 375 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 5: you know how long it makes the dinner even with 376 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 5: food and things like that. People don't want to eat 377 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 5: when everyone's talking. So now we're going to go through 378 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:38,360 Speaker 5: thirty people, introduce ourselves and tell them everything about. 379 00:17:38,000 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 3: Us and do affirmations and. 380 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 5: Some people are super long winded and you're like, oh, 381 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 5: come on, your cutoff time was good four minutes ago. 382 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 2: It's time for another short break. We'll be right back 383 00:17:51,600 --> 00:18:01,640 Speaker 2: with Lizzie Mappis. And back with Lizzy Mappis. 384 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:05,439 Speaker 1: Okay, we've been talking about people, but what about price, 385 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 1: because I want to know how you achieve a great 386 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:09,520 Speaker 1: party without spending a ton of money. 387 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 5: Oh, just don't spend the money. 388 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:13,919 Speaker 4: But how do you? 389 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,400 Speaker 1: Because why don't you see your Instagram make things look 390 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 1: really nice? 391 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:19,000 Speaker 5: And you how do you know I'm not spending a 392 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 5: lot of money, Danielle? How do you know? 393 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: Because no, because I know you and you spend money 394 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:30,679 Speaker 1: on certain things, right, you're thoughtful about spending on other things. 395 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 5: I think there's a few things that you can do. 396 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:39,439 Speaker 5: Lighting is always the most inexpensive way to create a vibe. 397 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 5: Candles are so inexpensive to create a vibe. You can 398 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:48,159 Speaker 5: light candles all throughout the dinner table and it looks 399 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:52,560 Speaker 5: gorgeous foliage, like for fall, we're going into fall. We're 400 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 5: in fall, we're going into the holiday foliage. We have 401 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 5: so much nature outside that literally, if you just took 402 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:00,639 Speaker 5: a walk and picked up a whole lot of little 403 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:02,919 Speaker 5: green leaves or whatever it is, put them in a 404 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 5: vase or spread them across the table, yes forage, e 405 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 5: yes for urban table. Honey, like, I'm not even playing 406 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:14,160 Speaker 5: it all. It's just a beautiful way. And then that 407 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:18,919 Speaker 5: was like beautiful lighting is just boom and music. Music 408 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 5: is also a great way to create a vibe. You 409 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 5: put together a cute little playlist that is on point 410 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 5: with what you're doing and who your people are. That's 411 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 5: three major things right there, done taking care of and 412 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:34,080 Speaker 5: you haven't spent any money. Those are easy ways to 413 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:36,720 Speaker 5: achieve a really great dinner party. Now, if you're hosting 414 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 5: an event and it's like an event event, then we're 415 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,440 Speaker 5: talking something different and you probably don't have to cough 416 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 5: up that case. 417 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:46,000 Speaker 1: I've never heard people say that, And those are great ideas. 418 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 3: Very language. I love your dinner party tips. 419 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 4: So you are my Martha Stewart. 420 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 3: Oh wow, I love this. 421 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 5: I look at your. 422 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:01,240 Speaker 1: Instagram and I'm like, hmm, maybe I could make guacamole 423 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: I've never tried before. 424 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 5: Are you serious? 425 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:04,920 Speaker 3: Yes? 426 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 5: Oh my gosh. 427 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: I don't know how to make anything, but you make 428 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:10,120 Speaker 1: me think it's possible. 429 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 4: You do it very simply and it looks cute. 430 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,159 Speaker 1: And I'm curious if you have any, like, any simple 431 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: recipes that you think look fancy and look great for 432 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:18,879 Speaker 1: a dinner party. 433 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 5: I was thinking about this and I'm like, what is 434 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 5: the ultimate dinner party menu? And it can be so different. 435 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:29,879 Speaker 5: It can be so different. It kind of depends on 436 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 5: how involved of a host you want to be, or 437 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:34,640 Speaker 5: do you want to be in the kitchen. Those are 438 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 5: decisions you have to make too. Do you want to 439 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 5: be mingling with your guests or do you kind of 440 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 5: want to be making sure that the food is perfected. 441 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 5: I personally love a fish, you know, for dinner. The 442 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,439 Speaker 5: reason why is because it's so fast to make and 443 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:52,640 Speaker 5: it comes out hot and warm right, So when everyone 444 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 5: has arrived, when everyone is settling in, you can dip 445 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 5: out for ten minutes, go make a platter of fish, 446 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 5: and back and you're done, and it's like hot food, 447 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:06,160 Speaker 5: ready to go. But I also love chilis and stews 448 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,680 Speaker 5: and like one pot meals for that kind of idea too, 449 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 5: because you can let that go, go do your thing, 450 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 5: and it's still right there when you get back and 451 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 5: ready to serve for everybody to eat. I don't like 452 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 5: things to be too complicated and too layered, because I 453 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,439 Speaker 5: truly believe that being in the kitchen should be a 454 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 5: joyous activity. I really like my time in the kitchen, 455 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 5: and I enjoy mixing different flavors and herbs, and I 456 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 5: just like to play. It's a creative outlet for me. 457 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:33,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 458 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 2: What about when it comes to the actual holidays, have 459 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 2: you learned any hacks in terms of navigating the pressures 460 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:42,160 Speaker 2: of the holiday season as a host? 461 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:45,360 Speaker 5: It's like know who you are, right, like, know your personality. 462 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:49,080 Speaker 5: And I will compare this to new motherhood. Let's use 463 00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:52,320 Speaker 5: that as an example. New motherhood, they tell you, hey, 464 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 5: it's okay to ask or help. That's it, that's it done, 465 00:21:57,720 --> 00:21:59,960 Speaker 5: and dash it's okay if you know who you are 466 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 5: are and you know you're the type of person that 467 00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:04,600 Speaker 5: gets a little overwhelmed, and like, I'm not the best 468 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 5: planner either. So I am the type to be like 469 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 5: on a Friday being like, Okay, what are we coicking 470 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,239 Speaker 5: on Sunday? I shed probably start pressing. My mom used 471 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,159 Speaker 5: to hate that about me because she was such a 472 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 5: planner about it. She's like two weeks out, She's like, Okay, 473 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 5: I'm going to the grocer store. I'd be like, what, Mama, 474 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,120 Speaker 5: But I think that's a sign of a veteran. 475 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 2: Yes, she likes she's been through war, she has been back. 476 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 5: She's literally she's gone to the grocery store and saw 477 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 5: that sweet potatoes were out. 478 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 3: Yes, she like, not again, not this, not again, not 479 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 3: this your satan. 480 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 5: Yeah, not again. Me, I'm like her sweet potatoes are out, Well, 481 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:41,159 Speaker 5: I guess we're having pumpkin. Then like, I'm like, okay, 482 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 5: I guess we're shifting to this side. And she like 483 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:45,879 Speaker 5: she knew her recipe, she was down for them. Me, 484 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, well, I guess we're gonna pivot. I 485 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,640 Speaker 5: guess it's I guess it's not Brussels sprouts. I guess 486 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 5: we're gonna have broccoli. 487 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:52,880 Speaker 3: I don't know, you know what I'm saying. 488 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 5: So I'm a little bit more on the fly like that. 489 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,840 Speaker 5: But I think you have to know your personality and 490 00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:58,119 Speaker 5: I think you have to reach out for help. And 491 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:01,000 Speaker 5: that's really the beauty about it, right. It is about 492 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 5: community and family and friends and all this. We still 493 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:08,000 Speaker 5: go home for Thanksgiving to my husband's family and they 494 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 5: have so many family members. I used to get so overwhelmed. 495 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 5: But his mom used to cook everything, and I used 496 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 5: to be like, oh, come on, like how can we help, 497 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,440 Speaker 5: And one year she was like, listen, you take mac 498 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 5: and cheese, you take the dressing, you take this, and 499 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 5: everyone has their own assignments. It feels so communal because 500 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,919 Speaker 5: we're all in the kitchen doing random things, prepping for 501 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,879 Speaker 5: each other, and it's just it's amazing. And so I 502 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 5: think you know who you are right, know your stress level, 503 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 5: and remember why you're doing it. This is cool, Calm, easy, baby. 504 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:42,199 Speaker 5: This is the fun stuff. This is where we actually 505 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 5: get to have fun and like relax and enjoy our time. 506 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 5: This is not the stressful part. This is the part 507 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,240 Speaker 5: where we are supposed to like breathe in, breathe out, 508 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 5: and enjoy the people who we choose to be around. 509 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 5: This is the holidays. That is what it's for. 510 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 3: That just giving chills. 511 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 2: Mathis this is the holidays and looking at me with 512 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 2: that intensity. 513 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:05,400 Speaker 3: Okay, it's the holidays. 514 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 5: Eye contact. 515 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 2: Okay, as you wrap up a party and you're getting tired, 516 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 2: the yawns are coming out. 517 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:16,239 Speaker 5: Time to go. 518 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 3: It's time to go. I can't gotta go home. But 519 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 3: what is your go to tactic for getting people out 520 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 3: the door? This is so funny. This is this is 521 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:28,680 Speaker 3: a silly one. 522 00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 5: This is where my husband's looking at me like making 523 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:33,679 Speaker 5: a strong eye contact. I'm like, okay, what do you 524 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,879 Speaker 5: want me to do? I think you have to be 525 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:40,480 Speaker 5: upfront beforehand. That's first. It's almost like communication with a partner, right. 526 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 5: You got to tell them what you want beforehand and 527 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,720 Speaker 5: expect people not to read your mind, because that's just 528 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,680 Speaker 5: what it is when you're sending out or when you're 529 00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 5: telling people come over for dinner. We're gonna wrap up, 530 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:50,919 Speaker 5: probably closer than nine because we have to get in 531 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,119 Speaker 5: bed and we have to get up early to do 532 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,280 Speaker 5: the kid thing. So just want to make sure we're 533 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:55,720 Speaker 5: all aware. 534 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,800 Speaker 1: I love when people put like an end time on 535 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,320 Speaker 1: the dash, like yeah, from seven to nine. 536 00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 5: But my problem is that sometimes people don't they don't 537 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,240 Speaker 5: follow that at all. That's the hard part. When you're 538 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 5: out and about, people don't always follow the nine. 539 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,920 Speaker 4: You're saying, like they at your parties. 540 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,159 Speaker 5: Now just so no, no, no, I'm just talking about my parties. 541 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,280 Speaker 5: I think you say, hey, I'm good. I'd listen. All right, 542 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,080 Speaker 5: this was fun. Gotta go, like, hey, everybody love you, 543 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,159 Speaker 5: you are leftovers, we have anything you need something to 544 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,879 Speaker 5: take home with you. All right, I'll see you next weekend. 545 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 5: Like That's where I'm at, gotta go. But I think 546 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,199 Speaker 5: at events sometimes it's so hard because I've been at 547 00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 5: so many things where it's like they say you're going 548 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 5: to wrap up by nine, and dinner's just coming out, 549 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:40,640 Speaker 5: like the main course is just coming out at eight 550 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 5: forty five. I'm like, there's no way I'm out of 551 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:43,119 Speaker 5: hood nine. 552 00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, like why is? Why is goodbye awkward? 553 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 2: It's like, I got how would you do it in 554 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,760 Speaker 2: the least awkward way possible? 555 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,120 Speaker 4: I just am really blunt about it? 556 00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 3: So what are you like? 557 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:55,639 Speaker 4: I'm always like, this was so fun, thank you for 558 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 4: having me. 559 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: I have to wake up early, so I'm gonna head 560 00:25:57,760 --> 00:25:59,560 Speaker 1: out bye. 561 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 5: I think that's great. That's revolutionary. Now, what if people 562 00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 5: were at your house. 563 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,160 Speaker 4: Oh my god, thanks for coming, see you later. 564 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,200 Speaker 3: It's no, I don't believe me. 565 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 5: There's no way she's at dinner. There's no way she's 566 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,399 Speaker 5: at dinner. People's plates are still on the table. What 567 00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,440 Speaker 5: do you mean she's like kicking them out, She's like this, 568 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:18,400 Speaker 5: what's fun? Thanks everybody. 569 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 3: Bye. 570 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:19,640 Speaker 5: No, it's no way. 571 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 4: No, that's not what I thought you guys said. 572 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,320 Speaker 1: If you're hosting, you got to be prepared for people 573 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:24,880 Speaker 1: to stay late. 574 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,080 Speaker 5: See see. 575 00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,480 Speaker 2: But this is the thing, this is we're trying to 576 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,199 Speaker 2: figure out the most sensitive way to get people to 577 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:32,160 Speaker 2: I think. 578 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:33,760 Speaker 5: You have to be upfront. I think early on you 579 00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:35,119 Speaker 5: have to be upfront. You have to be like, this 580 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 5: is the end time. And once it starts hitting in 581 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 5: that time, like say it's nine, once a nine ten hits, 582 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 5: you're like, all right, hey, guys, this is oh my god. 583 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:45,760 Speaker 4: You guys have those excuses. You have children, we do. 584 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 5: Children's a great excuse. Early call times work, that's a 585 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 5: great excuse too. Are you kidding me? 586 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:51,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 587 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,960 Speaker 1: People, I don't ever let people know that I actually 588 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,280 Speaker 1: don't have to be here till ten am. 589 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,680 Speaker 4: I think I have a job where I'm up at five. 590 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 3: Well, your secrets now going out to the massive. 591 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 5: You know it's great, A great, great one. I have 592 00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:04,280 Speaker 5: a guyo examine. 593 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:08,880 Speaker 3: Gotta go exam eight. 594 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 2: Ao, Lizzie, this was the best. Thanks so much for 595 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,199 Speaker 2: hanging out on the bright Side with us. 596 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm so glad to be here. Guys, thanks for 597 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:16,280 Speaker 5: having me. 598 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 4: We'll be watching your instagram for all your holiday joy. 599 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you. 600 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 2: Lizzie Mathis is the founder and editor in chief of 601 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,199 Speaker 2: the Cool Mom co. 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