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We got it for you here. It 21 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 1: is a strawbaby letter. Thank you nephew. Her husband was 22 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: my best friend. Dear Stephen Shirley, i am a twenty 23 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 1: seven year old single female and I'm in need of advice. 24 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: I've had a male best friend since high school and 25 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: he is an active duty officer in the military. He's 26 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: been away for nine months and he came home in April. 27 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: He got married while he was stationed in Hawaii, and 28 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: I was excited to meet his new wife and see him. 29 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:38,199 Speaker 1: He planned a small welcome home party in the backyard 30 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: and it was just like old times. His wife is 31 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: beautiful and she's really cool, so I promised to show 32 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: her around our small town once the businesses start to 33 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: open up. They make a great couple, and I told 34 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: my best friend I was happy for him. I got 35 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: ready to leave and I got my phone out to 36 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: get an uber. My best friend told me that it 37 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: wasn't safe to be in someone else's car because of 38 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: the coronavirus, so he insisted on taking me home. No 39 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: sooner than we got in the car, he started coming 40 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: on to me, saying he's always wanted me and that 41 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: he wanted to bend me over and do me as 42 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: soon as he saw me in my sun dress. I 43 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: told him that it was not happening because things have 44 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,760 Speaker 1: changed and that he's not single anymore. He told me 45 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: that we should be best friends with benefits and no 46 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: one has to know. I started crying because I was 47 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: so offended that he thought of me as just a 48 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: sex thing. I never thought of him in any kind 49 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: of way other than my good buddy. He apologized and 50 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: said he felt like this for years but didn't know 51 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: how to say it. All I had heard is that 52 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,120 Speaker 1: he wants sex with me and I and I feel disrespected. 53 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: He's still trying to pursue the friendship, but I'm not 54 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,079 Speaker 1: so sure it can a friendship go back to normal 55 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: after this. Is this how all men think about female 56 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: best friends? Well, I gotta say I don't know about 57 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: all men, but you know so many men that you 58 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: talked to, and the men on this show think that, Yeah. 59 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, they want to get with you 60 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 1: if there's a chance to do that. They're not really 61 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: your friends, they do want to get with you if 62 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 1: that door becomes open. You know this guy, I mean, 63 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 1: what a loser he is. You know, he just got 64 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 1: married and before you could even get in the car. Good. 65 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: He's all over you. He's had all this time since 66 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 1: high school to say that he wanted to be with you. 67 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: He couldn't find the words. He found the words to 68 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: propose to his wife and to marry her. Why couldn't 69 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: Why couldn't he do the same for you? You know, 70 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: and you guys are really good friends. I don't trust him. 71 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: I don't like this guy. He's way out of line. 72 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: The only thing that he could have done to me 73 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: to be more disrespectful is to actually have slept with you. 74 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: But thank god, you stood up for yourself and you 75 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: didn't allow that. He's not your friend, and he's still 76 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 1: trying to get with you any chance he can get. 77 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: He's still trying to figure out ways. You know that 78 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: we could do this, We could be friends with benefits 79 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: and all that. No, I suggest to you, this is 80 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: my advice, do some social distancing. I know you like 81 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: his new wife and all of that. Yeah, but you 82 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: don't need to be friends with him. Do some social 83 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: distancing from this guy. Okay, Steve, you're twenty seven versus 84 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,360 Speaker 1: when you all first became friends back in high school. 85 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: I can assure you you've blossomed. I can assure you 86 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: you are probably way flyer now than you were then. Well, 87 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: but you all have always been best friends. He's been 88 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: stationed overseas. He got married while he was stationed there, 89 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 1: and so he planned a small welcome at home party 90 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,479 Speaker 1: in the backyard and it was just like old times. 91 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:04,359 Speaker 1: And his wife is beautiful, she's really cool. So I 92 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: promised to show around. You know, so now they make 93 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: a good couple of You got readily, you got rink 94 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: call of uh blah blah blah blah. He said, he 95 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: it's too dangerous coronavirus. You can't do that right now. 96 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: So he insisted on taking you home. No. Sooner we 97 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 1: got in the car, he started coming on to me, 98 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 1: saying he wanted me and that he wanted to bend 99 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: me over and do me as soon as he saw 100 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:35,000 Speaker 1: me and my son Jos I sweating. God, And ain't 101 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: a man listening to this that ain't said them exact 102 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:45,919 Speaker 1: damn words in his mind at least three hundred times. 103 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: Make that, make that four fifty fifty same scenario with 104 00:05:56,200 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: your in the same scenario. No, just that sentence, all right, Yeah, 105 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: so we only a little different. Put the hell hold up, 106 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: and my grandson had walked in. Hold up, man, I'm 107 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 1: on the radio. What okay? So not at out and 108 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: got the TV cut back off, apologized grandson and came 109 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: in here on some damn cheeses. This is what working 110 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 1: at home. It's like doing the quarantine. Yes, so if 111 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: you think that, y'all just at the house dealing with it. 112 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: My damn son and dropped these grandkids off because he 113 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: need a break. Ain't that enough to hear? He think 114 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: I need? Yeah, the lady and the letter need helping. Paul, 115 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: Paul do too. All right, listen, we'll have part two 116 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:46,840 Speaker 1: of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after 117 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 1: the our subject her husband was my best friend. We'll 118 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening show, 119 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,679 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. 120 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: You had time to gather yourself on the break subject 121 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: her husband was my best friend. Let's go. Well, this 122 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: woman is twenty seven years old, has had a best 123 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: friend since high school. He's an active duty officer in 124 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: the military. He's been away from nine months. He came 125 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: home in April when he got married. While he was 126 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: stationed in the White You was excited to meet his 127 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: new wife and to see him. He played a small 128 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: welcome home party in the backyard like his old time 129 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: wife is beautiful, so the lady, twenty seven year old 130 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: girl in the letters. Lady says in the letter she 131 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:36,720 Speaker 1: was gonna show around a small town once to be 132 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: since the start open him. And you know, she said, 133 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,080 Speaker 1: they make a great couple. I told him a best friend. 134 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: I was happy for him. So she got ready to 135 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: leave it. She called got ray caller uber. He said 136 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: no cause of the coronavirus. He assisted on taking me 137 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 1: home and anyway, no. Sooner they got in the car, 138 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: he started coming on to her talk him out. He 139 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: always wanted her, and he wanted to bend me over 140 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: to do me as soon as he saw me and 141 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: my son dressed. Okay, that line has been said, I 142 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: said three hundred times by every man. Tommy all thought it. 143 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: Tommy that said four fifty. Yeah. I told him it 144 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: was not happening because things have changed and he's not 145 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 1: single anymore right now. That threw me a little bit 146 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 1: because I was kind of thinking, were they a little 147 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:32,480 Speaker 1: bit more than friends before? Yeah, things have changed now 148 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 1: you're not single anymore. So I didn't get that. That's 149 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: not what the letters about. He told me that y'all 150 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:43,840 Speaker 1: should be best friends with benefits and no one has 151 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: to know. This broke the girl's heart. She started crying 152 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 1: because she was so offended that he thought of me 153 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 1: just as a sex thing. I never thought him of 154 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 1: any kind of way other than my good buddy. Well, sister, 155 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: the roost is up. Now, you know. He didn't just 156 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:12,640 Speaker 1: start feeling this way about you. He'd been feeling this way. 157 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: There are a lot of men who feel that way 158 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:20,520 Speaker 1: about their so called best female friends. There are a 159 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: lot of men who feel that exact same way, but 160 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: because there's usually something going on in the female's life 161 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: that prohibits him or he don't want to blow the 162 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: relationship being friends. Here'll keep it to itself, but at 163 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 1: one point in time it usually surfaced. It's not one 164 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: always the case. I'll just say that, but ninety nine 165 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,319 Speaker 1: point nine point nine nine nine percent of the time, 166 00:09:53,400 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 1: damn it. Those are huge odds. Yeah, yeah, because if 167 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: you are attractive in any way, he is attracted to 168 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 1: you in that way. A man is going to be 169 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: a man. Look, you ain't just fine to his friends. 170 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:19,439 Speaker 1: He see that now he may be in a relationship 171 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: and be able to play that off, but you still 172 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:29,959 Speaker 1: find to him. So he apologized and said he felt 173 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,559 Speaker 1: like this for years but didn't know how to say it. Well, 174 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: see now he didn't change, He'd went to the military, 175 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: he'd been in Hawaii. He's changed. He's not the same guy. 176 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: But guess what, You're not the same little girl anymore either. 177 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,320 Speaker 1: You're a grown woman. All I heard is that he 178 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 1: wants sex with me, and I feel disrespecting. See had 179 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: he came on to you in a different way without 180 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: the wife, y'all might be up the road somewhere with this. 181 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,040 Speaker 1: And he got a wife, and then it came back 182 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:05,360 Speaker 1: and said, no, I just want you for sex, and 183 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: that hurt you, and you have every right to be hurt. 184 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: He's still trying to pursue the friendship, but I'm not 185 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 1: so sure. The friendship that's over. That's over. Now. Listen 186 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,079 Speaker 1: to me carefully, because what I'm about to say it's 187 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: gonna be controversial. The reason your all's friendship is over 188 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:33,680 Speaker 1: it is because I have a lot of friends. I 189 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: have never told any one of my buddies I want 190 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:42,319 Speaker 1: to bend you over when I saw you and do 191 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 1: you in that damn son and dressed? I've never had 192 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: that thought ever about it now one of my buddies, 193 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:57,320 Speaker 1: not one of them. So, how are you gonna go 194 00:11:57,360 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: back to just being friendship? And then she said, kind 195 00:11:59,920 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: of friendship? Go back to normal after this? What you 196 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 1: don't think that's in the back of It's been in 197 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: the back of his mind for years. I don't want 198 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 1: to go back, and now it's in the front of 199 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 1: his mind. He gonna propose this to you again. Why 200 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 1: don't you propose to her? Proposed to her? You understand, 201 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: And that's why the sister is so hurt. Yeah. No, 202 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 1: this friendship was for a season. It has ran its season. 203 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:29,840 Speaker 1: He has a wife. Now let him find a new 204 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: best friend. It should be her. She's beautiful. They make 205 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:37,359 Speaker 1: a nice couple, and don't get over there and contribute 206 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 1: to the damage of it. I don't think that is 207 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: She doesn't sound like that kind of No, she's not 208 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,560 Speaker 1: that tech. She stood up for herself very well. I 209 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: like that. Hey man, what you need? All right? It's 210 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: been a good run though, all right. So poster comments 211 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 1: on today's Strawberry letter. It's Steve Harvey FM on Instagram 212 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,079 Speaker 1: and Facebook, and please check out the Strawberry Letter podcast 213 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: on demand now coming up at forty six minutes after 214 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: the hour, new surveillance videos show multiple people trespassed at 215 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 1: the home. Armad Arbory visited, Okay, the same house. A 216 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 1: lot of people were there. That's what the video is showing. 217 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:14,440 Speaker 1: We're going to talk about that right after this. You're 218 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:16,959 Speaker 1: listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show