1 00:00:01,440 --> 00:00:12,639 Speaker 1: The Jewels show on demand jubils dirty Little Secret. Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Hey, 2 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 1: what's up? You have a dirty little secret? I sure do. Hey, 3 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: the one that I'm dying to tell people because I 4 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: can't tell anyone I know. But if you're dying to 5 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 1: tell it, guess what I'm living to hear it. So 6 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 1: let's do it, all right. So, um my Ganda is 7 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: adopted and has zero interest in finding out whose original 8 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:36,320 Speaker 1: biological parents will work. But um I ended up having 9 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 1: some neurological problems that might have been genetically related. So 10 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: I ended up doing some DNA testing and they said, hey, 11 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: do you want to you know, throw and you know, 12 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: find out where you're from at the same time. So 13 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 1: this was sure one second, sorry, this was like legit 14 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,559 Speaker 1: DNA testing. I mean, I'm not saying that ancestry dot 15 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 1: Com isn't legit, but you didn't just prick your finger 16 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: and mail it somewhere and then they told you that 17 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: you have a bunch you're from the Netherlands or something, right, No, no, 18 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: this was for medical reasons. And so anyway, what happened 19 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: is they came back and they said, do you want 20 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: to share the DNA with like ancestry and twenty three 21 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 1: and me and all that other stuff, and I'm like, yeah, whatever. 22 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: So out of the blue, about a week later, I 23 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: get an email from a lady telling me, you know, 24 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: who are you? I know all my family blah blah blah, 25 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, this is crazy. My dad's adopted 26 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: so it's probably related. And the girl could not believe it. 27 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,839 Speaker 1: So the only person that could have been related, because 28 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: it tells you if you're on if it was from 29 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: the mother's side or the father's side, that the relationship 30 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: was was her older sister. So she went to her 31 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: older sister and was like, yo, you got something to 32 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: tell me. And because no one knew about my dad 33 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: and a long story short, turns out, she got pregnant 34 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: and back in the late forties, what would happen? They 35 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: just send the girl away, had the baby come back? 36 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: Like nothing ever happened. My dad got adopted out, she 37 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: got sent away, and so no one knew about it. 38 00:01:57,120 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: She finally confessed. Her sister said, yeah, this is what happened, 39 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: and obviously behind the any matches, but she said, I 40 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: don't want any contact. Horrible memory. Please don't contact me 41 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: further about it. At the homeline yards, Dan, you know 42 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: that you know who your dad's mom is, but he doesn't. 43 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but that's not the jucy part. Juicy part 44 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: is at the same at the same time, the same 45 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,640 Speaker 1: thing happened on my father's side or his father's side, 46 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: And so now I was able to find out exactly 47 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: who my dad's biological father was. And I know and 48 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: I've spoken to my dad and sister, which he doesn't 49 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 1: know about. But yeah, because they didn't have DNA testing 50 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: back in midday. Yeah, but at this point the guy 51 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: is like c nio and on the other side, I 52 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: can't say anything. And then what am I supposed to 53 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: do with my dad saying, hey, guess what. By the way, 54 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: you didn't want to find your family, but I ended 55 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: up finding him. So I'm stuck. Wow, that is crazy. 56 00:02:55,960 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: That's crazy information to have and not really know what 57 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:02,800 Speaker 1: to do with it. Yeah. The way it connects it 58 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: to me is that my dad's adopted I needed medical 59 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 1: information related to the DNA. He doesn't know his parents are. 60 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: I ended up doing DNA testing through that process, I 61 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: ended up finding out who his parents were, and so 62 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,239 Speaker 1: now I know who both are. The girl doesn't want 63 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: anything to do with my dad in any way, shape 64 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: or form. Her husband has no idea she ever had 65 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: a baby kids, So he's got brothers and sisters out 66 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:33,080 Speaker 1: there that have no idea he exists. And so now 67 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: I'm stuck with knowing exactly who my dad's family is 68 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: and can't tell anybody. I think the thing that you 69 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: could do, maybe for yourself, is accept the fact that 70 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: you can't do anything with the information. Don't wrestle with it. 71 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: Just accept it. Hey, um, okay, and then give your 72 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: dad a hug and let him know that he's loved. 73 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: If there's any other update calls back, yeah, yeah, you 74 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 1: know how now it's definitely I mean, yeah, I can't 75 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: look all your dad anything. You love your dad, well, 76 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: of course, I'm okay, try and just making sure because 77 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 1: so yeah, like dude, just have a good relationship with 78 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: your dad, right, and just make peace with the fact 79 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: that you'll never be able to tell him and just 80 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: you know, you don't have to shove that stuff way down, 81 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: but just make peace with it that you never will 82 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: and if every time you think about it, reach out 83 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: to your dad and say hi and talk to him. 84 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Well, the funny thing is is now that 85 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:23,839 Speaker 1: my DNA is in the system. If any of his 86 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: unknown brothers or sisters ever do a DNA test, it's 87 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:33,400 Speaker 1: gonna pain, so it might inevitably happen elpsewhere well yeah 88 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: well kid, yeah, well, thank you for telling us you 89 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: a little secret. Man. That's a crazy one. Yeah yeah, 90 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: definitely all right, take care of man. Did you bill 91 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: show on demand?