WEBVTT - Growing Up Smith!

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, fam, I'm Jada Pinkett Smith and this is the

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<v Speaker 1>on Apple podcasts. Can you do me a favor and

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<v Speaker 1>see what the status of the children are? Oh, the

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<v Speaker 1>kids are running behind schedule? So jen, um, how would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to handle that? Welcome to the Smith. How

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<v Speaker 1>late are they gonna be? Okay, Willow just texted me, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know they're working. Well, that's a good thing. Her

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<v Speaker 1>and Jaden. The Jaden starts tour tomorrow. All right, we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be talking about parentsing, the joys of parenthood and

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<v Speaker 1>pitfalls of parenting. Okay, so Willow, dam Um, what's happened?

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<v Speaker 1>What's happening? Look at there's gold chains I got yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>Where give that problem? Being careful for people thinking you've

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<v Speaker 1>got real crap? One? Jaden's my baby boy, my firstborn.

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<v Speaker 1>What's He's one of the most loving, gentle creatures that

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I just want to say thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>being the best mom in the world. Jaden is a musician,

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<v Speaker 1>an actor, and an entrepreneur. He has a clothing line.

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<v Speaker 1>We kind of believe that you need to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to show your individuality with your clothing and how you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about life. His own record label and a sustainably

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<v Speaker 1>sourced spring water company because he cares about making the

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<v Speaker 1>world a better place. I'm a proud mama when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to Jaden and Willow of their successes and their compassion.

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<v Speaker 1>Willow and Jaden are extremely talented and extremely opinionated. They

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<v Speaker 1>are unique individuals, to say the least, but they get

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<v Speaker 1>that honestly because they come from two unique parents. My

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<v Speaker 1>kids grew up much differently than Well and I did,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm so curious to hear their thoughts on our parents.

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<v Speaker 1>All Right, you guys were at the Red Table again. Jade,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you for being here. You're a special guest today.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad to have some male energy in here. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>glad to be here just and from Japan. We're so

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<v Speaker 1>glad that you're here. Yeah, I just want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit about the difference between how your mom

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<v Speaker 1>raised you and how I raised your mom. We didn't

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<v Speaker 1>give kids a whole lot of choice. Am I writing that?

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<v Speaker 1>You're very writing? You know, I felt like you guys

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<v Speaker 1>had too much say over your own lives, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And if I told you something because I said so,

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<v Speaker 1>I know you are why game because I said so.

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<v Speaker 1>But and your mom and dad had to really kind

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<v Speaker 1>of break me out of that because she treated you

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<v Speaker 1>like adults. And I just felt like, he's eight, He's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna tell me what time he's going to bed. Ye.

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<v Speaker 1>It was their idea of parenting was so different from

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<v Speaker 1>what I was used to. I was like, these people

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<v Speaker 1>was crazy. So I remember hearing you in the world

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<v Speaker 1>game in the world, well, I remember always being like,

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<v Speaker 1>once a game becomes just gonna be a different story. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, once a game becomes I'm gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>to be like But I think having both worlds was good.

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<v Speaker 1>It was great because it was old school and super

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<v Speaker 1>new school. It worked. We laughed so so good. But

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<v Speaker 1>they got that therapy fun exactly. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>make decisions for you. I want to prepare you as

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<v Speaker 1>quick as possible and start to give you as much

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<v Speaker 1>power over your life as quickly as I can. I

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<v Speaker 1>think too, that I have a sense of ownership over

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<v Speaker 1>your mom that she doesn't have over you. She belonged

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<v Speaker 1>to me. They know what but I feel like, you

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<v Speaker 1>know that that's not a lot of mothers that because

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<v Speaker 1>of their that anxiety of no, you're my baby, I

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<v Speaker 1>know what's best. You're going to make the wrong decisions

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<v Speaker 1>because you're immature. You're a child that feeling just like

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<v Speaker 1>encompasses their child, and then their child just becomes not

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<v Speaker 1>able to make their own decisions, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I realized the other day, I had

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<v Speaker 1>a huge epiphany about being a parent to you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>There is an aspect of your life that is completely

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<v Speaker 1>range and unknown to me, and that is growing up

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<v Speaker 1>in this with parents that have the amount of privilege,

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<v Speaker 1>the amount of access. What was it like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>being raised in this very unconventional lifestyle. You're not a

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<v Speaker 1>normal human if if you can't go out into the

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<v Speaker 1>world and see there's some things that you absolutely just

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<v Speaker 1>have to experience for yourself totally. And it's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how things always work. I was getting nervous

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of dinner because it's like, how do

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<v Speaker 1>you have dinner with a group of people? Because when

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<v Speaker 1>I have dinner with my dad, he orders everything on

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<v Speaker 1>the menu and you pay for everything that he leaves,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, is that how we do it? Everybody

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<v Speaker 1>expects me to do that. You know, if I go

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner with Mommy, it's like, Okay, we're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>order everything on the menu, but she's gonna pay for

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<v Speaker 1>everything for all of her friends, including us. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do I do when it's just me and my

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<v Speaker 1>homies and we're just chilling for dinner. Do I wait

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<v Speaker 1>to see what someone else does? Do I ask for

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<v Speaker 1>the check and then just not do anything? Do I

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<v Speaker 1>just pay for everything? And people expect that for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally hate Disneyland because I had one terrible experience

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<v Speaker 1>and everyone expected me to pay for them. And they're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go to Disneyland. And I was like, yeah, let's go.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was super young. It was the older girls

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like yeah, and they were all like

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<v Speaker 1>behind my back, like oh, she's gonna pay for everything,

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<v Speaker 1>and I you know what I'm saying, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, Like like I honestly wasn't thinking that way.

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<v Speaker 1>So when we got there, it was like, so, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I want a funnel cake and this and that. We're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go on Space Mountain and you got your cash

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, uh yeah, obviously, and they're like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>great and put it down, and I'm just like, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't understand. I didn't think it was going to be

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<v Speaker 1>like this. It was painful, yeah, but we have to

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<v Speaker 1>go out into the real world to really experience that.

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<v Speaker 1>And you're like, okay, so now I'm a target and

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<v Speaker 1>that's really hard too. You have to be aware of

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<v Speaker 1>that as well, you know. And then it's like, okay, cool,

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<v Speaker 1>And this is why my parents have been protecting me

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<v Speaker 1>from That's why I can't go and do this or

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I never was allowed to do this when

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<v Speaker 1>I was young. One thing that I've learned, though, is

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<v Speaker 1>that every child needs something different. At fifteen years old,

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<v Speaker 1>Jaden and I remember this day specifically. It was probably

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<v Speaker 1>one of the most heartbreaking moments of my life. You

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<v Speaker 1>got to a point where you told me straight up.

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<v Speaker 1>You were like, mom, I have to leave here to

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<v Speaker 1>live my life. And I remember thinking to myself, as

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<v Speaker 1>devastated as I was, I was like, he's right. The

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<v Speaker 1>time is now, he's fifteen. It's time for him to

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<v Speaker 1>leave the house. And I would have never agreed with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I knew. I told Will when Jaden was smaller. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>would be lucky to keep him in the house till

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<v Speaker 1>he's sixteen, because he was so mature, he was making films.

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<v Speaker 1>He really he could really manage his own life, his

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<v Speaker 1>own life, like being in this lifestyle, in this world

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<v Speaker 1>is a bubble, and he wanted out. And I understood

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<v Speaker 1>that because I didn't have the bubble, and I knew.

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<v Speaker 1>I knew what having my freedom outside of the bubble,

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<v Speaker 1>what I gained from that. And I knew that the

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<v Speaker 1>sooner I let him go, the faster he was going

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<v Speaker 1>to come back. And it just makes you appreciate, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>being at home, being with your parents, spending quality of

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<v Speaker 1>time with family. You get out into the world and

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<v Speaker 1>then you kind of just kind of understand things. That's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make sure people understand our background. My

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<v Speaker 1>father was physician, he was an antithesiologist, and my mother

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<v Speaker 1>was a social worker, and we were very They were

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<v Speaker 1>to quintess sent a black middle class you know, gave

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<v Speaker 1>me had me at your age number one, I was

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<v Speaker 1>really young and clueless. Let's just be clear on that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was eighteen years old and I was still prepared

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<v Speaker 1>for the responsibilities of parenting and not only was I young,

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<v Speaker 1>but I became addicted to drugs, and you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>was a functioning attict, but I was an attic just

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<v Speaker 1>the same. So you know, I was consumed with working

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<v Speaker 1>to support you, but also to support I have it,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why I had so much freedom. You and

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy never told really what type of world you guys

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<v Speaker 1>came from. Yeah, we just thought that you guys just

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<v Speaker 1>brought it up out of the ground, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. But I'm now outside of the bubble. I

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<v Speaker 1>go out and I meet random person on the street

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<v Speaker 1>telling me, yeah, man, I worked with your dad back

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<v Speaker 1>in these days, telling me about my family. I never

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<v Speaker 1>knew in my life. I mean, it's really yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>have all the time, but you definitely here, but they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't hear it from us. Yeah. I had to hustle.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what my life was about because there was a

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<v Speaker 1>certain kind of lifestyle and way I wanted to live,

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<v Speaker 1>and she needed a mother to provide security. I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>afford it. I never wanted to depend on a man

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<v Speaker 1>to take care of me. So I was in the

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<v Speaker 1>streets selling drugs, doing all kinds of stuff. I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>even imagine that. Then in my own neighborhood, we were

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<v Speaker 1>in the midst of a lot of violence that was

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<v Speaker 1>just the norm. The fact that I had to live

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<v Speaker 1>and die by my own hands prepared me to be

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<v Speaker 1>out here in l A at eighteen by myself and

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<v Speaker 1>it be nothing. I was like these jokers out here

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<v Speaker 1>that they think of really doing something, to really running

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<v Speaker 1>game on somebody. You ain't running game on nobody. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I dealt with killers, homie, You produce what that's cool?

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<v Speaker 1>You asking me to do what. We had a very

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<v Speaker 1>different lifestyle than you guys, And even your father grew

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<v Speaker 1>up in a household that was a lot of abuse.

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<v Speaker 1>Your father worked in the ice house. He was building

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<v Speaker 1>cement walls and helping to restore refrigerators and cooling systems.

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<v Speaker 1>And you guys grew up thinking about survival. You can

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<v Speaker 1>only think about food and water and shelter and safety,

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<v Speaker 1>and like that's the only thing that you were thinking about.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys grew up as soldiers that met out of

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<v Speaker 1>the battle that has decided to go and attack together

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<v Speaker 1>and to conquer. Yes, we did. Will and I were

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<v Speaker 1>in constant conflict over Jaden. Where do you think you've

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<v Speaker 1>got your confidence from because I'm somebody that even to

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<v Speaker 1>this day, like I'm surprised that I'm even sitting here.

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<v Speaker 1>My self esteem and my self confidence is pretty low.

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<v Speaker 1>I can say it's pretty low. I think you've come along.

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<v Speaker 1>I have. I have come a long way. I have

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<v Speaker 1>you put up on the ground and pop on the

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<v Speaker 1>ground are the thing that I appreciate so much about you. Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>The level of self confidence that you have to be

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<v Speaker 1>comfortable in your own skin is amazing to me, and

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<v Speaker 1>for me, that's the best gift that your mom and

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<v Speaker 1>dad gave you. Right for me to think that I

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<v Speaker 1>could ever go into the world and tell anybody else

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<v Speaker 1>how they should raise their children, I've learned that's an

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<v Speaker 1>absolute no no. But I feel like people should have

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<v Speaker 1>the freedom to look at their kids and decide for

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<v Speaker 1>themselves what their children need versus what the school system

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<v Speaker 1>might tell you. To go by your own instinct, and

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't necessarily have to look like what anybody else

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<v Speaker 1>is doing. Exactly the short amount of time that I

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<v Speaker 1>went to preschool, I felt like, if I imagine that,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it was like three years. Please cool,

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<v Speaker 1>one day a week. He might have got to I

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<v Speaker 1>think he made maybe two weeks. I felt like three years,

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<v Speaker 1>let me tell you. And I had to sit in

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<v Speaker 1>the parking lot every day. My fould not leave and

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<v Speaker 1>he would look at me with his little backpack and

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<v Speaker 1>people don't give me. Why would you leave me with

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<v Speaker 1>people who don't love me? And so then I said,

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<v Speaker 1>jaden't how about this. You're not being left here with

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<v Speaker 1>people who don't love you, because Mommy is going to

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<v Speaker 1>be sitting in the parking lot. So that was the

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<v Speaker 1>agreement that mommy sat in the parking lot. But then

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes she would like sneak away and get things and

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<v Speaker 1>come back and I'd be like, you didn't have this,

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<v Speaker 1>or you have a different car now. I came back

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<v Speaker 1>home from school, I was always in a terrible mood.

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<v Speaker 1>My whole days were just filled with insecurity and fear

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<v Speaker 1>and and bad PB and j's. But you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>started homeschooling you guys too, because I wanted you to

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<v Speaker 1>have an opportunity to be with your dad and to

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<v Speaker 1>be with me when I was working. There was no

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<v Speaker 1>way I was leaving you home. You know. Ever, you

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<v Speaker 1>always had to be with me. It was great. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it was really a very interesting time for me as

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<v Speaker 1>a parent because I don't always know exactly what to

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<v Speaker 1>say all the time, because what motivates you and what's

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<v Speaker 1>important is completely different than what was in my engine.

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<v Speaker 1>For you, it's like everything's good to a certain extent,

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<v Speaker 1>and then if it's not, I still don't understand the

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<v Speaker 1>part that's not good the world though, Like that's where

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<v Speaker 1>we're at. It's like this is good, but everything else

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<v Speaker 1>is in three point four million people dying from not

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<v Speaker 1>having enough water every year and llion tons of plastic

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<v Speaker 1>on the right. That's where we do relate in regards

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<v Speaker 1>to we want to help me the world better place.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm talking about as far as your personal motivation. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so it's completely different for us because we

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<v Speaker 1>already know that based off of what was on the

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<v Speaker 1>past generation with you, with Daddy, it's like you guys

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<v Speaker 1>paved the way for generations to come. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. What is the part that you think Daddy

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<v Speaker 1>and I have a difficult time connecting to you with

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I only have one like really terrible experience,

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<v Speaker 1>which is which is with my hair. You're feeling about

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<v Speaker 1>that was that you felt like you were put in

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<v Speaker 1>the game too soon, just that the values of the

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<v Speaker 1>people around me should have been the opposite you and

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<v Speaker 1>daddy should have been Okay, we value her musical growth

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<v Speaker 1>and knowledge more than her popularity. Not so much about

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<v Speaker 1>just a hit record. Yeah, exactly, not understand that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think all that came with it and that was

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<v Speaker 1>too much. Let me tell you something. When we heard it,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, what is this? It was Jay jay

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<v Speaker 1>Z was like, this is a hit record. He looked

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<v Speaker 1>at Jay it was like, really he was right, It

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<v Speaker 1>was right. But also for us that survival mentality, for

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<v Speaker 1>your dad and I, we were like, oh man, she'll

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<v Speaker 1>be set up for life and this is her start

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<v Speaker 1>with having that mind state of survival. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>have a child. Well, now with somebody else's survival. What

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<v Speaker 1>happens if we lose everything because it happens to blow

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<v Speaker 1>all of our money, what happens to our child? Make

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<v Speaker 1>them a freaking workaholic? Soldiers always always survived. Let me

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<v Speaker 1>ask you a question, the upset that came with that.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you shaving your head have anything to do? What

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<v Speaker 1>had everything to do with it? So for me, there's

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<v Speaker 1>a Nirvana lyric that says, I shaved my head and

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm not sad. And all this time I thought

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<v Speaker 1>you wanted to shave your head because my hair was short, Like, so,

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<v Speaker 1>what was the reason it? Did you think it was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna make you happy? Did you think it was a

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<v Speaker 1>symbol of freedom? Wasn't rebellion? It was honestly all of that.

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<v Speaker 1>You had a hit single out and you were like,

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<v Speaker 1>this sucks. I don't like this lifestyle. And guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>to put a big middle finger up to everybody, including

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<v Speaker 1>my parents, I'm freaking shaving my head because Kurt Cobain

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<v Speaker 1>said so, just because I'm done. It's not what I want.

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<v Speaker 1>When I realized, even as a parent, and this goes

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<v Speaker 1>back to you, mom, this goes back to you. Okay

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<v Speaker 1>mm hmm. I hate when I get no because you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I think parents have to give themselves much

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<v Speaker 1>more forgiveness. When you become a parent, you have these

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<v Speaker 1>huge ideals, even for yourself, because we all are coming

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<v Speaker 1>into parenting with our own childhood traumas and you're hoping

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<v Speaker 1>that you can fix all that through your own rearing

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<v Speaker 1>of your children, and you can't. Your kids are gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have their burdens. And even though I see how it

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<v Speaker 1>might have hurt you. It's what I knew. I remember

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<v Speaker 1>Will called me and he was like, have you talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this with Jaden and him wearing a skirt, And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, yeah, you had your moment of rebellion.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to the same thing that Willow went through

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<v Speaker 1>with with with my hair, with Karate Killers happening at

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<v Speaker 1>the same time. I remember being on set with Will

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<v Speaker 1>and it was such a struggle between he and I

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<v Speaker 1>in regards to Jaden, and I understand why men take

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<v Speaker 1>their sons away for like whatever kind of warrior training,

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<v Speaker 1>because it is completely utterly unfair and unnatural for a

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<v Speaker 1>woman to have to sit and watch anything like that

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<v Speaker 1>for her son. And Will and I were in constant

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<v Speaker 1>remember conflict. I mean to the point that we were

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<v Speaker 1>worrying over Jaden. Your work ethic was off the chain.

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<v Speaker 1>All happened in this room. Yeah, yeah, I did. The

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<v Speaker 1>poster was shot in this room. Show it was in

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<v Speaker 1>this spot, right, and that's weird. And I remember I

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<v Speaker 1>remember the moment because I asked you you went down

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<v Speaker 1>into that full split and he was in tears, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm done, and he looked at me.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, mom, I'm good. Damn. He got up and

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<v Speaker 1>he said, let's do it again. Even in those battles

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<v Speaker 1>that we've had over what's too much, what's too little,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to find the balance in regards to parenting. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>tell you one thing about the two of y'all. Y'all

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<v Speaker 1>know how to work. Y'all work hard, and y'all do

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<v Speaker 1>it well, and I'm proud of that. I give Jaden props.

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<v Speaker 1>Jaden the Louis Vuitton ad mean, you decided to wear

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<v Speaker 1>a skirt. I got an offer to be signed to

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<v Speaker 1>Louis Women's. Yeah, but Jaden, it's because you were wearing skirts,

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<v Speaker 1>because they even you got the idea to sign you

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<v Speaker 1>to Louis Vaton women. Do you understand like being a

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<v Speaker 1>black young man and the sun of like an uber

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<v Speaker 1>masculine killing aliens as hipop star, you know what I mean? Like, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>his feelings on that for sure. I remember Will called

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<v Speaker 1>me and he was like, have you talked about this

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<v Speaker 1>with with with with Jaden with whip whip and and

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<v Speaker 1>and him wearing a skirt. I was like, you have, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so he's pretty happy about it. Simple, don't even say

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<v Speaker 1>anything else. Yeah, you talked about wanting to wear skirts

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<v Speaker 1>to give kids the freedom to give other people to

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<v Speaker 1>freedom to think out of the box for themselves and

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<v Speaker 1>not to feel like in doing that that they would

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<v Speaker 1>be bullied or be attacked in some that comes along

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<v Speaker 1>with it. Got it. But it's like I wore the

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<v Speaker 1>skirt so I could look fly. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's that's why I wore the skirt so that everybody

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<v Speaker 1>would say she's an innovator. It's an innovator. His heads

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<v Speaker 1>in a different place. So here we have some questions

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<v Speaker 1>from our Facebook watch guys, you got questions from my face?

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<v Speaker 1>Why choose? Go ahead? Take take one? Take one? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Take one? Well, I have an easy one, so you

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<v Speaker 1>guys keep picking. And this one says, how do you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about Will's Instagram? I'm not putting you in my Instagram?

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<v Speaker 1>This is just mine. It's like if you don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be oh my, I mean, I'm just saying I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't like put you put you in it and didn't

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<v Speaker 1>use you on my Instagram. That's the cheap awesome. He's

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<v Speaker 1>having a blast doing it, and I'm having a blast

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<v Speaker 1>is watching it. It's hilarious. What's one rule you're proud

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<v Speaker 1>of breaking every damn rule there is. Yeah. Is it

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<v Speaker 1>okay for parents to track their kids remotely? Yes? Actually

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<v Speaker 1>I was just thinking about this for safety reasons. All

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<v Speaker 1>of the cars, including mine, need to have trackers in them. Done. Yeah, God,

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<v Speaker 1>they actually asked for it. Is punishment a necessary part

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<v Speaker 1>of parenting? Okay? For me, disappointment is punishment. Mmm. I

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<v Speaker 1>respect my parents so much that disappointment is like a

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<v Speaker 1>knife in my heart. I want to be a person

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<v Speaker 1>that my parents want to look at, that my parents

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<v Speaker 1>are proud of. That's it. Who family friends, gratitude, gratitude,

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for being our our guests. Yes, Jaden, him

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<v Speaker 1>and Jaded guys. Yes, so are we supposed that when

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing that? Are you talking to the Facebook family?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you? That's just another camera. My first sexual experience

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<v Speaker 1>was amazing. I wouldn't say amazing like on our next

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<v Speaker 1>Red Tabletop we were talking about sex. Oh, I knew

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<v Speaker 1>the night Jaden lost his virginity, did you now? My

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<v Speaker 1>introduction to sex was obviously walking in on you and

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy m that's until the next show. Need to do

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