WEBVTT - "Does It Ever Get Easier?" - Part 1 (Outweigh) 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.520 I won't let my body out be outwait everything that 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.960 I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change. 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.520 I'm learning love who I am, I get I'm strong, 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.880 I feel free, I know everybody of me. 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:18.840 It is beautiful. 0:00:19.520 --> 0:00:24.520 And that will always out way if you feel it. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:24.759 But you. 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:28.280 She'll some love to the food. I get that. 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:36.600 Say you one day and did you and die out way. 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:36.400 Happy Saturday out way. 0:00:36.520 --> 0:00:39.240 I'm Leanne Ellington, and we are here to talk about 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:41.920 one of the questions that I hear all the time 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:45.440 from women that are stuck inside the food and body prison, 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:49.960 which is does it get easier? And that really is 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:55.080 the million dollar question that doesn't have a completely simple answer, 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:57.279 but we are going to simplify it as much as 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.680 we possibly can today, okay, and then stay next week. 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:02.640 I'm going to give you kind of like a nitty 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:05.960 gritty checklist that you can literally use to make sure 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:09.959 that you are teaching your brain how to practice ease 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.480 versus teaching your brain to practice hard. And it's kind 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.080 of like learning how to speak the language of ease 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:19.480 that your nervous system is looking to learn, not just 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.040 your mind. So we're going to distinguish between those two things. 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.479 But I'm going to go ahead and just dive on in. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.479 So I know it's April of twenty twenty four right 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:30.200 now when I'm recording this, but I want to flash 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:33.280 back to the holiday season of two thousand and eight 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:37.760 through twenty thirteen, and so back in what really seems 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:40.679 like a former lifetime when I own my own fitness 0:01:40.680 --> 0:01:44.000 studio for women, I used to offer this thing called 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:48.320 a twenty eight day Holiday Body Challenge, and so every 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.800 single year, what would happen is fifty or so women 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.920 would sign up to work with me during you know 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:55.680 that tricky time of year between Halloween and New Year's 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:58.760 while I guided them through the process of you know, 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:01.600 I'm putting this in air quotes, but dropping pounds fast 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.880 or getting in their skinny genes by New Year's or 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:07.720 getting rid of that muffin top or whatever words I 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:09.880 was using in my marketing at the time, right And 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.639 so for the record, I'm no, I'm not proud of that, 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.200 but it's just who I was at the time, and 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.680 I didn't know what I didn't know, and I used 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.639 to punish myself more or less for you know, passing 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:24.480 on the diet mentality to other women, but I've reconciled 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:27.240 that shame now and here I am, and I believe 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:27.840 I'm using. 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:28.240 It for good. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.040 But back to this holiday challenge. Okay, So no, it 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:34.240 wasn't rocket science. I would just put them on a 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:37.360 calorie restricted meal plan and have them come to my 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:40.440 personal training studio or my fitness studio at least three 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:42.880 times a week to work out, and then we would 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:46.640 strategically use the holiday so things like Thanksgiving Day or 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.160 Christmas Day as a cheat day. And again I'm putting 0:02:50.160 --> 0:02:53.120 that in air quotes, and I know I don't like 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:56.000 to use words like cheat anymore, but again I didn't 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.080 know what I didn't know, and those were the words 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:00.760 that I was using, right, And so, of course, as 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:03.680 you do when you're in that weight loss challenge mode, 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.120 we took pictures and measurements and body fat percentages to 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:11.200 measure their progress. And so, as you can probably imagine, 0:03:11.320 --> 0:03:15.240 you know, pounds were dropped and physiques were chiseled, and 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:19.639 body shaping happened right before our very eyes. And yeah, 0:03:19.720 --> 0:03:24.040 it all worked until it didn't work anymore, right, And 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:26.800 so things were great for thirty days or six weeks, 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:30.680 But what happened after that. Well, that's the part that 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.840 my own shame and fear of failure really didn't allow 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:36.840 me to share for a long time. Because the truth 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:41.200 is that come January first, that dreaded bounce back effect 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.960 was already in full force. Okay, they had grown tired 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.280 of eking out the energy to monitor and count and 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.320 measure and track every morsel of food that touched their lips, 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:55.240 and their bodies were exhausted. They were sore and overtrained 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:59.200 and in need of some major recovery after the literal 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:02.800 and metaphoric sprint that they just participated in. But also 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.560 their mojo was shot, like they just spent all of 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:10.040 that time and energy using their limited stores of willpower 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:13.440 and motivation to keep things going for that few weeks 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:15.600 that they were there, that by the time the new 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:18.960 year struck, they had officially nothing left to give, right, 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:22.839 and their mindsets were starting to bounce back to whatever 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:27.560 their default was, and oftentimes it was that good, bad, black, 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.560 white in out all or nothing thought process that was 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.040 perpetuating their problems in. 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:33.560 The first place. 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.080 And so yes, I'm sharing examples from the holiday season, 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:40.880 but the problem that I'm talking about here is this 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.720 year round thing right, and looking back, I know exactly 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:49.200 why it happened to Okay, we only made over part 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:52.840 of them. We didn't do what needed to be done 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:56.720 on the inside, like the headwork, addressing the actual problem, 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.960 addressing the right problem, I should say, and creating actual 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:04.839 brain change. We never addressed the cause of their struggles, 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:08.919 their relationship with food, their relationship with their body. We 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:13.480 just essentially threw another diet, another plan, and another short 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:16.760 term band aid at the bigger problem. And so here's 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:21.520 what inevitably happened as a result. Okay, the change was temporary, 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:24.960 and to be on, they always had to be on, 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.280 like they were playing a game of all or nothing, 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:30.320 and they were either in or they were out, and 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:34.640 we were addressing the symptoms and never addressed the causes 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:37.720 going on upstream in their brain. So think about it 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.200 once all of that, you know, go hard or go 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.880 home kind of motivational raw raw wears off. We all 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.440 go back to our own default thinking and our own 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:50.320 default way of living in habits, because we are creatures 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:53.000 of habit and like that part really is just science, right, 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:56.560 And boy oh boy, the truth that I'm sharing today 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:58.839 costs me a lot of shame. 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:02.000 And heartache. And again the truth was, I didn't know 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:02.680 what I didn't know. 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:06.159 But in reality, this was some of the most valuable 0:06:06.200 --> 0:06:09.960 experimentation that I ever conducted, because here's what I discovered 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:13.200 as a result. Some of my clients really only did 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.599 need to change their diet or start exercising more, or 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.919 just be mindful of what they were eating. And so 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:21.640 for some of those women work out in nutrition programs, 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.880 that was enough to completely change their life forever, right, 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:27.760 But most of them needed more. Most of them were 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:30.840 being held back by something bigger, and most of them 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:33.440 were caught up in the same up down, short term 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.560 you know roller coaster that I had been stuck on 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:38.560 for decades, And it's that same roller coaster that kept 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.720 me feeling like a slave to dieting and a slave 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:44.599 to working out harder, faster more. And just like me, 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:48.000 none of them really had a food problem per se, 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.920 or a motivation problem. It was a thinking problem. It 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:54.400 was the kind of thinking that they downloaded, they developed. 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.640 It was a language that they learned to speak, and 0:06:56.720 --> 0:07:00.400 more specifically, it was the diet mentality language that was 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:04.200 causing and perpetuating the problem. And so that all or nothing, 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:08.640 Black white up down roller coaster was the problem. But again, 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:10.880 if you think that that's normal, or you think that 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.400 that's something that you want to keep getting good at, 0:07:13.680 --> 0:07:15.560 you keep getting back on it, back on it, back 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:18.520 on it until you realize that that's the real problem. 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:21.000 But when you're in it, when you're on it, it feels 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.560 like you can't ever get off of it, or if 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:26.000 you do, you just become terrified that you're going to go, 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:27.800 you know, gain a bunch of weight or go off 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.760 this metaphorical deep end. And either way, what happens is 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:32.760 you end up just feeling like a slave to it, 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.240 like you are a hostage. It controls you, It controls 0:07:36.280 --> 0:07:38.880 your life more than you do. And so we've talked 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.360 about this a lot on this podcast, and the fact 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:43.960 that you're never going to be able to outdiet or 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:48.400 outwillpower or outsmart your relationship with food, like never, it's 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.000 not going to be able to happen, and trying to 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:55.040 address your internal struggles or the current wiring in your 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:58.119 brain that's causing you to think and act and feel 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:00.880 and behave the way that you currently are around food 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:04.480 or just feel about your body, and trying to combat 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.840 that with another diet or another exercise program. 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:09.800 I mean it with so much love, but it really 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:11.400 is just a recipe for failure. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:13.960 Like I can flat out guarantee that that will not 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:17.280 solve the bigger problem because again, you'll never be able 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:21.120 to outwill power or outsmart your current relationship with food, 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.760 your current relationship with your body, and really until you 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.120 swim upstream. And I'm putting that in air quotes because 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:28.720 what I really mean is I'm pointing to the brain, 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:32.520 the nervous system, the source of the problem, and really 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:35.760 go address your relationship with food and the wiring in 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:39.880 your brain and go heal that. Diets will end and 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.679 they will fail you, and not because you're a failure, 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.439 but they set you up to fail because your brain 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.520 will never get good at them, and you're going to 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.920 stay stuck on that all or nothing diet roller coaster 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:55.719 because the solution does not live in another diet or 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:56.720 program or plan. 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:58.760 And trust me, like I wish it did. 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.040 At one point in time, I try to outdiet and 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:04.160 outwill my food struggles and the sugar addictions that I 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.400 realized were not really sugar addiction. It was just I 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.280 practiced a thought process and a pattern of it was 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.000 more like a recipe of thoughts and beliefs and behaviors 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.600 that made me feel like I was addicted to sugar, 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:18.000 and that's what I was practicing for decades. But bottom line, 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:20.719 you can't outdiet that it will never get healed from 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:23.439 a diet or a losing weight or a workout program, 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:27.400 because you'll just bring the old thinking with you, which 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:30.000 is really that definition of insanity, you know, doing the 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.640 same thing over and over and again and expecting a 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:36.360 different result. But when you change what you are seeing, 0:09:36.440 --> 0:09:38.680 and when I say seeing, I mean seeing in you, 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.240 when you're what you're seeing when it comes to what 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.520 you think food will like, the void that it will 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.800 or will not fill, right, and what you're saying to 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:49.520 yourself and about yourself. So when you see what when 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:51.520 you change what you're seeing and saying to yourself and 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:54.400 about yourself, which is really the self image and the identity. 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:57.240 But then also, yeah, you do need a better strategy 0:09:57.280 --> 0:09:59.319 and system of thinking around food because the whole eat 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:02.320 less move more calories in, calories out thing. That's a 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:05.920 logic and reason solution to a deeper emotional struggle. Right, 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.520 But when you change all of that and yes, get 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:12.520 a better strategy. That is when the diet madness, or 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:17.320 the body dysmorphia, or the toxic disordered relationship with food 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:20.600 can finally come to an end and the real healing 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:28.360 can begin. But when you change all of that and yes, 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.200 get a better strategy, that is when the diet madness, 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:37.040 or the body dysmorphia, or the toxic disordered relationship with 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.120 food can finally come to an end and the real 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:44.080 healing can begin. And so that's the part where it's like, okay, Leanne, simple, 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:46.920 not easy, especially if I've been practicing this my whole life. 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:49.720 And that's where you know, it's like, okay, is there 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:50.120 a catch? 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:52.560 It's the number one thing I hear when people are like, Leanne, 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:54.080 I don't even know if that's possible. 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.160 Is there a catch? And there is a catch. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:58.199 And it's really like a catch twenty two more and 0:10:58.280 --> 0:10:59.920 more so, I should say, and I call it the 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:03.240 catch twenty two of dieting because I've never met a 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.520 woman that struggles with food or struggles with her body 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:10.600 that isn't absolutely one thousand percent sick and tired of 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:14.000 dieting right, or sick and tired of constantly weighing and 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.600 measuring and calculating because that's what she thinks will keep 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:19.560 her in control, or sick of, you know, stressing and 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.640 guessing and obsessing over every morsel of food that touches 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:25.160 her lips or her weight, right, and then of course, 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.360 like you can't help but be sick of all of 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:29.920 the judgment and the self criticism and the self loathing, 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.240 and don't even get me started on the shame, like 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:34.839 the shame prison that that keeps you in, and then 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:38.319 of course getting sick of valuing yourself based on how 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.440 much you weigh or how much you ate that day, 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:44.040 and sick of absolutely living in a prison, right, a 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:47.280 prison that is, it's a body prison, it's a food prison, 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.080 it's an emotional prison that when you're in it, you 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:51.920 don't even know how to get out of it because 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:54.440 it seems like it just seems normal. And so when 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.880 I talk to women about what they're currently doing to 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:00.439 address all of those struggles that I just mentioned, ironically, 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:03.439 dieting is the number one thing I hear, or controlling 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.160 themselves more is the number one thing I hear. And 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:09.880 so what's happening is, you know, when you're in that cycle, 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:12.000 like I said, it feels impossible to get out of it. 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.559 You're actively voting on the thing that you hate and 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:19.280 actively choosing the thing that's keeping you stuck in the prison, 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:24.040 and actively choosing something that you've probably identified hasn't worked 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.800 and isn't working, and if you get really honest with yourself, 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:29.640 you know will never work. And that's why I call 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:32.080 it a catch twenty two because first of all, there's 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:35.160 absolutely no shame and no judgment around this whatsoever, Like 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.680 this is the cycle that I was stuck in for decades, 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:40.560 And of course there's nothing but love and compassion for 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:42.800 those of you if you're listening to this and you're 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:45.480 stuck on that same up and down roller coaster. But 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:48.960 it absolutely stinks, right and it is a prison. And 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:51.000 that's why I'm simply here to just point it out 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.840 and shed some awareness and hopefully just shine a light 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:56.679 on this catch twenty two that a lot of women 0:12:56.960 --> 0:13:00.880 don't even realize they have become entangled in. Importantly, it's 0:13:00.920 --> 0:13:03.520 really an invitation, because that's what this podcast is all about. 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:06.720 We're here for just weekly doses of inspiration and motivation, 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:10.240 but also an invitation, like what if instead of committing 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:14.840 to another diet or another quick fix. You first identified 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:19.000 and got really clear on what's not working right, and 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:21.640 you created an awareness of what not to do more 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:24.000 of and the road to not keep going down. Like 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:27.400 what if that was the first step, right, instead of 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.200 committing to another thing or to do or a you know, 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:33.080 do this, eat this, don't eat that. It's like, no, 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:35.120 I am going to just draw that line in the 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:37.480 sand and stop committing to all the things that I 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.439 know don't work and not witness myself trying to commit 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:42.840 to something that I know will never work. And that's 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:45.640 when you can get really curious about your struggles instead 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:49.000 of keeping you in them, and you can identify what's 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:52.040 not working instead of going down the roads that aren't working. 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:54.520 Like that's a big difference too, Like, and what if 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:56.120 that was the game plan? 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.520 And again, I know that might not sound as sexy 0:13:58.559 --> 0:13:59.120 as you know. 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:02.320 Oh, I've got to get into action action action, because 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:03.360 it's not a game plan. 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:04.640 There's no action steps. 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:06.640 It's not like a go get them tiger, let's raw 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.280 rah and hustle, right, It's really just an awareness and 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:13.720 thought and mindfulness and insight and a decision to stop 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:16.240 going down the roads that you know won't ever work. 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.000 And so when you commit. 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:21.960 To just stopping the insanity, what thoughts does that spark 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:23.040 in your beautiful brain? 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:23.440 Right? 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:25.440 And that's really what we're here to do today, is 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:29.120 help you shift the thinking that's causing your current results 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:32.400 and outcomes. And if you're listening to this podcast, it's 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.960 probably because you know the subject of health or what 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:37.720 to eat or what not to eat, or food or 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.800 your body, they are eluding you, right, And if you're 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:44.280 stuck in the prison or feeling like a prisoner to 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:46.360 you know, gaining and losing and gaining and losing, or 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:50.000 feeling obsessed over that loss or that gain, or simply 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:52.520 stuck in the black white, all or nothing binge restrict 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.600 roller coaster, or if you're like me and you are 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:58.480 just falling through the cracks because maybe you don't fit 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:02.200 neat and tidy into a category of a typical eating disorder. 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:03.880 That was for me, I was just like, Okay, if 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:05.400 I don't have an eating disorder, what is this? 0:15:05.520 --> 0:15:06.120 It felt like a. 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:08.960 Gray area, right, And that gray area can make you 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:11.640 feel very stuck and alone. But that's why it's so 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:15.200 important to just have these conversations like to get really 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:18.200 real And yeah, I mean, you can play the diet 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:20.160 game and you can play it over and over again 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:22.720 and never break the cycle. Or you can do what 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:24.960 we're doing right here, which is to change your thinking 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:27.920 and get really real about the problem that's causing the 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.280 struggles so that you can break out of the definition 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.680 of insanity. But that being said, and I mean this 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:35.520 with so much love, and I hope you're taking it 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.040 with the love that I mean it. If you want 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.840 to do differently, you do have to think differently, and 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.400 you have to break the cycle of insanity and not 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:47.880 fool yourself into thinking like, oh maybe one day control, restrict, deprive, 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:50.440 you know, obsess over my food, over food and my 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:52.720 weight will actually work, because I'm telling you, it will 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:54.640 just create more of the obsession. 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:55.680 And here's the thing. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:59.560 Most women, unfortunately, I mean, they won't stop and do this, 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.120 or they don't think that this work is sexy. It's 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:04.320 not as sexy as lose twenty pounds and twenty minutes, 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:06.480 you know what I mean. And a lot of women 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:08.720 will just go look for the next game of control 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:11.480 or the next action item. But those of you that 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:15.320 do that, stop the definition of insanity, You're going to 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:18.600 find that your journey to healing and to finally ending 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:22.440 the suffering and struggling can actually begin. And so, coming 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:24.480 back to the question at the top of this episode 0:16:24.480 --> 0:16:27.080 of like, does it ever get easier? And so the 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:31.040 short answer is yes if you practice ease, and the 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:35.760 short answer is no if you practice hard. And so 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:37.560 we're going to get into the nitty gritty of what 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:40.040 I mean by that and what that looks like specifically 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:41.960 next week, and I'm literally going to give you a 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:44.680 checklist of what your brain and your nervous system dictates 0:16:44.680 --> 0:16:47.360 as hard and easy so that you can, like, you know, 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:49.560 use it as kind of a check in with yourself 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:52.640 to make sure that you're teaching your brain ease as 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.520 opposed to taking it down the dead end road of 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:58.760 practicing hard. Okay, So I hope today's conversation simply opened 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.440 your eyes, or maybe just played some seeds, or sometimes 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.200 we just need a mirror to be held up to 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:05.840 us to realize, Okay, what I'm doing is not working 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:07.959 and it's not going to create happiness, and it's actually 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:11.159 out voting health and out voting happiness. And that's the 0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:13.480 conversation I needed to have and so if that's all 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:15.760 you needed today, then I'm glad that you got that. 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:17.879 But we are going to be back next week with 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.800 more of the nitty gritty and some actionable steps that 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:23.800 you can take in the meantime, if you do want 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:25.920 to learn more about how to turn off the part 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.639 of your brain that's obsessed with food or obsessed with 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.280 your weight and really rewire your own brain for peace 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.800 and freedom, then head on over to Stresslessseeating dot com 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:38.760 and just sign up to watch the Stressless Eating sneak 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:42.560 preview where I've literally peeled back. It's really the system 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:45.840 that I teach my clients to heal themselves of the 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.320 all or nothing diet mentality for good, but without restriction 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:53.240 and punishing your body, and definitely without having to use 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.880 words like Macro's or low carb or calorie count. 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:59.440 Right. So it's all there for you, easy to access. 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:02.240 Over at stress us Eating dot com and if you 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:06.520 like outweigh, I actually have another podcast here on iheartwhere 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:08.600 I talk about all of this self image and body 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:12.200 image stuff but from the perspective of where brain science 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:15.879 inter sex faith okay, and so it's called What's God 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.040 Got to Do With it and you can access it 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:21.280 here on iHeart or wherever you get your podcast. So 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.560 that is it for today. I am Leanne Ellington and 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:25.800 I will talk to you soon. 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:28.480 Bye.