WEBVTT - Lemme Get My Life with Cristina Elkins 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.080 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:12.120 talk back back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:14.000 in for a new episode that we talked back. I 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:16.520 show dedicated to you, niggas and knees host. It's your 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:20.320 co host a J Holiday. What's up, Tam, Hey girl, 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:23.560 Hey y'all, it's me official team. I love y'all. Thank 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:25.720 y'all for tuningy and hey girl, how are you doing? 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:29.200 What's up, y'll? I'm chilling. Hey y'all, girl, Why the fund? 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:32.159 Do I get judged for not telling people I love 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:36.080 them every episode? I'm confused because we went live yesterday 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:38.800 and people was hating on me. They want your love, 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.600 they got it, they got it. I appreciate y'all. That's 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:46.360 what I do. I appreciate all of our listeners a thousand, 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:53.199 trillion percent. Okay, don't ever be mistaken, man, I love me. 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:57.360 I mean a J don't love me. Damn that Like 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:03.400 I give a funk. I don't. How's your weekend? What 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.840 the fund did I do this weekend? I did nothing, really, 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:09.640 I just cholled out the same ship. Um. I was 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.520 supposed to go to this Battle of the Bands on Sunday, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:15.240 but I skipped out on that too, so I was 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.679 just in the house this weekend. Did I do anything 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:28.360 this weekend? You want a date? Did you not? I 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:32.000 went on a date baby. This baby was twenty six 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.200 years old. I know I'm only thirty two and trans age, 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:38.319 so that didn't make it that much of an age difference. 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:42.720 But that's just the conversation was just not giving what 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:46.720 I needed it to give at all. I ain't gonna 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:48.960 talk about anything else. I'm not even gonna go there. 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:51.560 Just no, it was not the best day. And I 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:58.360 put on my fur coat, wasted my damn coat. You 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:03.240 ain't posted a picture sequal wearity again? Yeah, yeah, show live, 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.160 let it go any any below thirty out this bitch 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:11.320 and the coda is back out. You just wait. I 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:13.239 just can't wait to put the fur on. I wear 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:18.160 mine yet this year. Yeah, global warming, they're gonna make 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:19.840 it where we can't wear this bitch around here in 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:26.520 a minutett. Yeah, it's definitely. I remember like October's October 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.720 through February as a kid, it used to be like 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:32.600 brick outside, Like we had some damn eighty degree weather 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:34.440 a couple of weeks ago and then they dropped back 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:38.440 down recently, right, Like my grandma said, y'all better get 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.560 your house in order. I can't tell the season. Jesus 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:48.680 coming back soon, get together shame. I used to be 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.280 so mad at my grandma for that, Like why we 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:53.160 gotta get our house in order? And why you old? 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:56.400 You don't need all your whole ship? Now are you old? 0:02:56.400 --> 0:03:00.400 And now I gotta get my house in the way? Judgment, 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:06.880 judgment all right. This week in stupid Internet News, the 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:09.800 sins of the week, Um, did y'all see um Franklin 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.520 sat also known as Dampson driss I think that might 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:15.880 be his name. UM and Lorie Harvey have taken their 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:19.360 relationship to the next level. UM and Dampson posted on 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:23.079 Instagram and picture of them kissing and all in love 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:26.440 like you saw that? Yeah, So last month they were 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:32.000 trying to pair hair with um our our boyfriend Jonathan Major's, 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:38.080 but apparently it's it's been Dampson she's been dating, so 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:42.800 the Internet is trying to drag her as always per usual. Uh, 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:44.880 Meek Mills took it, took the online and was like, 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:47.200 yall like basically like y'all need to get your home 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.119 girl type ship, Like, why I'll let your whole girl 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:51.680 for all these niggas, Like whose business is that we 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:53.840 don't know who this woman has had sex with? And 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:59.000 I'm pretty sure is less than the regular daglasmegla woman 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.440 out here. Okay, And here's the thing, right, if you 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:05.000 put a microscope on any woman's life, you might see 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.600 a couple of men, and any single woman right your 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.240 microscope her life, you'll see that she's dated men, you know, 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.680 especially if she's attractive and she can have her pick 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:14.920 of the litter, and they're calling her a pass around. 0:04:14.960 --> 0:04:17.120 Let's wait, all right, let's we'll pass her around. But 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:19.520 when she's gonna be passed to your ass never? And 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:27.320 that's why because your Christmas left, two Christmas is ago, fall, 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:29.800 Christmas is to go, and she didn't went tow different 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.040 niggas and not your ass he cod Oh my goddamn nerve. 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:35.200 I wish Meek knows could just I still I still 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.919 loves but he is just very problematic lately. How you 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:41.480 getting a boxing match at the boxing match down and 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:49.440 watch your hands down and watch the festivities. So now 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:53.039 I did see recently where Lorie Harvey was on um 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.840 an E News interview, and she was asked, you know 0:04:57.120 --> 0:05:01.320 what's like some of the misconceptions um and like the 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.080 biggest rumors she's heard about herself. So one she said, 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:05.840 you know, I even heard it I was a lesbian. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.239 So she said that was a rumor, and like, damn, 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:15.720 shut up, lesbian, shut up. You don't even like ch 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.599 for real. No, I just been talking to go ahead, 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.880 But she said, so. The other misconception was or the 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:26.640 other big rumor was that she had dated um a 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:29.120 son and father. She said that wasn't true. And you 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.279 know they're talking about Diddy and Justin, So I wonder 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.839 which one she actually dated, because you were hanging out 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:41.120 with Diddy both. Yeah, you definitely, we saw yeah, we 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:45.760 see you out. Yeah. Just because she's hanging out with men, 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.400 that does not equate to her smashing everybody. I need 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:50.440 people to mind in business when it comes to Lorie Harvey. 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:54.360 She's a beautiful girl and she she's popping and she's 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.440 not getting pregnant by none of these niggas. That's the 0:05:56.480 --> 0:06:00.640 blessing in it all. I love it. Don't get these 0:06:00.680 --> 0:06:07.800 men come in you ladies? All three? Al right? So 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:13.560 like next for sin stupid internet news this. Um. I 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:17.520 actually saw this on Spiritual World. So this is a 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:22.960 Twitter feed from a woman. Her at is my teacher 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:26.200 a freak. I cream in your coffee. So apparently her 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:30.880 and her boyfriend they do only fans videos together and 0:06:31.000 --> 0:06:34.880 like essentially their porn stars. So she took the Twitter 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.039 to explain like what had been happening between her and 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.200 her boyfriend. So she said, can I tell you guys 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:43.560 a super embarrassing story that really had me hurt. We 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:46.600 went to go work with this girl and when she 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:50.000 would suck his dick, it would be on brick. When 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:54.200 we would switch, his dick would go on noodle. Then 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:57.160 when she was riding him, he almost nutted four times. 0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.240 That was the day I lied to myself, even though 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:04.280 I knew what it really was. Being a content creator 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:06.919 is fun until you are working with other girls and 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.320 they called I guess pooring his content creation. Now, I 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:13.880 don't know if you put a camera on anything, it's 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:18.880 our content creation working with other girls and your man 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.480 can't keep his dick up for you. But every time 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.600 is the other girls turning, He's like a brick the ship. 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:30.560 Nobody tells you. So um. She actually took to Twitter 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:38.160 spaces her and a boyfriend slash coworker um content creator 0:07:38.640 --> 0:07:42.400 right to talk about what's actually transpiring in their relationship, 0:07:43.040 --> 0:07:46.280 and he was basically saying, it has nothing to do 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:50.559 with you physically. I think oftentimes women, if a man isn't, 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:52.880 you know, showing us that affection on an intimacy, we 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:55.960 automatically go to think it's like there's something wrong with 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.840 how look and then you're comparing yourself to how another 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.840 woman looks. Right, So, if you're in a sexual setting, 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:04.880 y'all fucking and and and all this stuff, and his 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:06.800 dick is getting hard for somebody else and not you. 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:08.840 He doesn't like me no more. He doesn't like my 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.360 pussy no more, he don't like my face no more. 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:13.960 And also she was saying, like the girls are thicker, 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.240 like bigger than her, you know, more thicker girl. So 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.320 it's like, if that's what you like, why don't you 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:23.640 just do that? So on Twitter spaces he was saying, Um, 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:25.200 you know, it doesn't have anything to do with you 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:29.960 how you look athetically. Um, there's other things like, um, 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:34.640 one is that this is a new girl. We know 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.800 men like variety, especially if you're actually letting him have 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:41.120 a variety like he's sucking you and whoever else you're 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.640 recording it, that's a good time for a man, right you. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:48.520 You've invited this thing into your relationship slash uh coworker relationship. 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:52.160 I don't know, um, but I think it's the home 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.760 things that's been getting to him. But my thing was, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.479 why didn't you have Why don't you have a conversation 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.920 with her privately? Why the hell is this conversation taking 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:03.720 place on goddamn Twitter spaces? Even if y'all have like 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:09.560 this public life, that's hella embarrassing, right, But I mean 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:12.440 if you're all sucking on camera, seemed like y'all can 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:17.840 talk about it in public, right Yeah, But apparently they 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:20.040 can't because she's thinking like, oh, it's how I look 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:21.839 is the problem, And he's like, no, I don't. I 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:25.920 don't really like your personality anymore. That's why his dick 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:29.120 ain't getting hard. Yeah, because it's not like the dick 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.920 don't work. It clearly works, right, it just don't work 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:35.959 for you. I would have noted that whole motherfucking's said 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:38.800 all over the cameras lights it with a look like 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:42.480 an episode of Jared Springer, because don't do that. Don't 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.439 play me like that. You're dick. Better rise. You got 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.400 thirty seconds for their brotherfucker to get up before this 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:49.040 ship turned into something different. But you better get out 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:53.840 of the way. But I thought that ship was hilarious. 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:55.360 I don't know. They might need to go to therapy 0:09:55.480 --> 0:09:57.560 or just split up, y'all. Man, I think it's trying 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:01.679 to break up. Weird. Yeah, yeah, it's trying to b up. Yeah. 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:04.600 Could you imagine that? Well, first of all, I'm just 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:08.480 not participating in nothing like that. I don't think. Yeah, 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:11.120 but I could not imagine him like going noodle for 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.480 me and then like rock hard for somebody else and 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:18.800 I'm standing there looking at me. Everybody got the die. 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:27.439 He got somebody else to do it. Meanwhile, Michael B. 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:31.319 Jordan's is rumored to be dating some uh white model 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:35.000 named Amber Jepson. So Michael van Jordan has been spending 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.960 more time in the UK because he's like the newest 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:42.800 minority owner of the English soccer team a f C Bournemouth, 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.960 and they're saying that he's there for that, but he's 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.520 also out there with this new girl and she white. 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:53.439 I'll say, like white girls, Like thank y'all for listening. 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:58.240 But uh, I just I want him to be with 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:01.400 a black woman girl. I love me. So Michael B. 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.920 Jordan's nah, I think he. I think that I was 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.280 surprised him and um Lorie Harvey was together since we 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:10.480 back on them. I was surprised they were even in 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:14.360 a relationship. I think he might is personality maybe more 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:18.400 suited for a white woman. I think that's about right. 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:23.280 I think that um ain't no way killed manger is 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:25.920 more suited for a white woman. I cannot see that 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:29.440 he was playing a real nigger. He ain't a real nigger. 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.960 Yes he is. I don't accept that. I don't know. 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:37.040 More problems to all those people, like maybe they weren't 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.400 supposed to be together. Hopefully it's relationship with this woman, 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:41.360 and I don't know. We've heard some other little side 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:44.760 things about Michael B. Jordan's So I hope, um, I 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:53.000 hope it's a real relationship, you know, because they'd be 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.840 they'd be okay with that, they'd be down for that ship. 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:00.560 All right. So we've been real life harder. But this 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:03.840 next topic is not lighthearted at all. Over the weekend, 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:08.560 Darius Miles, he's a young man that plays basketball for Alabama. UH, 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:11.640 he shot a young lady twenty three years old and 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:15.319 killed her, and the narrative is stating that he killed 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.280 her because she didn't want to talk to him, and 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:20.720 that he shot into the vehicle that she was in 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:27.199 UM and she passed from this. According to Tuscaloosa Police 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:30.520 Department UM, the shooting occurred after an argument that had 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:34.840 unfolded into the strip off University Boulevard. That's really a 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.920 sad chain of events for this young woman and this 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:40.720 young man life because he's going to prison and she 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:43.760 is no longer with us, and you really have to 0:12:43.760 --> 0:12:47.480 think about, like the mindset of a person that would 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.600 kill you for not wanting to talk to them. Yeah. 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:53.360 So the victim's name UM is twenty three year old 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:57.600 Jamia Jamia Harris, and I can kind of relate to 0:12:57.640 --> 0:13:00.240 that situation because Tammy, I don't know about at you, 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.680 but when we started Benedict, like my freshman and my 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:04.920 first month, I literally called my mom and like I 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.959 want to come home because the men on campus was 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:10.319 being real nasty, like if you didn't hauler at them, 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:13.520 like you're getting cussed out. This is really happening to 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:15.920 me in real life. I remember at UM. You probably 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:18.440 noticed nicked to. We'll talk about it offline, but like 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:22.079 really wanting to fight me at a football game because 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:25.600 I didn't talk to his homeboy, not even him. I 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:28.040 got cussed out because I ain't talked to his homeboy. 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:31.200 So this type of ship really really happens because we 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.960 know the male ego can be very, very fresh, you 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:38.000 know what I'm saying. So now as women, we have 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:42.520 to try to navigate that in the safest way possible. 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:46.320 And to me, the safest way is to stay strapped. 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:50.520 I don't know about y'all, but just thinking, yeah, and 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:52.720 and and that's said that it has to be that way, 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.080 Like you can't turn down the person if you're not 0:13:55.160 --> 0:13:58.640 interested without having to be concerned with your life. You know, 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:03.760 I want to have alcohol, you know was involved him 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.959 and another guy who did who would who didn't actually 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:10.440 attend UM the school. They were both arrested. Um, this 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:13.120 type of ship happens, and it needs to stop. This 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.600 is not the first time where a woman has been 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.880 violated for just you know, dismissing the advances of a man. 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.960 And it's it's disgusting. It's like, can we take into 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.640 consideration like I'm your sister, I'm your mama. Look at 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.360 me in that way and then maybe you won't violating. 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:33.240 I'm stole somebody's daughter, you know. So this is unfortunate. 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:36.400 And this girl as a mother, she has a child. 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:41.320 The child was motherless. Yes, yeah, all because you can't 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.600 smash that's all. I feel like a nigg a little 0:14:43.600 --> 0:14:45.960 too scary coming up to me asking me for my number. 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:48.320 If I'm not in a position to run and get 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.360 away fast, I will just give them my number. I'll 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:56.400 give them a number. Yeah, but calling you in your face, 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.560 like they're gonna call your number right there in your face, 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:01.640 and like the same, you're real number that that's happened 0:15:01.640 --> 0:15:14.400 to me before I gotta go up out of here. Look, 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:16.280 I usually give him the real number of him call 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:19.680 one time and block him. Yeah, that's all I do. 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:22.280 That's all I do. But it's a shame that we 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.360 have to even go through um those measures. But I mean, 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:27.280 it's just the world that we live in, and it's 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:30.160 nothing that I don't think. There's nothing that a woman 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:34.160 can do Differently, something's a change amongst men because we 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.840 have a lot of real life predators out here, and 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:40.040 they just have that they have that predatory setting on. 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:44.400 He could be a nice basketball player, good students, straight, 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:48.000 A's all that, but something something happens, and that's that's 0:15:48.000 --> 0:15:50.200 in his setting. That's he doesn't have that filter on 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:53.960 and not be a fucking animal right and take somebody's 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:55.880 life because they don't want to talk to you. Like, 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:58.240 that's so wild to me. He probably should have been 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:00.000 in jail a long time ago if that was all 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:02.320 it to know, Yes, because there's no way this is 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:04.920 the first time he's He probably has been violating women 0:16:05.000 --> 0:16:07.800 before in some type of way, Like I don't understand 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:12.720 how you go from loving women to this being you 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:14.320 know what you do to a stranger or I don't 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.120 know if he knew her. I don't know the official story, 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:18.440 but this is what I saw a family member put 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:22.120 out on social media, like my child is dead because 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:29.240 she wouldn't holler at you. Essentially black crime child. Ladies, 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:32.960 strap up, get your gun? Is your listen? That's your 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.600 rights in American until they change the gun laws and 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:39.920 make it safer on this planet for us practice it. Yes, 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:44.120 ye okay, so as you're listening. I don't know if 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:47.920 you knew, but today is national Women's Healthy Weight Day 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.080 and it falls every on every Thursday of the third 0:16:51.200 --> 0:16:54.600 full week in January. And we have something very important 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.600 to tell you. Each of us is unique in our 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:59.240 own way. A healthy way is the natural body weight 0:16:59.280 --> 0:17:02.560 in relation to being healthy is defined by physical, mental, 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.600 and social well being, which means getting the right amount 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:10.960 of nutrition, exercise, mental stability, and sleep. So the first 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:14.080 thing that people notice about us is our physical appearance, obviously, 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.600 so it's no surprise that we get so conscious when 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.920 someone mentions our weight. Sadly, many people believe that being 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:23.040 thin is equal to being healthy, y'all. That is not true. 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:27.360 Being skinny isn't always healthy. We could be healthier than 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:30.040 a person who weighs less than us. We're gonna have 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.760 a conversation about being healthy and what that looks like 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:39.960 for all of us, So stay tuned. Alright, guys, I 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:43.160 know before the break I mentioned that today is Women's 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:46.760 Healthy Weight Day. So today we got someone on very 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:50.520 special to and dear to my heart, Miss Christina Elkins 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:55.240 on Instagram. She's organic Chrissie, and she is all things healthy. 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:59.000 She has taught me so much about diet and exercise, 0:17:59.320 --> 0:18:01.880 and she's just a a bitch overall. So I just 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.359 wanted I wanted to have a conversation with her because 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:07.840 I want all our listeners to live their best, healthy life. 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:10.960 And you know understand that you don't have to be 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:15.040 skinny to be healthy. So we're gonna get into that. Hey, girl, 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:18.040 what's up. It's great to see you guys. You guys 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:22.639 look beautiful. Thank you so to you. Y'all listen if 0:18:22.680 --> 0:18:25.080 y'all listen to only audio, I guess we ain't putting 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:29.679 our videos like that. But she has humongous, beautiful afro 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:32.760 puffs and she's just a bad bitch. She rocked rough 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:36.199 and stuff with her afro process every day. Thank you 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:42.320 guys for having me on the show. So Christina used 0:18:42.320 --> 0:18:46.360 to be a chubby girl. How did you transition? Like 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:48.560 you one day you woke up and you was like, 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:50.960 I want to be fit or what happened? To be 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:55.000 honest with you, you know, especially now we live in 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:58.720 the world where you know, plus size women women and 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:03.800 just being calm, sitable within your body is a very 0:19:03.840 --> 0:19:07.440 strong wave. And you know, I always let people know 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:11.000 you have to love yourself every step of the way, 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:13.520 whether you're on the bigger end the smaller end. It 0:19:13.560 --> 0:19:17.880 doesn't matter that self love is key, but for me personally, 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:22.080 I am only five one, so I am truly a 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:26.040 definition of a shorty. Okay, and at being five one 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:29.159 my biggest way. Um well, the last I stepped on 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:32.280 the scale, I saw two d and seventeen pounds. For 0:19:32.359 --> 0:19:35.400 anyone who is that short, that really feels like three 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:39.600 hundred pounds, you know. So I was very uncomfortable. Did 0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:42.320 I love who I was as a person? Yes? Was 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:47.920 I still smiley, big personality, you know, everything that Chrissie 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:51.800 is now. I was still that girl, great mom, great work, 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.920 or great friend. But I was not happy with how 0:19:56.320 --> 0:20:01.359 I felt in that way. So I always tell my ladies, listen, 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:04.399 love yourself, but you wake you gotta wake up to 0:20:04.480 --> 0:20:08.159 you every day. So if you ever aren't fully liking 0:20:08.200 --> 0:20:10.720 what you see or how you feel, you have to 0:20:10.760 --> 0:20:14.920 make that change. And for me, that change was going 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:18.879 to the doctor, having my doctor tell me eu OBEs, 0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:22.840 but not even that. She told me you have high cholesterol, 0:20:23.480 --> 0:20:28.920 you're pre diabetic, and you know a couple of other 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:32.119 things that was linked to my lifestyle at that time. 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.919 That's nobody wants to hear that news. So once I 0:20:36.040 --> 0:20:40.480 heard that news for me plus um, being uncomfortable with 0:20:40.560 --> 0:20:44.200 the size and navigating with that plus size body at 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:48.439 that time, I decided to make the change. And what 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:52.080 did that change look like for you? Like, the first 0:20:52.080 --> 0:20:57.119 thing I knew I had to do was changed my diet. Um. 0:20:57.160 --> 0:21:01.600 And it's like I knew that I do that before 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:05.919 I became the expert that I am now, because I 0:21:06.040 --> 0:21:10.160 had a full blown relationship with food. Yes, a relationship, 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:13.600 and we all do. If you think about it, food 0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:17.080 looks and feels different for all of us. UM. A 0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:21.240 lot of our memories happy mostly are linked to food. 0:21:21.480 --> 0:21:26.520 Certain foods can bring up emotions, you know, certain drinks 0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:30.879 can make you think about certain times. So, like most Americans, 0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:34.439 I had a love affair with food. And when you 0:21:34.560 --> 0:21:38.120 couple that with the stressors of life. I was a divorced, 0:21:38.119 --> 0:21:42.119 single mom, so I was always working and grinding, trying 0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:45.320 to provide the best for my children without the support 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:48.000 of their father. So that was a stress over my head. 0:21:48.480 --> 0:21:50.560 The job I was working at the time and their 0:21:50.680 --> 0:21:54.200 high sales demands, that was a stress over my head, 0:21:54.520 --> 0:21:56.600 and just the day to day. As we as women, 0:21:57.080 --> 0:21:59.600 how we can just struggle with who we are just 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:02.960 trying to really find our identities and and love us, 0:22:03.080 --> 0:22:06.679 love ourselves who we are. All of those stressors is 0:22:06.760 --> 0:22:11.960 what major girl take comfort and food, right, So I'm 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:15.920 I'm eating, I'm drinking, I'm making any excuse. I'm getting 0:22:15.960 --> 0:22:20.639 off for work from Northstrom, Like, you know what, cheesecake. 0:22:20.800 --> 0:22:23.680 I'm gonna give me some small plates and a couple 0:22:23.680 --> 0:22:28.560 of drink flights because my boss like we made excusefu 0:22:28.840 --> 0:22:31.399 when I can't. I'm single, so I can't eat, no 0:22:31.440 --> 0:22:36.960 dick up, so i'd be eating or so well, Look, 0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:40.840 food is a comfort. Listening for it comfort y'all. And 0:22:40.960 --> 0:22:45.199 I feel like we know how to inject it, however, 0:22:45.359 --> 0:22:48.560 and whenever we want to. If we're happy, it's time 0:22:48.600 --> 0:22:50.960 to eat. If what's sad, it's time to eat. If 0:22:50.960 --> 0:22:53.760 we stress, it's time to drink. So I was going 0:22:53.800 --> 0:22:57.240 through all of those life emotions and food, what's my comfort? 0:22:57.520 --> 0:23:02.680 Point blank? Like how do you separate yourself? Like? How 0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:05.680 what did I need to separate myself from that relationship? 0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:08.760 I have a toxic relationship with food, I think because 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:11.040 there's this place down the street called Crave, and they 0:23:11.119 --> 0:23:14.520 got these two cupcakes with sixteen dollars and the biggest fuck. 0:23:14.680 --> 0:23:16.560 And when I'm feeling any type of way, I would 0:23:16.640 --> 0:23:21.159 want to bugs bunny cupcakes. But how do I, like, 0:23:21.200 --> 0:23:24.200 if I'm sad, how do I not order to bugs 0:23:24.200 --> 0:23:29.840 bunny cupcakes? How'm gonna eat carrots instead? Like? So, I, oh, 0:23:29.880 --> 0:23:33.520 go ahead, you're sitting, you won't down? Yeah, when I'm 0:23:33.600 --> 0:23:37.760 like depressed, that's what I lose weight. Okay, I get 0:23:38.240 --> 0:23:43.679 you get huh? So, so you don't eat when you're upset? No, 0:23:44.680 --> 0:23:49.480 and so relationships, I can tust on both of those 0:23:49.520 --> 0:23:53.240 because those are both issues that people have. Either they 0:23:53.280 --> 0:23:58.080 will overeat, you know, and eat and or grab all 0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:00.600 of the wrong things, or they'll shut down and not 0:24:00.680 --> 0:24:03.800 eat and drink before so, I'll first talked about Timmy's 0:24:03.880 --> 0:24:09.920