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Speaker 1: talk back back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning

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Speaker 1: in for a new episode that we talked back. I

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Speaker 1: show dedicated to you, niggas and knees host. It's your

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Speaker 1: co host a J Holiday. What's up, Tam, Hey girl,

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Speaker 1: Hey y'all, it's me official team. I love y'all. Thank

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Speaker 1: y'all for tuningy and hey girl, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'll? I'm chilling. Hey y'all, girl, Why the fund?

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Speaker 1: Do I get judged for not telling people I love

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Speaker 1: them every episode? I'm confused because we went live yesterday

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Speaker 1: and people was hating on me. They want your love,

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Speaker 1: they got it, they got it. I appreciate y'all. That's

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Speaker 1: what I do. I appreciate all of our listeners a thousand,

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Speaker 1: trillion percent. Okay, don't ever be mistaken, man, I love me.

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Speaker 1: I mean a J don't love me. Damn that Like

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Speaker 1: I give a funk. I don't. How's your weekend? What

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Speaker 1: the fund did I do this weekend? I did nothing, really,

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Speaker 1: I just cholled out the same ship. Um. I was

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Speaker 1: supposed to go to this Battle of the Bands on Sunday,

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Speaker 1: but I skipped out on that too, so I was

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Speaker 1: just in the house this weekend. Did I do anything

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Speaker 1: this weekend? You want a date? Did you not? I

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Speaker 1: went on a date baby. This baby was twenty six

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Speaker 1: years old. I know I'm only thirty two and trans age,

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Speaker 1: so that didn't make it that much of an age difference.

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Speaker 1: But that's just the conversation was just not giving what

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Speaker 1: I needed it to give at all. I ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: Just no, it was not the best day. And I

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Speaker 1: put on my fur coat, wasted my damn coat. You

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Speaker 1: ain't posted a picture sequal wearity again? Yeah, yeah, show live,

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Speaker 1: let it go any any below thirty out this bitch

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Speaker 1: and the coda is back out. You just wait. I

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Speaker 1: just can't wait to put the fur on. I wear

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Speaker 1: mine yet this year. Yeah, global warming, they're gonna make

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Speaker 1: it where we can't wear this bitch around here in

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Speaker 1: a minutett. Yeah, it's definitely. I remember like October's October

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Speaker 1: down recently, right, Like my grandma said, y'all better get

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Speaker 1: your house in order. I can't tell the season. Jesus

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Speaker 1: coming back soon, get together shame. I used to be

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Speaker 1: so mad at my grandma for that, Like why we

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Speaker 1: gotta get our house in order? And why you old?

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Speaker 1: You don't need all your whole ship? Now are you old?

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Speaker 1: And now I gotta get my house in the way? Judgment,

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Speaker 1: judgment all right. This week in stupid Internet News, the

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Speaker 1: sins of the week, Um, did y'all see um Franklin

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Speaker 1: sat also known as Dampson driss I think that might

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Speaker 1: be his name. UM and Lorie Harvey have taken their

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Speaker 1: relationship to the next level. UM and Dampson posted on

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Speaker 1: Instagram and picture of them kissing and all in love

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Speaker 1: like you saw that? Yeah, So last month they were

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Speaker 1: trying to pair hair with um our our boyfriend Jonathan Major's,

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Speaker 1: but apparently it's it's been Dampson she's been dating, so

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Speaker 1: the Internet is trying to drag her as always per usual. Uh,

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Speaker 1: Meek Mills took it, took the online and was like,

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Speaker 1: yall like basically like y'all need to get your home

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Speaker 1: girl type ship, Like, why I'll let your whole girl

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Speaker 1: for all these niggas, Like whose business is that we

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Speaker 1: don't know who this woman has had sex with? And

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure is less than the regular daglasmegla woman

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Speaker 1: out here. Okay, And here's the thing, right, if you

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Speaker 1: put a microscope on any woman's life, you might see

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Speaker 1: Let's wait, all right, let's we'll pass her around. But

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Speaker 1: that's why because your Christmas left, two Christmas is ago, fall,

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Speaker 1: Christmas is to go, and she didn't went tow different

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Speaker 1: I did see recently where Lorie Harvey was on um

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Speaker 1: So she said that was a rumor, and like, damn,

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Speaker 1: that does not equate to her smashing everybody. I need

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Speaker 1: people to mind in business when it comes to Lorie Harvey.

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Speaker 1: She's a beautiful girl and she she's popping and she's

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Speaker 1: like next for sin stupid internet news this. Um. I

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Speaker 1: actually saw this on Spiritual World. So this is a

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Speaker 1: Twitter feed from a woman. Her at is my teacher

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Speaker 1: when she was riding him, he almost nutted four times.

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Speaker 1: That was the day I lied to myself, even though

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Speaker 1: I knew what it really was. Being a content creator

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Speaker 1: they called I guess pooring his content creation. Now, I

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Speaker 1: Nobody tells you. So um. She actually took to Twitter

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Speaker 1: right to talk about what's actually transpiring in their relationship,

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Speaker 1: and he was basically saying, it has nothing to do

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Speaker 1: automatically go to think it's like there's something wrong with

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Speaker 1: He doesn't like me no more. He doesn't like my

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Speaker 1: And also she was saying, like the girls are thicker,

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Speaker 1: it's like, if that's what you like, why don't you

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Speaker 1: just do that? So on Twitter spaces he was saying, Um,

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Speaker 1: how you look athetically. Um, there's other things like, um,

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Speaker 1: men like variety, especially if you're actually letting him have

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Speaker 1: You've invited this thing into your relationship slash uh coworker relationship.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, um, but I think it's the home

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Speaker 1: things that's been getting to him. But my thing was,

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Speaker 1: why didn't you have Why don't you have a conversation

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Speaker 1: this public life, that's hella embarrassing, right, But I mean

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Speaker 1: thirty seconds for their brotherfucker to get up before this

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Speaker 1: of the way. But I thought that ship was hilarious.

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Speaker 1: or just split up, y'all. Man, I think it's trying

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Speaker 1: He got somebody else to do it. Meanwhile, Michael B.

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Speaker 1: Jordan's is rumored to be dating some uh white model

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Speaker 1: and they're saying that he's there for that, but he's

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Speaker 1: But uh, I just I want him to be with

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Speaker 1: I think that um ain't no way killed manger is

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Speaker 1: more suited for a white woman. I cannot see that

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Speaker 1: he was playing a real nigger. He ain't a real nigger.

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Speaker 1: Yes he is. I don't accept that. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: More problems to all those people, like maybe they weren't

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Speaker 1: and I don't know. We've heard some other little side

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Speaker 1: hope it's a real relationship, you know, because they'd be

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Speaker 1: they'd be okay with that, they'd be down for that ship.

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Speaker 1: All right. So we've been real life harder. But this

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Speaker 1: next topic is not lighthearted at all. Over the weekend,

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Speaker 1: Darius Miles, he's a young man that plays basketball for Alabama. UH,

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Speaker 1: he shot a young lady twenty three years old and

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Speaker 1: UM and she passed from this. According to Tuscaloosa Police

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Speaker 1: Department UM, the shooting occurred after an argument that had

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Speaker 1: sad chain of events for this young woman and this

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Speaker 1: not an overnight process, guys. It really took one day

424
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Speaker 1: at a time when I would get into those moments.

425
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: Because I also was going through therapy as well during

426
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:41,639
Speaker 1: this time, so I have to be very transparent about that.

427
00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,920
Speaker 1: And when I would talk to my therapist about my feelings,

428
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 1: she would say, it's about substituting the bad behavior for

429
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 1: a good one. So when you are feeling a certain way,

430
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: she says, Chrissie, just go for a walk, you know.

431
00:25:57,040 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 1: When you want some junk, try to say, you know,

432
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna eat a nice, healthy serving of fruit instead. Now,

433
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,760
Speaker 1: again it's easier said than done. But at the end

434
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 1: of the day, when you want something bad enough, when

435
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 1: you want that change bad enough in your life, you

436
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 1: are going to slowly but surely find a way. So

437
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 1: those were some of the initial steps that I took

438
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:25,359
Speaker 1: to help stop leaning on food as my really as

439
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: my stress reliever. And if I did eat food, it

440
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 1: was a healthier option instead of the worst case option.

441
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: And when I started doing that, the scale moved for me.

442
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 1: And once I started that, saw that scales start to move,

443
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:43,360
Speaker 1: and I started feeling better than my momentum just multiply

444
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: times a hundred, right, So for me, I'll do all

445
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 1: the things. I'll eat the right foods, and as soon

446
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,920
Speaker 1: as I start to see my body change just a

447
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: little bit, I getta okay, yeah, And then when you

448
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: look back up, you back where you fucking guarded. Man, Damn,

449
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: that is my cryptonite I can't get. So most people

450
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: go through um it's when you're on a weight lost journey,

451
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: health journey, and sometimes other journeys in life in general.

452
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: When you start to feel a little bit better, when

453
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 1: you start to move out of that space just a

454
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: little bit, we all get what's called a false sense

455
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: of confidence. Right, so you're feeling yourself, You're like, oh,

456
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: I then lost ten pounds, my ways to start to

457
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 1: look a little more snash. I got a little bit

458
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,439
Speaker 1: more energy. I'm trying to be out in the streets

459
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 1: to show everybody, and they lost this ten pounds. But

460
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 1: being out there is what got you where you are

461
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 1: in exactly the social eating social. I tell all of

462
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 1: my ladies, I'm like, wait a minute, you worked so

463
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 1: hard to lose this forty pounds just to go on

464
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: vacation to eat all that weight back on your body.

465
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 1: But you don't think like I don't feel like you

466
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 1: should deprive yourself a lot like vacation. It's really hard

467
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,239
Speaker 1: to stick to that diet on vacation. It really is.

468
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,360
Speaker 1: But these are the tips that I give my clients.

469
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: You know, when I work with Tammy, once upon time,

470
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 1: I would always tell her Tammy. Just hit me up

471
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:13,199
Speaker 1: when you know you're about to go out, let me

472
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: help you make some better choices. So to your point, yes,

473
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 1: I want my clients to enjoy themselves if it's an

474
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: occasion that is definitely worth celebrating, not just so on

475
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: so and yms and everybody over there, because everybody else's

476
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: occasion cannot be your occasion. Let's keep that one, okay,

477
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: especially when you have specific goals that you're trying to

478
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,360
Speaker 1: achieve with your body and health. So I always tell

479
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: my clients to choose wisely. Pick wisely, tell me what

480
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: means the most to you, and we can find a

481
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: way to navigate, because the truth of the matter is

482
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 1: when we go out, we don't have to get the

483
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:52,239
Speaker 1: worst thing on the menu all the time. You know,

484
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: there are better choices that can be made. And I

485
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 1: also tell people pick your demon what means more to

486
00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: you having a couple of glasses of champagne or having

487
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 1: that crazy meal. Do you have to do both all

488
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: the time? You know, So once you learn those balances,

489
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,479
Speaker 1: thing all right, Well, Chrissie, like my clients would say, Chrissie,

490
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: I want to order this crazy entree. I haven't had

491
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 1: in a long time. But you know, I'll drink water

492
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: and I'll skip dessert, like you gotta. You have to

493
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: create those fair balances for you to still be able

494
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: to achieve what you're trying to achieve with your health

495
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: and your body. Right. I don't let me tell you.

496
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 1: She used to get so like I. I call her

497
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: from the restaurant and just send her a picture of

498
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: the menu, like, bitch, where am I eat? And then

499
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 1: she picks the old salad with and it'll be like

500
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: all this amazing ship on the menu and I'm eating

501
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 1: like the little vegetables in a piece of bake fish

502
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 1: like that. I know it was like it was right, No,

503
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: it was right though. It was right to choose those

504
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: things from the menu with what I was trying to achieve, right,

505
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 1: But I used to be like this bit that's how

506
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: I would feel. I want to listen to you. You

507
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: know it was. It was hard. And let me remind you, guys,

508
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 1: it is not a restaurant's job to cook for your health.

509
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: That's why in the restaurants I think the menus. The

510
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: menus kind of help now because they have the calorie

511
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: count next to the item, so I don't eat out

512
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 1: a whole lot. I like to cook my food. I

513
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: like to see how my food is prepared, so I

514
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 1: don't really eat fast food for real. I'll eat French

515
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: fries from places. But when you go to a restaurant nowadays,

516
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 1: unless it's like a five star, they usually have the

517
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: calorie count next to the item, and a lot of

518
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 1: times that will deterred me from ordering what I really want.

519
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: And to be honest, like calories in one setting. Yeah,

520
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: and even if it's not on the menu, it's on

521
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:49,200
Speaker 1: the website. So I always tell my clients, if you

522
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: know what you're going, just quickly go to the website

523
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: or even I'll tell people send me the link to

524
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 1: the restaurant and that will allow me to look at

525
00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 1: the menu and then to your point. Um. Some restaurants

526
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: are very thrilled. They'll tell you not only the caloric intake,

527
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: they'll tell you like the how much sodium, how much

528
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 1: sugar into your point. Knowledge is power, and I think

529
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: a lot of times people kind of want to have

530
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: the you know, if I don't know what it is,

531
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: it won't matter. But actually educating yourself asked to how

532
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: many calories carved, sugar and sodium is in your foods

533
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: that you love. That can be a very sobering moment

534
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 1: like wow, like I did such a sens the other day.

535
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: I'm doing this today, this, this weekend. This is why

536
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: I'm not looking and feeling the way I want to feel. Right,

537
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:45,240
Speaker 1: I'd rather eat my calories than drink them. I'd rather

538
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 1: I'd rather drink my calories and liquor than eat and

539
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: and or. And then of course we have the grand

540
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: combination of people who do both. They drink there. But

541
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 1: for me, when I was on my journey, I have

542
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: to be honest. I did initially still drink my patron

543
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 1: and pineapple, that was my favorite drink. Um. I still

544
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: did get some results because I definitely modified it. But guys,

545
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 1: when I let go of alcohol for one solid year,

546
00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 1: I have to tell you, I felt the best I

547
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: had ever felt on my transition. Um, on my transformation,

548
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: and I always challenge my clients try to at least

549
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: go thirty days dry, six weeks dry, eight weeks, because

550
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 1: you really will let your face. Girl, I'm sorry, I'm sorry,

551
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 1: my face was so telling just now. Um, you said

552
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 1: you didn't drink no liking for one whole year three

553
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 1: hundred and sixty five days. I told myself, Chrissie, what's

554
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: one year out of your entire life, since you've been

555
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: drinking since you were twenty one until now, to try

556
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: not to have something that is of no value to you.

557
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 1: Let's be honest. You know, alcohol has zero value nutritional

558
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 1: value you to the body. It actually starts to start

559
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 1: to get technical, it actually breaks your body down when

560
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: you drink it, immediately from the time that you swallow it,

561
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 1: your inner body, your organs eight alcohol. We like it,

562
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 1: We like it. But anything that alters you and and

563
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: and your body cannot digest and filter and know what

564
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: to do with it, those are harmful things. So that's

565
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: the truth about it. But again, we like it. We

566
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: mix it with juice, soda, shake it up, twisted, put

567
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: a rim on it. But at the end of the day,

568
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 1: it still is poison. But we just like it. It's

569
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: a it's a the funniest poison that ever came out. Sure,

570
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 1: I I ain't gonna lie, but when I let go

571
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: of it for a year, that really elevated my transformation

572
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 1: to the next level. The level of clarity, the immediate

573
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: blow and inflammation that came off my body, even from

574
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: cutting alcohol. I think sometimes we get used to see

575
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: in a certain way every day. We don't even realize

576
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: that it's not normal. But when you start eliminating certain

577
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: foods out of your diet um, then you're like, wow,

578
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 1: Like how was I even living like that before? Right? Yeah,

579
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 1: I'm definitely addicted to food and people. I don't really

580
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 1: like pick up the substance. Like I don't have to

581
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 1: drink alcohol at all. I don't have to smoke weed,

582
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 1: food people like they go together. That's why, like in

583
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 1: the relationship, I'm gonna gain of most weed. Absolutely for me.

584
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 1: I'm a social drinker, Like I got a bunch of

585
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 1: looker at my house, but I don't touch it when

586
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: I'm in here by myself. You know, some people can

587
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,040
Speaker 1: just drink at home alone. I can't do that and

588
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 1: just sit here until somebody comes over, and I'm like,

589
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 1: let's have a drink if they come over. But I

590
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: won't drink it. But weed, that's a different story. I'm

591
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: a puff puff on my weed. I mean about that.

592
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: Let me talk about weed. Hookahocause very popular now, all

593
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 1: the different flavors, vaping, whatever, um, all of those activities

594
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:12,279
Speaker 1: lead to. Unfortunately for food choices. Guys, um, they really

595
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: really do UM. Usually UM at hookah bars they'll have

596
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 1: desserts right the fried foods because they grow together. So

597
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: anytime you in the same as drinking, any time you're

598
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: taking something that's gonna mellow you out, kind of get

599
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: you on chill, that's when the munchie start to happen.

600
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:38,240
Speaker 1: So I even tell that um can that smoke weed

601
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 1: or even consume edibles for whatever the reason they do it.

602
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: I warned them and I say, listen, be very very mindful.

603
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily the weed itself, but it's the effect

604
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 1: of it on you that can start you what I

605
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: call grazing. That's like how a cow just grazes in

606
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: the field. You start having Okay, little notch over here,

607
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: a little French friend here, let me get an the

608
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: drink because of how it affects you. So again, you know,

609
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: people do what they do. But I let people know again,

610
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 1: when you're on that health journey, when you're trying to

611
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: reach a goal, when you're trying to lose weight or

612
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 1: improve something in your health, you might want to put

613
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,919
Speaker 1: those things on the back burner. So you just don't

614
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 1: want us to be happy at all what you What

615
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:28,280
Speaker 1: I want you guys to do is to fall in love.

616
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: And I know this sounds dramatic, but just hear me out.

617
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 1: I want you guys to fall in love with the

618
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 1: things that are really gonna save your life, because we

619
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:40,759
Speaker 1: already love all that stuff like we love all that.

620
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 1: We love the the alcohol, the we the food, whatever

621
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 1: your vices, you love that. You love it so much

622
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:51,240
Speaker 1: that you let it alter you think about it. People

623
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: will eat a certain way, know when they're gaining weight,

624
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 1: but that gaining weight doesn't stop them from eating it.

625
00:36:56,280 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: That's addiction. So we love those things and those activit

626
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 1: it these sometimes to our detriment. So I want to

627
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 1: change the narrative for people as a coach and teach

628
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: them to fall in loves that are gonna heal, fall

629
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 1: in love with foods that are gonna heal their body,

630
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 1: teas that are gonna be cleansing to them. Um, and

631
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 1: just with lifestyle. Fall in love with the lifestyle that's

632
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: going to add years to your life instead of a

633
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 1: lifestyle that's going to ultimately take years away from your life,

634
00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 1: if that makes sense right, or just alive and sick,

635
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: which is the worst part. I want to have a

636
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 1: quality of life. You know, I think you know a

637
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:39,760
Speaker 1: lot of younger people, Um, they don't really think about

638
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: how they're gonna look and feel when they're forty, fifty, sixty,

639
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: depending on their starting age. You know, me being almost

640
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 1: forty five, I'm thinking, well, Chrissie, how do you want

641
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,320
Speaker 1: to look when you're fifty? How do you want to

642
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 1: feel when you're sixty? Do you want to still have

643
00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: this vitality energy, big smile, great, you know, do you

644
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 1: still want to have that or do you want to Unfortunately,

645
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: go along with the flow of the stereotypes for this

646
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: country where people retire and have to use their whole

647
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,319
Speaker 1: retirement on their health. I don't want to do that.

648
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: I don't want to spend these years working just to

649
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: not be able to enjoy my retirement because I'm sick,

650
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:26,319
Speaker 1: because I'm on two three medications. When I think back

651
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 1: seven eight years ago, when the doctor was telling me

652
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,479
Speaker 1: all of these things that were wrong with me back then,

653
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 1: if I just think if I never checked it, where

654
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:40,239
Speaker 1: I'd be now. I wouldn't be organic Christie, let's be real.

655
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 1: I would probably be on insulin because I would have

656
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: been a full blown diabetic and I would have had

657
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: high blood pressure, high cholesterol big er because let's be honest,

658
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: if we don't battle the demon, at some point, it's

659
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 1: gonna catch up with us. So I just decided to

660
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: invest in my health for one case, which is making

661
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 1: those deposits to ensure when I'm older that I'm able

662
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 1: to live the quality of life that I deserve after

663
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 1: having given so much of myself in my younger years.

664
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 1: That's smart and that's dedication. I don't I suck at that.

665
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:28,800
Speaker 1: So so do you think that in the black community

666
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: in particular, right Big Mama is celebrated. Yeah, and it's

667
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: definitely I think it's like a detriment to to to

668
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 1: our community. But we act like, you know, it's okay.

669
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: But Big Mama and Big Sisters, Like, is we we

670
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 1: are unhealthy? Yeah, we're just not. Culture. Yeah, as a culture,

671
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 1: So how do we? How do we um? Because women

672
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 1: can state all the things they don't like about men,

673
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: like I don't want a short man, I don't want

674
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: a bald man. I don't want to I like bald

675
00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 1: men or whatever it is. But the minute no man

676
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: says anything about a woman's weight, it's like all hell

677
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: hell is about to break loose loose like, even if

678
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 1: he's just stating its reference. I like slimmer women absolutely

679
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,320
Speaker 1: well at the end of the day, Like like Tammy

680
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: started off, it's not about necessarily being skinning, but it

681
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 1: is about being the healthiest version of yourself. And I

682
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 1: had to keep evaluating what that was for me because

683
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: it's gonna look different for each person. Um. But I

684
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 1: always tell people, you're never truly your best self. You know,

685
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: when you are not eating majority healthy, exercising, um, And

686
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: when you, in my opinion, don't fully you're not fully

687
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,279
Speaker 1: comfortable with how you look and feel. If you have

688
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 1: that little nag in the back of your head. That's

689
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 1: and I'm not talking about compulsive or obsession, you know,

690
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 1: I'm not talking to that extreme. But if you wake

691
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,200
Speaker 1: up every day and you're looking to marry and you like, yeah,

692
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: you look good, you're pretty, you're great, you're an amazing woman,

693
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 1: but you're not fully liking how you feel in that

694
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: space that you're occupying, that means there can be changed.

695
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: And let's be honest, guys, we do this in other

696
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 1: aspects of our lives, don't We don't we self reflect

697
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 1: and and see how we can improve as a worker,

698
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: a person, a girlfriend and wife, a mother. That is

699
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:27,279
Speaker 1: called growth. But everybody gets so sensitive when it comes

700
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 1: to the physical because, like you said, in certain cultures,

701
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 1: the plus sized woman with the ample body, you know,

702
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 1: that is just the expectation. I remember growing up. My

703
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,279
Speaker 1: mother used to always say, don't nobody want a bag

704
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,839
Speaker 1: of bunges but a dog? And I'm like, okay. But

705
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:50,600
Speaker 1: at the same time, Mommy, that's that's obesity. So what

706
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 1: are we doing here? So to your point, I do

707
00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: struggle a lot of times, not just with us, but

708
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: I service a lot of other cultures. Guys. Listen, my

709
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:04,319
Speaker 1: Latino ladies like look, I like my plantes, I like

710
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 1: my rs, I like my beans, Africans, you know, I

711
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 1: have my clients that my Italians. When you grow up

712
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 1: eating a certain way, and most of the women, as

713
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: I would say, even Italian women there, they're healthy women.

714
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 1: It's like the norm. But the problem is as we

715
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 1: get older, that's not translating into healthy. And I keep

716
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: telling people in the United States it looks so different here.

717
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:37,839
Speaker 1: Think about in other countries they're still walking, cycling there

718
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: in their gardens, they are still doing a lot of

719
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 1: physical activity. And they're eating rice and pasta and everything else.

720
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 1: But they're not as overweight as Americans. We take all

721
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 1: the elevators, escalators, people move us park our cars as

722
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 1: close to the entrance as possible. We don't do the work, guys,

723
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: We don't. We don't walk to the town. They still

724
00:42:59,840 --> 00:43:03,399
Speaker 1: do that. In Europe it is normal miles every day,

725
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 1: like it's nothing. We don't do that. So what we

726
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 1: eat sticks to us and makes us sick. Mm hmmm yeah,

727
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: um yeah, because over in China, like a large fry

728
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 1: is like a small fry here. Yeah, so even our

729
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: portions are way bigger. Everything is bigger in America. Europe. Yeah,

730
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 1: Europe too. I remember because I was living there for

731
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:27,840
Speaker 1: three years and then I came back home and I

732
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:30,080
Speaker 1: went through a fast food restaurant and I was like,

733
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: I want the large drink, and baby it was a gallon.

734
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 1: I had forgotten how big a large drink in America

735
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:40,720
Speaker 1: was Like God, damn right, were running in the car

736
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 1: like them to sell those dollar tees, those big gass

737
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: dollar tease that's criminal, hundred grams of sugar. And you

738
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 1: know what's sad is in Europe fast food. Now, don't

739
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: get me your own fast food. It's still fast food,

740
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:57,000
Speaker 1: but in Europe they have a higher standard of food.

741
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,239
Speaker 1: So the fast food in Europe is actually a higher

742
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:04,879
Speaker 1: quality then the fast food that the franchises um serve us.

743
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 1: In the United States, it's like night day, you know.

744
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 1: People will go over there and be like, how did

745
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: I have a Wendy's Burger? And it really was like

746
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:17,319
Speaker 1: all beef, grass fed, like real deal. But in the

747
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 1: United States everything is crazy highly processed, you know. And

748
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 1: I tell people it's not even necessarily how much you

749
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: eat all the time, it's what you're eating. A simple

750
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: kids meal from a fast food restaurant can still run

751
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 1: up in you a thousand calories. Stop thinking because it's small,

752
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 1: those little that four piece nugget, that's four hundred fifty calories,

753
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 1: five hundred calories and it's not including the hundred calories

754
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: for the sauce. Why why are you stressing us out?

755
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 1: You're just ruining my day. I know that to tell

756
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,200
Speaker 1: me all the time, though, don't I Oh, and she

757
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 1: becaussed me off. I had a I had a doctor pepper,

758
00:44:57,719 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 1: and then all right, we had went to lunch and

759
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: I had spread with my lunch and then we were

760
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: in here like recording some commercials or something like that,

761
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: and I had a doctor pepper that was in the

762
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: fridge and she was like you about to drink That

763
00:45:09,760 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 1: was like, yes, you saw me pull it out of

764
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: the refrigerator. I didn't set it on the counter to

765
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:18,239
Speaker 1: just look at it. She was like can I see it?

766
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 1: I was like okay, She's like, this has sixty three

767
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 1: grams of sugar in it. I was like, oak about weed, Like,

768
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: think about a pile of weed. That's how my sugar

769
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:32,399
Speaker 1: is in it. Think about sixty grams of weed. It's

770
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 1: a lot that I think about it. And put sugar

771
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 1: in everything. You can't escape it. They put sugar and

772
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 1: things where it's not even supposed to be everything. And

773
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 1: you know you had mentioned the point a planet h

774
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 1: earlier where you were like, hey, I prefer to cook

775
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:56,799
Speaker 1: at home because I'm able to control the narrative. And

776
00:45:56,880 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 1: that's the type of coach that I am. I tell

777
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 1: my clients. I try to teach them to really get

778
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: into the food prep part of this journey because you

779
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 1: are in control of your food. You see what spices

780
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: and seasonings, you see the marinades. You're the one preparing it.

781
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: You know, we are so trusting when we go out

782
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: to eat, We really really trust that they're doing what

783
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 1: they're supposed to do back there in that kitchen and

784
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:27,359
Speaker 1: that air, all the regulations are being followed, and that

785
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: magic arm that comes out from the back to place

786
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,240
Speaker 1: it on our table. That there was no snaff foods

787
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 1: in between A and B. That's a lot of trust, guys.

788
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: We don't know. And then restaurants won't also tell you everything.

789
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: Half of the marinades, even in salads, they put sugar.

790
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,840
Speaker 1: I went to a Caribbean, a popular local Caribbean restaurant

791
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:52,400
Speaker 1: the other day, and I'm like, why do these greens

792
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: taste like sugar? They started at it suggar. I can

793
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: taste it. My palette is so sensitive now, and I'm like,

794
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 1: they didn't do that before. But you have to understand, guys,

795
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: it's by not by chances, by design. The more sugar

796
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: and other addictive ingredients that these places can add to

797
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: their food, what we're gonna do. We're gonna be lined

798
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,759
Speaker 1: up like the correckheads ready for some months. There are

799
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: and you and we are so As a as a

800
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 1: trainer at coach, I try to educate my clients and

801
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 1: have them start to think about these little things that

802
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:30,919
Speaker 1: obviously they weren't thinking about, to help them be more

803
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 1: conscious and making better choices. And ultimately back to the

804
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: question you're asking me, how much weight did I lose?

805
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 1: A j It took me eighteen months, but I lost

806
00:47:42,400 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: ninety four pounds in eighteen months. That's a whole and

807
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 1: that's just died exercise lifestyles. No medical assistance, no, okay,

808
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 1: great question. No, no weight loss surgery, no dieting pills. Um.

809
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 1: You know, poop and tea, no waste trainers, none of

810
00:48:02,120 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: those things that are sold to us. And and and

811
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: you know, as aids Um, I did it all by numero,

812
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 1: you know, changing my diet slowly but surely, you know, um,

813
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,719
Speaker 1: and then stepping up my exercise. I started off just

814
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: walking because that's all I can manage because Joel foot breathe.

815
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: And then I started doing what I call a joggle,

816
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:29,040
Speaker 1: which is a little run walk, and then um. From there,

817
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 1: I did get a personal trainer who worked with me

818
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: for maybe about seven months, and then she left the industry.

819
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,040
Speaker 1: But during that time with her, she introduced me to

820
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 1: lighter weights five, eight and ten pounds. I know, I

821
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 1: didn't really go over fifteen pounds with her, um, and

822
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 1: that was the foundation. And during that time with her,

823
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: I would like to say, my love for weight training

824
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 1: grew um. And after I stopped working with her, that's

825
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: when I started challenging myself with some of the same movements,

826
00:48:57,600 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: just with heavier weights. And then I fell in love

827
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 1: with weight training. So I found myself lifting weights three

828
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:05,799
Speaker 1: to four days a week and then improving on my

829
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: running on the other days. So I went from being

830
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: able to barely run to the corner to the mailbox

831
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: to running up to six miles a day. M hmm. My.

832
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: My heaviest weight UM to date for a dead lift

833
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:26,920
Speaker 1: was to forty UM. I was able to do that um.

834
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: And so I guess what I'm saying is I became

835
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,800
Speaker 1: now addicted to all of the right things. I became

836
00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 1: addicted to the lifestyle of eating healthy. I became addicted

837
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 1: to doing the physical activities that was making my body

838
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:46,719
Speaker 1: look like an athlete. I actually I thought it was

839
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: a compliment when people would ask me, like if I

840
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: was out in the street, do you're on track? Are

841
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 1: you a gymnast? That that made me feel good. Because

842
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 1: it's like, if I'm gonna be in the gym putting

843
00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 1: in net work, I want to look like you know,

844
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:03,200
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people who go to the

845
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:10,720
Speaker 1: gym every single day, but they don't change. I'm changed

846
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 1: and there a little. Then I just start and then

847
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:16,959
Speaker 1: that's not true. You do change. Because I was looking

848
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:20,359
Speaker 1: at some pictures from when we first started. You look

849
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 1: totally different from when we first started, Like you lost weight.

850
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 1: I had done gain weight since I've probably lost so

851
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,680
Speaker 1: I've lost about seventeen pounds in the last two years

852
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 1: or so because my fat max was always to seventeen.

853
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: So now I teeter between like one and two hundred pounds.

854
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:40,439
Speaker 1: And I don't mind nobody knowing my weight whatever. Okay,

855
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: I feel like black women have a different I'm five four,

856
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 1: so I'm not, you know, super tall, but like average

857
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,200
Speaker 1: side average height woman. But do you think like black

858
00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: women have a different um fat threshold? You know what

859
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like I like to say skinny fat. It's

860
00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 1: for black women, right, No, But I don't want to

861
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 1: be I don't think my body's type I will ever

862
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 1: look super skinny. I think the smallest I've ever been with,

863
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 1: like one fifty and I stole was super thick, so

864
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 1: I would give you similar answer to that, And I

865
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 1: wasn't skinny though, That's what I'm saying. You still look,

866
00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: you still have some nice thickness to you. So the

867
00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 1: technical world, the technical answer in the fitness world is no.

868
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 1: You know, a body type is a body type, you know,

869
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: but we do have different sized frames. So I'm not

870
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: gonna go as far as say big boned it like

871
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 1: we heard growing up. But you can't have us I am.

872
00:51:36,719 --> 00:51:39,719
Speaker 1: You can't have a frame, a medium frame and a

873
00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:43,200
Speaker 1: larger frame. And that's just based on your genetics. That's

874
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:45,680
Speaker 1: just based on who your parents are, how they were.

875
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 1: So for me, I am tiny. I have the tiniest angles,

876
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 1: the tiniest little risk. I'm you know what I mean.

877
00:51:52,600 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: I know that I was meant to be a tiny,

878
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 1: petite little thing. But there are women, um like I

879
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: have a client super tall six to my one client Ali,

880
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 1: She's a big girl. Even at her smallest, she still

881
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 1: was a big girl. So it's all on your frame,

882
00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: It's all on your genetics. So I tell people again,

883
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:18,240
Speaker 1: it's not about skinny, It's about being the best version

884
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: of your body and I think that that is what

885
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 1: I want to challenge each and every one of my

886
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 1: clients to find what that is. Sometimes we get just

887
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: so used to being whatever size we are and accepting

888
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:34,280
Speaker 1: and then when you have everybody said, girl, you look good,

889
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 1: and you know, guys who all that baby, don't go that.

890
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 1: Don't like a bag of box with the dog. You know,

891
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:46,920
Speaker 1: when you get told that your whole life, when you're

892
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: on the thicker side of the fence, you know, you

893
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,960
Speaker 1: get comfortable with that. But I always at the end

894
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: of the day, I asked my ladies, well, how do

895
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:58,799
Speaker 1: you feel. If you're with this, that's one thing, But

896
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: if you're like, yeah, get lots of compliments and me

897
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 1: and like the way I look. My friends tell me

898
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 1: I'm cute, But I'm feeling when died. When I walk

899
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:12,919
Speaker 1: up and downstairs, my back hurt. You know, I'm I'm

900
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: struggling finding pants that fit because I'm small at the top,

901
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 1: being at the bottom or whatever. So that's where you

902
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 1: have to step up and say, all right, let me

903
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:27,240
Speaker 1: slowly but surely get on this mission defining the best,

904
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 1: the best version of me. So one seventies like my like,

905
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 1: that's my favorite week. One seventies my favorite week. So Tammy,

906
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:41,839
Speaker 1: you saw it on my scale. I've written out one

907
00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 1: seventy point five and I have that on the uh

908
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 1: the reader on the scales every time I get on there.

909
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: That's what it says. So for me, it's she can

910
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 1: have a piece of paper over the number, so when

911
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 1: she stepped on it, it just already tell her what

912
00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: its period. Pool. We manifested one seven and do you

913
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:02,239
Speaker 1: over here. So for me, it starts in the mind.

914
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 1: So once I make my mind up this is what

915
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do, then I do it. But we also know,

916
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 1: like you know, faith without the actual works is what

917
00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:16,439
Speaker 1: it is. Well, you know what, let me pick you back,

918
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 1: let me take you back on that. One thing I

919
00:54:20,680 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 1: always tell my clients is you have to envision the wind.

920
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 1: You have to see yourself winning in order to do it.

921
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:35,399
Speaker 1: You trust and believe those Olympic athletes they already saw

922
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,440
Speaker 1: themselves crossing that fishing finish line, getting that and standing

923
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: on that partium. They have envisioned it for years before

924
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:46,760
Speaker 1: it happened. When people build big corporations, anything that's grand,

925
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:49,879
Speaker 1: those people are like I dreamt about it, I had

926
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:53,240
Speaker 1: visions about it. I saw it unfolding before my eyes.

927
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 1: So our health thoes have to be taken with that

928
00:54:56,200 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: same level of urgency as we take care your goals.

929
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 1: Like look, people chase the bag, they want their money,

930
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 1: their visuals say they manifested. They're like, look, I want

931
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 1: to be comfortable, I want to live a certain lifestyle.

932
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,960
Speaker 1: And then they begin to do what they need to

933
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,800
Speaker 1: do to make that happen for them. But the same

934
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 1: thing has to be for our help. We have to envision.

935
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:19,880
Speaker 1: So I tell my clients, if you know or think

936
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,960
Speaker 1: you know how you want to look, where you want

937
00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 1: to be, you have to first and foremost believe that

938
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 1: you will do it. If you come to me as

939
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 1: a client already defeated, you know like, I know this

940
00:55:32,040 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 1: is what I need, but I probably ain't gonna do it.

941
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:37,439
Speaker 1: You're speaking that over your life, you know when people

942
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: like Christie it's just too hard, I can't do it. Well,

943
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:44,840
Speaker 1: then you can't do it because you're not convincing yourself

944
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 1: and telling yourself you will do it. So everybody's journey

945
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: is different. It took me eighteen months to lose ninety

946
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 1: four pounds. I coached a client she lost a hundred

947
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: and twenty pounds in twelve months. Does that mean that

948
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: she was more successful than me? That's her path. So

949
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:06,439
Speaker 1: you have to walk your path to health and wellness

950
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,880
Speaker 1: and start off with the little things and then attack

951
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:13,760
Speaker 1: the bigger things. But know that at the whole time,

952
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:16,279
Speaker 1: you have to know that there's that pot of goal

953
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 1: waiting for you at the end of the rainbow. Mm hmmm.

954
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:22,760
Speaker 1: So y'all hear that, listeners, if you somewhere sitting fat

955
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:26,720
Speaker 1: and unhappy with your body. I try to be funny,

956
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,839
Speaker 1: but she said that she could She could barely walk

957
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:33,400
Speaker 1: to the mailbox, and it was just all these small

958
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 1: steps that got her to the bigger goal of her

959
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:40,920
Speaker 1: ultimate fitness. So if y'all hear that and you feel inspired,

960
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: please get your ass up right now and walk your

961
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: ass to on the street. And I'm about to start

962
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 1: to you know, I'm remotivated me, Christie, because you know

963
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 1: I'm a no no. I still will go. I just

964
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: I fall off, like I'll get back to it and

965
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,440
Speaker 1: I'll be running and I'll be doing all the things.

966
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:00,440
Speaker 1: I was doing cardio every day for forty our minutes,

967
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 1: and I did that for like two or three months.

968
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 1: I was doing that and I could see my body

969
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:07,600
Speaker 1: changing dramatically. And then I was like, damn, I'm fine.

970
00:57:08,360 --> 00:57:11,320
Speaker 1: I'm about to go on vacation. I started going to Jamaica,

971
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: I started eating. I was old villas. I saw you

972
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: because you know how. I was doing Instagrams. Yes, I

973
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 1: was doing the most. And then I look up and

974
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,800
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I gotta gut again. I was

975
00:57:24,920 --> 00:57:27,520
Speaker 1: right back. I'm sitting here right now, I rubbing my

976
00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:29,800
Speaker 1: belly like damn, let me get my ass up and

977
00:57:29,840 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 1: go back to the gym. So we were talking about earlier, right,

978
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:38,880
Speaker 1: we have to fine balance. I don't want to deny

979
00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 1: as a coach anybody anything that they love, but we

980
00:57:42,920 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 1: have to learn how to find a happy dance with

981
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:51,959
Speaker 1: the foods that we love versus the lifestyle that we're

982
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 1: really ultimately no, we need to be living. Um. I

983
00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:59,080
Speaker 1: think it's just the overboard of it all. I tell people,

984
00:57:59,280 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 1: for example, we can enjoy a cocktail, but do we

985
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 1: have to enjoy five cocktails. It's the learning what moderation

986
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: looks like for you. We can never look at what

987
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: anybody else does and say, well, they eat pizza, drink

988
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 1: beer every day and have abs. Well that's them. We

989
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:17,960
Speaker 1: don't know what their makeup is, their body right now

990
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: may allow them to do that. For me, if I

991
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 1: look at food, I could gain temp I can't. I

992
00:58:25,680 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 1: can't eat anything right. We have to learn what that

993
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 1: looks like for us and set our limits. Like even

994
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 1: for me, people ask me, well, Chrissie, do you ever cheat?

995
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 1: Do you ever eat outside your lifestyle? Absolutely? I'm human.

996
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:41,880
Speaker 1: I like what I like to, But do you know

997
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:45,560
Speaker 1: what I do? I planned the cheat. I don't impulsively cheat.

998
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:48,760
Speaker 1: I have found historically when I either let other people

999
00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: pressure me or I impulsively be like, oh I want

1000
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: this and I go do it, I go overboard. But

1001
00:58:56,280 --> 00:59:00,600
Speaker 1: when I plan it out and I say, all right, Chrissie, Sunday,

1002
00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: you're gonna go to crack a barrel. You're gonna enjoy

1003
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:07,440
Speaker 1: two blueberry pancakes and mimosa side of bacon, whatever, and

1004
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 1: that is what your meal is gonna You're gonna enjoy

1005
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,360
Speaker 1: that moment. I mentally prepared myself to go into that.

1006
00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:16,520
Speaker 1: We'll just call it cheap, and I already know what

1007
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:20,760
Speaker 1: I'm eating, and after I eat it, it's done versively.

1008
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:23,760
Speaker 1: Versus if someone was just like, come on, girl, let's

1009
00:59:23,760 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 1: go to brunt. Then I'm doing the French toast. I'm

1010
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 1: doing the mimosas I'm doing. Ever the muffin looks good,

1011
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 1: We'll look at that Danish because it's impulsive. I did

1012
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 1: not prepare myself because I have to remember I am

1013
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 1: two snacks away from obesity. I never forget where I

1014
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 1: came from. I never forget where I started. I am

1015
00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 1: still that girl. Okay, come on. I don't dislike lasagna.

1016
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 1: I don't dislike liquor, but I learned that it's not

1017
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: good for me to consume it how I used to.

1018
00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 1: So again, it's that falling in love with the things

1019
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 1: that are gonna heal you and extend your life, and

1020
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 1: learning to kind of place more distance with those other foods.

1021
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 1: It's not that you can't have them, but we cannot

1022
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 1: go overboard. So learning moderation for you it as an

1023
01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 1: individual with the assistance to hear me out of a coach.

1024
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:19,160
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to do a shameful plug, but it's

1025
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:21,920
Speaker 1: the truth. Guys. You know, if left up to our

1026
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 1: own accord, we're not gonna hit that mark because what

1027
01:00:26,080 --> 01:00:29,760
Speaker 1: you think is your moderation when as others are on

1028
01:00:29,880 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 1: looking now, that ain't it, You've already gone overboard. So

1029
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 1: I think that people do need to partner themselves. It's

1030
01:00:36,520 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: no different than the therapist. Guys. You need to sometimes

1031
01:00:39,880 --> 01:00:42,760
Speaker 1: put certain people in your life to help you look

1032
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 1: at things a little bit differently so you can make

1033
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 1: better choices. It's like a relationship. People will choose the

1034
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 1: same man over no again and no, and they ain't

1035
01:00:54,320 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 1: no good. And I'd be like y'all going down the

1036
01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:59,560
Speaker 1: same food path that you've been all for years, knowing

1037
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: as soon as you eat one bite, you're gonna eat

1038
01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Why are you doing that? Right? Because

1039
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:06,920
Speaker 1: it's hard. A lot of us are eating the foods

1040
01:01:06,920 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 1: we grew up off of. I've changed my dad. I

1041
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:10,880
Speaker 1: know I don't eat like anybody in my family, but

1042
01:01:11,040 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 1: I don't. I still don't lose the weight like I

1043
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 1: want to because I consume more carbs now for the

1044
01:01:16,280 --> 01:01:20,080
Speaker 1: most part. But that's why the mothers are responsible for

1045
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 1: the nutrition of the family. If you're eating bad, your

1046
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 1: kid's gonna be fat as hell, Like everybody's gonna be

1047
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:29,000
Speaker 1: big as hell. No, this bit is addicted to candy canes,

1048
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 1: and that is pure sugar. Right, it's only for Christmas.

1049
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 1: So I haven't had a candy cane until December and

1050
01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:44,960
Speaker 1: then over it's over. Guys, think about how I love peppermint. Yes,

1051
01:01:45,360 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 1: it's like somebody fucking grandmama, like I'm with you, But

1052
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: you know easily don't. Isn't there always something like around

1053
01:01:55,840 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 1: the fall when we got pumpkin spice everything, caramels, chocolate, Uh,

1054
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:04,520
Speaker 1: the Mocha drinks change it, the drinks change at Starbucks.

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01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 1: It's by design, so to me, each season brings on

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01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 1: something girl. As soon as it starts getting even though

1057
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 1: black folks can grill all you round, but as soon

1058
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 1: as the weather starts getting warm, oh everything, it's time

1059
01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:25,439
Speaker 1: with this. And then as each I feel as each

1060
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 1: season comes, companies start what advertising other things for us

1061
01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 1: that we really feel like we have to have these things.

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01:02:34,760 --> 01:02:38,680
Speaker 1: And again, when you're working with a coach who's always

1063
01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:41,880
Speaker 1: mindful of the trends and aware of what's going on,

1064
01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like the little angel that's on your shoulder.

1065
01:02:46,080 --> 01:02:48,880
Speaker 1: You know, there's like the devil and the Angel. The

1066
01:02:48,920 --> 01:02:51,480
Speaker 1: Devil's like, girl gonna do it? You know that that

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01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 1: meme on install Don't do it? Girl, don't do it.

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Speaker 1: I did it, so I'm gonna come up and I'm

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01:02:57,200 --> 01:02:59,400
Speaker 1: gonna be like, Okay, listen, I know you want that,

1070
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 1: but let's just think about this for a minute before

1071
01:03:02,760 --> 01:03:05,960
Speaker 1: you go into that. We've already lost ten pounds. We

1072
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:09,160
Speaker 1: gotta go to lose twenty pounds. Are you sure that's

1073
01:03:09,160 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 1: worth you missing out on your results and having someone

1074
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,560
Speaker 1: like that who's genuinely in your core, not your cousin,

1075
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 1: not your auntie, not your girlfriend, not not your man

1076
01:03:19,160 --> 01:03:21,160
Speaker 1: because he's gonna want to take you out every night.

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01:03:21,640 --> 01:03:24,919
Speaker 1: You need a very genuine good person that's in your

1078
01:03:24,920 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 1: corner to always remind you of what your goals. And you, Christie,

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01:03:32,760 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 1: you're so patient because I know I used to be

1080
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 1: getting mad at you and ship like you'd be telling

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01:03:37,520 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 1: me what to do and it almost felt like a

1082
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 1: narcotics anonymous honestly, because she was like my sponsor, Like

1083
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:46,680
Speaker 1: I'd be calling her in the middle of night like,

1084
01:03:46,680 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 1: which I'll about to eat this motherfucking don don't do it, girl,

1085
01:03:50,640 --> 01:03:53,080
Speaker 1: You're gonna ruin your sobriety. That's how I used to be.

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01:03:55,240 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: I think both me and Tam have commitment and accountability issue.

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01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 1: The other day, I was at the gym and the

1088
01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:03,320
Speaker 1: guy asked me if I wanted to sign up for

1089
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:06,840
Speaker 1: my free personal training. I'm like, but didn that means

1090
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:09,160
Speaker 1: I gotta come like I don't want to be committed

1091
01:04:09,760 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 1: to having to do this thing. And that's why I

1092
01:04:13,400 --> 01:04:15,800
Speaker 1: probably never had a personal training. I know Tammy does

1093
01:04:15,880 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 1: better with that. She'll get she'll stick with. But then

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01:04:20,720 --> 01:04:23,880
Speaker 1: but then it also is is expensive. It's not cheap.

1095
01:04:24,080 --> 01:04:27,520
Speaker 1: It's not cheap. And then yeah, that's when I fall off,

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01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:30,000
Speaker 1: especially when it starts adding up and my my pockets

1097
01:04:30,040 --> 01:04:32,360
Speaker 1: started getting a little broke. I'd be like, I could

1098
01:04:32,360 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 1: do this by myself. I don't need to pay nobody.

1099
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:37,120
Speaker 1: But that's why I do. I do need to pay somebody,

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01:04:37,200 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 1: because when I have somebody showing up at my building,

1101
01:04:40,440 --> 01:04:42,920
Speaker 1: they're gonna be here at eight o'clock, I know I

1102
01:04:42,960 --> 01:04:45,800
Speaker 1: gotta get up and be they're gonna be here. Now.

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01:04:45,880 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 1: See what Chrissy was easier to like ditch her because

1104
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:51,200
Speaker 1: she was virtual. All I had to do is just

1105
01:04:51,240 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 1: not answer my phone, you know, but to this day

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01:04:59,760 --> 01:05:03,880
Speaker 1: her get no girls still virtual? All right, Well, let

1107
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:05,680
Speaker 1: me hit me up as soon as you're back in

1108
01:05:05,760 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 1: New streets. Up bead, I'm there. All you gotta do

1109
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:16,919
Speaker 1: was answer your phone. You could work out. You don't

1110
01:05:16,920 --> 01:05:20,080
Speaker 1: even have to go down to your gym. Girl, I

1111
01:05:20,120 --> 01:05:22,880
Speaker 1: would look at that ship and be like, get somebody else,

1112
01:05:24,240 --> 01:05:28,440
Speaker 1: go back to sleep. I'm like, you're gonna decline me

1113
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:33,280
Speaker 1: on the virtual call for some ship I don't pay for, right,

1114
01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:36,200
Speaker 1: That's how you for all the field. She's still gonna

1115
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:42,240
Speaker 1: get her money. So fucking well, listen, I'm so. I

1116
01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:45,360
Speaker 1: am so glad as a coach. I actually take my

1117
01:05:45,440 --> 01:05:48,080
Speaker 1: job for real. Seriously, you talk to any of my clients,

1118
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:50,200
Speaker 1: A lot gonna be like, well I already paid up.

1119
01:05:50,560 --> 01:05:52,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, and I'm gonna show up and I'm

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01:05:52,720 --> 01:05:55,640
Speaker 1: gonna be here and do my job. I've never ever

1121
01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: thought like, well, dang, I got the money, so I'm good.

1122
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:00,840
Speaker 1: They don't want to show up now. I really care

1123
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:03,800
Speaker 1: about each and every one of my clients. It's sometimes

1124
01:06:03,840 --> 01:06:06,440
Speaker 1: it's like and I think that's because I used to

1125
01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:11,680
Speaker 1: be obese, overweight. I was very unhealthy, And I think

1126
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:15,560
Speaker 1: because I come from that space, I wish I had

1127
01:06:15,680 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 1: somebody that was on me like I'm all my clients

1128
01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:22,360
Speaker 1: when I went through that journey first of all. I

1129
01:06:22,400 --> 01:06:24,920
Speaker 1: went through so many years of inconsistency of up and

1130
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 1: down to get me to that eighteen month period, okay,

1131
01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:31,880
Speaker 1: of the straight and narrow. During that eighteen months where

1132
01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:33,880
Speaker 1: I was just hitting all of my marks, guys, it

1133
01:06:33,960 --> 01:06:37,439
Speaker 1: was hard. It was lonely because guess what, I'm now

1134
01:06:37,640 --> 01:06:40,640
Speaker 1: behaving different than everybody else around me. I'm not eating

1135
01:06:40,640 --> 01:06:43,720
Speaker 1: what they're eating. I'm not drinking what they're drinking. I

1136
01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:47,560
Speaker 1: am more organized with my time, and I had to

1137
01:06:47,600 --> 01:06:50,240
Speaker 1: be very strict about that. Even my kids. I'd be like,

1138
01:06:50,280 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 1: all right, I'll do whatever you want, but mommy has

1139
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:55,560
Speaker 1: to go grocery shopping first. I gotta get my work

1140
01:06:55,560 --> 01:06:57,440
Speaker 1: out in first, and then we can do X, Y

1141
01:06:57,480 --> 01:07:00,880
Speaker 1: and Z. Sometimes that can be reward and lonely at

1142
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:03,240
Speaker 1: the same time, you know. So I try to be

1143
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:06,320
Speaker 1: for my clients with I did not have for myself,

1144
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:11,520
Speaker 1: which was that constant support. To your point, I would

1145
01:07:11,520 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 1: have times where I'm laying in the bed late at

1146
01:07:13,720 --> 01:07:16,680
Speaker 1: night and I just want to eat the worst possible

1147
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:20,560
Speaker 1: thing and drink whatever I want. I would want to.

1148
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:23,480
Speaker 1: I even remember crying over certain foods that I want

1149
01:07:23,480 --> 01:07:25,640
Speaker 1: it real bad and I couldn't have them. That's addiction,

1150
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:29,920
Speaker 1: you know. I mean when you really want what you

1151
01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:33,280
Speaker 1: want in that moment and you are convince yourself emotionally

1152
01:07:33,320 --> 01:07:35,919
Speaker 1: that's what you need to feel better, and then you're

1153
01:07:35,920 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 1: telling me I can't have it. Like you said, you

1154
01:07:38,240 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 1: want to throw hands, you know. So I tried to

1155
01:07:40,920 --> 01:07:44,880
Speaker 1: be that support, that comfort, and that reassurance to each

1156
01:07:44,880 --> 01:07:47,600
Speaker 1: and every client that I served to help them realize, look,

1157
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:50,720
Speaker 1: you're not alone. And then everything that I tell my

1158
01:07:50,800 --> 01:07:54,520
Speaker 1: clients to do, I'm doing it. Everything I tell you

1159
01:07:54,560 --> 01:07:58,000
Speaker 1: wanna eat, I'm eating or have a every workout I've

1160
01:07:58,320 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 1: put people through, every bird be every jump squad, I

1161
01:08:02,480 --> 01:08:05,120
Speaker 1: do it too. And it was me doing those things

1162
01:08:05,160 --> 01:08:07,680
Speaker 1: that helped to get me where I am now. And

1163
01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:10,040
Speaker 1: I'm still gonna take it back to what you first said,

1164
01:08:10,080 --> 01:08:13,160
Speaker 1: it's not about being skinny. Skinny doesn't eat equate health.

1165
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: I I actually coach. I do nutrition coaching from people,

1166
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:21,840
Speaker 1: not just overweight people. I help people who are staying

1167
01:08:21,880 --> 01:08:24,320
Speaker 1: game weight. I help people who are overweight lose weight.

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01:08:24,640 --> 01:08:27,120
Speaker 1: And then I also have a segment of clients that

1169
01:08:27,200 --> 01:08:29,840
Speaker 1: come to me who are already at their goal weight,

1170
01:08:29,880 --> 01:08:32,479
Speaker 1: but they just eat horrible and they just want to

1171
01:08:32,600 --> 01:08:36,839
Speaker 1: learn how to prepare healthy meals and put together food.

1172
01:08:37,120 --> 01:08:39,639
Speaker 1: So it's not about being skinny. You can be skinny

1173
01:08:39,640 --> 01:08:42,040
Speaker 1: and still be diabetic. You can be skinny and still

1174
01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:45,000
Speaker 1: have high blood pressure and and and fail your your

1175
01:08:45,040 --> 01:08:47,680
Speaker 1: physical So it's not about that. I mean, when you

1176
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:49,439
Speaker 1: to your point where you go on my page and

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01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:51,960
Speaker 1: you scroll my page and see my videos that I

1178
01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 1: post up, I have hips I have, but you know

1179
01:08:55,160 --> 01:08:58,360
Speaker 1: I have me on my bones. But it's all about

1180
01:08:58,479 --> 01:09:01,360
Speaker 1: being the best version. I said that you can be

1181
01:09:01,439 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 1: for yourself. Now, if I want to be super skinny,

1182
01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:05,800
Speaker 1: I know how to do that. You know. I got

1183
01:09:05,840 --> 01:09:09,479
Speaker 1: down to at my smallest a hundred twenty five pounds.

1184
01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:12,679
Speaker 1: I was super tiny, and according to the medical charts,

1185
01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 1: that's what I was supposed to be. But I'm gonna

1186
01:09:15,040 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 1: be honest with you. The weight that I enjoyed the

1187
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:20,719
Speaker 1: most for me with muscle was like a buck fifty

1188
01:09:20,960 --> 01:09:23,759
Speaker 1: So according to their charts, a hundred and fifty pounds

1189
01:09:23,800 --> 01:09:27,719
Speaker 1: and still overweight. But I had more muscle than fat.

1190
01:09:27,840 --> 01:09:30,640
Speaker 1: So it's like they couldn't really say anything, you know,

1191
01:09:31,400 --> 01:09:36,280
Speaker 1: versus being one fifty one eighty of a higher body

1192
01:09:36,360 --> 01:09:39,840
Speaker 1: fat percentage, I think that's where the dynamic comes in.

1193
01:09:39,920 --> 01:09:43,280
Speaker 1: The scale is just a tool, okay, to help you.

1194
01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:46,160
Speaker 1: But that's why a lot of coaches say, hey, hit

1195
01:09:46,200 --> 01:09:51,040
Speaker 1: those weights, yes, get your diet together, but the way

1196
01:09:51,120 --> 01:09:55,360
Speaker 1: training is going to be the turning point on your

1197
01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:59,800
Speaker 1: body composition. Because when I weighed one fifty one five,

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01:10:00,640 --> 01:10:03,639
Speaker 1: that was a lot for my height, but I still

1199
01:10:03,720 --> 01:10:07,200
Speaker 1: look like I was like one thirty, right, you know

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01:10:07,240 --> 01:10:09,240
Speaker 1: what I mean. So that's what it's about. It's I

1201
01:10:09,240 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 1: guess what I'm saying. It's not just one thing, it's

1202
01:10:11,320 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 1: all things. It's the healthy eating first, it's how you

1203
01:10:15,680 --> 01:10:18,800
Speaker 1: train second. And I would have to say before all

1204
01:10:18,800 --> 01:10:20,920
Speaker 1: of those things because you guys touched on it, it's

1205
01:10:21,000 --> 01:10:25,320
Speaker 1: the mindset you have to be ready to change. I

1206
01:10:25,400 --> 01:10:27,080
Speaker 1: work with a lot of people that tell me they

1207
01:10:27,160 --> 01:10:29,920
Speaker 1: want to change, but their actions show me they're not

1208
01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:33,760
Speaker 1: add percent ready to change. I'll be trying, though, But

1209
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:36,160
Speaker 1: I'm motivated right now and remotivated because we've got some

1210
01:10:36,360 --> 01:10:38,040
Speaker 1: big ship coming up and I want to be the

1211
01:10:38,040 --> 01:10:42,080
Speaker 1: best version of myself doing it. So I'm remotivated. After

1212
01:10:42,120 --> 01:10:44,360
Speaker 1: I hang up with y'all, I'm not gonna get that pizza.

1213
01:10:44,400 --> 01:10:46,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to the gym. I had a coopon

1214
01:10:48,720 --> 01:10:52,559
Speaker 1: healthier pizza. Y'all. There's so many other ways to make

1215
01:10:52,600 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 1: the healthier versions of the foods that we love. Listen

1216
01:10:55,520 --> 01:10:58,679
Speaker 1: with air fryers alone, the invention of that still being

1217
01:10:58,720 --> 01:11:00,920
Speaker 1: able to put food in there get a crisp to it.

1218
01:11:01,240 --> 01:11:03,599
Speaker 1: What do we love about fried food? It's the crisp,

1219
01:11:03,800 --> 01:11:06,120
Speaker 1: you know. But in order to get the crisp, you

1220
01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:11,280
Speaker 1: gotta fried and oil and and flower. But if air

1221
01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:13,920
Speaker 1: fire now has allow you to get those crispy wings

1222
01:11:13,960 --> 01:11:16,200
Speaker 1: without it being breaded, it allows you to get chicken

1223
01:11:16,240 --> 01:11:20,680
Speaker 1: tenders crispy. You know, you have to be willing. I

1224
01:11:20,720 --> 01:11:24,599
Speaker 1: guess what I'm saying to discover new things. We can't

1225
01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:27,559
Speaker 1: get so caught in our old ways of doing things

1226
01:11:27,600 --> 01:11:30,439
Speaker 1: that it's going to be to our detriment. So one

1227
01:11:30,479 --> 01:11:32,880
Speaker 1: thing I'd like to challenge my clients is to open

1228
01:11:32,920 --> 01:11:36,400
Speaker 1: their minds and open their thinkings. Just because you ate

1229
01:11:36,400 --> 01:11:38,439
Speaker 1: a certain way growing up, like you said, or you

1230
01:11:38,479 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 1: were exposed to certain things, doesn't mean this what's best

1231
01:11:41,080 --> 01:11:45,880
Speaker 1: for you now right right? Sorry, tell our listeners where

1232
01:11:45,880 --> 01:11:48,040
Speaker 1: they can find you, where they can soak up some

1233
01:11:48,120 --> 01:11:52,720
Speaker 1: of this good healthy motivation and energy okay, well, thank

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01:11:52,760 --> 01:11:55,360
Speaker 1: you again for having me. You can find me on

1235
01:11:55,400 --> 01:12:01,519
Speaker 1: my Instagram at Organic Underscore Chrissie. And let me say last,

1236
01:12:01,560 --> 01:12:04,280
Speaker 1: but not least, guys, I have a comic book. I

1237
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 1: have created a comic book with um Concrete Comics, Black

1238
01:12:09,080 --> 01:12:12,639
Speaker 1: owned all the way around. I had a vision years

1239
01:12:12,680 --> 01:12:17,599
Speaker 1: ago to create a superhero that was focused, as corny

1240
01:12:17,640 --> 01:12:21,439
Speaker 1: as it may sound, on healthy eating and fitness. And

1241
01:12:21,520 --> 01:12:24,479
Speaker 1: I wanted to give that image to the black community,

1242
01:12:24,600 --> 01:12:28,120
Speaker 1: to our Black children, to our Black adults, to show

1243
01:12:28,200 --> 01:12:31,320
Speaker 1: them that you can unlock your own version of a

1244
01:12:31,360 --> 01:12:35,639
Speaker 1: superhero within yourself through your lifestyle. Because when I look

1245
01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:38,200
Speaker 1: at where I used to be walking up and up

1246
01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:41,240
Speaker 1: and downstairs winded, can't even breathe can't even run to

1247
01:12:41,280 --> 01:12:45,519
Speaker 1: the corner to being able to run six miles, dead

1248
01:12:45,600 --> 01:12:48,920
Speaker 1: lift over two hundred pounds, that is a superhero. I

1249
01:12:49,040 --> 01:12:52,679
Speaker 1: became my own version of a superhero. So I created

1250
01:12:52,840 --> 01:12:57,840
Speaker 1: Organic Chrissie the Superhero, and her story is going to

1251
01:12:57,920 --> 01:13:02,240
Speaker 1: be very unique. And I partnered up with Concrete Comics

1252
01:13:02,479 --> 01:13:06,160
Speaker 1: and they're going to allow me to tell my real

1253
01:13:06,240 --> 01:13:09,360
Speaker 1: life story, but of course, as a comic book creator,

1254
01:13:09,400 --> 01:13:11,800
Speaker 1: they're going to add the twist to it to give

1255
01:13:11,920 --> 01:13:15,479
Speaker 1: myself super you know, my enemies, my nemesis and everything

1256
01:13:15,560 --> 01:13:18,719
Speaker 1: like that. The story unfolds right here and Shaker, I'm

1257
01:13:18,800 --> 01:13:22,400
Speaker 1: um in Charlotte. Excuse me. I'm a protector of my city.

1258
01:13:22,400 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like a female Luke Cage. So I

1259
01:13:25,439 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 1: don't have greasings out of my eyes, I don't fly,

1260
01:13:29,360 --> 01:13:33,479
Speaker 1: but my lifestyle is what allows me to have superhuman strength.

1261
01:13:33,960 --> 01:13:37,840
Speaker 1: So you get you get strength from spa. I get

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Speaker 1: strength from spinash. And you know, it's so funny because

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Speaker 1: Popeye was the first cartoon if you really think about it,

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Speaker 1: that equated food to strength and energy, and it was

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Speaker 1: so telling back then. Pop Spinach is one of the

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Speaker 1: higher protein vegetables and he was always say eat your vegetables,

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Speaker 1: grow your biceps. So yes, in that concept, the foods

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Speaker 1: that I eat and how I train is what helped

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Speaker 1: me to unlock my innerviews. So I have a free

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Speaker 1: Kickstarter that's in the link in my bio that's kind

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Speaker 1: of just like a preview to her. But the first

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Speaker 1: edition will be coming out in And when I first

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Speaker 1: saw myself drawn and the comic book sketches, I cried

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Speaker 1: because it's like, guys, that's huge, but let's be honest,

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Speaker 1: black superheroes is still an up and coming thing. It's not.

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Speaker 1: And a black woman superhero that looks like can they

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Speaker 1: find this on your It's inne tree and when you

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Speaker 1: link on a click on the link tree, you'll see

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Speaker 1: comic book. It'll take you to the Concrete Comics website

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Speaker 1: and you'll be able to read that first kickstarter. That's

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Speaker 1: so dope, girl, that is so super dope. Like, we

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Speaker 1: really appreciate you for coming on. Thank you, We love

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Speaker 1: you so much. All right, so I'm gonna definitely hit

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Speaker 1: you up because I might need to jump back on

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Speaker 1: your bad way. If you got time or space four,

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Speaker 1: we'll see you. Though I ain't gonna ain't no problems.

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Speaker 1: I might I got commitment issues that might he The

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Speaker 1: first workout is always free, so just test me out.

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Speaker 1: You might like the waters. The workout is good. It

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Speaker 1: is just every week. That's the that's the hard part.

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Speaker 1: But we're gonna we're gonna get our lives together. Girl.

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Speaker 1: Thank you Booby, So listen, guys. If you enjoyed this episode,

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Speaker 1: please tune in every Thursday on an I Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: is your co host a J Holiday two point oh.

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Speaker 1: back ant dot com. Go ahead, Tam, y'all, it's official,

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Speaker 1: Tam bam. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all for

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Speaker 1: tuning in once again. Remember to speak now and never

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Speaker 1: hold your pizza. No peace by y'all,