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Speaker 2: Matt is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by somebody named Bria.
Speaker 2: So in a minute, we're gonna call her and seeha
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date the first Matt, how long has it been
Speaker 2: as you heard from Bria?
Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, you know it's been It's been about a
Speaker 3: week now.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I gotta be honest, this is the first time I've
Speaker 3: ever been ghosts since. I'm not really sure if it's
Speaker 3: a long time or not. Ever.
Speaker 4: Wow, congratulations, Actually appreciate that.
Speaker 3: I try to be selective of the idea.
Speaker 2: A week is a long time if you go out
Speaker 2: with somebody, usually if they like you, you know, maybe
Speaker 2: a couple of days go by where they don't text you,
Speaker 2: but they'll get back to you. Have you tried reaching out?
Speaker 3: I'm heading about it just because I wanted to be
Speaker 3: like a single you know, thoughtful thing like, not exactly
Speaker 3: a grand gesture. I don't want to be like a
Speaker 3: door about it, but I do want to make sure
Speaker 3: that it is memorable, want to make it, you know,
Speaker 3: And that's the thing. That's what I'm calling it is
Speaker 3: because I want you guys to help me out with this.
Speaker 3: I really don't know what I'm doing. This is totally
Speaker 3: new territory for me.
Speaker 4: Okay, So you want to get her attention with something
Speaker 4: more of a hey, how you do in text?
Speaker 3: Exactly? I want to be yea much more of a
Speaker 3: because she is dating with intention and I want to
Speaker 3: make sure that I am someone who's you know, intention
Speaker 3: is worthwhile.
Speaker 2: That's cute picture.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, how did you meet Bria Matt? How did
Speaker 4: you meet her? And how is the date?
Speaker 3: Yeah? We so we met on Hinge and we were talking,
Speaker 3: you know, back and forth for a little bit and
Speaker 3: making sure that you know, we we really you know,
Speaker 3: had a feel for one another. I saw on Hinge
Speaker 3: her photos where she was hiking, and that showed me
Speaker 3: that she's equally active and she appreciates nature, and that's
Speaker 3: that's all me. I love that we went to a
Speaker 3: rooftop for drinks, you know, right sunset, so he's going
Speaker 3: to have very very beautiful views and indeed we got
Speaker 3: sure to that. That was great U And it was
Speaker 3: really romantic there were plants. It was. It seemed kind
Speaker 3: of an intimate setting. And then so I'm glad we
Speaker 3: were there because we started just acting like we were
Speaker 3: on vacation, you know, so we made up stories for ourselves.
Speaker 3: We were looking around us at the different couples of
Speaker 3: different people, making up stories for them.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: It was a lot of fun, it was, and she
Speaker 3: was a lot of fun. One of the things that
Speaker 3: I really appreciate is just how she beams with everything,
Speaker 3: you know, just big smile, laughing, contagious laughter. At that point,
Speaker 3: we started out, you know, what we want and goals
Speaker 3: and what our passions are, what drives us, and it
Speaker 3: seemed it really really seemed to fit. And this is
Speaker 3: why I'm concerned about the ghost thing, because you know,
Speaker 3: I hope she's all right. I hope that I didn't
Speaker 3: come across too strong. You know. We ended the day
Speaker 3: with a hug, like a nice tight hug. It was.
Speaker 3: It seemed promising, and so I want to make sure
Speaker 3: that everything is kind of how I thought it was
Speaker 3: in my head. And then I don't know, maybe I
Speaker 3: messed up. I hope I didn't.
Speaker 4: Well, it sounds like it went really great for the
Speaker 4: most part. Is there anything that happened that could be why?
Speaker 3: I mean, you know, I'm competitive, I'm maybe overly competitive.
Speaker 3: And I asked her if she was seeing other people,
Speaker 3: you know, just because she said she was dating with intention,
Speaker 3: but I don't want to know kind of how that went.
Speaker 3: And yeah, she did say that she was kind of dating.
Speaker 3: It didn't sound like there was anything serious going on.
Speaker 3: But maybe I just came across as too intense with
Speaker 3: how I.
Speaker 2: Asked, how did you ask? Did you reached across the
Speaker 2: table and grab her hand and stare deevid Juryan said,
Speaker 2: are you seeing anybody else?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 4: I might like it.
Speaker 3: I can't quite remember. So maybe I was in a
Speaker 3: bit of an altered state of mind. Maybe the duration
Speaker 3: was going that evening. Okay, so yeah, that might have
Speaker 3: contributed to it. I don't remember.
Speaker 4: Any cloy all Right, man, Matt.
Speaker 2: We'll see if we can figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call her
Speaker 2: and try to get you another date and find out
Speaker 2: where you're getting goosted.
Speaker 3: Okay, thank you, guys, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song, come back, get your
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Speaker 2: Matt is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Bria.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if so
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But first, Matt, why don't you catch us
Speaker 2: up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Brion, I went on a date, and you know,
Speaker 3: beforehand and met on Hinge. I was very tried to
Speaker 3: all of her photos. We met up, it seemed like
Speaker 3: it was going really great. We had a lot of
Speaker 3: fun just making up stories about ourselves and when it
Speaker 3: came to this fun little gamer you're playing. But I
Speaker 3: feel like I really got to know her. I was
Speaker 3: very very attractive to her and she was basically like
Speaker 3: just just sunshine, and so I want to know what
Speaker 3: happened with it.
Speaker 2: Okay, And you think that the reason she might not
Speaker 2: be calling you back is because you asked if she
Speaker 2: was dating other people.
Speaker 3: Maybe I honestly don't know, and I'm looking for you
Speaker 3: guys to help me out with this.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well here we go. Are you ready to call her?
Speaker 3: Please? Let's do it's up.
Speaker 2: Hi, man, I speak Tobria.
Speaker 5: Please, this is she.
Speaker 2: Hey Bria, how are you? My name is Jeubel and
Speaker 2: I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Bria, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 5: Hi, and I'm Victoria. Oh. Hi, there's a lot of
Speaker 5: people here there is.
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm okay? How are you?
Speaker 2: I'm good? Thank you for asking. Have you ever listened
Speaker 2: to the show before?
Speaker 5: I have?
Speaker 2: Well, we're calling because we do a segment on the
Speaker 2: show called the First Date follow Up, where if you
Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and then you
Speaker 2: ghost them, they can email us to call you and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 5: Uh huh.
Speaker 2: So we got an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, who.
Speaker 4: Are you ghosting?
Speaker 5: Brian? Well, I'm guessing is this Matt? Yes?
Speaker 2: It is so. Matt emailed us and we talked to
Speaker 2: him a little bit about your date. He really liked you,
Speaker 2: and he is wondering why you're not calling him back.
Speaker 5: I mean, it feels kind of weird to say, but
Speaker 5: I just think he's too pretty.
Speaker 2: You think he's too pretty?
Speaker 5: I think, Yeah, I think I think he's too pretty,
Speaker 5: and I think he knows he's he's a he's a
Speaker 5: handsome lad, and that is that was a little bit
Speaker 5: of a turnoff for me.
Speaker 4: Was it confidence or arrogance?
Speaker 5: Well, so, like it started off, he just kind of
Speaker 5: seemed to talk a lot about himself, and he seemed
Speaker 5: to just always be catching his reflection in a mirror
Speaker 5: or a window, just like seemed very taken with it.
Speaker 5: And he also was kind of talking about his internet
Speaker 5: presence and how many followers he has and just like
Speaker 5: repeated that a few times, and I just kind of
Speaker 5: felt like I wasn't really being paid attention. You know,
Speaker 5: it's a first date, so I expected some questions about me,
Speaker 5: and he just kind of seemed to be talking about
Speaker 5: how fit he is and like how he's going to
Speaker 5: start off fitness page. You know, like I know that
Speaker 5: he we talked about hiking and like being outdoors and
Speaker 5: being fit, and like I'm definitely about that, but like
Speaker 5: I'm also a person, and I felt that, yeah, we
Speaker 5: got to talk about things bigger than internet presence.
Speaker 4: It sounds like he was trying to impress you. Oh,
Speaker 4: isn't it like he showed up with all of his
Speaker 4: toys and was like, look at this is what I have.
Speaker 4: Do you like him?
Speaker 5: I could see that. I could see that, and you know,
Speaker 5: I was trying to ask him about things that he
Speaker 5: was interested in, but I kind of expected him to
Speaker 5: ask me about some stuff. That's you got to make
Speaker 5: a connection on your eight and I feel like you
Speaker 5: actually have to, you know, like ask questions and sort
Speaker 5: of be interested.
Speaker 3: Okay, can I ask you a question?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 5: Wait, wait, what was that?
Speaker 2: That's Matt. Matt is actually on the other line listening
Speaker 2: and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I thought it was just you guys.
Speaker 2: Matt's here too, Yeah, and I guess he has a question.
Speaker 3: Now. I wanted to ask, did you have a fun
Speaker 3: time on our date?
Speaker 2: Otherwise valid, what's a question about you?
Speaker 5: But it was a question about us, So I'm gonna
Speaker 5: say fifty to fifty. We I mean, we did have fun,
Speaker 5: Like it was fun, pretending like we were on vacation
Speaker 5: and coming up with all kinds of stories for the
Speaker 5: people around us. But you know, it was a date
Speaker 5: where I was trying to get to know you, and
Speaker 5: I thought you would be trying to get to know me.
Speaker 5: So anytime I felt like I brought up, you know,
Speaker 5: bigger topics. You know, I thought it, you just kind
Speaker 5: of always steered it back to you. So I'm looking, Yeah.
Speaker 3: They're there are a couple of I hope they don't
Speaker 3: come across as just excuses here. First off, I kind
Speaker 3: of had maybe a couple shots before the date to
Speaker 3: call my nerves because I was definitely really getting looking
Speaker 3: forward to getting to know you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, of course you did. And I feel like.
Speaker 3: I, honestly, I do genuinely feel like I I you know,
Speaker 3: I feel like I did actually get to know you.
Speaker 3: You know, like you're You're a great listener, and I
Speaker 3: mean the work you do with animals is brilliant.
Speaker 5: What I don't work with animals, I'm really sure what
Speaker 5: that is.
Speaker 3: I might have had way too much. I had two
Speaker 3: shots that might have quadruple I genuinely though, I, I mean,
Speaker 3: I really appreciated her energy, and I think that she
Speaker 3: was She's just sunshine. She's just sunshine and human form.
Speaker 3: And I understand that I have totally totally overly concerned
Speaker 3: about my looks and everything, and that shouldn't be something
Speaker 3: that I'm worrying about on first date with my business.
Speaker 3: I kind of have to be on all times, and
Speaker 3: I should have unwinded. That was one of the reasons
Speaker 3: I had those shots as well. But humbly I would
Speaker 3: love a second date.
Speaker 5: Can you could you just tell me what color my
Speaker 5: eyes are?
Speaker 3: You're beautiful green eyes?
Speaker 5: Well they're blue?
Speaker 2: Bal would you like to go on a first date
Speaker 2: with another shot?
Speaker 5: I know were we were? We was this? Did this happen?
Speaker 3: It sounds like we need another first date for sure.
Speaker 3: I need to remember at this time.
Speaker 5: Well, if you can promise that, you know, maybe we
Speaker 5: do an afternoon thing, maybe we have some coffee and
Speaker 5: we if we talk about some things a little bit
Speaker 5: bigger than internet presence, I think maybe I can.
Speaker 3: I can agree to that. Though you said a drive
Speaker 3: a hard bargain, but those are agreeable terms. You're gonna go, Tria.
Speaker 3: I am so sorry that. Clearly I was in a
Speaker 3: different place in my mind and I was not listening
Speaker 3: to a single or you said. And I really appreciate. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you know what this this next one, I'm going to
Speaker 3: listen to everything. I'm gonna let you do the talking.
Speaker 3: Let's let's go with that.
Speaker 5: Well, I do I do like a person who can
Speaker 5: own their mistakes and you know we're not always going
Speaker 5: to be perfect every time. So yeah, cool.
Speaker 2: Well, congratulations Matt you got a date with Bria.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's impressed that you guys are with the look.
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