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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An, iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and People's Choice Award nominated podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, Hello, How's how's everyone doing?

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Speaker 1: Super good? How are you? Mark?

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Speaker 3: You feel quiet today?

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Speaker 4: Mark's been on for five seconds? How do I feel

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Speaker 4: quiet today?

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Speaker 2: There's an energy about you that seems quiet.

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Speaker 4: And I were here early this morning.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a it's been a day, been a doozy,

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Speaker 1: been a doozy.

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Speaker 4: We're recording this on Friday and La is on fire

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Speaker 4: and that requires a lot of different kind of morning

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Speaker 4: show behavior. So it was a little bit of a

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Speaker 4: crazy morning today.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So and so Mark's just uh, had a morning

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Speaker 1: and then I'm mi son sleep like, just had an

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Speaker 1: app last night. Essentially, it makes me.

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Speaker 2: I get so nauseous when I don't when I get

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Speaker 2: that little sleep, So I don't.

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Speaker 3: I do commend you for.

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Speaker 1: Your And there's no like coming back from it, really

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Speaker 1: because I'm going straight to stuff all day today and

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Speaker 1: then I have your dinner tonight, so like I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: be like this all day.

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Speaker 3: So I'm gonna get you liquored up tonight. It'll be

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Speaker 3: a good time.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna be the wheels are gonna come off tonight.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, it.

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Speaker 2: Film's dangerous, baby, where are you a trainer? The wheels

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Speaker 2: are okay?

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Speaker 3: How that works?

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Speaker 2: But we had the best time last night, Yeah we did.

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Speaker 2: Before your rager, we had a an in story event

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Speaker 2: at the May Season South Coast Paza. And let me

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Speaker 2: just tell you, I know nothing stresses me out more

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Speaker 2: than something.

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Speaker 3: With a meet and greet.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, because I have been to meet and greets

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Speaker 2: for myself where I think like twenty people, not even

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Speaker 2: twenty ten people showed up and I'm like, hey, like,

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Speaker 2: whoever booked this?

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Speaker 4: That's the stress? Is anybody gonna bother?

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Speaker 3: Showing was gonna come?

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Speaker 2: And so Tanya was like moderating and like hosting the

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Speaker 2: little Q and A. And so I walked in really

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Speaker 2: just thinking this, I have no idea what it's going

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Speaker 2: to be like. You know, I knew there would be

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Speaker 2: some of the scrubbers there, so I was at least

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Speaker 2: thinking like maybe five to seven would be in the audience.

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Speaker 4: Likedcast, I guess I did, but I'm.

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Speaker 2: Confirmed I like posted the scrubbing and group and on

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Speaker 2: my story, so you know, I felt like I fixed that,

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Speaker 2: I hope.

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Speaker 1: So we walk out and it is like a.

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Speaker 2: Huge crowd, huge crowd people were standing behind.

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Speaker 1: I think they were ninety percent scrubbers, all maybe got letters,

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Speaker 1: we got wed all of us.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's next April.

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Speaker 1: I do want to try to go to that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's local, right, yeah, Will Fullerton, Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: So it was a great but so we did.

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Speaker 2: We did the Q and A talking about the my

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Speaker 2: line with barthree and Macy's, and then we did a

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Speaker 2: little meet and greet and it was so awesome, like

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Speaker 2: all the girls were just so sweet. I got tons

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Speaker 2: of hugs.

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Speaker 1: It's really crazy because you don't realize, like there are

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Speaker 1: so many girls that we met last night, and I

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Speaker 1: feel so wildly connected to them. So, like one girl

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Speaker 1: came up and she was sharing a story. She happened

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Speaker 1: to know Moy who we talked about on the last podcast,

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Speaker 1: and so we had like a special moment. And there

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Speaker 1: was another girl who came up and basically she said

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Speaker 1: that her dad was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks ago,

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Speaker 1: and she met somebody in the face scrubbing and Facebook

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Speaker 1: group that also her father was diagnosed with cancer at

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Speaker 1: the same time. So they just literally met through our

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Speaker 1: Facebook group. And have been there for each other to

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Speaker 1: through this process of having their you know, and their

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Speaker 1: prognosis are really good, so it wasn't it. It's all

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Speaker 1: really good and positive, but it's still something really difficult

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Speaker 1: to go through. And they found each other through the podcast,

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Speaker 1: and it's just hearing all of these stories, Like every

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Speaker 1: girl had a story for us about how they met

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Speaker 4: Talk about the girl who confide it in you that

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Speaker 4: she didn't have the courage and she got it from you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So this other she was tall. I remember. There

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Speaker 1: was two of them that were like two friends, and

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Speaker 1: talking I ever remember, and then the other one was

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Speaker 1: like kind of whispering in my ear. And I got

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Speaker 1: really emotional about it because she basically said she wasn't

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Speaker 1: she's never had the confidence to say that she didn't

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Speaker 1: want to have sex until she was like ready, and

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Speaker 1: that listening to the podcast and like hearing me in

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Speaker 1: my stance on it, she said that it made her

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Speaker 1: vocal about that in her relationship now and she hasn't,

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Speaker 1: and she's like, I wouldn't have never, and she's like,

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Speaker 1: I'm so happy and I feel so good and I

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Speaker 1: never would have had the courage to do that had

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Speaker 1: I not like heard you stepping out like that.

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Speaker 4: Well there a specific like just you saying that you

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Speaker 4: have this philosophy in your life now is what inspired her?

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Speaker 4: Was there a specific moment.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. She didn't say specific moment.

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Speaker 4: I guess probably just that that's amazing. I mean, that's

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Speaker 4: changing the world stuff for me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's you changed a whole moment totally.

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Speaker 1: It was I got emotional, I like almost started crying

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Speaker 1: and then they're like, you need to take your photo

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I know a minute.

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Speaker 2: So it was like they were like moving it quick.

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Speaker 2: So the thing with it, we both always like chat

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Speaker 1: Beck and I would have probably been there for one

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Speaker 1: hundred hours if they didn't keep it moving. So I

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Speaker 1: appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but there were it's just like sometimes you want

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Speaker 2: to hear more and say more, and it was like

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Speaker 2: very it was like all right, picture and so you know,

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Speaker 2: it was moving. I mean, it was the timeframe we had,

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Speaker 2: so it was fine. But yeah, you know, it was

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Speaker 2: hard because Tany would be like wait, wait in like

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Speaker 2: in the middle of the photo, she's like talking, totally talking.

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Speaker 1: I mean, there's people who like it. It's just it's

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Speaker 1: so wild. It's so wild.

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Speaker 2: It's just cool to know like doing something like that

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Speaker 2: that people are going to show up, like they're so

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Speaker 2: supportive and like I feel like they're they're like not

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Speaker 2: only for us, but for each other. Like it's just

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Speaker 2: really cool. It's a really cool community. I can't say

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Speaker 2: it enough. Like I'm the most proud of this podcast

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Speaker 2: because of our listeners for sure.

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Speaker 3: So it was really cool.

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Speaker 1: It was like empower each other. It's like the cool

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Speaker 1: like it's just.

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Speaker 4: That's what the Facebook group is is listers of the

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Speaker 4: show empowering each other.

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Speaker 1: Literally.

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Speaker 2: Alie wasn't able to go, and she was like, I'm

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Speaker 2: so sad I'm miss seeing the scrubbers. It's it's just

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Speaker 2: like they.

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Speaker 3: Make me feel so good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like they.

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Speaker 1: Really like it's like it's fuel almost like they like

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Speaker 1: fuel each other, they fuel us, Like it's really There's

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Speaker 1: another girl that came up and said that she's been.

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Speaker 1: She's like, I've been listening to you on the radio

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Speaker 5: And I was like wow me.

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Speaker 1: And then she was like, well, maybe not ten years.

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Speaker 1: It was like ten years because she was like, I

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Speaker 1: remember when you were in the back room and like wow,

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Speaker 1: I know. I was like yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, like.

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Speaker 1: I'm like I'm gonna cry.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really cool.

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Speaker 2: And then we did a five hundred dollars shopping spree

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Speaker 2: giveaway and there was literally a box full, like of

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Speaker 2: tons of pieces of paper. Guess whose name my pool,

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Speaker 2: Guess whose name she pulls? Crystal, who runs Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: who runs our social our Instagram and our Twitter and

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Speaker 2: does like so much for the podcast. So and of

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Speaker 2: course she's like the sweetest. She's like, I'll share it.

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Speaker 1: She is the sweetest. But it was crazy of all crazy,

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Speaker 1: This box is like big. I was like the fact

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Speaker 1: that you picked her name that was kind of I know,

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Speaker 2: So it was really fun. Thank you for everyone who

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Speaker 2: is able to come. I know a lot of people

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Speaker 2: on the Facebook group were like, dude, you know, come

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Speaker 1: Nor now I'm fueled up to do Atlanta. So when

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Speaker 1: a Facebook a Scrubbing in Atlanta group.

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Speaker 4: There's a separate Facebook page for scrubbing.

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Speaker 1: And there's a separate one for the Los Angeles Robbers too.

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Speaker 1: There's five hundred in the Los Angeles one.

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Speaker 2: I think it makes it easy for people to say, like, hey,

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Speaker 1: So I found out that there's an Atlanta one with

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Speaker 1: like a pretty girthy number. And I'm like, why doesnt

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Speaker 1: Becca come out on the weekend and we can like see.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why you're you're begging me.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, I'll do it, okay, book a ticket.

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Speaker 4: That's that's going to be an issue for you. There's

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Speaker 4: too many people that want you to come to Atlanta

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Speaker 4: because you have that scrubbing in group, and literally every

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Speaker 4: morning people call a kiss and say I'm in Atlanta.

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Speaker 4: I want to see you guys when you come out

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Speaker 4: every single.

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Speaker 2: Dayani is like yes to everyone, and then she gets

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Speaker 2: there and there's like not enough, no time, names or

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Speaker 3: She's a giver.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, anything I was gonna make like a dirty joke

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Speaker 1: and then I was like, that's not funny.

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Speaker 3: Oh it would have been funny. It would have been funny.

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Speaker 4: Oh, really want to write again, she's a giver?

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Speaker 3: Well, Tani is a giver.

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Speaker 1: A giver takes no one that's dirty, like get in,

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Speaker 1: Like what you're saying.

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Speaker 4: Beca is also a giver. Yeah, so it takes a giver.

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Speaker 4: It's another giver. There's nothing dirty about that in our minds.

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Speaker 1: Oh so my mind just went to the dirty might

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Speaker 1: have Yeah, I'm just a giver.

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Speaker 4: Get it so bad.

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Speaker 2: I was extracting something way more entertaining than just a giver.

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Speaker 1: You know, given it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, let's move on again.

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Speaker 4: How's the voting going for the U for the scrubbing

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Speaker 4: n PCA nomination.

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Speaker 3: I've actually been doing a great job.

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Speaker 1: I'm pleased.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: How have you been voting, Mark?

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Speaker 4: I haven't sounds Oh my well, I feel a little

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Speaker 4: weird because wine Down's also nominated and I love scrubbing in.

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Speaker 3: I hate controversy and I don't want to be in.

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Speaker 2: I did an interview about my whole Macy's line, and

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Speaker 2: Okay, I got fud with Miley it's different.

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Speaker 4: People will say to me the last week, like when

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Speaker 4: Now always tell people that because you're wrong about Miley Cyrus, Yeah, no, I.

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Speaker 1: Know, I really feel the same way. I like her too,

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Speaker 2: Well, I have a really great story about Miley Cyrus

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Speaker 2: I always have to clarify the Markberg.

447
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Speaker 6: Thank you.

448
00:19:43,720 --> 00:19:45,920
Speaker 5: And I appreciate this status of dear friend because I

449
00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:46,680
Speaker 5: feel the same way.

450
00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:49,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, so, well, if you guys, because actually some people

451
00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:53,119
Speaker 1: are just new listeners. Some people are actually binging the

452
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:56,800
Speaker 1: podcast from the beginning, which I'm enjoying people's messages about that.

453
00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:00,320
Speaker 1: But we did an episode a podcast in Hawaii a

454
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,440
Speaker 1: few months ago while you were filming this season.

455
00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:06,800
Speaker 5: Right at the very beginning of taping the season that's

456
00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:08,560
Speaker 5: on the air as of last night.

457
00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:11,200
Speaker 2: Of Temptation Island. We didn't say the more.

458
00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:14,120
Speaker 5: We just assumed everybody's got their finger on the pulse

459
00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:14,880
Speaker 5: of everything I'm doing.

460
00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that was the episode.

461
00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 2: We also played at Truth or Drink and we had

462
00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:22,480
Speaker 2: a I mean, between you being on our Truth or Drink.

463
00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,200
Speaker 1: It was a big episode, a big episode.

464
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,240
Speaker 5: Well, all I know is that we went to this

465
00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 5: uh pineapple place before that and they had a distillery

466
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 5: and I took several shots. And by the time I

467
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,159
Speaker 5: got to you, I have no idea what was on

468
00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:38,080
Speaker 5: that podcast. So anything I said was under a influence.

469
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:41,200
Speaker 2: Well you're very wise under influence because you hear some

470
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 2: great advice to Tanyah.

471
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Speaker 5: Alcohol is a truth serum, isn't it.

472
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, it really is. That was some good advice.

473
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 5: Well, thank you. I hope it. Excuse me, my advice

474
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 5: was joking, my thrown. I hope it worked out. I

475
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:55,440
Speaker 5: don't think you need advice. I think I think you're

476
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:56,400
Speaker 5: a diamond in the rough.

477
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Speaker 1: So that is so kind, but do one of the craziest. Actually,

478
00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,119
Speaker 1: this is so creat what so you gave me this?

479
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:04,880
Speaker 1: We have this epiphany moment in Hawaii, I really did okay,

480
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 1: and it's like all clicking in my head. I'm like

481
00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:10,120
Speaker 1: Mark Wahlberg is a genius, Like this is so great.

482
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,240
Speaker 1: I just quit. I quit, I quit trying, I quit try,

483
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,240
Speaker 1: I quit looking. I quit then like I'm quitting it all.

484
00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:18,879
Speaker 2: It was funny because it's stuff I've been saying for

485
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 2: a while now, but you said it in a way

486
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:22,719
Speaker 2: I get really resonated with her.

487
00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:24,639
Speaker 5: Well, my kids can't hear me say stuff they hear

488
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,199
Speaker 5: from somebody else. If I say this right, and.

489
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 1: I think your your alignment to having it, like you're

490
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,160
Speaker 1: with your career and you were talking.

491
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Speaker 5: About money out so for me that was my thing

492
00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:36,160
Speaker 5: was but it all works.

493
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 1: Uh so I think for some reason that made it click.

494
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,680
Speaker 1: But then we get back from Hawaiian Buck and I

495
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:42,840
Speaker 1: are like, I actually probably looked the way I look

496
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 1: right now, like just real rough and like come out

497
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 1: of a plane and just not feeling good. And I

498
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 1: had to get here really early that day and I'm

499
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: like wearing my workout clothes and guess what, you.

500
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Speaker 5: Met a boy?

501
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,639
Speaker 1: I met a guy? What did I tell you?

502
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 5: I know?

503
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Speaker 1: It was like Charlie the next you know.

504
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 5: It's about making the space for something new to happen.

505
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 5: If the space is cluttered with I want, I wish,

506
00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:10,359
Speaker 5: I hope, I resent all that stuff, it fills up

507
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,680
Speaker 5: the space where something new could come in. So when

508
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 5: you say I quit, I'm not gonna do that anymore.

509
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 5: And I'm going to let God provide and I'm not

510
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 5: gonna worry about doing my hair. I'm just gonna be me.

511
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,159
Speaker 5: Then he shows up. Are we still dating him?

512
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 2: No?

513
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 5: Well that's the next level.

514
00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 1: But actually this is even the cooler. Part of the

515
00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 1: story is that he had he came to visit, so

516
00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:33,359
Speaker 1: he was from out of town he can't visit. He

517
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 1: was staying with me and we were going to dinner

518
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 1: one night on like summer where we're like always go

519
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:41,920
Speaker 1: and we're holding hands and who comes be bopping down

520
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 1: Ventura Boulevard with his whole family.

521
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Speaker 5: That would be me. I like to check up on

522
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 5: the people that I've given invite it to. So I've

523
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:50,399
Speaker 5: been standing at that corner.

524
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Speaker 2: For a months.

525
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 1: I actually took it as a sign as like Mark

526
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:57,359
Speaker 1: Wahlberg told me to quit and I didn't quit. I

527
00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,440
Speaker 1: didn't quit, and I need to quit. This day it

528
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 1: was done.

529
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 5: Well, I drove by and I'm like, oh, he's cute,

530
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:07,120
Speaker 5: this is working. Yeah he was cute, but I yelled

531
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 5: like a strange talker.

532
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 1: It was so awesome.

533
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:11,679
Speaker 4: Was that guy what was the nickname for that time?

534
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,880
Speaker 5: Screen time? Yeah, yeah, that doesn't sound.

535
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 1: It was really crazy. So I really do feel like

536
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: you're kind of you're part of like our story.

537
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 5: Now, well, I'm happy to be part of your story.

538
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 5: I'm fans of you guys.

539
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 1: Oh, I know.

540
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 3: We had the best time with years.

541
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Speaker 2: I mean we were hanging out with gold his daughter Goldie,

542
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 2: and his wife and we were just had the best time,

543
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 2: felt like family.

544
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 5: I was like saying, hey, you know, I'm the host

545
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 5: of the show. It's supposed to be about me, right now,

546
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,240
Speaker 5: can you lay off my daughter and my wife who

547
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 5: both said their love Oh we love them.

548
00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 2: You're the host of one of my maybe all time

549
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 2: favorite TV. I am so invested because I binge watched

550
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,399
Speaker 2: the whole first season, so I sat on my couch

551
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,399
Speaker 2: for however, many hours that was watched the whole season.

552
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 2: Then I got to go to Hawaii and see it

553
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,360
Speaker 2: like happening. Yeah, and now it's back on again.

554
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 5: It's back on Temptation Island.

555
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, but now I don't get to bench it.

556
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: I have to wait.

557
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 5: You're gonna have to wait a little bit. It's out

558
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 5: so you can watch it, and there's a casting special

559
00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 5: as well on USA network dot Com if you want

560
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:18,479
Speaker 5: to see how we selected the people for this year.

561
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 5: But it's going to be just crazy.

562
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: I don't think you can get crazier than the first season.

563
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,479
Speaker 3: So the preview for this season is insane.

564
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 5: I'll just say that we started taping in like two

565
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 5: days in. I kind of heard what was going on,

566
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 5: and I'm like, where do we go from here? This

567
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 5: is too much, too quick, And I was angry about it,

568
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 5: and I'm like everybody's like out of the box. I'm like,

569
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 5: everybody has got to slow their role. We've got twelve

570
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 5: episodes to do here. And then it changes and then

571
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,159
Speaker 5: like people kind of redirect themselves a little bit and

572
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,679
Speaker 5: it becomes this like story of empowerment. By the end,

573
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 5: the women, it becomes like this anthem the women find

574
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 5: their power. I'm really proud of them. I don't know

575
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 5: how long it lasts, sort of like the advice I

576
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 5: gave you, I don't know there's a shelf life. But yeah, man,

577
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 5: it's it's a good season. I think it's a good season.

578
00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 3: It's such good TV.

579
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 1: I'll be honest. When I had first met you, I

580
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: didn't watch the first season. I hadn't seen the first season,

581
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: and I'm not the biggest fan of like I don't

582
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: watch a ton I watched like The Bachelor, but I

583
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 1: don't watch a ton of like reality shows. Yeah, I

584
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 1: binged the first season when we came back from MIC

585
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 1: so I just felt really invested in you.

586
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 5: Thank you.

587
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with it. There's something like it's.

588
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 5: Not But here's the thing. I think it looks like

589
00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 5: a dating show. Yeah, you're like, oh, are you the

590
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 5: one x on the Beach Bachelor and Paradise has kind

591
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 5: of got all that vibe and you're like, oh, they're

592
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:45,680
Speaker 5: just going to hook up and it's like whatever, But

593
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,919
Speaker 5: it becomes because you got to remember there's no prize,

594
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 5: they're not competing for anything, right, And they think probably

595
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 5: it's going to be this crazy dating show and then

596
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 5: it becomes this really deep and introspective sort of like

597
00:25:58,560 --> 00:25:59,919
Speaker 5: what we were talking about, you got to look at

598
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 5: what has been the problem in relationships. I constantly say

599
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 5: to them, Look, I know that you're here focusing on

600
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:07,879
Speaker 5: your significant other on the other side of the island,

601
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 5: like what what's there? Like what are they doing? But

602
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:12,960
Speaker 5: you can't control that, So all you can do is

603
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 5: look at who are you being and how are you

604
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 5: in this? And how do you repeat behavior? And same stuff.

605
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: I think what I think what really triggered me was

606
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 1: what was the girl's name from the first season casey Okay?

607
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 5: Well I saw last night, by the way, so I.

608
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,160
Speaker 1: When I was watching it, I feel like I saw

609
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 1: a little bit of old Tanya in her, like the

610
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 1: girl that was like, we've been dating for this many years,

611
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: and I want the ring and I want this, like

612
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: all this stuff that really doesn't matter when.

613
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,120
Speaker 5: I say this to them on the air, I've said

614
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 5: it in interviews. I'm like so often to hear people say,

615
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 5: you know, if they don't give me a ring by

616
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 5: this time, I'm out, yeah, but no one plays that out.

617
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 5: So what if they do give you the ring like

618
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 5: you demanded it? And so they acquiesce and give you

619
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,040
Speaker 5: the ring. That's not the proposal you want. You want

620
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 5: the proposal of the guy who, when you say I

621
00:26:58,000 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 5: don't want to get married, begs you to spend the

622
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 5: rest of your life with you.

623
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

624
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 5: So I'm like saying, guys, you got to you gotta

625
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 5: slow your role and get your life right. About what

626
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 5: I'm constantly saying to them, what is happiness?

627
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: What is love?

628
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 5: Like? What does a love relationship look like to you?

629
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 5: Because that's really what to look at because what you

630
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 5: thought it looked like the ring by this time, the house,

631
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 5: by this time, the kids, by this time, that's not

632
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:20,880
Speaker 5: how life goes.

633
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember I was like texting you and I

634
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: was like, I feel like I used there was a

635
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 1: part of me that used to be like her, and

636
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: like everything she said, I would like, I'd get so

637
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 1: emotional about it because I'm like, I feel so sad

638
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:33,640
Speaker 1: that she's in that headspace.

639
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 5: But I'll tell you something. I saw her last night

640
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 5: and I follow everybody on all the social media, and

641
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 5: she looks great. I don't know if she's got a

642
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 5: man in her life, but she's killing it in the

643
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 5: business world and seems empowered and strong, and you know,

644
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 5: I constantly tell people it's not a ride. I would

645
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 5: suggest to anyone that I love to go on, I

646
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 5: always say, you know, maybe get a therapist and keep

647
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 5: it quiet. But for the people that go, I have

648
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 5: yet to see somebody say it's ruined their life is

649
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 5: usually I've discovered stuff, you know.

650
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,879
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, in some capacity, whether it's like painful at

651
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:09,119
Speaker 2: the time, you look back and go like wow, I mean,

652
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 2: Casey's probably a totally different person. She been in a

653
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 2: good way, a good.

654
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 5: Way, I think, yeah, you know, And I said it

655
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 5: to her on the show when when Evan last season

656
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 5: was like I don't want to be with you and

657
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 5: I found somebody else, and it was really devastating for

658
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 5: her at the time. She says now that she was

659
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 5: in shock, and I remember her saying, you know, but

660
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 5: I've changed, I've learned, I'm different. And I said to

661
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 5: her then and I know it was tough love, and

662
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 5: I felt terrible saying it to her, but I said,

663
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 5: you know, sometimes we learn lessons we take to our

664
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 5: next relationship, which nobody really wants to hear. Yeah, but

665
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 5: that's kind of how it goes.

666
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 2: Man.

667
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 5: I had my heartbroken years ago and then I'm like,

668
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 5: you know, I'm never going to fall in love again.

669
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 5: And I met my wife and who I was at

670
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 5: that point because of the drop on the heartbreak, I

671
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 5: was a different dude. The definition of being in love

672
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 5: changes and gets deeper.

673
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 1: How old were you when you felt like this deep love?

674
00:28:58,680 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: How long have you been married?

675
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 5: Married? Thirty two years? Thirty two years?

676
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: For how long?

677
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 5: Her my wife? I mean, I should probably use her

678
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 5: name Robbie. We dated, I don't know, man, we dated

679
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 5: maybe a year she knows exactly to the hour. I

680
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 5: think it was like a year and a half or

681
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 5: two years before we got married or engaged. I'm trying

682
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 5: to remember. So we've been together, but you know, getting

683
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 5: on thirty five or something like that.

684
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 1: But like, at what age were you as a man?

685
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 5: I got married two weeks before my twenty fifth birthday,

686
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 5: but I moved out of my house and was living

687
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 5: on my own at eighteen, So by the time I

688
00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 5: got to twenty four, I was like the modern day

689
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 5: thirty Yeah, I was kind of like I dated. It

690
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 5: was a different time. You did whatever you wanted. There

691
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 5: wasn't a lot to worry about, right, And you know,

692
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 5: I met her with no intention knowing. For a long time,

693
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 5: I used to work in this restaurant, right and we

694
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 5: did shows. We were singing and dancing. It's a long

695
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 5: story and I prefer not to get into it, but

696
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 5: every night I would wait by the door as the

697
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 5: audience was going and say, is she here tonight? Is

698
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 5: my girl here tonight? And then, just like you, at

699
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 5: one point, I'm like, I'm not looking anymore. You know,

700
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 5: I'm not even trying that. And that's when she showed up. Wow,

701
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 5: and she was in the audience. I'm like, I think

702
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 5: I got to have that one.

703
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 1: Wow.

704
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 5: And I was adorable. So I got her.

705
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: Did you pursue her hard?

706
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 5: Actually?

707
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: No, this is good.

708
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 5: This.

709
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're married and you've been married for thirty plus years. Yeah,

710
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: which is awesome. And you're amazing, and we've met your

711
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: wife and we love and you have a great family.

712
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 1: So I think it's interesting to hear how like all

713
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: of this developed.

714
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 5: So she comes to the restaurant.

715
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 4: She was hot.

716
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 5: I remember she was wearing really tight black jeans and boobs.

717
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 5: And actually the first time I saw her was walking

718
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 5: to the bathroom. I only saw the back of her,

719
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 5: and that was plenty. I didn't need any more than that.

720
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 5: And by the way, thirty five years later, all that

721
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 5: still intent, So that's good. But you know it was

722
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 5: like I at the end, we kind of flirted and

723
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 5: I knew something was going on, and you know it

724
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 5: was all good. But you know, this was every night

725
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 5: there was an audience coming in. I was pretty much,

726
00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 5: you know, still a kid. And I got her number

727
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 5: and I put it in the apron of because I

728
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 5: was a waiter and I lost the number and I'm like, oh, well,

729
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 5: that sucks. You know, she was hot and I would

730
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 5: have liked to, you know, hooked up, but oh well,

731
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 5: And then she says that she thought, with our connection

732
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 5: that I was going to show up like on a

733
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 5: white horse, like pretty woman and just you know, climb

734
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 5: up her. Yeah, fire escape. And she says to her uncle,

735
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 5: who's the one who brought her to the restaurant, you know,

736
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 5: he didn't call, and he said, look, I always tell

737
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 5: you not to call boys, but this one you need

738
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 5: to call. So she called me and I'm like, oh,

739
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 5: thank god, I lost your number. And so we got

740
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 5: together for lunch and I'm like, this girl's crazy. I

741
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 5: can't date her, but I can't not date her. I mean,

742
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 5: she's nuts, but I kind of liked that kind of crazy,

743
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 5: which is another thing I say on the show. I

744
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 5: was like, you're not going to find somebody saying she's

745
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 5: going to find the kind of crazy you dig.

746
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 1: Wow.

747
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 2: I always tell Tanya her guy's gonna love her crazy

748
00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 2: or what we consider her crazy. Yeah, he's going to

749
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 2: be like, he's going to be like, that's my favorite

750
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 2: thing about.

751
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 5: You on the show this season, and one of the girls, Sonic,

752
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 5: is really scared to kind of let her passion out right.

753
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 5: Sonic A Sonica. Yeah, she's dating Gavin and at the

754
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 5: Bompfire we're talking about it. She's like, you know, if

755
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 5: I really let go, I'm a hurricane. And I said, well,

756
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 5: you know, sometimes you need to let the hurricane blow.

757
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 5: And whatever guy's still standing after the hurricane comes, that's

758
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 5: your dude, right, I said, I married a hurricane. It's

759
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 5: blowing all day every day. But that's my flavor, right,

760
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 5: I'm not scared of that. And even if you're in love,

761
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 5: falling in love is so much more of a you know,

762
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 5: That's where I think young people kind of get trapped,

763
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,560
Speaker 5: is that you've got a checklist of what you want

764
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 5: it to look like and sometimes love doesn't look like

765
00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 5: that at all, and you can't figure out why. You know,

766
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 5: you're still connected even though that wasn't what you had

767
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 5: said was on your list. And that's the thing you

768
00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 5: got to tap into, is the organic part that's not

769
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 5: particularly linear. That's why you can't seem to stay away

770
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 5: from one another. Now there's the bad side of that,

771
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 5: which is the bad boy who's just you know, it's

772
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 5: hot and dysfunctional, but it's hot. There's a whole other

773
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 5: story why that happens. Right, we don't have time for

774
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:13,239
Speaker 5: next podcast, but yeah, man, it's I just tell them,

775
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 5: I'm like, any preconceived notions you had is why you're here.

776
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 5: We repeat behavior you're here because your preconceived notions haven't

777
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 5: gotten you much further than you are now. So I

778
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 5: think this is a reset for a lot of people.

779
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 5: They end up having to discover who they are, and

780
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 5: in that it defines love in a different contest.

781
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 2: Well, it was interesting because we got to meet the

782
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 2: cast before filming started, and I was talking to Kate

783
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend's David, and she was so like having

784
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 2: this moment of like, what why am I here?

785
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 4: Like what have I do?

786
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 5: You know, the story's going to be really interesting for

787
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 5: people to watch. Yeah, because she's a frail, broken, scared,

788
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 5: weepy girl at the beginning and her final bonfire, Hers

789
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 5: and Ashley h the other one, well all of them. Actually,

790
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 5: the final Bonfires are probably the most riveting TV I've

791
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 5: been a part of in my thirty years on TV.

792
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 5: So insane.

793
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 3: Oh exciting, that's good. It's so good.

794
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 2: I like it's so upset because I'm like, I just

795
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 2: want to sit. I'm almost like, do I just not

796
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 2: watch until it's all there for me to just binge?

797
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 2: Because I don't know that.

798
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,400
Speaker 5: I kind of think it's better to watch it like

799
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 5: that too, just like.

800
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:24,439
Speaker 3: You can't put it down.

801
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:27,959
Speaker 2: But I feel like a lot of these couples there's

802
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 2: this sense of like this insecurity, and I mean it's something.

803
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 3: That we all experience, but then they go on to

804
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 3: show like this where it's like.

805
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,800
Speaker 2: Your insecurities are like totally exposed.

806
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 5: And that's another thing about the show that makes it different,

807
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 5: as we were talking about earlier about the different other

808
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 5: dating shows that you know, on the in the front door,

809
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 5: what it looks like is you're going to be in

810
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 5: this house with all these single dudes. Let's go from

811
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 5: the girls perspective, and you're going to get to date

812
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 5: them and maybe you fall in love. But what you

813
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 5: don't anticipate is that friendships and relationships form with the

814
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 5: opposite sex that are all flavors and they inform you.

815
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 5: So for a lot of women, they don't have like

816
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,200
Speaker 5: a dude who's not interested in them, you know, sexually

817
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 5: or romantically, that's there to say, hey, man, you know

818
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 5: what are you doing? And that information really matters. So

819
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 5: I'm constantly saying, like I said to Kate, I'm like

820
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 5: I said to all of them, I'm like, what do

821
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 5: you want? When was the last time you stood? For? What?

822
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 2: Not?

823
00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 5: Who do I need to be to keep my man?

824
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 1: But what the hell do you want?

825
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 5: And then trust that somebody's going to fill those shoes

826
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 5: as opposed to I've got a change for him, or

827
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 5: I'm not going to catch one. And catching a man

828
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 5: is where you guys f up a lot.

829
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 7: I know.

830
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: That's like the biggest thing I think I've realized with

831
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 1: myself for I think up until like, I've been single

832
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 1: for a really long time now, but before this, I

833
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: was always in a relationship. In long term relationships and

834
00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:00,920
Speaker 1: in my last long term relationship, I like I had

835
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 1: lost a complete sense of like I didn't know what

836
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 1: I liked to do for fun. I stopped hanging out

837
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: with my friends.

838
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 5: I like, this is such a common story, by the way.

839
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, like he his world became my world, not on

840
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: any like, he didn't impose it on me, but it

841
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: was my It was just my willingness to bend what

842
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 1: I wanted. And then it just kind of more I'm

843
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 1: morphed into it, and.

844
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 5: You forget what is Tanya want exactly? Someone had girls

845
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 5: tell me, women tell me, look, you know, I'm dating

846
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 5: this guy. It's going really great and it's all good

847
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 5: and I'm waiting to be the real me until i

848
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 5: know that he's into me. So I'm going to the

849
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:38,879
Speaker 5: sports bar and I'm doing all this stuff he wants

850
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 5: to do until I feel confident enough to say I'm

851
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 5: not down right or I want to do this. And

852
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 5: I was saying to these girls, I'm like, don't be

853
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 5: afraid to, you know, write a script, which is the dream. Yeah,

854
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 5: and then let somebody feel it because you're worth it.

855
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,320
Speaker 5: You're so sweet.

856
00:36:56,360 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: But it's like I feel like now because I do

857
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 1: have all these weird things about me that I get.

858
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 1: You know, It's like, when do I tell him that

859
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 1: I have a dear future husband journal, It's like that's

860
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 1: just a part of me, And like if that's going

861
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: to scare him, then like who cares?

862
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,359
Speaker 5: Then? Like by yeah, But you know, my wife told

863
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 5: me she made a list, a specific list that covered physical,

864
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 5: emotional hobbies, everything, eye color, clothing, of what her doude is.

865
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 5: And I checked a lot of the boxes, not all

866
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 5: of them, by the way, but yeah, later she got

867
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 5: me to check the other boxes. It's the change for

868
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 5: actually we morphed together, I think. I think that's really

869
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 5: what it's supposed to be.

870
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a compromise.

871
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 5: You're supposed to grow, that's the thing. If you're changing

872
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 5: yourself for someone else, that's not healthy. But if the

873
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:45,359
Speaker 5: person you're with support who you are and is willing

874
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 5: to ride out your growth, in other words, let you

875
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 5: change and still be there, that's the good stuff. I mean,

876
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 5: that's why we marry is because it's too hard to

877
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 5: go through this by herself, I know.

878
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 1: And I think that's the scariest part when these relationships end,

879
00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 1: is because you've done all these You've changed all these

880
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 1: other things that are normal in.

881
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:06,280
Speaker 5: Your life, and then when it's over, Yeah.

882
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 1: And then you're left with like all the pieces.

883
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,879
Speaker 5: And then what I told these men and women, you've

884
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 5: been identifying as a we like we are Gavin and Sonic,

885
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 5: we are David and Kate. But you forgot who David

886
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 5: is and you forgot who Kate is. And by the way,

887
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 5: it's not that you didn't forget. You probably haven't met

888
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 5: that person yet. And finding out who that individual is

889
00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 5: doesn't mean you're killing the couple. It just means it's

890
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 5: got to evolve, right, And you know, that's a scary

891
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:36,919
Speaker 5: thing to jump into. You know, it's scary to stand

892
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 5: in your own two feet and say I'm pretty great.

893
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:42,320
Speaker 5: That's a scary thing, it is, But if you do it,

894
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 5: when you do it, that's the thing that people love.

895
00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:50,439
Speaker 2: I noticed this year versus the last season, the when

896
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 2: the women went into the single the house of the

897
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:56,839
Speaker 2: single guys, they were so standoffish, like no one really

898
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 2: they were all like.

899
00:38:58,080 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 3: I can't do this.

900
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 1: But this season, the girl else kind of went in

901
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 1: and we're ready to go.

902
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 5: That's what I was talking about. I'm like, everybody's got

903
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 5: to slow their role. Yeah, I became like the dad.

904
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 5: I really want to sit people down and say, now, listen,

905
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 5: that's not what this is about. Yeah, but you know,

906
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 5: then I had to check myself. I actually apologized to

907
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 5: one of the cast members at the bonfire. I'm like,

908
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 5: I was too quick to judge you. You know, you

909
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 5: took action right off the bat that I thought was

910
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 5: completely inauthentic to what you're telling me. Huh, But now

911
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 5: I see that you had to do what you had

912
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 5: to do, and there's more story there that I'm unaware of.

913
00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 5: There's pain there and revenge and you've got, you know,

914
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 5: some feelings, and so you acted out of those feelings

915
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 5: and now you're resetting that and that's your process. So

916
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 5: I apologized her.

917
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 3: I have a question too.

918
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 2: So when they go on, is it like they're they've

919
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 2: had conversations and it's like, I'm aware that you might

920
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 2: kiss someone or like, what are they set standards?

921
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 5: Because like that to me is the funniest part. So

922
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 5: they all talk about the rules. They said before they

923
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:58,360
Speaker 5: came in, All right, so we can hang out and

924
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 5: we can have drinks, but there's no kissing or there's

925
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 5: kissing but there's no touching, or there's touching, but you

926
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,839
Speaker 5: can't spend the night. And then all that just goes

927
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 5: right out the window immediately.

928
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 2: The trailer looks like every single person is doing something

929
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 2: with someone that's not their significant other at the beginning.

930
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 5: Well, first of all, that's a lot of what the

931
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 5: show's about, too, is that we showed these clips at

932
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 5: the bonfire, and what you see in a clip, we

933
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 5: immediately project on that to be more meaningful than it

934
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 5: may or may not be. And I'm constantly telling them

935
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 5: it could be everything you're afraid of, but it also

936
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 5: could be in the guise of a drinking game you

937
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 5: don't know, right, And that's not even it. And I

938
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 5: tell them it's not the facts of what happened, it's

939
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 5: how you feel about what happens. Is all you get

940
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 5: to look at. You can't change them.

941
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 1: It's brutal, not about what's happening. It's how you feel

942
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:46,280
Speaker 1: about what's happening.

943
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 5: Right.

944
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: That is a nugget.

945
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 5: It's a huge nugget. And if you see people on

946
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:54,439
Speaker 5: the show, you'll see a clip. We'll all watch it together.

947
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,919
Speaker 5: America watch the clip and we're like, well, that was nothing,

948
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 5: and then like last season, Shari sees a clip of

949
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,720
Speaker 5: Ja and we all go, nothing happened. He's just talking

950
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 5: and she's like, I'm breaking up, it's over, or like

951
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 5: what I said to her, what did you see? I

952
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 5: didn't see anything. But we project how we're feeling on

953
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 5: the other people. We just project all over them. We

954
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 5: throw up on them.

955
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 3: But like when someone's in bed with someone else, that's.

956
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 2: Pretty self explanatorium what's true.

957
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 5: But there's a lot of information in that. You see

958
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 5: your significant other in bed with somebody else, they may

959
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,839
Speaker 5: be napping, or they may be you know, knocking it out.

960
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 2: No napping with someone else intimate, But how you.

961
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 5: Feel about it, Yeah, that's really intimate. But how you

962
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:41,200
Speaker 5: feel that's sometimes more intimate because usually the dudes don't

963
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 5: hang out for them, they're gone out of the door.

964
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 5: But it's how you feel about that where the answers are.

965
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 5: If it bothers you, there's obviously something emotional you're connected, right,

966
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 5: And if it doesn't bother you, that's even bigger. Like

967
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,720
Speaker 5: when the dudes see their girls doing something, they're like, well, whatever,

968
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 5: that's just probably whatever a problem. I'm like, if you

969
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 5: don't feel something that's a problem. Yeah, yeah, I'm not down.

970
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 5: I can't watch my wife with some other dude and go, oh,

971
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 5: they're just fooling around and it's not working for me.

972
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 3: They're just drunk and having fun.

973
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:16,320
Speaker 5: Yeah so yeah, whoa. So I keep telling them just

974
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 5: look for the answers. They're there. It's not fun, but

975
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 5: you know that's what you're for.

976
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: I would not I.

977
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:28,879
Speaker 5: Could never me neither ever do the show. No, it's

978
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:29,720
Speaker 5: really hard.

979
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean I'd have to be in

980
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 2: a place where I was just looking to be couldn't

981
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 2: break up, but needed a way to do it.

982
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 5: That's like you're out now. That is really smart. That's

983
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 5: smart because I people ask all the time why would

984
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 5: anybody do this? And I don't have a good answer

985
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 5: for that. But the same thing. I did this show

986
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 5: Moment of Truth, right, which was a light detector show,

987
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:53,839
Speaker 5: and people were asking, how do people why do people

988
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,840
Speaker 5: come on and say those intimate secrets in front of

989
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 5: millions of people? And I'm like, for some people to

990
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 5: sit down with the person you care about and be

991
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 5: honest and authentic, that's scary. But when you commit to

992
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:09,399
Speaker 5: the show, now you've got an out. Well, the show

993
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 5: forced it, and it jumps you off the cliff. Now

994
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 5: there's no turning back, and it forces you to be

995
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 5: honest and say the thing you were afraid to say

996
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 5: at home. And that's not particularly the healthiest way to

997
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:22,320
Speaker 5: do it. But I think that's why some people do it.

998
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 2: It didn't you know, helps But yeah, it's like like

999
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 2: they yeah, they like they can't admit it on their

1000
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 2: own that they want out, so they're like.

1001
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 1: I know what to do.

1002
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 5: I'll just go and fool around with other people and

1003
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 5: then she'll break up with me and it's all good.

1004
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 2: Yeah. Eventually I'll live in Hawaii for a month, right,

1005
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 2: it's a full month.

1006
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, it feels like three years.

1007
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, it must suck just being in Maui for me.

1008
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 5: People say, you know, it must be heal there. I'm like,

1009
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 5: it is for them, but it's fabulous for me.

1010
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1011
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, we have a great time. I want to go

1012
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 5: back now.

1013
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: Yeah when you start next to the next season, well.

1014
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 5: I don't know yet. Okay, we've got to wait for

1015
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,080
Speaker 5: a pickup. But it's pretty good and probably.

1016
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 1: Pick it up. I'll pick it up. I'll do what

1017
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 1: I have to do.

1018
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 5: I may just privately do it as a service, and

1019
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:06,759
Speaker 5: I'll just show up and let it be like at

1020
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 5: Tony Robbins weekend or somebody. Yeah, I think probably, you know,

1021
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 5: March or April, we'll probably go back again. I really

1022
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 5: don't care. Man, It's the same thing I'm saying to you.

1023
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 5: I'm just trying to I've been in the business so long,

1024
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 5: the days this is where we started, the days of

1025
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 5: worrying about the next gig, and when we're doing it,

1026
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 5: I don't do that anymore. I just I'm just right here,

1027
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 5: right now with these two beautiful girls talking about love.

1028
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 5: That's good for today.

1029
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: It's a great place to be in the now.

1030
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 2: Bad.

1031
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:34,439
Speaker 1: I'm bad at doing it so bad.

1032
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 5: It's not our nature as humans, No, no.

1033
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 3: No, we like want to know the answers to everything

1034
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 3: and how it's all going.

1035
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 5: To play out, and never plays out the way we

1036
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 5: think it's going to play out, and it plays out

1037
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 5: in ways that are impossible and are better. That's the thing,

1038
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 5: and there better. And here's an example. I did Temptation

1039
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 5: Island twenty years ago, like out of my mind, gone years.

1040
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 5: I'm a different per now. And then I got a

1041
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 5: kind of they were looking at me to do another show,

1042
00:45:05,680 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 5: which is all about diy and cooking and crafting and

1043
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 5: all this stuff I kind of dig and I like

1044
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,360
Speaker 5: doing that. I'm like, oh, well, this is God answering

1045
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 5: my prayer. This is perfect. And then I didn't get

1046
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 5: that show. I'm like what. And then within hours of

1047
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 5: not getting the show, they're like, hey, they're bringing back

1048
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 5: Temptation Island. I'm like, but I don't even want that one.

1049
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 5: I want to make like you know, jam, you know,

1050
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 5: I'm a different dude now. But it turns out that

1051
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 5: that show I thought I was gonna do is not

1052
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 5: my vibe at all. Actually, and this show, even though

1053
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,440
Speaker 5: it appears to be this crazy salacious thing, is actually

1054
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 5: a forum for me to kind of break it down,

1055
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 5: like we're breaking it down, and so I'm really happy.

1056
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 5: And so now that's another lesson for me, is like

1057
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 5: I'm not driving this bus. You know, I'm on it,

1058
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:49,720
Speaker 5: but I'm not driving the bus total.

1059
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: So I have to remind myself that literally daily.

1060
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 5: You can text me I'm here for you. It's actually good.

1061
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to get because all my friends are probably

1062
00:45:59,120 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: exhausted by me.

1063
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:01,360
Speaker 3: No, we're not.

1064
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 5: I'm security.

1065
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: No. I think it's just like a constant reminder because

1066
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:14,719
Speaker 2: we're always so in our heads about everything, like you said,

1067
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 2: and I think you're specifically is dating and love and

1068
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 2: it's like, you know, you go on dates with guys

1069
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:21,600
Speaker 2: or you have these.

1070
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:23,960
Speaker 3: Moments you go back to that same thing, like what

1071
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:24,759
Speaker 3: is wrong with me?

1072
00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 1: Why are theys?

1073
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 5: Somebody need to be different? Yes, that will attract the

1074
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 5: thing I thought I wanted.

1075
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 6: Yes.

1076
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 5: And if you've ever met somebody who's in their skin,

1077
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 5: that's the way I describe it. Somebody who just doesn't care,

1078
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 5: like they know who they are and they're down right.

1079
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 5: There's a power about them you can't figure out. You

1080
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 5: meet them all the time, like Ryan and other people

1081
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 5: that you meet that you can't figure out what is

1082
00:46:45,680 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 5: their power that they have. It's because they've stopped that conversation.

1083
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 5: They found an authentic truth and they've accepted both the

1084
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 5: good and the bad in themselves. And that's really attractive.

1085
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1086
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 2: Well, it was funny because when you were saying, like

1087
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:02,479
Speaker 2: how probably wrote like a list of checkpoints or whatever.

1088
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 2: I mean, we all I think every single person does

1089
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 2: that for sure, like when you're looking for someone, but

1090
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 2: it doesn't always like you said, it's all it's not

1091
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:14,400
Speaker 2: always like what's on paper that checks out. And I

1092
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 2: remember Tanya dating a guy and she was like, he had,

1093
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:18,800
Speaker 2: but he has it didn't work out or whatever, and

1094
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 2: she's like, but he has everything I want. And I'm like,

1095
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 2: but your guy's not gonna make you question his feelings

1096
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 2: for you. Like he's gonna make you feel like validated

1097
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 2: and like safe, and like you're not gonna be like

1098
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 2: but what if?

1099
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 3: But what am I doing?

1100
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 2: He's going to be like your biggest cheerleader and everything

1101
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 2: you like, every part about you.

1102
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really crazy because I feel like I have

1103
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:40,840
Speaker 1: the best friends in my life, like.

1104
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 5: Truly, Like so you figure that part out, yeah right,

1105
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 5: But it's.

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00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: Interesting because I do feel like that is friendships or

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00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 1: relationships m hm.

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00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 5: The most important really totally. So it's like I know

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00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 5: that it's sex clouds at all.

1110
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1111
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 5: You women love bad guys because of the abandonment you

1112
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 5: feel from dads and other men in your life. So

1113
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 5: you love the idea of them loving your heart and

1114
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 5: leave it. It hurts your feelings, But that's a that's

1115
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 5: a pattern you repeat.

1116
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 1: See what's interesting is I don't have for me personally,

1117
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:08,400
Speaker 1: I don't have that pattern all right, yeah, because I.

1118
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 5: Like but generally people do like they'll be friends with

1119
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 5: like a gay best friend to get the intimacy, and

1120
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,680
Speaker 5: they'll have sex with a biker yeah, who is not intimate,

1121
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 5: but it's you know, between the two of them, it's

1122
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:18,839
Speaker 5: an aggregate one good person.

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00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I don't have unattached sex. So there I

1125
00:48:21,760 --> 00:48:23,280
Speaker 1: have that. And then I have a really good relationship

1126
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 1: with like my dad and the men in my life.

1127
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 1: So I'm not really looking. All the guys have dated

1128
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 1: are not bad boys, No, not at all.

1129
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 2: You're not about you don't go for my boy.

1130
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 5: But friendship being the basis of love is not a

1131
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 5: bad thing.

1132
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: Yes, And I feel like I'm like, I'm obviously I

1133
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 1: can figure I figured it out so well in my

1134
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 1: friendship's department that it will happen in my in my

1135
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:44,320
Speaker 1: in my marriage.

1136
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 5: Well, I could offer a thought, Okay, I love.

1137
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 1: A thought, Give me a thought, Give me a thought.

1138
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 5: I come in here thinking we're just gonna like chill,

1139
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 5: and it gets deep instantly.

1140
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 3: We don't chill.

1141
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,759
Speaker 5: Thought is that in your friends? One thing to look

1142
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:59,360
Speaker 5: at is in your friendship relationships? Who do you be?

1143
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 5: And probably you're not self aware. You can show up

1144
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 5: your friends for brunch without your hair done and your

1145
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 5: makeup done, and you don't care because they know you

1146
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:09,479
Speaker 5: and they are not judging you, and you don't really

1147
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 5: live in their judgment of you.

1148
00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: Right.

1149
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 5: And so that person who's completely accepting themselves and is

1150
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:18,319
Speaker 5: not really worried about the friends defining who they are,

1151
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:21,839
Speaker 5: has a healthy relationship with their friends. Your friendships are tight.

1152
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 5: They're there for you. That's your crew, They've got you.

1153
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 5: That's the same person you bring with a love relationship

1154
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 5: when you stop being self aware and stop trying to

1155
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:35,839
Speaker 5: be this thing, this this facade that you think he's

1156
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 5: going to respond to. So the guy that loves you

1157
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 5: is going to love you with the zip, right. And

1158
00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 5: more importantly, the guy that loves you is going to

1159
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 5: love you because you love you and you don't care.

1160
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 5: You don't care if he loves you. You're good. I mean,

1161
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 5: you care if he loves you, But he's not going

1162
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 5: He's not going to define you. You are based on

1163
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,279
Speaker 5: his hot or cold response to you. And that's who

1164
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 5: you are with your friends. Your friends, You're like, they're

1165
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,399
Speaker 5: my friends. I got nothing to prove with them, They're

1166
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 5: my people. You just need one more people that you

1167
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 5: get to see naked.

1168
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 1: Every time.

1169
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 5: Every time I'm with you with this diwce, but it

1170
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 5: feels like ten I go home and go what did

1171
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 5: I say?

1172
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: Where do you live?

1173
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 5: I live Sharman Oaks.

1174
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:27,800
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, why don't we hang.

1175
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 5: Listen, I'm sitting by the phone waiting. If I reach

1176
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 5: out to you, I'm the creepy uncle. If you reach

1177
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:35,399
Speaker 5: out to me, you're like my other daughter.

1178
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 1: We can hang out with Okay, okay, fair, done, done?

1179
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 5: Yeah? Cool?

1180
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 1: Okay, well great, So thank you so much for coming in.

1181
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 1: I Tempt Island season two.

1182
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 3: Let me just tell you.

1183
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 2: Because we had a huge Like I think I don't

1184
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 2: rave about TV shows a lot because I don't. I

1185
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 2: don't even have cable, so everything I watch is like limited.

1186
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:59,720
Speaker 2: But I cannot say enough about the show. I hesitate

1187
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 2: to say. It entertains me more than The Bachelor.

1188
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 5: Be careful, don't bite the hand that fed you.

1189
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: I know I love the Bachelor. I do too. However,

1190
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: it's a great. It's great.

1191
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,359
Speaker 2: I'm saying, if you love the Bachelor, you will love

1192
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 2: And that's by the way, all of.

1193
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 5: Us on the show we say that, you know when

1194
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 5: we were on Tuesdays last season. We're like Bachelor's on Monday,

1195
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 5: Temptation on Tuesday. And what's funny is now in the

1196
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 5: Twitter world, people are like baiting for a fight between

1197
00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:26,920
Speaker 5: Chris Harrison and me.

1198
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 3: We should do it well because I get tweets like.

1199
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 5: You're a Walmart knockoff of Chris Harrison and my Rod

1200
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 5: And my response is I love Walmart, and then Walmart

1201
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 5: responds back saying we love you too, So I'm gonna

1202
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:44,319
Speaker 5: end up the spokespors for Walmart thanks to Chris.

1203
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:45,080
Speaker 1: That's awesome.

1204
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 5: People are constantly no, he isn't He's the OG and

1205
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 5: Chris is that And I'm like, dude, Chris is awesome,

1206
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 5: and I'm pretty good. Yeah, and we have different shows.

1207
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 5: And I said it in an interview that just came up,

1208
00:51:55,760 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 5: and I'm like, did I say that? And I'm like, well,

1209
00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:00,480
Speaker 5: that wasn't bad. I say. We're both captains of a ship. Okay.

1210
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:05,120
Speaker 5: His is a luxury cruise liner in the Mediterranean. Mine

1211
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 5: is a cargo ship in the Strait of Horn Moves.

1212
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 5: Both of them are ships, and both of them need

1213
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 5: to be captain but and both can get food poisoning.

1214
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 5: But mine may have pirates. So it's the difference between

1215
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 5: our two ship that might be a little heady but

1216
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:20,920
Speaker 5: look better in paper.

1217
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: Well, I love it.

1218
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 3: And if you, like I said, I'm sad I have

1219
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:26,719
Speaker 3: to wait week by week.

1220
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 2: But if you haven't watched the first season, go watch

1221
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,720
Speaker 2: the first season and start the second season.

1222
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 3: You will love it.

1223
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 5: Catch up by watching episode one, which is online find

1224
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 5: out on YouTube meaning Facebook and USA Network dot Com

1225
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 5: and Hulu, and then Thursdays at ten great on USA Network.

1226
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:45,279
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for being here.

1227
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:46,040
Speaker 1: We love you.

1228
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 2: I think it's safe to say we all love Loa.

1229
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 7: I love Lola because so my sister like is a

1230
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 7: big person on putting no chemicals in your body, and

1231
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 7: I'm like, I don't have time for that, Like she

1232
00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 7: does like the pans that aren't pre like nonstick.

1233
00:53:10,600 --> 00:53:13,480
Speaker 3: Because she's like, there's two chemicals. Yeah, Like I don't

1234
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 3: have time.

1235
00:53:14,080 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 7: To break out the certain scrub. They can only scrub

1236
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 7: that pan with. I don't have time to like do

1237
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 7: my research.

1238
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 3: There's just no time.

1239
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 7: There's no time to find things that don't have chemicals

1240
00:53:22,600 --> 00:53:22,839
Speaker 7: in them.

1241
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 3: Well, Lola makes that easy.

1242
00:53:24,719 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 5: I love Lola.

1243
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 2: So Lola is a female founded company. They offer a

1244
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:33,800
Speaker 2: line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, all natural cleansing wipes.

1245
00:53:34,680 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 2: The founders, Jordana and Alexandra, started their company with a

1246
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:42,239
Speaker 2: simple and seemingly obvious idea that women should not have

1247
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 2: to compromise no when it comes to feminine care.

1248
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 1: I love the cleansing wipes.

1249
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 2: I love them.

1250
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:50,280
Speaker 3: No, they're so nice.

1251
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 7: Also, it's gonna be a little TMI sorry Mark, but

1252
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 7: like it gets dirty down there. You just got to

1253
00:53:54,760 --> 00:54:01,359
Speaker 7: have something that's like clean, no chemicals you feel comfortable. Yeah.

1254
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:04,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think the thing is we do care so

1255
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:07,560
Speaker 2: much about what we eat and how clean products are.

1256
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 2: I could be better about that, but I mean when

1257
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 2: it comes to what we put into our body, like

1258
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:17,840
Speaker 2: you know down there, I think it's so important that

1259
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 2: it doesn't have the chemicals that a lot of the

1260
00:54:20,400 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 2: other major brands have.

1261
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 7: I know why you actually like it, though, tell me

1262
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:25,920
Speaker 7: because you don't have to leave your house to get it.

1263
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say.

1264
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 3: Speaking of not having time, they solve that problem.

1265
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,359
Speaker 2: You can't even use that excuse with Lola because they

1266
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 2: ship directly to your door.

1267
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:39,320
Speaker 7: Yeah, you don't even have to postmates it, which I

1268
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 7: do that too, I've had to do. So you're saving

1269
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 7: money not putting chemicals in your body. And you get

1270
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 7: to pick what sizes you want, what you want because

1271
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 7: something everybody likes to put tampons in.

1272
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:54,360
Speaker 2: No, and I sometimes, I mean sometimes I need I

1273
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 2: need the big ones and sometimes I need the light ones.

1274
00:54:57,719 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 3: It really depends.

1275
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 2: And it's so nice because you can get a mix

1276
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: and match of what you need from Lola when the

1277
00:55:04,239 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 2: time comes right. I can't tell you how many times

1278
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 2: I've scrambled around the house being like, I have to

1279
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 2: have a tampon in here somewhere right.

1280
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:14,440
Speaker 7: No, And there's nothing worse than having that random box

1281
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 7: of light when you need the heavy. But then there's

1282
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 7: nothing worse when you only have a heavy and you're

1283
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:19,800
Speaker 7: at the end of it, you're.

1284
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 1: Like, I don't want to put a heavy one in.

1285
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 3: It hurts to think about it.

1286
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 2: Well, Lola makes the time of the month just a

1287
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 2: little actually I would I don't even want to say

1288
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 2: a little bit easier. They make it a lot easier.

1289
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 2: Their subscription box is fully customizable. You can choose a

1290
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Speaker 2: mix of products, you can choose a mix of absorbency,

1291
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Speaker 2: you can choose the number of boxes and frequency of delivery,

1292
00:55:39,680 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 2: so you could literally be like, I want three boxes

1293
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Speaker 2: because I know I'm going to have a period for

1294
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 2: three months, like you could.

1295
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Speaker 1: Fortunately, its every single.

1296
00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:53,240
Speaker 3: Mine does not skip like other people.

1297
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Speaker 1: Yeah, screw but screw everyone that has that.

1298
00:55:57,160 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 2: Like, Oh, I don't really get it.

1299
00:55:58,680 --> 00:55:59,720
Speaker 1: I do my period.

1300
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:02,960
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm like, well, good for you.

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Speaker 7: It's like my only motive of like maybe getting pregnant someday.

1302
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Speaker 7: But then I hear that you can still have it

1303
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 7: when you're pregnant.

1304
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't get pregnant, so.

1305
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: It's bad advice.

1306
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:19,320
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Speaker 3: Wow, a new harmony.

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Speaker 2: I would just like to say, I don't think anyone

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Speaker 2: enjoys warm alcohol. I think it's safe to say everyone

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Speaker 2: feels the same about that. Did you know what I

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Speaker 2: just discovered? What you can order shots of alcohol that

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Speaker 2: are cold.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, chill shot.

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Speaker 7: just realize alcohol needs to be cold. It has to

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Speaker 7: be and it is night and day. I mean it's

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Speaker 7: tough for me regardless when it comes to shots, but

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Speaker 7: when it is cold, chilled and kept cold all day,

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Speaker 7: any alcohol, you could drink it anytime, I mean anything.

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Speaker 2: I don't drink coffee hot, I don't. I definitely don't

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Speaker 2: drink doctor pepper ha. I don't drink anything warm. So

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Speaker 2: Broommate is very important to me. So the founder, Dylan

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Speaker 2: was also not a fan of fan of warm alcohol,

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Speaker 2: and that's why he made it Broommate's mission to shake

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Speaker 2: up the beverage industry so that people can keep their

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00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 2: drinks cold. Like nothing worse than going to the beach

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Speaker 2: or going outside and needing something refreshing and it's just hot.

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Speaker 7: When you have that like warm water bottle in your car,

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Speaker 7: but there's no water around you, so you just have

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00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 7: to reach over to the seat and you drink it

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Speaker 7: and it's actually you put a tea bag in it

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Speaker 7: and you'd be having a hot tea.

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Speaker 2: Well on top of being functional. Broommate is stylish. It's

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Speaker 2: designed to keep your favorite beverage the perfect temperature. I

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00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 2: have been in so many situations where I have to

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00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:20,400
Speaker 2: drink a warm beverage and I'm just I hate it.

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Speaker 2: I like genuinely ruins my moment. It's not worth it,

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00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 2: That's what it feels like. It's just not worth it

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Speaker 2: to drink.

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Speaker 7: It might as well just have be pushed. Yeah, my family,

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Speaker 7: actually we have the wood Wine. It's like a wood

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00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 7: finish wine slater, beautiful, and we take it on our boat,

1350
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 7: like our little like duffy boat thing, you know, because

1351
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 7: then it's like you don't want to bring a bottle

1352
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Speaker 7: like a break because.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be on the water.

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Speaker 7: And I like it because I got the I got

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Speaker 7: actually got it as a gift for my dad, and

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Speaker 7: it has so many different styles because I's like purkple

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00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 7: glittery wine slaters, and then there's one with like a

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Speaker 7: wood finish, and I feel like the wood finish would

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00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 7: probably be the best for my dad, you know.

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Speaker 2: And then they have the little matching wine cups with it, yes,

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00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 2: so it just slides right in.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I felt like an like a an influencer because

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00:59:05,240 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 7: my dad was just like we were all like matching.

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Speaker 3: You are an influencer.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think we can all agree it's probably the

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Speaker 2: best solution for the warm beverage dilemma that we've all

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Speaker 2: had at some point. So do not settle for warm

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Speaker 2: alcohol or any beverage that you want to drink.

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Speaker 3: Cold deserve better.

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Speaker 1: You all deserve better.

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Speaker 3: That was gorgeous. I love Mark Wahlberg.

1378
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Speaker 4: These are exchanging numbers and everything.

1379
00:59:57,640 --> 00:59:59,760
Speaker 3: Tanya is getting in with.

1380
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 1: Well, I also think his wife is very like do

1381
01:00:02,960 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: you remember she gave me less of all those books

1382
01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 1: and we're in Hawaii's very She loves Oprah, she loves

1383
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 1: Tony Robbins. She's very much like that. So I just

1384
01:00:10,160 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 1: kind of like his vibe and his family.

1385
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 4: Does she know Devon Franklin?

1386
01:00:14,240 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: I told her to read about Tomorry. He's a little

1387
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 1: tip for tet give her just giving.

1388
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:22,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, we haven't had a senior butterfly update in a while.

1389
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:24,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, read between the lines.

1390
01:00:24,680 --> 01:00:26,439
Speaker 4: Okay, you're in your emails.

1391
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 3: Quick, It was quick. That's update.

1392
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 4: This is from anonymous. I work as a manager for

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01:00:35,680 --> 01:00:37,960
Speaker 4: a wedding venue. My job only has two employees, me

1394
01:00:38,040 --> 01:00:40,760
Speaker 4: and my boss. My boss is a total control freak

1395
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 4: and cannot stand when I stand up for myself. When

1396
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 4: I do, she pulls in the reins and nitpicks everything

1397
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 4: I've done wrong. I've seen her do some questionable tough

1398
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 4: at work, but I can't read on somebody else. Plus,

1399
01:00:50,720 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 4: the owner and her a like father and daughter and

1400
01:00:52,760 --> 01:00:55,240
Speaker 4: have been for years. If I want to complain about her,

1401
01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 4: he would confront her, but then she would know it

1402
01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:59,200
Speaker 4: came from me. Do I suck it up and stick

1403
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,400
Speaker 4: it out? Or do I fight for myself and possibly

1404
01:01:01,560 --> 01:01:04,800
Speaker 4: lose my job over this? I'm so conflicted this.

1405
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:06,560
Speaker 3: This is my advice.

1406
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:11,080
Speaker 2: If you stick up for yourself and fight for yourself

1407
01:01:11,200 --> 01:01:15,200
Speaker 2: and lose your job, then you we're not supposed to

1408
01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 2: be there. Because you don't want to be in a

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01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 2: place where you can't stand up for yourself and have

1410
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:22,600
Speaker 2: your own opinion without it resulting in you being fired

1411
01:01:22,760 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 2: or let go. Like you should be able to stand

1412
01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:29,120
Speaker 2: up for yourself in a polite and respectful way without

1413
01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 2: it ending your job.

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01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 4: I have opposite advice the tie breaker. Oh wow, it's not.

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01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:38,919
Speaker 1: Quite opposite, but it's not quite opposite. But I just think,

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01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:43,880
Speaker 1: do your job and get out. This might not be

1417
01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 1: a fault. Yeah, the job. I know it's been Like,

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01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 1: go in, do your work, don't. You don't need to

1419
01:01:48,080 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: ride on people. Mind your own business, stay your own course.

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01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:57,080
Speaker 1: This might not be your job forever, like maybe look elsewhere.

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01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I'm just I'm not team speak up.

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01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:03,760
Speaker 4: I agree with Tanya. We all have dealt with crappy

1423
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:07,920
Speaker 4: bosses our whole life. Everybody has, some of us currently.

1424
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:13,240
Speaker 4: Do it happens, deal with it. You'll be stronger for it.

1425
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 4: You'll appreciate better bosses in the future. Like it's it's

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01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,240
Speaker 4: it's something, it's a right of passage. Yeah, and I

1427
01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 4: know it sucks right now.

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01:02:20,360 --> 01:02:22,400
Speaker 2: I think she should be able to stand up for herself.

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01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 2: Though I'm not saying rat her out and tell on

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01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:25,800
Speaker 2: her like to the other person.

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01:02:25,840 --> 01:02:26,680
Speaker 3: But I think to her.

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01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 2: She should be able to stand up for and be

1433
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 2: as strong as this lady or is it a man?

1434
01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 5: Do we know?

1435
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:39,200
Speaker 2: She should be able to be as strong as she

1436
01:02:39,440 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 2: is and feel like she can stand up for herself.

1437
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:44,600
Speaker 2: I don't think she needs to tattle tell a rat

1438
01:02:44,640 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 2: because it's not going to go anywhere good. But I

1439
01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:48,400
Speaker 2: think she should be able to stand up for herself.

1440
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:51,160
Speaker 4: I think, whatever you got to do to keep that

1441
01:02:51,200 --> 01:02:53,440
Speaker 4: paycheck coming in until you can find something else.

1442
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:55,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe look for another job.

1443
01:02:55,400 --> 01:02:57,520
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'd say look for another job.

1444
01:02:57,600 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 4: But don't rock the boat until you get it. Yeah,

1445
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:02,760
Speaker 4: code blue from I believe it's Devin, It's d ev

1446
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 4: a n And it's a woman. You my brother's best

1447
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:10,280
Speaker 4: friend and I have always had a thing for each other.

1448
01:03:10,400 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 4: We've known each other our whole lives. The chemistry is

1449
01:03:12,560 --> 01:03:15,320
Speaker 4: unlike anything I've ever felt. I went to college, I

1450
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:18,200
Speaker 4: was gone for six years, so there's minimal interaction. But

1451
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:20,240
Speaker 4: now my job's back. We live close to each other.

1452
01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 4: I've been home almost a year now. We talked throughout

1453
01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 4: every day. He's sweet and attentive and cute and taken.

1454
01:03:27,320 --> 01:03:30,400
Speaker 4: He has a girlfriend. They have a rocky relationship. He

1455
01:03:30,440 --> 01:03:32,680
Speaker 4: even tells me about their problems. He says he knows

1456
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 4: he needs to leave her, but that hasn't ended the relationship.

1457
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:37,880
Speaker 4: In my heart, I truly feel he's the one I'm

1458
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:40,040
Speaker 4: going to end up with. I know my worth, but

1459
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 4: being strung along is really starting to hurt me. What

1460
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 4: should I do? Wait for him to come to his

1461
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 4: senses and be with me, or try to move on?

1462
01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:48,800
Speaker 4: I'm twenty six, gotta move on?

1463
01:03:49,280 --> 01:03:50,440
Speaker 1: Wait? Well, hold on.

1464
01:03:51,480 --> 01:03:54,080
Speaker 2: He's in a relationship. If he wants to be with her,

1465
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 2: he can break up and pursue her, But until then

1466
01:03:56,280 --> 01:03:59,360
Speaker 2: she doesn't need to wait for him. I would never

1467
01:03:59,520 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 2: give you the advice to wait for someone who is

1468
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:02,640
Speaker 2: in a relationship.

1469
01:04:02,960 --> 01:04:05,600
Speaker 1: This is true. That detail escaped me the song Sleep.

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01:04:05,720 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 4: Let's keep in mind that, in my opinion, and this

1471
01:04:07,960 --> 01:04:12,200
Speaker 4: is open for debate, he's cheating on his girlfriend emotion.

1472
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I agree.

1473
01:04:13,800 --> 01:04:17,200
Speaker 4: If I were telling somebody about anything problems I'm having

1474
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 4: with my wife, Yeah, that is that's crossing a line.

1475
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,640
Speaker 4: That's not okay. And all the chatting and everything you're

1476
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:25,000
Speaker 4: doing all day long, I'm sure she doesn't know about that.

1477
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:28,160
Speaker 4: That doesn't say a lot for him, and that that's

1478
01:04:28,200 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 4: a red flag for your future relationship with him, because

1479
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:33,600
Speaker 4: he might the one. He might not mind telling other

1480
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:36,160
Speaker 4: people about your problems, are complaining about you to other women.

1481
01:04:36,600 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 4: So that's a flag. Not a deal breaker, but it's

1482
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:39,560
Speaker 4: a flag.

1483
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:40,640
Speaker 3: It's a flag, you know what.

1484
01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:43,280
Speaker 1: Sometimes chemistry is just is just meant for the.

1485
01:04:43,320 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 4: Books, like chemistry, books like school.

1486
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,919
Speaker 1: Because she's saying the chemistry is on anything she's ever felt.

1487
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:59,280
Speaker 1: Sometimes sometimes you want physics, you know, sometimes you need

1488
01:04:59,320 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 1: a little physics and science in there too, and not

1489
01:05:02,400 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 1: just the chemistry. And I feel like I agree. I

1490
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:07,480
Speaker 1: almost feel like this guy is not your dude, So

1491
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:08,520
Speaker 1: definitely don't wait.

1492
01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:12,040
Speaker 4: So chemistry can often be mistaken because it's less. Lustis

1493
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:14,880
Speaker 4: is mistaken for chemistry, and once that lust is satisfied,

1494
01:05:15,680 --> 01:05:16,439
Speaker 4: there's nothing there.

1495
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:19,200
Speaker 1: Lust is the dog. We don't want the dog. We

1496
01:05:19,280 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 1: want the man. The man is the lover.

1497
01:05:21,840 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 2: I don't even know what's happening right sleep, it's so fun.

1498
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:29,440
Speaker 2: There's like my brain. I'm like, am I on drugs

1499
01:05:29,560 --> 01:05:29,920
Speaker 2: right now?

1500
01:05:30,440 --> 01:05:34,480
Speaker 1: No, it's perfect sense. The man and the dog. The

1501
01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:36,760
Speaker 1: dog likes lust, the man is love.

1502
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 4: I think it's a mutual lust. I'm not saying it's

1503
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:41,400
Speaker 4: just from his correct. Sorry, I think it might be mutual,

1504
01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:44,240
Speaker 4: and once you satisfy that curiosity, this might not be

1505
01:05:44,440 --> 01:05:45,240
Speaker 4: what you want it to be.

1506
01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:49,240
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think like we can put people up on

1507
01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:50,320
Speaker 1: a pedestal.

1508
01:05:50,400 --> 01:05:53,800
Speaker 2: And also things, feelings and emotions are heightened when you

1509
01:05:54,080 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 2: can't be with someone. If you have a connection with him,

1510
01:05:57,560 --> 01:06:00,120
Speaker 2: and like, let's say he was single, you might be

1511
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:03,360
Speaker 2: like whatever, like you might not have that fruit there, Yeah,

1512
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:04,320
Speaker 2: forbidden fruit.

1513
01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 4: My advice, you're single, you move on, you're dating other people,

1514
01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 4: you're looking elsewhere. If this is meant to be, it

1515
01:06:13,440 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 4: will happen. But you got to get your eggs out

1516
01:06:16,920 --> 01:06:17,480
Speaker 4: of that basket.

1517
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:19,080
Speaker 5: You know.

1518
01:06:20,200 --> 01:06:21,960
Speaker 1: I want to be one of those people that can

1519
01:06:22,040 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 1: put different eggs in different baskets.

1520
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that's true.

1521
01:06:28,480 --> 01:06:29,280
Speaker 2: How do I do that?

1522
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:33,120
Speaker 4: When a guy presents his basket, you immediately dump twelve

1523
01:06:33,160 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 4: of them.

1524
01:06:33,880 --> 01:06:36,120
Speaker 1: Here's twelve, and then the thirteenth per.

1525
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 2: Good measure, and then you lay one extra to put

1526
01:06:39,080 --> 01:06:42,120
Speaker 2: in extra, and they're just so he knows that he's

1527
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:43,520
Speaker 2: got all my eggs in that basket.

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01:06:43,680 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 4: And then a few months later it's crushed eggs in

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01:06:46,600 --> 01:06:47,000
Speaker 4: a basket.

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01:06:47,120 --> 01:06:49,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, just here's some scrambled eggs for breakfast. I hope

1531
01:06:49,720 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 1: you enjoy it. You're lovely. Would you like some Sacha

1532
01:06:53,560 --> 01:06:58,760
Speaker 1: sauce for those tired?

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01:06:58,920 --> 01:07:02,200
Speaker 4: Time to mix? Everyone else feel I'm drugs?

1534
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:04,920
Speaker 3: Am I super tired too?

1535
01:07:05,440 --> 01:07:07,760
Speaker 1: I don't know? Are you? Am I not making sense?

1536
01:07:07,800 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 1: Am I making sense?

1537
01:07:08,640 --> 01:07:10,320
Speaker 2: It's just you know, when you start going on your

1538
01:07:10,440 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 2: like it's Tanya and Tanya isms and it's just like

1539
01:07:13,800 --> 01:07:16,280
Speaker 2: you're it's like trying to follow something that's.

1540
01:07:16,200 --> 01:07:19,600
Speaker 1: Going really fast and not really coming back around to them.

1541
01:07:19,760 --> 01:07:23,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's gonna octagone siggles.

1542
01:07:23,240 --> 01:07:23,439
Speaker 5: Yeah.

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01:07:23,520 --> 01:07:26,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, So to get back to Devin, where's I guess

1544
01:07:26,680 --> 01:07:28,440
Speaker 1: we kind of are just telling her to get rid

1545
01:07:28,480 --> 01:07:29,000
Speaker 1: of this loser.

1546
01:07:29,360 --> 01:07:29,960
Speaker 4: Not so much.

1547
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:31,800
Speaker 2: I think she just needs to live her life and

1548
01:07:31,920 --> 01:07:34,520
Speaker 2: not wait around for him to maybe in his relationship.

1549
01:07:34,600 --> 01:07:37,000
Speaker 2: And I would stop talking to him because it's not

1550
01:07:37,120 --> 01:07:38,200
Speaker 2: fair to the other girl.

1551
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:39,560
Speaker 3: Yes, and it's not fair to.

1552
01:07:39,600 --> 01:07:43,120
Speaker 4: You, But sisterhood, when he starts complaining about her again,

1553
01:07:43,160 --> 01:07:44,680
Speaker 4: you got to say, this isn't fair to her. I

1554
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:45,840
Speaker 4: wouldn't like this if I were hurt.

1555
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:49,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly put him in his place. Yes, he needs it.

1556
01:07:52,480 --> 01:07:57,640
Speaker 1: Better from that from what maybe on our next podcast

1557
01:07:57,760 --> 01:08:00,200
Speaker 1: we can find out how to not put all your

1558
01:08:00,240 --> 01:08:01,440
Speaker 1: eggs into one basket.

1559
01:08:01,880 --> 01:08:02,320
Speaker 4: That's good.

1560
01:08:02,640 --> 01:08:06,120
Speaker 6: That is a thought that the thought you just don't

1561
01:08:07,400 --> 01:08:11,320
Speaker 6: but how do you that's easier for you though, So no,

1562
01:08:11,440 --> 01:08:12,640
Speaker 6: I just wanted that reaction.

1563
01:08:14,480 --> 01:08:16,160
Speaker 1: Do you keep some eggs to yourself or do you

1564
01:08:16,240 --> 01:08:18,000
Speaker 1: put eggs in other people? You put some eggs in

1565
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:19,839
Speaker 1: other people's baskets and then you keep some for yourself.

1566
01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:22,640
Speaker 2: I keep eggs to myself. I put I put a

1567
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:25,800
Speaker 2: few eggs in some baskets. If I like the person,

1568
01:08:25,920 --> 01:08:28,479
Speaker 2: I put maybe like three eggs in their basket. But

1569
01:08:28,600 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 2: if they're not putting eggs at least matching the eggs

1570
01:08:31,120 --> 01:08:33,759
Speaker 2: in the basket, then I'm putting eggs in other baskets.

1571
01:08:33,880 --> 01:08:34,599
Speaker 4: That's interesting.

1572
01:08:35,240 --> 01:08:37,400
Speaker 3: I need the eggs to be equal in the basket.

1573
01:08:37,720 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 4: Put we're taking this metaphor way too far. But that's

1574
01:08:40,080 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 4: a really good thing. Is you put a couple in,

1575
01:08:41,880 --> 01:08:43,360
Speaker 4: you make sure you get a couple in return, and

1576
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:45,400
Speaker 4: you keep building up the baskets as long as they're

1577
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 4: both even on the scale.

1578
01:08:46,880 --> 01:08:49,559
Speaker 2: Cause like, why are you needing to put thirteen eggs

1579
01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:52,360
Speaker 2: in the basket? There's no room for his eggs. I

1580
01:08:52,439 --> 01:08:53,960
Speaker 2: know there's no room for his own eggs.

1581
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:58,439
Speaker 4: That's good. That's deepa it is so deep, it's so deep.

1582
01:08:58,640 --> 01:08:59,920
Speaker 1: But that's how I am. Like, I have I put

1583
01:08:59,920 --> 01:09:02,080
Speaker 1: all my eggs in your basket too, and this friendship

1584
01:09:02,120 --> 01:09:05,400
Speaker 1: eggs are in your basket. Thirteen of them have eggs

1585
01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:05,680
Speaker 1: in there.

1586
01:09:05,720 --> 01:09:09,599
Speaker 2: I have enough room for the eggs and for sure,

1587
01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:11,320
Speaker 2: for sure yeah yeah, big basket.

1588
01:09:11,600 --> 01:09:12,760
Speaker 1: I have some of your eggs as well.

1589
01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:19,880
Speaker 3: Interesting, But I would like to explore.

1590
01:09:19,560 --> 01:09:24,479
Speaker 1: This actually, because I do think Tanya three point zero

1591
01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 1: here we are, here, we are, she is she needs

1592
01:09:27,120 --> 01:09:32,840
Speaker 1: some some reallocating of the eggs and where to put them,

1593
01:09:32,880 --> 01:09:35,840
Speaker 1: where to shift them, how to hold them? Oh m hm.

1594
01:09:36,360 --> 01:09:38,440
Speaker 4: Next week we're going to book a poultry farmer.

1595
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:42,519
Speaker 1: And for that, yeah, I don't do you know, also

1596
01:09:42,560 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 1: to be kind of good as Robert does. Robert, yeah,

1597
01:09:46,439 --> 01:09:49,960
Speaker 1: he would probably give some good brotherly advice. Yeah, I'm

1598
01:09:49,960 --> 01:09:52,360
Speaker 1: gonna try that, let me try.

1599
01:09:52,439 --> 01:09:56,760
Speaker 2: But again, I also wanted to let you know. I

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01:09:56,840 --> 01:10:01,360
Speaker 2: did Nick Vile's podcast this morning. Yeah, and his producer

1601
01:10:01,520 --> 01:10:04,600
Speaker 2: was like, aren't you You're a nurse, right, And I

1602
01:10:04,720 --> 01:10:05,479
Speaker 2: was like what.

1603
01:10:05,880 --> 01:10:07,200
Speaker 3: I was like so confused.

1604
01:10:07,240 --> 01:10:09,160
Speaker 2: I was like what And she was like, because like

1605
01:10:09,680 --> 01:10:12,000
Speaker 2: your podcast is called Scrubbing In and you have scrubs

1606
01:10:12,040 --> 01:10:12,200
Speaker 2: on it.

1607
01:10:12,240 --> 01:10:13,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god.

1608
01:10:13,439 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 2: I was like, Tanya, it was gonna be thrilled to

1609
01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:17,439
Speaker 2: know that you think we're nurses on top of just

1610
01:10:18,160 --> 01:10:18,960
Speaker 2: everything else.

1611
01:10:19,120 --> 01:10:21,880
Speaker 1: That is some good news right there. That made me smile. Really,

1612
01:10:23,920 --> 01:10:27,400
Speaker 1: you know what nurses probably don't do put all their

1613
01:10:27,400 --> 01:10:35,679
Speaker 1: eggs in a They probably have some frozen too. Oh yeah,

1614
01:10:36,439 --> 01:10:39,759
Speaker 1: we gotta go. I really do gotta go. Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 3: Time of Death twelve fifty one