1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,080 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody is there at times time for the straw 2 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: feruletta with my friends. Surely strong, Thank you junior. Subject 3 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: is it so good that is clouding my judgment? Dear 4 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I am a forty three year old single 5 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,920 Speaker 1: mom of two. For the past year, I have been 6 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,919 Speaker 1: seeing a nice forty three year old gentleman that I 7 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 1: met on the Plenty of Fish dating site. When we met, 8 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 1: I told him that I was ready for a relationship, 9 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 1: not just to hook up for sex. He said, let's 10 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: see where it goes. Two weeks later, after talking on 11 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: the phone, we finally met up and we ended up 12 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:48,160 Speaker 1: having sex that first night. Darned Steve, it was so 13 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,879 Speaker 1: good that I could not stop. We continue to have 14 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: sex at least once a week, and he started staying 15 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: overnight at my house. About six months later, I asked him, so, 16 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: are we too other? He said, no, we're just friends. 17 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: He told me that we should just stop having sex 18 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:07,320 Speaker 1: and just be friends because I was getting too emotionally 19 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: attached to him. Not even a week went by before 20 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: he was back in my bed. The sex is so 21 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: darn good that I cannot stay away from this man. 22 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: But I really wanted a relationship. The whole time we've 23 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: been together, I have been taking him to and from work. 24 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 1: He does not have a car or his own place 25 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:29,839 Speaker 1: to live. I also cook for this man and give 26 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: him money when he needs it. He does pay me 27 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: back each time. I'm giving one hundred percent of myself 28 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: to him, But he has the nerve to only like 29 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 1: me as a friend. It makes me feel like he's 30 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: just using me. Is this is the good sex clouding 31 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:54,919 Speaker 1: my judgment? What's really going on here? Please advise? Okay, okay, seriously, seriously, 32 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: if you were here, I would physically shake you so hard, 33 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: try to take some sense into you. You know, you 34 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: maybe forty three year olds, but but you're you're doing 35 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: way too much, Okay, I mean, just talk about over 36 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: and above and beyond. That's all you, that's all you're 37 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: You're doing way too much, And I disagree with you. No, 38 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: he's not using you. He doesn't have to. I mean, 39 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: you won't even give him a chance to use you 40 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: because you're right there. Let's let's go down the list. 41 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: You give him sex when he wants it, You cook 42 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: for him, you drive him to and from work, he 43 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 1: stays with you, and you give him money. What are 44 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: you doing? What are you doing? I mean, don't you 45 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: take him to and from work? I gotta ask you that. 46 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:45,120 Speaker 1: So why do you have to give him money to 47 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 1: It's too much, You're doing too much. I just don't understand. 48 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: You know, you have to get some self respect. You 49 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: have to you have none. Okay, you have to stop this. Um, 50 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: I'm glad you wrote us. Uh. Nothing is that good 51 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 1: where you have to lose your your dignity and your 52 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: low self esteem. Nothing is that good? Okay nothing, I 53 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: don't care. Nothing is for you to lose your self 54 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: respect like that, And that's what it is. It's not 55 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 1: that the sex is so good. You're just you're caught up. 56 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: You gotta get a get you know, get a hold 57 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 1: of yourself here. Uh, this man has nothing to offer 58 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: you but sex, and you want much more and he's 59 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: not giving it to you. Steve ready, Yes, let's get 60 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: Hello lord lady forty three single mother too? You forty three? 61 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: You met a farty through your very nice gentlemen on 62 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: a dating site called plenty of Fish. Keep that in mind. 63 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: Never heard a plenty of fish. Yeah, I got the 64 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: idea when we met. I told him that I was 65 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: ready for a relationship, not just hooking for sex. He said, 66 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: Let's see where it goes. See right there, you say 67 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: you're ready for a relationship, not just for a hook up. 68 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:21,000 Speaker 1: He say, let's where it goes. Guess what you missed 69 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: that he didn't say. He did not say what he wanted. 70 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: He ain't even say yeah, that's what I'm looking for 71 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 1: to All he said was let's see how it goes. 72 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago back, you've been talking to him on 73 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: the phone, You finally meet with him. You ended up 74 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:47,120 Speaker 1: having sex the first night, Donna Steve I know, let's 75 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:53,479 Speaker 1: say what Steve. Donna Steve I know said it was 76 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:57,280 Speaker 1: so good I could not stop. We continue to have 77 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: said at sex at least once a week, and he 78 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: started staying over out of my house. Six months later, 79 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: I asked him, so we together? He said, now we 80 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 1: need together? Hell, now we're just friends. He told me 81 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: we should stop having sex and just be friends because 82 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: I was getting too much emostly attached to him. You 83 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 1: ready for this? Not even a week went by and 84 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 1: he was back in your bad boy in here doing 85 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: it boy, and he had got it turned up. He 86 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: in that bringing it and I'm about to tell you 87 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: why this sex is so damn good. I can't stay 88 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 1: away from this man, but I really want a relationship. 89 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: The whole time we together, I've been taking him to 90 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: and from work. He does not have a call, He 91 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: does not have his own place to live. I cook 92 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: for this man and give him money when he needs it. Now, 93 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 1: when I come back, I'm gonna explain some things too. 94 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: You have a minute, no, I just say, well, first 95 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 1: of all, let me tell you. So you find him 96 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:13,040 Speaker 1: on a dating site called Plenty of Fish. And of 97 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: all the man in here, you get the one damn 98 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 1: catfish that was in there. You bought a damn bottom 99 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: duele and scavenging naster as catfish, all the fishing the sea, 100 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 1: and which one you pull out? A catfish? He ain't working? Now, 101 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: he worked, but he ain't got no car, and he 102 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: ain't got no house. Where do he work? At? The 103 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: paper route? He can't get the dog, and you're giving 104 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: money when he needed Do this man have a paper route? All? Right? 105 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: Hold it right there, Steve, Holding right there. Uh, we'll 106 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: have part two of your response coming up. It is 107 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: so good that it's clouding my judgment. Yeah, she'd have 108 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: met this man on plenty of fish. She didn't pulled 109 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 1: out the one damned fish. She didn't want a catfish, 110 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: bottom dolling scavenger. They've been sleeping together, he just had. 111 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 1: She can't stop, She can't stop, She can't stop. It's 112 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: so damn once a week, six weeks, six months, go back. 113 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: She finally asked him, man, are we together? He said, no, no, no, 114 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: we need together? What do you say? No, No, he 115 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: don't know. We need together? Where you get from what 116 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: you spend? That over here? We together together? You give 117 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: me money? We're just friend? May we know we need 118 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: to we need to stop having sex. Just be free 119 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: because you getting too emotional. You know I don't. I 120 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 1: don't like to be attached to stuff. You know I 121 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 1: ain't attached to no car. No, I ain't attached to 122 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: no mortgage and no WIT payment. You know I ain't 123 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: attached to no kitchen nowhere. Why I'm cooking? I ain't 124 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: attached him, no money? Don't you see me? Always needing 125 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: something you don't do at tax? The sex is so 126 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: damn good. I can't stay away from him. He give 127 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: me the money back, but he don't have a car, 128 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: a house. He needs money all the time, and you 129 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 1: gotta take him to and from work. My question for 130 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: you for we went on break was where does he 131 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: work at the paper route. I'm trying to figure out 132 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: what job he got where he can't get a car, 133 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: a house, or need money all the time. Now you 134 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: want to ask me, let me explain something to you 135 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: about this good sex you have. You're having sex with 136 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: a man that ain't got a car. You're having sex 137 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,959 Speaker 1: with a man that need a ride to and from work. 138 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: You're having sex with a man that ain't got his 139 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 1: own place. You got having sexual with a man that 140 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:58,559 Speaker 1: can't cook. And you're having sex with a man that 141 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: need money all the time. For him, the reason his 142 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: sex is so good for food? Not listen to me 143 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: your entire mind. I know you had to bleep that, 144 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: but that's the best way to say. Here's another reason. 145 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: See this is called BS that he's given you. This 146 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: just BS now clean. The way to say it is 147 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: BS is called benefits screwing because he has to produce 148 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: the type of screwing that produces benefits. So now here 149 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:01,560 Speaker 1: that giving his all in all he got to because 150 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: he probably working part time, he got time shopping his 151 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: skills he don't have the stress that most men have them. 152 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 1: A lot of men came performed called the stress. Yeah, 153 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: but he ain't got none. He ain't got no mortgage, 154 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 1: he ain't got no card. No, he ain't got no kitchen, 155 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: he got no grocery. Why why is he stressing for? 156 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:30,840 Speaker 1: He is free to bes to benefits. Screw. Oh, he 157 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: just in that performing. All his energy is in his 158 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: sexual performance. He came buy you a coat for Christmas 159 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: at Burlington. He can't bring you a plate from Stein Maul. 160 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: He can't bring them kids and yards are tied from Walmart. 161 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: He can't bringing you a happy meal from McDonald's. And 162 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 1: when you do getting money, it's so rare. He died 163 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: in Chick fil A on the Sunday talking about how 164 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 1: the hell ain't you know money doing the week? You 165 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: know that they ain't over this man that you think 166 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: you want to have a relationship with. Why would you 167 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 1: want a relationship with him? Somebody you got to take 168 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: care of and can't do nothing for you except good sex. 169 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:34,920 Speaker 1: Then that's all it is. It's just good sex. It's nothing, 170 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 1: no other benefit to him. And let me tell you something, 171 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 1: just gonna well off because you know why it's gonna well, 172 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 1: because you're gonna mess where I need something. Everybody needs 173 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 1: something every ninety and I don't care who y'all and 174 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: when you need it. Since that's who you're passing out 175 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: all you're loving to, you're gonna want it from him. 176 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:00,560 Speaker 1: And guess what he gonna tell you you have even motherfucker, 177 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:05,480 Speaker 1: we don't know. We just read were just you know, 178 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 1: I ain't got I just bother from one of you 179 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:08,680 Speaker 1: last week. Now I can pay you back what I 180 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: owe you. Will that help you? Man? She said he 181 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: was a nice gentleman. He isn't not You got to 182 00:12:16,679 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 1: be nice when you ain't got nothing. Well, I'm gonna 183 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: be mean and now I ain't got a way to go. 184 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 1: You got to pick me up. What the hell I'm 185 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 1: gonna be mean? Fault? You got to be nice. You 186 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:31,280 Speaker 1: got to drop me off and pick me up. Understand 187 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: that he just getting out tuon as he jump in 188 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: the car, he started rubbing your thigh. I'll see what's happening. Yeah, 189 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,320 Speaker 1: as soon as he get in the car his hand 190 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 1: on that pretty thigh, then you're in his sweating like 191 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: a runaway because big Clifus Jackson ray Nor the fourth's 192 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 1: being to come up in here Clifus, Jackson, Raynor, the folks, 193 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: it's to come up in hills to be molding out. 194 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:14,320 Speaker 1: Would lady she wants a relationship Steve with who he 195 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: can't do nothing for you, all your children. He's a 196 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: bad example of a man. He forty three. He don't 197 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: have a call, he don't have his own place, he 198 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:27,319 Speaker 1: don't cook any bare money from you. And he's forty three. 199 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:31,080 Speaker 1: You want a relationship with him, you got it. He's 200 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 1: doing the only thing he can do, and that's screw. 201 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 1: He can't do nothing he can I'm told you asking 202 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,080 Speaker 1: for a coach, this Christian? All right, we gotta go. Steve. 203 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: Email us your Instagram. That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. 204 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: It's not just a coach. Want wool coat at Steve 205 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,439 Speaker 1: Harvey FM. The collar did flip up? Just ask for 206 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 1: a coat with collar. You're listening Stry Morning Show.