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Speaker 1: The Bread Show is on. It's stay or go. Danny

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Speaker 1: is here here. Good morning, Danny, how you doing early?

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Speaker 2: Good morning?

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Speaker 3: I guess them all right, Danny, Danny, Danny, Danny. You

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Speaker 3: ever had a Philly cheesteak egg roll? By the way,

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Speaker 3: They're delicious, aren't they?

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Speaker 1: They were invented right here exactly. You're talking to delay.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: I know there's some question about maybe the nineties. People

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Speaker 3: say in the nineties, but no, Kiki put him on

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Speaker 3: the map.

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Speaker 1: He's never had mine.

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Speaker 3: No, But Danny, that's not That's not why you called

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Speaker 3: about the Philly Cheesteak eggroll. You called about something else.

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Speaker 1: What is that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm calling actually about my relationship that I'm in.

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Speaker 1: I need a little advice.

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Speaker 2: I have been dating this girl for four months and

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Speaker 2: we recently had this conversation that seemed like a little

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Speaker 2: bit of a red flag here. We were talking about

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Speaker 2: our exes, and she admitted that she has cheated on

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Speaker 2: her most recent ex boyfriend. She said she knows it's wrong,

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Speaker 2: and she said she wouldn't do it again. But I'm like, like,

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Speaker 2: how would I know that?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 2: Like I appreciated her honesty, but like like I just

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Speaker 2: like can't imagine cheating on a partner, and like, I

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Speaker 2: guess the thing is, like it wouldn't be that big

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Speaker 2: of a deal to it was like a ex boyfriend from.

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Speaker 1: Like years and years ago.

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Speaker 2: But she said it was like a recent ex boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: And I kind of like believe that, saying, like once

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Speaker 2: a cheater, always a cheater. So now I've just got

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Speaker 2: it in my head that like this this girl is

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Speaker 2: a cheater, And I don't know if I should like

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Speaker 2: break up with her now before it becomes a problem

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Speaker 2: where if I should stick it out and then like

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Speaker 2: but I feel like if I stick it out, then

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna get cheated on later.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, did you ask any questions? I mean,

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Speaker 3: not that not that is ever a reason to cheat,

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Speaker 3: but I mean I mean, was it just flat out

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Speaker 3: like yeah, I was seeing him and then the guy

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Speaker 3: and start hooking up with that guy. I mean, was

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Speaker 3: it like very flip? I mean, how does she tell

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Speaker 3: you this? Did it seem like it was just a

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Speaker 3: normal thing for her to do, or like did she

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Speaker 3: justify it? Did she say to you, I cheated on

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Speaker 3: him and I feel terrible about it. I mean, was

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Speaker 3: there any remorse or like you know, anything like that,

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Speaker 3: any emotion.

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Speaker 4: No, she just kind of like breathed over it. Like

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Speaker 4: we were talking about and the people that we had

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Speaker 4: dated in the past and why like why we broke up,

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Speaker 4: and she just said, you know, name the other guy's name.

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Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, I ended up cheating on him. And

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Speaker 2: that's when I started to date so and so, and I, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, cheated on him.

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Speaker 4: She was like two guys at the same like, she

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Speaker 4: cheated on one, they broke up, cheated on another.

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Speaker 2: They broke up.

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Speaker 5: And now she's seen me and I'm like, you see now,

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Speaker 5: but you're not the recipient of that said like she

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Speaker 5: wasn't cheating on this guy with you.

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Speaker 1: Right, correct? Yeah, I don't know how what's your problem

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Speaker 1: you're with her now? That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So eight five five five I won one three

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Speaker 3: five is the number of college group therapy. Danny is

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Speaker 3: I gonna say, I my opinion on this has changed

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Speaker 3: a little bit. I can I think there are situations

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Speaker 3: where like people screw up, you know, maybe there are

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Speaker 3: a lot of different ways that can happen, but like

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Speaker 3: if it's a one time no strings attached, and I

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Speaker 3: know this is like, I'm really like, you know, sort

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Speaker 3: of splitting hairs here. But if it's a one time,

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Speaker 3: no strings attached situation where you made a mistake and

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Speaker 3: the person's not a part of your life and never

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Speaker 3: will be and whatever, maybe And I also, by the way,

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Speaker 3: think that if it's truly a one time deal and

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Speaker 3: and you truly believe that it's not something that you

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Speaker 3: could find yourself ever doing again, I also, hot take

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Speaker 3: believe that you should that goes with you, you get

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Speaker 3: buried with that. I don't know that you necessarily should

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Speaker 3: be telling your partner that you did that. And this

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Speaker 3: is controversial, but this requires a lot of self awareness

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Speaker 3: that sometimes people who are willing to cheat don't have.

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Speaker 3: But my thing is a lot of times when cheat

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Speaker 3: and then they go tell the other person, their partner

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Speaker 3: They're not trying to They're trying to get it off

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Speaker 3: their chest and basically put that on someone else who

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Speaker 3: then gets to live with that so that they can

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Speaker 3: feel better. If you screwed up one time, truly, I

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Speaker 3: think you've got to go down with that. That's a

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Speaker 3: separate thought. But somebody who's cheated more than once, I

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Speaker 3: think that's a personality disorder. And then this is coming

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Speaker 3: from a non licensed therapist me untrained, nonlicensed, I think

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Speaker 3: it speaks to the fact that they see themselves as

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Speaker 3: more important than everybody else. If it's habitual, If you're

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Speaker 3: somebody who constantly, I would say twice before you the

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Speaker 3: most recent relationships, she cheated twice, it strikes me as

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Speaker 3: somebody who just doesn't necessarily really care about other people

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Speaker 3: as much as you might think. It strikes me as

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Speaker 3: somebody who will put her needs above others one time,

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Speaker 3: maybe depending on the situation, multiple times. That's a person

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Speaker 3: who is only concerned with herself, in my opinion, in

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Speaker 3: which case I think it's a bad sign and I

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Speaker 3: think you should go.

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Speaker 1: Guys thoughts, I agree.

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Speaker 6: I don't understand why she's telling him that she cheated

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Speaker 6: like that you're comfortable, like yeah, like, why would you

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Speaker 6: ever tell your new partner that you cheated? And if

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Speaker 6: you if she if you were the side dude at

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Speaker 6: one point, Danny, like you were her side piece. Just know,

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Speaker 6: you know how you get them and sometimes how you

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Speaker 6: lose them. That's what the lady tell me. It's with

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Speaker 6: the lady. Yeah, the wise lady that the wise lady

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Speaker 6: that advises me. Yeah, this relationship he should go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I mean it's it's already in his head that he's

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Speaker 5: gonna get cheated on, like he's never gonna stop. And

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Speaker 5: that could be the same problem with the other two guys.

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Speaker 5: She could have told those guys, oh, I cheated on somebody,

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Speaker 5: and then they're never going to forget that. They'll be,

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Speaker 5: you know, in your business suspicious all the time, and

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Speaker 5: she's just gonna end up cheating on you.

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Speaker 7: So I think you actually walk away from someone who

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Speaker 7: your relationship is good, you love them and nothing has

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Speaker 7: happened to you, Can you walk just walk.

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Speaker 8: Away clean and never think of them again?

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Speaker 3: If you cheat more than once, if you willing to

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Speaker 3: tell me about it, almost like you're foreshadowing what might

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Speaker 3: happen to you, Yes, so that you can say, well.

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Speaker 7: Totally, like in your relationships, like deep conversations about mistakes

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Speaker 7: you made in the past, how you've grown.

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Speaker 3: I think a mistake is one time calein. I think

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Speaker 3: if you cheat on somebody one time, that's the mistake.

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Speaker 3: I think if you if you can cheat on someone

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Speaker 3: more than once got me. Yeah, that's that's where I'm at.

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Speaker 3: One time, Let's have a conversation about it. Let's sit down,

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Speaker 3: let me understand what was happening. Let me understand why

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Speaker 3: you thought that that was a good idea or or

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Speaker 3: why you didn't. That's another thing, is you know, if

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Speaker 3: she were like, yeah, I did cheat once and it's

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Speaker 3: the worst thing I ever did, and I'm so remorseful,

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Speaker 3: and you know, there really seems to be like a

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Speaker 3: know that was cheating. That really makes you feel as

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Speaker 3: though they learned from it. That's something that I might

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Speaker 3: I might lean into a little further. But for her

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Speaker 3: to be like, yeah, I cheated twice and it was recent,

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Speaker 7: Like we give addicts another chance, Like what if somebody

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Speaker 7: does the work? Like maybe if you think it's a

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Speaker 7: personality disorder, what if somebody shows that they want to

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Speaker 7: work on it.

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Speaker 1: You know, we don't know if I think it.

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Speaker 3: I mean maybe maybe like an addiction specialist or something,

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Speaker 3: or a mental health specialist, maybe they would put those

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Speaker 8: Of things that people struggle with.

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Speaker 7: I mean, shopping can be an addiction that somebody genuinely

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Speaker 7: needs help for, and you're gonna leave somebody over.

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Speaker 8: I'm just trying to show another.

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Speaker 1: Side of it in fantas though. No matter what it is,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't mean you have to stay, of course not.

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Speaker 7: But I wouldn't be able to walk away from relationship

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Speaker 7: where nothing bad happened, and it happened in their past.

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Speaker 7: Now two times is where I understand where you're coming from.

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Speaker 7: But I would never let it go in my head

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Speaker 8: Could have been.

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Speaker 5: But he's never gonna let it go that she's she

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Speaker 5: cheated on two people, Like it's gonna be.

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Speaker 1: In his head.

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Speaker 5: Then, yeah, that's what I'm saying in his head, that

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Speaker 1: She's gonna cheat on.

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Speaker 5: Me, and she with head attitudes, she probably will end

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Speaker 3: Let me take some calls here, Danny, and you can

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Speaker 3: listen to the radio or iHeart and I hope it

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Speaker 3: works out for you. Thanks for sharing, man, Good luck,

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Speaker 3: Thank you. Eight five three five. Danny's been with a

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Speaker 3: woman for four months, and she admitted pretty casually. It

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Speaker 3: sounded like that she has cheated on the last two

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Speaker 3: guys she's dated. And you talk about alcoholism or whatever narcissism,

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Speaker 3: it's like, I don't necessarily know. I mean, you can

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Speaker 3: give somebody a chance, I guess. But like, let's say

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Speaker 3: this woman is narcissistic and that's why she's doing well

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Speaker 3: right well, So as addiction, So is alcohol and drug addiction.

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Speaker 3: You could treat it, but it's it's a it's a disease.

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Speaker 3: I don't I don't think it's curable.

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Speaker 7: But there's no like program for like narcissists can't become

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Speaker 7: not narcissists, like addicts can be sober.

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Speaker 1: Sure, that's true, you know what I mean. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't have enough and I don't know enough to

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Speaker 3: compare the two. But what I can say is one

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Speaker 3: seems one is chemical, and one, more often than not,

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Speaker 3: in my opinion, is a choice. And by the way,

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Speaker 3: even a narcissistic person's making a choice to cheat. I

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Speaker 3: don't think, oh I do think. I think people again,

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Speaker 3: this is just my personal opinion. I still think there's

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Speaker 3: a thought process going on, and even if there's not,

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Speaker 3: that person's put themselves above you.

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Speaker 1: End of story.

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Speaker 3: End of story and they put themselves above other people

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Speaker 3: now multiple times in the recent history, multiple times. That's

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Speaker 3: a big thing for me. Is I mean one, people

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Speaker 3: screw up, right, People make mistakes. One time you cheated

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Speaker 3: on the last two guys you dated. Can we go

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Speaker 3: back a little further, Can we zoom out a little

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Speaker 3: bit about before that? I don't like it. I don't

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Speaker 3: like it. Hey, Brittany, good morning, Hi, good morning, Hi.

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Speaker 3: What do you think when you hear this stare.

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Speaker 9: Go so coming from someone who just got out of

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Speaker 9: a five year relationship where he was cheating on me

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Speaker 5: Now.

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Speaker 9: I do understand where Canon's coming from as well, But

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Speaker 1: Good. Good Brittany, thanks for calling, Thanks for sharing.

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Speaker 9: Thank you, Love you guys.

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Speaker 1: Have a good day. I love you too. Have a

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Speaker 1: great day. Hey, Jessica, Good morning, Welcome, Good morning. How

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Speaker 5: Go?

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Speaker 10: I think he should go?

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Speaker 10: I think that that's anxiety that you'll just never get over.

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Speaker 10: I had something similar happened to me. He ended up

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Speaker 3: I don't know if there is another. Say, hey, Kayla,

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Speaker 11: A licensed therapist and I'm about to be taking my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I guess, But do you believe, Kayla,

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Speaker 11: Right?

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Speaker 3: I mean, don't you look at that and say, this

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Speaker 8: So I just don't.

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Speaker 3: But I also think Kayla, and again unlicensed versus license

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Speaker 3: And I said this before, but it almost seems like

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Speaker 1: So I just want to it just heads up. I mean,

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Speaker 11: I agree with you. I agree with you, Fred, I

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Speaker 8: I think that you're right.

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Speaker 1: On that one.

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Speaker 3: Okay, good, So can you license me? Like by can

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Speaker 3: you because your license? Can can you then like hand

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Speaker 3: the license off to me? And can you are you

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Speaker 3: sanctioned to do that? Because I feel like I'm really.

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Speaker 11: I would if I could, but I definitely cannot do that.

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Speaker 11: But I've been listening to you guys for over ten years.

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Speaker 11: Then I was in college, and so I just want

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Speaker 1: Well you are the best kille through the summer because

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Speaker 1: I don't know what the.

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Speaker 3: Hell everybody's been, but I'm over it now we're moving on.

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Speaker 3: I God, bless you. I think everybody did. I just

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Speaker 3: don't know what's going on. Thank you, Kayle, I have

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Speaker 10: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: You think maybe the Durabils started stopped running in the

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Speaker 3: I don't know what I can say and not get fined.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to get fined. I'm just here so

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Speaker 3: I don't get fined. Yeah, that's him. The Entertaining Report

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Speaker 1: She's ever lost too.

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