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Speaker 2: Last showed in some amazing stories for y'all the Okay

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Speaker 2: things inside her home, so I called the police.

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Speaker 3: You can't be doing that.

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Speaker 1: Don't do it.

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Speaker 2: It's not good. Hi guys, this is a bit of

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Speaker 2: a long story. So for some background, A few months ago,

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Speaker 2: my best friend Mark twenty seven mail moved his girlfriend,

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Speaker 2: Heather twenty five female, in with us. My wife Cindy,

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime sub reddit. So Mark and I have been

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Speaker 2: friends ever since elementary school. Right before Heather moved in,

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Speaker 2: she got herself pretty wasted and ended up in a

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Speaker 3: Yikes, and he wanted to move in with her.

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Speaker 2: Oh my hmm, this is appalling. Yeah, we weren't too

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Speaker 2: happy about this, but Mark said he talked to her

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Speaker 2: and she wouldn't get to that point. Again.

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Speaker 3: I don't think I would let someone move in after

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Speaker 3: hearing this story.

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Speaker 2: Personally, Yeah, kind not a move. You know, if someone

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Speaker 3: Keep that person out of my house, kick him out.

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Speaker 3: They can't move in.

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Speaker 1: Never.

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Speaker 2: Two weeks ago, we were all hanging out and having

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Speaker 2: some drinks. Mark and Heather were going a little crazy,

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Speaker 2: but their adults, so whatever. Well, Cindy and I, my wife,

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Speaker 2: decided we were going to start on dinner. Since Heather

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Speaker 2: Heather goes into their room, then she comes back out

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Speaker 2: and we are talking about my brother's upcoming bachelor party.

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Speaker 2: We then hear banging coming from their room.

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Speaker 3: She Dobby. She's got Dobby up there, like hitting his

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Speaker 2: Mark went to go check on Heather, but she had

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Speaker 3: It is this girl. She's picking up their bed.

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Speaker 2: Heather is the hulk. She's like, ah, we need to

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Speaker 2: like saving the planet night. Yeah, what's going on here?

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Speaker 3: Can get her in the new Avengers.

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Speaker 1: Stopping the Aliens.

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Speaker 2: I told her if she didn't stop that we would

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Speaker 2: I mean, I mean you could literally just be like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: like yeah kind quote unquote, I don't know. The cops

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Speaker 2: quick relevant comments. Commentator. Every one says, yes, you're the

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Speaker 2: about Mark's uh? And who cares about Mark's feelings? What

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Speaker 2: going to ask why you didn't press charges. She'll certainly

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Speaker 2: Op Op responds to that and says, before the cops left,

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Speaker 2: Number two says, did you at least have her trespassed

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Speaker 2: of a problem. An Opie responds, because we haven't gotten

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we haven't found out. I don't know. Opie seems

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Speaker 2: Very forgiving. Yeah, Opie says, I tried to talk to

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Speaker 3: Wait, he's not breaking up with her?

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Speaker 2: It seems like it.

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Speaker 2: Any chances that Mark might be insane too? Is he

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Speaker 3: What why? Mark? Stop it? Stop it?

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Speaker 2: Mark Comu Number four says, why would you allow this

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Speaker 2: What the F? Is this? The nineties cops show up?

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Speaker 2: Get these people out of your house and out of

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Speaker 2: you all discuss it first? How is he dating someone

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Speaker 2: Opie responds to a downvoted commentary on drinking heavily and

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Speaker 2: not being smart on how much to drink. Opie says,

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Speaker 2: who said regularly drinking heavily. We're we're adults who are

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Speaker 2: grass for Christ's sake, and maybe you should grow the

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Speaker 2: you know, it was it was all It was all

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Speaker 2: if you if you say I can't enjoy a.

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Speaker 3: Drink or two, can't enjoy a Bruski with the beers,

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Speaker 3: oh you got another thing coming.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming after you.

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Speaker 2: If you think that's heavy drinking, then maybe you have

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Speaker 2: a heavy drinking problem and should reevaluate your life. Day

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Speaker 2: just clapping back, we have an update, we're about halfway through.

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, this saga. Oh boy, Sophia, what what are

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Speaker 2: we thinking right now?

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Speaker 3: I think you just gotta limit contact with Mark until,

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Speaker 3: you know, until he hopefully has a change of heart

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like I don't think without Mark coming

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Speaker 2: to the realization because you can try, You can push

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Speaker 2: and force it and maybe even drive him further away

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Speaker 2: that we have been if you're still with Feather. But

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Speaker 2: we have an update where potentially time will pass. Let's see.

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Speaker 3: Like I wasn't freaking subpoenad.

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Speaker 2: I was not fair.

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Speaker 3: I do tell me, I think that you, I mean

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Speaker 2: blackout that she doesn't remember anything, Hey, I was I

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Speaker 2: The math ain't math in Heather. Mark claims he doesn't

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Speaker 2: we won't be dealing with it anymore. Either way, both

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Speaker 2: there when she is there. Editor's note, Opie attached a

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Speaker 2: Comment to number one says, if she doesn't remember anything,

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Speaker 3: She gains strength from her past.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and Opie clarifies on the core process. Opie says,

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Speaker 2: until October at the earliest. Will Mark be allowed to

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Speaker 1: Good. That is good.

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Speaker 2: Let's set the boundaries. Why did Opie let Mark move

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Speaker 2: in with him and Cindy? Opie said, because of rent.

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Speaker 2: Mark and I were renting before I met Cindy. Cindy

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Speaker 2: we don't see a reason to not keep renting together

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Speaker 2: to save money. That's true, and that is the end

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Speaker 3: Are they married? Am I crazy?

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Speaker 2: They are married?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So why why would they not rent together?

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Speaker 2: It's illegal? Okay, we live in an I love lucy worlds,

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Speaker 3: Separate cities, getting married, it just makes sense for us

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Speaker 1: We happen to be married and that's it.

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Speaker 3: size too where I would need considerably more fabric due

439
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,200
Speaker 3: to her wearing a dress size thirty four. This made

440
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,000
Speaker 3: her mad and I I didn't hear from her again

441
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 3: until close to August. August came with a wedding invitation,

442
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,119
Speaker 3: which I told her due to the VID and medical concerns,

443
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 3: I was unable to attend. She said she understood, and

444
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 3: in the end she only had family due to lockdown.

445
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 3: She did do a TikTok live stream of her wedding,

446
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 3: which I watched from a hospital room.

447
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 2: Oh, I hope you're okay. Yeah.

448
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,359
Speaker 3: I did send her a small gift. At this time,

449
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 3: I found out I had heart issues and genetic mutations,

450
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,119
Speaker 3: which explained why my husband and I never had kids.

451
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,920
Speaker 3: But not even two months later, I got pregnant.

452
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 2: Heck, yeah, congrats.

453
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,159
Speaker 3: This is when we moved back to my hometown to

454
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:41,199
Speaker 3: be closer to my family. We wanted our child to

455
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 3: be near their grandparents. April swore that I was trying

456
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 3: to take away from her big day by being in

457
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:52,800
Speaker 3: the hospital and getting pregnant. Huh what, That's not how

458
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 3: that works. She's like, you're ill and you're doing it

459
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 3: on purpose.

460
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,919
Speaker 2: How dare you? How dare you conceive a baby?

461
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 1: Right when I was having a wedding.

462
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 3: I was floored because I was told I would never

463
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 3: get pregnant. Come the month of April, yep, I was

464
00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 3: very heavily pregnant and friend. April mentioned doing a wedding

465
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,360
Speaker 3: in October twenty twenty one one year anniversary and invited

466
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 3: family and friends. She again wanted me to make her

467
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 3: wedding dress and I gave her the same quote. She

468
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 3: was livid all over again. She asked me to make

469
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 3: bridesmaid dresses and I gave her a similar quote for

470
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 3: five dresses. It was at this point I found out

471
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 3: that I was not asked to be a bridesmaid due

472
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 3: to the fact that my hair was short and I

473
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:36,360
Speaker 3: would stick out.

474
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 2: Huh oh.

475
00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 3: I only cut my hair due to my medical problems.

476
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 3: I just pushed this off and kept going. Then April

477
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 3: asked me to do hair and makeup for her wedding.

478
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,200
Speaker 3: I told her there would be a cost. She got

479
00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 3: mad because it should be free. I had to explain

480
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 3: that I would have to practice the hairstyle and makeup look,

481
00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 3: get products, and take time to learn it. She decided

482
00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:03,400
Speaker 3: that she didn't want to pay. She asked my mom,

483
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: who is a professional photographer, to do her wedding photos,

484
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,919
Speaker 3: and my mom gave her a discounted price, which she

485
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 3: was mad about. She just wants everything for free.

486
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,479
Speaker 2: Give it to me for free.

487
00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:17,119
Speaker 3: She then asked me to borrow my mom's professional camera

488
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:21,159
Speaker 3: and take pictures for her. I said, no, Obie's not

489
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 3: a bridesmaid and is being expected to just do all

490
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 3: of this for free.

491
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 2: Also, I love how she tried to remix it where

492
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, could I just borrow her camera and

493
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 2: could you just like take some pictures of it. It's like, yeah,

494
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 2: that's like photographing the wedding, Like that's the whole thing.

495
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 3: It's the same thing. It's just a different person now.

496
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 3: After this, I refused to attend the wedding. I had

497
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 3: my daughter in July, her wedding renewal came, and later

498
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 3: that night, the night of the wedding renewal, she called me.

499
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 3: This was concerning to me because she never calls. Turned out,

500
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:59,359
Speaker 3: Michelle cheated on April and after the ceremony, on their

501
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 3: way home, told April she wants a divorce. Why did

502
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 3: she do that after the ceremony? That's crazy, that's insane.

503
00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 3: You spent all of that. I mean, I don't know

504
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 3: much money you spent on this, but you presumably spent

505
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 3: a certain amount of money. You spent ten dollars dollars,

506
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,439
Speaker 3: Oh my god, This was another reason I refused to

507
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,879
Speaker 3: go to the wedding. I knew he was going. I

508
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,120
Speaker 3: knew he was going. Josh was good. Josh was good

509
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,880
Speaker 3: friends with Michelle, and they were cheating behind April's back

510
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 3: even earlier. That morning April left, Michelle got divorced, and

511
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,040
Speaker 3: Michelle married Josh not even a month later.

512
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 2: Married him a month later.

513
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,200
Speaker 3: Their honeymoon, Michelle and Josh got into a major wreck

514
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 3: and they were hospitalized. Oh my goodness. April was devastated

515
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: because she still cared for Michelle. Michelle went nine months

516
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,919
Speaker 3: in and out of ICU while I carried my second child.

517
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 3: This is crazy, Jesus, It's like a k drama.

518
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

519
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 3: Not long before I delivered, Michelle passed away. I had

520
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 3: my second child and he has major medical issues. April

521
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,160
Speaker 3: took a while to get over Michelle, and sometimes still

522
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 3: isn't over her. Fair honestly, fair.

523
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, fair. That's a lot that happened within a month's

524
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 2: that's a lot for April to process. Yeah, geez.

525
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,800
Speaker 3: But now April is dating someone else and talking about

526
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 3: marriage after one month. Girls bowed down, please, She asked

527
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 3: again if I would make her wedding dress, to which

528
00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 3: I replied with what time. I'm busy with my severely medical,

529
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 3: medically fragile son and my daughter who has autism. I

530
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 3: don't have time to make even a Halloween costume. This

531
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 3: was met with yells about me being selva and I

532
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 3: don't know address April or the problem. Please help, And

533
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 3: there are some comments, but uh, John, how.

534
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: Do we all right? A lot to deal with getting divorced?

535
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 2: After ceremony, Michelle passes away just like an insane whiplash

536
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 2: of the most intense emotional experience is a human can

537
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 2: go through getting divorced and then like losing.

538
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 3: That person and losing that person that you were about to.

539
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 1: Marry, just complete insanity. Yeah, So, I mean I think.

540
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: OP could like like it's like writing a letter or

541
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 2: like calling her and just kind of being like, hey, look,

542
00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 2: you've been through some rough stuff and I so wish

543
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 2: you the best and I am rooting for you and

544
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 2: I am in your corner. But like it does seem

545
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: like this kind of cycle Key's happening, and specifically because

546
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 2: right now I have to take care of my kids,

547
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 2: Like I just don't know that I can be the

548
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:48,400
Speaker 2: person friend that you want need me to be And

549
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 2: like I'm gonna need some some.

550
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 3: I think that would be the angel response. Yeah, yeah,

551
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 3: but there's a little bit left to this story. Comment one,

552
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 3: so why are you friends with her? This person is

553
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 3: nothing but drama and trouble. I'd be taking a huge

554
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 3: step back and going no contact. Obi says. The only

555
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,159
Speaker 3: reason I still talk to her is because all but

556
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 3: her and one other person have stopped talking to me

557
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 3: due to my son's condition. Comment two says, find some

558
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 3: new friends that aren't toxic and takers. Obi says, I'm

559
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 3: gonna be honest. I don't know how to make friends.

560
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 3: I struggled in school, and I struggle out of school

561
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 3: coming through. I'm sorry to hear about your son and

562
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,479
Speaker 3: wishing your family nothing but the best. As for April,

563
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 3: it seems like she's extremely selfish and in your time

564
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 3: of stress, I'm not sure she's a good person to

565
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: have in your life. A supportive friend wouldn't be upset

566
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 3: with you after setting the boundary that you did, especially

567
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 3: because of your circumstances. She seems to only care about

568
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 3: what you can do for her, and not what she

569
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 3: can do for you. It doesn't sound like she's very

570
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 3: receptive to truth, but it might be worth it to

571
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 3: be honest with her about her actions, about how her

572
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 3: actions make you feel more stressed out, and that you

573
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 3: need some time away with from her. I hope that

574
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,959
Speaker 3: everything works out. Nevertheless, I think some time away from

575
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 3: speaking to her is needed, as it's adding too much

576
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 3: stress and John, that is the end of that story.

577
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 2: That's it.

578
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 3: But Opie, in terms of making friends, I think you'll

579
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 3: find people. I know you're very busy, so maybe it's,

580
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 3: you know, whenever you got two kids, maybe it's making

581
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 3: friends with the parents that are involved. You know, like

582
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 3: maybe your daughter's going to school soon or is in

583
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 3: school or whatever kind of educational program she's a part of.

584
00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 3: You can make friends with those parents that you like,

585
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 3: as my mom did. I mean, she had other friends,

586
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 3: but she just kind of set up play dates with

587
00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 3: all the moms that she liked their kids.

588
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 2: It's a smart move.

589
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I'm still friends with those people too. She's

590
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 3: still friends with their moms.

591
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 2: Two bird funes, don't I know.

592
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593
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Speaker 2: I refuse to invite my friend to my wedding because

596
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602
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Speaker 2: r slash Okay storytime sub reddit. We were very close

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Speaker 2: and stayed best friends for you very long time. She

611
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Speaker 2: moved an hour away when I was around sixteen, and

612
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Speaker 2: I still went to see her often. I was always

613
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Speaker 2: the one that kept our contact going. I have ADHD,

614
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 2: so sometimes we would go a few months without contact.

615
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 2: Every time I texted her after a while, she would

616
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 2: make a comment about how long it was. I always

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00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,800
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618
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Speaker 2: have sent a message as well. Two ways come on now.

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Speaker 2: She started copying my looks. Hmm. I was an alternative

620
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 2: girl with black hair, and within three days of me

621
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 2: dying my hair black, she did as well. She started

622
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 2: to listen to the same music as me. When she

623
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 2: was with other people for longer periods, she would copy them.

624
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 2: She would also lie about where she was going. I

625
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 2: got a call from her mom that she got into

626
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 2: an accident and that she was not going to make

627
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 2: it to me to see her. I guess I was

628
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: not aware she would be coming over, and my mom

629
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 2: picked up and spoiled the secret that she was going

630
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 2: to meet up with my neighbor. We got into a

631
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 2: fight about this because I didn't tell my mom that

632
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 2: she had to lie about this, even though I did

633
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 2: not know she had planned to go see him.

634
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: Then she became pregnant.

635
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 3: Oh, whoa, that's not good for this situation. They the

636
00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 3: situation's great.

637
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 2: Great, but everyone else thought it was an accident that

638
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:57,719
Speaker 2: she became pregnant, but it was not. Whoa, this is

639
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 2: where is the story going? She had her baby, a daughter,

640
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 2: and I became a godmother to that girl. The years

641
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:07,600
Speaker 2: that followed are to me a bit strange, because nothing

642
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 2: strange has happened so far. She broke up with the

643
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 2: father and started dating a few other people. She then

644
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 2: became pregnant again. Oh my, running it back. Before the

645
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 2: baby was born, she broke up with the father and

646
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 2: tricked him into not signing his recognition as a father.

647
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 2: This was because the father of her daughter wanted custody

648
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 2: rights or at least to see her. So it seems

649
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: like she kind of tricked him out of his custody.

650
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: Yeah rights. The new father doesn't have any grounds to

651
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 2: stand on now and cannot see his son. Morally, I

652
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 2: think this is wrong, and I told her so. I

653
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 2: haven't had the best relationships myself, and some of them

654
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 2: were even very harmful. Three years ago, I decided that

655
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 2: it was time for me to stand up for myself

656
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 2: and decided how I wanted to live my own life.

657
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,720
Speaker 2: She asked me a few times if it wasn't time

658
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: for me to get pregnant so her children could be

659
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 2: friends mine.

660
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 3: How old are they?

661
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 4: Well?

662
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: Baby number one, I think I think came at sixteen.

663
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, but do we have ages for op?

664
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 1: Oh? Yees?

665
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 3: So?

666
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 2: OPI's twenty nine now?

667
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 3: Ok?

668
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: Like present day?

669
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: Oh?

670
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,720
Speaker 2: And Paula's thirty one? Females. She asked me a few

671
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 2: times if it wasn't time for me to get pregnant

672
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 2: so her children could be friends with mine. I would

673
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 2: have liked that, but I didn't want children with my

674
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: ex for multiple reasons in between. That happened a lot

675
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 2: to me, but this is not for this story. My

676
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 2: ex and I broke up, and first it was kind

677
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 2: of messy, but he understood why we needed to break up.

678
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: After about two weeks, I was living my life for

679
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 2: him and not myself. I started hanging out with friends

680
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 2: more and one of my friends told me that she

681
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,320
Speaker 2: knew a good man that is the same humor and

682
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 2: hobbies as I do, and she thought that we could

683
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: be a good match. I started talking to him two

684
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: weeks after I broke up with my ex and things

685
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,719
Speaker 2: were going great and amazing. He thirty male, is an

686
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 2: amazing person and is very sweet. Did I mention he's amazing.

687
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: I told him about the fact that I just broke

688
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 2: up with my and that I needed time to get

689
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 2: to know him before going into a relationship with him.

690
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: Respectful, smart, like it, this is good.

691
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 3: This is stuff.

692
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 2: Okay, storytime, fam energy right here.

693
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 3: Russian into relationships you're not ready for it.

694
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 2: We don't need to do that. He understood, and I

695
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 2: promised him that when I was certain that this wasn't

696
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 2: just a rebound, I would let him know communication we

697
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 2: love it. I did not want to fool him, or

698
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 2: myself for that matter. We both had good communication about

699
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 2: this and both knew what we wanted in life. We

700
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: did not want to waste time on some random hook up,

701
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 2: but truly wanted something that would last forever. We kept

702
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 2: talking with each other and meeting up. I told paul

703
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 2: about him, but she got defensive right away.

704
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 3: I don't want you to get pregnant anymore.

705
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm done. You can't have any deadline.

706
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,480
Speaker 2: She said that I shouldn't be thinking about men in

707
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 2: general and needed a few years of healing before I

708
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: went back to dating. A little side note here is

709
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:56,240
Speaker 2: that since her last baby Daddy, she dated about twelve

710
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 2: different men, so I couldn't take her very seriously on this.

711
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 3: I'm sure she I waited a respectable month between each

712
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:02,520
Speaker 3: of those men.

713
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 2: Oh exactly, yes. When I made my relationship official, she

714
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 2: texted me, you cannot be serious that you already have

715
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 2: a new boyfriend.

716
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 3: Paula. Paula Paula, maybe we keep her mouth shut.

717
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,359
Speaker 2: Which I responded with, I understand that it seems fast,

718
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,439
Speaker 2: but I truly love him and he treats me right.

719
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 2: She said that I should be in control of the

720
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 2: feelings I have and that it is unacceptable that I

721
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:28,240
Speaker 2: love him.

722
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 3: You're not allowed to love him.

723
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 2: I have to be in control of your feelings because

724
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 2: that's just a joke.

725
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: You see, love, it's not real, oh Paula.

726
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 2: According to Paula, I could not know how it would

727
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 2: feel to love someone, and I should know better than

728
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,399
Speaker 2: loving someone I just met. She advised me to break

729
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 2: up and come stay with her for a year so

730
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 2: I could learn about life.

731
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 3: Paala's gonna teach you all you need to know, dude.

732
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 3: Welcome to the school of Paula. Will we get pregnant?

733
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 3: And that's kind of it?

734
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 2: What is this insanity? She surprised me with this reaction,

735
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 2: but I told her that I'm not gonna waste my

736
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:13,479
Speaker 2: life looking for someone else.

737
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 1: When I feel like this is going really good.

738
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 3: Stop responding to Pala. This is like when you like

739
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:23,320
Speaker 3: someone's trolling you and you're like, actually that's not very fair. Yeah,

740
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 3: they don't.

741
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 2: They're just gonna keep thinking, you're gonna keep going crazy.

742
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 3: Yeah.

743
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 2: I understand that she was worried, but I believe that

744
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 2: could have been worded in any other way, like I

745
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 2: didn't deserve happiness and love and should live like she does.

746
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 2: She sent me a YouTube link with a song that

747
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 2: basically made me feel like she was sending this to

748
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 2: let me know that I believed in fairy tales and

749
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: am a naive, stupid person.

750
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 3: Shese tell us what the song is.

751
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 2: I also think there's a little bit of jealousy going on,

752
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 2: but I can't confirm. I used to have contact with

753
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 2: her mom and sister, but since we haven't spoken in

754
00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 2: so long, that is no longer the case. I think

755
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 2: that is very unfortunate, because her mom felt like my

756
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:05,319
Speaker 2: second like a second mom, and sometimes I liked my

757
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 2: interactions with her mom more than the interactions I had

758
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,240
Speaker 2: with her. Wait, are you telling me that you enjoyed

759
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 2: interacting with her mom more than the person who said

760
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 2: you you don't deserve to be in love and you

761
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 2: should just live with me for a year as parop

762
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 2: don't know.

763
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 3: Now that's possible, John.

764
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe the mom was offering to let her live

765
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 2: with her for two years probably has to be one.

766
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 3: Probably told to not be in a relationship for another

767
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 3: six years.

768
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 2: Gosh, what great advice. The last thing I heard from

769
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 2: her was that she was dating a dealer from her

770
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 2: apartment complex and that she really.

771
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: Wanted love car card dealer.

772
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 2: I do not think that this was a smart idea,

773
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 2: but because we weren't as close before, I kept my mouth.

774
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 2: I truly hope she has peace now. But this is

775
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 2: because I want to see her. I want her kids

776
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 2: to be happy. I know she has been manipulative in

777
00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: the past towards me and others, and I hope that

778
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 2: she treats her children well. They don't deserve to be

779
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 2: treated like crap. Not gonna lie. My hopes aren't through

780
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 2: the moon for her parenting abilities.

781
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 3: I help's a pretty low.

782
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 2: I am now three years together with my boyfriend and

783
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 2: we are getting married in October this year.

784
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 3: Wow, that you're rushing it. You're rushing it. Wait another

785
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,360
Speaker 3: six years, three years?

786
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 2: Girl, try fifty?

787
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:26,240
Speaker 1: Yeah? Oh what are you doing?

788
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 2: He is truly the love of my life, and before him,

789
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 2: I didn't believe in soulmates.

790
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 3: But now love doesn't exist.

791
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:39,120
Speaker 2: He treats me with respect. Now I haven't spoken to

792
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 2: her in two years because I tried to speak with

793
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 2: her about a year into my relationship. She made me

794
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 2: out for a clown and we haven't spoke since. For

795
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 2: a second, I thought it was she made out with

796
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 2: a clown.

797
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 3: She went from a card dealer yep, to a clown.

798
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 2: As far as I know, she is still single and

799
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: lives alone with two kids, and her mother lives in

800
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: the apartment above her. I do not agree with the

801
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:02,239
Speaker 2: way she's raising her kids, because the daughter likes pink

802
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 2: and the mom hates pink and thinks it's a shame

803
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 2: because she became this way. I also want to add

804
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 2: that her daughter was four. When her daughter was four,

805
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 2: I bought her a pillow and a teddy bear to

806
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 2: sleep with because she didn't have that. She lives in

807
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: a two bedroom apartment with her two kids and a

808
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 2: dog that she has no control over. When I visited,

809
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,320
Speaker 2: she would hit the dog very hard in the head

810
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 2: when the dog would not listen or stand in her way.

811
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 3: I would call animal control or something.

812
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, or like it like a like a rescue

813
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 2: or yeah, geez. I told her that I did not

814
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 2: like the way she treated the dog because I am

815
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 2: an animal lover and think that she should treat our

816
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:40,800
Speaker 2: pets in a more respectful way. My goodness, that is correct.

817
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 2: No statement has been more correct in the history of

818
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,479
Speaker 2: a space time continuum. But ladies and gentlemen, the story

819
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 2: is almost over.

820
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 3: I do think that Ope is still around Paula because

821
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 3: she's worried about the kids and the dog. That's what

822
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:58,240
Speaker 3: it seems like. It seems like Paula sucks, but Ope

823
00:39:58,280 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 3: is still connected to the family.

824
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,719
Speaker 2: Well, she hasn't spoken with her at this point in

825
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:07,240
Speaker 2: two years directly. Yeah, okay, yeah, it seems but maybe

826
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 2: it does seem like maybe she's in the periphery. Yeah,

827
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 2: with the for the kids and the dog and everything.

828
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 2: But uh yeah, paul is kinda not the best.

829
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:18,720
Speaker 3: Agreed.

830
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 2: I think we can all agree on that her sister

831
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 2: is following me on Instagram, and I met with her

832
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 2: a few weeks ago. I saw her at an event

833
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 2: that I was attending as well. We spoke and she

834
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 2: told me that paul was angry that she hasn't heard

835
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 2: anything from me and is not invited to my wedding.

836
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 2: I do not want her at my wedding because I

837
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 2: feel like she would make a scene if you all

838
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: remember the title of the story.

839
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 3: I didn't remember the title of this story. Yes, I

840
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 3: love that it happened. It's gonna happen right at the end.

841
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 2: Dude. It's like when they say the movie yeah, name

842
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 2: in the movie at the end, and then you're.

843
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 3: Like, no way, they just said that name.

844
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 2: Oh she does not know when, where, and how I'm

845
00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:59,439
Speaker 2: getting married and I would like to stay that way.

846
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 2: So am I the a hole for breaking our contact?

847
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 2: Even though it was always me that messager. She is

848
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 2: not blocked so she can send me a message. I

849
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 2: have been blocked from her Instagram and Facebook. Thank you

850
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 2: in advance. So let's answer this question. Sophia, is Opie

851
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 2: the a hole for stopping basically going no contact?

852
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 3: Girl, you'd beat the A hole if you didn't. You

853
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 3: absolutely go no contact. Yes, stop contacting her?

854
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:31,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, all forms, stop it debt.

855
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:35,520
Speaker 4: My girlfriend is upset that I checked her location. She's

856
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 4: definitely hiding something.

857
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:39,800
Speaker 3: I want to know where you are at all times.

858
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 4: My girlfriend Female twenty five and I Mail twenty eight

859
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 4: have been in a relationship together for eight months. She

860
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,760
Speaker 4: is currently away on holiday with some friends. She works hard,

861
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,879
Speaker 4: and this is more of a party trip for her

862
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 4: with friends, which I'm okay with because she needs some

863
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 4: time to chill out given the amount of stress her

864
00:41:57,719 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 4: work puts her under. By the way, this comes from

865
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 4: use us some Dinner ten fifty seven and if you

866
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 4: want to submit your own stories, go to the r

867
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,919
Speaker 4: slash Okay Storytime sub bredd it and submit it there.

868
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 4: So tonight she went out to a clerb and as

869
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 4: I am still home and up early for work, I

870
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 4: said good night to her. I love you, et cetera,

871
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 4: blah blah blah, I love you, I love you, and

872
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 4: I asked her to let me know when she got

873
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 4: back to the hotel. I'm a terrible sleeper and I

874
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 4: wake up sometimes multiple times at night. It was three

875
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 4: thirty in the morning for me when I woke up

876
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 4: four thirty in the morning where she is, and I

877
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 4: hadn't heard from her yet, So I messaged and asked

878
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 4: if she was okay then, Because we share locations with

879
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 4: each other on Snapchat, and thinking maybe she got back

880
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 4: to her hotel and passed out from drinking, I thought

881
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 4: to check that her location from the hour before wasn't

882
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 4: at the club and wasn't anywhere near the hotel she

883
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 4: was staying at, nor any possible route a taxi would

884
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 4: take there and back opposite direction type deal. I called

885
00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 4: her and she didn't pick up, but she started messing

886
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 4: Jimi a couple minutes later, saying she was fine and

887
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 4: just got back to the hotel and sent a photo of.

888
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:05,760
Speaker 1: The food she was eating.

889
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:08,400
Speaker 4: This is where I feel weird, because I asked her

890
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 4: when she left the club and she said four at

891
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 4: her time. Her snap location from thirty minutes before then

892
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,960
Speaker 4: had her miles away from there, so I asked if

893
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 4: she was sure, and she said yes. I then brought

894
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 4: up the fact that I had snap maps, and she

895
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:26,879
Speaker 4: got immediately defensive. Initially she tried saying that the map

896
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 4: doesn't show the club, which it does, and then she

897
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,280
Speaker 4: said that she was getting upset that I was checking

898
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 4: in on her and made me feel like I was

899
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 4: wrong to be doing that. I feel weird about that

900
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 4: last part, because as your partner, of course, I will

901
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 4: be worried if you're in a foreign country where drink

902
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 4: is involved. You were at a club and showing as

903
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,240
Speaker 4: miles away from where you said you were. I'm trying

904
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 4: to think this was just Snapchat being weird. But can

905
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 4: it be that far off? I'm talking like three miles away.

906
00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 4: The location it showed her by was near some houses.

907
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 4: I really don't know how I should feel about it.

908
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 4: She's gone to sleep for now and assured me she's

909
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:07,439
Speaker 4: in her hotel, but I still feel really mixed about

910
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 4: how defensive she got about it when literally all I was.

911
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 4: All I was was worried about her safety. Can someone

912
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 4: share their perspective and thoughts on this and there is

913
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:22,479
Speaker 4: an update, it's like, ah, so here's what I'm I'd

914
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 4: have to say about this. If this is your daughter, sure,

915
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,719
Speaker 4: you're a father, like you're worried about her, You want

916
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 4: to know you call her, look, check her location. You're

917
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 4: not her dad, though. Yeah, I feel like life is

918
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 4: inherently risky and dangerous, and sometimes we just have to

919
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 4: be like, this is a person who is there, a

920
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 4: whole person, and they're gonna live their life and being

921
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:46,839
Speaker 4: seeing as you're not there, what were you gonna do?

922
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: Yeah? I do think she'd do her location with someone

923
00:44:49,239 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 3: is is I mean, I deal with a lot of people,

924
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 3: so it's like maybe less yeah, meaningful for me, but

925
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,760
Speaker 3: but I feel like for a lot of people it

926
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 3: is a sign of like, hey, I trust you with

927
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:04,320
Speaker 3: information of where I am at all times.

928
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:04,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

929
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,280
Speaker 3: And I think there are moments, I mean, with my friends,

930
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,839
Speaker 3: I will like actively reach out to them and say like, hey,

931
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 3: I'm doing this thing. Keep you at my location. I'll

932
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 3: let you know when I'm back if you need to

933
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 3: check on me and I seem like I'm not in

934
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 3: the right place, you know, thanks.

935
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it's a conversation you have before the trip

936
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 4: is like, hey, we're going to share locations, yeah, and

937
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 4: check it, check up on me, not like a wake

938
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 4: up in the middle of the night and like do

939
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 4: detective work, Yeah, to figure out if she's actually where

940
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 4: she you think she is, Like.

941
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 3: Again, out of heat might be right, right, sure, but

942
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 3: you still need to have a conversation about why you're

943
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:44,240
Speaker 3: feeling these feelings.

944
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,760
Speaker 4: I was feeling like crap, hurt, confused, and everything in between.

945
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 4: After she went to sleep, I conveyed my emotions to

946
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,439
Speaker 4: her and said I wanted to speak over the phone

947
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 4: or in person about how I'm feeling and that I

948
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 4: wasn't done or ready to move on yet from what

949
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 4: happened and how I felt about her getting defense. She

950
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:03,280
Speaker 4: ended up stalling all day while going out to enjoy

951
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 4: her holiday, and occasionally if my feelings came up, she

952
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 4: would casually try to press me to come out and

953
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 4: text her what I wanted to say, but I stood

954
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 4: firm with wanting to actually speak to her. After a

955
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 4: night of no sleep, I ended up passing out at

956
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 4: some point for a couple of hours, waking up around

957
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 4: eleven thirty pm my time, and I messaged her once

958
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,399
Speaker 4: again completely putting myself out there and basically said all

959
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 4: I want is to speak to my partner about my

960
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 4: feelings and that I found it odd she couldn't find

961
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 4: the time to have a conversation and that I was

962
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 4: seriously hurting and not okay. She eventually got back to

963
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:39,520
Speaker 4: her hotel room around midnight for me and initially messaged

964
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 4: again saying that she would rather have the conversation in

965
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 4: person and that I'm not considering her comfort at all.

966
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 4: She cited that she's in a shared room with her friend.

967
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 4: I would rather have the conversation in a safe place

968
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 4: at home. I told her that I do understand where

969
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 4: she's coming from, but I was at the end of

970
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:57,319
Speaker 4: my robe and I really need to just speak with

971
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 4: my girlfriend. And she still has an acknowledged that, then

972
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 4: it gets worse. She ends up calling me a few

973
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 4: minutes after, and I go into it. I bring up

974
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 4: that I'm not feeling okay and I'm hurt and confused

975
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 4: by her defensive reaction when I was approaching her in

976
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 4: a non accusatory way and from a place of genuine concern,

977
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 4: considering she hadn't messaged me yet and it was three

978
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 4: thirty am for me four thirty, where she was not

979
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 4: even a hey, just leaving the club, and then the

980
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 4: location discrepancy on top of it. She then leaned heavily

981
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 4: into saying that I'm not listening to her story and

982
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 4: that I don't trust her and was checking up on

983
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 4: her because I didn't believe she would message me. She

984
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 4: wasn't grasping that I could be coming to her from

985
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 4: a place of genuine worry, and only fixated on trying

986
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:43,879
Speaker 4: to explain away my feelings by saying I didn't trust her,

987
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 4: I'm being insecure and I.

988
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 1: Need therapy for my trust issues.

989
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 4: I was baffled and started getting upset at the personal attacks,

990
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 4: and the conversation turned into an argument where I kept

991
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:57,560
Speaker 4: reiterating that any normal partnership would get worried given the

992
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 4: information I had at the time, but she kept saying

993
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 4: I wasn't listening, and even though I said I understand

994
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 4: why she felt that way, what I'm saying contradicts that

995
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 4: which I said to her moments before that, as I

996
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,879
Speaker 4: felt what she was saying was how I understand where

997
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 4: you're coming from. But so and so wasn't her hearing

998
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 4: me at all. And when I asked her what I

999
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 4: specifically said that contradicts myself, she couldn't provide any examples.

1000
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 4: About five or ten minutes of not getting anywhere, I

1001
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 4: shut down the conversation and said, look, this is the

1002
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 4: last time I'm saying it.

1003
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 1: I do trust you.

1004
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 4: I came from a place of genuine concern over your

1005
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,280
Speaker 4: safety and it has nothing to do with my insecurities

1006
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 4: or therapy. I was upset and confused by your defensive

1007
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:41,800
Speaker 4: reaction and avoiding this conversation until now, and I feel like,

1008
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,760
Speaker 4: right now this conversation isn't going anywhere and only pissing

1009
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 4: both of us off. I'm sorry that you feel like

1010
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 4: I don't trust you, but you're not listening to me.

1011
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,360
Speaker 4: I don't fully remember what she replied with as I

1012
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 4: was angry, but she stated her final piece at how

1013
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 4: she was upset and this has effed her up and

1014
00:48:57,719 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: that she needs to speak to her mom to properly

1015
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:00,800
Speaker 4: pays everything.

1016
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 1: Okay, I gotta talk to my mom.

1017
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 4: I mean, not necessarily a red flag, but like, wow,

1018
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 4: can't you you can't sort out your own thoughts.

1019
00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think this is a little bit

1020
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:14,280
Speaker 3: to this level.

1021
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:16,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I had insight, is your mom gonna have to

1022
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 4: your relationship with this guy?

1023
00:49:18,360 --> 00:49:20,840
Speaker 3: If this was a normal like if she had truly

1024
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 3: done nothing, I think this is how it would have gone.

1025
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 3: I think he would have said, hey, I like checked

1026
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 3: your thing and you aren't where he said you were

1027
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:30,359
Speaker 3: going to be. And she would have said like, hey, yeah,

1028
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 3: maybe either you know, snatchat us off or oh yeah,

1029
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,759
Speaker 3: we ended up going out to another place after uh,

1030
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 3: sorry I forgot to update you.

1031
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: It would have been oh, don't worry, I'm fine.

1032
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm so sorry that you you're feeling stressed out

1033
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 4: of me.

1034
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: Don't worry. I'm here with my friends. We're all taking

1035
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: care of each other, don't Yeah, that would have that

1036
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 1: would have been the response.

1037
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:54,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, my girlfriend didn't interject, and I was quiet until

1038
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:56,839
Speaker 4: her friend stopped talking. I asked her if I could

1039
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 4: say one more thing before we ended the call. My

1040
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 4: girlfriend said no, that she had to go. So not

1041
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 4: only did my partner not stand up for me, but

1042
00:50:03,840 --> 00:50:06,840
Speaker 4: I feel like she actively tried to blame, shift, dismiss,

1043
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 4: and or explain away my feelings by belittling them, by

1044
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 4: belittling them into insecurities and trust issues, excuse me when

1045
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 4: all I did was react and have genuine cause for

1046
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 4: concern about her safety. I sent a final message once

1047
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 4: the call was over that didn't deliver because she shut

1048
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 4: her phone off, explaining that I don't like how her

1049
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:29,399
Speaker 4: friend was talking about me and it wasn't needed at all,

1050
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,799
Speaker 4: that I needed space to process things and all I

1051
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,240
Speaker 4: wanted to do was convey my emotions to my partner.

1052
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 4: I told her if she still wanted to meet face

1053
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,279
Speaker 4: to face after the holiday to let me know. She

1054
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 4: did respond rather coldly in the morning, saying that she

1055
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 4: also needed space and would message me on Saturday when

1056
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 4: she's back. I think the solution here is that if

1057
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 4: you have principles like I don't think i'd date this

1058
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 4: person anymore. Yeah, I think I'm breaking I think I'm

1059
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 4: breaking up with my girlfriend now.

1060
00:50:54,840 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 3: But that's yeah, that's what I'm saying. It's like, this

1061
00:50:57,600 --> 00:51:01,360
Speaker 3: is an indicator of something larger, like a larger problem

1062
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 3: in your relationship she is on. I do think I

1063
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:06,280
Speaker 3: would wait at least until she gets back from this trip.

1064
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 3: I wouldn't do it yet.

1065
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 1: I know you do a breakup in person for sure.

1066
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 3: Well, no, just I think have a conversation in person too,

1067
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 3: because clearly, I mean, and that might end.

1068
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:16,719
Speaker 4: You're not on breakup yet, You're like, maybe have one

1069
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 4: more conversation, I think, so I see.

1070
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:18,759
Speaker 1: Where it goes.

1071
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 3: It might end in a breakup. I don't think that

1072
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 3: OP would be wrong in that, But I do think

1073
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 3: that having a conversation in person away from her friend

1074
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 3: while she's not on a vacation is always good people.

1075
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 3: You know, they're not really thinking about everything that's going

1076
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 3: on back home, and they're thinking about having fun and

1077
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 3: partying and stuff, which doesn't excuse their behavior, but it does.

1078
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 3: It doesn't contribute to like having an effective conversation.

1079
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 4: Here's my theory, because we're both on that. She definitely

1080
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 4: cheated train right right, yeah, most likely something. So I

1081
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 4: think the's baby been together eight months. I bet you

1082
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 4: that it's again. It's that like sort of like parent entergy.

1083
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 1: Are you okay? Are you okay? Are you okay?

1084
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 4: All the time has probably like maybe worn worn her

1085
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 4: out a little bit, and she's probably been venting to

1086
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:10,279
Speaker 4: her work friends about how her man is so like

1087
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 4: and now you're out on a big girlies trip and

1088
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 4: that friend who's like, you have nothing to apologize for.

1089
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,600
Speaker 3: I would bet you have money.

1090
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 4: She pushed her to, like, go talk to that cute

1091
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 4: guy over there. Oh my god, we're only going to

1092
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:29,400
Speaker 4: be alive and here one time today only happens today.

1093
00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 4: Go talk to that man.

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00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:31,840
Speaker 1: He's cute.

1095
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 4: And I bet you she did, And I bet you

1096
00:52:35,120 --> 00:52:37,000
Speaker 4: it was a team effort.

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00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 1: You just you know. But that's just my conspirait. That's

1098
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 1: my theory, and that's not a fact. That's a theory theoretical.

1099
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:44,400
Speaker 1: All right.

1100
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 4: I've gone through all of the emotions at this point,

1101
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:50,200
Speaker 4: from wanting to work it out with her, Ti'm gonna

1102
00:52:50,200 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 4: walk away. The problem is, up until this holiday she's

1103
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 4: gone on, I was completely emotionally invested into this relationship

1104
00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 4: and I still am. But I think the best thing

1105
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 4: from me to do at this point is to walk

1106
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 4: away because The more time passes from that conversation, the

1107
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:07,920
Speaker 4: more I feel like I can't convey my feelings to

1108
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 4: her and know that she'll support me. I feel like

1109
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,840
Speaker 4: she weaponized what I was saying to her and tried

1110
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 4: to manipulate my emotions by telling me how I feel

1111
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:20,720
Speaker 4: and belittling them by saying my worrying was just trust

1112
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 4: issues and insecurities. At this point, I'm leaning towards walking

1113
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 4: out of this is their projection coming from her end here, Oh,

1114
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:28,640
Speaker 4: that's it.

1115
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:30,840
Speaker 1: She is a big screen projector.

1116
00:53:31,040 --> 00:53:31,720
Speaker 3: Ooh man.

1117
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:32,919
Speaker 1: Of course, dude.

1118
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 4: The fact that she said nothing about your feelings other

1119
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:39,200
Speaker 4: than that they don't exist, huge red flag.

1120
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1121
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:41,760
Speaker 1: And the reason she's.

1122
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:44,800
Speaker 4: So defensive is because she's got to play defense because

1123
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 4: I think she cheated on you.

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00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 3: I just think if you have nothing to hide, you

1125
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 3: aren't this defensive. Yeah.

1126
00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 4: The response would have been like, oh, dang, you've been

1127
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:56,319
Speaker 4: tripping over me and my safety. Well I'm safe and

1128
00:53:56,760 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be safe with all my friends, so please

1129
00:53:58,560 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 4: don't worry about me like that.

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00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 1: Again. Here's johni og host here.

1131
00:54:02,360 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to the stories, but he's a

1132
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: quick three minute break of ass from our sponsors.

1133
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Speaker 3: My partner refused to split the hospital bill after I

1134
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:10,720
Speaker 3: gave birth.

1135
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 2: I didn't give birth to the baby. Susan.

1136
00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:14,040
Speaker 1: Twelve K is the.

1137
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 3: Total we need to pay after having our daughter. My

1138
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 3: partner refuses to contribute because it's my bill. My problem.

1139
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from crying for winter And

1140
00:54:22,200 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

1141
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 3: the r slash Okay, storytime superate it. So the hospital

1142
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:30,560
Speaker 3: bills the mother and not the father, even though it's

1143
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:33,400
Speaker 3: our baby. My partner makes slightly more than me, He

1144
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 3: says he shouldn't need to contribute because he pays for

1145
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 3: everything else for our daughter. I feel that this isn't fair.

1146
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,440
Speaker 3: Common one says, buh, that's actually insane of him. What

1147
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 3: the f will he do if you get sick, like

1148
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,279
Speaker 3: literally you made a human together and suddenly it's not

1149
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 3: his problem. What the actual f ope? He says, he

1150
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:55,000
Speaker 3: thinks it's not his problem because legally it's not. He

1151
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 3: said I was billed, He wasn't billed. He said, the

1152
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 3: mother is the patient and I was the patient, and

1153
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 3: the bill is under my name, so it's my bill.

1154
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 3: He also said, you don't pay for my medical bills.

1155
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 3: It's your hospital bill under your name. No one told

1156
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 3: you to take an epidural, which costs two K of

1157
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 3: the bill Commoner two wooo if he has parents call

1158
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 3: either way, I would be looking for a way out

1159
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:19,839
Speaker 3: if I were you. That is incredibly left up. Opie says,

1160
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 3: I don't think his parents would care about this. How

1161
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 3: did you not know about this? Then they honestly aren't

1162
00:55:26,120 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 3: gonna want to get involved in our relationship like that.

1163
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 3: They would just tell us to figure it out as

1164
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:32,759
Speaker 3: a couple. Opie should give her baby her family name

1165
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 3: instead of the father's name. Opie says, it's too late

1166
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 3: for that. My baby was born five months ago. My

1167
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:41,439
Speaker 3: baby has the father's name. Can op file for child

1168
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 3: support and make it legally her partner's problem? Opie says,

1169
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 3: if I filed for child support, he still wouldn't be

1170
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 3: legally obligated to pay for my medical bill. I would

1171
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:53,200
Speaker 3: have to use child support for my baby, which isn't

1172
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:55,280
Speaker 3: a lot of money to begin with, so I can't

1173
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 3: just use it on my medical bills. Opie responds to

1174
00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:00,440
Speaker 3: a comment on if she is allowed to change baby's

1175
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:04,319
Speaker 3: last name. Opie says, I don't think I can. I

1176
00:56:04,400 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 3: googled it. I would have to do so much work

1177
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 3: like file position and get the consent of the father,

1178
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:14,240
Speaker 3: which he won't allow me to do. Also attended court hearing,

1179
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 3: obtaining court hearing, and amend the birth certificates, and most

1180
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 3: likely it wouldn't get approved. That's a lot of work

1181
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,800
Speaker 3: and stress. Anyways, changing the last name of the baby

1182
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 3: isn't my maiden concern. I don't care if my baby

1183
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 3: has his last name. Why is the cost so much? Oh, commenter,

1184
00:56:31,719 --> 00:56:34,240
Speaker 3: doesn't op have health insurance that would cover the hospital?

1185
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 3: Bill Opie says, that's the cost after insurance. I had complications,

1186
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 3: and honestly I expected it to cost more, Opie says.

1187
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:44,280
Speaker 3: Opie explains her state laws on who pays the hospital.

1188
00:56:44,280 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 3: Bill Opie says, even if we were married, it wouldn't

1189
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 3: change anything. In my state, it isn't required for your

1190
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,319
Speaker 3: spouse to pay your medical bills. I was venting to

1191
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 3: my friend about this, and one of my friends is

1192
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:57,880
Speaker 3: in law, and she said, even if I was married,

1193
00:56:57,880 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 3: my spouse wouldn't be automatically liable for the medical debt

1194
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 3: of your partner. It depends on what state, and it's

1195
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:09,360
Speaker 3: a slippery slope. Why is Opie staying with her partner.

1196
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 3: Opie says, I do love him. It is also financial security.

1197
00:57:14,520 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 3: It's impossible to live off one income, especially now with

1198
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 3: a baby. And there is an update. Yeah, read that back.

1199
00:57:22,800 --> 00:57:24,320
Speaker 1: You know, financial security.

1200
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,959
Speaker 3: He's not giving you any He's not giving you any

1201
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 3: He's making you pay twelve thousand dollars for a baby

1202
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 3: that he is also his baby, and thousand dollars for

1203
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 3: a baby's also his baby.

1204
00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:37,760
Speaker 4: If he's going to fundamentally approach parenting from that position

1205
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 4: of like, well, this is what I pay for all

1206
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 4: this stuff, it's like what it's like, you know, it's

1207
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:44,640
Speaker 4: like you're talking about a dog. It's like it's not

1208
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:48,600
Speaker 4: even a kid. Yeah, Like, dude, he's it's he's not gonna.

1209
00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 1: He's not fit. He's not fit to be a parent.

1210
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: If that's how he's approaching.

1211
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 3: It, I just think it's app Also the fact that

1212
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 3: he said you didn't have to get an epidurl, Like

1213
00:57:55,600 --> 00:58:01,240
Speaker 3: this man knows nothing about pregnancy, nothing about giving I mean.

1214
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:03,360
Speaker 1: Just how freaking dude.

1215
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 4: If you put your like uninformed, you put your ear

1216
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 4: up to this guy's ear, you hear the ocean.

1217
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 1: That's how empty his brain is yead his head d brain.

1218
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 1: He has no brain. He has an empty head.

1219
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 3: But there is an update. My partner was acting weird

1220
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 3: the other day when I grabbed his phone to call

1221
00:58:20,160 --> 00:58:23,200
Speaker 3: my phone to find it. I couldn't get his reaction

1222
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 3: out of my head when he freaked out when I

1223
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,960
Speaker 3: grabbed his phone, I went through his phone. My partner

1224
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 3: cheated on me while I was pregnant. He claims he

1225
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 3: didn't cheat on me because it doesn't count because it

1226
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:38,520
Speaker 3: was a white girl. He had spicy sleep with her,

1227
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 3: because it was a one time opportunity that he always

1228
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 3: wanted to try. This is the stupidest thing anyone has

1229
00:58:44,400 --> 00:58:47,240
Speaker 3: ever said to me. He said. It wasn't serious, and

1230
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 3: I know that he's not cuffing no white girl. How

1231
00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 3: he's still here with me and our baby at the

1232
00:58:53,280 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 3: end of the day. A man may wander around, but

1233
00:58:55,800 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 3: he always comes home to his family at the end

1234
00:58:58,120 --> 00:58:59,920
Speaker 3: of the day. Wow, I don't know what to do.

1235
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:00,200
Speaker 1: Well.

1236
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 3: Leaving is the first thing that comes to mind. But

1237
00:59:02,360 --> 00:59:05,320
Speaker 3: I'm a new mother. I just had a baby. We're

1238
00:59:05,360 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 3: stuck in a lease together for another year. I can't

1239
00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:11,160
Speaker 3: afford to be on my own. I have to stay here. Regardless,

1240
00:59:11,200 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 3: and I'm just gonna make it awkward for breaking up

1241
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 3: with them just to still come home to them every day.

1242
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 3: There are some comments comment one, and this is where

1243
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 3: the fifty to fifty culture gets women now. Men don't

1244
00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 3: want to pay the hospital bills for their birth of

1245
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 3: their legacies. What is happening with men right now? And

1246
00:59:28,000 --> 00:59:30,680
Speaker 3: still he will expect the baby to have his last name.

1247
00:59:30,920 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 3: Women are getting scammed in these relationships. This is why

1248
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 3: so many women don't want to get married and have

1249
00:59:35,200 --> 00:59:38,360
Speaker 3: children anymore. Women are doing everything alone. Women need to

1250
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:40,800
Speaker 3: put everything on paper and make these guys understand that

1251
00:59:40,840 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 3: fifty to fifty in a marriage is not right.

1252
00:59:43,320 --> 00:59:45,360
Speaker 4: Why are you hanging on that that has nothing to

1253
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 4: do with this. This guy is completely unfit to be

1254
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 4: a parent or a partner.

1255
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 1: I don't and see says something you do with fifty

1256
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 1: to fifty you absolute you mouth breather.

1257
00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 3: You're giving more than your share because you can literally

1258
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 3: pass away giving birth. I agree with that comment. Your

1259
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 3: body and your mind will change forever. Women will keep

1260
01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 3: getting played by patriarchy if we don't stop romanticizing men.

1261
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:11,680
Speaker 3: If the most dangerous and reckless thing we can do

1262
01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:15,000
Speaker 3: make them sign prenups, agreements and clauses, otherwise you will

1263
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 3: be exploited by men. What he says period fifty to

1264
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 3: fifty only benefits the man. They want us to work

1265
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,480
Speaker 3: full time, pay off the bills, and be made a nanny,

1266
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 3: while all they do is also work and make it

1267
01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 3: makes sense. Comeda two says, is excuses our lamen, you

1268
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:29,400
Speaker 3: know it. That one makes worse.

1269
01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:32,919
Speaker 1: Okay, that's now we're on the this is relevant train.

1270
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, Commenter two says his excuses our lamen, you know it.

1271
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 3: Start making an exit plan, even if it does take

1272
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 3: you some time to get it organized. He will cheat again,

1273
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:44,160
Speaker 3: but will think it's fine because it wasn't serious, and

1274
01:00:44,200 --> 01:00:45,600
Speaker 3: he comes back to you at the end of the

1275
01:00:45,680 --> 01:00:50,640
Speaker 3: day wishing you strength and there is an update.

1276
01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 4: Do not, under any circumstances stay wish guy, for the

1277
01:00:57,000 --> 01:00:57,680
Speaker 4: love of God.

1278
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,920
Speaker 3: The thing is that he's not even going to provide

1279
01:01:00,160 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 3: financial security. He's gonna be nikeling and diming you the

1280
01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 3: whole relationship. Even more so now that you know that

1281
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:10,920
Speaker 3: he's cheating, there's just no point in staying in this relationship.

1282
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:13,960
Speaker 3: I think that you would get honestly more financial security

1283
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:16,840
Speaker 3: if you broke up. If you, you know, broke up

1284
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:19,160
Speaker 3: and ask for child support, I think you would get

1285
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 3: more and you would have to see him less.

1286
01:01:21,680 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 1: So that's a win.

1287
01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 4: And also there was a comment that's like, if you

1288
01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:29,000
Speaker 4: do leave in your financially like in a very hard spot,

1289
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 4: guess what you qualify for medicare you and your baby?

1290
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,960
Speaker 4: So you will get all of your medical bills paid for.

1291
01:01:36,120 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 3: Update two, I can't get out of my lease. I've tried.

1292
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 3: I'm stuck in this lease with him for another year.

1293
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:44,760
Speaker 3: We're gonna be co habiting and co parenting. I feel

1294
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 3: so alone. We go to bed together and I feel

1295
01:01:46,920 --> 01:01:49,400
Speaker 3: like we're still together, but we're not. You guys need

1296
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:52,560
Speaker 3: to sleep in several rooms. Our relationship is over. I

1297
01:01:52,560 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 3: don't think I can ever get past the cheating. He

1298
01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 3: says this affair doesn't count because it was a one

1299
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 3: time opportunity with a white girl. But is it crazy

1300
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 3: that I would have been less hurt and possibly forgave

1301
01:02:04,280 --> 01:02:06,520
Speaker 3: him if he slept with a black girl instead. I

1302
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 3: don't know. Maybe it's my own insecurity showing relevant comments

1303
01:02:10,440 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 3: common or one sign his phone number up for every

1304
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 3: annoying spammy service you can find. Opie says hellel This

1305
01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:20,160
Speaker 3: would actually irritate him, Opie says. Opie explains her excess

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01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 3: thoughts on the manage on the meaning of cheating, Opie says,

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01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:26,920
Speaker 3: so his stance on this is one sided. He thinks

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01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,640
Speaker 3: men can cheat no strings attached, because he says, men

1309
01:02:29,680 --> 01:02:32,440
Speaker 3: can have spicy sleep with women without emotions and he

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01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 3: can continue with his day and forget it happened. But

1311
01:02:35,040 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 3: women can't do the same thing in and it'll stick

1312
01:02:37,080 --> 01:02:39,320
Speaker 3: to her. He says, when a man cheats, he just

1313
01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:41,560
Speaker 3: needs a time and a place, but when a woman cheats,

1314
01:02:41,600 --> 01:02:44,240
Speaker 3: she needs a reason. Baby juice DNA is a real

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01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 3: thing too. Like you said, every.

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01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 1: Guy that that completes a deed.

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01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 3: In a woman their baby has those guys DNA.

1318
01:02:54,080 --> 01:02:57,200
Speaker 4: Wait, what is this guy trying to say that if

1319
01:02:57,240 --> 01:03:02,480
Speaker 4: somebody has had uh spicy, he's doneitus with the multiple

1320
01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:05,480
Speaker 4: people that the baby has in multiple sets of genetics.

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01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, we already know this, Oh, there goes. We already

1322
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:12,680
Speaker 3: know this man is an idiot. We already know.

1323
01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 4: I'm sure this guy's not from Jupiter because he's the

1324
01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 4: dumbest person I've ever seen in my life.

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01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:20,080
Speaker 3: Like he said, every guy that completes the deed in

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01:03:20,120 --> 01:03:22,920
Speaker 3: a woman there mayby has those guys is peach DNA

1327
01:03:23,160 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 3: or those men's behavior or physical features of every guy

1328
01:03:26,720 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 3: she's ever slept with. So he says it's best to

1329
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:31,240
Speaker 3: have a baby with a virgin. I wasn't a virgin

1330
01:03:31,280 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 3: when I met him, but I have a low, spicy

1331
01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 3: sleep count, and he says that's good enough since most

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01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:38,000
Speaker 3: women are promiscuous. I hate this man, and this is

1333
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:41,720
Speaker 3: probably the best he's gonna get body count wise, Like, I.

1334
01:03:41,160 --> 01:03:44,040
Speaker 4: Feel bad for this guy because of how dumb he is.

1335
01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:46,720
Speaker 4: It's like it's like that you would feel bad for.

1336
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 4: Like I can't even come up with an example, but

1337
01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 4: it's like, imagine how Actually maybe it's really I think

1338
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 4: maybe there's a level of dumb that you can be

1339
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:57,919
Speaker 4: where life is hard and then you go you loop

1340
01:03:57,960 --> 01:03:59,400
Speaker 4: all the way back around and you're so dumb you

1341
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 4: can't even like conceptualized that things are difficult. So life

1342
01:04:03,080 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 4: is like just a breeze for you, no matter what,

1343
01:04:05,200 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 4: because you're just that dumb.

1344
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 3: So basically he thinks of a woman cheats, she's a

1345
01:04:11,360 --> 01:04:14,000
Speaker 3: gardening tool, but when a man cheats, he's a king

1346
01:04:14,080 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 3: because he's not a loser. If women find him attractive,

1347
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:18,720
Speaker 3: that means he's doing something right.

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01:04:19,200 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 1: He said.

1349
01:04:19,600 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 3: When men have a bunch of women around him, every

1350
01:04:22,960 --> 01:04:25,600
Speaker 3: man and women included, thinks he's cool. But when there's

1351
01:04:25,640 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 3: a bunch of men around one woman, everyone's like ew

1352
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 3: gardening tool. It's a double standard for sure. The crazy

1353
01:04:34,680 --> 01:04:36,880
Speaker 3: part is I'm kind of buying his bs.

1354
01:04:37,600 --> 01:04:41,040
Speaker 1: Why how are you do? You have no self awareness?

1355
01:04:41,080 --> 01:04:41,280
Speaker 4: O P.

1356
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:43,560
Speaker 3: The thing is that I think that this man has

1357
01:04:43,560 --> 01:04:45,960
Speaker 3: been like this the whole time, but I literally can't

1358
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:49,040
Speaker 3: Everything he says is insane. But I literally can't refute

1359
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:51,520
Speaker 3: any of this except the stupid baby juice DNA stuff

1360
01:04:51,880 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 3: That was just illiterate af and he clearly skipped out

1361
01:04:54,600 --> 01:04:58,520
Speaker 3: on biology classes. He claims the DNA stuff came from

1362
01:04:58,680 --> 01:05:00,240
Speaker 3: studies and research.

1363
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:02,760
Speaker 4: One of our commenters said, I think it was Deirdris

1364
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:06,200
Speaker 4: Statham said, yeah, I sure hope he gets if the

1365
01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:08,320
Speaker 4: baby juice thing is right, I sure hope he the

1366
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:11,320
Speaker 4: baby gets its intelligence from another guy, hopefully.

1367
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:11,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1368
01:05:11,880 --> 01:05:14,520
Speaker 3: Does opf family or friends she can go for supports?

1369
01:05:14,600 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 3: Opie says, I really don't, And folks, that's the end

1370
01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:18,040
Speaker 3: of that story.

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Speaker 4: I'm going on an international trip with my boyfriend, but

1372
01:05:22,760 --> 01:05:24,240
Speaker 4: now I want to break.

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01:05:24,000 --> 01:05:26,520
Speaker 3: Up International super Spy.

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01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 4: Hello everyone, I nineteen female just found out that my

1375
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:34,560
Speaker 4: boyfriend twenty mail is apparently cheating on me with his

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01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:35,400
Speaker 4: best friend.

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01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:36,960
Speaker 1: Who also happens to be my friend.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from user Dyke on Live

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Speaker 4: nineteen forty six, and if you want to submit your

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Speaker 4: own stories, go to the our slash Okay story time subrenday.

1381
01:05:45,560 --> 01:05:48,840
Speaker 1: They were talking about the vegetable, so for some context.

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01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:52,479
Speaker 4: I met my boyfriend at UNI around September twenty twenty four.

1383
01:05:52,920 --> 01:05:55,960
Speaker 4: We were friends at first, but but we started dating

1384
01:05:56,040 --> 01:06:00,320
Speaker 4: in late January after we kissed on the Natives briefw

1385
01:06:00,880 --> 01:06:04,920
Speaker 4: Our relationship wasn't perfect, but I was genuinely happy.

1386
01:06:05,440 --> 01:06:08,040
Speaker 1: He was my first boyfriend and seemed like a gentleman.

1387
01:06:08,360 --> 01:06:11,160
Speaker 4: He spoiled me, called me beautiful, did lots of things

1388
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:13,960
Speaker 4: for me so I didn't have to stress, helped me

1389
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:17,000
Speaker 4: with my problems, invited me to hang out with his friends,

1390
01:06:17,160 --> 01:06:21,120
Speaker 4: which I actually bonded with them, among many other things.

1391
01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 4: And yes, we used to fight a lot due to

1392
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 4: the reason that we have very different characters and we

1393
01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:28,080
Speaker 4: were raised in completely different environments.

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01:06:28,200 --> 01:06:30,760
Speaker 1: But somehow he made it work, or at least I

1395
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:31,360
Speaker 1: thought we did.

1396
01:06:31,520 --> 01:06:35,440
Speaker 4: Due to his career, he has to participate in something

1397
01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:39,880
Speaker 4: called International Week, which basically means studying abroad for one

1398
01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 4: to two weeks every year. This year, he and his

1399
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:44,760
Speaker 4: friends had to go to Singapore for two weeks, but

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01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:47,480
Speaker 4: they decided to extend the trip and visit other countries

1401
01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:50,320
Speaker 4: in Asia too. At the beginning of twenty twenty five,

1402
01:06:50,440 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 4: he invited me to join them, but my mom initially

1403
01:06:53,040 --> 01:06:56,440
Speaker 4: said no. That was it until early April when she

1404
01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:58,880
Speaker 4: changed her mind. We were able to buy my plane

1405
01:06:58,880 --> 01:07:01,360
Speaker 4: tickets and my boyfriend I just needed to pay for

1406
01:07:01,400 --> 01:07:04,480
Speaker 4: the flights and he would take care of, yeah, everything else.

1407
01:07:04,840 --> 01:07:07,360
Speaker 1: I was so excited. It was going to be our

1408
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:09,240
Speaker 1: first trip together, and.

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01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 4: We were also going with our friends, which made it

1410
01:07:11,760 --> 01:07:15,160
Speaker 4: feel even more fun. We used to daydream about what

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01:07:15,240 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 4: we'd do, what we'd wear, where we'd go. Obviously, I

1412
01:07:19,640 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 4: had to arrive after them because they'd be in class

1413
01:07:22,800 --> 01:07:25,320
Speaker 4: and I wasn't allowed to stay on campus. They left

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01:07:25,360 --> 01:07:27,600
Speaker 4: on June sixth, and I'm supposed to get there on

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01:07:27,680 --> 01:07:32,840
Speaker 4: June nineteenth. Now Here is the issue. Last Wednesday, I

1416
01:07:32,960 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 4: was at my mom's business. I had just bought tickets

1417
01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:38,360
Speaker 4: to the other countries we were going to visit, so

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01:07:38,600 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 4: I was kind of drowning in debt. To make some

1419
01:07:41,560 --> 01:07:44,040
Speaker 4: extra money, I decided to sell some of my clothes

1420
01:07:44,160 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 4: outside the shop. Out of nowhere, I got a text

1421
01:07:47,080 --> 01:07:49,440
Speaker 4: from him that just said, wtf, dude.

1422
01:07:49,960 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 1: I was shocked. We've never talked to each other that way.

1423
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:55,680
Speaker 4: We always used sweet nicknames, and we never used that

1424
01:07:55,840 --> 01:07:59,040
Speaker 4: kind of language. I didn't understand. I thought maybe it

1425
01:07:59,160 --> 01:08:02,000
Speaker 4: was a mistake, or maybe he was joking to see

1426
01:08:02,000 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 4: my reaction. Little social experiment, so I replied, why are

1427
01:08:05,880 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 4: you talking to me like that? He didn't answer. Then

1428
01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:13,480
Speaker 4: I said I'm waiting for your response. Still no answer.

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01:08:14,080 --> 01:08:14,640
Speaker 2: Excuse me.

1430
01:08:14,920 --> 01:08:17,280
Speaker 4: At that point I assumed he was joking, so I

1431
01:08:17,360 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 4: finally texted, okay, I understand, So we break up and

1432
01:08:21,439 --> 01:08:22,599
Speaker 4: go back to being friends.

1433
01:08:23,760 --> 01:08:24,679
Speaker 1: Still no answer.

1434
01:08:25,080 --> 01:08:27,080
Speaker 4: I felt so strange that I reached out to two

1435
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:28,800
Speaker 4: of our friends who are also on the trip.

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01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:33,519
Speaker 1: Let's call them Sailor and Panini. My boyfriend will be Christian.

1437
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:37,479
Speaker 4: I messaged both of them saying, hey, honey, can you

1438
01:08:37,520 --> 01:08:40,040
Speaker 4: please tell Christian to answer me or else we'll break up.

1439
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 1: I even added a heartsticker because I still thought this

1440
01:08:42,600 --> 01:08:45,880
Speaker 1: was just a dumb joke. Panini didn't reply, but.

1441
01:08:45,920 --> 01:08:49,640
Speaker 4: Almost immediately Sailor messaged me back with Christian wants to

1442
01:08:49,840 --> 01:08:53,000
Speaker 4: f Panini, I'm so sorry, and I was in shock.

1443
01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:57,760
Speaker 4: Then Sailor called me. I heard her screaming at her boyfriend,

1444
01:08:58,000 --> 01:09:01,840
Speaker 4: who is one of Christian's best friends, basically forcing him

1445
01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:02,599
Speaker 4: to tell me the.

1446
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:04,840
Speaker 1: Truth or else they'd break up.

1447
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:07,519
Speaker 4: That's when I found out that Christian and Panini have

1448
01:09:07,600 --> 01:09:11,760
Speaker 4: always had weird interactions, being super close, always telling each

1449
01:09:11,800 --> 01:09:15,400
Speaker 4: other's secrets, acting like more than friends, her wanting to

1450
01:09:15,479 --> 01:09:19,000
Speaker 4: hold his hand, being touchy, not being able to stay

1451
01:09:19,040 --> 01:09:23,000
Speaker 4: away from each other, etc. I already knew their relationship

1452
01:09:23,080 --> 01:09:25,599
Speaker 4: was weird. I also knew they were friends with benefits

1453
01:09:25,760 --> 01:09:29,120
Speaker 4: before I met him, but I decided to trust both

1454
01:09:29,160 --> 01:09:31,200
Speaker 4: of them because she was my friend and he was

1455
01:09:31,240 --> 01:09:34,360
Speaker 4: supposed to be in love with me. Obviously, I couldn't

1456
01:09:34,360 --> 01:09:36,960
Speaker 4: believe what I was hearing. I was so confused that

1457
01:09:37,040 --> 01:09:39,240
Speaker 4: I had a panic attack. I went back to my

1458
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:41,879
Speaker 4: mom's house and just tried to breathe and process everything,

1459
01:09:42,160 --> 01:09:45,120
Speaker 4: and that's when it all hit me. Multiple people, even

1460
01:09:45,120 --> 01:09:49,400
Speaker 4: their own friends, tried to warn me, even my own

1461
01:09:49,640 --> 01:09:52,400
Speaker 4: gut tried to warn me, but I didn't listen. In

1462
01:09:52,439 --> 01:09:55,880
Speaker 4: the days after, I've been so depressed I can't eat

1463
01:09:56,040 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 4: or even get out of bed. I kept overthinking, reliving

1464
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:03,519
Speaker 4: our entire relationship and reinterpreting so many moments. I've also

1465
01:10:03,600 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 4: beginning more and more information. For example, that same night,

1466
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 4: Christian told Sailor to go sleep with her boyfriend so

1467
01:10:10,560 --> 01:10:13,519
Speaker 4: she could sleep in her bed, claiming another friend was

1468
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:16,000
Speaker 4: passed out wasted in Christian's bed and he had nowhere

1469
01:10:16,000 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 4: else to sleep.

1470
01:10:16,760 --> 01:10:18,200
Speaker 1: But that was a lie.

1471
01:10:18,720 --> 01:10:20,719
Speaker 4: Sailor went to check and found out that the friend

1472
01:10:20,760 --> 01:10:23,000
Speaker 4: wasn't wasted at all and just got up and left

1473
01:10:23,080 --> 01:10:25,559
Speaker 4: to go sleep in his own bed. It's necessary for

1474
01:10:25,600 --> 01:10:28,719
Speaker 4: me to say that Sailor shares a dorm with Panini,

1475
01:10:29,320 --> 01:10:31,840
Speaker 4: and there were three other guy friends, and even in

1476
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:34,960
Speaker 4: empty bed he could have slept in. So why insist

1477
01:10:35,040 --> 01:10:41,760
Speaker 4: on Sailors were cheating because they're going boom bam that

1478
01:10:43,479 --> 01:10:48,840
Speaker 4: they're gonna start Macin lip smackin mackin. I know I

1479
01:10:48,880 --> 01:10:52,320
Speaker 4: added on to it because it run Macin lip smacking

1480
01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:57,000
Speaker 4: big Packin'. And then there's the fact that he disappeared

1481
01:10:57,000 --> 01:10:59,719
Speaker 4: for almost two days. First he said he was wasted,

1482
01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:02,800
Speaker 4: then he lost his phone. Then he was on over

1483
01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:05,280
Speaker 4: and he found his phone, but he didn't have signal.

1484
01:11:05,680 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 4: It wasn't until I messaged one of his friends that

1485
01:11:08,120 --> 01:11:11,920
Speaker 4: he finally texted me, just saying, Hi, love, how are you.

1486
01:11:12,040 --> 01:11:14,799
Speaker 4: I also found out that every time we had fought,

1487
01:11:14,840 --> 01:11:16,920
Speaker 4: he'd tell his friends he was going to cheat on

1488
01:11:17,000 --> 01:11:20,120
Speaker 4: me and then actually start looking for girls, which, if

1489
01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:24,360
Speaker 4: anyone remembers op, he said they fought the fair amount.

1490
01:11:26,479 --> 01:11:29,120
Speaker 4: The night that we went out to celebrate my birthday

1491
01:11:29,560 --> 01:11:30,559
Speaker 4: a whole other story.

1492
01:11:31,000 --> 01:11:33,880
Speaker 1: He grabbed Panini's but while we were in line to

1493
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:34,679
Speaker 1: get into the club.

1494
01:11:34,800 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 4: That, among many other things, made me want to break

1495
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 4: up with him.

1496
01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:42,040
Speaker 1: So what should I do?

1497
01:11:42,160 --> 01:11:43,280
Speaker 3: Break up with him? Girl?

1498
01:11:43,320 --> 01:11:45,559
Speaker 1: If you don't read the thing you just wrote.

1499
01:11:45,360 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 3: In the last sentence, all of those things, maybe want

1500
01:11:47,600 --> 01:11:48,840
Speaker 3: to break up with him? What should I do? Break

1501
01:11:48,920 --> 01:11:53,479
Speaker 3: up with that? Break up with that? If I wrote anything,

1502
01:11:53,760 --> 01:11:55,800
Speaker 3: you have to break up with him? Oh, look at

1503
01:11:55,840 --> 01:11:57,439
Speaker 3: that fifteen.

1504
01:11:57,640 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 1: I break with him? You got to break up with

1505
01:11:59,080 --> 01:12:00,320
Speaker 1: him fifteen time?

1506
01:12:00,360 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 3: Yep?

1507
01:12:01,280 --> 01:12:02,240
Speaker 2: What should I do?

1508
01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:05,720
Speaker 4: Our trip is next week, It's fully paid, so I

1509
01:12:05,840 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 4: have to go. I don't really have proof of anything,

1510
01:12:08,360 --> 01:12:12,160
Speaker 4: and I'm not certain he physically cheated. Sailor confronted Panini

1511
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:14,240
Speaker 4: and told her they were no longer friends, but she

1512
01:12:14,320 --> 01:12:16,599
Speaker 4: also said that if Panini wanted to make things right,

1513
01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:19,960
Speaker 4: she should tell me the truth. Panini admitted that her

1514
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:23,559
Speaker 4: relationship with Christian isn't okay and that she has feelings

1515
01:12:23,600 --> 01:12:26,880
Speaker 4: for him. Sailor also confronted Christian and told him what

1516
01:12:27,080 --> 01:12:30,000
Speaker 4: he was doing was wrong, that he should talk to me.

1517
01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:32,760
Speaker 4: She said, poor Ope for what you're doing to her,

1518
01:12:33,160 --> 01:12:37,360
Speaker 4: and he just replied, I know. I'm a bad guy.

1519
01:12:37,920 --> 01:12:41,160
Speaker 1: No, I know, man, I'm terrible.

1520
01:12:41,760 --> 01:12:43,200
Speaker 3: You've seen Panini.

1521
01:12:42,800 --> 01:12:43,639
Speaker 1: Around here anywhere?

1522
01:12:43,640 --> 01:12:47,320
Speaker 3: By the way, Yeah, God does not care about anybody,

1523
01:12:47,479 --> 01:12:48,919
Speaker 3: certainly does not care about Ope.

1524
01:12:49,000 --> 01:12:51,479
Speaker 4: No. When he finally texted me, I told him he

1525
01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:54,760
Speaker 4: knew things weren't okay and that I wasn't just disappointed

1526
01:12:54,800 --> 01:12:57,360
Speaker 4: about the situation. I was disappointed that he didn't even

1527
01:12:57,439 --> 01:12:59,680
Speaker 4: have the courage to talk to me about it. He

1528
01:12:59,720 --> 01:13:02,000
Speaker 4: replied that he knew we weren't okay and that a

1529
01:13:02,000 --> 01:13:04,559
Speaker 4: lot of things had been left unclear or miscommunicated, and

1530
01:13:04,600 --> 01:13:05,720
Speaker 4: he wanted to talk about it.

1531
01:13:06,080 --> 01:13:08,200
Speaker 1: I said yes, but that I didn't want to do it.

1532
01:13:08,240 --> 01:13:09,800
Speaker 1: Over text. He said he.

1533
01:13:09,760 --> 01:13:11,960
Speaker 4: Wanted to talk tomorrow, but I told him we needed

1534
01:13:11,960 --> 01:13:15,080
Speaker 4: to talk today. He agreed, but then said they were

1535
01:13:15,080 --> 01:13:18,599
Speaker 4: currently at Universal Studios, so it would have to be later,

1536
01:13:18,920 --> 01:13:21,519
Speaker 4: only for me to find out that after the park

1537
01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:24,799
Speaker 4: they went straight to the bar zone, and of course

1538
01:13:25,120 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 4: Panini was.

1539
01:13:26,120 --> 01:13:27,800
Speaker 1: With them all alone.

1540
01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:31,679
Speaker 4: Help to break up with him, break out like Sofia said,

1541
01:13:31,680 --> 01:13:34,840
Speaker 4: you can, you can? You can still go on this trip, Yeah,

1542
01:13:34,880 --> 01:13:37,000
Speaker 4: and like make it a different thing. Talk to your

1543
01:13:37,040 --> 01:13:39,280
Speaker 4: mom truly, like she was the one who paid for

1544
01:13:39,320 --> 01:13:41,120
Speaker 4: the tickets, so I'm sure, like that's what you're worried about. Yeah,

1545
01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:43,040
Speaker 4: I can't do this because of that. Tell her what's

1546
01:13:43,040 --> 01:13:44,680
Speaker 4: going on, be like my boyfriends shooting on me and

1547
01:13:44,800 --> 01:13:46,840
Speaker 4: my friend. This is terrible. I don't know what to do.

1548
01:13:47,240 --> 01:13:49,000
Speaker 4: Can we go to Singapore? Maybe, I don't know.

1549
01:13:49,120 --> 01:13:50,880
Speaker 1: Let's go on a little trips or she'll have some

1550
01:13:51,000 --> 01:13:51,759
Speaker 1: level of sympathy.

1551
01:13:52,040 --> 01:13:54,599
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm sure, I don't know. I assume it's

1552
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:57,320
Speaker 3: pretty a safe place from what I've heard. For like

1553
01:13:57,400 --> 01:13:59,920
Speaker 3: a solo traveler, I feel like you could go up

1554
01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:02,760
Speaker 3: solo time and staying like I don't know, see if

1555
01:14:02,800 --> 01:14:05,760
Speaker 3: you can get some just don't leave support. Yeah, see

1556
01:14:05,760 --> 01:14:08,120
Speaker 3: if you can get some refunds on the places that

1557
01:14:08,160 --> 01:14:11,519
Speaker 3: you're staying at do I don't know if hostels, if

1558
01:14:11,520 --> 01:14:14,000
Speaker 3: they got them, yeah, you could have a fun time.

1559
01:14:14,280 --> 01:14:14,960
Speaker 3: You don't need them.

1560
01:14:15,360 --> 01:14:16,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean if you travel anywhere.

1561
01:14:16,960 --> 01:14:18,680
Speaker 4: Really, even if you don't travel anywhere, if you just

1562
01:14:18,720 --> 01:14:20,639
Speaker 4: walk outside of your house, you gotta keep your wits

1563
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:21,160
Speaker 4: about you, dude.

1564
01:14:21,240 --> 01:14:21,639
Speaker 3: Period.

1565
01:14:21,920 --> 01:14:24,360
Speaker 1: Well there's an update, folks. Let's get into it.

1566
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:24,759
Speaker 3: Ohie.

1567
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:27,639
Speaker 1: So now I really don't know what to do.

1568
01:14:28,160 --> 01:14:31,719
Speaker 4: After I found out my boyfriend went clarbing with Panini

1569
01:14:31,800 --> 01:14:34,360
Speaker 4: and his friends, he told me he genuinely wanted to

1570
01:14:34,360 --> 01:14:36,800
Speaker 4: fix things between us. He asked me to trust him,

1571
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:42,120
Speaker 4: saying he couldn't imagine being with anyone else on Bali's beaches.

1572
01:14:42,320 --> 01:14:45,360
Speaker 4: I told him I couldn't see that willingness he's talking about,

1573
01:14:45,680 --> 01:14:47,760
Speaker 4: and then he didn't reply for hours, only for me

1574
01:14:47,840 --> 01:14:50,240
Speaker 4: to later find out that they were all at the beach.

1575
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:52,639
Speaker 4: I got really angry and fed up, so I sent

1576
01:14:52,720 --> 01:14:56,160
Speaker 4: him the following message quote, Honestly, I think this is

1577
01:14:56,439 --> 01:14:59,680
Speaker 4: the last straw knowing what's going on in that we

1578
01:14:59,720 --> 01:15:03,040
Speaker 4: agree to talk. Since yesterday you still chose to get

1579
01:15:03,040 --> 01:15:06,200
Speaker 4: wasted and hit the beach with your friends instead. But fine,

1580
01:15:06,240 --> 01:15:07,960
Speaker 4: I can't force you to care about me or to

1581
01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:11,360
Speaker 4: prioritize something that clearly doesn't matter to you. If we

1582
01:15:11,479 --> 01:15:14,439
Speaker 4: talk at all, it'll be in Singapore. Because this is

1583
01:15:14,520 --> 01:15:16,280
Speaker 4: honestly shameless.

1584
01:15:16,520 --> 01:15:18,719
Speaker 1: That didn't feel like a breakup was bad.

1585
01:15:18,800 --> 01:15:20,720
Speaker 3: That didn't didn't feel like you broke up with them.

1586
01:15:20,800 --> 01:15:23,559
Speaker 4: You almost got there and then you pulled back at

1587
01:15:23,640 --> 01:15:24,840
Speaker 4: the last second.

1588
01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:26,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty bad.

1589
01:15:26,320 --> 01:15:29,559
Speaker 4: That same night, I went clubbing with my friend Steve

1590
01:15:30,000 --> 01:15:34,439
Speaker 4: nineteen mail because honestly, I thought it was unfair that

1591
01:15:34,520 --> 01:15:36,720
Speaker 4: while I was rotting in bed, he was out living

1592
01:15:36,760 --> 01:15:39,360
Speaker 4: his best life like he didn't care. Steve was also

1593
01:15:39,520 --> 01:15:42,879
Speaker 4: genuinely worried about me and how I was feeling about everything.

1594
01:15:43,240 --> 01:15:45,439
Speaker 4: We went to a bar and he invited a few

1595
01:15:45,439 --> 01:15:47,880
Speaker 4: friends to hang out. I posted some instant stories with

1596
01:15:47,960 --> 01:15:50,759
Speaker 4: him and his friends just singing and drinking nothing else.

1597
01:15:50,880 --> 01:15:54,560
Speaker 4: The next day I woke up to these messages from Christian.

1598
01:15:55,080 --> 01:15:57,479
Speaker 4: It's not shameless because I do want to talk, but

1599
01:15:57,520 --> 01:16:00,760
Speaker 4: I also assume you're either asleeper busy, so it's up

1600
01:16:00,760 --> 01:16:01,240
Speaker 4: to you.

1601
01:16:01,360 --> 01:16:03,600
Speaker 1: I can see you're not having a bad time without me.

1602
01:16:03,920 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 3: Such a hypocrite OPI goes out on the down with

1603
01:16:08,040 --> 01:16:10,640
Speaker 3: their friend, and he goes out with a girl that

1604
01:16:10,680 --> 01:16:12,479
Speaker 3: he used to hook up with and maybe is hooking

1605
01:16:12,479 --> 01:16:15,559
Speaker 3: out with, and then he has the audacity to compare

1606
01:16:16,040 --> 01:16:17,280
Speaker 3: you guys together.

1607
01:16:17,479 --> 01:16:20,160
Speaker 1: My mental image of this man is just like if

1608
01:16:20,200 --> 01:16:23,599
Speaker 1: you took a guy and you just shrank him down,

1609
01:16:24,760 --> 01:16:25,960
Speaker 1: and he's just a little.

1610
01:16:25,720 --> 01:16:29,280
Speaker 4: Two inch man, A little two inch man like Mike

1611
01:16:29,360 --> 01:16:32,240
Speaker 4: from a statue to me, Mike from a Charlie and

1612
01:16:32,280 --> 01:16:34,720
Speaker 4: the chocolate. Yeah, they turned him into Mike TV, Mike

1613
01:16:34,760 --> 01:16:38,519
Speaker 4: TV because that's how small and pathetic this guy is.

1614
01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 3: That's what he looks like. I don't need him on

1615
01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:41,360
Speaker 3: the inside.

1616
01:16:41,400 --> 01:16:43,240
Speaker 1: There's a little bit of story left here, kay. I

1617
01:16:43,240 --> 01:16:45,479
Speaker 1: think we've all I think we don't know what she needs.

1618
01:16:45,240 --> 01:16:48,200
Speaker 3: To do, and I think she knows what she needs

1619
01:16:48,200 --> 01:16:48,400
Speaker 3: to do.

1620
01:16:48,840 --> 01:16:51,960
Speaker 4: Another plea to the youngsters out there who maybe haven't

1621
01:16:52,000 --> 01:16:53,280
Speaker 4: been in relationships and.

1622
01:16:53,360 --> 01:16:55,919
Speaker 3: Don't ignore bad behavior.

1623
01:16:56,360 --> 01:16:59,799
Speaker 1: Don't just because it's not it's not okay.

1624
01:16:59,840 --> 01:17:02,120
Speaker 3: If it's not okay, it's okay, it's not okay.

1625
01:17:02,240 --> 01:17:05,479
Speaker 4: So then my friend Sailor, the one who made me

1626
01:17:05,680 --> 01:17:09,120
Speaker 4: aware of this whole situation, told me something that completely

1627
01:17:09,160 --> 01:17:12,080
Speaker 4: threw me off. She said that Christian yelled at her

1628
01:17:12,200 --> 01:17:15,559
Speaker 4: horribly that day, blaming her for everything that's been happening

1629
01:17:15,600 --> 01:17:18,280
Speaker 4: between us and telling her she had no business interfering

1630
01:17:18,280 --> 01:17:21,160
Speaker 4: in our relationship or talking to me. He said that

1631
01:17:21,320 --> 01:17:23,320
Speaker 4: was all a lie and that Panini was the one

1632
01:17:23,320 --> 01:17:26,000
Speaker 4: to blame, basically painting Paninia as some crazy woman and

1633
01:17:26,040 --> 01:17:29,240
Speaker 4: a liar, and then said that if he didn't talk

1634
01:17:29,280 --> 01:17:31,080
Speaker 4: to me for two days, it was because of her

1635
01:17:31,520 --> 01:17:34,559
Speaker 4: sailor for making all this mess, like she had told

1636
01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:36,840
Speaker 4: him not to talk to me, broke his phone or something.

1637
01:17:36,840 --> 01:17:39,960
Speaker 4: That excuse is so stupid. My trip is in two

1638
01:17:40,000 --> 01:17:42,120
Speaker 4: days and my mind can't come up with any solutions

1639
01:17:42,200 --> 01:17:44,040
Speaker 4: or ideas on what I should do.

1640
01:17:44,160 --> 01:17:46,760
Speaker 3: Go on the trip, break up with your boyfriend, have

1641
01:17:46,840 --> 01:17:50,720
Speaker 3: fun without him, then you're good, done, done exactly check

1642
01:17:50,840 --> 01:17:51,280
Speaker 3: check check