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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 2: Welcome guys to another episode.

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Speaker 1: Of Hungry Blaze your Oh my goodness, we are back

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Speaker 1: at it again.

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Speaker 2: Still sell a bit, probably not by the time y'all

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Speaker 2: actually hear this episode because I am about to get fucked,

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Speaker 2: but I am Mandy b Aka about to get fucked

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Speaker 2: aka by your daddy probably AKA.

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Speaker 3: What's the not she wants them to have kids? What's up, y'all,

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Speaker 3: I'm weasy. Welcome back to another episode. A few things

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Speaker 3: off the top. I feel very self healthy today. Okay,

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Speaker 3: yesterday I had a day where I just spent a

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Speaker 3: lot of time committed to Like sometimes we get advice

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Speaker 3: about whether it be manifestation or listening to certain things,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, Okay, I'm actually just gonna take

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Speaker 3: all of those things do them instead of like bullshitting okay,

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Speaker 3: kind of like how when people say they're gonna go

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Speaker 3: to the gym, but they don't go, right, I feel,

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Speaker 3: and I'm not saying that to be shady to anyone listening.

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Speaker 3: I mean, like, sometimes we know we need to do

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Speaker 3: it for our health, we know we need to do

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Speaker 3: it for our mental but we don't so yesterday I

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Speaker 3: just did all the things I said I was gonna do.

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Speaker 1: And what were some of those things?

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Speaker 3: So during some tough moments this year, I hit up

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Speaker 3: all the people that I felt like had elevated within

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Speaker 3: the last year, just right before my eyes, just like

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Speaker 3: fucking blow up right. One of my homegirls recently started

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Speaker 3: a new business and one of the things that she

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Speaker 3: told me to do was start talking to myself more. Okay,

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Speaker 3: and it sounds kind of looney to me, but the

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Speaker 3: gin will hold you. She was like, the second you

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Speaker 3: feel like a tear coming on or just something making

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Speaker 3: you feel sad, you have to start talking to yourself.

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Speaker 1: So literally, yesterday it started.

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Speaker 3: Happening, and she was like, even if you feel stupid,

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Speaker 3: you might like laugh at yourself, but you gotta do.

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Speaker 3: I was like, bro, you are so beautiful. I like

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Speaker 3: looked at myself in my own eyes in the mirror,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, you're so beautiful. You work so hard,

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Speaker 3: You're going to get everything you want. Questlove sent me

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Speaker 3: mourning meditations and he was like, he is one of

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Speaker 3: those people. And I don't know if anyone listens to

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Speaker 3: quest Love Supreme. I don't listen to podcasts. But there's

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Speaker 3: no way he doesn't talk about this because he's been

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Speaker 3: this person since I've become his friend. He is so like,

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Speaker 3: you have to wake up in the morning and have

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Speaker 3: a routine or you're not going to be successful. If

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Speaker 3: you think that you can even wake up and not

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Speaker 3: show gratitude, not stretch, not do these things, you can't

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Speaker 3: be a functional, successful being, period. And he's been saying

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Speaker 3: that to me forever. So finally I did his morning

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Speaker 3: meditation shit, and one of the things in the meditation

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Speaker 3: it was saying something about picture the life that you want, like,

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Speaker 3: meditate on what that life feels like, think about that

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Speaker 3: feeling and transfer that feeling into your body right now.

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Speaker 3: And I've done thatation meditation a few times, but maybe

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Speaker 3: I was just more open to receive it. It's crazy,

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Speaker 3: like I literally thought about I don't know what he

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Speaker 3: looks like, I know he was, Like I thought about

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Speaker 3: me being outside with Nina and my man, and mind you,

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Speaker 3: I've been having a lot of these days with the

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Speaker 3: dread dude on day and right, we'd go to the

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Speaker 3: and like, was it a man that you know already.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know a face. I just know the

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Speaker 3: way that it made me feel. And it was very intense,

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Speaker 3: and I was like literally in the meditating smiling thinking

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Speaker 1: That's how real it felt to me. It felt so

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Speaker 3: It felt like I knew who it was and it

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Speaker 3: to be welcomed into my life, but I had to

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Speaker 3: know how it feels like.

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Speaker 1: And I think.

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Speaker 3: Another thing I was doing I literally journaled in a bar.

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Speaker 3: I was at smash Burger and I got a journal

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Speaker 3: things I want out of love because I know how

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Speaker 3: like sinister and lonely single bitches could feel. But when

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Speaker 3: I was broke, I was talking about how rich I

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Speaker 1: There were so.

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Speaker 3: Many moments where I remember even talking about my studio

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Speaker 1: So that might be happening right now, but I can't.

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Speaker 3: Give a fuck about it because that's just like what

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Speaker 3: I'm destined to have. So when I was writing down

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Speaker 3: the things that I want, it was interesting because number

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Speaker 3: eleven was something that I talked to my way Andre

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Speaker 3: last night about it, and I was like, am I

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Speaker 3: a bird for wanting this? So the first ten things

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Speaker 3: I wanted a person, and number eleven was very basic

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Speaker 3: and it was someone I can party with. And I

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Speaker 3: was like, Yo, do I not know what I want?

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Speaker 3: Because is this why I'm being kept from a good

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Speaker 3: relationship because I'm looking for niggas to party with. He's

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Speaker 3: like no, but do you really think you want to party?

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Speaker 3: Like is that where your brain is at? You think

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Speaker 3: my mom. My mom was a studio fifty four girl.

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Speaker 3: My mom is seventy two years old, right. My mom

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Speaker 3: isn't party on the weekends, but if my mom and

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Speaker 1: She is the life of the party.

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Speaker 2: I don't think that that's I think that a lot

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of relationships that I know now like that.

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Speaker 2: I see they literally plan to go out and they'll

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Speaker 2: go to clubs together, they'll go to dinners after.

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Speaker 1: And I think, is that social or party? No, it's

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Speaker 2: It's not for work, which that's that is what I identify

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Speaker 1: Social media is I'm going.

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Speaker 2: To network, I gotta be around people, I gotta show face.

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Speaker 2: They literally went to like uh and they're married, married

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Speaker 2: couple went to Habibie, which is this news place in Brooklyn,

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Speaker 2: and then literally went to the rooftop, went to hookah

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Speaker 2: remember that outside of the sex club, me and my

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Speaker 2: ex used to do like and I think that that

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Speaker 2: It doesn't Partying has defined differently. Doesn't have to mean club.

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Speaker 2: It could mean it could mean Sunday football, were going out,

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Speaker 2: we gonna watch the game. We're just gonna be out

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Speaker 2: around people and talk to me. And so the idea

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Speaker 2: which normally again the party girl, the fun girl. When

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Speaker 2: it's deemed as you in the street.

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Speaker 3: So I realized why I've been enjoying the relationship I'm

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Speaker 3: having with the dread niggas so much. The most fun

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Speaker 3: relationship I was in was obay me and that nigga

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Speaker 3: just knew how to move bro, Like it's just it

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Speaker 3: is what it is. Like there wasn't a dull moment.

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Speaker 3: We'd be in the bed in the Lower East Side

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Speaker 3: and he'd be like, all right, let's go to let

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Speaker 3: like and it happened to me and throughout the other day,

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Speaker 3: like we had a great day. We were biking, we

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Speaker 3: I don't know if anything is bad about it. But

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Speaker 3: one thing he did say to me that made me

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Speaker 3: it as a shot to me, but I realized, Oh,

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Speaker 3: I wonder if I've seen this with other men. He

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Speaker 3: Have we ever like watched a movie together? Mind you,

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Speaker 3: this Nigga's flown to La to be with me, and no,

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Speaker 3: I've never watched a movie with him, Like, I've never

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Speaker 3: as someone that's by coastal, maybe we just have to

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Speaker 3: make the most of shit. But bro, like we're moving,

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Speaker 3: we're doing have an event, or it's just something going on,

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Speaker 3: or he's taking me somewhere. It's always something active and

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Speaker 3: I'm hitting me like Hospital Dick is a man and really,

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Speaker 3: like truly, when I'm journaling, Vicious is in a bar,

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Speaker 3: like I'm thinking about the men that I've dated and

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Speaker 3: why I loved them, Why what was something that they lacked?

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Speaker 3: I didn't have fun with him like that, I really didn't.

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Speaker 3: He was next level love, right, like sending me fucking

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Speaker 3: nigga more than he was Like, my bitch is lit

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Speaker 3: thinking about when I was out with the dread nigga

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Speaker 3: that the night, and it reminded me of Old Bay

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Speaker 3: is fun and shit to me, it's a very New

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Speaker 3: And no it's not every time, but I realize this

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Speaker 3: is a fucking quality that I need in the person

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Speaker 3: i'm dating. So literally, when I'm on a date with

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Speaker 3: see what they read in me.

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Speaker 1: And Alex was.

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Speaker 3: Like, you keep looking for fuck niggas, you keep looking

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Speaker 3: produce the party with you can't. The reason you can't

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Speaker 3: that are just chill. I'm like, bro, but they don't

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Speaker 3: suit me. Who's going to fucking hop on a plane

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Speaker 3: What if I have four days off, I'm like, baby,

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Speaker 3: let's go to Mexico. The fun Nigga's gonna go, so

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Speaker 3: this isn't so again.

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Speaker 2: I just think that there's negative attributes being being added

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Speaker 2: to those things. Like when we think of a partner,

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Speaker 2: we want a partner that's at least got similar interests.

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Speaker 2: This is just one of those similar interests that you

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Speaker 2: have that you're like, I want someone to match that energy.

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Speaker 1: Like, I know we talk about opposites of t a lot.

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Speaker 2: But if this is one of those things that you

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Speaker 2: really like, you can find a partner that's really into

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Speaker 2: that as well.

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Speaker 3: And I look at my parents' relationship a lot as

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Speaker 3: the pinnacle of what I want, not just a man

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Speaker 3: to take care of me, because I'm not necessarily looking

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Speaker 3: for that. I'm very independent, not saying my mother is

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Speaker 3: super dependent, but she's just very much like my man

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Speaker 3: is handling this right. I thought about my father and

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Speaker 3: Because you know what I did not write down, and

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Speaker 3: I mean because it's like you really you you you

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Speaker 2: You believed it bro he said that to me, I

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Speaker 2: We got to be a part of building the elevation

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Speaker 1: And this is something that I was saying to you.

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Speaker 3: You know, Old Bay was making great money but I

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Speaker 2: I don't think we think of where are our partners

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Speaker 2: I think when we draw lists, phase are you in?

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Speaker 2: He's now in a place where he's receiving the fruits

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Speaker 1: I'm in a grind mode.

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Speaker 2: I'm not even halfway where I want to be. And

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Speaker 2: I realized that it doesn't matter where he's at an industry,

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Speaker 1: Let me move the goalpost a little bit. I realized that.

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Speaker 2: I need someone that's in that same place so that

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Speaker 3: It is a little bit difficult when you are with

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Speaker 3: what you're saying, yeah, I don't know. There's a few

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Speaker 3: He was a Dreadonaean and some fans were there and

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Speaker 3: because this is just in my brain. My friends I've

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Speaker 3: Y'all ain't have no right Tello Weezy.

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Speaker 2: I left because I didn't want vegan food and he was.

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Speaker 1: Cool, but you know she didn't. She not only was

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Speaker 3: I'm in this brain of it, and I really want

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Speaker 3: talking to someone that they feel may need some words

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Speaker 3: I think that that's a great compliment to give someone

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Speaker 1: I think it's silly, but what he said that to me.

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Speaker 1: There was another man that week who's a friend of

438
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 1: mine who told me that he loved watching me. And

439
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:47,199
Speaker 1: I was telling you this on the plane. He was like,

440
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:48,680
Speaker 1: do you see how lovable you are?

441
00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:51,440
Speaker 3: You're so easy to love, Like if you don't, people

442
00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 3: don't know have to know what horrible is or weezy er,

443
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 3: they don't care like you're lovable. And I think that

444
00:20:57,320 --> 00:21:00,880
Speaker 3: when you're someone uh maybe it could sound like I'm

445
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 3: being insecure, but when you're someone that's kind of finding

446
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 3: their way, men that recognize that in you and that

447
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,360
Speaker 3: encourage you are definitely keepers and make sure you're opening

448
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:13,160
Speaker 3: your ears and your heart up to those people, because

449
00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:15,159
Speaker 3: Nigga's got to really give a fuck about you to

450
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:18,359
Speaker 3: talk to you like that. It's not something to me

451
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 3: that is like real basic bitch, like you could do it,

452
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,000
Speaker 3: Like that's a real thing to say to someone and

453
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 3: a kind thing, and when dating, if you're seeing that

454
00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:28,439
Speaker 3: in the person that you're dating, make sure you're that

455
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:30,440
Speaker 3: person that, to me, is what will separate you from

456
00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:33,960
Speaker 3: the pack. I also wanted to know what you thought

457
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 3: about this other thing I put on my list. On

458
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:41,120
Speaker 3: the list, I put someone that is communicating how they

459
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 3: feel about me. Do you think that you need, if

460
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 3: actions are being shown, someone to tell you that they

461
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 3: feeling you, that they're fucking with you? Or do you

462
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,680
Speaker 3: think actions are enough? This goes to what your kink

463
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:57,920
Speaker 3: is you like affirming? I want to see actions.

464
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:02,720
Speaker 1: What are your love languages?

465
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,200
Speaker 2: I think I think they change. I think acces of

466
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 2: service is now absolutely number one. Physical touch would be

467
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 2: number two. Then I would say it's I've added it

468
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 2: back because I feel like I lacked it in my

469
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 2: last relationship. I want gifts again.

470
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 1: Bitch, bitch shower me.

471
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 2: I realized that that's been a thing that I've even

472
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:30,120
Speaker 2: been asking. And then what are the other two?

473
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,359
Speaker 1: I said? Physical acts of service like I don't need.

474
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 2: I don't need I don't need words of affirmation and

475
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:43,560
Speaker 2: quality time is actually where I feel like I've lacked

476
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 2: with my last partner because work has come first. Then

477
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:51,919
Speaker 2: friends and so quality time, I'll squeeze it in. And

478
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 2: I know that that was a problem. I'll pencil quality

479
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 2: time in because that fits around my entire schedule. I'll

480
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 2: pencil you in, but everything else comes first. So but

481
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,680
Speaker 2: to me, acts of service making my life less stressful,

482
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:08,919
Speaker 2: bringing peace to me, touching me, caressing me, holding me,

483
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:13,679
Speaker 2: modeling totally changed. Yeah, now number five, Oh yeah, that's

484
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: number five for me.

485
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 3: It just went to number one, Okay, And I think

486
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:20,920
Speaker 3: it's because I've been so happy with the person that

487
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 3: I'm dating, and I'm like, what is making me so happy?

488
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 1: One it's the time that I'm spending.

489
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: And two it's the attention, Like he's very attentive when

490
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 3: you getting me time, kissing me, touching me.

491
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 1: Like that's a physical touch. Hands that number two.

492
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 3: But I think he's just making a lot of good

493
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 3: use of the quality time. It's not just a but

494
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 3: it's like a really big connect.

495
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 1: That's my thing.

496
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 2: If we have the time together, make it like I

497
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 2: want it to be amazing, which is why, like I

498
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 2: think we would do beach days. We would you know,

499
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 2: do literally dinner, then a bar, then end up at

500
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 2: the sex club and it would literally be a night

501
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 2: that started at five o'clock and ended five in the morning,

502
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 2: it would be the entire time.

503
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:04,400
Speaker 1: But I think that.

504
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 2: It I didn't feel good the next day, and I

505
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,359
Speaker 2: still had to get up and work like he was retired.

506
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 2: So the idea of us having these rock star nights

507
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 2: and then me having to come in and record or nigga,

508
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 2: you don't fuck my throat to death, I gotta talk. Like,

509
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,239
Speaker 2: I realized there was a bit of resentment because I

510
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 2: just sometimes I just wanted to be in the house.

511
00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 3: Dude, I think I'm gonna say this and like, seriously

512
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 3: mean this. Maybe old niggas on't for me because and

513
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:36,479
Speaker 3: that's some of the entrepreneurial shit that like, I kind

514
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:37,479
Speaker 3: of got to see you get up.

515
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 1: I really don't like when men don't have a schedule.

516
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:44,160
Speaker 2: No, and well, and then also I realized, and this

517
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 2: is I worked through it, y'all. I realized it probably

518
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 2: wasn't good to me because I know you're not as

519
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 2: busy as me.

520
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,159
Speaker 1: If he had a schedule or anything to do, you

521
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 1: didn't take it serious. What the fuck you got to do?

522
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: That's a little mean.

523
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 2: And it could be and I'm very aware of that.

524
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 2: You don't have a job, you don't have kids.

525
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck you got to do? So what

526
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:10,120
Speaker 1: did he diely off? I don't know.

527
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 2: You have a funerals, go to funerals and fly to

528
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:16,440
Speaker 2: Panama off for suits. So like, again clearly there was

529
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 2: he was juggling and sign with other women. But like

530
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:22,199
Speaker 2: that's probably where my discomfort came in. You're lying, what

531
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 2: the fuck do you really got to do? Where you

532
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 2: really got to go? Damn bitch, And so like, nah,

533
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 2: you niggas need a routine and I don't. I would like,

534
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,360
Speaker 2: and I've been saying it, I actually would not mind

535
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 2: when when niggas off in my comments and they hop

536
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 2: on here ooh, y'all wouldn't take no regular nigga. I

537
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,120
Speaker 2: actually don't mind a man having a schedule. I don't

538
00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:43,919
Speaker 2: mind a man. I don't mind a man being a

539
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 2: part of a fucking book club if he has to be.

540
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 2: I would be okay with a man having some sort

541
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 2: of routine and schedule because also that may come from

542
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:57,880
Speaker 2: a control factor where bitch, because if you steer beer off, bitch.

543
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:00,480
Speaker 1: What you're doing. Like I'd like, I didn't mind a

544
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 1: man having.

545
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 3: Aub Now, ladies, I just want to say, if you

546
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 3: don't have necessarily a passion like we just brought up passion,

547
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 3: maybe I don't know, maybe you're a call center. Maybe

548
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 3: you're doing something that kind of isn't you think Nigga's gating.

549
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 1: Maybe something that that package of baby.

550
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 3: Maybe you have a job that's like office or something

551
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 3: where you're not moving too much. I want to say

552
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,679
Speaker 3: this because I think it would be important for you

553
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 3: to know having an extracurricular thing that you do is

554
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 3: very attractive. I will say he did used to do that,

555
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 3: he used to run, okay, would he would work out

556
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:46,640
Speaker 3: with his brother, like there was a healthcare gym routine.

557
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: That's nice and I do like that.

558
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 3: If you think if you listen to the Poor of

559
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 3: Mines episode with Mandy and I and you heard us

560
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: talk about or heard me talk about a man that

561
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 3: I know that's a millionaire that's dating a girl that

562
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 3: works at a We're not gonna say a retail store,

563
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:04,520
Speaker 3: a retail store. I'm gonna tell y'all what he told

564
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 3: me last fucking week. And that episode was recorded a

565
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 3: once a month ago. I was like, with by the

566
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 3: time they hear it is two months ago.

567
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 1: Maybe I was like, what's up.

568
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 3: You'll been still working da da da, and he was like, bro,

569
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 3: he was like yeah, Like it's crazy because she has

570
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 3: like sometimes off hours and she does have a higher

571
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 3: position in the job than I thought. The retail chain

572
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 3: is kind of basic, bitch, but she does a decent

573
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 3: job in it, right, so he said, but she's just

574
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 3: hewa busy this week. And I was like do I

575
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 3: want and he was like, we're learning Japanese right now.

576
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 3: I was like really why. He's like, she's just really

577
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 3: into uh watching uh anime and learning about it, and

578
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 3: she just thinks it's just something she wants to do.

579
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: And I was like, wow, so you know you got

580
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: to take her to Japan, right.

581
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, Like now I'm excited to like take

582
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 3: her not only to like Japanese, right, they.

583
00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 1: About to do amass to death. I love you. I

584
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: want her to understand what this means.

585
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 3: Even when we're having oh macasse, why certain traditional things happen,

586
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 3: Like I'm telling you when I'm listening to him talk

587
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 3: and it's so funny because we were kind of making

588
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 3: fun of him for not doing enough.

589
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,880
Speaker 1: This man is so just enthralled by her and he's like.

590
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 3: Bro, another bitch on my line is making a million

591
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 3: dollars through some fucking clothing brand she got. Men do

592
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 3: not care about how much money we make, right, But

593
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:29,440
Speaker 3: he said to me, the girl is making mad bread.

594
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:30,920
Speaker 1: And he was like, you know she's an entrepreneur. She's

595
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: like killing it with his clothing. Rent. I'll tell you

596
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: she is a minute. You know what she is. Most

597
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: of us know who she is.

598
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,040
Speaker 3: He's like, but I don't know anything else she does

599
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 3: her self. He's like, she's beautiful, Like the bitch works out,

600
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 3: but like, I don't know she can't work out be

601
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 3: for self. But because he said he doesn't think that

602
00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 3: she's doing anything beyond vanity. He's like, it's just you're

603
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 3: a baddie. You make money being bad until you sell

604
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 3: gym clothes and like that's why you're bad. And he's like,

605
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 3: but like, I don't know if she learns anything. He's like,

606
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: never has she told me she went on a trip

607
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 3: because she wanted to explore her And he's like, this

608
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 3: is just different for me.

609
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: And he's like, this girl's fucking different.

610
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 2: But it's not that she's It's what we talked about

611
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 2: in the very beginning that may be something he does.

612
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:15,600
Speaker 2: So now you've met someone who is doing something in

613
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: the same lane of what you like. Because just because

614
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 2: I'll be honest with you, the way you used to

615
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 2: speak about the gym, the way the gym has now

616
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 2: become a part of my my healing and my mental health.

617
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 2: I would hate for a god to be like, yeah,

618
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 2: but the gym is for vanity. That's become something that

619
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 2: actually makes me feel good. I'm going to classes, like

620
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: I think, I don't like that, the putting into buckets

621
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 2: what things matter to people and what don't. And so

622
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 2: to see here and say she's doing things just for vanity.

623
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 2: The gym was a place I never really liked. It's

624
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 2: now something that I go at the end. We meditate,

625
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 2: we do the we do all the things.

626
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 3: Maybe and I enjoyed it for someone and you discussed

627
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 3: that with them, you'd know, right, Like we don't miss

628
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 3: necessarily know the ins and outside.

629
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: Everyone to the gym to get a six pack.

630
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 2: I mean maybe something that now allows me to disconnect

631
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 2: for an hour.

632
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: Maybe that's you.

633
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 3: Though, right, So, like I think if someone's dating someone,

634
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 3: they know when they're that type of person, Like shout

635
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 3: out to Kayla Nicole Kayla has is a fitness girl.

636
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 3: She's you know, talks about her fitness journey online and

637
00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,239
Speaker 3: I literally was reading something she said the other day

638
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 3: and I see why people get very inspired by that,

639
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 3: because she was like, Oh, this is like the thing

640
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 3: that's getting my body alive today, like we got to

641
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: be grateful for mobility, Like this is really working my brain.

642
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 3: And I was like, damn, I feel that alignment, Like

643
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 3: I really do just like what you're saying. But I'm

644
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 3: bringing all this up to say, there are so many

645
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 3: ways to where we can become a better person for

646
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 3: ourselves and somebody else will be watching you and inspired

647
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 3: by that. And especially when it's in a romantic relationship.

648
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 3: I just think we very seldom hear that. I don't

649
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 3: really get to hear my homeboys talk about women in

650
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 3: that way. They're normally talking about how bad they are

651
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: or whatever it is. So I just kind of like

652
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 3: that because when I hear about people talking about people

653
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 3: like that, it's normally girls talking about niggas they met.

654
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 3: It's very rarely mena like wow, she is xyz. I

655
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 3: feel like we're always looking at some dude on this pedestal.

656
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 3: So I just love hearing men appreciate women in that way,

657
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 3: and I think we got to start doing that shit

658
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 3: for ourselves, ladies, not just to catch a nigga, but

659
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 3: on some real shit to.

660
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: Have something else. I feel you. I want to learn

661
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,480
Speaker 1: Japanese now too.

662
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: Well, let's get into our vanilla shit, y'all. Vanilla ship

663
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: for this week is a debate that is probably WPS,

664
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 2: but actually it's probably everyone because they are now having

665
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 2: a debate regarding this is from the New York Post

666
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 2: whether you should.

667
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: Shower before sex.

668
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 2: This debate is coming amidst the bedbug infestation that has

669
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 2: taken place in Europe because it has moved from friends

670
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 2: to more places and is also being traveled because it's

671
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 2: at the airport size heat.

672
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think alcohol and terminators.

673
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 2: So there's a blogger by the name of Karla Balucci

674
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 2: who is urging people to freshen up before hitting the

675
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,200
Speaker 2: sheets and adding that it could help prevent the spread

676
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 2: of the blood sucking parasites. I don't want anything smelling

677
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 2: bread anything for me. It has to be clean. If not,

678
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 2: I get the ick. Even if I had to sit

679
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 2: in the sink, I would do it. Just freshen up.

680
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 2: I would be uncomfortable otherwise. She said that being clean

681
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 2: has made for more enjoyable sexual experiences overall, and wasn't

682
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: just to prevent the spread of bed bugs.

683
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 3: Did you know that bed bugs like remember when we

684
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 3: were growing up and they said, lice can't get into

685
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:42,960
Speaker 3: black people's hair.

686
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 1: Right, Well, it's because of a lot of the times,

687
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: it's because of the products. They're like a dry environment and.

688
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: Because of the and I learned this, well, well, well

689
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 2: they don't like the grease.

690
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: They don't. So the things that we perms grease lice.

691
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: I thought it was because it was the the hair

692
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: was straight, and they can.

693
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: It's not even about it's not about the coarseness of

694
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: the hair, it's about it.

695
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: So they feed on the scalp. They don't feed on

696
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: the hair.

697
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 2: So it's the fact that, mind you, which is why

698
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 2: it's connected now to PCOS cancer and all these things.

699
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:14,959
Speaker 2: A lot of the products that we put in our

700
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: hair to relax it or just to grease it down,

701
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 2: literally clog the pores of our scalp. Lice eat on

702
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 2: blood and they're they're eating out of your scalp. So

703
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 2: it's not the hair. Sorry, if y'all this is what

704
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 2: I was gonna say. Yeah, So that's what it is.

705
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 2: It's not about the texture of our hair. It's the

706
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 2: products that we put in our hair.

707
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 3: You.

708
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: Uh okay, what was I gonna say? Uh okay? Yeah.

709
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: Met this girl.

710
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 3: I think she works at a place called Laca Fella

711
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 3: in La and she was like, girl, you're not gonna

712
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 3: believe some of the ship that people come with in

713
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 3: the dreads. Oh of course, She's like, head buds are

714
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 3: the number one.

715
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 1: Thing and they're dreads. She's interesting, she said, to.

716
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 3: Cut off hair. I winded up just when you said that.

717
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 3: I went to a Japanese headspot in La. When you

718
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 3: talked about clogged four mm. I don't know if y'all

719
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 3: seen these videos I did. Were they massaged they head

720
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 3: for forty five minutes.

721
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 1: Bro. They put a camera. It was only like a

722
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: hundred bucks.

723
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 3: They put a camera, a little camera in my head

724
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 3: to show me the follicles before baste. She was looking

725
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 3: gunked up, and I was like, damn, I guess you

726
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,400
Speaker 3: have braids and you put a lot of products in

727
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:16,439
Speaker 3: your hair, probably.

728
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: But like, I don't even really. I think it was

729
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 1: just like old.

730
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 3: Gel from like literally that day of washed my hair

731
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 3: with the braids in it and was showing me the

732
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,760
Speaker 3: follicles after it, Like my scalp looked different.

733
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:28,000
Speaker 1: Bro.

734
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,720
Speaker 3: She also talked about how the center of your head,

735
00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 3: if it's like red or tense like that means you

736
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 3: gonna have liver or heart problems. Oh yeah, bro, it's crazy.

737
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: It's the same thing with reflexology.

738
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 2: When you go and get your put your feet in

739
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: the water and it changes colors, they can tell you

740
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,040
Speaker 2: about your body. I wanted to know because we've talked

741
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 2: about it now we don't really think of bed bugs

742
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 2: before fucking a nigga that turned us on and things

743
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 2: like that. So I want to know if you're out

744
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 2: all day, you're going on dates now, is it a

745
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 2: task for either of y'all to shower before having sex

746
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: or getting into the bed or fucking on the couch er?

747
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:05,399
Speaker 1: Is that a thing?

748
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,799
Speaker 2: I remember saying. One of the most sexiest things that

749
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:09,839
Speaker 2: my last party used to.

750
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: Do was it didn't matter what we were doing, where.

751
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 2: We were at he washed his fucking hands because a

752
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 2: lot of our sex started with a lot of touching,

753
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 2: fingering things like that. Oh no, I've from a finger

754
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 2: as soon as you come into the house, wash your

755
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 2: fucking hands. But I'll be honest, bitch, we did not

756
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 2: shower after every time, or we could be out, we

757
00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 2: could be watching Sunday football. I've been so where I

758
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 2: see niggas. Now, oh, bitch, you don't with your game

759
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 2: now where he probably showered. I came from the game

760
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 2: and met you at the hotel after. Like, I'm not

761
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 2: showering in between.

762
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 3: I only shower after, like when I'm with a nigga,

763
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 3: like if we were in a club normally, if I'm

764
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 3: going like dinner or something like that, like I was

765
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 3: clean before then we start fucking.

766
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: But and I'm not saying I only shower out.

767
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 2: I don't believe shower. But if I have to go

768
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,359
Speaker 2: to your hotel room, I might make at a wet

769
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 2: rag and literally just not even no soap because I

770
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 2: don't want it to smell like soap. I don't want

771
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 2: it to taste like soap. So all wet up a

772
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 2: rag and literally make sure as is super clean.

773
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:17,439
Speaker 1: Pussy. Oh yeah, I'll do the hot towel thing.

774
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 3: But like no, I'm really trying to think about before

775
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: I have sex with someone. Just like no, only when

776
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 3: we're like coming back from the club and we lit.

777
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 3: I just went to some club where I was at labin, bitch,

778
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 3: and you know when I only at least started smoking.

779
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 3: We literally walked in the door at three am and

780
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,319
Speaker 3: I was like, oh yeah, like we're club boards, Like

781
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 3: we have to shower, bitch.

782
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:42,240
Speaker 1: It was bad. I was in the shower. He was paying.

783
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 1: It was like that drunk sex that you're about to have.

784
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 3: But the only thing that I can think about is

785
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: the ick of other people. If it's just dinner and

786
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 3: something like me, I don't see the ick of smells.

787
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 3: If we were in a hookah bar, nigga, we've been

788
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 3: sitting and smoke all night. If we are at a

789
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 3: club where everybody been smoking weed, to me, it's the

790
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 3: To me, there is a smell of outside or whatever.

791
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: Braves don't last. Actually, to me, it's this I'm a

792
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 1: little outdoorsy hove. It's the smell where you're at.

793
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 3: After that motherfucking hike I took where y'all bitches was

794
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 3: dragging me for going to Connecticut for a hike, Bitch,

795
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 3: who is dragging you for going to hike? Br there

796
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 3: was three girls I was on live that was like,

797
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 3: I can't believe you took your ass on a Vetro North.

798
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,479
Speaker 1: First of all, bitch of getting dead, I mean the train.

799
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 2: I mean I still catch the train, so them drag

800
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 2: You were taking a train to Connecticut, which is thirty

801
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:31,879
Speaker 2: minutes to an hour away, depending on how deep you want.

802
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,240
Speaker 1: I used to live in the Bronx. There's an hour. Okay,

803
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:34,879
Speaker 1: Well I used.

804
00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 2: To live in the Bronx and Connecticut was literally a

805
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,240
Speaker 2: twenty five minute ride.

806
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 3: Which is why, like I get it, Like, you know,

807
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 3: if he's driving there, cool, if he was already there, Like, bitch, damn, I.

808
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 2: Can't say the train there probably in the middle of America.

809
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 2: And don't realize that we lived by Connecticut. There was

810
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 2: some New York hos in my common We could get

811
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 2: to other states fairly quickly. I wanted for our HORRDR

812
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 2: this week because we're talking about showers. There are some

813
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 2: tips for six scessful shower sex. And while I'm not

814
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 2: a fan, there is no shower sex of success. While

815
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 2: I'm not a fan, and there are some tips. Be prepared.

816
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 2: First offt so make sure any and all toys are charged.

817
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,919
Speaker 2: Place the lube in an easily accessible place, They say

818
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: that because people water is not lub. I know it's wet,

819
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: but it ain't the type of witness that you want

820
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 2: during sex. So place lube in an easily accessible place.

821
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 2: Confirm that you're both comfy with the water temperature. That's

822
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 2: a big one, because maybe when I hop out the

823
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 2: shower my skin is blistering red.

824
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: I like it really hot.

825
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:35,879
Speaker 2: That don't feel good on a nigga balls, It don't

826
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 2: feel good on the shaft. And you want that motherfucking

827
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 2: water temper Sy to that man, because I great so

828
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:46,799
Speaker 2: plead to that. Also, keep starting positions in mind. You

829
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 2: want to also be sure to add a non slip mat.

830
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 2: I think that's the fear that also allows people not

831
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 2: to really get into the vibe in the shower is

832
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 2: that they're scared they're gonna slip. There are a ton

833
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: you can go to the motherfucking dollar tree. Okay, get

834
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 2: you a no slip matt. That's another one. Tidy the

835
00:39:03,600 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 2: shower beforehand. This is important because I'd have been in

836
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends homes lately. Bitch y'all have

837
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:13,360
Speaker 2: every product. It'd be one hundred motherfucking products around. If

838
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 2: we're gonna be grabbing and holding all this stuff you

839
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 2: don't want it to be to wear. You knock a

840
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,800
Speaker 2: whole bunch of products over and now you ruin the moment. Also,

841
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 2: you got to pick up your face, wash your motherfucking

842
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 2: COUCHI wash.

843
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 1: There's your body.

844
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 3: That many things in the shower anyway, i'd hear you.

845
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 3: I had a functuy lady. Come, y'all will see it

846
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,439
Speaker 3: on sex cells. She came and she basically talked about

847
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,840
Speaker 3: how many things I probably don't use daily in the shower.

848
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,799
Speaker 3: I was like, damn, it was only three things pussy wash,

849
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:42,359
Speaker 3: Lavo Noir twenty nine, and a fucking like coconut rice

850
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 3: body wash that I use. However, I have mad shampoo

851
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 3: and conditioner, different types, masks, whatever.

852
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: I don't wash my hair every day. Oh, I mean,

853
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,840
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie you do. Because I'm a blonde person,

854
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 2: Like I do a lot of the purple shampoo and

855
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 2: then I have regular shampoo.

856
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: Do you wash your hair every day? Do you have

857
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 1: to know? It depends like when I do.

858
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 2: When I set my like, I do a lot of

859
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 2: foaming lotions, So I don't like those chemicals sit in

860
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:10,240
Speaker 2: my hair and it ends up changing my hair color,

861
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 2: Like I'm platinum, So I constantly if I'm doing fingerwaves

862
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 2: or I have a setting lotion in my hair, yeah,

863
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 2: I wash it out because I don't want it to

864
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 2: affect a my texture, but also the color.

865
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 3: You know what I wanted to know. So right now

866
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 3: I'm kind of reddish braids. All my niggas all one

867
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:31,280
Speaker 3: and a half, So this is their favorite hair on me. Okay,

868
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 3: what is men's favorite for you?

869
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I honestly don't care. It's what I feel comfortable, and.

870
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 3: I'm just asking what the people said on It's weird

871
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 3: because my favorite is the blonde.

872
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 2: Well, I'm in the cut that most niggas before I

873
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 2: cut my hair was like, bitch, I ain't fucking you

874
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:47,919
Speaker 2: if you ball head.

875
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 1: A lot of niggas don't like baldhead bitches.

876
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 2: Niggas love this shit, Like when twenty four to seven

877
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 2: came back over after we took our little break during

878
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 2: the pandemic and during my relationship, said I don't really

879
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 2: like this. I like this a little blonde shit on you.

880
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 2: So right now it's this, I.

881
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 3: Don't like the I like the cut on you. My

882
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 3: favorite of the colors is blonde. Then my second favorite

883
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 3: hairstyle on you. I would say I saw some pictures

884
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 3: of us that Siggi brought where you had the curl.

885
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:15,919
Speaker 1: I liked you in a curly weave. That was cute. Yeah,

886
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 1: that was my go to.

887
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 2: But I mean the curly weave for me, especially the halfwig,

888
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 2: reminds me of me trying to hide my face or

889
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 2: me trying to look smaller. So I used to do

890
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 2: really big hair to make my face seem smaller. That

891
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 2: was like, so like, when I look at me in

892
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:35,360
Speaker 2: the curly hair, I'm so like, this is liberating for

893
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 2: me to be able to have a short cut.

894
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: Short hair is bold. Bro, Yeah, I don't think I have.

895
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lie twenty twenty four. I'm doing the buzz.

896
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: So it's not gonna be Pixie. I'm going buzz. I

897
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:51,359
Speaker 1: was gonna do it. You're gonna keep blonde. Yeah, I'm

898
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: gonna keep blonde, but I'm going buzz.

899
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 2: So I'm going from Pixie to like the amber Rose,

900
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:00,720
Speaker 2: and I'm excited about it.

901
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: Kind of fun story for you guys, go ahead.

902
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 3: Recently, I asked Mandy for some advice about fingering a

903
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 3: butthole on Patreon and it wasn't the butthole that I

904
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 3: thought i'd be fingering. I had sex with a woman recently,

905
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 3: because I haven't had sex with a woman in a

906
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 3: long time. But I had sex with a woman recently,

907
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 3: and when I fingered her, she was super clean, no taste,

908
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 3: no smell, like just great, well, we're perfect pussy taste.

909
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:33,919
Speaker 3: And I would also say, this person is very clean.

910
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 3: I was in their home after I fingered her asshole.

911
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 3: There was a smell in the room that changed okay,

912
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 3: And I probably had coffee that day. I literally couldn't finish.

913
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 3: I wasn't going to hide the fact that I could

914
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 3: smell the shit. I looked at my hand and I

915
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 3: was like, there's no shit here, and I'm like, oh

916
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 3: my god. I unlocked her asshole like I opened her

917
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 3: booty hole. There was there was no residue.

918
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,839
Speaker 1: You know, It's crazy. I was like, the smell like

919
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 1: I opened to where maybe she's like.

920
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 2: Maybe or no, maybe it's just on the walls. It

921
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 2: didn't land in your fingers. It's crazy because I got

922
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 2: that little thing you know when you go to the

923
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 2: nails line brush, So I have it in my in

924
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,720
Speaker 2: my bathroom because if I'm fingering or doing anything.

925
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: Oh bitch.

926
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 2: I scrub under my nails, like like before and after sex,

927
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 2: like every time I hop in the shower. Anytime I'm

928
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 2: done with my makeup, I take the little brush and

929
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 2: I scrub. I know my stomach's been growling all day.

930
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 2: I scrub underneath my nails. But I don't have sex

931
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 2: is one of those where where it may turn me off.

932
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: I go into sex now understanding there may be smells,

933
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:55,920
Speaker 2: especially like now when I when I left my relationship

934
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 2: and went back to protected sex, the smell of condom,

935
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: I was like annoyed by it. I'm not gonna lie

936
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 2: I've been condomsaying I haven't been using condoms. And I

937
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: realized my pussy when I rubbed it, like just the

938
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 2: smell on his dick when I sucked it. After I

939
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 2: had to realize, like, there's literal smells that come with sex.

940
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 3: So I just want to say, they just can't be

941
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 3: bothered by that. When the shit came out of her ass.

942
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 2: You said there was no shit on your fingers, so

943
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:27,280
Speaker 2: the shit came out of her ass, the smell smells happened.

944
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 3: It was super uncomfortable because I feel like her and

945
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:35,800
Speaker 3: I were both very aware that like we couldn't finish,

946
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 3: and she texted me about it after and the text

947
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 3: message almost any more uncomfortable. She's like, Oh, here's the thing,

948
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 3: and I'm bringing this up because I feel like we

949
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 3: need to talk about how to get away from awkward situations.

950
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 3: The text message I got was so insecure and weird

951
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 3: and uncomfortable that like I felt myself trying to pacify

952
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,360
Speaker 3: her for the moment, and I wish you could have

953
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 3: just like laughed it off.

954
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: She was like, it was like almost like a long

955
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:04,960
Speaker 1: Oh I.

956
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:06,439
Speaker 3: Don't even want to read it because I feel bad,

957
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 3: But basically it was like this, like I feel like

958
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 3: you're never gonna see me again. I've known her for

959
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 3: just like a little bit. We've been flirting around while

960
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 3: I grab a drink randomly, and so we had sex,

961
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 3: where like it was a very quick thing. Okay, So

962
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 3: when it happened, I had felt like maybe it would

963
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 3: have happened in the past, But when it happened, I

964
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 3: feel like when I said would have happened in the past,

965
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 3: I mean just us fucking.

966
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: I felt like she could have just been like, oh

967
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,000
Speaker 1: my god, girl, let's shove in the shower.

968
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 3: Like there could have been this something that you covered

969
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 3: it up with, but instead you just wrote me and

970
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 3: told me how I'm never going to see you again

971
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 3: because XYZ happened.

972
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: How years There was.

973
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 2: Probably a level like where you made her feel uncomfortable.

974
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 2: But I mean we've talked about this. I think it

975
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 2: was with four. Like we both respond very differently to

976
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 2: bodily functions. I would say, I like we talked about

977
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 2: the farting with four. I'm finding comfortable with that, and

978
00:45:58,880 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 2: I don't think there's a problem.

979
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 1: You know, if there's a way I can make someone

980
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: feel comfortable for shit, I think.

981
00:46:02,520 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 2: What we could do it. But it wasn't even shit.

982
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:07,120
Speaker 2: It was just the smell of an anus.

983
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 1: It wasn't the smell of an as many.

984
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 3: Basically, what I think happened was after my hand came

985
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 3: out of her, not my whole hand. It was like

986
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 3: two or three fingers though. I just think that the

987
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 3: fart really was there.

988
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: Was there anything on the sheets? Here's what I'm saying.

989
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 3: I feel like there has to be some kind of

990
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:28,280
Speaker 3: dialogue that you have when we all can smell something

991
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,879
Speaker 3: thank pussy too, bro, Like when my hand came out

992
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 3: of her, I think she just kept fighting. I think

993
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 3: her boat was like open and like the fart was

994
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 3: so intense. Bro Like you know when it's thick in

995
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 3: the air. I don't know if there's a wor you

996
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:43,839
Speaker 3: hear a noise, there's music on. I mean there's air.

997
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 3: I mean to me, I'm not gonna lie. I go

998
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:52,320
Speaker 3: into anything anal understanding. There may be a mess or

999
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 3: a smell. I mean, we're humans. We can't control that.

1000
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 1: If there are. We not going to talk about the

1001
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 1: business smell. There's nothing she could have. I mean, damn,

1002
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 1: your summer really growling. I'm hungry, I'm starving.

1003
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:08,279
Speaker 2: To me, there's no she's really loud, and look, you

1004
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 2: can't help that your stomach is growling. I'm not she

1005
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 2: ain't she probably there was no ship. It was just

1006
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 2: a smell. It's an aintal smell. To me, I'm not

1007
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 2: gonna lie. There's nothing to talk about. It's a humanly

1008
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 2: bodily function. Bit ch'all was in the motherfucking depth's a

1009
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 2: lounge the other day. This nigga walked by and we

1010
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 2: heard me me, this lady crossby, and.

1011
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 1: The lady next to me. We all just looked at

1012
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: each other. We're like, yep, that's what he just said.

1013
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 2: He just sparked, didn't fucking apologize, kept on walking to

1014
00:47:39,080 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 2: the motherfucking buff face. It didn't say nothing. So we're

1015
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 2: all just looking at each other. We have a quick laugh,

1016
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:46,320
Speaker 2: and then, bitch, we all go back to our laptops

1017
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 2: that he knew her motherfuck hole. Okay, but okay, I

1018
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:50,800
Speaker 2: know it sucks for it.

1019
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie.

1020
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:54,839
Speaker 2: I've looked on the sheet and seen something on the sheet. Bitch,

1021
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 2: I might pull the blanket over it.

1022
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: Do I see here and be like, damn, you see

1023
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:01,360
Speaker 1: the st mark our left on the sheets?

1024
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:01,919
Speaker 3: No?

1025
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 2: I see here if we're I'm in the booty hole,

1026
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 2: Like if anything is happening in the boodhole, bro, we

1027
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 2: don't see here and acknowledge that a bodily function took place.

1028
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 2: We literally realize that that's what we were. I feel

1029
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 2: like you can say this, but we don't talk about it.

1030
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 1: I feel like you can say this because you don't

1031
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: smell it. No, but I've got antal sex. Have you

1032
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: ever smelled eggs when you're old? Bitch?

1033
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 2: I have fucking pegged a nigga and I pulled that

1034
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 2: shit out, and shit was on the strap. I have

1035
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 2: definitely seen and smelled shit. I have seen skid marks

1036
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 2: on sheets. To me, if you are going into the boodhole,

1037
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 2: I what I'm not gonna do is makes makes someone

1038
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,840
Speaker 2: feel like damn, nay, thank you, or that I know

1039
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,719
Speaker 2: where I'm at I know where you at either or

1040
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:47,560
Speaker 2: and no, I'm not gonna lie. There has never been

1041
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:51,720
Speaker 2: a conversation about anything left or smelt while antal sex.

1042
00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: We literally go and clean up and get back into it.

1043
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,560
Speaker 1: The emotional dumping on me was the issue.

1044
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 3: Also, she doesn't know I have a podcast, which is

1045
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 3: why I'm feeling uncomfortable talk about this in this moment.

1046
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:04,279
Speaker 1: All right, I'm saying this is why. That's why I'm

1047
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 1: bringing it up.

1048
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:06,359
Speaker 3: She doesn't know I have a podcast, so that's why

1049
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 3: I'm feeling comfortable to talk about you.

1050
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 2: But did you have someone that don't know you have

1051
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 2: a vodcast? Now, where'd you meet her? Because, bitch, I'm

1052
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 2: trying to meet niggas that don't know I got a

1053
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: vodcast honestly in the Lower East Side. But she foreigns,

1054
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 2: so that's probably why, Like she's.

1055
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:22,080
Speaker 3: Not And it's crazy because when you meet black foreign people,

1056
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 3: it's like even funnier because you're just like, damn, you're

1057
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 3: really not African American.

1058
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: Wow, all right, but uh no, we have we have

1059
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: a lot of are no, no, no.

1060
00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 3: I'm saying when you're having when you're having conversations like

1061
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 3: a hip hop and we.

1062
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 2: Got South Africa, we got London, we got a lot

1063
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 2: of places overseas with hip hop with us.

1064
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:42,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was too, bitch. I went to Ghana.

1065
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 2: I didn't realize how many fucking HORRORHID members were in Ghana.

1066
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 1: No.

1067
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm dating an African dude who's like, yo,

1068
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 3: like this country should you be listening to do not

1069
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 3: resonate bits?

1070
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 1: But nah.

1071
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:56,280
Speaker 3: I think like what made it crazier was the request

1072
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 3: for the anal ship and then the emotional dumping after.

1073
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 3: So that kind of of like really made me uncomfortable,

1074
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 3: Like I don't want this to now be something where

1075
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,920
Speaker 3: like you know, if you're hella insecure about it, you

1076
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:09,040
Speaker 3: gotta dump on somebody else. Bro, you can't dump on

1077
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 3: the person you just have sex with.

1078
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,680
Speaker 1: That's why you're talking about it on the podcast you're

1079
00:50:13,719 --> 00:50:14,480
Speaker 1: doing right now.

1080
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 3: No, I'm jumping like dump. I didn't just fuck you

1081
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 3: and part in your face Manby.

1082
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 2: But see, I've had a girl fart in my face

1083
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:22,839
Speaker 2: while I ate her pussy, and I laughed about it later.

1084
00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 1: Bodily functions.

1085
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 3: Bodily functions, you're trying to shame me for not being

1086
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:28,720
Speaker 3: able to have sex.

1087
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: With shit, I'm not me and her literally never talked

1088
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 1: about the fact that she farted while I.

1089
00:50:32,920 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 2: Was there, but we kept going, Okay, you know what, noise, smell,

1090
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 2: skid marks.

1091
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 1: I told you if you win a bootle hole just expected.

1092
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:49,319
Speaker 3: It was like I opened something that was expired and

1093
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:50,359
Speaker 3: riding for a week.

1094
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 1: It was like a tapeworm was in her stomach. That's

1095
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 1: how bad it was.

1096
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 2: But okay, anyway, we haven't really done home mail in

1097
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:01,720
Speaker 2: quite some time. We're going to get into home mail. Clearly,

1098
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:04,320
Speaker 2: the horrible decision this week was all about the vodahole.

1099
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:07,520
Speaker 2: So I have this pulled up and I feel like

1100
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 2: they're probably from San Francisco. I don't know because it

1101
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 2: says home mail, fuck the whole family.

1102
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:15,839
Speaker 1: This is the subject line. This is a lot of things.

1103
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 2: This is a confession, a request for advice, and a

1104
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 2: shout out to Mandy because I'm going through something similar

1105
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 2: aka dating a fucking shape shifter.

1106
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 1: The short version.

1107
00:51:25,800 --> 00:51:28,320
Speaker 2: There are two sisters in a family, and I have

1108
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 2: fucked each of their significant others at different points in

1109
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:31,479
Speaker 2: my life.

1110
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: Oh bitch, Oh bitch, is this a nigga.

1111
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 2: From No, this was just saying while we was in Orlando.

1112
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 2: So this is not very this is this is not old.

1113
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:40,240
Speaker 1: Wow.

1114
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,359
Speaker 2: I should mention that I did not do this intentionally

1115
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 2: and only found out when I started deep dive stalking

1116
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 2: my most recent partner.

1117
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: The first sister. The first sister travels a lot for work.

1118
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:52,920
Speaker 1: She's a girl boss.

1119
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 2: Her man worked as a DJ at a club, and

1120
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 2: I fucked him at twenty on a messy night. I

1121
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 2: was young and I'm MOLLI and he was a beautiful

1122
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 2: six or four linebacker looking dude who wanted to eat

1123
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 2: my pussy?

1124
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 1: How could I say?

1125
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 3: No?

1126
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:06,439
Speaker 1: How could cha?

1127
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 2: After exchanging numbers and hooking up with him for a

1128
00:52:08,760 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 2: few months, I did the classic girl thing and stalked

1129
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 2: his social media. When I found out he had a

1130
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 2: long term girlfriend, I ghosted him, but didn't tell her.

1131
00:52:16,920 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 1: I was twenty and didn't want all the drama. The

1132
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: second sister. No.

1133
00:52:21,280 --> 00:52:24,760
Speaker 2: Fast forward seven years later, I met a seemingly sweet

1134
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 2: guy on tenders who just got out of a relationship

1135
00:52:27,680 --> 00:52:30,360
Speaker 2: and was looking for something no pressure. We hit it

1136
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 2: off and started an open relationship that lasted for a

1137
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 2: few years. At the early stages of dating, he mentioned

1138
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 2: kicking his ex out of his house for being dishonest loo,

1139
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 2: and upon doing the deep dive back on Instagram, I

1140
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 2: see that it is the sister of the girl who's

1141
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 2: still dating the lying ass, cheating ass DJ. I said

1142
00:52:49,080 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 2: nothing and chalked it up to a creepy coincidence. The

1143
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 2: sisters don't live in the same city. Within the four

1144
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 2: years that I was in the open relationship, he was sweet,

1145
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:00,759
Speaker 2: he was giving, and he was obsessed. Picked up my

1146
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 2: dry cleaning, made breakfast every morning and dinner every night.

1147
00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 2: But something in my heart didn't feel right. I met

1148
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 2: his friends, his family, and we saw each other dimn

1149
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 2: near every day. I refused to let him meeting my

1150
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 2: family and only let him meet a handful of friends

1151
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:17,280
Speaker 2: because something just didn't feel right. We talked about hooking

1152
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 2: up with other people casually early on in our relationship,

1153
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:25,320
Speaker 2: but he constantly insisted that other than the early few months,

1154
00:53:25,360 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 2: he was only sleeping with me, even going as far

1155
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,399
Speaker 2: as getting upset if you found out that the other

1156
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 2: guys were in my DMS or heating me up. I

1157
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 2: recently found out he was still with his girlfriend since

1158
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 2: the second year of us dating, all his friends knew.

1159
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 2: I found out there were times where we were at

1160
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 2: his house minutes apart. She left things as wow, and

1161
00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 2: he would pack them into the garage every time I

1162
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 2: came over.

1163
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:51,800
Speaker 1: Here are the questions of confusion.

1164
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 2: Oh, In the last year ISH, our biggest issue was

1165
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 2: he would get upset and constantly express that it hurt

1166
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 2: him that I wanted to keep our relationship open because

1167
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 2: he wasn't seeing anyone else. Multiple times, I even expressed

1168
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 2: that I would find it hot if he hooked up

1169
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 2: with another girl, but still he insisted he didn't want

1170
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 2: to and was only interested in me all the while

1171
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 2: he had a girlfriend.

1172
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:19,840
Speaker 1: Why do niggas do this? Like? Is this some psychoass shit? Yes?

1173
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 2: It is because exit that do I tell his girlfriend

1174
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 2: that I know about her and he has been seeing

1175
00:54:26,560 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 2: both of us for four years?

1176
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 1: She won one hundred million percent has no idea?

1177
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 2: Is it messy if I also tell the other sister

1178
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:36,560
Speaker 2: that I fucked her man over five years ago. They

1179
00:54:36,560 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 2: are now engaged, but he is still a bum ass DJ,

1180
00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 2: so I'm sure he's still cheating. Also, what are the

1181
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 2: odds that there are two sisters living in two different

1182
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 2: nearby cities that I fucked both their men?

1183
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 1: What the fuck is my luck?

1184
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:51,919
Speaker 2: I want to speak about the first one only because

1185
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:53,600
Speaker 2: of someone who is open up the buyer.

1186
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: It's a lot.

1187
00:54:55,520 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 2: I actually spoke about being fine. I was reprimanded for

1188
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,480
Speaker 2: not cooking that much in the end of my relationship.

1189
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 2: I was reprimanded for traveling, for working so much, for

1190
00:55:08,680 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 2: having to pencil him in, to the point where there

1191
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 2: was a conversation, if you need someone to show you

1192
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 2: the time, because this is what you need, which you're

1193
00:55:16,280 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 2: retired as while I'm on the road that you are

1194
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 2: invited to but haven't chose to meet me in every city,

1195
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:25,160
Speaker 2: Let's talk about what it looks like for you having

1196
00:55:25,239 --> 00:55:29,440
Speaker 2: someone while I'm away. He was insistent on the fact

1197
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:32,520
Speaker 2: that sex was not that important to him, He didn't

1198
00:55:32,560 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 2: need that much attention.

1199
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 1: It wasn't that, mind you.

1200
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 2: He clearly was fucking four bitches out of the sex

1201
00:55:37,280 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 2: club and going to the sex club before and after

1202
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 2: and without me.

1203
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:44,919
Speaker 1: So to me, I do think it's some psycho as shit.

1204
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:48,680
Speaker 2: But I also think there's a level of men still

1205
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:53,200
Speaker 2: not believing that that would be okay, whether you express

1206
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 2: it or not, whether you're talking about being open or not.

1207
00:55:56,719 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 1: I think men would rather not deal.

1208
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:02,160
Speaker 2: With the headache of constantly being questioned about shit or

1209
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 2: having the drama that they know normally comes with fucking

1210
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 2: off or fucking with multiple women. So I think this

1211
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 2: is their way of literally like, no, I only want you,

1212
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 2: because I think men believe we want to hear that, although.

1213
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:16,880
Speaker 1: We would much rather prefer honesty.

1214
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:20,879
Speaker 3: It's very exhausting though for honest men, I agree, So

1215
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:23,000
Speaker 3: I would say, yeah, I think you were hitting a

1216
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 3: point when you said that. They just say I only

1217
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 3: want you because it appeases them. Like literally, I have

1218
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:31,960
Speaker 3: a friend right now who's dating maybe six eight, six

1219
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 3: to eight women okay, and was like, bro, like, I

1220
00:56:36,880 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 3: feel like I'm hurting these girls just by telling them

1221
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 3: the truth. And he's like, but I'm not gonna lie

1222
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,799
Speaker 3: to them. He's like, they're asking me if there's other women.

1223
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:46,360
Speaker 3: He's like, I can almost like see the pain. Then

1224
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 3: I got to cut them off because like, I don't

1225
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:48,880
Speaker 3: want them.

1226
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 1: To those women probably want monogamy.

1227
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 2: This woman said, I've offered an open relationship to him,

1228
00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:56,600
Speaker 2: so I'm mad that he lied that he had someone

1229
00:56:56,600 --> 00:56:59,399
Speaker 2: else when I've literally said let's be open. I think

1230
00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:01,319
Speaker 2: women are hurt when they want monogamy and they don't

1231
00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 2: want to share their partner. When you have a woman

1232
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 2: telling you let's be open and you lieing about another partner,

1233
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 2: that's different.

1234
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: Men are used to lying.

1235
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 2: Men are used to lying, So I think that that's

1236
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 2: where the lie is easier for them because.

1237
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 3: Now wait, learning how to be honest. Fucking the family members,

1238
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 3: it's hard. I fucking the sisters, my niggas bro. I

1239
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:24,440
Speaker 3: was getting a little confused.

1240
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 2: I mean, she clearly just had relationships seven years apart

1241
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 2: with two different men that happened to literally be fucking sisters.

1242
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: That's not hard to like. The world is a lot smaller.

1243
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: Do I tell? Do I do?

1244
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 2: And then I think even one of them, She's like,

1245
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 2: do I tell the girlfriend? Because I know the girlfriend

1246
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 2: doesn't know. To me, there's there's malice in that. If

1247
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 2: you've opened up about having an open relationship, that needs

1248
00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:49,920
Speaker 2: to be a conversation he needs to have with her.

1249
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 2: They're telling me, here's the thing, bitch, we done have

1250
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 2: the Hey Barbara, dis is surely.

1251
00:57:57,560 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: My Hay Barbert girl. We've been talking a lot.

1252
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 2: We talk about I told my hay Barbara girls, stop

1253
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 2: texting me because you still want to fuck that nigga.

1254
00:58:03,640 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 3: Nah, she just mine is just helladope, like just honestly.

1255
00:58:07,600 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 3: We both blocked him, like we're both like bitch.

1256
00:58:09,480 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 1: We moved on.

1257
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 3: She was helping me about her new niggas that she

1258
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 3: was visiting this weekend. I like gifted or something. She

1259
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 3: gifted me a Bosk yacht painting, like, okay.

1260
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 1: We're cool. I fucked with her.

1261
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 3: She was at our show in La But I brought

1262
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 3: that up because when she reached out to me, I

1263
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 3: don't believe she had any malice in it, because it

1264
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:33,440
Speaker 3: wasn't this let me tell you about that nigga more

1265
00:58:33,480 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 3: than it was like, Hey, I'm in this situation and

1266
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 3: feeling really lost and like you're the only piece to

1267
00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 3: the puzzle.

1268
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:44,880
Speaker 1: Now. I don't do that because I.

1269
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 3: Genuinely feel like women are gonna front on me yep,

1270
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 3: and they're just gonna go back to the nigga her

1271
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 3: and I chose not to do that, And I say

1272
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 3: to her all the time, bitch, I really thought she

1273
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 3: was gonna go back to this nigga.

1274
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 2: She was like fuck first, the first girl that contacted me,

1275
00:58:57,080 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 2: she was gonna be out of the country for some months.

1276
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 2: She really came at me like she was healing, then

1277
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 2: went down the same rabbit hole as me and spining

1278
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 2: out all these things about a narcissist and for whatever reason,

1279
00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:11,800
Speaker 2: she wanted to heal him but also was in love

1280
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 2: with him.

1281
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:13,960
Speaker 1: Bitch, she was waiting for six months. I was waiting

1282
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:14,680
Speaker 1: for three years.

1283
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 2: Like so the fact that she would keep texting me

1284
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:21,040
Speaker 2: knowing that she was still talking to him. The last

1285
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:22,920
Speaker 2: time she reached out to me, I said, girl, you're

1286
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 2: gonna still fuck this nigga and be in his spell

1287
00:59:25,440 --> 00:59:27,560
Speaker 2: and under his spell. Ma'am, I get it. I was

1288
00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:30,320
Speaker 2: there for three years. You cannot hit me no more

1289
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 2: because we are not gonna trauma bond over a nigga

1290
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 2: when he was cheating on me with you. I'm not

1291
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 2: trauma bonding with you over being with an unwell nigga.

1292
00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 2: We're not gonna do that. So I literally had to

1293
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 2: tell her, do not hit me anymore. Bro, I can't

1294
00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 2: help you. I could barely help my goddamn self. I'm healing,

1295
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 2: leave me alone.

1296
00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:50,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that we're not supposed to keep like

1297
00:59:50,440 --> 00:59:53,680
Speaker 3: trauma bonding over the dude more than like it's supposed to.

1298
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Speaker 1: He's supposed to grow lead that nigga. But if one

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Speaker 1: of the.

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Speaker 2: Bitches is still fucking the nigga, there's no bonding that

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Speaker 2: needs to be had.

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Speaker 1: You both have to get him. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: There were moments though, in the first two weeks where

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Speaker 3: like she would call me and be like asking about

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Speaker 3: a little detailer I'd want to know, and she'd be like,

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Speaker 3: oh my god, why are we doing this press?

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Speaker 1: But now we really don't talk about that anymore.

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Speaker 3: We talked about new niggas, but like seriously, like I

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Speaker 3: wrote her, I was high the other day and I

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Speaker 3: was like, bitch, we were really stressing over this nigga.

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Speaker 1: Like you know, we always stressed over the niggas.

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Speaker 2: We shouldn't stress over raggedy when you look back at it.

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Speaker 1: And I just did this.

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Speaker 2: When we was in Charlotte, I was talking to my

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Speaker 2: ex nigga cousin. I was like, ew I really liked him, yuck.

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Speaker 1: I was disgusted. I was I was literally like he

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Speaker 1: even only married because of me, But we're not gonna

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Speaker 1: get into that. My ex nigger cousin is crazy. Damn.

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Speaker 1: I want to name this episode do I keep sucking

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Speaker 1: through the smell? Oh?

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Speaker 2: I literally wrote the title already. By the way, hold on,

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Speaker 2: let me tell you. If you in the hole, there's

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Speaker 2: gonna be a smell. Okay, if you in the hole, I.

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Speaker 3: Want y'all in the YouTube comments to tell me was

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Speaker 3: I wrong for stopping through the rotten egg part?

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Speaker 1: Think of throw up.

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Speaker 3: Think of when you walk outside or maybe you had

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Speaker 3: someone throw up in a car and you can still

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Speaker 3: smell the throw up.

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Speaker 2: That's how bad it was. I also may make this

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Speaker 2: a little shorter. If you're in the hole, be prepared

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Speaker 2: if you're in the hole. If you in the hole,

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Speaker 2: it's gonna be something. But I might make a small no.

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Speaker 1: Maybe there's always a smell in the hole.

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Speaker 2: But there's not, because my hole be open and I

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Speaker 2: be in the hole, there's not always a smell.

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Speaker 1: Sting, you're trying to make me feel like there was.

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Speaker 1: If you in the hole, you need no.

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Speaker 2: There's just there's gonna be a mess. It's gonna be

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Speaker 2: a smell. There's going to be a bodily function. God

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Speaker 2: damn it. Anyways, y'all, thank you're fortuning in to another

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Speaker 2: episode of Horrible Decisions. Y'all have a wonderful, wonderful, wonderful

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Speaker 2: fucking holidays sleep we are approaching. Make sure you get

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Speaker 2: all the time off, make sure you travel, make sure

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Speaker 2: you be with your family. Make sure if you win

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Speaker 2: a nigga, you get what the fuck you want for

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Speaker 2: the holidays. Let that nigga know I want this, and

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Speaker 2: if he don't get it for you, he don't love you. Anyways, y'all,

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Speaker 1: I will make sure you do that, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Thank y'all for tuning in to yet another episode of

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Speaker 2: Horror Decisions.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye,