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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast,

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. Hello, Happy Monday. I actually

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Speaker 1: have some exciting news for you. What I might First

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Speaker 1: of all, I'll tell you in a second, but I

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Speaker 1: want to hear about your week. What heck you're gonna

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Speaker 1: give it? Tea's like that. I mean, it's nothing like groundbreaking,

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Speaker 1: earth shattering, but I think it's just something you're gonna

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Speaker 1: be very excited about. No, Okay, Um, Well, I just

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Speaker 1: can't believe it's only been a week since I last

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Speaker 1: saw you, because the day after I saw you, I

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Speaker 1: left for Hawaii and then you've been gone. I know,

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Speaker 1: but it's only been It's been a week like we

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Speaker 1: always have, but we also didn't talk. We didn't talk,

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Speaker 1: which we never knew like. I looked at our last

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Speaker 1: text message and it was from Monday. I think I

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Speaker 1: think that Tuesday. I think it was like the day after.

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Speaker 1: But you know what's interesting is I feel I felt

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Speaker 1: like I've been talking about you a lot, and so

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Speaker 1: I feel like I've been talking to you. M hmmm,

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I've been talking to me about who have

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Speaker 1: you been talking to about me? Well, because your birthday

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Speaker 1: is coming up. Oh, so we've been planning some things.

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Speaker 1: It's weird I noticed. I didn't hear it from any

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Speaker 1: of my friends. Are like this week you say you

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Speaker 1: are all doing some sneaky sneakers and things. No, not

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Speaker 1: sneaky sneakers, And I'm gonna find everything by you actually

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Speaker 1: want to finish the podcast. I have a list of

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Speaker 1: things I want to run by you, um with something.

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Speaker 1: But it's funny because I knew that you were like

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Speaker 1: kind of on vacation, and so I wanted to respect

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Speaker 1: the fact that you maybe wanted to unplug, unwind and

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Speaker 1: not you know, be tormented by my incessant text messages.

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Speaker 1: Well I wouldn't describe myself as tormented by your text messages,

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Speaker 1: but um, I did go. So we went to Kauai,

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Speaker 1: which was my first time ever to the island, because

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Speaker 1: and you know, normal only when I go on vacation

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Speaker 1: and I feel like you feel the same way. We

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Speaker 1: and then maybe I'll we'll go to dinner or something.

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Speaker 1: But we got an airbnb and we rented a car

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Speaker 1: and we drove around that whole freaking island. It did everything,

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Speaker 1: and it was so much fun. Like we went on

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Speaker 1: these hikes where like some of the hikes my feet

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Speaker 1: it was just so fun to be like, I felt

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Speaker 1: like a kid. Kid. We actually did think about you

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Speaker 1: a lot this weekend because there was one photo that

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Speaker 1: you posted on Instagram that was like of your butt

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Speaker 1: photo like it kept popping up in red stars whenever

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Speaker 1: I was like, thank god, this is my best friend,

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Speaker 1: why is this chickie popping up? Why does her buck

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Speaker 1: It was so weird, and then I was started doing

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Speaker 1: it was so fun. Like it was one of those

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Speaker 1: You should. But it was hard. I mean, it's like

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Speaker 1: that island is so beautiful because it's they make it.

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Speaker 1: really have to work for the beauty. But it's interesting

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Speaker 1: those random signs that have like just sayings like that

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Speaker 1: How was your week? Um? My week was really good again.

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Speaker 1: I was doing some some birthday planning, which we will

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Speaker 1: discuss after the podcast, and well, by the way, we've

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Speaker 1: all week? Yeah? I did that all week. I definitely

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Speaker 1: But I was like, thank God, it's Becca. Yeah. So, um,

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Speaker 1: probably excited. I'm so proud and excited. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: So I've been on. I've had a TikTok account because

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Speaker 1: had this conversation because I was like, Tanya, you do

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Speaker 1: curated content like and you can like duet them and

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Speaker 1: So Charlie Puss says, Wow, that stuff you doing on Instagram,

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Speaker 1: that would be really great on TikTok. Why why is

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Speaker 1: it better on TikTok than on Instagram. Isn't it a

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Speaker 1: TikTok is just way more kind of like unvarnished. So

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Speaker 1: This is from Texans and and Americans alike all over

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00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 1: the land, saying, don't get the burgers. What do you

426
00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,199
Speaker 1: get there, cheeseburger or contenders this and this is the

427
00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: part that truly maddened me. What did she say cheezburg

428
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, I'm gont to say grilled cheese. Everyone's like,

429
00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:32,119
Speaker 1: you gotta get the honey butter chicken biscuit at What

430
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:34,159
Speaker 1: a Burger, which threw me off. And then they're like,

431
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: but here's the thing. They only sell that from eleven

432
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 1: PM to eight am, so it's like a drunken snack.

433
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 1: This feels like a trolls riddle or something like I

434
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 1: have to get it before the next fool moving, like

435
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:49,600
Speaker 1: you know, so I didn't get that. But I'm so

436
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 1: baffled by this because like I love a number seven

437
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,919
Speaker 1: mustard pickle lettuce only with fries and a dr pepper,

438
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,920
Speaker 1: and that's a single cheese burger and it is so

439
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: delicious to me. I don't know what these people are

440
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: talking about. I think they're wrong. I think they are rude.

441
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:16,880
Speaker 1: And do you like it better than In and Out?

442
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 1: It's just different for me because it's like a different style,

443
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,959
Speaker 1: Like it's that's like greasy, like late night, you know,

444
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:28,960
Speaker 1: burger food, and then I think it that's like refined

445
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 1: to me, like it's always like very crisp, like the

446
00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:36,199
Speaker 1: lettuce is like always very crunchy and fresh. In and

447
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:41,360
Speaker 1: Out has literally created this empire by making a burger

448
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:44,359
Speaker 1: and fries. Like they know what they're doing. They use

449
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 1: the right but they use the right ingredients and always

450
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: like fast food, but you you even eat in and

451
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:55,080
Speaker 1: not not trashing it. But it's not like fine dining

452
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,679
Speaker 1: for fast food. It kind of is. They use very

453
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 1: fresh ingredients, which is rare and fast food. I think

454
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,359
Speaker 1: water Burger used this frozen beef. I don't know that

455
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 1: for sure. I don't want to trash water burger, but

456
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:11,160
Speaker 1: I love McDonald tamburger too, so I guess I'm not. Actually,

457
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:12,640
Speaker 1: do you want to Something that we did this week

458
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 1: that I thought was like super cute and fun. Um,

459
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: we went out to we just had a date night.

460
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 1: We went out to dinner and we couldn't decide whether

461
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 1: we wanted so we usually order like a salad that

462
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: we share, an appetizer that we share them, we order

463
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,720
Speaker 1: like one main, you know, we just share it all.

464
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's a little too cute for me,

465
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: but okay, continue it's like everything for me because well

466
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:32,880
Speaker 1: we just eat that. We like to eat the same.

467
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,479
Speaker 1: So it's like why not get more things than just

468
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: have one each, you know what I mean. So you've

469
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: got a bunch and you'll just eat each eat bites.

470
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: We just share everything, yea. Um. But we couldn't decide

471
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: for our main if we wanted to order a fish

472
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 1: or if we wanted to have beef, So we told

473
00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:53,200
Speaker 1: the waiter to to just surprise us and bring out

474
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,360
Speaker 1: one or the other. And it was kind of fun,

475
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,239
Speaker 1: like I've never done that before. We were just like

476
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,440
Speaker 1: we can't decide. We both really want both so you

477
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: decide and bring it out for us. I was like,

478
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: this is fun, and he was like, this is adorable.

479
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 1: I'll be out with my selection. Yeah. Yeah. He brought

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00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 1: the beef. Oh yeah, and he was like, I could

481
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 1: tell that you guys want because I was like around

482
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: my period time and so I said, I'd see the

483
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:25,199
Speaker 1: feral look in your eye. He could tell that I

484
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: needed iron um no because I had said it. I

485
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I always order fish, but I

486
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 1: feel like, because I'm around my period, I should get

487
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 1: red meat. So I think that's kind of what you

488
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 1: told him the waiter. Yeah, I love doing that, like,

489
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 1: like I've never worked that was so fun. I do

490
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 1: it all the time. I've never worked in a restaurant.

491
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 1: And and people that the proud heroes that work at restaurants,

492
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 1: maybe they can sound off that they hate this, but

493
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 1: like I always especially i've never been to a place before.

494
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 1: I love just saying like, bring me the most popular thing,

495
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: bring me your favorite thing, you know, like that kind

496
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: of I like to empower them to to make my choice,

497
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: and I'm always happy about it. But like what if

498
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:03,160
Speaker 1: you said their favorite thing and they love like mac

499
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: and cheese, but mac and cheese gives you diarrhea. You

500
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 1: gotta give him a little direction. Now, I have an

501
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 1: iron stomach, I can to I'm very proud of my

502
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: iron stomach. Like the things I can handle. I'm like

503
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 1: built different, you know. Also, wait a second, So you're

504
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 1: sitting here talking to this poor waiter and he's like, Hi,

505
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: why can't I get for real today? And you're like, well,

506
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: I'm on my I'm in my menstrual phase, and I'm

507
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 1: having some cramps and I'm craving some red beef. But

508
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 1: what would you recommend? Okay, I don't talk like that.

509
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 1: So first of all, that's not what I said. The

510
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:48,679
Speaker 1: waiter you do sometimes. It was more like it was

511
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: more like red Star and I were debating what to get,

512
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,120
Speaker 1: and he really didn't care. He was up for anything,

513
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,199
Speaker 1: and so he put the ball in my court and

514
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 1: I said, well, you know, I would always normally order

515
00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: the fish, but i'm my mentoral phase and I should

516
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:05,719
Speaker 1: get the beef. And the wainter was just sitting there,

517
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:07,159
Speaker 1: and so we were like, well, maybe we need to

518
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:08,920
Speaker 1: have another moment. So then HeLa and then I was

519
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: like way. And then we brought him back and we

520
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: said we want you to decide. Well, he went home

521
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: and was like, I had an interesting experience of work today.

522
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 1: Actually gave us a complimentary cheesecake, so I think he liked.

523
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: He said, this girl's on her period, you want some dessert.

524
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: I have an idea for a restaurant. This is from

525
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: a a straight white man. So tell me if this

526
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 1: would fly, it's you go in and you tell them

527
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: what phase your menstoral cycle here and they bring you food. Honestly,

528
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: that would be epic. That would do well, right, I mean,

529
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: it's more than half the population would would be into that.

530
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 1: And yeah, and I think a lot of people want

531
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 1: to eat based on their mental cycle. They just don't.

532
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 1: It just seems overwhelming. And so if this place just

533
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 1: in it for you washed up their mentoral cycle. Here's

534
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: my blood type, here's my d sign, here's what I'm

535
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 1: the minial cycle. Things actually really smart because if people

536
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 1: were more aware of that and ate according to what

537
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: makes them feel good during that phase, it could be

538
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: really smart. The only thing is a lot of people

539
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 1: don't know about that. So that's about you getting your

540
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:20,399
Speaker 1: TikTok to go viral and then the restaurant. Yeah, all right.

541
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,880
Speaker 1: Step one um, coming in hot this feels like a

542
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: beautiful place to take a break. And then we talked

543
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 1: about Grays Nadomamy Addison return and adel Oh oh, Courtney

544
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: Adele's new song. Because we that came out and you've

545
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: listened to it, I'm assuming yeah, but Travis is engagement. Yeah,

546
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: the Cravis engagement. So we're gonna take a break and

547
00:28:46,600 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Okay, We're back. Um. Also, I

548
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: wanted to congratulate Jack Vanneck because she got engaged last week.

549
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 1: That's Jack, we love you, We love you. The ring

550
00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: is stunning and he did it at his concert, which

551
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: is so cute. And it brought up the question for me,

552
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: when you get proposed to, do you want it to

553
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: be in front of people or do you want it

554
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: to be private where no one else is around? You

555
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: know what's funny, That's what everybody was talking about with

556
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: the Cravis engagement with Courtney Kardashi and Travis Barker because

557
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: they did it on this beach. They did in front

558
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: of the Miramar, Rosewood and Santa Barbara and so all

559
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 1: these people that are just like eating at the like

560
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: beach bar, the proposal people are taking photos so it's

561
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: obviously very public, and one of our my girlfriend, Sierra,

562
00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 1: was just like, I don't want I don't like that.

563
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: But if I feel like that place has to be

564
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: meaningful to them, which is why he did it there,

565
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 1: I would imagine it's not just like some random beach front. Yeah,

566
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: I mean that he could have found a private beach

567
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: easily and done that without anyone around. So I agree

568
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: there had to be something. But did you answer my questions? Um,

569
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: it's honestly, I don't know. I think whichever, whatever ways

570
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: it happens, I think I'll love either way. I think

571
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: I would like it to be private, but I also

572
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: think I would like it to be public too, not

573
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 1: necessarily public, but around people. I could see you having

574
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 1: a private where it's just y'all, and then you show

575
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 1: up and everyone's there to celebrate, Like, yeah, that's for sure.

576
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: What about you? Yeah? I think you know. I hate

577
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: doing anything like in front of people, so I definitely

578
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 1: would want it to be private, but I would love

579
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: to celebrate with everyone after. But yeah, the thought of

580
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 1: doing it with like strangers staring. How about on the

581
00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: jumbo tron at a sporting event? That doesn't interests me

582
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: much Yeah, that would be um like I would never

583
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: like if I if it was a person I want

584
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: to marry, I'm gonna say yes no matter how it's done,

585
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: because I would just be so excited. But that wouldn't

586
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 1: be like my idea. If someone did that for me,

587
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: then I'd be like questioning if they know me at all?

588
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: Do you know me? On Jumbo Tron? I would love

589
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: for you what sport though I don't really like Lakers.

590
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 1: He's a Laker guy. He's going to take you a

591
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:35,719
Speaker 1: Laker game and propose on the big screen. Remember how

592
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: cute you thought football was? Maybe a football game that

593
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: was so cute. You know what's interesting? I was actually

594
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: reading this story about this girl from Succession, Uh, and

595
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 1: she proposed to the guy that she just married, And

596
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: I always think about that. It's a lot of pressure

597
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 1: to think about that. Wait, someone else I was just

598
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: reading about. Did Joshua Jackson's fiance proposed to him? You

599
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 1: might be into something. There was another couple. It might

600
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 1: be Joshua Jackson actually where his wife proposed to him. Well,

601
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: I think that works. If you get to the point

602
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: where you both know it's imminent, then maybe that could work.

603
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: But it's scary because he might be planning something spectacular

604
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden you kind of pull

605
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: the rug out from under it. Right, Yeah, she did

606
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: propose it, but they had to, they had to proposals.

607
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: So I guess she proposed and then or I don't

608
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: know who did her first, but he said that she

609
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 1: was very adamant about proposing. Yeah. Um, but you know

610
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 1: what I always think about is like, you know, we

611
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: always talk about how people will be in long, long

612
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 1: term relationships, and then they're just like the girls, like

613
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 1: waiting for the proposal, waiting for the ring, and a

614
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 1: lot of times we're like, oh, you know, if it

615
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: hasn't happened, maybe it's you know, time to walk away

616
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 1: or whatever. What if the guy's just scared and the

617
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 1: girl just said I'm going to do that, what do

618
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 1: we think the outcome would be the girl that said

619
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna propose. Yeah, like he's not doing it, but

620
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: we're still together and maybe he's scared, like I'm gonna propose,

621
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: and like right, I don't know, it does seem like

622
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure. I have no idea. I don't

623
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: know what that come would be. I feel like there's

624
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: a lot of things that come into play with that.

625
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: But I was watching this Netflix special and it's called

626
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: quarter Life Crisis. Actually Ryan recommended it to me. Taylor

627
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: Thomlinson Taylor Thomlinson, And it's very funny because she talks

628
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 1: to all of these things and she was engaged. She's

629
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: not engaged anymore, but she was saying the minute she

630
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 1: got that ring on her finger, she was like, this

631
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 1: thing in her head just went like poopo mission completed,

632
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: you know, like we all that's all we want in

633
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: our life. Is like, once you get that ring, it's

634
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: like the health gates of heaven have opened up and

635
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 1: you're in this thing. And she's like, and then I

636
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: got engaged and I went to Target and I was

637
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: holding my hand out and people would say, you know,

638
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 1: do you need help finding the whatever? And she's like, no,

639
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 1: I don't, because I'm engaged. Somebody loves me. And like

640
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 1: the way that she talks about it is so freaking

641
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: funny because it is it's this thing I don't know.

642
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: It's hard. And again it's like goes back to my

643
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 1: whole thing about how as women, people only praise you

644
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 1: and give you love if you get engaged or you

645
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 1: have a baby. We don't have these parties for women

646
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 1: who are starting their businesses. We don't have all this stuff.

647
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 1: So getting me back on my high horse of I

648
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: gotta get that on my TikTok. This brings up such

649
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,439
Speaker 1: a good topic because I've been thinking about this. Um

650
00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: Tia from the Bachelor World, she said the other day

651
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 1: she was talking about on her Instagram story, which I

652
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: feel like this all the time, Like if you don't

653
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: have a family, you don't have like or if you're

654
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: not if you don't post about your love life, you

655
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: don't have kids, or you don't have like, I don't

656
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: know what the other thing you're not like under twenty one,

657
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: um like you almost kind of feel like you don't

658
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,359
Speaker 1: really have like a. I feel like this a lot,

659
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 1: like I don't really have a I don't know what

660
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 1: my thing is because when I was on the Bachelor,

661
00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 1: that was my thing. And then as time and on

662
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: and I distanced myself from that being my thing, it

663
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 1: was like people cared about my love life, and then

664
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 1: I posted about my love life, and now I'm in

665
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,839
Speaker 1: this place where I'm like I could share my love

666
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 1: life and I would feel like I would have so

667
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: much like support and love. But it's like do I

668
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 1: share my love life for the sake of social media? No,

669
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:24,319
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. But you do it because you

670
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 1: want to, I know. But like I always joke around

671
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:31,439
Speaker 1: about like what's my like you know at a certain point,

672
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 1: and I don't know if I don't know if you

673
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 1: ever feel like this because you start, you have built

674
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: your career from something like very traditional of like being

675
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,000
Speaker 1: on the radio and then having a podcast, and now

676
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 1: you're like popular on social media from doing like these

677
00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 1: very traditional things that like people have followed your career

678
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:54,799
Speaker 1: and stuff, whereas mine came from this like very untraditional

679
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,440
Speaker 1: way of life, like going on the reality show. It

680
00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: was like thrown into my lap at a quite thing,

681
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: and then it was like does anyone care about anything

682
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 1: else that I'm doing? But why do you care? If

683
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 1: anybody cares? That's because it's kind of my job for

684
00:36:09,160 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 1: people to care about what my life is. You know,

685
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:16,840
Speaker 1: My social media presence is supposed to have like something

686
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,399
Speaker 1: that makes people care whether I'm doing something that's like

687
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: productive in helping people or my story whatever that is,

688
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 1: which I do have a really good story. I'm gonna

689
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: share one day, but like right now, it's like, without

690
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 1: taking that out of it, what is it that makes

691
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 1: me interesting? Are you asking me that question? Or you know?

692
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,719
Speaker 1: That's like my question is like what makes me interesting?

693
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 1: Beyond like who I'm dating? There? There's so much it's

694
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 1: so it's I just feel like I think, I guess

695
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: it's different maybe because you're looking at it from a

696
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 1: job perspective, like it's your job for people to care.

697
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 1: But I think that's the biggest thing, is like social

698
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: media isn't real life, do you know what I mean? Like,

699
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 1: it's not, but it's not. It's not who you are

700
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,239
Speaker 1: as a person. It's just an extension of just like

701
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 1: posting fun things. They're talking to people about stuff, creating community.

702
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: Like it's not that big of a thing, I know,

703
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 1: But sometimes I like endie people who are just share

704
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: their life on there because I'm like, well to just

705
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 1: like be able to do that without any fear or

706
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,800
Speaker 1: like repercussions. But you of all people know, like sometimes

707
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 1: you see a person that's known on social media for

708
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: having a perfect family and the cutest kids, and they

709
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: do all this stuff and behind the scenes they're yelling

710
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: at their little ones to do better and smile bigger,

711
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: and it's not as pretty as it looks. So you're right,

712
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: we know that it's not necessarily And sometimes I look

713
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: at people like that and it makes me kind of

714
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 1: sad because I'm like these poor kids. I think it's

715
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: good to have a balance, you know. Like, also, your

716
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: social media is your Becketilly. It's not beck Atilly and

717
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: significant other Beckettilly and family. It's just beck Atilly. Like,

718
00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: who's beck Attilli? Whoever you want to be and who

719
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:05,439
Speaker 1: cares if people like it or don't. I do care

720
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: people like well, that's why I think we need to

721
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,879
Speaker 1: get past. But okay, but I think you're both right.

722
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: Like back, I see where you're coming from. What's your thing,

723
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: because your thing is kind of still Bachelor, Like you're

724
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 1: still kind of in the wake of The Bachelor and

725
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: now this podcast. But Tanya is right in the sense

726
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 1: that I do think your social media will be much

727
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: bigger and more successful if you cared less what people think,

728
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: because I do think that the ones that are just

729
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 1: just no inhibitions, put it all out there and and

730
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 1: whatever you think of it, you think of it, that's

731
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 1: more real and it's going to attract more people and

732
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 1: more detractors at the same time. It's a double edged sort. Well, yeah,

733
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: and I feel like I used to be way more

734
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:42,560
Speaker 1: open when I I would just like talk to the

735
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,840
Speaker 1: camera and just like talk about random stuff, and somewhere

736
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: along the way, I feel like I got I don't know,

737
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 1: somewhere along the way, I got like distract or scared

738
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: to do that. And I don't know where it happened

739
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 1: or why it happened, but um, yeah, I don't know

740
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,720
Speaker 1: if it's from if it's like all kind of centered

741
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 1: around I shared everything to an extent where I was

742
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 1: sharing it was this like false sense of reality of

743
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: like sharing my relationship with Robert and posting photos, like

744
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: knowing that we weren't going to be together forever, but

745
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:24,720
Speaker 1: you know, posting these like gorgeous photos that made people

746
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: feel like they were invested in our relationship, and then

747
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 1: the disappointment of not having that and knowing that, you know,

748
00:39:32,560 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: sharing a relationship is what's going on behind the scenes.

749
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 1: That makes sense. Feeling like you let people down would

750
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: make you hesitant to do that again, not just relationships

751
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 1: in everything yea and so. And then on top of that,

752
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: you have the fact that I, you know, I'm so

753
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:53,680
Speaker 1: scared to have to pick a side on anything. It's

754
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 1: like it's hard. But I really resonated with Tia because

755
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 1: she was saying, like, sometimes I feel like I'm in

756
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 1: this in between where I don't have and she just

757
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 1: recently shared her relationship and he's her boyfriend, so cute,

758
00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: but she was like, it's one thing to share it

759
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 1: my like my life, but it's different when someone else

760
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 1: is involved. And I really resonated with that because it's

761
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 1: like this in between of like I'm not married, I

762
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:23,279
Speaker 1: don't have a baby. What is my like niche thing?

763
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 1: Like my job is kind of not traditional. I have

764
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 1: the podcast, which I love, but it's that like how

765
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 1: much can you post about one thing? So I think

766
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:36,200
Speaker 1: it's just like a normal feeling like in my age

767
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 1: group of and I think people feel like this in

768
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: real life, like outside of the social media world of

769
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: like I'm not engaged, Like I don't have kids. What

770
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: am I? I'm supposed to have all these things at

771
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 1: this age according to society, but I don't. And so

772
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know if you're out

773
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 1: there and you have that thought, like you're not alone

774
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,799
Speaker 1: in it. Well, yeah, I mean I think that was

775
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:59,280
Speaker 1: you know for me too. I used to share every

776
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: single thing i've out my dating life, Like if I

777
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: even if I went on a date and I like,

778
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 1: you know, I had diarrhea that night, I would like

779
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:09,000
Speaker 1: talk about it. And it's different now because you know,

780
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: my boyfriend is more private, private, but not in terms

781
00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 1: of like he's more private protective of his of his children,

782
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:19,879
Speaker 1: and so I respect that boundary. And you know, as

783
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: things get more comfortable and we you know, are more

784
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: comfortable in that space, I'm sure I'll share more. But

785
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: it's like you can set boundaries and you can kind

786
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: of have that keep some things private. But I think

787
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: if you're if you're keeping things private just to keep

788
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:37,879
Speaker 1: them private, and it's like eating you up inside, then

789
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 1: that's not fun either. You know, I really feel eating

790
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 1: up inside about and if anything, I feel eating up

791
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: inside because like that feel, I guess not even eating

792
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: up inside. I feel more like, you know, there's so

793
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,240
Speaker 1: many people that are like, why are you so scared

794
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 1: to share your relationship. It's like there's two people in

795
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: this relationship and I'm not the only one and it's

796
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 1: not all about me, and it's it's also you know,

797
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,320
Speaker 1: there's yeah, but you talk about it and you compromise,

798
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: Like that's what Red Star and I did you know?

799
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 1: He was like, your job is public, I'm super private.

800
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it. Let's you know, like, I love you,

801
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 1: and I love I support you, and I encourage you,

802
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 1: and I I think it's awesome that you're passionate about

803
00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: what you do. So let's find a happy medium. Yeah,

804
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:22,919
Speaker 1: I guess it's finding the happy medium communicating with your Also,

805
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 1: if you went all the way open about your relationship,

806
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: you're right, that does put a lot of pressure on

807
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 1: that relationship because now people are invested in it, and

808
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 1: now you guys have to deal with that and and

809
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: comments and all this other stuff. That adds something to

810
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,840
Speaker 1: what that most relationships don't have to deal with. And

811
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: that's not even fair. That's what my therapist said. She

812
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 1: goes just so you know, like whenever you're ready, go

813
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,959
Speaker 1: for it, but just make sure that you're ready, because

814
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: once it's out there, you can't. It's like toothpastes, like,

815
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:50,520
Speaker 1: once it's out, you can't put it back in. Yeah,

816
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: but you also can you don't have to make that

817
00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: every single thing that you post it's like a portion.

818
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: It's it's like a problem of your life. I know.

819
00:42:57,239 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: But what my experience has been is that you share

820
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 1: a little and it's like more and more and more,

821
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: and then there's I know, but I feel should feel empowered,

822
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: not pressure. I think I feel both. I feel pressure

823
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: in power. But anyways, my whole point is to say,

824
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: like you're talking about everyone wants a ring, I I

825
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 1: don't think like that. I the ring. That that is

826
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: not ever. I haven't never dreamed of like having the ring,

827
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 1: and like once I have a ring, my life will

828
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 1: be complete. But I know a lot of people feel

829
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,719
Speaker 1: that that sense of like where I'm at in my

830
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,959
Speaker 1: life by a certain age is supposed to look like this,

831
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 1: and then when it doesn't, you almost feel like you're

832
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: not doing something right. Yeah, you know what's so? Actually,

833
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:47,880
Speaker 1: one of my friends is going through the foster to

834
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: adopt process, and she posted this thing on her Instagram

835
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 1: and the other day about Friends. The characters from Friends

836
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:56,800
Speaker 1: so like Phoebe, Monica, and Rachel, and how the creators

837
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 1: of Friends gave each of them a non traditional route

838
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:03,959
Speaker 1: to motherhood to show that not everything happens in this

839
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:06,799
Speaker 1: you know, fairy tale traditional way of like becoming a mom,

840
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 1: you know, like Monica and Chandler adopted, and Rachel was

841
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: a single mom, you know, decided to have the baby alone,

842
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: and um Phoebe hat was a surrogate and had had

843
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: babies for her brother. And so I just think it's

844
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 1: it's it's important to kind of I think that we're

845
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: coming so far from this like traditional route just in

846
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:27,400
Speaker 1: every aspect, you know, like with women, and you know,

847
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:30,839
Speaker 1: we couldn't we couldn't buy a property on our own,

848
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 1: we had to have a man's name. We couldn't even

849
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:34,240
Speaker 1: open a credit card, and so things are just shifting.

850
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: Things are changing. People are having children later in life,

851
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: people are having children in different ways. People are becoming

852
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: step parents, you know what I mean. Like it's just

853
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: things are happening in a non traditional way, and it

854
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,359
Speaker 1: doesn't make it any less special or beautiful. It's just

855
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: different and unique. Yeah, But I think it's just a

856
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 1: good reminder to know that, like, no matter what age route,

857
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: when you're looking around and things are happening for other

858
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 1: people at a certain that's not the same as yours,

859
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 1: don't let that make you feel like you're not doing

860
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 1: something right because your path is going to look different

861
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: than everybody else is and that's okay. Yeah, my therapist

862
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 1: is actually telling me. One of my biggest questions when

863
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: I when I go to therapy is you know, but

864
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 1: that's that's not right. That's not how it should be right,

865
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: and she goes, it shouldn't be anyway. It's your own relationship,

866
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: you know, like you guys get to make it what

867
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,439
Speaker 1: you want. And I was like, wow, you're so right,

868
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 1: like and appetizers and salads, go for it, that's your thing, right,

869
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 1: Like we can do whatever we want however we want to.

870
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 1: And there's something really like powerful about that. Well, our

871
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 1: whole life is it should be this way. All we

872
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 1: hear is like this, sho, this is how it's supposed

873
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 1: to go. It should look like this. And I think

874
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 1: just in these last couple of years, there's this realization

875
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:57,439
Speaker 1: of like, the shoulds are just suggestions. They're not like

876
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: anything set in stone that you have to follow. Their

877
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: just what's worked for people, and those thoughts have dominated

878
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 1: what society like, what it's supposed to our timelines are

879
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 1: supposed to look like. But m no, I agree, there's

880
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: no show. It's just yeah, I mean I went through

881
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 1: that phase in my twenties when all my girlfriends from

882
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 1: college were getting married and having babies, and I was

883
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 1: going to everybody else's bachelor at parties and in everybody

884
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 1: else's weddings and throwing all the bridal showers, and I

885
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: was just like, ah, like you know, and when almost like,

886
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: when's my turn? And I feel like in that phase

887
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,760
Speaker 1: when I was dating, I was just searching for a husband.

888
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: I just wanted that too. And I think probably recently,

889
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 1: within the last few years, it shifted from finding a

890
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 1: husband to actually doing life with somebody, you know, like

891
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: I wanted a partner to live life with. I think

892
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: there's something really powerful I you know, I feel like

893
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm a modern woman and I can do my own thing,

894
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 1: and I am independent and I can carry my own

895
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 1: and I still feel that way, but I feel as

896
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:01,800
Speaker 1: though I feel wronger and more powerful with a partner

897
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 1: that actually encourages me and loves me. And I feel

898
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 1: stronger having a partner, you know, And that's always what

899
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 1: I've wanted, and so I don't know, there's something really

900
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: it's like a different sense of relationship that I have

901
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:19,479
Speaker 1: now with Red Star. Yeah, I mean, I think it's

902
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: that you do that comparing and then at a certain

903
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: age you go, actually, this is what I'm looking for.

904
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,359
Speaker 1: And what you have found with Red Star is so

905
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: much more than a boyfriend. You know. You've found someone

906
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,960
Speaker 1: that you're doing life with and who respects you and

907
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: loves you and shows you the same type of care

908
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: that you show him. Yeah, and it's like kind of

909
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: cool and interesting. It's not something that I would ever

910
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: have thought, you know, and you know, he's Jewish and

911
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: I'm Christian and so you know, navigating the holidays and

912
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 1: what that's going to look like and it's exciting, you know,

913
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:50,840
Speaker 1: it's not don't have to be a certain you know.

914
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:52,360
Speaker 1: I went to shop bought on Friday. It was so

915
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: fun and I love that that tradition in the Jewish faith,

916
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 1: you know, and so that's something that I think we

917
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 1: want to do and and so just kind of I

918
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 1: don't know, it's cool, it's different. Yeah, it's cool. I'm

919
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: really proud of you. You've handled it's a lot, and

920
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: I think it's you've handled it in a way that's

921
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: makes it seem exciting and not daunting, because I think

922
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: the differences, especially in big topics like religion, I mean, yeah,

923
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 1: religion and uh, culture can be very scary to something

924
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 1: For me, like growing up, it was like you need

925
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:28,839
Speaker 1: to be in a relationship with someone who thinks and

926
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 1: believes just like you. And I think we've both kind

927
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:36,319
Speaker 1: of experienced relationships that don't look like that, and we've

928
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 1: both been able to grow and appreciate someone else's religion

929
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: and faith more because of it and open our eyes

930
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:46,400
Speaker 1: to other people that see the world differently and believe differently,

931
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: which is really cool. Um I went heavy there for

932
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,320
Speaker 1: a minute speaking of religion. Adele released a new song.

933
00:48:56,640 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 1: How many times have you listened to Easy on Me?

934
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:03,720
Speaker 1: A lot? Like a lot? I definitely say in the hundreds,

935
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 1: because the first day came out, I listened to it

936
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 1: on repeat for like the first two days and then

937
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: now I've I've put it into a side by side,

938
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:16,359
Speaker 1: so five days in total. And she's basically saying like

939
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 1: she's asking people. She what I gathered from it. She's

940
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: asking people like take it easy on me like I

941
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: was young. No, I think she's speaking to herself like

942
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 1: I want like being compassionate, be compassionate to myself. It's

943
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:35,360
Speaker 1: a beautiful song, Adele. Congrats, Yeah, I can't wait for

944
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: that album. Oh I am foaming at the mouth for

945
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 1: that thing. That one or Red? Which one has you

946
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: more foaming? I would say Adele hands down, but I'm

947
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: really angsty over the Bolt songs from Red. She released Okay,

948
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:55,720
Speaker 1: so Friday or whatever day adult song came out Thursday

949
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 1: or Friday. Adele or Taylor Swift released the last track

950
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 1: of like one of the bolt tracks in Red, and

951
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 1: it's literally just her speaking. It's not even a song.

952
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:08,360
Speaker 1: It's her speaking and saying, you know, like Red is

953
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 1: an album that came from a time when I was

954
00:50:10,640 --> 00:50:12,680
Speaker 1: broken hearted and basically talks about that. It's like a

955
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: breakup album even that I listened to like ten times.

956
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:22,279
Speaker 1: It's like a second clip she hasn't It's a monologue

957
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 1: at this point for Tanya. Oh so you know, I

958
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 1: don't know. It's just hard to say. I'm so ready.

959
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 1: I need to go somewhere cold with pretty leaves, maybe snow.

960
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 1: I'm sitting next. I have like this vision of me

961
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:40,480
Speaker 1: sitting like I don't even drink from a mug because

962
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: I don't drink hot coffee, but me sitting in like

963
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: a cozy chair with a mug and like in a

964
00:50:45,640 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 1: corner with a fire growing looking out the window. Yeah,

965
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 1: you can easily do that here. Ange No no, no, no, no, no,

966
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: it's good. I need the scenery, but the a c really,

967
00:50:57,160 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 1: I mean I need the outdoor seats. Palm okay. I

968
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: forgot this story while I was in Hawaii. So we

969
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 1: go to this beach. It was really hard to get

970
00:51:24,719 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: too because the parking was limited and we had to

971
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 1: walk kind of far. But we went to it's called

972
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 1: Tunnels Beach. It's like famous. It's actually you know the

973
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: famous the surfer Bethany Hamiltons. She got her arm bit

974
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:40,000
Speaker 1: off by a shark at Tunnel's Beach. It's beautiful. So

975
00:51:40,400 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 1: we went and we're like swimming in the water and

976
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 1: this couple, this like older couple is swimming next to me,

977
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: and I got like a you know, when you're in

978
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: the ocean or like outside and someone like walks by

979
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,040
Speaker 1: or goes by you, and you like smell their perfume

980
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 1: and it's like strong. Yes the man in my building, oh,

981
00:51:58,120 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: I like it when it's good. When so I said

982
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 1: to them all, I was like, oh my god, your

983
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 1: perfume smells so nice, Like what is that? And she

984
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 1: goes oh, I don't have any perfume on. And it

985
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 1: was like, is it your shampoo? What is that? And

986
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 1: then she points to her husband. She like it might

987
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 1: be him. He always smells good. And I was like,

988
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: we have a very beautiful fragrance. And he said something

989
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 1: he had like a British accent and kind of laughed,

990
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: and so we she compliment in my hat. We chit

991
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: chatted for a little bit and then they swam off

992
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 1: and so, um, I go, I see him standing were

993
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 1: about to leave, and we had walked really far on

994
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 1: the beach, but part of the beach that we had

995
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: walked on like the tide had gone up. So I

996
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: went to ask him if there was a street walking

997
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: area and UM, like on the like that we could

998
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:46,960
Speaker 1: cut through to walk on the street. And he goes

999
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,399
Speaker 1: he's like yeah talking to me, and I realized it's

1000
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: pierced brasen In and I'm like, I'm like, oh, it

1001
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 1: like collects. I'm like, I just I just realized who

1002
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 1: you are and I'm a big fan of your work.

1003
00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 1: I was like, nice to meet you, and he was like,

1004
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: oh my, he was so nice. He was like, oh

1005
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 1: my gosh, that's so awesome and he gave me knuckles

1006
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 1: and he's like, what's your name? And we like chitchat

1007
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,640
Speaker 1: for a minute. What's so crazy? Recognized him in the

1008
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 1: world like a mustache and I had a hat on

1009
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 1: and a mustache, so I just like, you know, I

1010
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:22,760
Speaker 1: was like in Kauaiet, I was like the last person

1011
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 1: I was expecting to see, um, but they were so nice. Yeah,

1012
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 1: she was the one who's or someone smelled really great. Yeah,

1013
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 1: how do you not recognize that guy? No? I promise

1014
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 1: he has like a beard and he does not look

1015
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: like that, and he's still so handsome, like and then

1016
00:53:42,320 --> 00:53:45,120
Speaker 1: with his accent. I was like, wow, this is a

1017
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 1: charming man. But yeah, that's fun for them when somebody

1018
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:53,000
Speaker 1: structs up a conversation with them not knowing who they are,

1019
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: and it's clear to them that they have no idea

1020
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 1: who they are. She's just just chit chatting and wants

1021
00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 1: to get to the street and likes how we smelling.

1022
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:03,160
Speaker 1: There's no idea that James Bond. Yeah, it's like talking

1023
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 1: to James Bond. It was pretty cool. Yeah, it was

1024
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: pretty cool, Um talking to James. Why couldn't I bet

1025
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 1: that child with Jennifer Aniston? When I stalked her that night.

1026
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:15,840
Speaker 1: You know, like while I wasn't, I just like, I

1027
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:19,520
Speaker 1: barely Just that's the key. You just go in with

1028
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 1: something rogue and random, like I just love your top. Right,

1029
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 1: you look like that actress from Nice Hair Color? What

1030
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:30,160
Speaker 1: is that? I want to tell me? She's never heard

1031
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:34,640
Speaker 1: that one before? Whatever it is, I don't know. Um shoes,

1032
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 1: where'd you get? Um? Okay, so Grayson at me. Yeah,

1033
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: Addison's back. Does it feel just like we're returning back

1034
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 1: to home or something? To say? The Addison storyline made

1035
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 1: me tear up. I got really emotional when she met

1036
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 1: the kids. I could barely handle that scene. And I

1037
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 1: also love that Grays is incorporating kind of like these

1038
00:54:58,239 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 1: TikTok challenges that are you know, make people go viral

1039
00:55:01,560 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: and end up in the hospital. Like I kind of

1040
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 1: like that they're kind of touching on that stuff. Yeah,

1041
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like Gray's Anatomy has always been

1042
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:12,320
Speaker 1: pretty good at like whatever is happening in real life

1043
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: they incorporate into the show. They do a really good

1044
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 1: job with that. But um, it kind of was jarring

1045
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 1: realizing it's been six years since Derek died. Yeah, it

1046
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 1: didn't feel that way because he came back last season,

1047
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,680
Speaker 1: you know a little bit. But in the thought of

1048
00:55:29,760 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 1: like her, I don't know. I guess I've never thought

1049
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: about Addison and all that because I was focused on Mayor,

1050
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 1: you know, and everyone in the in the hospital. But

1051
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 1: do we so do we think Scott Speedman is going, like,

1052
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,719
Speaker 1: what's going to happen with that relationship? She's just gonna

1053
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: be going back and forth and that's when she'll see

1054
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:51,560
Speaker 1: him TBD. But I will say I thought that was

1055
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:53,880
Speaker 1: a very strung episode. It was very good. It was

1056
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 1: great to see Addison again, and I love just so

1057
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: much of it. There was so much good stuff there.

1058
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:00,840
Speaker 1: I like the kidney stuff and like getting to know

1059
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:04,279
Speaker 1: and doogo with not just Maggie's husband, his own character now.

1060
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: And I thought it's really strong all the way through.

1061
00:56:07,120 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: I really enjoyed that he because it has been very

1062
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 1: much he's Maggie's husband. There hasn't been a lot for

1063
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 1: him outside of his relationship with Maggie, so I quite

1064
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: enjoyed him being a doctor by himself. He's so cute.

1065
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 1: He's so cute. Yeah, that's a strong episode. I enjoyed it,

1066
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,440
Speaker 1: and I'm looking forward to more, but actually, have you?

1067
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:29,440
Speaker 1: Are you a fan of the show you? It's scary

1068
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:32,240
Speaker 1: to me suddenly you're not a fan his first season?

1069
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 1: Me too. Apparently Scott Speedman is in season three of You,

1070
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know, pick Alane, dude, are you

1071
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:42,560
Speaker 1: an actor? Are you you man? Or are you gonna

1072
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 1: be married? With this look? Meredith never complain about too

1073
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 1: much Scott speed but on my television set, that's really

1074
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:52,880
Speaker 1: your stroke for you folks, No, I think you know,

1075
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 1: it just speaks to who he is as an actor

1076
00:56:56,080 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 1: that he can shift. I don't know. I just like

1077
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: it's gonna I'm I don't know. I feel like I

1078
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: don't know that he's worked a great in the best

1079
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 1: ten years. I'med he's having having Yeah, I just there's

1080
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 1: there's something about him that, like I I've already said it,

1081
00:57:16,040 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: but there is just something about him and Meredith. There's

1082
00:57:19,440 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 1: a dynamic between them that makes so much more sense

1083
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:25,240
Speaker 1: than anyone else that they've tried to put her with. Like,

1084
00:57:25,280 --> 00:57:28,280
Speaker 1: if he's gonna be meredith new love, the love of

1085
00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 1: her life, let's say I just want him to really

1086
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: be that. But what happened? What was his injury when

1087
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 1: he came in. Remember, yeah, let me find out like

1088
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 1: was he sick, Like did he have some like genetic things?

1089
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 1: Because now because he's a miracle. Remember they talked about

1090
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,160
Speaker 1: how they're both miracles, like their lives, the fact that

1091
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: they're still alive as a miracle. Yeah, oh yeah, And

1092
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 1: what do you do? It's a lot of pressure being

1093
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 1: a miracle. He got a kidney transplant. Five weeks after

1094
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 1: having a kidney transplant, Nick came to Gracelow and to

1095
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 1: retrieve a liver for a long time patient of his.

1096
00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 1: After the surgery, he collapsed in a hallway. Mar didn't

1097
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 1: examine ransom labs and chatted with Nick while they waited

1098
00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 1: for the results to come back. The labs were inconclusive,

1099
00:58:12,440 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: so Meredith did another ultrasound was showed a clot in

1100
00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: his renal vein, cuting off blood flow to his new kidney.

1101
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:20,760
Speaker 1: She rushed him into surgery, where she removed the clot

1102
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 1: and saved his kidney. Here's my here's my issue. I'm

1103
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 1: already having some fears that what a great easy way

1104
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:34,800
Speaker 1: for them to incorporate tragedy once we get attached to

1105
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:41,160
Speaker 1: this man, and yeah, yeah, the kidney problems come back

1106
00:58:41,200 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: and yeah, yeah, that was Henry's death was a real

1107
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 1: dey's come on now, No, it was because Christina. That

1108
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 1: whole dynamic of Christina doing the surgery not knowing it

1109
00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 1: was him, and then then removing that was so I've chilled,

1110
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: I killed all over my body. We have to move on, Okay,

1111
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: you have not moved on from Denny and so no,

1112
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't mean you can move on from that. I

1113
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 1: just mean move on in the podcast. Yeah, what did

1114
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 1: you want to move on too? Because we're basically going

1115
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 1: to an end. I was gonna say emails, but maybe

1116
00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 1: we just here we go? You know what, have you

1117
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:40,200
Speaker 1: looked at him? No, let's do it as Tanya and

1118
00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: Robbie at the restaurant. Would you like Ashley or Caitlin? Oh,

1119
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:48,680
Speaker 1: without knowing them, without looking at them, I'm one Caitlin, Ashley,

1120
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 1: you're the waiter. Scissors, rock paper scissor, shoot rock paper

1121
00:59:58,560 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 1: scissor shoot rock paper scissors, shoot smashes scissors. Becca's choice?

1122
01:00:05,120 --> 01:00:08,120
Speaker 1: And what was it? Becca? My husband and I just

1123
01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:10,680
Speaker 1: moved into my new brother in law's back house, which

1124
01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 1: my husband, who is a general contract did all the

1125
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:15,960
Speaker 1: construction and remodeling on the place. We're living here for

1126
01:00:16,000 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 1: a few months while we house hunt, which is luck becca.

1127
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:21,200
Speaker 1: The four weeks we've been there, I can count on

1128
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 1: two hands the nights we haven't had any visitors, mainly

1129
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 1: his brother in law or his parents. I've said to

1130
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 1: my husband it's beginning to become an issue because I

1131
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: can't ever feel comfortable in my own home. Can't a

1132
01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 1: girl sit in a couch with no makeup and no

1133
01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 1: braun without having to worry about someone just stopping by.

1134
01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:39,160
Speaker 1: The problem is his brother has a key to our

1135
01:00:39,200 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 1: place because he owns it. But I came home the

1136
01:00:41,400 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 1: other day and there was like mail from his parents

1137
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:46,400
Speaker 1: house on our coffee table because the brother let himself

1138
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:48,600
Speaker 1: in and put it inside. I feel like this is

1139
01:00:48,640 --> 01:00:51,760
Speaker 1: an invasion of my space? Is it justified that I

1140
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 1: think it's weird that he just stops by even when

1141
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: we're not there. Also, do we have the right to

1142
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:57,960
Speaker 1: tell my brother in law and my in laws to

1143
01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 1: lessen the visits? I would lose my mind in this situation.

1144
01:01:05,520 --> 01:01:09,320
Speaker 1: My worst nightmare is not feeling comfortable just sitting on

1145
01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:16,360
Speaker 1: like doing nothing in my home without someone invading my space. Yes,

1146
01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:18,880
Speaker 1: but I have might have a different opinion, because I

1147
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:20,920
Speaker 1: feel like this is not their space. They're living in

1148
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 1: their brother in law's home essentially there his backhouse. Yeah,

1149
01:01:24,840 --> 01:01:27,160
Speaker 1: but if it's a married couple and you're saying, hey,

1150
01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 1: you can stay here while you house hunt, that doesn't

1151
01:01:29,440 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 1: mean like, hey, I get to come in anytime I want.

1152
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 1: There has to be boundaries. I mean, yeah, I get that,

1153
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:38,880
Speaker 1: but I don't find it weird that they let themselves

1154
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:41,080
Speaker 1: in to put mail on the table. But what else

1155
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:42,440
Speaker 1: is he doing when he's in there? You don't know

1156
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:44,080
Speaker 1: what he's doing. Could be going through your drawers, you

1157
01:01:44,120 --> 01:01:45,760
Speaker 1: could be setting up cameras. You have no idea what

1158
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:48,040
Speaker 1: he's doing. I would if I were her, I would

1159
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:50,400
Speaker 1: put a camera. I would get a camera and just

1160
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:53,680
Speaker 1: like make sure that all he does is put the

1161
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:57,560
Speaker 1: mail on the table and isn't like snooping around in

1162
01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: your underwear drawers. I mean, I I'm gonna just say

1163
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:03,439
Speaker 1: that if you are thinking that your brother in law

1164
01:02:03,480 --> 01:02:05,600
Speaker 1: is snooping through your drawers and going through your stuff,

1165
01:02:05,640 --> 01:02:10,520
Speaker 1: then there's bigger problems. It's no, you're wrong on this

1166
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:15,440
Speaker 1: this respect it's disrespectful. That would be like if if

1167
01:02:15,480 --> 01:02:17,800
Speaker 1: you were like, hey, I really need a place to stay, like,

1168
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:19,520
Speaker 1: can I use can I stay in your guest room?

1169
01:02:19,560 --> 01:02:22,400
Speaker 1: And I would just like barge in without without you knowing,

1170
01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 1: and like you don't know what I'm doing in there.

1171
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:26,920
Speaker 1: I would respect your space. I would be like, hey,

1172
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: it's your room while you're staying here, treat it like

1173
01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:33,800
Speaker 1: your room. I won't invade it unless you know you

1174
01:02:33,840 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 1: give me permission to do so. I don't know if

1175
01:02:35,760 --> 01:02:37,400
Speaker 1: I didn't like the way that I was, If I

1176
01:02:37,440 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 1: didn't like it, I would just make it. I would

1177
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 1: just move somewhere else. Well, they might not have the bill,

1178
01:02:43,280 --> 01:02:45,480
Speaker 1: I mean not everyone can just like go and move

1179
01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 1: somewhere else. It sounds like they're staying there so that

1180
01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:53,240
Speaker 1: they can financially save and then eventually buy a house. Well, nonetheless,

1181
01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:56,640
Speaker 1: Caitlin's feelings are valid, So what can she do about this?

1182
01:02:56,720 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 1: How does she address this with a brother in law

1183
01:02:58,600 --> 01:03:01,680
Speaker 1: and or the parents. Well, first of all, I would

1184
01:03:01,800 --> 01:03:05,280
Speaker 1: have a conversation with your husband and say, hey, I

1185
01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:08,160
Speaker 1: I love your family and I'm totally fine with them visiting,

1186
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 1: but I do want to feel like this is a

1187
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:12,800
Speaker 1: safe space and like my home while we're living here.

1188
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 1: So if you could just have a conversation and you know,

1189
01:03:15,960 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 1: set some boundaries with them because it's it's your brother.

1190
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 1: I mean, if it was my sister doing this, I

1191
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 1: think I'd easily be able to be like, hey, like

1192
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 1: I get it at your house, but um, while we're

1193
01:03:25,440 --> 01:03:28,040
Speaker 1: living here, could we you know, can we treat it

1194
01:03:28,080 --> 01:03:30,680
Speaker 1: like this is our space and just be respectful of that.

1195
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:34,600
Speaker 1: I think it's a conversation that he should have with

1196
01:03:34,720 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 1: both the parents. Definitely needs to be him. I agree, yeah, yeah,

1197
01:03:40,320 --> 01:03:42,439
Speaker 1: Like I wouldn't say if I want to like set

1198
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:45,520
Speaker 1: those boundaries within laws because that's I feel like that's

1199
01:03:45,640 --> 01:03:50,000
Speaker 1: his place and it's his brother's home that they're crashing

1200
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: in right now and the parents visiting, I would just

1201
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:55,800
Speaker 1: be like, hey, maybe you can suggest like we can

1202
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:57,720
Speaker 1: go over to their house once a week and they

1203
01:03:57,720 --> 01:04:00,080
Speaker 1: can come over here once a week, and just you know,

1204
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 1: it sounds like they're um like to be very involved

1205
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:07,760
Speaker 1: in their life. We have different like opinions on boundaries though.

1206
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 1: In space. Tanya and I do like Tanya advice. If

1207
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, you can stay with me, I'd

1208
01:04:13,360 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 1: be like six am, knock, knock, knock, I made you

1209
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 1: totally yea. I'd be like you're under my roof, you're

1210
01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,320
Speaker 1: under my rules. Well, I know where I won't be

1211
01:04:24,360 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 1: going if I ever need a space, But no, I

1212
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 1: mean I do. I do think it's like, yeah, of

1213
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 1: course they're helping you out, but you have every right

1214
01:04:35,160 --> 01:04:39,440
Speaker 1: to feel like if this is your current situation, that

1215
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:43,240
Speaker 1: you wanted to feel like safe and like home. Yeah,

1216
01:04:43,320 --> 01:04:45,760
Speaker 1: I get that, But I'm just saying also too, I

1217
01:04:45,800 --> 01:04:47,520
Speaker 1: think that maybe the brother in law thinks he's being

1218
01:04:47,520 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 1: helpful by like putting your mail in your house instead

1219
01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: of leaving it on your front door. Do you know

1220
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 1: what I mean? And I think that if you do

1221
01:04:53,360 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: think that somebody's coming in snooping, that's a bigger issue.

1222
01:04:56,160 --> 01:04:58,640
Speaker 1: I would just say, hey, would you mind texting us

1223
01:04:58,640 --> 01:05:00,960
Speaker 1: if you're gonna if you're gonna go into the house,

1224
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 1: and just say even if it's like leaving mail, like hey, um,

1225
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:08,960
Speaker 1: if you're gonna use your key, which in my mind,

1226
01:05:09,000 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 1: if someone else is living there, it's like why does

1227
01:05:11,080 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 1: he need the key? Yes, but it's his place or whatever,

1228
01:05:14,760 --> 01:05:17,000
Speaker 1: But why not just leave the mail in the mailbox

1229
01:05:17,080 --> 01:05:18,640
Speaker 1: or just leave it on the front step. But That's

1230
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I think he probably thinks he is

1231
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 1: doing them a favor by I want to have a dog.

1232
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 1: They might have coyotes that can eat the man eat.

1233
01:05:29,720 --> 01:05:32,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like you never know when you know

1234
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:36,800
Speaker 1: you're in the wrong. When say coyotes reading the mail,

1235
01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 1: that's when you know she's spiraling. I'm not spiraling. I'm

1236
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:44,840
Speaker 1: just saying the brother in law probably thinks he doesn't

1237
01:05:44,960 --> 01:05:46,920
Speaker 1: He probably doesn't think anything of it, do you know

1238
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:49,439
Speaker 1: what I mean. I think it's probably a he thinks

1239
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: it's something nice that he's doing. There's an angle to

1240
01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:55,600
Speaker 1: use that your husband can use. That's something along winds

1241
01:05:55,640 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 1: of um, can you let us know before you come

1242
01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 1: in the house because my wife it's paranoida sometimes you know,

1243
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:05,000
Speaker 1: she's just getting out of the shower and the house. Like,

1244
01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: I think there's a way to kind of say, uh,

1245
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:12,000
Speaker 1: just do it from a safety perspective, right, or you

1246
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 1: can make them uncomfortable and be like, we're starting to

1247
01:06:14,520 --> 01:06:19,920
Speaker 1: become nudists and we're from the hours of five pm

1248
01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 1: to nine pm, we are without clothing, So please knock

1249
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:26,720
Speaker 1: or let us know if you're gonna use the key,

1250
01:06:26,840 --> 01:06:32,520
Speaker 1: thank you. So Mark's approach is very yeah, well, it's

1251
01:06:32,520 --> 01:06:34,960
Speaker 1: just like it's like, hey, I mean, if your brother

1252
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:37,520
Speaker 1: in law respects you, then he's gonna be like, oh

1253
01:06:37,560 --> 01:06:39,680
Speaker 1: I I never even thought of it like that. I'm

1254
01:06:39,720 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 1: so sorry. Of course I'll you know, let you know

1255
01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 1: if it's just taking It just takes one time the

1256
01:06:44,960 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 1: brother in law opening that door and seeing the nudists

1257
01:06:48,440 --> 01:06:52,040
Speaker 1: for him not to come open in it again, or

1258
01:06:53,160 --> 01:06:57,280
Speaker 1: or not very excited as much as you possibly can

1259
01:06:57,560 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 1: you sickos. Yeah, that's that's unforet I would hate that, honestly,

1260
01:07:06,000 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 1: I would have a very time, So, Caitlin, I empathize

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Speaker 1: with you, and I would definitely ask your husband to

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Speaker 1: have a conversation with his family members. And good luck

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Speaker 1: on the house hunt. I hope you find something way

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Speaker 1: sooner than like sounds. Um, try the newest thing that

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Speaker 1: might be fun. Okay, Well, on that note, I always

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Speaker 1: sometimes I will like walk or drive by Tanya's apartment complex,

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Speaker 1: and I'm always like, please don't let me see Tania

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Speaker 1: roaming around nude in her window. I haven't been new

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Speaker 1: in a while because it's been chilly. Yeah, too cold,

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Speaker 1: too cold. Um okay, well that's the end of the podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's been real, it's been fun. It's been real fun.

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Speaker 1: You have you had that one store that ready to go,

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Speaker 1: It's always ready to go. Um. Hope you all have

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Speaker 1: a great week and we'll see you next Monday. Love you,

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Speaker 1: Love you, by M. M.