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Speaker 1: Thank enough you subject my wet and wild older man,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband is seventy six years old

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Speaker 1: and I'm sixty. I worked with his daughter years ago

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Speaker 1: and that's how we met. When we started dating, he

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Speaker 1: loved having a much younger woman on his arm, but

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Speaker 1: as he gets older, he's getting more paranoid and asked

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Speaker 1: if I would ever leave him for a man my age.

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Speaker 1: I took my wedding vows seriously and he knows I

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Speaker 1: love him, but he's on my last nerve. He's not

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Speaker 1: aging well and years of abusing alcohol have finally caught

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Speaker 1: up with him, making all of his teeth crumble when

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Speaker 1: he eats crunchy foods. He won't get them fixed or

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Speaker 1: get denters because he hates going to the doctor. He's

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Speaker 1: been wanting hair in plants for years, but he knows

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Speaker 1: we can't afford that, so he wears his hair twisted

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Speaker 1: and he uses a lot of hair products every day.

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Speaker 1: It looks like an old Jerry curl and it hangs

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Speaker 1: long in the back, and he's bald on the top.

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Speaker 1: I'd love for him to shave his head and go

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Speaker 1: visit a dentist. We used to have an active sex life,

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Speaker 1: but he's been leaking a little urine after he uses

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Speaker 1: a toilet, and the smell is strong enough to choke

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Speaker 1: a cat. I secretly put a mattress cover on his

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Speaker 1: side of the bed because I didn't want to embarrass

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Speaker 1: him between his stinky hair products getting on me and

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Speaker 1: the smell of urine. We haven't had sex in a while,

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Speaker 1: and I'm tired of making up excuses. It literally makes

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Speaker 1: me gagged to think of having sex with him. Now

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Speaker 1: he still wants it, so something's got to change. The

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Speaker 1: final straw for me was when he urinated on himself

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Speaker 1: in Target this past Sunday. God, I didn't make a

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Speaker 1: big deal out of it. But I had to buy

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Speaker 1: him a pair of queen shorts. How can he walk

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Speaker 1: around like nothing's wrong? Would I be lowdown for leaving

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Speaker 1: him if he doesn't change? Mummmmm all right. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I feel for you, I really do, because he's your

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Speaker 1: husband and you love him. You mentioned that in the letter.

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Speaker 1: But he's turning into an old, smelly, unkept, stubborn man

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Speaker 1: right before your eyes. I mean, he stopped trying. He's

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Speaker 1: become selfish, He's become lazy. That does not work in

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Speaker 1: a marriage. If he no longer cares about himself. What

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Speaker 1: about you, this much younger wife he was so proud

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Speaker 1: of back in the day. Now he's peeing on himself,

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Speaker 1: refusing to go to the dentist and get checked out.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what is it with his teeth crumbling when

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Speaker 1: he eats? Wouldn't that spur him on to go to

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Speaker 1: the doctor? I mean, I can appreciate you not wanting

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Speaker 1: to hurt his feelings, like when he was in Target.

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Speaker 1: You know you just bought him a clean pair of underwear,

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Speaker 1: but you know you want to be gentle with him

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Speaker 1: and everything. But no, what about you in this regard?

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Speaker 1: I mean don't you deserve a husband who takes care

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Speaker 1: of himself and who gets his regular checkups, dental and otherwise. Yes,

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Speaker 1: of course you do. I really don't know anyone who

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Speaker 1: who wants to get old or who likes going to

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Speaker 1: the dentist or doctor. But at seventy six, he is older.

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Speaker 1: He really needs to go. You say it's paranoid, you

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Speaker 1: might leave him for a younger man. Well, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know that's a consideration, but he should be more

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Speaker 1: concerned about himself and his health and his quality of

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Speaker 1: and all of that. I mean, you can't give up

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Speaker 1: on him. You gotta let him know that you do

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Speaker 1: care about him. You gotta talk to him. You got

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Speaker 1: to persuade him to go to the dentist or the

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Speaker 1: very least, you know, get him some depends. He's got

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Speaker 1: to do something or I'm sure you're gonna be thinking

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Speaker 1: about your future options. At this rate, he's just giving

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Speaker 1: you away. He doesn't care. Cleanliness and hygiene are deal

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Speaker 1: breakers in any relationship, any marriage. You guys got to

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Speaker 1: do something. This is craziness. Steve Well, I'm first of all,

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Speaker 1: before I start, I just wanted to say that my

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Speaker 1: response to this letter, I'm not here to help you.

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Speaker 1: I just want to put that out that nice and clear.

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Speaker 1: What are you here to do? I'm not I'm here

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Speaker 1: to just talk about this letter. Your husband is seventy

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Speaker 1: six and you sixty. You work with his daughter years ago,

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Speaker 1: and that's how y'all met. You probably met him when

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Speaker 1: you when he was sixty. Whoa, But time ain't been

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Speaker 1: kind to him. You know, y'all started dating, and you

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Speaker 1: know he loved having a younger woman on his arm.

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Speaker 1: But as he's gotten older, he's getting more paranoid and asked,

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Speaker 1: would you leave him for a man my age? And

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Speaker 1: then you know, you said what you supposed to say

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Speaker 1: when you're right in. I took my red and viow

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Speaker 1: seriously and he know I loved him. But he'll go

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Speaker 1: to letter nine. But he on my last nerve? And

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Speaker 1: why is he on your last nerve? Well, let's refute this,

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Speaker 1: because he ain't aging well, oh he looking a bit

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Speaker 1: of seventy six plus five. Yeah, he got any one

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Speaker 1: rolled all over his ass. Yeah, he ain't doing good

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Speaker 1: and he ain't even fighting good. He don't even know

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Speaker 1: what to do. See because he bet he spent years

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Speaker 1: abusing alcohol and finally caught up with him. And the

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Speaker 1: number one complaint it makes all his teeth to crumble

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Speaker 1: when he eats crunchy food. I'm gonna stop right here,

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Speaker 1: because when I get into this subject can tell you

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Speaker 1: what's really happening time. So let's just leave off right

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Speaker 1: hill on crunchy foods, all his teeth crumble when he

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Speaker 1: eats crunchy food. We come back. I'll explain all this

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Speaker 1: to you. Keep it right there. Coming up, Part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response to today's Strawberry letter, My wet and

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Speaker 1: wild older Man. We're coming back in twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Right after this you're listening to show.

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve. Let's recap today's Strawberry letter, the subject

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Speaker 1: my wedding wild older man. All right, we're back. We're back.

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Speaker 1: And this woman has she's sixty, she's got her husband

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Speaker 1: a seventy six, and the problem with it is he's

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Speaker 1: paranoid thinking she's gonna leave him for a man her age,

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Speaker 1: which is another sixty year old, and she honors her

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Speaker 1: wedding vows, but he doesn't start getting on her last nerve.

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Speaker 1: And why is he getting on her last nerve because

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Speaker 1: he ain't aging with no He got seventy six wrote

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Speaker 1: all over his ass. And when you've been abusing alcohol

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Speaker 1: as he has, it's seventy six plus five or six more.

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Speaker 1: He ever been a eighty one eighty two right now

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Speaker 1: and he looked now then got so bad that is

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Speaker 1: So you with your man y'all up in the morning

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Speaker 1: and y'all eating guess what a bowl of cabin crunch?

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Speaker 1: Guess what you can't get no more crunching food. It's

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Speaker 1: sad on the box capvin crunch. Why the hell of

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Speaker 1: y'all by that? You know good wear? He both get

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Speaker 1: old meal. But now y'all asses in here buying cabin crunch.

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Speaker 1: Here old meal, man cream, a wheat balto meal at best,

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Speaker 1: tappy oaker stuff you can mash with your tongue and swallow.

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Speaker 1: He didn't eating cabin crunch. Now he don't even know it,

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Speaker 1: but his teeth is crumbling now now he eating his

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Speaker 1: teeth with the damn cabin crunch. Uh, because Dave crumbling

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Speaker 1: why he eat. You don't stop eating, So now you're

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Speaker 1: chewing teeth. You don't even know what's going on. That's

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Speaker 1: his asses falling apart. And every time he finished, he

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Speaker 1: got less and less of a smile. He gritting at

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Speaker 1: you now and now it ain't even jack and landing,

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Speaker 1: no mo. He gritting at you. He just looked like

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Speaker 1: jagget edge. All his teeth is different sizes cross the

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Speaker 1: front and the bottom. They don't even line up no more.

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Speaker 1: Because he chewed him up with the captain, because he

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Speaker 1: chewed him up with the cabin crunch. Still, y'all know

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Speaker 1: good hare where he old oldmeal and Marto meal from him. Now,

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Speaker 1: then he got that he ain't gonna get him fixed

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Speaker 1: and go get dinches because he ain't going to the doctor. Okay,

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Speaker 1: most old dudes don't. He'd been won't have him plant

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Speaker 1: for years, but he knows we can't afford that them

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Speaker 1: hand plans. His highs hells, what he'd have did. He

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Speaker 1: just started wearing his hand and twist. When you need

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Speaker 1: on it. That means it's twist and nine dead. You

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Speaker 1: You can put your you can make a fingerprint, you

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Speaker 1: That his old black ass supping up there looking like

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Speaker 1: huk hooking because he bawled in the top and it's

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Speaker 1: old Jared care where he fighting this activator at is

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Speaker 1: beyond me? He and CVS and Walmart talking my wet

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Speaker 1: to pro line section that and how the hell y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't got no more care free cock. We're making no

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Speaker 1: more heater wrote the lustrous silk people and can't get

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Speaker 1: in here peeing. And then once you stop, you still peeing.

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Speaker 1: because it doesn't swow. Now you're sitting up in here

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Speaker 1: Could wearing them khakis because khakis is a dead giveaway.

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Speaker 1: you're leaking, ain't nobody got to know it. You're coming

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Speaker 1: Dennis and everybody know you to pet on your damn

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Speaker 1: self sitting up in here now now you're talking out now.

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Speaker 1: The year in is so strong it can jump the cat.

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Speaker 1: That's because of what he'd been eating, got eating penicillin.

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Speaker 1: Call it green and drinking hennessy. That's strong year. And

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Speaker 1: that ain't baby key. It ain't even yearing no more.

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Speaker 1: That's that that age rash. Just can't even call it

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Speaker 1: yearing no more. He didn't yearinate it. He's the natan.

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Speaker 1: He ain't that just fine stuff in the tarlet. He's

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Speaker 1: We didn't got time to talk about that. H She

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Speaker 1: got him some new shorts. Please leave us your comments

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Speaker 1: on today's Strawberry letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey. People

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Speaker 1: like Target that took a pitch up. He ain't coming

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