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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: this one right here, and you never know it could

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Speaker 1: be yours. So write us. Oh, buckle up and hold

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Speaker 1: on tight. We got it before you here. It is

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Speaker 1: a strawberry letter. Now. Now you put some extra sexy

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Speaker 1: on that. I know you did. I know you did,

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Speaker 1: just a little bit bit. Thank you, nephew. Subject just

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Speaker 1: burn the whole rv Dear Stephen Shirley. I am married

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Speaker 1: to a diehard football fan and we met in college.

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Speaker 1: We went to an HBCU and for years we have

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Speaker 1: tailgated with friends and family before home games. I had

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Speaker 1: a minor surgery, so I had to miss the first

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Speaker 1: home game. When we tailgate, we take our RB to

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Speaker 1: the stadium, hook up our deep friar and our grill,

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Speaker 1: and get to cooking early in the morning. It's what

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Speaker 1: we do. I found out recently that my husband did

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Speaker 1: that and a lot more while I was at home recuperating.

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Speaker 1: My girlfriend and her husband stopped by b in the

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Speaker 1: morning of the game, and she facetimed me to rub

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Speaker 1: it in and show me what I was missing. I

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Speaker 1: was tickled at how messy she was being. A few

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Speaker 1: hours later, she texted me and said she was about

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Speaker 1: to FaceTime me again, but she told me to put

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Speaker 1: my phone on mute. I got the call and I

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Speaker 1: watched my phone as she showed me three women that

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Speaker 1: I had never seen before, drinking and having a great

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Speaker 1: time in our RV. Then my friend panned over to

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Speaker 1: my husband and he had a tiny red head woman

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Speaker 1: was so loud so I couldn't hear what they were saying.

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Speaker 1: My friend said she met the woman. She advised me

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Speaker 1: to talk to my husband before jumping to any conclusions.

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Speaker 1: My only response was that I was going to burn

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Speaker 1: saw this with my own eyes, so there was nothing

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Speaker 1: he's not a cheater. He's accused my friend of starting

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Speaker 1: this mess, but I never told him who told me.

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Speaker 1: He claims he's not dumb enough to have this woman

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Speaker 1: I'm dumb? Should I believe that this was just innocent fun? Okay?

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Speaker 1: You know what, I really didn't know how to take

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Speaker 1: this letter at first, because it kind of made me

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Speaker 1: love you. It kind of made me laugh, Steve. When

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Speaker 1: she said she saw a tiny, red headed woman sitting

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Speaker 1: his lap in my head at first, but the tiny

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Speaker 1: red tiny Anyway, Then your friend said, don't jump to conclusions,

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Speaker 1: talk to your husband first. And who were these other

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Speaker 1: three women? I mean, where did they come from? It's

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Speaker 1: like he was just waiting for you to take a

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Speaker 1: day off or something so he could really really have

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Speaker 1: some fun. But in what world is another woman sitting

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Speaker 1: on your husband's leg in acme fun? I don't know

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Speaker 1: any nowhere, And it's not okay. Your so called friend

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Speaker 1: was dead wrong and the only reason she would be

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Speaker 1: doing something like this is to be messy. As you

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Speaker 1: said in your letter, she should be mad, so you

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Speaker 1: should be mad at her and your husband, her for

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Speaker 1: not minding her own business and your husband or allowing

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Speaker 1: just some random chick, a tiny, little redheaded woman to

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Speaker 1: your husband's lives when he says baby is not what

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Speaker 1: you think when you clearly saw him and this little

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Speaker 1: your own eyes. This is something you and your husband

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Speaker 1: need to discuss. You need to talk about this angst

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Speaker 1: all that. I mean, you know, as far as burning

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Speaker 1: why you feel that way because you saw this going on.

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Speaker 1: I know you're not gonna do that. You were just

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Speaker 1: talk Kenney and find out what's going on. Steve. Are

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Speaker 1: we about to disagree? Well, that's what the Strawbilarity letter is.

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Speaker 1: Fall See, there's a letter right here. Really, you know

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Speaker 1: how I say, oftentimes behind every moment of adversity there

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Speaker 1: to see behind this moment of adversity. I want to

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna point out the lesson in this and I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna point out the blessing in this you're married to

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Speaker 1: a die hard football fan. Y'all, men in college went

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Speaker 1: to HBCU tailgated with friends and family before the home games,

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Speaker 1: first game. We tailgate to take our RV to the stadium,

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Speaker 1: in the morning. And she said, quite assuredly, this is

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Speaker 1: lot of those regular things in life that I wish

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Speaker 1: I could do. My boys be going to the homecoming

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Speaker 1: sitting around. Man, my damn, I wish I could go,

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Speaker 1: but I can't because it ain't that way. So I

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Speaker 1: lot more. While I was home recuperated. My girlfriend and

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Speaker 1: her husband stopped by our RV in the morning of

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Speaker 1: the game. She faced time me to rub it in

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Speaker 1: and show me what I was missing. That's the key

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Speaker 1: statement in this whole letter. She FaceTime you to rub

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Speaker 1: it in and show you what you was missing. Oh,

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Speaker 1: she FaceTime you for Wayne molding now and she knew

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Speaker 1: it she's always been jealous of the fact that you

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Speaker 1: and your husband have a RV and they got to

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Speaker 1: come visit because their little ragged ass ain't got number

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Speaker 1: tickets to the game. They got a little car with

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Speaker 1: turn into nothing. Hang on, poeass tailgating their friends. You've

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Speaker 1: got we'll have her two if Steve's response coming up

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Speaker 1: at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: subjects just burned the whole RV. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter subject just learn the whole RV.

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Speaker 1: The truth of this letter is behind every moment of adversity,

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Speaker 1: there is a lesson and a blessing. I've said this

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Speaker 1: many times, and I'm gonna show it to you in

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Speaker 1: this letter. Here this woman and her husband been tailgating

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Speaker 1: for years to go to HBCU. They get there early

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Speaker 1: in the morning, family and friends. They set up the

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Speaker 1: deep frieda and they get the grilling. And she said,

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Speaker 1: it's what we do. I said, I missed those days.

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Speaker 1: I wish I could go back and do that sometime,

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Speaker 1: but I can't, so I wish I could. And then

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Speaker 1: so you missed the first game. Now, y'all been doing

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Speaker 1: this for years. First game, your husband go anyway, while

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Speaker 1: faced me to rub it in and show me what

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Speaker 1: I was missing. And this, I said, is the keith

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Speaker 1: to this whole letter. She faced timed you to rub

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Speaker 1: it in and show you what you was missing. Now,

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Speaker 1: she didn't call to show you what you was in

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Speaker 1: a good way. Girl, you missing it? We party none

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Speaker 1: of that right there. And because you said I was

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Speaker 1: tickled at how messy she was being, it tickled you.

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Speaker 1: Oh you laughing now, because that ain't why she facetimed you.

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Speaker 1: She didn't FaceTime you to tickle you. See, your reaction

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Speaker 1: was not what she wanted. What it's all having all

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Speaker 1: that fun without me because she jealous. She jealous of

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Speaker 1: your relationship, she jealous of your happiness, She jealous of

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Speaker 1: your r V because they ain't got one. They got

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Speaker 1: that little ragged ass hatchback. And when they opened it up.

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Speaker 1: It don't turn into nothing. It ain't big enough. They

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Speaker 1: They got that little tiny ass thrilled and sit on

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Speaker 1: the three legs. You can't put but two burgers on

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Speaker 1: that damn thing. Y'all got that whole set of and

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Speaker 1: her jealous saying, yeah, she got that little weather where

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Speaker 1: you can't putting them but an eight pieces. The child

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Speaker 1: hold in there and then he get real hot. You

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Speaker 1: can't touch it for two days. Damn, they got to

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Speaker 1: Hella jealous, messy as a few hours later, she texted

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Speaker 1: me and said she was about to face time me again.

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Speaker 1: But she told me to put my phone on mute.

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Speaker 1: See you know why because see you handle her reaction

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Speaker 1: the first time. Too long. You was tickling at her

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Speaker 1: From for jumping to any conclusion, my only response was

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Speaker 1: You can't hear what they said because they weren't talking

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Speaker 1: and talk about talk to your husband. Why would you

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Speaker 1: lowdowns stink behind. But the one I saw with my

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Speaker 1: to make me believe he is not a cheater. Why

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Speaker 1: how is he cheating? How is he cheated? But that's

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Speaker 1: not cheating? What was she doing that? It's damn, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: That's not cheating because she because she didn't see him.

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Speaker 1: It's inappropriate, it doesn't look good, but that ain't cheating,

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Speaker 1: and you know what cheating is, and you're trying to

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Speaker 1: make more out of it than it is. He's accused

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Speaker 1: my friend of starting this mess. He's absolutely correct, But

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Speaker 1: I never told him who told me? He know it's her,

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Speaker 1: because ain't nobody else in that would have did it?

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Speaker 1: Who else would have called you? Ain't nobody got your number?

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Speaker 1: But your messy ass friend, who I must inform you

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Speaker 1: is not your friend. She ain't never been your friend.

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Speaker 1: She's jealous of your life, she's jealous of what you got.

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Speaker 1: She don't want you to have nothing because she ain't

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Speaker 1: If he was trying to have sex with him, bam,

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