1 00:00:01,720 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: Isn't there a movie like that? Children Evil Little Children, 2 00:00:06,519 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, please help. I have a best friend with 3 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: whom I have been friends for many years. We've gone 4 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: through a lot of ups and downs together, supported each 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,480 Speaker 1: other through hard times, traveled together, and I've even watched 6 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: our children grow. She even gave me a baby shower 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: for my son, who is now five years old. She's 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: been a real good friend. She has a son who 9 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:32,080 Speaker 1: is nine years old, and this child is a demon seed. 10 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 1: My son is a normal rough boy who takes kai kwondo, 11 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: loves power rangers, and does all the rough stuff that 12 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: boys usually do, so he's not fragile at all. However, 13 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 1: I do not like to have her son around my 14 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: son because my son always winds up accidentally hurt. We 15 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: now live in two separate states, so last summer, me 16 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: and my children I have a teenage daughter as well, 17 00:00:56,680 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: went to visit her and her children. On the first day, 18 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: her son this is on the first day. Let me 19 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: read that line again. On the first day, her son 20 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: accidentally hit my son in the stomach with a bat 21 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: while they were outside playing. My son came into the 22 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 1: house crying, and her son said it was an accident. 23 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: On the second day, he accidentally threw a baseball into 24 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 1: my son's stomach with excessive force. On this day, I 25 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: was sitting in the house while they were outside. My 26 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: little voice told me to go outside and check on 27 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: them because I just knew that my son would wind 28 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: up accidentally hurt. As soon as I opened the door 29 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: to go outside, my son was coming towards the door, 30 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 1: crying as her son was trying to stop him from telling. 31 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: From that point on, I did not let my son 32 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: out of my sight for the rest of the trip. 33 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: My girlfriend and I are both single, so when we 34 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: went out that night, I told my teenage daughter not 35 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: to let her brother out of her sight because I 36 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: was afraid of what my friend's son might do. Her 37 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: son's dad is around on a very minimal level and 38 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: does not discipline him at all. This child is pure evil, 39 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: and I have recommended that she gets counseling to see 40 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: what's going on. Well, here's the problem. My friend wants 41 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:16,519 Speaker 1: to bring her kids to my house for a visit. 42 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: By the way, her other kids are wonderful. I would 43 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: love for her to visit, but do not want her 44 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:24,960 Speaker 1: child of the corn sun to come. How do I 45 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: tell her that her son is not welcomed in my 46 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: home without straining our relationship. Signed a mom who was 47 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: about to do some corn shook and all right, yeah, 48 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: this is really crazy. You know what, dear mom. You know, listen, 49 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: it's your house. You make the rules in your own house. 50 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: You cannot bring this confusion around you or your son. 51 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,600 Speaker 1: You know where you lay your head. This is your 52 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 1: best friend. So you guys should be able to talk 53 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: about any and everything. And really, this talk right here 54 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 1: is long overdue. Uh. You know what, you put your 55 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: five year old son at risk with this. You know, 56 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: nine roll a little monster. He just could not hit 57 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 1: my son in the stomach with a bat or a baseball. 58 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: He just couldn't do that with excessive fourth Uh. You 59 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: know her mom might be right that the sun needs counseling. 60 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: It might be something wrong with him. But how about 61 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: just some plain old fashion discipline, you know, how about 62 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: that for a change on his bad behind? Uh? Just 63 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: too many accidents happening here, too many And and I'm surprised, 64 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: mom that you haven't said something long before this, long 65 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: before this. So you know, tell her she can't come 66 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 1: unless see she gets her son in check. I mean, yeah, 67 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: it's gonna put a strain on the relationship because nobody 68 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: wants to hear bad things about their children. But this 69 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:39,360 Speaker 1: is excessive and something needs to be done. So talk 70 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: to her before she comes, not when she gets there. 71 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: Twelve minutes after, Yeah, well what you got, Steve say? 72 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: Oh that's what I say. What I think need to 73 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: have totally different, a little bit different. We'll be bad. 74 00:03:56,800 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: All right. You're listening show Jeanvigot today at one thirty pm. 75 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: I said, today at one thirty pm, please join me 76 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 1: for Facebook Live Strawberry Letter after the show. You can 77 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: find me. Today is the day, Steve. That's okay, I'll 78 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 1: get you one day. I'll get you one day. Anyway, 79 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: join me for Facebook Live one thirty pm Eastern today. 80 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: I'll be there, So make sure you come to But 81 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: come on Steve with your part two of Today's Strawberry Letter. 82 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: Children are the calling Stephen Shirley, please help. I have 83 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: a best friend with whom I've been friends with for 84 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 1: many years. We've gone through a lot of ups and 85 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: downs together, supported each other through hard times, travel together, 86 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: and I've watched our children grow. She even gave me 87 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 1: a baby shower for my son, who is now five 88 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: years old. She's been a real good friend. She has 89 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:46,920 Speaker 1: a son who's nine years old, and this child is 90 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: a demoncy. My son is a normal rough boy who 91 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 1: takes taekwondo, loves pile rangers, and does all the real 92 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: stuff that boys usually do, so he's not fragile at all. However, 93 00:04:57,080 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: I do not like to have her son around my 94 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: son because my son always winds up accidentally hurt. We 95 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: now live in separate states, so last summer, me and 96 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,600 Speaker 1: my children. I have a teenage daughter as well, I 97 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: went to visit her and her children. On the first day, 98 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: her son accidentally hit my son in the stomach with 99 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 1: a bat while they were playing outside. My son came 100 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 1: into the house crying, and her son said it was 101 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:23,359 Speaker 1: an accident. On the second day, he accidentally threw a 102 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: baseball into my sons with excessive force. On this day, 103 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: I was sitting in the house while they were outside, 104 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: and my little voice told me to go outside to 105 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 1: check on them because I just knew to my son 106 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: winding ba accidentally hurt. As soon as I opened the 107 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,919 Speaker 1: door to go outside, my son was coming towards the 108 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: door crying as her son was trying to stop him 109 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: from telling. From that point on, I did not I 110 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: did not let my son out of my sight for 111 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: the rest of the trip. My girlfriend and I are 112 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 1: both single, so when we went out that night, I 113 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: told my teenage daughter not to let her brother out 114 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: of her sight because I was afraid of what my 115 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: friend's son might do. Her son's dad is around on 116 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: a very minimal level and does not disaplin in him 117 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: at all. This child is pure evil, and I've recommended 118 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: that she get him counseling to see what's going on. Well, 119 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: here is a problem. My friend wants to bring her 120 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: kids to my house for a visit. By the way, 121 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: her other kids are wonderful. I would love to have 122 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: her visit, but not want her child of the corn 123 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 1: son to come. How do I tell her that I 124 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 1: said that her son is not welcomed in my home 125 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 1: without straining our friendship. Sign a mom who is about 126 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 1: to do some corn shucking. Well, corn shucking mama, let 127 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 1: me tell you a couple of things. Because you're a 128 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: single mother, maybe you haven't heard this. Boys play like 129 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: this all the time. The problem is when you put 130 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: boys together, someone is going to exert themselves as the 131 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: alpha male. Someone is going to be lead dog in 132 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 1: the group. Now you got a five year old playing 133 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: with a nine year old. That four years is huge, 134 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: especially so early in life. Well, the nine year old 135 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: board is just doing what he want to do to 136 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: your boy. Two things you can do. He's bullying your 137 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: boy around. He's trying stuff on TV. You finish, see 138 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: some wrestling moves, get put on him on his next trip. 139 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: Your boyfriend gets suit flayed, and do a couple of 140 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 1: fives and carry overs on your side. Notice, because he 141 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: ain't tried this year. He's just been working on stomach 142 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: stuff lately. So what he hadn't done is he didn't 143 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: accidentally hit the five year old in the stomach with 144 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: a bat then the next day throw the ball so 145 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: hard in the boy's stomach. Now your boy taking taie kwondo. 146 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: I don't really know what this is. Yeah, I know that, 147 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: but I don't know what discipline it is. It's defense, 148 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: see defense, Maybe your boy needs to take up back 149 00:07:55,120 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 1: swinging in baseball thrower offense. See what's gonna happen to 150 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: the bullet is when he stopped bullying, then he's gonna 151 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: find something else. When you hit the bullet back, and 152 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: the bullet take his first shot in the stomach with 153 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 1: the baseball back. See the way I raised my sons 154 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: is this. Somebody step on your finger at the school 155 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 1: before you get there. I'm sorry, or anything from them. 156 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 1: You have my permission to step back on their finger. 157 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. That's just all. See what my finger be 158 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: up at the school is the whipping bolt his kids listening? Okay, okay, 159 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:40,200 Speaker 1: see that. I'm sorry. This is the Strawberry letter, the 160 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: only way to school. These are my the way I'm 161 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: raising mine. Thank you, Steve. We do have to go 162 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: join me on Facebook Live today at one thirty pm 163 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: Eastern time, and we're gonna talk about the Strawberry Letter. 164 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:57,080 Speaker 1: Of course, today's Strawberry letter, it was a good one. 165 00:08:57,120 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 1: Today we'll talk about it.