WEBVTT - Sex Ed Part 2

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to another episode of How Men Think. And my

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<v Speaker 1>name is Brooks Like and I just want to say

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<v Speaker 1>last week's episode, the sex episode, was one of our

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<v Speaker 1>hottest debated episodes we've ever had. And our producer Amy

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<v Speaker 1>is looking at me smiling and laughing already. Well, I

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<v Speaker 1>just like that. People had opinions and we got so

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<v Speaker 1>many questions. I think we're gonna have to do Sex

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<v Speaker 1>Education Part three. I think today's part two, and we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna to bring it back again in January. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do part two today, but we've been just bombarded with

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<v Speaker 1>questions from you guys. Uh men at I Heart radio

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<v Speaker 1>dot com is where you can send us her questions.

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<v Speaker 1>And Amy is fired up because she received almost some

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<v Speaker 1>hate mail. I hate when you guys hate on Amy

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<v Speaker 1>because I love Amy and she's honest and she's opinionated,

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<v Speaker 1>she's vulnerable, and you guys don't understand how hard that

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<v Speaker 1>is to be in this community and on this platform.

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<v Speaker 1>And I give her credence for that. I can take

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<v Speaker 1>it because I think we got thirty emails that said

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<v Speaker 1>mouth stuff. That's That's also one of the reasons I

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<v Speaker 1>keep coming back is just to hear you say mouth

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<v Speaker 1>stuff and watch you laugh every time I say it.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say the words, but I'm working off. I

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<v Speaker 1>know it's so funny. Okay, So, uh, last week's episode

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<v Speaker 1>was sex episode. We answered your guys questions and the

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<v Speaker 1>and the biggest polarizing topic that we had was is

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<v Speaker 1>porn cheating. Yeah, people really have opinions. People are really

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<v Speaker 1>opinionated about that with their emails and their comments on

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<v Speaker 1>social media. And read this one and then we can

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<v Speaker 1>debate it. Okay, So here's one from an anonymous listener.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure where to even begin. First off, if

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<v Speaker 1>you are okay with your significant other going to another

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<v Speaker 1>person for hand or mouth stuff, then you're not secure

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<v Speaker 1>enough in your relationship. It almost sounds like Amy is

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<v Speaker 1>just saying that to sound cool. I'm still young and

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<v Speaker 1>I've been married for over a year and would have

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<v Speaker 1>never been okay for my husband to go see someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>That just opens up the door for an open relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And know, when you're significant other is watching porn, they

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<v Speaker 1>aren't thinking of you. If they were, they wouldn't just

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<v Speaker 1>try that, just go to you. Wouldn't they just go

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<v Speaker 1>to you in the first place. Some of the comments

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<v Speaker 1>just sounded naive. I would love to hear another woman's

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<v Speaker 1>comments who is in a serious relationship, So I have

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<v Speaker 1>a few comments. Okay, First, everybody should email us or

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<v Speaker 1>go on the Instagram and send us their comments. I

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<v Speaker 1>did not say I was okay with other people doing

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<v Speaker 1>mouth stuff. Just to clarify, what I said was I

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<v Speaker 1>was okay with porn. If a dude wants to watch porn,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. And two I will admit I did

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<v Speaker 1>say if they went to like a full body massage,

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<v Speaker 1>I also didn't care. It was Dmitri, who isn't in

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<v Speaker 1>here yet, who said his friend had a girlfriend that

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<v Speaker 1>said it was okay to go to other people for

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<v Speaker 1>mouth stuff. That was not me. But you didn't, didn't you.

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<v Speaker 1>So in the full body massage you would say hand stuff, okay, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>it just feels like as one of a massage. It's

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<v Speaker 1>on the outside of your body. It felt okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So hand stuff when you pay for it, you're saying,

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<v Speaker 1>is okay. Oh I like that you put the coveat

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<v Speaker 1>of paying for it if you're not a lady of

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<v Speaker 1>the evening but a massus massage therapist. But what if

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<v Speaker 1>what if it's hand stuff that the person is not

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<v Speaker 1>paying for that feels weird. It's their own Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>here's what I thought of. Here's why I do not

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<v Speaker 1>think porn is cheating. Okay, but I could be wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm very open to like hearing everybody's opinion because

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<v Speaker 1>I could be wrong. Although I did ask the guy

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<v Speaker 1>probably isn't thinking about you when they're watching porn. Probably

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<v Speaker 1>in my mind, I'll pretend Game of Thrones. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>watched it, but I heard it's very like sexy sexy. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fine if you watch that, So why do I

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<v Speaker 1>care if you're watching porn. It's just like a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more. Um, well, it's probably a lot more. I've

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<v Speaker 1>never watched Game of Thrones. I'm trying to think of

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<v Speaker 1>like more shows like that, but there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>TV shows where it pushes it, and I'm fine with that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's where I came to on that. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't know how much Game of Thrones

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<v Speaker 1>shows because I haven't watched it. I saw one scene

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<v Speaker 1>where some woman gave birth to like some dragons that

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<v Speaker 1>flew out of the room, but my wife was watching

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<v Speaker 1>and I walked in I'm like, no, I can't watch that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then there's just there's so much has like let

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<v Speaker 1>me think of I mean thirty Shades of Gray, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's like for girls. I'm trying to think of like

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<v Speaker 1>a movie that pushes it. I can't think of one

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<v Speaker 1>emails them. But I'm okay with that. So I'm okay

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<v Speaker 1>with porn. I'm okay with is definitely going to show

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<v Speaker 1>you visually more. I'm still standing strong on I'm okay

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<v Speaker 1>with it, but I would like to if I'm convinced

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<v Speaker 1>the other way I will be. I'll read every email

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<v Speaker 1>and be open to it. As of today, I am

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<v Speaker 1>totally fine if anyone wants to watch porn with me

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<v Speaker 1>without me thinking of me, not thinking of me, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I really don't care. By the way, that's completely okay.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna people are going to disagree. There's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be in our people in our community that agree with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's going to be people that disagree with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like the olden days they could read Playboy I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care, or read a book that's like saying you

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<v Speaker 1>can't read like an erotic novel. I don't care, but

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<v Speaker 1>I think okay, I get that part. I understand that part,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think our community probably does. But it's when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to the paying for hand stuff. The full

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<v Speaker 1>body massage is very controversial, very controversial. People just have

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<v Speaker 1>to email us and give us all the sides. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So that is to our listeners paying with If your

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<v Speaker 1>significant other went to a massage place and paid for

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<v Speaker 1>a massage and ended up getting, as Amy would say,

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<v Speaker 1>hands stuff at the end of that massage, is that

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<v Speaker 1>cheating or is that not cheating? Great, it's a good question.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the questions of the community. So you can email

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<v Speaker 1>us at men that I Heart radio dot com or

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<v Speaker 1>find us on social How many think podcasts keep all

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<v Speaker 1>the other questions coming because they are so amazing and

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<v Speaker 1>people are like they have trouble with the words to

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<v Speaker 1>the oh everyone emails and they just write the oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what. I actually really enjoy these conversations because

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<v Speaker 1>these are all things that people are thinking, all like

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<v Speaker 1>this sex episode we just did and the one we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to get into today. The questions, more questions from

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<v Speaker 1>the listeners. These are real and truthful in people's relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I want to dive into these. These are

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<v Speaker 1>things we go through I go through in my relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>and so we're trying to like set the weapons down

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<v Speaker 1>here and have an open conversation about topics that usually

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<v Speaker 1>are not discussed. So the doctor back and she is

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<v Speaker 1>amazing and she exceptional. Yeah. I can't wait to have

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<v Speaker 1>her in here again. Yeah, okay, you ready for sex

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<v Speaker 1>episode number two? Here we go. This is How Men Think?

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<v Speaker 1>With growthsl and Gavin to grop and I heard radio

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<v Speaker 1>Podcas asked, welcome to another episode of How Men Think.

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Brooks like joined again with co hosts.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys were so amazing last week co host Dmitri

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<v Speaker 1>and Rick. What up in with us again? I mean

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<v Speaker 1>to be invited back a second week As the title

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<v Speaker 1>of co hosts, I know three whole host to co host,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you have a host? I think you and I

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<v Speaker 1>together are one. We have to This is really this

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<v Speaker 1>is really how men think. Right here, we're missing Gavin,

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<v Speaker 1>we are missing Ryan, Ryan's dealing. Your voice changes every

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<v Speaker 1>time we're missing Gavin. We're missing Ryan texted me that

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<v Speaker 1>now he is projectile vomiting, has been vomiting for twelve

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<v Speaker 1>his carpets wreck. But you guys were such stellar co host.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to bring you back again, and I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>proud of you for stepping up to it. And gentlemen,

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<v Speaker 1>well you said you texted us and said more sex

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<v Speaker 1>this weekend question, and now we were like, we're talking.

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<v Speaker 1>Now now I'm realizing all we get as a co

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<v Speaker 1>host and but no, your co host sheriff Badges are

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<v Speaker 1>on their way, so we'll get you those. But also

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<v Speaker 1>on today's so we're gonna get into more sex on

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<v Speaker 1>today's episode. Is gonna be a follow up to last

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<v Speaker 1>week's episode, which was juicy um. And then also at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of today's episode, we have two very special guests,

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<v Speaker 1>three very special guests. And then also at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of this episode, we have three very special, distinguished guests

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<v Speaker 1>with a extremely exciting new announcement. We can to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about sex. That was one of them. She whispered in

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<v Speaker 1>whispering about sex. She just and that's the cliffhanger. You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have to listen to the whole show and come

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<v Speaker 1>back at the end to find out who does. But

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<v Speaker 1>super exciting announcement coming from some very fun people. At

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the show, m Dr Viviana is here.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to acknowledge you like I'm learning so much.

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<v Speaker 1>And and because I want for everybody to feel sexually

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<v Speaker 1>expressed and satisfied in their life that you are helping people.

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<v Speaker 1>You keep saying, understand and talk about things and communicate things. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I want everybody to feel that way in their life

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<v Speaker 1>and not to feel like they're missing out on anything.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's so interesting because people ask me what it

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<v Speaker 1>is that kind of got me into doing the work

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<v Speaker 1>that I do with couples and individuals. I want people

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<v Speaker 1>to have options. I Ultimately, I don't want anyone to

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<v Speaker 1>feel stuck, because life is too short for that, especially

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<v Speaker 1>when you're trying to do it alongside someone else or

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<v Speaker 1>more than one person. Well, and isn't life too short

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<v Speaker 1>to not be exploring sexuality as Brooks refers to it.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's great about it is that there's so much

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<v Speaker 1>play area that isn't go to go into something that

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<v Speaker 1>is maybe kinky or doesn't work with your spiritual beliefs

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<v Speaker 1>or doesn't work with your relational beliefs. There's so much

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<v Speaker 1>fun that we can have the problem is it's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because you said it earlier. I say sexuality because sexuality

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<v Speaker 1>to me, and it should be for all of us,

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<v Speaker 1>not intercourse. It is not just intercourse. When people only

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<v Speaker 1>talk about sexuality in terms of intercourse, I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>feel bad for them because you're missing out on just

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<v Speaker 1>the playfulness, sexist play. I just think they're uneducated. Like

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<v Speaker 1>you said, you need to stay. If you want sex Friday,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to start with Monday. And I just think that,

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<v Speaker 1>like and living in your own sexuality, there's actually enjoyment

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<v Speaker 1>there versus just receiving enjoyment in sex. And there are

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<v Speaker 1>so many couples, long term, happy couples who may not

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<v Speaker 1>be having sexual intercourse frequently, but they sure do have

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<v Speaker 1>sexuality frequently, annual sex, having annual or mouth step. So

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<v Speaker 1>um Brooks tease this up after the break, We're going

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about circumcision. Oh what I'm supposed to tease?

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<v Speaker 1>You could just leave it at that. Dr Viviana is

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<v Speaker 1>in studio with us. Dr Viviana coles in from Houston,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's just been making it rain here with just

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<v Speaker 1>amazing advice. Totally asked me paranoid over the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>I texted my body, But I'm okay with it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>embracing its expert The internet is not it's okay. The

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<v Speaker 1>internet is not forever. It's like the internet is like snapchat.

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<v Speaker 1>He deleted it. He told me he deleted it. Then

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<v Speaker 1>he must have ye, no question about that. So um.

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<v Speaker 1>The next topic that we want to get into, we'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to get your opinion on Dr Viviana is circumcision.

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<v Speaker 1>So what do women think about guys who are versus

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<v Speaker 1>guys who aren't. Obviously this is controversial, um, and it

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<v Speaker 1>has been for centuries, um, possibly even longer. Excuse me.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what I'll tell you about circumcision. We have

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<v Speaker 1>to be okay with the fact that it's for vanity

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<v Speaker 1>only because our bodies were made a certain way and

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<v Speaker 1>you're taking something away, something that someone brought up earlier.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually one of my cousins, he's smarty and he's a

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<v Speaker 1>thoughtful person. He said, why do we see it any

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<v Speaker 1>differently than female circumcision? And that blew my mind because

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<v Speaker 1>we are all pretty I'm going to go ahead and

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<v Speaker 1>look at all of you and say you're on the

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<v Speaker 1>same page. Female circumcision is not okay, So why do

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<v Speaker 1>we do this? Really, it's when they remove part of

0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:50.040
<v Speaker 1>the clatorus. So what mutilation? Right? Well, they call it mutilation,

0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:53.120
<v Speaker 1>But how is it different than removing the foreskin from

0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:56.480
<v Speaker 1>the relating the penis. People do see it that way,

0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:58.960
<v Speaker 1>so we have to either be okay that it's for

0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:02.960
<v Speaker 1>esthetic purposes only because studies show scientifically that there is

0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:06.160
<v Speaker 1>no strong correlation one way or the other with health issues.

0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:09.280
<v Speaker 1>The Internet when I did research, says it's to prevent

0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:11.520
<v Speaker 1>certain U t I s and men or this might

0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:14.960
<v Speaker 1>have been in days of YR but and HPV and

0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:18.280
<v Speaker 1>a couple other sort of disease preventions. So that is

0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:22.000
<v Speaker 1>what is causing people to feel justified in doing so.

0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:27.800
<v Speaker 1>Is that crap? It's it's crap because there's so many

0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:31.520
<v Speaker 1>other reasons. You can you can teach our children, you

0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:34.360
<v Speaker 1>can teach our boys and teach women how to handle

0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:40.360
<v Speaker 1>uncircumcised penises and the cleanliness and the hygiene all of that. Um.

0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.080
<v Speaker 1>That is, it's not that it doesn't happen, but that

0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:46.800
<v Speaker 1>is not going to prevent those things. Got it so again?

0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:50.440
<v Speaker 1>And uh, you know, I have a little boy and

0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:55.800
<v Speaker 1>I have a husband, and it was purely an aesthetic

0:13:56.400 --> 0:14:02.720
<v Speaker 1>socio cultural thing in my culture, um meaning American because

0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:06.160
<v Speaker 1>my Latino's I'm a first generation American Latinos don't tend

0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:09.680
<v Speaker 1>to circumcise, right. I read that. It even said in America,

0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:13.880
<v Speaker 1>and I married a seventh eighth generation Texans. So I

0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.080
<v Speaker 1>left that up to him because that's what I would

0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.560
<v Speaker 1>have wanted if I was, you know, having to make

0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.920
<v Speaker 1>a decision like that. But we had to come to

0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.440
<v Speaker 1>terms with the idea that this is for aesthetics. We

0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:31.400
<v Speaker 1>are changing and altering our son's body for possibly attracting

0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:33.120
<v Speaker 1>a woman in the future. So or any of you

0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:38.120
<v Speaker 1>willing to reveal what you are, I'm not circumcised. I am,

0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:41.920
<v Speaker 1>this is I am. Will you tell us more? Rick,

0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:47.880
<v Speaker 1>you want to talk about the why, Well, my dad's

0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:52.360
<v Speaker 1>not or you know my family and uh why, I mean,

0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I know why, but I mean my

0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:58.120
<v Speaker 1>what I did with my son was because we want

0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:02.240
<v Speaker 1>to be the same. There wasn't any sort of it's vanity.

0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:05.240
<v Speaker 1>So based on what Dr Vivian is saying about Vanity,

0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:07.960
<v Speaker 1>Brooks and I have better looking penises than you, not

0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:12.880
<v Speaker 1>at all. And then once I peel it back, and

0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.960
<v Speaker 1>the truth is he has heightened sexual pleasure that the

0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.960
<v Speaker 1>two of you will never have understood. So we found

0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:22.840
<v Speaker 1>someone who was circumcised and as an as an adult,

0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:26.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why and said uncircumcised was color TV

0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:33.040
<v Speaker 1>circumcised black and white. That is the difference because you, okay,

0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:39.160
<v Speaker 1>obviously I'm for that guy. He is his feeling was

0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:43.280
<v Speaker 1>way better before. Okay. So it's just like women with

0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:47.280
<v Speaker 1>the clatorial hood. When you become aroused, the clatorius swells

0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.960
<v Speaker 1>up and the clatorial hood retracts a little bit, right,

0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:52.760
<v Speaker 1>same thing when a man is erect. So all of

0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:57.720
<v Speaker 1>a sudden, something that doesn't typically touch anything like underwear, pants,

0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:02.200
<v Speaker 1>whatever is exposed, and so it's more sensitive. It just

0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.440
<v Speaker 1>makes sense, like when you're driving in a convertible and

0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.680
<v Speaker 1>you just peeled that top back and you're like, you're rick,

0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.640
<v Speaker 1>did you ever have any like when you're in a

0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:13.080
<v Speaker 1>locker room, any like insecurities about it? Or were you

0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.000
<v Speaker 1>pretty comfortable with it? Like you played water polo, so

0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.560
<v Speaker 1>people obviously were like around, I mean, you're showering or whatever.

0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:20.280
<v Speaker 1>I didn't really, to be honest, I didn't really think

0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:23.600
<v Speaker 1>about it. I mean I noticed it um, and I

0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:26.880
<v Speaker 1>don't think I was very I didn't feel insecure about anything.

0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.080
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't ntil like actually college when I noticed that

0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:35.160
<v Speaker 1>somebody else, like everybody had was circumcised, so you know,

0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:38.320
<v Speaker 1>but I didn't think in depth about it until college

0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:39.840
<v Speaker 1>and everybody and then there were a couple of guys

0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:41.680
<v Speaker 1>that were not circumcised, and I was like, it was

0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.240
<v Speaker 1>kind of more like, oh yeah, yeah, like we have

0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:48.240
<v Speaker 1>something in common. But it wasn't like a huge thing

0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.840
<v Speaker 1>that really wasn't down And was it a discussion between

0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.480
<v Speaker 1>you and your wife about your son or was it,

0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.840
<v Speaker 1>like Dr Viviana said, it was really your decision like

0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:58.960
<v Speaker 1>she did with her husband. We had a discussion, but

0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:03.000
<v Speaker 1>it was we knew what the answer was. Right. Well,

0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:06.639
<v Speaker 1>I've seen both and I like both. But that isn't

0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:10.480
<v Speaker 1>typical because guys, remember, I don't know how much poorn

0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:14.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all are seeing that have that have uncircumcised men in it.

0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:16.960
<v Speaker 1>We just don't have a lot of visual representations, even

0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:22.600
<v Speaker 1>though the vast majority of the world is maybe there's

0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:27.200
<v Speaker 1>a category for it. There could be. I'm sure there's somewhere. Yeah,

0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:32.080
<v Speaker 1>So this is the thing for women. If you typically

0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:36.200
<v Speaker 1>ask women, they will they will go with whatever feels

0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:40.760
<v Speaker 1>less complicated, So they'll say that they prefer a circumcised man.

0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:45.280
<v Speaker 1>But again, how is that complicated or less complicated because

0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:48.840
<v Speaker 1>it's what they know. Because because they don't it's a

0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:50.959
<v Speaker 1>visual thing. They think, okay, well what do I have

0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:52.640
<v Speaker 1>to do with that or what They're just not used

0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:54.840
<v Speaker 1>to it, and it's I mean, it's ridiculous, how difficult.

0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:56.720
<v Speaker 1>They don't have to do anything right. I mean, my

0:17:56.800 --> 0:18:02.160
<v Speaker 1>experience was when I experienced it, it was these words

0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:05.879
<v Speaker 1>are so challenging for me. Aroused, it looked exactly the

0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:08.960
<v Speaker 1>same as the one. The other one i'd seen, so turtleneck,

0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.360
<v Speaker 1>it didn't. Everybody said that, but it just looked exactly

0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:15.760
<v Speaker 1>the same. It's it's just like with volver variety. There

0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:20.359
<v Speaker 1>are there's foreskin, and there's it all can look different.

0:18:20.440 --> 0:18:23.720
<v Speaker 1>So some can be can hang past the tip, some

0:18:23.920 --> 0:18:26.800
<v Speaker 1>can would never hang past some it almost seems like

0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.800
<v Speaker 1>they're circumcised. Well, yes, I have different The person sent

0:18:30.880 --> 0:18:34.440
<v Speaker 1>a picture and so I have a picture of one

0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:38.920
<v Speaker 1>that is and one that isn't, and they look identical, identical,

0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:41.240
<v Speaker 1>And that's not always the case, I mean not exactly.

0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:45.160
<v Speaker 1>You can pick out of a lineup, I could pick

0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.760
<v Speaker 1>each of them out. But a lot of it has

0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:52.360
<v Speaker 1>to do with confidence and knowing your own body. If

0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:56.280
<v Speaker 1>you can teach your partner very quickly how to do things.

0:18:56.680 --> 0:18:59.320
<v Speaker 1>If it needs to be even addressed, then that's it.

0:18:59.400 --> 0:19:01.919
<v Speaker 1>You don't know, it's a question, but it's more of

0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:05.280
<v Speaker 1>a I have a friend that they had a baby

0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:10.479
<v Speaker 1>boy and he was uncircumcised. The father and the wife

0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:14.200
<v Speaker 1>was very I think she's Catholic or whatever and very

0:19:14.200 --> 0:19:17.200
<v Speaker 1>religious and very one where you know, that's the way

0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:19.760
<v Speaker 1>she wanted it, and so but she wanted to be circumcised,

0:19:19.760 --> 0:19:23.160
<v Speaker 1>and they went and got the boy circumcised, and I

0:19:23.240 --> 0:19:26.879
<v Speaker 1>just felt like that was like the biggest knock on,

0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:31.720
<v Speaker 1>like the dad of like you know, and it's I

0:19:31.720 --> 0:19:34.480
<v Speaker 1>don't know, I mean, why did he care? Why was

0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:39.919
<v Speaker 1>it um? I think chances are he did care. I

0:19:39.960 --> 0:19:42.879
<v Speaker 1>think he cares. But I think that ultimately she probably

0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:47.880
<v Speaker 1>just came up with the with the discussion and the

0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:51.800
<v Speaker 1>argument that hey, I, as a woman, if I don't

0:19:51.840 --> 0:19:55.040
<v Speaker 1>find it appealing or as attractive, we don't want our

0:19:55.040 --> 0:19:57.480
<v Speaker 1>son to go through that, which is a bond. It's

0:19:57.480 --> 0:20:00.040
<v Speaker 1>a little weird. It feels a little like make and

0:20:00.119 --> 0:20:03.000
<v Speaker 1>your daughter get a boob job. Yes, it feels a

0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:07.640
<v Speaker 1>little uncomfortable. Toolutely agree, but again, this is why we

0:20:07.720 --> 0:20:09.679
<v Speaker 1>have to just come to terms of the fact that

0:20:09.720 --> 0:20:13.080
<v Speaker 1>you're altering somebody's body and that we should probably leave

0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:15.080
<v Speaker 1>it alone. I know a set of brothers where the

0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:18.280
<v Speaker 1>older brother is and then the younger brother isn't. So

0:20:18.359 --> 0:20:20.880
<v Speaker 1>maybe the mom kind of freaked out, like why did

0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:22.879
<v Speaker 1>I do this? And then did not do it to

0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:27.320
<v Speaker 1>the younger son. Are the parents married? It's the doctor

0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:30.640
<v Speaker 1>won't let you. The doctor warned you, um, when they

0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:32.720
<v Speaker 1>do it, because Brooks just said, maybe the older son

0:20:32.800 --> 0:20:35.280
<v Speaker 1>screamed when it happened and she was traumatized when they

0:20:35.280 --> 0:20:37.560
<v Speaker 1>when the doctor does it, he warns you. He's like,

0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:41.440
<v Speaker 1>because I went in there because my son was young. Um,

0:20:41.440 --> 0:20:43.480
<v Speaker 1>obviously he's a baby, and so I wanted to be

0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:46.399
<v Speaker 1>in there. And he's like, just so you're prepared. A

0:20:46.440 --> 0:20:50.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of dad's faint. So so Ryan he's not here

0:20:51.000 --> 0:20:53.320
<v Speaker 1>because he just had a baby. The doctor asked him,

0:20:53.359 --> 0:20:56.239
<v Speaker 1>would you like to watch? And he said, no, I

0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:58.280
<v Speaker 1>believe And he said how many dads watch? And it

0:20:58.320 --> 0:21:01.399
<v Speaker 1>was like five. So that's how terrified the dads are

0:21:01.400 --> 0:21:05.720
<v Speaker 1>that they're doing this thing to the kid. Well, and fortunately,

0:21:05.800 --> 0:21:08.560
<v Speaker 1>because I did a lot of research on it, um,

0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:13.240
<v Speaker 1>fortunately there they do use topical anesthetics. They actually even

0:21:13.440 --> 0:21:19.520
<v Speaker 1>put an injection for anesthesia. But no matter what, it's

0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:22.159
<v Speaker 1>our producer Danielle knows someone who did it when they

0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:26.320
<v Speaker 1>were four and they remember it. Yes, so they will

0:21:26.359 --> 0:21:32.160
<v Speaker 1>say psychologically that adult circumcision is much more traumatic, both

0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:35.840
<v Speaker 1>psychologically and physically. So actually in a two different stories.

0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:39.160
<v Speaker 1>So I'm also Latin as well, so I like you said,

0:21:39.200 --> 0:21:44.000
<v Speaker 1>it totally makes sense now. So, um, one of my cousins, um,

0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:47.119
<v Speaker 1>he didn't get circumcised until he was twelve, and it

0:21:47.280 --> 0:21:50.480
<v Speaker 1>was yeah, and he was like, that was the most

0:21:50.520 --> 0:21:53.439
<v Speaker 1>traumatic thing ever. So when he went to go do

0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:55.880
<v Speaker 1>it with his son, he did it pretty early on

0:21:55.920 --> 0:21:58.560
<v Speaker 1>at two months old. And when he did it at

0:21:58.600 --> 0:22:02.159
<v Speaker 1>two months old, his son like a really severe reaction

0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:06.840
<v Speaker 1>and the blood wouldn't stop gushing out. So literally his

0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:09.760
<v Speaker 1>two months two month old baby was like pale in

0:22:09.760 --> 0:22:12.160
<v Speaker 1>the face. How to rush him to the er and

0:22:12.320 --> 0:22:14.960
<v Speaker 1>this whole the baby had to get a blood transfusion whatever.

0:22:15.800 --> 0:22:19.680
<v Speaker 1>So literally he has had the most traumatic experience when

0:22:19.720 --> 0:22:21.600
<v Speaker 1>it comes to that kind of stuff. And just because

0:22:21.640 --> 0:22:26.520
<v Speaker 1>it's typically routine or it's common, doesn't mean that it

0:22:26.600 --> 0:22:29.040
<v Speaker 1>has to be right. It doesn't really that we have

0:22:29.119 --> 0:22:31.159
<v Speaker 1>to continue to do this again. You just have to

0:22:31.200 --> 0:22:34.160
<v Speaker 1>be mindful of your reasoning. It can't. It's like some

0:22:34.200 --> 0:22:37.640
<v Speaker 1>people choose to do the piercing for a little girl's

0:22:37.680 --> 0:22:40.479
<v Speaker 1>years when they're weeks old, and then others wait, as

0:22:40.600 --> 0:22:45.000
<v Speaker 1>it's a rite of passage. You literally lit up with

0:22:45.040 --> 0:22:52.399
<v Speaker 1>that funny. It's great. Okay, so let's move on from that.

0:22:52.480 --> 0:22:54.919
<v Speaker 1>So while we're on that topic, we're sort of the

0:22:54.920 --> 0:22:57.800
<v Speaker 1>penis of the penis. Yeah, we're on that topic. Um,

0:22:58.000 --> 0:23:00.399
<v Speaker 1>let's talk about we have some points you're in some

0:23:00.480 --> 0:23:03.879
<v Speaker 1>questions from listeners. Penis size, Oh, the elephant in the

0:23:03.960 --> 0:23:08.000
<v Speaker 1>room or not an elephant? It doesn't matter, It doesn't

0:23:08.119 --> 0:23:09.960
<v Speaker 1>does it need to be an el It could be

0:23:10.040 --> 0:23:13.720
<v Speaker 1>it could be all worry about that yours is big

0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:17.400
<v Speaker 1>or small? Or what do do you do? Men worry

0:23:17.400 --> 0:23:20.600
<v Speaker 1>about it for sure, of course, really, but do you

0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:22.679
<v Speaker 1>worry about it once you're in a long term, committed

0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:24.760
<v Speaker 1>relationship or do you worry about it when you're dating?

0:23:25.119 --> 0:23:27.040
<v Speaker 1>But what are you worried about with the girl? Are

0:23:27.040 --> 0:23:32.240
<v Speaker 1>you worried about it like comparing it to another dude,

0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:34.679
<v Speaker 1>like where someone leans over there, like ricks is huge

0:23:34.760 --> 0:23:36.480
<v Speaker 1>or they're like, I don't think I would really worry

0:23:36.520 --> 0:23:38.400
<v Speaker 1>about it in a relationship with a girl. I think

0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:40.920
<v Speaker 1>it's more of like when you're in the locker room

0:23:41.000 --> 0:23:44.840
<v Speaker 1>or showering. I guess you know, like yeah, for sure,

0:23:45.560 --> 0:23:47.520
<v Speaker 1>for sure in the locker room, you're in like I

0:23:47.520 --> 0:23:49.119
<v Speaker 1>was in the locker room with twenty three dudes my

0:23:49.160 --> 0:23:54.840
<v Speaker 1>whole life, Like for sure, you're like looking differences, you

0:23:55.000 --> 0:23:57.280
<v Speaker 1>rank that all of them were pretty different or they

0:23:57.320 --> 0:23:59.760
<v Speaker 1>all sort of is it sort of a small window

0:23:59.840 --> 0:24:02.600
<v Speaker 1>of normal, and then there might be a one dude

0:24:02.640 --> 0:24:08.840
<v Speaker 1>he's super small, and I was one guy, but you've

0:24:08.880 --> 0:24:14.800
<v Speaker 1>got the biggest. I would say that most guys are

0:24:14.840 --> 0:24:17.680
<v Speaker 1>sort of in. From my experience, most guys that there's

0:24:17.680 --> 0:24:20.560
<v Speaker 1>a cluster of like they would fall into this general

0:24:20.760 --> 0:24:24.119
<v Speaker 1>group or size or whatever, and then there's like an outlier.

0:24:24.920 --> 0:24:29.360
<v Speaker 1>The outlier is usually like bigger, likelier, bigger. I've only

0:24:29.400 --> 0:24:32.399
<v Speaker 1>ever played with one guy that was like an outlier

0:24:32.880 --> 0:24:38.120
<v Speaker 1>smaller like payed with two guys. I played with two

0:24:38.160 --> 0:24:40.520
<v Speaker 1>guys that I can now think of that we're outliers,

0:24:40.520 --> 0:24:43.480
<v Speaker 1>small and sure for them it was an issue. It

0:24:43.560 --> 0:24:47.960
<v Speaker 1>was the same. And then I do remember one being

0:24:49.200 --> 0:24:52.439
<v Speaker 1>abnormally small, and then even the big one was just

0:24:52.440 --> 0:24:56.000
<v Speaker 1>sort of in that still realm of same but maybe

0:24:56.000 --> 0:25:01.119
<v Speaker 1>just like a hint more swollen. So circumstance, and I

0:25:01.119 --> 0:25:03.639
<v Speaker 1>haven't seen or touched that many. I know, it seems

0:25:03.680 --> 0:25:06.439
<v Speaker 1>like I have, but it's very low numbers. I just

0:25:06.480 --> 0:25:09.680
<v Speaker 1>met you, and I totally think, you know, I've only

0:25:09.720 --> 0:25:13.120
<v Speaker 1>slept with six people. Maybe seven soon, but that's it.

0:25:13.840 --> 0:25:16.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm fine with that number. I feel great about that number. Okay,

0:25:16.840 --> 0:25:18.800
<v Speaker 1>So this is the thing. Does anybody even know what

0:25:18.920 --> 0:25:30.720
<v Speaker 1>the averages? Three inches? Three three inches blasted as we're

0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:32.479
<v Speaker 1>talking about it, and someone got their cell phone out

0:25:32.560 --> 0:25:38.720
<v Speaker 1>and was like, it's about this laying the averages typically

0:25:38.760 --> 0:25:41.439
<v Speaker 1>around five and a quarter that when it's you know what,

0:25:41.840 --> 0:25:46.320
<v Speaker 1>when it's erect. Now that said girth makes a huge

0:25:46.400 --> 0:25:50.520
<v Speaker 1>difference in sensation, Okay, because I have actually had a

0:25:50.520 --> 0:25:55.320
<v Speaker 1>council couples through how to even begin to have penetrative sex,

0:25:55.440 --> 0:26:00.000
<v Speaker 1>because I would not like that like a fireplug, or

0:26:00.160 --> 0:26:04.080
<v Speaker 1>it can be or it can be too long, and

0:26:04.119 --> 0:26:07.199
<v Speaker 1>it can hurt our cervix. So there is such a

0:26:07.280 --> 0:26:09.960
<v Speaker 1>thing as too long. And all of you men who

0:26:10.040 --> 0:26:11.879
<v Speaker 1>keep talking about how big is better and oh I

0:26:11.920 --> 0:26:15.160
<v Speaker 1>wish women are not feeling that that is not what

0:26:15.240 --> 0:26:20.040
<v Speaker 1>they want. They do not want, Well, it is and

0:26:20.080 --> 0:26:24.040
<v Speaker 1>it's everything. That's the thing. Guys tend to boil down

0:26:24.600 --> 0:26:28.440
<v Speaker 1>their worth to their penis and there's so much more

0:26:28.480 --> 0:26:30.680
<v Speaker 1>to sex. Here's what I think guys like, and I'm

0:26:30.720 --> 0:26:34.680
<v Speaker 1>totally fine with this. They like to act like it's

0:26:34.960 --> 0:26:38.720
<v Speaker 1>big and have you go, it's big, even if it's

0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:42.840
<v Speaker 1>not like that's in my sexting. I'm like the big

0:26:42.920 --> 0:26:46.120
<v Speaker 1>you know whatever, even if it's just fine an average

0:26:47.320 --> 0:26:52.480
<v Speaker 1>am I right, Well, that's really I'm just gonna say

0:26:52.520 --> 0:26:55.760
<v Speaker 1>this because this is the show in my sexting, Like

0:26:55.960 --> 0:26:58.359
<v Speaker 1>one guy I'm not and I only have sex it

0:26:58.400 --> 0:27:02.960
<v Speaker 1>with like four people, like I need to I'm so sorry,

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:06.040
<v Speaker 1>but he said something, Okay, you guys, I'm just gonna

0:27:06.040 --> 0:27:07.719
<v Speaker 1>say it because people need to hear this and I'm

0:27:07.720 --> 0:27:09.159
<v Speaker 1>trying to be open and I need you guys to

0:27:09.160 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 1>be open. They said, I'm okay, it's so dirty, so

0:27:14.080 --> 0:27:16.680
<v Speaker 1>I apologize in advance. But they said, I'm gonna put

0:27:16.720 --> 0:27:19.280
<v Speaker 1>it in you, but it might hurt you, and it's like,

0:27:19.320 --> 0:27:23.359
<v Speaker 1>it's not gonna hurt I liked it, though I was

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:33.439
<v Speaker 1>like you're psychologically kinky for totally reality, Like it's totally normal. Okay,

0:27:33.480 --> 0:27:39.639
<v Speaker 1>So this is the thing about I think this is

0:27:39.680 --> 0:27:45.080
<v Speaker 1>the thing about that if you feed into that, sure

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:49.000
<v Speaker 1>did and if and if the truth is that he's

0:27:49.359 --> 0:27:53.040
<v Speaker 1>not that big, that's sort of he's just totally normal,

0:27:53.080 --> 0:27:57.040
<v Speaker 1>but maybe he's average. But overall you don't want to

0:27:57.440 --> 0:28:00.000
<v Speaker 1>feed into it, like, yes, it does hurt, yes, because

0:28:00.080 --> 0:28:02.680
<v Speaker 1>then if he gets off and you're not into that,

0:28:02.760 --> 0:28:05.879
<v Speaker 1>then we got issues. I think that was just for

0:28:05.920 --> 0:28:11.240
<v Speaker 1>the texting. Let me, she's only done five times. Let

0:28:11.240 --> 0:28:14.200
<v Speaker 1>me ask the ladies in the room. Does does size

0:28:14.400 --> 0:28:17.439
<v Speaker 1>to a woman make a difference? Bigger is worse? And

0:28:17.440 --> 0:28:20.400
<v Speaker 1>it does it make a difference for a long term partner? Bigger,

0:28:20.720 --> 0:28:26.440
<v Speaker 1>like is worse? Above can be worse than someone who's

0:28:26.480 --> 0:28:29.760
<v Speaker 1>slightly below average, for sure. I think that's what women

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:31.400
<v Speaker 1>say all the time. That's what people in my office

0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:35.240
<v Speaker 1>say all the time. The concern is, um if it's

0:28:35.280 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 1>too small. Now there's it's clinically called a micro fallus,

0:28:38.840 --> 0:28:42.360
<v Speaker 1>and that can be something that unfortunately there isn't a

0:28:42.360 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 1>really good surgery out there to help that. How common

0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:48.520
<v Speaker 1>is that it's not very common? Like the name doesn't

0:28:48.520 --> 0:28:54.200
<v Speaker 1>help itself. Micro Well, it's literally like this and they

0:28:54.240 --> 0:28:57.200
<v Speaker 1>have to release sendence through surgery. That might extend it

0:28:57.200 --> 0:28:59.760
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, but it doesn't really help. But fortunately

0:28:59.800 --> 0:29:02.040
<v Speaker 1>there's lots of sex toys that help with that. There's

0:29:02.080 --> 0:29:05.200
<v Speaker 1>the documentary I think I mentioned before called Unhung Hero.

0:29:06.000 --> 0:29:11.000
<v Speaker 1>Is that true? It's true. There's a documentary called Unhung Hero.

0:29:11.640 --> 0:29:14.120
<v Speaker 1>It's about this guy who proposes to his girlfriend on

0:29:14.280 --> 0:29:17.560
<v Speaker 1>like the JumboTron at a basketball game. He gets left,

0:29:17.720 --> 0:29:20.600
<v Speaker 1>He gets ghosted, like right there, gets left hanging. She

0:29:20.680 --> 0:29:23.520
<v Speaker 1>just walks away, Yes, she just freaks and like walks away.

0:29:23.520 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 1>And then later on she the reason she gives him

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 1>that she didn't get in there like except his engagement

0:29:28.560 --> 0:29:31.480
<v Speaker 1>is that he didn't have a big enough penis. And

0:29:31.480 --> 0:29:34.800
<v Speaker 1>then he goes on a world journey firing out like, yeah,

0:29:34.880 --> 0:29:36.960
<v Speaker 1>the irony of a guy with a small penis proposing

0:29:37.000 --> 0:29:41.320
<v Speaker 1>on a jumbo try And then he goes on like

0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:43.800
<v Speaker 1>a world journey trying to explore and solve the problem

0:29:43.800 --> 0:29:48.360
<v Speaker 1>for men that have smaller I don't know. Yeah, well

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:51.600
<v Speaker 1>he goes they don't show it, but yeah, he goes

0:29:51.680 --> 0:29:53.680
<v Speaker 1>to like a condom facility too. He goes to all

0:29:53.680 --> 0:29:59.120
<v Speaker 1>these different cont he didn't need all It's like the

0:29:59.160 --> 0:30:02.040
<v Speaker 1>guy of the condom. He's like, yeah, you would really

0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:06.040
<v Speaker 1>be smaller than average. Um. And then he explores different

0:30:06.080 --> 0:30:09.959
<v Speaker 1>sizes amongst different countries. Which countries are are on average

0:30:10.000 --> 0:30:13.440
<v Speaker 1>the smallest, Which countries are on average the biggest. I

0:30:13.480 --> 0:30:17.080
<v Speaker 1>believe like South Korea or something was one of the smallest,

0:30:17.160 --> 0:30:19.920
<v Speaker 1>and I think like Nigeria or something like that. Some

0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:25.560
<v Speaker 1>reason I felt Austria. Austrians. Don't quote me on that exactly.

0:30:25.680 --> 0:30:27.640
<v Speaker 1>It's been it's probably been five years since I've seen

0:30:27.640 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 1>the movie. Don't quote me on that exactly. But it's

0:30:29.800 --> 0:30:33.000
<v Speaker 1>it's very educational as well as like very real for man.

0:30:33.040 --> 0:30:35.040
<v Speaker 1>Like this is he goes to he's in this like

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:39.760
<v Speaker 1>back alley surgery room in Philippines about to try this

0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:45.000
<v Speaker 1>like crazy injection. And this is truthful, Like he's there

0:30:45.040 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 1>in the moment about to do it. He's sweating and

0:30:47.360 --> 0:30:49.320
<v Speaker 1>he freaks out. He's like, oh my god, I can't

0:30:49.320 --> 0:30:51.840
<v Speaker 1>do this. Like it's a man's journey dealing with this.

0:30:51.920 --> 0:30:54.680
<v Speaker 1>It's called unhung here. But again, it goes back to

0:30:54.760 --> 0:30:57.400
<v Speaker 1>this idea of if he felt like there were options

0:30:57.440 --> 0:31:00.800
<v Speaker 1>more more actually if his would be fiance felt like

0:31:00.840 --> 0:31:03.880
<v Speaker 1>there were more options and you can find satisfaction through

0:31:03.920 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>things other than pain and penetrative sex like that. That

0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:09.520
<v Speaker 1>kind of opened them up to a life of like

0:31:09.560 --> 0:31:13.440
<v Speaker 1>what if she had together, they could have been together

0:31:13.720 --> 0:31:17.040
<v Speaker 1>by the Sorry, just hug him and say let's let's

0:31:17.080 --> 0:31:20.360
<v Speaker 1>talk about it later. Don't ghost them on the jumbo try.

0:31:20.480 --> 0:31:22.840
<v Speaker 1>But while we're on the topic, could we quickly talk

0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:29.000
<v Speaker 1>about men's thoughts on breast augmentation? Do you is bigger better? No,

0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:34.720
<v Speaker 1>there's there's too big for sure? I think, yeah, I

0:31:35.280 --> 0:31:37.680
<v Speaker 1>look at it like I think. I think in general,

0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:41.760
<v Speaker 1>a person should be able to jog, just truthful, like

0:31:41.760 --> 0:31:44.000
<v Speaker 1>like a person should be able to work out. Okay,

0:31:44.160 --> 0:31:47.400
<v Speaker 1>well yeah, exactly, like you're doing push ups in your

0:31:47.480 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 1>arms are barely reading. But can you imagine can you

0:31:49.480 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 1>imagine not being able to jog because of something you

0:31:52.560 --> 0:31:56.200
<v Speaker 1>have augmented to your body? Like what if jogging isn't

0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:59.360
<v Speaker 1>your thing? What if you know? And and then so

0:31:59.560 --> 0:32:02.200
<v Speaker 1>is there little? Is there such a thing as too little?

0:32:03.360 --> 0:32:05.800
<v Speaker 1>I think so too? Yeah, I mean I think what

0:32:05.920 --> 0:32:08.200
<v Speaker 1>that I mean, here's the real answer is what that

0:32:08.240 --> 0:32:14.560
<v Speaker 1>person is comfortable with is from so go ahead by Yeah. No,

0:32:14.640 --> 0:32:16.520
<v Speaker 1>I was just gonna say, from a man's perspective, I

0:32:16.560 --> 0:32:19.720
<v Speaker 1>think too big is too much, and I think either

0:32:19.960 --> 0:32:24.320
<v Speaker 1>medium sized going down is the right size for boobs

0:32:24.400 --> 0:32:27.720
<v Speaker 1>or penis. So really quickly before we have to wrap,

0:32:27.880 --> 0:32:30.240
<v Speaker 1>I sent you all the picture of Jason Derulo that

0:32:30.400 --> 0:32:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Instagram took. First of all, that thing scared me. I'm

0:32:32.640 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie. But and he was lying when he said,

0:32:35.360 --> 0:32:36.720
<v Speaker 1>you didn't send it to me. I don't know what

0:32:36.720 --> 0:32:38.240
<v Speaker 1>this is. You have it right here in your notes.

0:32:38.360 --> 0:32:44.440
<v Speaker 1>What was only semi erect? Oh semi? He was talking

0:32:44.440 --> 0:32:48.000
<v Speaker 1>about it down, So I wanted to see what everybody

0:32:48.040 --> 0:32:53.520
<v Speaker 1>thought about Instagram taking it down. Also, wait, is this truthful?

0:32:53.840 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 1>That is he said that is his body, that's a

0:32:58.240 --> 0:33:01.360
<v Speaker 1>half mast yeah, he says, out of us. Yeah, but

0:33:01.520 --> 0:33:04.440
<v Speaker 1>the Internet, no, no, no no, he posted the picture. He

0:33:04.480 --> 0:33:07.840
<v Speaker 1>didn't use photo shot. That's the same like photo shot.

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:11.640
<v Speaker 1>I believe him that that is. It was intimidating to

0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 1>me either way, Like he's he knows that's probably coming down.

0:33:15.480 --> 0:33:17.560
<v Speaker 1>He's throwing it up there as like I'll get this

0:33:17.640 --> 0:33:19.040
<v Speaker 1>up there. It's going to get out. The Internet is

0:33:19.040 --> 0:33:21.800
<v Speaker 1>gonna grab it run with it. And everything. He was

0:33:21.920 --> 0:33:24.880
<v Speaker 1>very smart. Everyone is talking about exactly when was this

0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:30.200
<v Speaker 1>days ago? I didn't see. I saw it. Everybody in

0:33:30.240 --> 0:33:33.680
<v Speaker 1>the world used the two finger feature two enlarge, right,

0:33:33.880 --> 0:33:36.440
<v Speaker 1>everybody don't. Anyone in the room that says they didn't

0:33:36.520 --> 0:33:39.280
<v Speaker 1>is a giant liar. I was like, what's so different

0:33:40.160 --> 0:33:42.440
<v Speaker 1>you ever watched you ever watched track, track and field

0:33:42.520 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 1>or wrestling, Like guys that are in super tight water

0:33:45.880 --> 0:33:51.640
<v Speaker 1>polo water polo water polo cameras in slow mold. Everybody

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:56.680
<v Speaker 1>is the two fingers on Rick speedo. I used that

0:33:56.760 --> 0:33:59.320
<v Speaker 1>the three finger tap when it's like thinking, it really

0:33:59.320 --> 0:34:04.360
<v Speaker 1>blows up the heart. We'll put another photo of Rick

0:34:04.400 --> 0:34:06.480
<v Speaker 1>and his speedo up on the Instagram and ever this

0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:08.839
<v Speaker 1>guy he was looking for attention. He got it. Good

0:34:08.880 --> 0:34:11.000
<v Speaker 1>for him. And you know, I think they take it down.

0:34:11.040 --> 0:34:13.320
<v Speaker 1>I think taking it down it is probably not I

0:34:13.360 --> 0:34:14.919
<v Speaker 1>don't think that was right for them to take it down.

0:34:15.560 --> 0:34:17.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it was right of Instagram to take

0:34:18.480 --> 0:34:21.919
<v Speaker 1>photos of women that are up there with everything going

0:34:21.960 --> 0:34:24.319
<v Speaker 1>on and half of it's covered and it's still there.

0:34:24.400 --> 0:34:27.640
<v Speaker 1>But it's also what doctors. I agree. I don't think

0:34:27.640 --> 0:34:29.759
<v Speaker 1>I needed to come down, but it's what Dr Viviana said,

0:34:30.400 --> 0:34:31.920
<v Speaker 1>it's like here he is like, oh, look at me,

0:34:31.960 --> 0:34:33.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm so big, and he's like, oh, and it's only semi.

0:34:33.880 --> 0:34:37.319
<v Speaker 1>It's like he said that, yes, he said it was

0:34:37.360 --> 0:34:40.680
<v Speaker 1>only semirect. Wait he said that in the post. Well

0:34:40.760 --> 0:34:43.680
<v Speaker 1>I have that was because he felt Instagram was wrong

0:34:43.719 --> 0:34:45.879
<v Speaker 1>in taking it down and they said, look, this is

0:34:45.920 --> 0:34:50.120
<v Speaker 1>a sexual graphic sexual like you're aroused in this picture.

0:34:50.560 --> 0:34:54.279
<v Speaker 1>And he's like, it's only a semi. He posted it

0:34:54.320 --> 0:34:56.239
<v Speaker 1>and he's like, oh, this is only a semi and

0:34:56.280 --> 0:35:06.080
<v Speaker 1>then like a sales hitch, dude, Dr Viviana, you're rad,

0:35:06.600 --> 0:35:10.959
<v Speaker 1>totally rad. Marriage at first sight, married at first sight?

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:14.120
<v Speaker 1>Oh did I call? Pardon me? Married at first sight? Well,

0:35:14.120 --> 0:35:17.520
<v Speaker 1>it is marriage. Do you believe that's a good idea? Sorry,

0:35:17.920 --> 0:35:21.319
<v Speaker 1>I think it's nuts. Okay, so let's talk about that

0:35:21.360 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 1>because I feel like it's what I feel like if

0:35:24.239 --> 0:35:26.839
<v Speaker 1>they sexted me in the right way. I'm just kidding totally.

0:35:26.880 --> 0:35:29.359
<v Speaker 1>I've got too much chocolate. Here are my boobs, let's

0:35:29.360 --> 0:35:34.280
<v Speaker 1>get married. So married at first sight? Is this wild?

0:35:35.280 --> 0:35:38.719
<v Speaker 1>Just kind of modern take on arranged marriage? And there

0:35:38.760 --> 0:35:42.239
<v Speaker 1>are three experts and a ton of people that work

0:35:42.320 --> 0:35:46.760
<v Speaker 1>with potential and their singles, who want to get married,

0:35:46.920 --> 0:35:50.720
<v Speaker 1>who want to be committed, who have had it with dating,

0:35:51.320 --> 0:35:54.239
<v Speaker 1>they're sick, they're in their thirties. Usually they want to

0:35:54.239 --> 0:35:58.280
<v Speaker 1>have kids soon. They can't go through another tenure relationships.

0:35:57.400 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 1>How many couples have made it work? I think we

0:36:00.600 --> 0:36:07.880
<v Speaker 1>do know twelve? Well, well, what's making work? Like? How long? Like? Babies? Babies?

0:36:08.200 --> 0:36:12.440
<v Speaker 1>The first season aired five years ago. Uh so, and

0:36:12.520 --> 0:36:16.160
<v Speaker 1>we're about to start our tenth on January one. I

0:36:16.239 --> 0:36:18.759
<v Speaker 1>haven't this is only my second season. Season ten is

0:36:18.760 --> 0:36:21.840
<v Speaker 1>my second season. I came on a nine and I

0:36:21.840 --> 0:36:24.120
<v Speaker 1>love your most famous girl. What's her name? Jamie Otis?

0:36:24.840 --> 0:36:27.960
<v Speaker 1>So she totally made it work. Jamie was went to

0:36:28.080 --> 0:36:32.120
<v Speaker 1>husband Doug really stood out because she was not into

0:36:32.239 --> 0:36:34.239
<v Speaker 1>him when they first got married, Like she was on

0:36:34.280 --> 0:36:36.920
<v Speaker 1>the ground sobbing after she seen him. She saw him

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:40.200
<v Speaker 1>because they get married when they meet at the altar,

0:36:40.400 --> 0:36:43.360
<v Speaker 1>it's a legal marriage, and then they go through eight weeks,

0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:46.160
<v Speaker 1>seven to eight weeks, and then they get to decide

0:36:46.160 --> 0:36:48.400
<v Speaker 1>if they want to um stay married or get a divorce,

0:36:48.800 --> 0:36:50.680
<v Speaker 1>and we get to help them along the way. We

0:36:50.719 --> 0:36:53.319
<v Speaker 1>give them tools. I mean, I love that I'm able

0:36:53.320 --> 0:36:54.839
<v Speaker 1>to be so direct with these people. I love telling

0:36:54.840 --> 0:36:57.200
<v Speaker 1>people what to do, so no kidding, I'm never going

0:36:57.280 --> 0:37:02.560
<v Speaker 1>to send my boobs again. We know that. So you

0:37:02.600 --> 0:37:04.759
<v Speaker 1>sent one when we took a break, It's why did

0:37:04.760 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 1>you get my text? We really try not to have

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:10.640
<v Speaker 1>people focus on the physical, so when we're looking for potential,

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:14.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, spouses, we want people who are looking past that.

0:37:15.040 --> 0:37:18.320
<v Speaker 1>We want people who want an emotional connection. We want compatibility.

0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:21.840
<v Speaker 1>So we try our best and then we wait and

0:37:21.880 --> 0:37:24.040
<v Speaker 1>see how it unfolds. I'm impressed. How do you bounce

0:37:24.080 --> 0:37:26.800
<v Speaker 1>back from her falling down crying when she sees him? Like?

0:37:26.840 --> 0:37:29.279
<v Speaker 1>How does he bounce back from that? She like fell

0:37:29.320 --> 0:37:31.439
<v Speaker 1>in love with him? So Jamie and died there doing great.

0:37:31.480 --> 0:37:33.760
<v Speaker 1>We have so many other couples who are doing well,

0:37:33.800 --> 0:37:37.080
<v Speaker 1>They're doing awesome. I'm very partial to this last season

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:40.879
<v Speaker 1>season nine, Jamie and Elizabeth. They are one of our

0:37:41.480 --> 0:37:45.480
<v Speaker 1>roller coaster couples. And one of the sexual conversations that

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:49.759
<v Speaker 1>came up um and subsequently went viral, is that she goes,

0:37:49.880 --> 0:37:51.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't understand how you expect me to have sex

0:37:51.760 --> 0:37:54.160
<v Speaker 1>with you all the time when it's basic Caucasian sex.

0:37:55.600 --> 0:37:59.239
<v Speaker 1>What does that mean? What do you think it means missionary.

0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:04.680
<v Speaker 1>Remember what you did, not define it? So what do

0:38:04.760 --> 0:38:10.480
<v Speaker 1>you think it means missionary? Uh? Maybe really good basic

0:38:13.080 --> 0:38:18.400
<v Speaker 1>just trying to bolster right there and very in the bedroom,

0:38:19.239 --> 0:38:23.759
<v Speaker 1>very basic vanilla barely took their clothes off and then

0:38:24.560 --> 0:38:26.480
<v Speaker 1>boom boom, done and off they go and take a

0:38:26.520 --> 0:38:30.080
<v Speaker 1>shower and barely speak to each other. Something like that. Well,

0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:32.239
<v Speaker 1>we'll have to ask Elizabeth at some point. But the

0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:35.600
<v Speaker 1>truth is that's what people started thinking, and it's obviously

0:38:35.640 --> 0:38:39.719
<v Speaker 1>not categorically true. But then we also have you should

0:38:39.760 --> 0:38:43.000
<v Speaker 1>try sexting. We also have couples who don't ever consummate

0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:46.640
<v Speaker 1>their marriage during the process and wait until later or

0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:49.479
<v Speaker 1>not at all if they decide to divorce. But it's

0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:53.319
<v Speaker 1>a really interesting experiment, and it's not for everybody. I mean,

0:38:53.360 --> 0:38:55.600
<v Speaker 1>if you know that you're really into looks and you're

0:38:55.640 --> 0:38:58.239
<v Speaker 1>really into chemistry and all that, you don't get to

0:38:58.320 --> 0:39:02.279
<v Speaker 1>choose who you're marrying, so out of your control. Um,

0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:04.239
<v Speaker 1>But if it's something where you're like, I know I

0:39:04.280 --> 0:39:05.759
<v Speaker 1>want to be married, I know I can be a

0:39:05.760 --> 0:39:07.480
<v Speaker 1>good husband. I know I can be a good wife.

0:39:07.640 --> 0:39:11.400
<v Speaker 1>You pair me with somebody who is kind, generous, sweet,

0:39:11.520 --> 0:39:14.440
<v Speaker 1>and somewhat good looking. I'll make it wears and they

0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:18.720
<v Speaker 1>do hard past. It's very I prefer menus with pictures

0:39:18.760 --> 0:39:20.799
<v Speaker 1>on them so I can see that really fast before

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:23.320
<v Speaker 1>we go. Can all four of you answer this question?

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:28.120
<v Speaker 1>Can attraction grow? Oh? Yeah, for sure, definitely I can go. Yes.

0:39:29.600 --> 0:39:31.520
<v Speaker 1>What do you think, Amy, I'm terrified of it. I

0:39:31.560 --> 0:39:34.400
<v Speaker 1>don't know. For me, I'm scared of that because I

0:39:34.440 --> 0:39:38.359
<v Speaker 1>think sometimes it cannot and so I'm very worried going

0:39:38.400 --> 0:39:42.359
<v Speaker 1>in if I'm not a ten out of ten. So yeah,

0:39:42.440 --> 0:39:45.280
<v Speaker 1>for me, it's very scary. You're worried that you can't

0:39:45.320 --> 0:39:50.360
<v Speaker 1>become more attractive somebody, no more attracted attracted. So I

0:39:50.560 --> 0:39:52.440
<v Speaker 1>I feel that like there's people that I've met in

0:39:52.440 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 1>my life that as you get to know them and

0:39:54.239 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 1>understand them and appreciate them as a human, they become

0:39:56.960 --> 0:40:01.080
<v Speaker 1>more attract Brooks is really attractive to me ready, but

0:40:01.120 --> 0:40:02.839
<v Speaker 1>when but I remember the first day you met him,

0:40:02.840 --> 0:40:08.080
<v Speaker 1>they were like muscles. And that's the crux of this.

0:40:08.280 --> 0:40:10.040
<v Speaker 1>That's the crux of this because we can put two

0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:14.880
<v Speaker 1>people together who on paper are so compatible, and sometimes

0:40:15.120 --> 0:40:18.400
<v Speaker 1>they will get so fixated on any little thing and

0:40:18.440 --> 0:40:21.920
<v Speaker 1>we're like, why are you throwing away such an amazing possible,

0:40:22.280 --> 0:40:25.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, marriage forever because they're two inches too short.

0:40:26.080 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 1>That's me, So it's not for you, Amy, Yeah, but

0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:35.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm working on it. Two inches too short, were Dr

0:40:35.640 --> 0:40:37.839
<v Speaker 1>viv And I wanna just commend you, and I want

0:40:37.840 --> 0:40:39.560
<v Speaker 1>to thank you for traveling all the way from Houston.

0:40:39.640 --> 0:40:41.520
<v Speaker 1>But I want to also just thank you and acknowledge

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:44.480
<v Speaker 1>you for what you've given to our audience today. UM

0:40:44.520 --> 0:40:46.279
<v Speaker 1>for the people that out there that are listening, that

0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:48.879
<v Speaker 1>have undoubtedly been blown away by you, where can they

0:40:49.000 --> 0:40:51.880
<v Speaker 1>find you aside from the TV show? Where can they

0:40:51.880 --> 0:40:53.600
<v Speaker 1>find you and get in touch with you? I don't

0:40:53.600 --> 0:40:55.919
<v Speaker 1>often blush, and I don't even blush what I'm talking

0:40:55.920 --> 0:40:59.880
<v Speaker 1>about sex stuff, but I'm blessing now. Thank you. My

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:03.400
<v Speaker 1>website it's Dr Viviana dot com, D O C T O,

0:41:03.560 --> 0:41:05.919
<v Speaker 1>R V I V I A and a UM dot

0:41:05.960 --> 0:41:09.359
<v Speaker 1>com and then you know, married at First Sight any

0:41:09.480 --> 0:41:10.880
<v Speaker 1>I would love for you all to binge watch it

0:41:10.920 --> 0:41:13.520
<v Speaker 1>get caught up because next season is going to be amazing.

0:41:13.560 --> 0:41:15.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm so excited, and I have programs online so for

0:41:15.880 --> 0:41:18.759
<v Speaker 1>couples who can't come see me in Houston because my

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:22.040
<v Speaker 1>license is in Texas. Then I've programs online. Now I'm

0:41:22.080 --> 0:41:24.440
<v Speaker 1>super pumped about it. I just put them up yesterday.

0:41:24.560 --> 0:41:27.080
<v Speaker 1>What is a program online? So, Um, it's the Doctor

0:41:27.160 --> 0:41:30.360
<v Speaker 1>Viviana Method for Intimate Reconnection. And that is for couples

0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:33.680
<v Speaker 1>who can't get past the awkward hump of going from

0:41:33.719 --> 0:41:39.239
<v Speaker 1>like very awkward a very awkward, like they just don't

0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:43.560
<v Speaker 1>have sexual or sensual connections anymore, and emotionally they also

0:41:43.600 --> 0:41:47.120
<v Speaker 1>feel disconnected. So this is a very thorough, very extensive.

0:41:47.560 --> 0:41:50.880
<v Speaker 1>It is not surface. So it's for couples who really

0:41:51.120 --> 0:41:54.160
<v Speaker 1>want to have their hands held through a six week

0:41:54.200 --> 0:41:56.480
<v Speaker 1>program and by the end of it, because I've been

0:41:56.520 --> 0:41:59.000
<v Speaker 1>doing this for years, I just finally kind of systemized it.

0:41:59.280 --> 0:42:03.120
<v Speaker 1>But it's for couples who are like, we could divorce,

0:42:03.400 --> 0:42:06.160
<v Speaker 1>we haven't had sex in eight years, twelve years, or

0:42:06.200 --> 0:42:09.360
<v Speaker 1>even just six months, whatever it is, but they can't

0:42:09.400 --> 0:42:11.040
<v Speaker 1>do it on their own. If you can't do it

0:42:11.080 --> 0:42:13.759
<v Speaker 1>on your own, try it out. And then I also

0:42:13.800 --> 0:42:16.080
<v Speaker 1>have a primarial counseling course that I've also been doing

0:42:16.080 --> 0:42:19.200
<v Speaker 1>since I don't know when. UM, And that's that's great

0:42:19.200 --> 0:42:21.759
<v Speaker 1>for couples who just need to raise their confidence in

0:42:21.760 --> 0:42:25.319
<v Speaker 1>their relationship either before after walking down the album back

0:42:25.360 --> 0:42:27.359
<v Speaker 1>to the first courses that you're talking about. I think

0:42:27.400 --> 0:42:30.240
<v Speaker 1>that's even for people that just even want to study

0:42:30.280 --> 0:42:33.200
<v Speaker 1>more of that. Yes, even if you just don't know

0:42:33.280 --> 0:42:36.399
<v Speaker 1>about it or you're wanting to to kind of make

0:42:36.400 --> 0:42:38.799
<v Speaker 1>sure that you prevent things in the future. Let's say

0:42:38.800 --> 0:42:40.239
<v Speaker 1>you're dating and you're like, Okay, what do I need

0:42:40.280 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 1>to look out for. I've seen way too many couples

0:42:43.040 --> 0:42:45.080
<v Speaker 1>on the brink of divorce. I wish they would do

0:42:45.160 --> 0:42:47.680
<v Speaker 1>their work at the beginning. I mean, yeah, a little

0:42:47.719 --> 0:42:49.960
<v Speaker 1>preventative maintenance sort of like I want to learn more

0:42:49.960 --> 0:42:52.520
<v Speaker 1>about this. I don't need to wait till it becomes

0:42:53.560 --> 0:42:56.440
<v Speaker 1>really make or break in my relationship to dive into it.

0:42:56.480 --> 0:42:58.360
<v Speaker 1>So I think you can at that point. But also

0:42:58.400 --> 0:43:00.160
<v Speaker 1>if you, even if you have a great relationship to

0:43:00.160 --> 0:43:02.560
<v Speaker 1>look into these courses and study them, thank you. I'll

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:05.359
<v Speaker 1>definitely do it. So thank you so much. We appreciate you.

0:43:05.960 --> 0:43:08.759
<v Speaker 1>Last word for our listeners, last word that you would

0:43:08.760 --> 0:43:11.279
<v Speaker 1>love to leave the people with. I think when it

0:43:11.320 --> 0:43:14.799
<v Speaker 1>comes to sexuality, you've got to know yourself, and if

0:43:14.840 --> 0:43:17.640
<v Speaker 1>you can't know yourself, you need to get help because

0:43:17.800 --> 0:43:21.760
<v Speaker 1>it will come up in all of your relationships um,

0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:24.160
<v Speaker 1>whether whether it's a small part of it or a

0:43:24.160 --> 0:43:25.759
<v Speaker 1>big part of it. If you want to be with

0:43:25.800 --> 0:43:30.040
<v Speaker 1>someone long term, sexuality and sensuality will become a part

0:43:30.040 --> 0:43:31.759
<v Speaker 1>of it. And it can either be something that really

0:43:31.760 --> 0:43:35.359
<v Speaker 1>bolsters your relationship or it can destroy it. Wow. Thank

0:43:35.400 --> 0:43:38.080
<v Speaker 1>you so much. Dr Viviana Jones. Thank you. I appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>The cliffhanger that we've left you with at the start

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<v Speaker 1>of the show. We have them. We have three very

0:45:45.400 --> 0:45:48.560
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0:45:48.600 --> 0:45:51.399
<v Speaker 1>have a very exciting announcement. So we have Brooke Burke,

0:45:52.640 --> 0:45:56.239
<v Speaker 1>Megan King Edmonds and Leela de Ville with us. They

0:45:56.280 --> 0:45:59.760
<v Speaker 1>have a massive announcement. They have a new show coming

0:45:59.760 --> 0:46:05.040
<v Speaker 1>out on My Heart. It is called Intimate Knowledge. It's

0:46:05.040 --> 0:46:08.600
<v Speaker 1>a show about sex. Oh, it's all about all three

0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:11.600
<v Speaker 1>ladies are saying, this is a show about sex. So

0:46:11.880 --> 0:46:13.719
<v Speaker 1>on this show, we just did this whole episode. In

0:46:13.719 --> 0:46:17.000
<v Speaker 1>the last episode we just did, We're about sex. And

0:46:17.320 --> 0:46:19.879
<v Speaker 1>what's that curiosity? Did you see how well they did that?

0:46:20.000 --> 0:46:22.200
<v Speaker 1>They're like, it's intimate Knowledge. We're all like, we're talking

0:46:22.200 --> 0:46:25.319
<v Speaker 1>about sex. We're like, we're like, we played around for

0:46:25.360 --> 0:46:27.799
<v Speaker 1>so long with the title because it's a little bit

0:46:27.840 --> 0:46:29.640
<v Speaker 1>in your face, and for us, we wanted to bring

0:46:29.680 --> 0:46:33.359
<v Speaker 1>this conversation to life and do it in an educational, provocative,

0:46:33.600 --> 0:46:37.799
<v Speaker 1>sort of a sensual way rather than just sex. So

0:46:37.800 --> 0:46:40.920
<v Speaker 1>that's why we went with Intimate Knowledge. Ladies way of

0:46:41.000 --> 0:46:44.920
<v Speaker 1>talking about sex. I love it, so I pay so

0:46:45.000 --> 0:46:47.360
<v Speaker 1>I love I love this. I'm really excited actually for

0:46:47.360 --> 0:46:49.120
<v Speaker 1>this podcast to come out. I'm going to listen because

0:46:49.120 --> 0:46:55.759
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm going to learn a ton of this. Um.

0:46:56.960 --> 0:46:59.560
<v Speaker 1>I literally before before we started recording this overbreak, I

0:46:59.600 --> 0:47:02.279
<v Speaker 1>called Lee Weapon because you were so impressive on our show.

0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:04.120
<v Speaker 1>I would love to have you. Bet, I'm kind of

0:47:04.600 --> 0:47:07.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of upset that producer Amy put you on

0:47:07.239 --> 0:47:11.840
<v Speaker 1>their show. We're so lucky. Just wait, this lady is

0:47:11.840 --> 0:47:15.719
<v Speaker 1>going to just just spew knowledge that just blows you.

0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:17.759
<v Speaker 1>We need that because knowledge is king, and we need

0:47:17.800 --> 0:47:19.560
<v Speaker 1>to open our mind and we needed to learn, which

0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.359
<v Speaker 1>is why what you guys are doing is so cool.

0:47:21.400 --> 0:47:24.799
<v Speaker 1>So that women can understand the perspective of a man. Right,

0:47:24.920 --> 0:47:27.240
<v Speaker 1>So it works both ways. So I have a question

0:47:27.280 --> 0:47:30.200
<v Speaker 1>for all three of you, what what is your individually,

0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:33.000
<v Speaker 1>what is your mission and why you want to do

0:47:33.040 --> 0:47:38.400
<v Speaker 1>this project? I mean, for me, I think that you

0:47:38.440 --> 0:47:41.120
<v Speaker 1>know that sex is such a huge part of our lives.

0:47:41.200 --> 0:47:44.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it literally is the reason we're here. We're

0:47:44.000 --> 0:47:46.440
<v Speaker 1>all here on this earth. But um, it's so much

0:47:46.480 --> 0:47:48.960
<v Speaker 1>more than that, you know, It's it's emotional and intimate

0:47:49.040 --> 0:47:52.520
<v Speaker 1>and and physical and it's all these things, So why

0:47:52.600 --> 0:47:54.040
<v Speaker 1>why don't we talk about it more? Why is it?

0:47:54.200 --> 0:47:56.759
<v Speaker 1>Why is it bedroom talk? Let's bring it we I

0:47:56.760 --> 0:47:58.560
<v Speaker 1>want to bring it to the table because I know

0:47:58.920 --> 0:48:03.120
<v Speaker 1>I have questions and I would love to explore kind

0:48:03.160 --> 0:48:05.280
<v Speaker 1>of what it means in the in the bigger picture,

0:48:05.800 --> 0:48:09.160
<v Speaker 1>and so we're here to do that. And I also

0:48:09.200 --> 0:48:11.360
<v Speaker 1>think this is a conversation that needs to be happened

0:48:11.400 --> 0:48:14.960
<v Speaker 1>that women are having amongst themselves, but not necessarily out loud.

0:48:15.560 --> 0:48:18.719
<v Speaker 1>When I think about like sensual health or intimacy, like

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:20.960
<v Speaker 1>that's sort of what we're all striving for, a human connection.

0:48:21.000 --> 0:48:23.799
<v Speaker 1>I think it's why relationships work, why marriages fail, why

0:48:23.880 --> 0:48:26.640
<v Speaker 1>we're struggling, what we're looking for, how we lose our way,

0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:29.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, when it comes to sex, sensual health, intimacy,

0:48:29.840 --> 0:48:32.120
<v Speaker 1>whatever you want to call it. But we're all talking

0:48:32.160 --> 0:48:35.080
<v Speaker 1>about it. And maybe it's maybe it's because I'm on

0:48:35.120 --> 0:48:38.360
<v Speaker 1>the other side of marriage right now and I'm single,

0:48:38.400 --> 0:48:41.480
<v Speaker 1>and I'm in my forties and I'm sort of in heat.

0:48:44.000 --> 0:48:52.920
<v Speaker 1>Girl alogetically say that, no, but I mean I'm in

0:48:53.040 --> 0:48:54.960
<v Speaker 1>it right now. So Amy and I like went back

0:48:55.000 --> 0:48:57.279
<v Speaker 1>and forth for over a year trying to figure this out.

0:48:57.320 --> 0:49:00.080
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, there's so much comedy and challenge and

0:49:00.120 --> 0:49:03.680
<v Speaker 1>struggle and reality, and like, it's just amazing that I

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:06.320
<v Speaker 1>find myself after nineteen years of marriage now in this

0:49:06.440 --> 0:49:09.959
<v Speaker 1>space smarter, with an open mind and an open heart

0:49:10.440 --> 0:49:15.600
<v Speaker 1>and an heat still that do you want me? I

0:49:15.719 --> 0:49:18.239
<v Speaker 1>have a lot of male followers on my Instagram? Do

0:49:18.280 --> 0:49:21.160
<v Speaker 1>you want me to blast that? Probably? Probably don't. That's

0:49:21.160 --> 0:49:24.279
<v Speaker 1>not that's not in my bio. Probably don't say that. Um,

0:49:24.440 --> 0:49:27.759
<v Speaker 1>I was just being honest because I committed to honesty

0:49:27.840 --> 0:49:30.160
<v Speaker 1>on this project. But um yeah, let's like, can we

0:49:30.320 --> 0:49:32.719
<v Speaker 1>edit that out? And I'm getting no, I am you

0:49:32.760 --> 0:49:34.160
<v Speaker 1>don't have to put it in your bio, but I

0:49:34.200 --> 0:49:37.200
<v Speaker 1>think they're going to find out you've said it twice.

0:49:39.360 --> 0:49:41.400
<v Speaker 1>I think we know your purpose, but I want to

0:49:41.400 --> 0:49:42.880
<v Speaker 1>get more from you and just hear from you what

0:49:43.040 --> 0:49:46.239
<v Speaker 1>is your purpose and mission? With the podcast, I get

0:49:46.280 --> 0:49:48.440
<v Speaker 1>to speak about what I love to speak out most,

0:49:48.560 --> 0:49:51.480
<v Speaker 1>which is sex and intimacy. And I think it's just

0:49:51.520 --> 0:49:55.399
<v Speaker 1>such a beautiful offering because so often it's it's not

0:49:55.600 --> 0:49:58.920
<v Speaker 1>what we're experiencing that's difficult, is that we feel that

0:49:58.960 --> 0:50:01.800
<v Speaker 1>we're experiencing it. A loan and so this really cracks

0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:05.440
<v Speaker 1>the open that that conversation. And yeah, I love that.

0:50:05.520 --> 0:50:09.000
<v Speaker 1>I think it's any in all humans, men and women.

0:50:09.400 --> 0:50:12.160
<v Speaker 1>It's something we deeply yearn for and crave, is that

0:50:12.360 --> 0:50:16.080
<v Speaker 1>intimate and that physical relationship. But yet it's one of

0:50:16.120 --> 0:50:18.680
<v Speaker 1>the things that's very hush hush. As you said, Meg,

0:50:18.760 --> 0:50:21.000
<v Speaker 1>you want to bring this to light. It's something that

0:50:21.160 --> 0:50:25.000
<v Speaker 1>for some reason, culturally societally, we do not bring to

0:50:25.040 --> 0:50:28.040
<v Speaker 1>the forefront enough. So we try and do that on

0:50:28.080 --> 0:50:30.279
<v Speaker 1>this podcast. We try and open up a space for

0:50:30.320 --> 0:50:32.520
<v Speaker 1>men to open up, take the first step in put

0:50:32.520 --> 0:50:34.399
<v Speaker 1>down our weapons and say hey, this is what we're

0:50:34.440 --> 0:50:36.719
<v Speaker 1>dealing with. Um. But I love that you guys are

0:50:36.760 --> 0:50:38.759
<v Speaker 1>going at it in the space. We do it in

0:50:38.800 --> 0:50:41.239
<v Speaker 1>many different spaces. You guys are going at it specifically

0:50:41.280 --> 0:50:43.600
<v Speaker 1>through sex and intimacy. And can I just add to

0:50:43.640 --> 0:50:45.760
<v Speaker 1>what you just said Leather too, because you mentioned alone,

0:50:45.800 --> 0:50:48.480
<v Speaker 1>and just to be serious on the other side of

0:50:48.560 --> 0:50:50.880
<v Speaker 1>what I was saying before, I think in that time

0:50:50.960 --> 0:50:53.840
<v Speaker 1>and in solitude and spending time with yourself as a

0:50:53.880 --> 0:50:56.120
<v Speaker 1>woman to really understand where you are and how you

0:50:56.160 --> 0:50:58.680
<v Speaker 1>feel and how you think. Because when we really start

0:50:58.760 --> 0:51:00.480
<v Speaker 1>to learn and so for me, I have always been

0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:04.240
<v Speaker 1>an advocate for women's health and educating women and supporting

0:51:04.239 --> 0:51:06.520
<v Speaker 1>women in their journey whatever it looks like. So that's

0:51:06.520 --> 0:51:10.160
<v Speaker 1>really important for me to open up that dialogue and

0:51:10.280 --> 0:51:13.440
<v Speaker 1>to create a comfort zone and to have those conversations

0:51:13.440 --> 0:51:15.880
<v Speaker 1>that are a little bit uncomfortable but that are super

0:51:15.880 --> 0:51:18.319
<v Speaker 1>important as we learn and understand our own bodies and

0:51:18.360 --> 0:51:20.600
<v Speaker 1>how to connect and what we want and how to

0:51:20.640 --> 0:51:23.080
<v Speaker 1>find the right words to express that, because that's sort

0:51:23.080 --> 0:51:26.840
<v Speaker 1>of the struggle to even marriage and relationships for about

0:51:26.880 --> 0:51:30.080
<v Speaker 1>single life, but how to communicate and how to ask

0:51:30.160 --> 0:51:34.400
<v Speaker 1>and express and experiment and um, it's very taboost for

0:51:34.440 --> 0:51:36.279
<v Speaker 1>a lot of And this is why I really do

0:51:36.360 --> 0:51:39.320
<v Speaker 1>what I do, because I really feel that there's there's nothing,

0:51:39.719 --> 0:51:43.800
<v Speaker 1>um quite that will define our lives. Then the connect

0:51:43.800 --> 0:51:46.920
<v Speaker 1>the deepen connections that we have, you know, these really

0:51:48.480 --> 0:51:50.759
<v Speaker 1>define like the quality of our lives in terms of

0:51:50.760 --> 0:51:54.080
<v Speaker 1>our sense of aliveness and the bonding and connectivity that

0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:56.799
<v Speaker 1>we have with others, I mean sex and just in

0:51:56.960 --> 0:51:59.600
<v Speaker 1>relationship in general. And I just want to say, because

0:51:59.600 --> 0:52:01.239
<v Speaker 1>Brooke and have worked on the show for over a

0:52:01.320 --> 0:52:04.440
<v Speaker 1>year to get I'm like almost emotional about it because

0:52:04.960 --> 0:52:08.680
<v Speaker 1>here I know it's like hard, and these three women

0:52:08.960 --> 0:52:12.040
<v Speaker 1>are I'm so honored to work with them. And this

0:52:12.080 --> 0:52:15.880
<v Speaker 1>is a show that will be produced, written, edited solely

0:52:15.920 --> 0:52:19.399
<v Speaker 1>by women. The whole team is women, and these three

0:52:19.440 --> 0:52:23.680
<v Speaker 1>ladies are willing to be so vulnerable and put what

0:52:23.880 --> 0:52:27.520
<v Speaker 1>is very personal stuff and knowledge out there for all

0:52:27.520 --> 0:52:31.240
<v Speaker 1>the women and men listening. And that's like scary. So

0:52:31.760 --> 0:52:34.239
<v Speaker 1>just the last two episodes we've done, everyone was so

0:52:34.280 --> 0:52:36.560
<v Speaker 1>willing to like talk about a subject that's harder to

0:52:36.560 --> 0:52:39.960
<v Speaker 1>talk about, and these ladies are going to do that

0:52:40.040 --> 0:52:43.240
<v Speaker 1>for the benefit of hundreds of thousands of people listening.

0:52:43.280 --> 0:52:45.120
<v Speaker 1>And I'm so glad you said that. And use the

0:52:45.120 --> 0:52:48.279
<v Speaker 1>word vulnerable because Omegan and I are going through a

0:52:48.400 --> 0:52:51.000
<v Speaker 1>very transformative period of time in our life. I like

0:52:51.040 --> 0:52:52.960
<v Speaker 1>to even think of it as a bit of a metamorphos.

0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:56.120
<v Speaker 1>But being vulnerable as scary as shit, and it's hard,

0:52:56.280 --> 0:52:59.920
<v Speaker 1>and I worked really hard to be able to be vulnerable.

0:53:00.040 --> 0:53:02.759
<v Speaker 1>And I think in that space as women, if you

0:53:02.800 --> 0:53:05.440
<v Speaker 1>can get there, and there's just so many beautiful things

0:53:05.520 --> 0:53:09.080
<v Speaker 1>on the other side of that and scary, yes, but vulnerability,

0:53:09.120 --> 0:53:12.640
<v Speaker 1>I think is truthful. And to kind of expand on

0:53:12.640 --> 0:53:15.480
<v Speaker 1>that two brook, being vulnerable at a time when you

0:53:15.560 --> 0:53:19.240
<v Speaker 1>need to be the strongest, that balance is really tough.

0:53:19.760 --> 0:53:22.560
<v Speaker 1>And so to find that balance and also to not

0:53:22.640 --> 0:53:26.080
<v Speaker 1>deny yourself your your feelings or your emotions and allow

0:53:26.120 --> 0:53:29.040
<v Speaker 1>yourself to feel them. But also being strong, what does

0:53:29.120 --> 0:53:33.240
<v Speaker 1>that mean? So that's something that we need to explore

0:53:34.040 --> 0:53:36.920
<v Speaker 1>and and feel. It's beautifully said men too, because we

0:53:37.000 --> 0:53:39.200
<v Speaker 1>are always trying to be strong. And I think even

0:53:39.239 --> 0:53:43.840
<v Speaker 1>for a very masculine, you know, alpha man, having moments

0:53:43.840 --> 0:53:46.640
<v Speaker 1>where you don't have to be so strong, I think

0:53:46.800 --> 0:53:49.840
<v Speaker 1>is so powerful and sexy and so masculine and mother's

0:53:49.920 --> 0:53:54.160
<v Speaker 1>businesswomen like when you learn that you can become unraveled

0:53:54.160 --> 0:53:56.799
<v Speaker 1>and give yourself permission to be vulnerable. Is the first

0:53:56.840 --> 0:53:59.640
<v Speaker 1>time in my life. I wasn't that woman in my marriage.

0:54:00.400 --> 0:54:04.719
<v Speaker 1>Sorry David, I wasn't. But now if I knew, I

0:54:05.120 --> 0:54:10.480
<v Speaker 1>then what I knew. But seriously, like vulnerability, it is

0:54:10.520 --> 0:54:12.960
<v Speaker 1>strength scary. You know what I'm super excited about for

0:54:13.080 --> 0:54:15.960
<v Speaker 1>you guys is have you, guys hosted a podcast or

0:54:16.040 --> 0:54:18.719
<v Speaker 1>done a podcast ever before? Not together? I have, and

0:54:18.800 --> 0:54:22.200
<v Speaker 1>I really know so much for me how men think

0:54:22.320 --> 0:54:25.319
<v Speaker 1>for me has been more of a learning platform than

0:54:25.360 --> 0:54:29.440
<v Speaker 1>a sharing platform. How much I have learned and grown.

0:54:30.200 --> 0:54:33.200
<v Speaker 1>The knowledge that I've digested, the conversations were able to

0:54:33.320 --> 0:54:35.880
<v Speaker 1>have has helped me learn more than I've ever shared

0:54:35.960 --> 0:54:37.759
<v Speaker 1>on here. Well, I think that's the I think that's

0:54:37.760 --> 0:54:40.440
<v Speaker 1>the difference is that we're not here thinking we're teaching anybody.

0:54:40.480 --> 0:54:42.600
<v Speaker 1>We're here learning as well, and people are learning along

0:54:42.680 --> 0:54:45.600
<v Speaker 1>with us. We're not here saying, oh, we know all

0:54:45.640 --> 0:54:47.960
<v Speaker 1>the answers. We have a lot to learn, and so

0:54:48.040 --> 0:54:49.759
<v Speaker 1>when we talk about these things, we too are being

0:54:49.840 --> 0:54:52.799
<v Speaker 1>vulnerable and and trying to you know, realize and learned

0:54:52.840 --> 0:54:55.120
<v Speaker 1>things that we don't know. And I think that's why,

0:54:55.480 --> 0:54:59.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, it translates to listeners as well. Yeah, well, um,

0:55:00.160 --> 0:55:02.120
<v Speaker 1>what is like the first topic you guys want to

0:55:02.239 --> 0:55:05.280
<v Speaker 1>dig into? What is something you're super What can listeners

0:55:05.360 --> 0:55:08.200
<v Speaker 1>expect on the first episode? What so many? I mean,

0:55:08.280 --> 0:55:12.080
<v Speaker 1>we have the longest list. I mean, the craziest thing

0:55:12.200 --> 0:55:15.080
<v Speaker 1>is like we have twenty shows ready to go because

0:55:15.160 --> 0:55:18.319
<v Speaker 1>this is such a topic that women talk about constantly

0:55:18.440 --> 0:55:20.560
<v Speaker 1>get together indition, We're like, oh my gosh, write that out.

0:55:20.600 --> 0:55:21.959
<v Speaker 1>Oh we have to tell that story. Oh I forgot

0:55:21.960 --> 0:55:24.239
<v Speaker 1>about There's just so many things happening right now in

0:55:24.280 --> 0:55:27.040
<v Speaker 1>this chapter of our lives. What do you would say

0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:29.040
<v Speaker 1>For the first episode, We're really going to dig into

0:55:29.600 --> 0:55:35.840
<v Speaker 1>um the importance of intimacy and what intimacy really is

0:55:36.000 --> 0:55:39.879
<v Speaker 1>to women. It's not just sex to women. So it's

0:55:40.000 --> 0:55:43.840
<v Speaker 1>understanding what is it, how do we get it, and

0:55:43.960 --> 0:55:47.200
<v Speaker 1>how do we sustain it, how do we not let

0:55:47.280 --> 0:55:49.759
<v Speaker 1>it go away? And how do we trust someone else

0:55:49.880 --> 0:56:00.480
<v Speaker 1>with our own vulnerability and sexuality. I remember our conversation

0:56:00.960 --> 0:56:03.080
<v Speaker 1>on our show, and just like how powerful and how

0:56:03.160 --> 0:56:06.040
<v Speaker 1>much we learned about intimacy, that it's so different to

0:56:06.160 --> 0:56:08.120
<v Speaker 1>a woman than it is to a man, and you

0:56:08.320 --> 0:56:11.160
<v Speaker 1>have as good of an understanding of it as anybody made. Yeah,

0:56:11.200 --> 0:56:14.640
<v Speaker 1>I really love to talk about the mechanics of of

0:56:14.800 --> 0:56:17.520
<v Speaker 1>relationship and what what it is to be intimate, but

0:56:17.680 --> 0:56:20.000
<v Speaker 1>also what it is that we desire, you know, And

0:56:20.280 --> 0:56:22.920
<v Speaker 1>I actually separate those two a little bit because we

0:56:23.040 --> 0:56:26.200
<v Speaker 1>both we have both of those needs, the need for

0:56:26.400 --> 0:56:29.600
<v Speaker 1>love and intimacy and that relationship, but we also have

0:56:30.160 --> 0:56:34.440
<v Speaker 1>an equal not it's not equal for everybody, but a

0:56:34.680 --> 0:56:38.600
<v Speaker 1>charge and a desire like that desire for the connection

0:56:38.840 --> 0:56:43.279
<v Speaker 1>and the unknown and the erotic, and you know, both

0:56:43.320 --> 0:56:46.640
<v Speaker 1>of these things are at play, and so it's and

0:56:46.680 --> 0:56:48.440
<v Speaker 1>I love that as you're saying this, I'm thinking of

0:56:48.600 --> 0:56:53.560
<v Speaker 1>even within a relationship, even within a twenty year marriage, unknowns,

0:56:53.600 --> 0:56:56.239
<v Speaker 1>there's erotic there's like you don't figure everything out in

0:56:56.320 --> 0:56:58.360
<v Speaker 1>two years or it's not like, oh we've been married

0:56:58.400 --> 0:57:00.640
<v Speaker 1>five years and everything is the same now. So as

0:57:00.719 --> 0:57:03.160
<v Speaker 1>you're saying that, I'm thinking, this is a life journey.

0:57:03.719 --> 0:57:07.839
<v Speaker 1>This isn't this isn't a time um stamp. Yeah, time

0:57:07.920 --> 0:57:12.759
<v Speaker 1>capsule journey like discovery. I mean, just to be totally transparent.

0:57:12.800 --> 0:57:14.600
<v Speaker 1>It's like, because women, we think we figure it out

0:57:14.640 --> 0:57:20.480
<v Speaker 1>and then we change. So sorry guys, but it's hard

0:57:20.480 --> 0:57:26.360
<v Speaker 1>to even it's crazy, like we think we get there

0:57:26.440 --> 0:57:29.360
<v Speaker 1>and then our whole body, our hormones, our whole system

0:57:29.480 --> 0:57:32.200
<v Speaker 1>is just ever changing. So it's like we want stability,

0:57:32.240 --> 0:57:35.200
<v Speaker 1>but we won't want spontaneity like it want this ultimate contrast.

0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:40.800
<v Speaker 1>It's just a complete mind blowing cast on the shop.

0:57:41.480 --> 0:57:45.240
<v Speaker 1>It's like it's really really challenged. It's a dynamic. It's

0:57:45.280 --> 0:57:49.320
<v Speaker 1>a dynamic experience, and it's it's like just the phases

0:57:49.480 --> 0:57:53.400
<v Speaker 1>of the what women go through is just so tremendous

0:57:54.040 --> 0:57:57.440
<v Speaker 1>um and how that relates with our partner and the

0:57:57.520 --> 0:58:01.160
<v Speaker 1>dynamic that then creates and how then you're in alliterative

0:58:01.320 --> 0:58:04.800
<v Speaker 1>process of relating, Like it isn't a stagnant thing. It

0:58:04.960 --> 0:58:07.720
<v Speaker 1>isn't always, it's not constant um be kind of it's

0:58:07.760 --> 0:58:09.760
<v Speaker 1>kind of like the moon, right, It's like we're going

0:58:09.840 --> 0:58:12.840
<v Speaker 1>through cycles constantly. I'm excited for this. I want to

0:58:12.880 --> 0:58:15.480
<v Speaker 1>listen to this because I wanted January six. Thanks for

0:58:15.600 --> 0:58:19.200
<v Speaker 1>helping us launch it, and I love what you guys

0:58:19.240 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 1>are doing. I want to listen to this because I

0:58:21.040 --> 0:58:23.680
<v Speaker 1>want to be educated more like we have actually more

0:58:23.760 --> 0:58:25.680
<v Speaker 1>female listeners. I think of how men think than we

0:58:25.760 --> 0:58:27.720
<v Speaker 1>have men in the mission. I started out with this

0:58:27.880 --> 0:58:30.760
<v Speaker 1>listening to like serve young man, to serve men, and

0:58:30.960 --> 0:58:33.840
<v Speaker 1>we've had women in flocks tune into this show and

0:58:33.920 --> 0:58:37.480
<v Speaker 1>can Lela when you were on our show, I don't

0:58:37.480 --> 0:58:39.160
<v Speaker 1>think you got to saw this. You got to saw this,

0:58:39.280 --> 0:58:41.200
<v Speaker 1>got to see this. But we sat there and we

0:58:41.240 --> 0:58:43.240
<v Speaker 1>talked for a long time, all of us, and we

0:58:43.320 --> 0:58:45.000
<v Speaker 1>didn't take any break for a while. So when we

0:58:45.080 --> 0:58:47.280
<v Speaker 1>were done, all the guys went to the men's room

0:58:48.040 --> 0:58:50.320
<v Speaker 1>and when we walked in there, every single one of

0:58:50.400 --> 0:58:54.400
<v Speaker 1>us was like wow, like we had learned so much

0:58:54.600 --> 0:58:56.600
<v Speaker 1>and heard so much from you that we didn't know

0:58:57.480 --> 0:58:59.320
<v Speaker 1>and as like we had the conversation, we're learning it,

0:58:59.400 --> 0:59:02.240
<v Speaker 1>but it almost like we were having the conversation but

0:59:02.320 --> 0:59:03.520
<v Speaker 1>we held our breath and when we went in there

0:59:03.560 --> 0:59:06.840
<v Speaker 1>after what we were like, like, it was exhausting how

0:59:06.960 --> 0:59:09.080
<v Speaker 1>much we didn't know that we were learning. Yeah, I

0:59:09.160 --> 0:59:10.960
<v Speaker 1>hope we get to say that too, and then it's

0:59:11.040 --> 0:59:13.160
<v Speaker 1>not just a chick journey that men will tune in

0:59:13.240 --> 0:59:16.400
<v Speaker 1>and that we can learn because it's really about understanding

0:59:16.440 --> 0:59:20.000
<v Speaker 1>the polarity of both masculine and feminine. So that's amazing

0:59:20.160 --> 0:59:21.840
<v Speaker 1>you guys. Well, then I hope that we get to

0:59:21.880 --> 0:59:23.920
<v Speaker 1>say the same thing, and I think you will. I

0:59:24.040 --> 0:59:27.760
<v Speaker 1>hope guys tune into it because it's I think from

0:59:27.840 --> 0:59:32.800
<v Speaker 1>a cultural perspective, I think there's a stigma that um

0:59:34.320 --> 0:59:41.120
<v Speaker 1>sensuality and spirituality and intimacy is a woman's thing. I

0:59:41.200 --> 0:59:43.880
<v Speaker 1>think like in the locker rooms that I was in in,

0:59:44.040 --> 0:59:47.320
<v Speaker 1>in the conditions and culture that I spent most of

0:59:47.400 --> 0:59:49.960
<v Speaker 1>my life in, that was the consensus is that it

0:59:50.040 --> 0:59:53.320
<v Speaker 1>was viewed as as that. And now being outside and

0:59:53.440 --> 0:59:57.040
<v Speaker 1>removing those layers and conditions and things that were became

0:59:57.080 --> 0:59:59.320
<v Speaker 1>a part of me. I'm like, so curious about this

0:59:59.440 --> 1:00:02.560
<v Speaker 1>space for myself. I want to understand my wife as well,

1:00:02.640 --> 1:00:06.200
<v Speaker 1>but I want to understand intimacy for myself and what

1:00:06.320 --> 1:00:08.800
<v Speaker 1>does that even look like in presence in my life.

1:00:08.840 --> 1:00:11.480
<v Speaker 1>So I think guys will tune into this, And if

1:00:11.520 --> 1:00:13.920
<v Speaker 1>you're a gentleman listening to our show right now, I

1:00:14.080 --> 1:00:18.800
<v Speaker 1>fully encourage you to listen to their podcast to explore yourself,

1:00:18.880 --> 1:00:20.800
<v Speaker 1>but also to learn more about your partner and how

1:00:20.840 --> 1:00:23.080
<v Speaker 1>you can communicate better with them. So I'm super excited

1:00:23.080 --> 1:00:24.560
<v Speaker 1>for Look, even if you think you know, you don't.

1:00:24.600 --> 1:00:33.880
<v Speaker 1>Brook said, they decide and then they change, So you come. Brooke, Megan, Leela,

1:00:34.000 --> 1:00:37.360
<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. The podcast January six, and it's

1:00:38.160 --> 1:00:40.720
<v Speaker 1>intimate knowledge. You can find it right here on I

1:00:40.840 --> 1:00:43.320
<v Speaker 1>Heart anywhere else you get your podcast. That's it for

1:00:43.440 --> 1:00:45.760
<v Speaker 1>this episode of How Men Think. We'll see you right

1:00:45.800 --> 1:00:48.160
<v Speaker 1>back here next week. Till then, take care of one another,

1:00:48.640 --> 1:00:53.040
<v Speaker 1>love one another. You have a lot of sex that's new.