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Speaker 1: last week's episode, the sex episode, was one of our

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Speaker 1: hottest debated episodes we've ever had. And our producer Amy

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Speaker 1: just like that. People had opinions and we got so

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Speaker 1: many questions. I think we're gonna have to do Sex

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Speaker 1: Education Part three. I think today's part two, and we're

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Speaker 1: gonna to bring it back again in January. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: do part two today, but we've been just bombarded with

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Speaker 1: questions from you guys. Uh men at I Heart radio

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Speaker 1: And Amy is fired up because she received almost some

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Speaker 1: hate mail. I hate when you guys hate on Amy

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Speaker 1: because I love Amy and she's honest and she's opinionated,

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Speaker 1: she's vulnerable, and you guys don't understand how hard that

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Speaker 1: And I give her credence for that. I can take

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Speaker 1: it because I think we got thirty emails that said

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Speaker 1: I can't say the words, but I'm working off. I

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Speaker 1: know it's so funny. Okay, So, uh, last week's episode

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Speaker 1: debate it. Okay, So here's one from an anonymous listener.

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Speaker 1: person for hand or mouth stuff, then you're not secure

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Speaker 1: enough in your relationship. It almost sounds like Amy is

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Speaker 1: just saying that to sound cool. I'm still young and

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Speaker 1: I've been married for over a year and would have

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Speaker 1: And know, when you're significant other is watching porn, they

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Speaker 1: a few comments. Okay, First, everybody should email us or

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Speaker 1: I don't care. And two I will admit I did

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Speaker 1: I also didn't care. It was Dmitri, who isn't in

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Speaker 1: So in the full body massage you would say hand stuff, okay, fine,

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Speaker 1: it just feels like as one of a massage. It's

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Speaker 1: So hand stuff when you pay for it, you're saying,

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Speaker 1: here's what I thought of. Here's why I do not

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Speaker 1: cheating or is that not cheating? Great, it's a good question.

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Speaker 1: episode number two? Here we go. This is How Men Think?

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Speaker 1: With growthsl and Gavin to grop and I heard radio

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Speaker 1: Podcas asked, welcome to another episode of How Men Think.

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Speaker 1: My name is Brooks like joined again with co hosts.

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Speaker 1: You guys were so amazing last week co host Dmitri

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Speaker 1: and Rick. What up in with us again? I mean

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Speaker 1: we are missing Ryan, Ryan's dealing. Your voice changes every

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Speaker 1: group or size or whatever, and then there's like an outlier.

426
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 1: The outlier is usually like bigger, likelier, bigger. I've only

427
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,399
Speaker 1: ever played with one guy that was like an outlier

428
00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: smaller like payed with two guys. I played with two

429
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: guys that I can now think of that we're outliers,

430
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 1: small and sure for them it was an issue. It

431
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: was the same. And then I do remember one being

432
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:52,439
Speaker 1: abnormally small, and then even the big one was just

433
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: sort of in that still realm of same but maybe

434
00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 1: just like a hint more swollen. So circumstance, and I

435
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 1: haven't seen or touched that many. I know, it seems

436
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: like I have, but it's very low numbers. I just

437
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 1: met you, and I totally think, you know, I've only

438
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:13,120
Speaker 1: slept with six people. Maybe seven soon, but that's it.

439
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 1: I'm fine with that number. I feel great about that number. Okay,

440
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 1: So this is the thing. Does anybody even know what

441
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 1: the averages? Three inches? Three three inches blasted as we're

442
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,479
Speaker 1: talking about it, and someone got their cell phone out

443
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 1: and was like, it's about this laying the averages typically

444
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:41,439
Speaker 1: around five and a quarter that when it's you know what,

445
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 1: when it's erect. Now that said girth makes a huge

446
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: difference in sensation, Okay, because I have actually had a

447
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: council couples through how to even begin to have penetrative sex,

448
00:25:55,440 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 1: because I would not like that like a fireplug, or

449
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 1: it can be or it can be too long, and

450
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:07,199
Speaker 1: it can hurt our cervix. So there is such a

451
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: thing as too long. And all of you men who

452
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:11,879
Speaker 1: keep talking about how big is better and oh I

453
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:15,160
Speaker 1: wish women are not feeling that that is not what

454
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: they want. They do not want, Well, it is and

455
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: it's everything. That's the thing. Guys tend to boil down

456
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 1: their worth to their penis and there's so much more

457
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 1: to sex. Here's what I think guys like, and I'm

458
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 1: totally fine with this. They like to act like it's

459
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 1: big and have you go, it's big, even if it's

460
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 1: not like that's in my sexting. I'm like the big

461
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 1: you know whatever, even if it's just fine an average

462
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 1: am I right, Well, that's really I'm just gonna say

463
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: this because this is the show in my sexting, Like

464
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 1: one guy I'm not and I only have sex it

465
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 1: with like four people, like I need to I'm so sorry,

466
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: but he said something, Okay, you guys, I'm just gonna

467
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:07,719
Speaker 1: say it because people need to hear this and I'm

468
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 1: trying to be open and I need you guys to

469
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: be open. They said, I'm okay, it's so dirty, so

470
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 1: I apologize in advance. But they said, I'm gonna put

471
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: it in you, but it might hurt you, and it's like,

472
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: it's not gonna hurt I liked it, though I was

473
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:33,439
Speaker 1: like you're psychologically kinky for totally reality, Like it's totally normal. Okay,

474
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:39,639
Speaker 1: So this is the thing about I think this is

475
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 1: the thing about that if you feed into that, sure

476
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: did and if and if the truth is that he's

477
00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 1: not that big, that's sort of he's just totally normal,

478
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:57,040
Speaker 1: but maybe he's average. But overall you don't want to

479
00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: feed into it, like, yes, it does hurt, yes, because

480
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:02,680
Speaker 1: then if he gets off and you're not into that,

481
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 1: then we got issues. I think that was just for

482
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: the texting. Let me, she's only done five times. Let

483
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: me ask the ladies in the room. Does does size

484
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,439
Speaker 1: to a woman make a difference? Bigger is worse? And

485
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 1: it does it make a difference for a long term partner? Bigger,

486
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 1: like is worse? Above can be worse than someone who's

487
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: slightly below average, for sure. I think that's what women

488
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:31,400
Speaker 1: say all the time. That's what people in my office

489
00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: say all the time. The concern is, um if it's

490
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 1: too small. Now there's it's clinically called a micro fallus,

491
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: and that can be something that unfortunately there isn't a

492
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: really good surgery out there to help that. How common

493
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 1: is that it's not very common? Like the name doesn't

494
00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 1: help itself. Micro Well, it's literally like this and they

495
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: have to release sendence through surgery. That might extend it

496
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: a little bit, but it doesn't really help. But fortunately

497
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: there's lots of sex toys that help with that. There's

498
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: the documentary I think I mentioned before called Unhung Hero.

499
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: Is that true? It's true. There's a documentary called Unhung Hero.

500
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,120
Speaker 1: It's about this guy who proposes to his girlfriend on

501
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: like the JumboTron at a basketball game. He gets left,

502
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 1: He gets ghosted, like right there, gets left hanging. She

503
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: just walks away, Yes, she just freaks and like walks away.

504
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,800
Speaker 1: And then later on she the reason she gives him

505
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: that she didn't get in there like except his engagement

506
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: is that he didn't have a big enough penis. And

507
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: then he goes on a world journey firing out like, yeah,

508
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 1: the irony of a guy with a small penis proposing

509
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 1: on a jumbo try And then he goes on like

510
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: a world journey trying to explore and solve the problem

511
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: for men that have smaller I don't know. Yeah, well

512
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: he goes they don't show it, but yeah, he goes

513
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: to like a condom facility too. He goes to all

514
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: these different cont he didn't need all It's like the

515
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: guy of the condom. He's like, yeah, you would really

516
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 1: be smaller than average. Um. And then he explores different

517
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:09,959
Speaker 1: sizes amongst different countries. Which countries are are on average

518
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: the smallest, Which countries are on average the biggest. I

519
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: believe like South Korea or something was one of the smallest,

520
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 1: and I think like Nigeria or something like that. Some

521
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: reason I felt Austria. Austrians. Don't quote me on that exactly.

522
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: It's been it's probably been five years since I've seen

523
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: the movie. Don't quote me on that exactly. But it's

524
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: it's very educational as well as like very real for man.

525
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 1: Like this is he goes to he's in this like

526
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: back alley surgery room in Philippines about to try this

527
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 1: like crazy injection. And this is truthful, Like he's there

528
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: in the moment about to do it. He's sweating and

529
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 1: he freaks out. He's like, oh my god, I can't

530
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: do this. Like it's a man's journey dealing with this.

531
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: It's called unhung here. But again, it goes back to

532
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 1: this idea of if he felt like there were options

533
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: more more actually if his would be fiance felt like

534
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: there were more options and you can find satisfaction through

535
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: things other than pain and penetrative sex like that. That

536
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 1: kind of opened them up to a life of like

537
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: what if she had together, they could have been together

538
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: by the Sorry, just hug him and say let's let's

539
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 1: talk about it later. Don't ghost them on the jumbo try.

540
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 1: But while we're on the topic, could we quickly talk

541
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 1: about men's thoughts on breast augmentation? Do you is bigger better? No,

542
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: there's there's too big for sure? I think, yeah, I

543
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 1: look at it like I think. I think in general,

544
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 1: a person should be able to jog, just truthful, like

545
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: like a person should be able to work out. Okay,

546
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,400
Speaker 1: well yeah, exactly, like you're doing push ups in your

547
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 1: arms are barely reading. But can you imagine can you

548
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: imagine not being able to jog because of something you

549
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 1: have augmented to your body? Like what if jogging isn't

550
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: your thing? What if you know? And and then so

551
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: is there little? Is there such a thing as too little?

552
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 1: I think so too? Yeah, I mean I think what

553
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 1: that I mean, here's the real answer is what that

554
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: person is comfortable with is from so go ahead by Yeah. No,

555
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, from a man's perspective, I

556
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 1: think too big is too much, and I think either

557
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: medium sized going down is the right size for boobs

558
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: or penis. So really quickly before we have to wrap,

559
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: I sent you all the picture of Jason Derulo that

560
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: Instagram took. First of all, that thing scared me. I'm

561
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: not gonna lie. But and he was lying when he said,

562
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 1: you didn't send it to me. I don't know what

563
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: this is. You have it right here in your notes.

564
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: What was only semi erect? Oh semi? He was talking

565
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: about it down, So I wanted to see what everybody

566
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 1: thought about Instagram taking it down. Also, wait, is this truthful?

567
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: That is he said that is his body, that's a

568
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: half mast yeah, he says, out of us. Yeah, but

569
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 1: the Internet, no, no, no no, he posted the picture. He

570
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 1: didn't use photo shot. That's the same like photo shot.

571
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: I believe him that that is. It was intimidating to

572
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: me either way, Like he's he knows that's probably coming down.

573
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: He's throwing it up there as like I'll get this

574
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: up there. It's going to get out. The Internet is

575
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 1: gonna grab it run with it. And everything. He was

576
00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: very smart. Everyone is talking about exactly when was this

577
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 1: days ago? I didn't see. I saw it. Everybody in

578
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 1: the world used the two finger feature two enlarge, right,

579
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: everybody don't. Anyone in the room that says they didn't

580
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: is a giant liar. I was like, what's so different

581
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 1: you ever watched you ever watched track, track and field

582
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: or wrestling, Like guys that are in super tight water

583
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:51,640
Speaker 1: polo water polo water polo cameras in slow mold. Everybody

584
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 1: is the two fingers on Rick speedo. I used that

585
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 1: the three finger tap when it's like thinking, it really

586
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 1: blows up the heart. We'll put another photo of Rick

587
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 1: and his speedo up on the Instagram and ever this

588
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 1: guy he was looking for attention. He got it. Good

589
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 1: for him. And you know, I think they take it down.

590
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,320
Speaker 1: I think taking it down it is probably not I

591
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:14,919
Speaker 1: don't think that was right for them to take it down.

592
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: I don't think it was right of Instagram to take

593
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,919
Speaker 1: photos of women that are up there with everything going

594
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 1: on and half of it's covered and it's still there.

595
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: But it's also what doctors. I agree. I don't think

596
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 1: I needed to come down, but it's what Dr Viviana said,

597
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: it's like here he is like, oh, look at me,

598
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 1: I'm so big, and he's like, oh, and it's only semi.

599
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 1: It's like he said that, yes, he said it was

600
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: only semirect. Wait he said that in the post. Well

601
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 1: I have that was because he felt Instagram was wrong

602
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 1: in taking it down and they said, look, this is

603
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: a sexual graphic sexual like you're aroused in this picture.

604
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 1: And he's like, it's only a semi. He posted it

605
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, this is only a semi and

606
00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 1: then like a sales hitch, dude, Dr Viviana, you're rad,

607
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,959
Speaker 1: totally rad. Marriage at first sight, married at first sight?

608
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 1: Oh did I call? Pardon me? Married at first sight? Well,

609
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 1: it is marriage. Do you believe that's a good idea? Sorry,

610
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 1: I think it's nuts. Okay, so let's talk about that

611
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: because I feel like it's what I feel like if

612
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,839
Speaker 1: they sexted me in the right way. I'm just kidding totally.

613
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 1: I've got too much chocolate. Here are my boobs, let's

614
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:34,280
Speaker 1: get married. So married at first sight? Is this wild?

615
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: Just kind of modern take on arranged marriage? And there

616
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 1: are three experts and a ton of people that work

617
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:46,760
Speaker 1: with potential and their singles, who want to get married,

618
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:50,720
Speaker 1: who want to be committed, who have had it with dating,

619
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 1: they're sick, they're in their thirties. Usually they want to

620
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:58,280
Speaker 1: have kids soon. They can't go through another tenure relationships.

621
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 1: How many couples have made it work? I think we

622
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 1: do know twelve? Well, well, what's making work? Like? How long? Like? Babies? Babies?

623
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 1: The first season aired five years ago. Uh so, and

624
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 1: we're about to start our tenth on January one. I

625
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: haven't this is only my second season. Season ten is

626
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 1: my second season. I came on a nine and I

627
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: love your most famous girl. What's her name? Jamie Otis?

628
00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 1: So she totally made it work. Jamie was went to

629
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: husband Doug really stood out because she was not into

630
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: him when they first got married, Like she was on

631
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: the ground sobbing after she seen him. She saw him

632
00:36:36,960 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 1: because they get married when they meet at the altar,

633
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 1: it's a legal marriage, and then they go through eight weeks,

634
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 1: seven to eight weeks, and then they get to decide

635
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: if they want to um stay married or get a divorce,

636
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 1: and we get to help them along the way. We

637
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 1: give them tools. I mean, I love that I'm able

638
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:54,839
Speaker 1: to be so direct with these people. I love telling

639
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: people what to do, so no kidding, I'm never going

640
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 1: to send my boobs again. We know that. So you

641
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:04,759
Speaker 1: sent one when we took a break, It's why did

642
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 1: you get my text? We really try not to have

643
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: people focus on the physical, so when we're looking for potential,

644
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 1: you know, spouses, we want people who are looking past that.

645
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:18,320
Speaker 1: We want people who want an emotional connection. We want compatibility.

646
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 1: So we try our best and then we wait and

647
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 1: see how it unfolds. I'm impressed. How do you bounce

648
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:26,800
Speaker 1: back from her falling down crying when she sees him? Like?

649
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,279
Speaker 1: How does he bounce back from that? She like fell

650
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,439
Speaker 1: in love with him? So Jamie and died there doing great.

651
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,760
Speaker 1: We have so many other couples who are doing well,

652
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: They're doing awesome. I'm very partial to this last season

653
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:40,879
Speaker 1: season nine, Jamie and Elizabeth. They are one of our

654
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: roller coaster couples. And one of the sexual conversations that

655
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:49,759
Speaker 1: came up um and subsequently went viral, is that she goes,

656
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 1: I don't understand how you expect me to have sex

657
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: with you all the time when it's basic Caucasian sex.

658
00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:59,239
Speaker 1: What does that mean? What do you think it means missionary.

659
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: Remember what you did, not define it? So what do

660
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: you think it means missionary? Uh? Maybe really good basic

661
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 1: just trying to bolster right there and very in the bedroom,

662
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 1: very basic vanilla barely took their clothes off and then

663
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 1: boom boom, done and off they go and take a

664
00:38:26,520 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: shower and barely speak to each other. Something like that. Well,

665
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 1: we'll have to ask Elizabeth at some point. But the

666
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: truth is that's what people started thinking, and it's obviously

667
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:39,719
Speaker 1: not categorically true. But then we also have you should

668
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 1: try sexting. We also have couples who don't ever consummate

669
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: their marriage during the process and wait until later or

670
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:49,479
Speaker 1: not at all if they decide to divorce. But it's

671
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: a really interesting experiment, and it's not for everybody. I mean,

672
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 1: if you know that you're really into looks and you're

673
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 1: really into chemistry and all that, you don't get to

674
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: choose who you're marrying, so out of your control. Um,

675
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,239
Speaker 1: But if it's something where you're like, I know I

676
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: want to be married, I know I can be a

677
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: good husband. I know I can be a good wife.

678
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:11,400
Speaker 1: You pair me with somebody who is kind, generous, sweet,

679
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: and somewhat good looking. I'll make it wears and they

680
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:18,720
Speaker 1: do hard past. It's very I prefer menus with pictures

681
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:20,799
Speaker 1: on them so I can see that really fast before

682
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 1: we go. Can all four of you answer this question?

683
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 1: Can attraction grow? Oh? Yeah, for sure, definitely I can go. Yes.

684
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 1: What do you think, Amy, I'm terrified of it. I

685
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:34,400
Speaker 1: don't know. For me, I'm scared of that because I

686
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 1: think sometimes it cannot and so I'm very worried going

687
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:42,359
Speaker 1: in if I'm not a ten out of ten. So yeah,

688
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:45,280
Speaker 1: for me, it's very scary. You're worried that you can't

689
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:50,360
Speaker 1: become more attractive somebody, no more attracted attracted. So I

690
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 1: I feel that like there's people that I've met in

691
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: my life that as you get to know them and

692
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,960
Speaker 1: understand them and appreciate them as a human, they become

693
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 1: more attract Brooks is really attractive to me ready, but

694
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:02,839
Speaker 1: when but I remember the first day you met him,

695
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 1: they were like muscles. And that's the crux of this.

696
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: That's the crux of this because we can put two

697
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: people together who on paper are so compatible, and sometimes

698
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: they will get so fixated on any little thing and

699
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: we're like, why are you throwing away such an amazing possible,

700
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: you know, marriage forever because they're two inches too short.

701
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: That's me, So it's not for you, Amy, Yeah, but

702
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 1: I'm working on it. Two inches too short, were Dr

703
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:37,839
Speaker 1: viv And I wanna just commend you, and I want

704
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 1: to thank you for traveling all the way from Houston.

705
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: But I want to also just thank you and acknowledge

706
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: you for what you've given to our audience today. UM

707
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 1: for the people that out there that are listening, that

708
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,879
Speaker 1: have undoubtedly been blown away by you, where can they

709
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,880
Speaker 1: find you aside from the TV show? Where can they

710
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: find you and get in touch with you? I don't

711
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,919
Speaker 1: often blush, and I don't even blush what I'm talking

712
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:59,880
Speaker 1: about sex stuff, but I'm blessing now. Thank you. My

713
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 1: website it's Dr Viviana dot com, D O C T O,

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Speaker 1: R V I V I A and a UM dot

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Speaker 1: com and then you know, married at First Sight any

716
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 1: I would love for you all to binge watch it

717
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,520
Speaker 1: get caught up because next season is going to be amazing.

718
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 1: I'm so excited, and I have programs online so for

719
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: couples who can't come see me in Houston because my

720
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 1: license is in Texas. Then I've programs online. Now I'm

721
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: super pumped about it. I just put them up yesterday.

722
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: What is a program online? So, Um, it's the Doctor

723
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 1: Viviana Method for Intimate Reconnection. And that is for couples

724
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: who can't get past the awkward hump of going from

725
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 1: like very awkward a very awkward, like they just don't

726
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: have sexual or sensual connections anymore, and emotionally they also

727
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: feel disconnected. So this is a very thorough, very extensive.

728
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 1: It is not surface. So it's for couples who really

729
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Speaker 1: want to have their hands held through a six week

730
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: program and by the end of it, because I've been

731
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: doing this for years, I just finally kind of systemized it.

732
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 1: But it's for couples who are like, we could divorce,

733
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: we haven't had sex in eight years, twelve years, or

734
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 1: even just six months, whatever it is, but they can't

735
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: do it on their own. If you can't do it

736
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: on your own, try it out. And then I also

737
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: have a primarial counseling course that I've also been doing

738
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: since I don't know when. UM, And that's that's great

739
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: for couples who just need to raise their confidence in

740
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:25,319
Speaker 1: their relationship either before after walking down the album back

741
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 1: to the first courses that you're talking about. I think

742
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:30,240
Speaker 1: that's even for people that just even want to study

743
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: more of that. Yes, even if you just don't know

744
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:36,399
Speaker 1: about it or you're wanting to to kind of make

745
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:38,799
Speaker 1: sure that you prevent things in the future. Let's say

746
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: you're dating and you're like, Okay, what do I need

747
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: to look out for. I've seen way too many couples

748
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: on the brink of divorce. I wish they would do

749
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 1: their work at the beginning. I mean, yeah, a little

750
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: preventative maintenance sort of like I want to learn more

751
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: about this. I don't need to wait till it becomes

752
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: really make or break in my relationship to dive into it.

753
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,360
Speaker 1: So I think you can at that point. But also

754
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 1: if you, even if you have a great relationship to

755
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: look into these courses and study them, thank you. I'll

756
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,359
Speaker 1: definitely do it. So thank you so much. We appreciate you.

757
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 1: Last word for our listeners, last word that you would

758
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,279
Speaker 1: love to leave the people with. I think when it

759
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 1: comes to sexuality, you've got to know yourself, and if

760
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: you can't know yourself, you need to get help because

761
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 1: it will come up in all of your relationships um,

762
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 1: whether whether it's a small part of it or a

763
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 1: big part of it. If you want to be with

764
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: someone long term, sexuality and sensuality will become a part

765
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 1: of it. And it can either be something that really

766
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 1: bolsters your relationship or it can destroy it. Wow. Thank

767
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:38,080
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Speaker 1: have a massive announcement. They have a new show coming

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Speaker 1: out on My Heart. It is called Intimate Knowledge. It's

811
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: a show about sex. Oh, it's all about all three

812
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 1: ladies are saying, this is a show about sex. So

813
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814
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Speaker 1: the last episode we just did, We're about sex. And

815
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Speaker 1: what's that curiosity? Did you see how well they did that?

816
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: They're like, it's intimate Knowledge. We're all like, we're talking

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Speaker 1: this conversation to life and do it in an educational, provocative,

821
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 1: sort of a sensual way rather than just sex. So

822
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Speaker 1: that's why we went with Intimate Knowledge. Ladies way of

823
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: talking about sex. I love it, so I pay so

824
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,360
Speaker 1: I love I love this. I'm really excited actually for

825
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Speaker 1: this podcast to come out. I'm going to listen because

826
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: I think I'm going to learn a ton of this. Um.

827
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 1: I literally before before we started recording this overbreak, I

828
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 1: called Lee Weapon because you were so impressive on our show.

829
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: I would love to have you. Bet, I'm kind of

830
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 1: I'm kind of upset that producer Amy put you on

831
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:11,840
Speaker 1: their show. We're so lucky. Just wait, this lady is

832
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Speaker 1: going to just just spew knowledge that just blows you.

833
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,759
Speaker 1: We need that because knowledge is king, and we need

834
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 1: to open our mind and we needed to learn, which

835
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:21,359
Speaker 1: is why what you guys are doing is so cool.

836
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 1: So that women can understand the perspective of a man. Right,

837
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,240
Speaker 1: So it works both ways. So I have a question

838
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 1: for all three of you, what what is your individually,

839
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: what is your mission and why you want to do

840
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: this project? I mean, for me, I think that you

841
00:47:38,440 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: know that sex is such a huge part of our lives.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it literally is the reason we're here. We're

843
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 1: all here on this earth. But um, it's so much

844
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 1: more than that, you know, It's it's emotional and intimate

845
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 1: and and physical and it's all these things, So why

846
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: why don't we talk about it more? Why is it?

847
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 1: Why is it bedroom talk? Let's bring it we I

848
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 1: want to bring it to the table because I know

849
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: I have questions and I would love to explore kind

850
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,280
Speaker 1: of what it means in the in the bigger picture,

851
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: and so we're here to do that. And I also

852
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,360
Speaker 1: think this is a conversation that needs to be happened

853
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: that women are having amongst themselves, but not necessarily out loud.

854
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:18,719
Speaker 1: When I think about like sensual health or intimacy, like

855
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 1: that's sort of what we're all striving for, a human connection.

856
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: I think it's why relationships work, why marriages fail, why

857
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 1: we're struggling, what we're looking for, how we lose our way,

858
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 1: you know, when it comes to sex, sensual health, intimacy,

859
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. But we're all talking

860
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,080
Speaker 1: about it. And maybe it's maybe it's because I'm on

861
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:38,360
Speaker 1: the other side of marriage right now and I'm single,

862
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 1: and I'm in my forties and I'm sort of in heat.

863
00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: Girl alogetically say that, no, but I mean I'm in

864
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:54,960
Speaker 1: it right now. So Amy and I like went back

865
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 1: and forth for over a year trying to figure this out.

866
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 1: And I'm like, there's so much comedy and challenge and

867
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: struggle and reality, and like, it's just amazing that I

868
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 1: find myself after nineteen years of marriage now in this

869
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:09,959
Speaker 1: space smarter, with an open mind and an open heart

870
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 1: and an heat still that do you want me? I

871
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: have a lot of male followers on my Instagram? Do

872
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: you want me to blast that? Probably? Probably don't. That's

873
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,279
Speaker 1: not that's not in my bio. Probably don't say that. Um,

874
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 1: I was just being honest because I committed to honesty

875
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: on this project. But um yeah, let's like, can we

876
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: edit that out? And I'm getting no, I am you

877
00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 1: don't have to put it in your bio, but I

878
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: think they're going to find out you've said it twice.

879
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 1: I think we know your purpose, but I want to

880
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: get more from you and just hear from you what

881
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:46,239
Speaker 1: is your purpose and mission? With the podcast, I get

882
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: to speak about what I love to speak out most,

883
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 1: which is sex and intimacy. And I think it's just

884
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:55,399
Speaker 1: such a beautiful offering because so often it's it's not

885
00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 1: what we're experiencing that's difficult, is that we feel that

886
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:01,800
Speaker 1: we're experiencing it. A loan and so this really cracks

887
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,440
Speaker 1: the open that that conversation. And yeah, I love that.

888
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 1: I think it's any in all humans, men and women.

889
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: It's something we deeply yearn for and crave, is that

890
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 1: intimate and that physical relationship. But yet it's one of

891
00:50:16,120 --> 00:50:18,680
Speaker 1: the things that's very hush hush. As you said, Meg,

892
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: you want to bring this to light. It's something that

893
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: for some reason, culturally societally, we do not bring to

894
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: the forefront enough. So we try and do that on

895
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,279
Speaker 1: this podcast. We try and open up a space for

896
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 1: men to open up, take the first step in put

897
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 1: down our weapons and say hey, this is what we're

898
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,719
Speaker 1: dealing with. Um. But I love that you guys are

899
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 1: going at it in the space. We do it in

900
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: many different spaces. You guys are going at it specifically

901
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: through sex and intimacy. And can I just add to

902
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:45,760
Speaker 1: what you just said Leather too, because you mentioned alone,

903
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 1: and just to be serious on the other side of

904
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 1: what I was saying before, I think in that time

905
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: and in solitude and spending time with yourself as a

906
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: woman to really understand where you are and how you

907
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:58,680
Speaker 1: feel and how you think. Because when we really start

908
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 1: to learn and so for me, I have always been

909
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:04,240
Speaker 1: an advocate for women's health and educating women and supporting

910
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: women in their journey whatever it looks like. So that's

911
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 1: really important for me to open up that dialogue and

912
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: to create a comfort zone and to have those conversations

913
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:15,880
Speaker 1: that are a little bit uncomfortable but that are super

914
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:18,319
Speaker 1: important as we learn and understand our own bodies and

915
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 1: how to connect and what we want and how to

916
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: find the right words to express that, because that's sort

917
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,840
Speaker 1: of the struggle to even marriage and relationships for about

918
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: single life, but how to communicate and how to ask

919
00:51:30,160 --> 00:51:34,400
Speaker 1: and express and experiment and um, it's very taboost for

920
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: a lot of And this is why I really do

921
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:39,320
Speaker 1: what I do, because I really feel that there's there's nothing,

922
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:43,800
Speaker 1: um quite that will define our lives. Then the connect

923
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 1: the deepen connections that we have, you know, these really

924
00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 1: define like the quality of our lives in terms of

925
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: our sense of aliveness and the bonding and connectivity that

926
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,799
Speaker 1: we have with others, I mean sex and just in

927
00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:59,600
Speaker 1: relationship in general. And I just want to say, because

928
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 1: Brooke and have worked on the show for over a

929
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 1: year to get I'm like almost emotional about it because

930
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 1: here I know it's like hard, and these three women

931
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 1: are I'm so honored to work with them. And this

932
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 1: is a show that will be produced, written, edited solely

933
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 1: by women. The whole team is women, and these three

934
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: ladies are willing to be so vulnerable and put what

935
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: is very personal stuff and knowledge out there for all

936
00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:31,240
Speaker 1: the women and men listening. And that's like scary. So

937
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 1: just the last two episodes we've done, everyone was so

938
00:52:34,280 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 1: willing to like talk about a subject that's harder to

939
00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:39,960
Speaker 1: talk about, and these ladies are going to do that

940
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,240
Speaker 1: for the benefit of hundreds of thousands of people listening.

941
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 1: And I'm so glad you said that. And use the

942
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:48,279
Speaker 1: word vulnerable because Omegan and I are going through a

943
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: very transformative period of time in our life. I like

944
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:52,960
Speaker 1: to even think of it as a bit of a metamorphos.

945
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:56,120
Speaker 1: But being vulnerable as scary as shit, and it's hard,

946
00:52:56,280 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 1: and I worked really hard to be able to be vulnerable.

947
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:02,759
Speaker 1: And I think in that space as women, if you

948
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: can get there, and there's just so many beautiful things

949
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:09,080
Speaker 1: on the other side of that and scary, yes, but vulnerability,

950
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 1: I think is truthful. And to kind of expand on

951
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: that two brook, being vulnerable at a time when you

952
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,240
Speaker 1: need to be the strongest, that balance is really tough.

953
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: And so to find that balance and also to not

954
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 1: deny yourself your your feelings or your emotions and allow

955
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: yourself to feel them. But also being strong, what does

956
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:33,240
Speaker 1: that mean? So that's something that we need to explore

957
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,920
Speaker 1: and and feel. It's beautifully said men too, because we

958
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:39,200
Speaker 1: are always trying to be strong. And I think even

959
00:53:39,239 --> 00:53:43,840
Speaker 1: for a very masculine, you know, alpha man, having moments

960
00:53:43,840 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 1: where you don't have to be so strong, I think

961
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:49,840
Speaker 1: is so powerful and sexy and so masculine and mother's

962
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 1: businesswomen like when you learn that you can become unraveled

963
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:56,799
Speaker 1: and give yourself permission to be vulnerable. Is the first

964
00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:59,640
Speaker 1: time in my life. I wasn't that woman in my marriage.

965
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: Sorry David, I wasn't. But now if I knew, I

966
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 1: then what I knew. But seriously, like vulnerability, it is

967
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: strength scary. You know what I'm super excited about for

968
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 1: you guys is have you, guys hosted a podcast or

969
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 1: done a podcast ever before? Not together? I have, and

970
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: I really know so much for me how men think

971
00:54:22,320 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 1: for me has been more of a learning platform than

972
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:29,440
Speaker 1: a sharing platform. How much I have learned and grown.

973
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 1: The knowledge that I've digested, the conversations were able to

974
00:54:33,320 --> 00:54:35,880
Speaker 1: have has helped me learn more than I've ever shared

975
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: on here. Well, I think that's the I think that's

976
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 1: the difference is that we're not here thinking we're teaching anybody.

977
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 1: We're here learning as well, and people are learning along

978
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:45,600
Speaker 1: with us. We're not here saying, oh, we know all

979
00:54:45,640 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: the answers. We have a lot to learn, and so

980
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: when we talk about these things, we too are being

981
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 1: vulnerable and and trying to you know, realize and learned

982
00:54:52,840 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: things that we don't know. And I think that's why,

983
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 1: you know, it translates to listeners as well. Yeah, well, um,

984
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 1: what is like the first topic you guys want to

985
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:05,280
Speaker 1: dig into? What is something you're super What can listeners

986
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 1: expect on the first episode? What so many? I mean,

987
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 1: we have the longest list. I mean, the craziest thing

988
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 1: is like we have twenty shows ready to go because

989
00:55:15,160 --> 00:55:18,319
Speaker 1: this is such a topic that women talk about constantly

990
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 1: get together indition, We're like, oh my gosh, write that out.

991
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:21,959
Speaker 1: Oh we have to tell that story. Oh I forgot

992
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:24,239
Speaker 1: about There's just so many things happening right now in

993
00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 1: this chapter of our lives. What do you would say

994
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 1: For the first episode, We're really going to dig into

995
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 1: um the importance of intimacy and what intimacy really is

996
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:39,879
Speaker 1: to women. It's not just sex to women. So it's

997
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:43,840
Speaker 1: understanding what is it, how do we get it, and

998
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:47,200
Speaker 1: how do we sustain it, how do we not let

999
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:49,759
Speaker 1: it go away? And how do we trust someone else

1000
00:55:49,880 --> 00:56:00,480
Speaker 1: with our own vulnerability and sexuality. I remember our conversation

1001
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 1: on our show, and just like how powerful and how

1002
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 1: much we learned about intimacy, that it's so different to

1003
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: a woman than it is to a man, and you

1004
00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 1: have as good of an understanding of it as anybody made. Yeah,

1005
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 1: I really love to talk about the mechanics of of

1006
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 1: relationship and what what it is to be intimate, but

1007
00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: also what it is that we desire, you know, And

1008
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: I actually separate those two a little bit because we

1009
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: both we have both of those needs, the need for

1010
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:29,600
Speaker 1: love and intimacy and that relationship, but we also have

1011
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: an equal not it's not equal for everybody, but a

1012
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:38,600
Speaker 1: charge and a desire like that desire for the connection

1013
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: and the unknown and the erotic, and you know, both

1014
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 1: of these things are at play, and so it's and

1015
00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:48,440
Speaker 1: I love that as you're saying this, I'm thinking of

1016
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 1: even within a relationship, even within a twenty year marriage, unknowns,

1017
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 1: there's erotic there's like you don't figure everything out in

1018
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:58,360
Speaker 1: two years or it's not like, oh we've been married

1019
00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:00,640
Speaker 1: five years and everything is the same now. So as

1020
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 1: you're saying that, I'm thinking, this is a life journey.

1021
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:07,839
Speaker 1: This isn't this isn't a time um stamp. Yeah, time

1022
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 1: capsule journey like discovery. I mean, just to be totally transparent.

1023
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:14,600
Speaker 1: It's like, because women, we think we figure it out

1024
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 1: and then we change. So sorry guys, but it's hard

1025
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 1: to even it's crazy, like we think we get there

1026
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 1: and then our whole body, our hormones, our whole system

1027
00:57:29,480 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: is just ever changing. So it's like we want stability,

1028
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: but we won't want spontaneity like it want this ultimate contrast.

1029
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:40,800
Speaker 1: It's just a complete mind blowing cast on the shop.

1030
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 1: It's like it's really really challenged. It's a dynamic. It's

1031
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: a dynamic experience, and it's it's like just the phases

1032
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 1: of the what women go through is just so tremendous

1033
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 1: um and how that relates with our partner and the

1034
00:57:57,520 --> 00:58:01,160
Speaker 1: dynamic that then creates and how then you're in alliterative

1035
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: process of relating, Like it isn't a stagnant thing. It

1036
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: isn't always, it's not constant um be kind of it's

1037
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:09,760
Speaker 1: kind of like the moon, right, It's like we're going

1038
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: through cycles constantly. I'm excited for this. I want to

1039
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:15,480
Speaker 1: listen to this because I wanted January six. Thanks for

1040
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 1: helping us launch it, and I love what you guys

1041
00:58:19,240 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 1: are doing. I want to listen to this because I

1042
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:23,680
Speaker 1: want to be educated more like we have actually more

1043
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 1: female listeners. I think of how men think than we

1044
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:27,720
Speaker 1: have men in the mission. I started out with this

1045
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,760
Speaker 1: listening to like serve young man, to serve men, and

1046
00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: we've had women in flocks tune into this show and

1047
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:37,480
Speaker 1: can Lela when you were on our show, I don't

1048
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 1: think you got to saw this. You got to saw this,

1049
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 1: got to see this. But we sat there and we

1050
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: talked for a long time, all of us, and we

1051
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 1: didn't take any break for a while. So when we

1052
00:58:45,080 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: were done, all the guys went to the men's room

1053
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:50,320
Speaker 1: and when we walked in there, every single one of

1054
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: us was like wow, like we had learned so much

1055
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 1: and heard so much from you that we didn't know

1056
00:58:57,480 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 1: and as like we had the conversation, we're learning it,

1057
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,240
Speaker 1: but it almost like we were having the conversation but

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Speaker 1: we held our breath and when we went in there

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Speaker 1: after what we were like, like, it was exhausting how

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Speaker 1: much we didn't know that we were learning. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: hope we get to say that too, and then it's

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Speaker 1: not just a chick journey that men will tune in

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Speaker 1: and that we can learn because it's really about understanding

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Speaker 1: the polarity of both masculine and feminine. So that's amazing

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Speaker 1: you guys. Well, then I hope that we get to

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Speaker 1: say the same thing, and I think you will. I

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Speaker 1: hope guys tune into it because it's I think from

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Speaker 1: a cultural perspective, I think there's a stigma that um

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Speaker 1: sensuality and spirituality and intimacy is a woman's thing. I

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Speaker 1: think like in the locker rooms that I was in in,

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Speaker 1: in the conditions and culture that I spent most of

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Speaker 1: my life in, that was the consensus is that it

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Speaker 1: was viewed as as that. And now being outside and

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Speaker 1: removing those layers and conditions and things that were became

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Speaker 1: a part of me. I'm like, so curious about this

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Speaker 1: space for myself. I want to understand my wife as well,

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Speaker 1: but I want to understand intimacy for myself and what

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Speaker 1: does that even look like in presence in my life.

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Speaker 1: So I think guys will tune into this, And if

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Speaker 1: you're a gentleman listening to our show right now, I

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Speaker 1: fully encourage you to listen to their podcast to explore yourself,

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Speaker 1: but also to learn more about your partner and how

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Speaker 1: you can communicate better with them. So I'm super excited

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Speaker 1: for Look, even if you think you know, you don't.

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Speaker 1: Brook said, they decide and then they change, So you come. Brooke, Megan, Leela,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. The podcast January six, and it's

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Speaker 1: intimate knowledge. You can find it right here on I

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Speaker 1: Heart anywhere else you get your podcast. That's it for

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Speaker 1: this episode of How Men Think. We'll see you right

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Speaker 1: back here next week. Till then, take care of one another,

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Speaker 1: love one another. You have a lot of sex that's new.