1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:10,039 Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in and this week is 4 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: special because we are scrubbing in with a third People's 5 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: Choice or nomination. Um. It feels like a big deal 6 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: because we did it. We did try. We really tried, 7 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: and maybe we did make two peete work in the 8 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 1: sense of like how it sounded like we just even 9 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: though it wasn't necessarily it wasn't a three pet it 10 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: was a two pet. We we forced it, and now 11 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:46,120 Speaker 1: we're a three pee which actually flows a three repeat? 12 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: Is that what it's actually called? A three pet? Yeah? Oh, 13 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I didn't know we made up 14 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: two p you no, no two pete. If you if 15 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 1: you say them back to back, you realize one does 16 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:59,480 Speaker 1: not sound as it does not flow as well, which 17 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: would be the two. Wait. I'm so glad that you're 18 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: back because last week when we actually had the news, 19 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: you weren't here. We had Aaron, whom we love, but 20 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: like she's obviously not as attached to the p c 21 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 1: A as like as we are, you know, and so 22 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: I felt like a little kind of embarrassing really just 23 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 1: like going all in, you know, because she had big news. 24 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: She was you know, newly engaged, and you know, she 25 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 1: was our guest. But I was like really wanting to 26 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,959 Speaker 1: like plow down the pc A nomination, and I felt 27 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,400 Speaker 1: like it needed to be a little more um subdued. 28 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: But now that you're back, it's like, hell, yeah, baby, 29 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: let's keep it gun. That's right. Um. We had a 30 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: call with Amy and Danielle and Amy was like, you know, 31 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: I mean no, no, no, reenact. We need to reenact 32 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: the act. We need to reenact the call. Okay. So 33 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: I was back home visiting my family, right, okay, and 34 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: then I'll be Tanya and then uh okay, and then 35 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: you'd be Amy as well. Okay, okay. So I'm it's 36 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: like chaos in the van. We're trying to plan an 37 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: event and stuff, and um, I say something like I 38 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: don't even know how the topic came up about Okay, 39 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: So I'll be Danielle, I'll Belle. So Danielle was like, Okay, guys, uh, 40 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: we um kind of want to flip it on its head, 41 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: the whole voting party because we've done it before, So 42 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: how about we do uh, some sort of like celebration 43 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:18,640 Speaker 1: brunch um where we have other nominees and just kind 44 00:02:18,639 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: of celebrate the pc as. And so they were throwing 45 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:25,359 Speaker 1: out dates and it was past the date of when 46 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: the voting ends, which we've always done the voting party 47 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,560 Speaker 1: like pc A party before, so that people could we 48 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 1: could get votes and like celebrate getting votes. And so 49 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 1: I was like what or I think Tony was like, wait, 50 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: why are we doing it after the voting ends? Well, 51 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: I said, I love all these ideas, these are great ideas. 52 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: I'm on board. I will be at any of these things. 53 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: But am I the only one concerned that this is 54 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: after voting ends and it's like for us to get 55 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: the votes to win. And so Amy's like, well, you know, 56 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,359 Speaker 1: I mean it's the third year, Like let's maybe let's 57 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 1: give someone else a chance to win. And I was 58 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: just waiting to hear Tanya's like yeah. So then Amy, 59 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: she did a little bit more like this. She was, yeah, well, 60 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,679 Speaker 1: you know, maybe we let somebody else win it this year, 61 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: like share the wealth or whatever. And I literally just go, 62 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: m Amy, I love that. That's really really sweet to say. 63 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: But hew to the mother Evan, No, we are the underdogs, 64 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: like we are the little engine that freaking could. Why 65 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: would we stop now? Like I was like, and I 66 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: don't want that attitude anywhere near our People's Choice Award, 67 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: thank you very much. So if that's the way you're 68 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: gonna feel about this, I don't want you planning our party. Well, 69 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: the thing when she said that, I got in my 70 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: head because I was like, does she have intel that 71 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: we don't know? Like maybe she talks hey, just so 72 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: you know, like we love scrubbing in, but they can't 73 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: win three years in a row, Like we just can't 74 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: do that. And so it's the people. It's the people 75 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: that decide, I know. And so I was like, wait, 76 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 1: do you know something we don't know, Like do you 77 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: have intelligence? Like no, no, No, I just feel like, 78 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: you know, we've won it three or two years in 79 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: a row. It feels like a little greedy. And I'm like, no, 80 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: the scrubber has got us on the ballot again for 81 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: a reason and it's to win. Um. Yeah. And then 82 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: she goes, you know, it's like Oprah. She and I'm like, 83 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: we aren't. That's the whole point. We're not Oprah, Like 84 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: that's the like that is the peas and tomatoes of 85 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: the whole thing. Like we are not Oprah, do you 86 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like we are scrubbing in, we 87 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: are the we are the antithesis of Oprah on the ballot. Well, 88 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: so I'm looking at the nominees this year, and I 89 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: will say We've always been up against some hard hitters, 90 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:45,039 Speaker 1: Like we've always had some big names surrounding our title 91 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 1: of our podcast, but this year is names that I know, 92 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 1: more so in the podcast world as opposed to just 93 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: names being in the celebrity world, like Oprah was like 94 00:04:56,680 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: shocking to be next to her, and Dak's show Bird 95 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:02,599 Speaker 1: is obviously like always in the running with us, and 96 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: he's such a big name. But these are a podcasts, 97 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:09,280 Speaker 1: so we have call her Daddy, which is massive. They've 98 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,599 Speaker 1: had like a huge they had like some a bunch 99 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: of I know, but guess what what, I don't think 100 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: girls are listening to our girls listen to that podcast. 101 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: I think I think it's both Um and the Vile Files, 102 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,640 Speaker 1: Nick Bill and then um Anything goes with him a 103 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 1: Chamberlain who's like a huge YouTuber and um TikToker and 104 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 1: she has like is that our competition right there? I 105 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: feel like I just listed the main one, the ones 106 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: that are gonna. I mean, they're all pretty pretty solid. 107 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: So um, so let me tell you how that called. 108 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 1: Let me tell you how that call ended, Okay, because, uh, 109 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: let me tell you something. I have been feeling very 110 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,919 Speaker 1: salzy lately, like so sal zy to the point where 111 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: like I can't eat literally I can't even sleep, Like 112 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: I'm up every hour. And I didn't realize how importing 113 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 1: sleep was to me just in life, because I usually 114 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: get like a good amount, like I usually get at 115 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 1: least six hours. Yeah, you're pretty actually you're pretty committed. 116 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 1: I mean you've always arranged your schedule so they can 117 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 1: get a solid sleep. Yeah. So the waking up every 118 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: hour is like not great, does not behoove me? Um. 119 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: And so I've just kind of been like this, like 120 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: in this little bit of a daze, and so it 121 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: was almost almost Amy's um disarray or just like let 122 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 1: you up, lit me up? Yeah, And I was like, no, 123 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 1: n n, now we are going swinging hard at this 124 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: three p right here. Okay, So basically now it's up 125 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: to us because kind of kicked her out. Well aside 126 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: from her planning all of our stuff, I was saying 127 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want that negative energy are 128 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: surrounding our pc A well, so more than ever, we 129 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: appreciate your votes, UM and the way to do that 130 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:58,679 Speaker 1: you can go to pc A dot e online dot com. 131 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: We'll obviously posting swipe ups and UM links to that 132 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:07,239 Speaker 1: in the Facebook group. But let's just I mean, let's 133 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: do what y'all have done the past two years and 134 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: make it a three pet and then we can talk 135 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: next year about about maybe letting someone else that'll have 136 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: a chance. Maybe maybe that's in the air, UM, But 137 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: like I mean, we're just so grateful to be honest, 138 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: I feel like with the pandemic and everything, I wasn't 139 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: sure that we would be be in the running this year, 140 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: just because I think you know, it's been the energy 141 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: has been for everybody. I'm sure everyone podcast is spelled 142 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: this way, but I think we've definitely felt that feeling 143 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: of like are we doing enough? Like are we is 144 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 1: it still the same podcast? And there's been some roller 145 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 1: coaster moments, but it kind of kind of gave me 146 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: a little pep in my step to also, my vacation 147 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: gave me a pep in my step, but I didn't 148 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: realize how much I just needed to be outside of 149 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: l A. Honestly, your vacation gave me a pep in 150 00:07:56,440 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: my step. I'm like watching your videos, seeing your photo 151 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: as I'm like literally, uh, organizing my jewelry drawer for 152 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: the fifth time during quarantine. Okay, So I was like, uh, well, 153 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: so every year, um, I uh, Laura my best friend 154 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: from um high school and she lives in Louisiana, we 155 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: go on a birthday trip for both of our birthday 156 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: so hers is at the beginning of September in the 157 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 1: minds at the end of October, and so normally around 158 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: sept beginning of September we go, but I just didn't. 159 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: I wasn't sure about traveling on a plane or whatever, 160 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 1: and so we didn't plan anything. And then I was 161 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 1: just feeling really aunty. I was like, it's never cooling 162 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 1: down in l A again. I think, like, I think 163 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: it's just gonna be coming a tip top. It's October, 164 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: Like what happened. I'm forcing I have a jacket thing on, 165 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: and I'm forcing it because it's still hot outside. Um, 166 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: and I just needed a break, I think, just I 167 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: just needed to feel something normal, and so we planned 168 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,560 Speaker 1: a trip up to New England and it was me, 169 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: Haley and Laura and we we got we all got 170 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: tested before we wore mask and shields on the plane. 171 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: It was like probably the cleanest I've ever felt on 172 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 1: an airplane. Like I would say, if you have to 173 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: go somewhere, or go somewhere now, because airplanes will never 174 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: be this clean. Um. And it was just magical, like 175 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: taking in fresh fall air. It was like a boost 176 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: of serotonin. Tell me what it's like, because let me 177 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: tell you, the only air I was breathing was my 178 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: my oven air. That really brought me a lot of 179 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 1: joy of baking that cake. I'm not gonna lie. It 180 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: looked amazing. It took me three hours and the best 181 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,199 Speaker 1: three hours of my week. Honestly, I would be down 182 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:35,520 Speaker 1: to bake one with you another one. Um. So then 183 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 1: from New England we went to visit my sister in Louisiana. 184 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: So it was just like a very different change of scenery, 185 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: you know, being I got to see my nephews and 186 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: my sister, my brother in law and UM, it was 187 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: just so much fun. It's just fun, you know, it's 188 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: so funny being in um, like back with your family 189 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: because you were like, go back, revert to your old 190 00:09:57,280 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: ways as a kid, Like I was eating like my 191 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: nephews eat. I was eating, Like wait, so did you 192 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: all stay together? Did you say your sister We all 193 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: stay to my sisters. Yeah. So it was a big 194 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: fun house, just like lots of games of uno. We 195 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: stayed at the house, mostly played backyard football. It's fun. 196 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: I feel like one of those people that just has 197 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: so many questions about because I haven't been on airplane 198 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: since probably I know I was. I mean, I honestly, 199 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:23,520 Speaker 1: I don't Did you touch things? Did you eat anything 200 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: to do? Pe on the seats? Like what the on 201 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: the airplane seats? Like that we sat on anything? Um, 202 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 1: So you get on the flight and they hand you 203 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: like I'd bring my hydro flask just p in that 204 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:35,599 Speaker 1: in the vagy. I wouldn't want to touch anything. I 205 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: don't know. We did make that drive from the Boston 206 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:41,200 Speaker 1: airport to Vermont, which was the same track, and we 207 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: were in traffic and I was like when the hydro 208 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: flask happened? Um, but no, it was. They hand you 209 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: as sanitizing white as you get on. It's like an 210 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: alcohol one. So the whole plane smells smells like just 211 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: like out rubbing alcohol. Um, you wipe it down. My 212 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: seat had already been wiped and so it got a 213 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: double cleanse. But yeah, I was very like, no one really. 214 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 1: The flight attendant will come over if you, like, you know, 215 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,319 Speaker 1: need something. But on the way there, I slept a 216 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: whole time, so I literally was just in my seat. 217 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: But I had a great experience, Like I felt very comfortable, 218 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: comfortable and safe, and I was a little nervous and 219 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,600 Speaker 1: anxious about going. So I will say that was a 220 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: positive experience. That's good. But because I feel like I'm sure, 221 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't I shouldn't say we I'm starting 222 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,880 Speaker 1: to get like, um that weird sense of because I 223 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: was talking the other day about like just going back 224 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:33,839 Speaker 1: to concerts, and I was like, are we Like is 225 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:35,600 Speaker 1: that going to make me so anxious to be around 226 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 1: all those people? Because like even now, when I'm around people, 227 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: I'm like far away and if there's not more than 228 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: six people that I'm with at a time, you know 229 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: what I mean? Yeah, I could you imagine going to 230 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 1: like the Forum? No, I really, I mean I can't 231 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: any even when I watched shows, still I see someone 232 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:53,000 Speaker 1: hug and I'm like, yeah, I was watching Emily in 233 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,040 Speaker 1: Paris and like when they would like kiss each other, 234 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: I'm like, what's happening? Oh? I started that last night. 235 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,680 Speaker 1: That was the highlight of my weekend watching Did you 236 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: watch the whole thing? The whole thing? No, I didn't 237 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:07,760 Speaker 1: do any one. I can't do that. I'm not a 238 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: good like bull binger. But I did it into sitting, 239 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: So I did it. Um. I think it did episodes 240 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: one through four and then I finished it off the 241 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 1: next day. But man, and because I've been wanting to 242 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: Paris forever and just feeling like I was there, and 243 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 1: like Lily's character is just so Emily. I like resonates 244 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 1: so much with Emily because she's just like this freaking 245 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: like deer in headlights, which is so happy about everything, 246 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I've decided for any opportunity. Yeah, 247 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: and she's just like she's kind of a little like sleuthy. 248 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 1: She kind of just like sleeps around and like just 249 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:44,560 Speaker 1: having some bunch. It's just like so it's just like 250 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: so good. Yeah, it's really I didn't I haven't gotten 251 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:50,599 Speaker 1: that far. I just watched like the first two episodes, 252 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:53,080 Speaker 1: but it's really cute and everyone was talking about it 253 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: was one of those like viral moments, so I love 254 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: to see it. Yeah, that was a thrill. So Emily 255 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: go ahead a parent and then oh no, there was 256 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: another breakthrough moment in my week, which is just really 257 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: um exciting because of my U T I chant, my 258 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: U T I walk that I want. So I found 259 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 1: a new neurologist and this guy is the man and 260 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:16,040 Speaker 1: he is like determined to figure this thing out. And 261 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 1: now I have my own like at home. Um yeah, 262 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: I actually have it in the bathroom right here. It's 263 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: like my own p you know, like when you have 264 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:25,400 Speaker 1: to go to the doctor and the pe and they 265 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: have like that little sanitary like thing that you p in. 266 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:30,959 Speaker 1: Have my own with my name on it and a wife, 267 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: so that when I feel the symptoms, I have my 268 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 1: own at home thing that I can just pean right away. 269 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: I have a pill that I can take for the pain, 270 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 1: and then I can take it to him so you 271 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: can really examine because the whole problem is that I've 272 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: been just taking all these antibiotics without testing my urine. Yeah, 273 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: and so he so now I have a game plan. 274 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: I feel good about it. I have a doctor that 275 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: cares still doing my pelvic floor physical therapy. Just go 276 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: into the journey that never end, the journey that never 277 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:07,080 Speaker 1: Um switching well kind of switching gears, but it is 278 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 1: doctor related. Um. Did you see the trailer for the 279 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:16,000 Speaker 1: Gray new season of Gray's Anatomy Coming out trailer? Well, yeah, 280 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: I mean it's just like a song in the background. 281 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 1: There's like a lot happening. It's a crossover with Station nineteen. 282 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 1: I did not see trailer. I just saw the news. Okay, well, 283 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: it's the news on that there's a crossover two our. 284 00:14:29,680 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 1: So the cool thing is there's this girl that I 285 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: have just recently become Instagram friends with and her name 286 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 1: is uh. I might see her last name wrong, but 287 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: it's her name is Nicole Serrano. I think it's how 288 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:44,160 Speaker 1: you say it. But um. She had worship well, she 289 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 1: was is or was a worship leader for Red Rocks 290 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: Worship in Denver, and she has this album where she 291 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: sings on most of it. And I listened to it 292 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: like really like just back to over and over again 293 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: a few years ago when I first heard it. Anyways, 294 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 1: her song is on the background of the preview for 295 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: Gray's Anatomy this season. And so I wrote her and 296 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 1: I was like, I feel so excited and proud for you, 297 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: Like this is a huge moment for all of us, 298 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: and she goes, oh, she goes, I mean I'm the 299 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: biggest Grays Anatomy fan. Like we used to go to 300 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: Goodwill and get scrubs and we'd like scrub in with 301 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: my friends and watch on the couch. And I was like, 302 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: I can one up your here. I was like, I 303 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 1: have a podcast called scrubbing In based off a Grays 304 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:34,520 Speaker 1: Anatomy and we sometimes wear scrubs and we also worked 305 00:15:34,600 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 1: one that in a while, we need to do that again. 306 00:15:36,640 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 1: I enjoy that. Um, we'll do that next week with 307 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 1: our guests because we have very appropriate guests. Um. But 308 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: it was just funny getting to share our you know, obsession. 309 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 1: But her song is on and she said, she was like, 310 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: my one goal is to be like a corpse or 311 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 1: someone an extra honey. Um. You know what's funny is 312 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: I need you to watch Emily in Paris because this 313 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 1: guy in the show, his name's uh Lucas Bravo, that's 314 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: his real name, but his name in the show is Gabriel. 315 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: He literally has the same stage presence as McDreamy, Like, 316 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 1: I was so shook when I first saw him come 317 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: on the scene in the show, and then by the 318 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:23,040 Speaker 1: end of it, I was like, this kind of is 319 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 1: like his show, Like it's really Lily, like Lily Collins, 320 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 1: Lily James, it's really Lily Collins, like the main she's 321 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 1: Emily in Paris, but he really really like the chef. Yes, 322 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:36,640 Speaker 1: I deemed him and I was like, you need to 323 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:40,960 Speaker 1: be on Grey's Anatomy e Me d Ale. He needs 324 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 1: to be married a new love interest. She's already picking 325 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:48,520 Speaker 1: the cast like it. I saw it and I was like, 326 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 1: this is her guy? Is he? But he's young though, 327 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:55,440 Speaker 1: so i'd be another DeLuca type. Okay, you left out 328 00:16:55,480 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 1: the best part. He responded to you. Yeah. Yeah, he 329 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 1: said something like his accent would would not do well 330 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:06,760 Speaker 1: at Grace Sloan Memorial French. Yeah, he's a French actor. Wow, 331 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 1: that's even better. And I was like, Meredith is so cultured. Yeah, yeah, 332 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 1: if anyone would. Christina Yang could have sent him from 333 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:21,199 Speaker 1: like the Alps wherever she is. Yeah, this was I 334 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: don't know if they had the same accent, but like 335 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: he could be a traveling surgeon. Yeah. Wow, Well oh, 336 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 1: I thought that's how U t I she got a 337 00:17:32,320 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: call for it was that your Jamie U t A. 338 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: But it's upside down. So I just looked down and 339 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:43,399 Speaker 1: my brain is obviously atana. I was like, wow, she 340 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: has like someone in her phone? Is I used to 341 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 1: have people guys in my phone? Is like Stephen Bumble, 342 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,439 Speaker 1: like I had so many I clearly still do. Jamie 343 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 1: us actually has a last name, and she said, my 344 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:58,879 Speaker 1: phone is Jamie U t A. Yeah. I mean, um, 345 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:00,439 Speaker 1: I need you to be on with me. I need 346 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: you to be on my level with me with this 347 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:03,600 Speaker 1: guy being on Gray's Antomy, Like, how do we make 348 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:07,880 Speaker 1: that happen? Chris Chris next week? Yeah, yeah, Well he's 349 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,119 Speaker 1: supposed to be Marist love interest. No, no, no, he's 350 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:15,680 Speaker 1: is that confirmed? Maybe I don't know. Let's see, let's 351 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:17,960 Speaker 1: be teasing that if he is. Let's see, he's in 352 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: the calendar. It's in my calendar. There you go. Yeah, 353 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: we have a very exciting guest next week, which Tanya 354 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: just revealed is uh Chris Carmack. Sorry, guys, he plays 355 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 1: a link. And he also was in UM the O 356 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: C which is where we first met. Oh, that's where 357 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:40,199 Speaker 1: I first met him, But um, I'm really excited to 358 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: talk to him because he had a huge storyline with 359 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: Amelia as the show was like coming to an end 360 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 1: and abruptly, you know, it was a finale. Um, and 361 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:53,720 Speaker 1: he's quite dreamy. I gotta say, it's pretty excited. But 362 00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:55,960 Speaker 1: I bet the actors like don't really have much say 363 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 1: in bringing other kids. I don't think he'd be able 364 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: to help you get this actor on, but I think 365 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: you could start a petition just tell them about it maybe. 366 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 1: But um, I like the guy that I like de 367 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: Luca and the other doctor for Meredith right now. The 368 00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:14,119 Speaker 1: guy does wait till you finish Emily and Farris, okay, 369 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: and then talk to me next week. Okay. But Giacomo 370 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 1: is quite dreamy, and I really into the other doctor 371 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: that she likes to know the British. But Giacomo can go. 372 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: Giacomo can be with Joe now that she's all been together, 373 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:34,400 Speaker 1: like a nice little puzzle. I just need to see. 374 00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: I never thought i'd say it, but I just need 375 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 1: to see what happens with Owen and Teddy and Carass 376 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 1: and everything. I never thought i'd care. They really they 377 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 1: always do it. I feel like Shawonda arrives as the 378 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 1: queen of bringing someone that you initially don't care about 379 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: her like and making them pull you in. It really is, 380 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,679 Speaker 1: she doesn't. She's done it with every single goal person 381 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 1: she's brought on as like an I don't know if 382 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 1: I care about Owen though I care more about the 383 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: Crassic side of it. But Owen's a part of it, right, 384 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:11,160 Speaker 1: But he's like a subsidiary. But I cared about I 385 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: did care about Owen when he was with Christina. Is 386 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 1: that the right words? Sub subsidiary? What a subsidiary mean? Well, 387 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: I think you're trying to say subsidiary work in this context, 388 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 1: subsidiary means like he's like superfluous. Well, it seems like 389 00:20:28,520 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: she's just throwing out s words now with s u 390 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:40,320 Speaker 1: P as a start, he's like minutia, Right, that works, 391 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: subsidiary less important than but related to something. I think 392 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 1: you're fine with subsidiary. That's exactly what I good. We 393 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 1: haven't talked about a big deal for you as a 394 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: massive Lakers fan. Thank you, I I thank you. I 395 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 1: appreciate at your condolences because it really was a big 396 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: day for us over here at the rad Pad, Just 397 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,239 Speaker 1: like I bet you were just celebrating like crazy, just 398 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:13,959 Speaker 1: celebrating like crazy. Yeah. Yeah, So I actually wore my 399 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:17,400 Speaker 1: Lakers shirt for the game Friday night. Okay, I only 400 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 1: have one Laker shirt, so I guess I wore that shirt. 401 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:24,639 Speaker 1: And that game caused so much anxiety in my life 402 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 1: that night. It was a nail fighter, like and I 403 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 1: don't invest in sports, like I'm not like huge sports fan, 404 00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: and I was getting so anxious watching this game. And 405 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: I was just like with some dudes, and I'm like, 406 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: why do do you like this? Like why do you 407 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: like this anxiety? That's like getting started, you know what 408 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 1: I mean? Like it's Friday night, Like I want to 409 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,280 Speaker 1: chill with this the sprits and like hang back and 410 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,400 Speaker 1: I'm like stressed and panicked and like sweaty, and I'm 411 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: like I don't like this. Did you drink a beer? No, 412 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,000 Speaker 1: it was apperall sprits. Oh yeah. I went over to 413 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:56,360 Speaker 1: my neighbor Eron's house and her fiance and um and 414 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 1: uh so I was like, okay, I wore that Laker 415 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:03,440 Speaker 1: shirt and they lost. So for the Laker game on Sunday, 416 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 1: I did not wear any Laker gear. I just were 417 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 1: like sweats and we won, So that's gonna be my 418 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:14,840 Speaker 1: new thing, like, don't wear a Laker gear until next year. Correct? Yeah, congrats. 419 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,280 Speaker 1: I know it's a big game that you have just 420 00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:20,120 Speaker 1: been really manifesting. The big game is a big win. 421 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:23,600 Speaker 1: We played good as a team, did Okay? Wait? So 422 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,119 Speaker 1: also this week which we haven't gotten to or should 423 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: we come back with this? Do we take a break? Okay? Great? 424 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:34,480 Speaker 1: I want to talk about your Modern Woman workshop. Oh yeah, okay, 425 00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:56,360 Speaker 1: we'll be right back to talk about that. Alright, we're back. Um, okay, 426 00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 1: So you had a Modern Woman workshop first of all, 427 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 1: explore Lane what or no a woman a Modern Woman's 428 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:07,560 Speaker 1: Guide to Love? But it was a workshop? Yeah? Um? What? 429 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 1: Like where did you come up with the idea, like 430 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 1: thinking that that was something you wanted to do? Because 431 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:16,040 Speaker 1: I personally feel like this podcast is like a version 432 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,240 Speaker 1: of a Modern Woman's Guide to Love? No, but it 433 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 1: was more like a workshop. So it was like I 434 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 1: wanted it to. So basically what I might have been 435 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,200 Speaker 1: wanting to write a book for a really long time 436 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 1: and my heart's been broken a little bit in that 437 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 1: spectrum you know about it, um, and so I kind 438 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 1: of was just like I that when I'm told no, 439 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,000 Speaker 1: I don't sit back and like let that happen. And 440 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:39,320 Speaker 1: so I was like, how can I do this in 441 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 1: a way where I can actually just like do it 442 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 1: on my own, you know what I mean, Like I 443 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 1: don't need anybody else, like I can just do it 444 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,439 Speaker 1: on my own. And so we kind of created this 445 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 1: sort of um kind of like how we did like 446 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,400 Speaker 1: are like just how everyone's doing these live events now 447 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,879 Speaker 1: exactly the same format. And I did it like I 448 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:58,520 Speaker 1: just wanted to. I did it all about like love. 449 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:00,480 Speaker 1: So I took the first third it and I talked 450 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,400 Speaker 1: about like self love and how I went down that 451 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,480 Speaker 1: that path in that journey and like all of my stuff. 452 00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:07,480 Speaker 1: And then I brought Brad in to talk about marriage 453 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 1: and like his keys to marriage and like tangible takeaways. 454 00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,040 Speaker 1: And then I had Matthew Hussey come on to talk 455 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,000 Speaker 1: about like dating and like being single and dating during 456 00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:18,480 Speaker 1: the pandemic. And I created this like PDF file that 457 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,679 Speaker 1: like people that they wanted to actually treat like a workshop, 458 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,119 Speaker 1: they could like fill it out. And then but I 459 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 1: also didn't want to force people to do that if 460 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:26,560 Speaker 1: they just want to like hang back with like a 461 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 1: glass of wine. So um, so I sent out the 462 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 1: pdf like an hour before, and it was just like 463 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:37,120 Speaker 1: so because again it's like I'm having this weird like 464 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 1: I'm in this weird headspace of just life right now, 465 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:44,080 Speaker 1: like I don't know, like I don't know what's going on. 466 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,960 Speaker 1: I'm getting anxious about the future, like I'm just having 467 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,720 Speaker 1: all these weird things. And so it was like such 468 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,880 Speaker 1: a crazy night because it was like such a success, 469 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 1: you know, and like, uh, it was a success and 470 00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:00,879 Speaker 1: just in all regards, I mean, like I don't really 471 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,000 Speaker 1: care about numbers and things like that. Other peas, not 472 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: people and people that make things happen care but numbers, 473 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 1: so they're happy with the numbers. I was more happy 474 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,159 Speaker 1: with just like the way that it went and like 475 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 1: actually how much tangible information people got from it, you 476 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 1: know what I mean, And just like I really feel 477 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,280 Speaker 1: like it was a different Like I also think that 478 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:20,359 Speaker 1: sometimes especially then, the nights lately can kind of all 479 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:21,760 Speaker 1: blur together, or you know what I mean. It's like 480 00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:23,439 Speaker 1: what days that I don't know, like what's going on 481 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,399 Speaker 1: every day and every night feels the same. And it 482 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 1: felt like a very different night. So I needed that 483 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:33,440 Speaker 1: and it was really good. Yeah, so is Matthew Hussy single? 484 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,880 Speaker 1: Does he single right now? I don't know. He never 485 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 1: really says Yeah. He's just like he gives advice but 486 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 1: doesn't share much about himself. Yeah, it's very interesting, Like 487 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 1: I actually don't know, Um, did he have any did 488 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 1: he say anything where you were? Like so many things, 489 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:55,880 Speaker 1: like so many things. It's actually insane. He's actually has 490 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: this um retreat that he's doing it. He usually does. 491 00:25:58,359 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: He retreats me. He's doing a virtual one this week 492 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 1: end that I'm going to go to UM. But he 493 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:08,399 Speaker 1: always just has like a good like um perspective on things, 494 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like he and he's says 495 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: such has an eloquent way of delivering them. Yeah, yeah, 496 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 1: I really like him. I do too. Um, I don't 497 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: know what that's so funny. I've literally have no idea, 498 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 1: and I like went I went before the workshop. We 499 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:23,240 Speaker 1: went because I hadn't seen him in like two or 500 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 1: three years, and so we went on a hike like 501 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:27,800 Speaker 1: a week and a half before the workshop and just 502 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:30,080 Speaker 1: like caught up on stuff. And it was literally catch 503 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: up on everything non love life related. Like I don't 504 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 1: even think I told him anything at was point, like 505 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,680 Speaker 1: he do don't think even as I have a boyfriend, like, 506 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:39,960 Speaker 1: I don't think he knows like we literally just caught 507 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:44,159 Speaker 1: up on like work. Wow. Yeah, yeah, he's just really 508 00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,520 Speaker 1: I just really like. I always like what he says 509 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 1: when I see videos of him giving advice and talking 510 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: about things, because it never feels like overly harsh, but 511 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:56,399 Speaker 1: it's realistic, it's not just like all fluff. And so 512 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: he would be great to have on the podcast. I 513 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: told him to come, love to have him, love to 514 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 1: have him, love to have him, and he's like, you 515 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,359 Speaker 1: never invited me. I was like, uh, yeah, I'm pretty 516 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 1: sure I had. That was probably when he was with 517 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 1: like Kamilla and his life was. You know what's funny. 518 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:11,640 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna go back in my text 519 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:13,640 Speaker 1: messages and just to prove to you that I'm sure 520 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 1: I have asked you to come on, because I know 521 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: I have. UM. I was going through my messages on 522 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,760 Speaker 1: Instagram and I got one from a girl who had 523 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,720 Speaker 1: just moved from like um I think she was moving 524 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 1: from Japan to the South, like deep South, and she 525 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:32,879 Speaker 1: was saying it's been really hard to like connect with 526 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:36,600 Speaker 1: people and find people that have like minded views, and 527 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 1: she was like, people are almost hateful in there, like 528 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,680 Speaker 1: um like beliefs and how they treat people or you know, 529 00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 1: who are different from what the Southern culture is. And 530 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 1: she was like, but I may reminded me that you're 531 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 1: from there and how how much you've grown since you know, 532 00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:57,040 Speaker 1: you've moved or whatever. But I was saying, like she 533 00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,440 Speaker 1: should join the Facebook group because or I didn't know 534 00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,199 Speaker 1: she so she was already um a part of the 535 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:04,360 Speaker 1: Facebook group because I've just I was saying, like so 536 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 1: many people have connected from just reaching out and saying like, hey, 537 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,919 Speaker 1: I'm new here. Does anyone have this I don't know 538 00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 1: similar interests as me, And so I was wanting to 539 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 1: shot her out and just you know, let's shut her out. 540 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: I don't have her name on me right now. Let 541 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:27,919 Speaker 1: me find it. Great shout out. Her name is Rachel 542 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 1: and she seems awesome and I honestly am her. She's 543 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,439 Speaker 1: a military wife. So I felt I feel for her 544 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,879 Speaker 1: because I visited Japan and it is amazing and the 545 00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: fact that she had to move there or move away 546 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: from there is like already hard and then moving somewhere 547 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 1: that's I mean, being back in Louisiana this last week 548 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: made me realize like I wouldn't even know how Like 549 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 1: I've only had to move away really like two times 550 00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:53,320 Speaker 1: in my life when I say moved away, like from 551 00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,320 Speaker 1: Orange County to Arizona and then Arizona to Los Angeles. 552 00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:01,479 Speaker 1: So really nothing too crazy. I could not imagine, just 553 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:03,840 Speaker 1: like especially in my adult life, getting up and just 554 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:07,960 Speaker 1: like moving somewhere I knew nobody. That's wild. But if 555 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 1: I and I will say, like I know, a lot 556 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 1: of times we we go somewhere and maybe we don't 557 00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,880 Speaker 1: share the same like beliefs or views on certain things. 558 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:18,640 Speaker 1: But I have friends that we differ on certain things 559 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 1: and what we believe and how we think. So I 560 00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 1: guess it's like, don't shut off people for differences like that, 561 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 1: but do surround yourself as much as you can with 562 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,959 Speaker 1: like mindedness so that you don't I mean, sometimes it's 563 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 1: hard when it's um conflict all the time. You know, 564 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:39,440 Speaker 1: like being able to have respectful conversations, it's very important. 565 00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 1: But um, if it gets to where it's like hostile 566 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: every time, maybe you know, I got to find her people. 567 00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 1: So her name is Rachel. Um she's gonna. She just 568 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 1: wrote me back and said she's not a part of 569 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: the Facebook group. So if she is going to join us, 570 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: maybe she should drop a drop a comment that, drop 571 00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:01,360 Speaker 1: a line to everybody so that they know she's the Rachel. Yeah, Rachel. 572 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: She's moving from Japan, so drop a line. She's in Mississippi, 573 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:09,680 Speaker 1: so all my Mississippi girls. Um. But yeah, it was 574 00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:12,480 Speaker 1: it was like kind of funny being back there and 575 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:18,080 Speaker 1: just oh my god, Kanya. Tanya's okay, did you I'm 576 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: sure you talked about this last week. Tanya fell on 577 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:25,239 Speaker 1: her roller blades, as we all know, and she just 578 00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 1: lifted her arm and there is a greenish navy. This 579 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 1: is a week over a week old. It's so gnarly, 580 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:38,120 Speaker 1: you guys, Like, I don't know how hurt myself so bad. 581 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,200 Speaker 1: But when I tell you, when I been down to 582 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,239 Speaker 1: do anything, when I make my bed, had to make 583 00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: my bed with one hand, and like when I been 584 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 1: down to get anything, I had to like bend with 585 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 1: my knees because if I've been I messed up my 586 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:51,440 Speaker 1: tailbone too, like bend with my knees. And I'm like, 587 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,480 Speaker 1: I literally feel like, um, um, senior citizen, what did 588 00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:59,320 Speaker 1: when you fell? What did Red Star do? Because I 589 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 1: tried to. He tried to speed up to catch me 590 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 1: because he told me he was like, you're going too fast. 591 00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:06,280 Speaker 1: Slow down. And then I panic because I was like 592 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:11,160 Speaker 1: I don't know how to stop. So he right, he 593 00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 1: tried to come around to get in front of me 594 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: so that he could like physically stop me, but he 595 00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 1: was like you were going too fast, like literally, and 596 00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: then by that time, I just like fell flat back, 597 00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 1: like just road kill on the ground on a busy 598 00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 1: street like so my my brain was just like get 599 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 1: off the ground. You're gonna get run over. And get 600 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:33,200 Speaker 1: off the ground. You're gonna get run over. So it 601 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 1: took everything in me and just like got up and 602 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,880 Speaker 1: like my whole body was just like wet from sweat 603 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:41,240 Speaker 1: because I was just like I don't know they broke something. 604 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,040 Speaker 1: I thought I broke my tailbone and my arms. So 605 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,320 Speaker 1: I'm like walking, you know, like this, going around like this, 606 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, he was like, well, 607 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 1: your tablets have not broken. He's like you wouldn't be 608 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,960 Speaker 1: able to walk, and I was like okay, alright, great, 609 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,200 Speaker 1: and then I was like moving my arm. I was like, oh, 610 00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,360 Speaker 1: So I was like I'm good. I'm good, Like let's 611 00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:01,440 Speaker 1: just go to flat lands and the hill and rollerblade there. 612 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:03,880 Speaker 1: So then like I think the adrenaline like came over 613 00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,320 Speaker 1: me because I was like fine for like an hour, 614 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 1: and then I took a shower and I could not 615 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 1: like I couldn't wash my could not lift it past this, 616 00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 1: and he had all of his like his friends coming over, 617 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 1: and I was just like I can't. I have to 618 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 1: suck it up and just just keep going, you know. 619 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: Cut to Sunday, I was just like in Capositato, like 620 00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: just was could not move my arm and now my 621 00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 1: elbow is actually feeling a lot better, but it's like 622 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: my wrist to like I can't open things, I can't 623 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 1: grip anything with my fingers. I think I like traumatized, 624 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 1: like whatever this is here all the way down pretty 625 00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,200 Speaker 1: gnarly whatever that is. So there was no like laughter 626 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:47,720 Speaker 1: when you went down. No, just only concern, very very 627 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 1: glad I wasn't with you, because I unfortunately in times 628 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 1: of crisis, I laugh as my reaction. And I also 629 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: find it funny when people fall for some reason. It 630 00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,360 Speaker 1: was something about you like waiting for these rollerblades to 631 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:06,600 Speaker 1: come in for weeks and then you get the best 632 00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,440 Speaker 1: part is I actually should get this video. The best 633 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 1: part is I went to go by I had risk 634 00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,840 Speaker 1: guards and he videotaped me because he goes, you should 635 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,920 Speaker 1: get um knee pads and elbow pads, and I was like, 636 00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 1: I used to blade as a kid, Like I don't 637 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,360 Speaker 1: need that stuff, you know, like, and he goes, I'm 638 00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,640 Speaker 1: gonna get this on videos so that you can't get 639 00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 1: mad at me for not wearing your stuff. And I 640 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,760 Speaker 1: was like, of course, I'm just shocked. I mean, Hailey 641 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:32,960 Speaker 1: was shocked that you did not have a helmet on. 642 00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,640 Speaker 1: She was like, does she know how dangerous it is 643 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,560 Speaker 1: to rollerblade without a helmet? And then you said that 644 00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,440 Speaker 1: when I told her you fell, she was like and 645 00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:43,600 Speaker 1: she imagined if she had hit her head. I was like, listen, 646 00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:47,000 Speaker 1: I think she's learned her lesson. Elbo was broken. Let 647 00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 1: me tell you when I go back out, because I 648 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,400 Speaker 1: will go back out. I will go back out because 649 00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,960 Speaker 1: when I fall, get back to us myself off and 650 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,560 Speaker 1: I get back up, but I will be back up 651 00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,600 Speaker 1: with kneepads and elbow pads and a helmet and flat 652 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:02,320 Speaker 1: land and flat land. That was I'm a pretty decent 653 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,760 Speaker 1: rollerblader and I used to go a lot, and I 654 00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 1: still would. I would see a hill and if I 655 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:10,200 Speaker 1: was going down, I'd launch myself into the grass. That's 656 00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 1: why I'm like, the hill is like hill. It is 657 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,640 Speaker 1: like not like a slight hill, It is a hill. 658 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: And I thought that'd be good for me because I 659 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,000 Speaker 1: was like, oh, it'll just keep me going fast and 660 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,400 Speaker 1: I don't have to do much you pick up speed. 661 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:27,280 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, it was. I just have like such 662 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:32,360 Speaker 1: a great mental image that like, I just never everybody's 663 00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,480 Speaker 1: so mad. They're like, how does nobody have video of 664 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:36,759 Speaker 1: you falling? And I'm like, I'm actually pissed if you 665 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,560 Speaker 1: had video. Befall, next time, you'll wear a GoPro one 666 00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,279 Speaker 1: of you guys, go bro on. I could put a 667 00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 1: gop prom my helmet. Yeah, just like the fish eye 668 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:47,680 Speaker 1: view where it's like right here ya Tanya up close 669 00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 1: and personal, ya smiling with their eyes wide open. It 670 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,120 Speaker 1: was fun once I was there, Like on the flat lands. Yeah, yeah, 671 00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 1: it's fun. I'm just glad you're okay. But that bruises severe. Yeah, 672 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,439 Speaker 1: something's not right. Something's definitely not right when you can't 673 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,360 Speaker 1: do that. Yeah, I got here and she's like helping me. 674 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:08,399 Speaker 1: Retie my top. I can't quite reach back there. Most 675 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,839 Speaker 1: people would not choose a top that needs to be 676 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,080 Speaker 1: tied when they can't move their arm. But Janya said, 677 00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:17,720 Speaker 1: watch me, yeah, watch me a modern woman. You can't 678 00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: tie back there. Watch me. Although before you got here, 679 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,360 Speaker 1: it was like literally under my boobs. Like I was 680 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:29,799 Speaker 1: just working and it was just like under my boobs. So, um, 681 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,440 Speaker 1: we are going to check in with our scrubbard Danielle, 682 00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: who we talked to before her brain surgery a couple 683 00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,480 Speaker 1: of weeks ago, and I had d M with her 684 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,719 Speaker 1: a little bit and she said, surgery went great, but 685 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:40,360 Speaker 1: I wanted to see how she I know, we wanted 686 00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:43,799 Speaker 1: to see like how she was doing now and check 687 00:35:43,880 --> 00:36:03,279 Speaker 1: in right, let's bring her up. Yeah, alright, so we 688 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:09,280 Speaker 1: are back with our wonderful scrubber Danielle. Is it Ferrara, Ferrara, 689 00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:13,520 Speaker 1: I always ferrara. So we talked to you, was that through? 690 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,960 Speaker 1: How long ago? Is that? Two or three weeks? Um? 691 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago? At thing? It feels like a long 692 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,640 Speaker 1: a lot longer um. But you were about to go 693 00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:28,760 Speaker 1: and have brain surgery and you've had the brain surgery 694 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 1: and you look great, you look amazing. I was like 695 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:35,120 Speaker 1: expecting like a full grains Anatomi like bandage, the whole 696 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: nine yards me too. Um No, I just want to 697 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,280 Speaker 1: thank you guys for having me on last time. The 698 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,239 Speaker 1: amount of people who have reached out to me who 699 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:49,919 Speaker 1: either have Kiari or their sister or their cousin have it, um, 700 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:55,040 Speaker 1: their mast support was just been insane and I feel amazing, 701 00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:57,960 Speaker 1: I really do. So have you not, like, have you 702 00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:01,040 Speaker 1: had a moment of or did you have a moment 703 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,279 Speaker 1: of realizing, Oh, it was worse than I thought because 704 00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,960 Speaker 1: I feel so good now? Are you just feeling great 705 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 1: all around? I feel great and um, I haven't been 706 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,640 Speaker 1: doing much so there's not much too um that would 707 00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,600 Speaker 1: trick it just yet. But I went shopping with my 708 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,000 Speaker 1: friend the other day, and usually when I shop that's 709 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,000 Speaker 1: one like I get dizzy or something, and nothing happened. 710 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,919 Speaker 1: I can't believe you probably feel so much relief. I 711 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 1: feel like a new person. And if you could tell, 712 00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:32,280 Speaker 1: my twitch is definitely more subtle. It hasn't gone away 713 00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:35,880 Speaker 1: fully my neurosurgence that we're gonna wait three months and see, 714 00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: um you know how it goes. But I could feel 715 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:42,799 Speaker 1: like so much more confident and happier and I can't 716 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:48,080 Speaker 1: believe I'm brain surgery. Yeah, I cannot, Like, so how 717 00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,879 Speaker 1: did they just like where did they go in? Did 718 00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,200 Speaker 1: you have any like did they shave any of your 719 00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 1: hair off? They did in the back if you want 720 00:37:55,200 --> 00:38:00,120 Speaker 1: to see it's not bad. O's in the back. See. 721 00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:05,799 Speaker 1: Oh do you think my butterfly pants? No, hold on, 722 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:09,800 Speaker 1: you might need those? Where are those from? The from? 723 00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:15,720 Speaker 1: They're amazing? She's wearing butterfly sweatpants? Yeah? Sorry? Can you Danielle? 724 00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:21,320 Speaker 1: Can you show? Yeah, give me a little little standing twa, wow, butterfly? 725 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,839 Speaker 1: Are they sweatpants or pajamas? There? Swept pants and there's 726 00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:29,879 Speaker 1: a full matching set if you want, like, okay, wait, 727 00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: but more importantly than in my hair, it's not bad. 728 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,399 Speaker 1: I promise it's still like what in the back because 729 00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:37,719 Speaker 1: I just washed my hair? But can you see it? 730 00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:42,399 Speaker 1: That's pretty incredible? How small that is? Yeah, I don't 731 00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:43,960 Speaker 1: know if I'm looking at the right thing because I 732 00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,560 Speaker 1: don't know if I see it right there? Wow? So 733 00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:53,520 Speaker 1: they it's just like shaved a little bit. Yeah, it's wild. 734 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,560 Speaker 1: That is insane. So how long was the surgery? How 735 00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:01,520 Speaker 1: long did it take them? Um? My dream was five, 736 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:06,399 Speaker 1: and I was like back and like alert at the 737 00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:08,480 Speaker 1: twelve if I'd say, so, I don't know how long 738 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,520 Speaker 1: my surgery. I didn't hadn't ask. You were like on 739 00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:15,239 Speaker 1: those pain pills, on the pain medicine two hours. But 740 00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:19,720 Speaker 1: the craziest thing happened that I have to share what happened. 741 00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:22,040 Speaker 1: So because of corona, like, no one can really go 742 00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:26,239 Speaker 1: with you because you know the rules and whatnot and regulations. 743 00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:30,239 Speaker 1: So my mom originally said one person could come, and 744 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:32,960 Speaker 1: then they said no one. So I'm like, okay, I'm 745 00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:37,799 Speaker 1: so nervous. And my mom every doctor, every nurse that 746 00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,040 Speaker 1: she knows at that hospital because it's like a local hospital, 747 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,480 Speaker 1: and everyone's like, oh, I'm not working. I don't work 748 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:48,000 Speaker 1: in that unit. I work in peds. Um. And then 749 00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:52,080 Speaker 1: she said, why don't you contact your babysitter who from 750 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:53,960 Speaker 1: when you're you were younger. I think she works at 751 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,960 Speaker 1: that hospital. Um, So I DM her on Instagram and 752 00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,839 Speaker 1: I said, hey, Leen, are you working? Um? I don't 753 00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,279 Speaker 1: know you work here anymore, but I'm having surgery. She said, 754 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 1: oh my god, that's so funny. Text me your surgeon 755 00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,840 Speaker 1: and let your information. So I text her, Can I 756 00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:12,080 Speaker 1: say my doctor's name. Yeah, so shout to Dr Rogers. 757 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:17,000 Speaker 1: I'm getting surgery tomorrow morning with Dr Rogers. And she said, 758 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:24,080 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm on his service. Are you kidding? Wow? Like, 759 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:26,880 Speaker 1: and she's I wasn't supposed to work tomorrow. I was 760 00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:30,240 Speaker 1: supposed to work Saturday. They switched my schedule. I always 761 00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:35,400 Speaker 1: work with him. I had no idea, Like how crazy 762 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:39,440 Speaker 1: your guardian angel and a definitely yeah, my definitely assigned 763 00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,680 Speaker 1: from my grandma and all the prayers from all you guys, 764 00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:45,920 Speaker 1: like it literally like everything fell into place. She stayed 765 00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,920 Speaker 1: with me from when I walked into the pre opt 766 00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,760 Speaker 1: to when I fell asleep on the o R table. 767 00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:55,920 Speaker 1: She was holding my hand. Wow. That is like it 768 00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,160 Speaker 1: just makes me like I just feel so that makes 769 00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,000 Speaker 1: me so sun because it's like I know these rules 770 00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,239 Speaker 1: and these protocols that are happening because of COVID right now, 771 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:04,719 Speaker 1: and it's like, actually just really heartbreaking to think because 772 00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:06,279 Speaker 1: it's like I'm like looking at you just like that 773 00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,399 Speaker 1: you can't have your mom or anybody in there. It's 774 00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:14,919 Speaker 1: just heartbreaking. It was a happy story, I know, ye yeah, yeah, 775 00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 1: well you look amazing and I'm so happy to hear 776 00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:25,160 Speaker 1: that you know so far that things are so much better, 777 00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:29,240 Speaker 1: and um, obviously keep us updated. We love you, and 778 00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:33,200 Speaker 1: I'm when do we start dating again? When do I 779 00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:37,359 Speaker 1: start teaming? Yeah? Oh? Um, well I went to your 780 00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:42,160 Speaker 1: Modern Women's Guide to Love you. Did you took notes? 781 00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:51,480 Speaker 1: That makes me emotional because it's so funny because when 782 00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:53,120 Speaker 1: I was planning it, I was like, I want to 783 00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 1: have a PDF that people can take notes on, because 784 00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:57,279 Speaker 1: if I were coming to this, I would want to 785 00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:59,080 Speaker 1: like take notes and actually know like what's gonna be 786 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,760 Speaker 1: talked about, like having an DA and everyone's like nobody 787 00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,960 Speaker 1: wants homework on a Thursday night. And I was like, 788 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,399 Speaker 1: I guarantee you. Let's just make it and see, and 789 00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:08,560 Speaker 1: so many people sent me their things builled out. I 790 00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:12,440 Speaker 1: was like, I knew it literally front and back. I 791 00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:15,040 Speaker 1: had my other journal right here. I'm a big journal girl. 792 00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:18,279 Speaker 1: I had my gratitude journal right here. So this was 793 00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:20,840 Speaker 1: right in my alley. And I definitely gave me so 794 00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:24,160 Speaker 1: much more confidence because now I have brown hair too, 795 00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,400 Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, well the blonde didn't work for 796 00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:30,400 Speaker 1: me unfortunately. Um, so we have but now we have 797 00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:32,640 Speaker 1: a new look and a new and a new confidence 798 00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:36,280 Speaker 1: and a new like vibe. Yeah, so hopefully I can 799 00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:42,160 Speaker 1: date eventually and no ghosting and hopefully just read it 800 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,880 Speaker 1: his head. Good news is when you find someone, you 801 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,920 Speaker 1: can change your hair however you want and he's gonna 802 00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:52,319 Speaker 1: love it. So I hope. So, but I do miss 803 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,680 Speaker 1: being blonde already, and now looking at Tanya, I'm like, 804 00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:58,080 Speaker 1: oh my goodness, I should be blonde. You seriously, it 805 00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:01,000 Speaker 1: looks so good a compleman. All your features and your 806 00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,400 Speaker 1: skin tone and stuff so very you know that exotic 807 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:08,160 Speaker 1: like Angelina Jolie vibe, and I know you look like 808 00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,359 Speaker 1: somebody is super famous and I can't put my finger 809 00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:13,560 Speaker 1: on it is Angelina Jolie. Put your hair back low, 810 00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:17,120 Speaker 1: waif out of your yeah like that. It's somebody? Who 811 00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:21,040 Speaker 1: is it? People tell me three people, Amanda cy Freed, 812 00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:25,120 Speaker 1: Miley Cyrus, Brandy Cyrus, and actually people have said angel 813 00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:28,960 Speaker 1: and Jolie. When it's Amanda, it's Amanda Cyfreid. It's effing 814 00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: Amanda Cyfreid. I see the girl that's on um killing Eve. Oh, 815 00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,440 Speaker 1: Jody Comer, yes, oh, I can see a little bit. 816 00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,840 Speaker 1: I see Jody Comber vibes. I used toick at Karina 817 00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:46,400 Speaker 1: Olympios a lot when that season. I can see that 818 00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,040 Speaker 1: too well. I kind of like this game because it 819 00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:50,960 Speaker 1: kind of sets the picture for people that are listening 820 00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:52,920 Speaker 1: and they don't get to see Danielle, you know, they're like, oh, 821 00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:56,960 Speaker 1: she's like Amanda Cyfreid and Jody Comber and Karina Olympius 822 00:43:57,000 --> 00:44:02,480 Speaker 1: all in one. And you're gorgeous. That's the point. Um. 823 00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:05,239 Speaker 1: And We're so happy that you're healthy and safe. And 824 00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:07,320 Speaker 1: I'm so glad you felt so much love and prayers 825 00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:11,360 Speaker 1: from the scrubbers. I expect nothing less, um, but we 826 00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,239 Speaker 1: love you. Thanks for coming back on and giving us 827 00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:33,040 Speaker 1: an update. Thank you. All right, I'm so glad she's 828 00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:38,520 Speaker 1: doing better. Men healthy, Um, and now I think we're 829 00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:41,120 Speaker 1: we have a few emails, some life advice, you know, 830 00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:45,560 Speaker 1: they come to the masters of just wisdom, and here 831 00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:51,400 Speaker 1: we are. My brain is in full function today thirty minutes. 832 00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:54,800 Speaker 1: I s left a total of thirty minutes thirty minute 833 00:44:54,800 --> 00:45:02,319 Speaker 1: increments for a few hours. This is from Laura, my 834 00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,640 Speaker 1: bff and I graduated college in May, but for the 835 00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:07,080 Speaker 1: last six months, even before we graduated, we had a 836 00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:10,880 Speaker 1: really big falling out. Our major fight in disconnection stem 837 00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,759 Speaker 1: from her constantly sleeping around every single weekend. She often 838 00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,920 Speaker 1: got hurt, and I was always the person who was 839 00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:19,919 Speaker 1: there backing her up, being there through her tears while 840 00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,880 Speaker 1: also disagreeing with her actions. She got mad at me 841 00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,600 Speaker 1: for not being approachable. I felt guilty for not being 842 00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:27,200 Speaker 1: able to be a good friend to her, But it 843 00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,279 Speaker 1: was exhausting having this happen all the time. We needed 844 00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:33,520 Speaker 1: to focus on myself will. Our big falling out happened 845 00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:35,360 Speaker 1: at the end of February. The many months that have 846 00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:38,319 Speaker 1: passed only increased our distance with each other. We no 847 00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:42,279 Speaker 1: longer regularly communicate and only have minimal communication. I still 848 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:45,000 Speaker 1: care about her, miss our, laughs and good parts of 849 00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:47,400 Speaker 1: the relationship, but no friendship needs to be balanced on 850 00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:50,040 Speaker 1: both sides. How do you balance all of this having 851 00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:53,400 Speaker 1: a different belief system and watching this all unfold? How 852 00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,160 Speaker 1: do you be there while not being a supporter of it. 853 00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:02,800 Speaker 1: This is resonates with me a little bit because, um 854 00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:05,600 Speaker 1: not with the sleeping around part. But when I went 855 00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:09,319 Speaker 1: to college from high school, so I went to a 856 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,360 Speaker 1: Baptist high school and it was like very strict my 857 00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,240 Speaker 1: I mean, I lived my life in a very specific 858 00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:21,840 Speaker 1: way and I um literally did not agree with partying drinking, 859 00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:25,560 Speaker 1: anything that was like outside of what my little bubble was. 860 00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,440 Speaker 1: And so I went to college to a small town 861 00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:30,200 Speaker 1: and it was like basically all there was to do 862 00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,480 Speaker 1: was go to the bars, go to the fraternity houses, 863 00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:35,960 Speaker 1: and my best friend up. My best friend and I 864 00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,000 Speaker 1: from high school ended up rooming together. My two really 865 00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,759 Speaker 1: good friends from high school. We became college roommates, and 866 00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,480 Speaker 1: they like, we're doing the normal college thing of like 867 00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:48,200 Speaker 1: going out, going to parties, drinking, and I felt like 868 00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:52,719 Speaker 1: I was losing them to them partying, and I think 869 00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:56,120 Speaker 1: I came off very judgmental, and I know that I 870 00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,880 Speaker 1: was very unapproachable and then wanting to you know, rehash 871 00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,040 Speaker 1: the night or talk about like the funny things because 872 00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:05,319 Speaker 1: I was so uptight and like couldn't like understand why 873 00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:08,040 Speaker 1: that interested them because I didn't have interest in it. 874 00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:11,520 Speaker 1: And I almost became like so judgmental that I wasn't 875 00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,719 Speaker 1: even able to be like a friend to them. And 876 00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:16,160 Speaker 1: like even just even if I didn't agree with like 877 00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,920 Speaker 1: going out and getting drunk, I I could have at 878 00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:21,640 Speaker 1: least been like that's so, you know, listen to them 879 00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,080 Speaker 1: and still been a friend and like you know, offered 880 00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:25,640 Speaker 1: to be the d D when they needed it, but 881 00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,879 Speaker 1: instead I kind of like shut myself off to kind 882 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:30,919 Speaker 1: of being a part of their lives. And it kind 883 00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:33,520 Speaker 1: of it was similar in the sense that like they 884 00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:35,759 Speaker 1: didn't really want to be around me, and there was 885 00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:37,960 Speaker 1: definitely like a little bit of a falling out where 886 00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:43,880 Speaker 1: I was so like concerned with my beliefs and like 887 00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:46,759 Speaker 1: me having a certain way of living that I put 888 00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:49,520 Speaker 1: my I like shoved my beliefs and what I thought 889 00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:52,080 Speaker 1: they should be doing on them. And it wasn't fair 890 00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,640 Speaker 1: because they were choosing what they wanted to do and 891 00:47:54,640 --> 00:47:57,200 Speaker 1: that was their choice. And all my to me or 892 00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:01,080 Speaker 1: only requirement as a friend is to be supportive and 893 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,160 Speaker 1: be there when your friend needs you. And maybe she's 894 00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,280 Speaker 1: going through a phase right now where she's just wanting 895 00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,439 Speaker 1: to go out and sleep around, and if she gets hurt, 896 00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:12,840 Speaker 1: that's on her, like that's her decision. It really doesn't 897 00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,160 Speaker 1: affect you personally, like you're not feeling the hurt he's feeling, 898 00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:19,400 Speaker 1: or the regret or anything. And I think as a friend, 899 00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:23,120 Speaker 1: at the very least, if you want her in your life, 900 00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:26,600 Speaker 1: you can say like, hey, I'm here if you need 901 00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,799 Speaker 1: to talk, like if you get hurt. But I think 902 00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,560 Speaker 1: giving all of your energy to something is exhausting, no 903 00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,400 Speaker 1: matter what it is. I feel like I just went 904 00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:35,640 Speaker 1: on a long rant, but I just have I had 905 00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,359 Speaker 1: an experience similar to that, so I'm on the other 906 00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,360 Speaker 1: side of it. Yeah, I've honestly, I've never experienced anything 907 00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,920 Speaker 1: like that, but I did have. I've only really had 908 00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,120 Speaker 1: like one friend breakup in my life, and it was 909 00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,799 Speaker 1: after I graduated from college and I was starting out 910 00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,760 Speaker 1: at the Kiss FM Street Team, and like my work 911 00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:54,680 Speaker 1: hours were so weird, Like I'd have to do like 912 00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 1: we did yoga on the pier. Say I want to 913 00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,520 Speaker 1: kapere at like whatever nine I am on Saturday, so 914 00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:00,120 Speaker 1: the street team went have to get there five am 915 00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:02,040 Speaker 1: to set up the foam on the pier, and like 916 00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:05,640 Speaker 1: I was working club Honage till midnight on Friday nights. 917 00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:10,400 Speaker 1: You know, Like my hours and schedule were so not regular. 918 00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:12,880 Speaker 1: And on top of that, I had a boyfriend, like 919 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,719 Speaker 1: a serious boyfriend that I was dating. I think I 920 00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,560 Speaker 1: don't know if we were doing a distance at that time. 921 00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:20,719 Speaker 1: I don't think we were distance at that time, but 922 00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:24,440 Speaker 1: so my girlfriend at the time was like so upset 923 00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,239 Speaker 1: with me because I wasn't going out with them like 924 00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:27,760 Speaker 1: how we used to. I mean I would in college 925 00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:29,839 Speaker 1: like I was missing I was at every frat every night, 926 00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:31,960 Speaker 1: like Kapa sick, what up s A. I would have 927 00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,399 Speaker 1: Fiji like dated them all like I was all over 928 00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:36,200 Speaker 1: the place. But then when I started like working, I 929 00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:38,440 Speaker 1: couldn't do that because I just literally didn't have the bandwidth, 930 00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:41,200 Speaker 1: Like I couldn't do it and work and have my boyfriend. 931 00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:44,160 Speaker 1: And so she just like laid it on me one 932 00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,160 Speaker 1: night and was just like, oh you do is like 933 00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:47,960 Speaker 1: work and hang out with your boyfriend, like you don't 934 00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,600 Speaker 1: go out this anymore. But like she never never saw 935 00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:53,560 Speaker 1: it from my perspective, and I was just like I 936 00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:55,680 Speaker 1: can't keep having this fight over and over and over again. 937 00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:59,640 Speaker 1: So I was just like buy, we're done here, and 938 00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:02,520 Speaker 1: I never look back. Well, I think I think if 939 00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,800 Speaker 1: if you feel like she's just completely drained your energy 940 00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:07,840 Speaker 1: and you feel like you don't you can't even be 941 00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:10,600 Speaker 1: a good friend because you're just exhausted yourself with her, 942 00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:12,960 Speaker 1: then I think it's fine to take a step back 943 00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:16,239 Speaker 1: and surround yourself with people that maybe don't make you 944 00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:19,200 Speaker 1: feel that way. But I think because you miss her 945 00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:23,000 Speaker 1: and you miss y'all's friendship. I think it's worth revisiting 946 00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:26,080 Speaker 1: and you know, maybe not spending as much time with her, 947 00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:29,120 Speaker 1: or maybe tell her like, hey, it can be like 948 00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:32,960 Speaker 1: a little draining sometimes because I feel like you're putting 949 00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:38,919 Speaker 1: yourself in these positions where um, there's always a consequence, 950 00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:41,239 Speaker 1: and I feel like I'm taking on a lot of 951 00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:42,800 Speaker 1: that and I don't want to do you know, I 952 00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:44,680 Speaker 1: don't want to do that because it's weighing down on me. 953 00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:46,960 Speaker 1: But I do miss you, and I miss your friendship, 954 00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:48,520 Speaker 1: and I want to be there for you and just 955 00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:52,400 Speaker 1: maybe have a balance of, you know, what you're putting 956 00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:56,319 Speaker 1: into it versus what you're getting out of it. I 957 00:50:56,360 --> 00:50:58,400 Speaker 1: guess it is the thing because sometimes we give a 958 00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,200 Speaker 1: lot more than we actually get out of relationships, whether 959 00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:06,759 Speaker 1: it's romantic or friendships and or with anyone. And I 960 00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,000 Speaker 1: think sometimes we have to kind of care for ourselves. 961 00:51:09,040 --> 00:51:11,240 Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean you have to stop being friends 962 00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:15,760 Speaker 1: with her. That's my advice, because I have a solid advice. 963 00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:17,400 Speaker 1: I think, just get to have lunch with her. You 964 00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,440 Speaker 1: know that this communication you're having between each other, it 965 00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:21,319 Speaker 1: seems like there's always this weird elephant in the room 966 00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,680 Speaker 1: that you're not talking about which was your falling out, 967 00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:26,680 Speaker 1: but you're still kind of communicating. So get together for 968 00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,879 Speaker 1: lunch and clear the air. Tell her how you feel, 969 00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:30,160 Speaker 1: and tell her that you love her and that you 970 00:51:30,200 --> 00:51:32,120 Speaker 1: missed her. And tell her how you're feeling back then, 971 00:51:32,200 --> 00:51:34,160 Speaker 1: how you're feeling now. She'll open up to and it'll 972 00:51:34,160 --> 00:51:36,359 Speaker 1: be a big moment. You'll cry and you'll hug. Yeah. 973 00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,520 Speaker 1: And I also think you're saying like, I don't want 974 00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,120 Speaker 1: to constantly see you get her like it's it makes 975 00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:44,120 Speaker 1: me feel sad seeing you put yourself in these positions 976 00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:46,520 Speaker 1: where you're the one who ends up her. I think 977 00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,200 Speaker 1: that will make her realize it's coming from I would 978 00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,759 Speaker 1: imagine it's coming from a place of love, of like, 979 00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:53,320 Speaker 1: I love you and I don't want to see you 980 00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:58,200 Speaker 1: in this position, but sometimes that approach can feel unapproachable. 981 00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:04,680 Speaker 1: All right, This is from anonymous. Recently, I've been exploring 982 00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:08,400 Speaker 1: talking to in dating women. I'm also a woman modern 983 00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:11,560 Speaker 1: woman of that, I have this major crush on one 984 00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:14,080 Speaker 1: of my friends. For background, we are five years apart, 985 00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:17,600 Speaker 1: but whenever we're together, we're constantly laughing and touching each other. 986 00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,359 Speaker 1: Other times when we're out drinking she tells me how 987 00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,200 Speaker 1: pretty I am, but I've only ever known her to 988 00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:25,200 Speaker 1: date men. It's so hard to explain. But when we're together, 989 00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,439 Speaker 1: I feel this electric feeling and I have this weird 990 00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,640 Speaker 1: gut feelings. She feels the same. So my question is 991 00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:33,160 Speaker 1: do I shoot my shot and tell her how I feel? 992 00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:35,880 Speaker 1: And if so, how wait? Hold on? I needed a 993 00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:38,280 Speaker 1: little bit more fact. How long have they been friends? 994 00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:41,279 Speaker 1: Five years? They're five years apart. We don't know how 995 00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:45,080 Speaker 1: long they've been friends because that could be a deciding 996 00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:50,239 Speaker 1: factor for me. Really, yeah, I would say that we 997 00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:53,480 Speaker 1: treat this just like we would a guy a girl 998 00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:56,560 Speaker 1: and guy friendship, and we always say shoot your shot, 999 00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:58,880 Speaker 1: you know. We always say, like, if you have a 1000 00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:01,440 Speaker 1: gut feeling, or if you have these feelings and they're 1001 00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:03,680 Speaker 1: single and you're not gonna like be a home wrecker 1002 00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,200 Speaker 1: or whatever it is, let them know how you feel. 1003 00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:09,319 Speaker 1: And the worst that she can say is, like I think, 1004 00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,120 Speaker 1: I think a lot of times we put a lot 1005 00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:16,040 Speaker 1: of emphasis on like like the dynamic of when it 1006 00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:18,080 Speaker 1: comes to relationships like men and women, and then we 1007 00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:20,160 Speaker 1: think it's going to be different when it's a woman, 1008 00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:23,440 Speaker 1: and it's not like relationships are all the same no 1009 00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:26,440 Speaker 1: matter the gender. And I think just like if you 1010 00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,360 Speaker 1: had a really close guy friend, it would be the 1011 00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,600 Speaker 1: literally exact same thing. If he was flirting with you 1012 00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:34,839 Speaker 1: and touching you and you're laughing all the time, you'd 1013 00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:37,239 Speaker 1: have the same gut feeling that maybe he was into you, 1014 00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:42,040 Speaker 1: and I say, shoot your shot. If she's like, what 1015 00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:46,120 Speaker 1: are you talking about? I have no interest in you, 1016 00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:49,520 Speaker 1: then you can say cool, glad I got that out 1017 00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:54,200 Speaker 1: the way I have other friends exactly, because when you 1018 00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,920 Speaker 1: have strong enough feelings for that person, whatever the gender, 1019 00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:01,839 Speaker 1: the friendships kind of over. True. True, it's true, it's true. 1020 00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:04,640 Speaker 1: If you do have those feelings, like it's like, excuse 1021 00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:08,680 Speaker 1: my friend, or get off the pot. Yeah, because you 1022 00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:13,440 Speaker 1: do very French. It's like you're always gonna be sitting 1023 00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:16,399 Speaker 1: with that. It's not just gonna go away unless you know, 1024 00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:21,080 Speaker 1: someone else comes into the picture and captures your attentions, 1025 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,080 Speaker 1: or she'll start dating somebody else, male or female, and 1026 00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:25,880 Speaker 1: that will bother you, Like you can't just be a 1027 00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:29,160 Speaker 1: regular friendship anymore. After Yeah, no, we're team ruined the friendship. 1028 00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:33,200 Speaker 1: And what if she started dating someone else and it 1029 00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:35,840 Speaker 1: was a woman and you never said anything because you 1030 00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:37,840 Speaker 1: assume she only liked men, and then you're going to 1031 00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,800 Speaker 1: be living in regret. And do you know what happens 1032 00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:44,520 Speaker 1: when you live in regret? What you never know? That 1033 00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:48,440 Speaker 1: was on the spot, That was on the spot reaction. 1034 00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:51,720 Speaker 1: When you live in regret, you just don't know because 1035 00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:56,080 Speaker 1: you just you regret. And so that's no, yeah, team 1036 00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:58,800 Speaker 1: shoot your shot. Yeah, and you you miss, you miss 1037 00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:03,920 Speaker 1: every shot you don't take. That's actually this is when, 1038 00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:05,880 Speaker 1: this is what will happen. If it's like in the movies. 1039 00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:09,080 Speaker 1: In the movies, you'd say to her, hey, are you 1040 00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:10,600 Speaker 1: trying to kiss her? Or you say I'm into you, 1041 00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:12,040 Speaker 1: and then she'd say, oh no, no, no no, no, no 1042 00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:15,480 Speaker 1: I'm straight and you say, oh yeah, of course of course, yes, sorry, 1043 00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:17,560 Speaker 1: and then she'll want to hang out a lot more, 1044 00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,520 Speaker 1: and then the next thing you know, you know, it 1045 00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,160 Speaker 1: just takes her a couple of dates to figure it out. 1046 00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:26,680 Speaker 1: That's how it would be. Some alcohol into the mix, 1047 00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,560 Speaker 1: I mean that all liquid courage always helps. So like 1048 00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,680 Speaker 1: if you're having maybe you have a wine night and 1049 00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:35,400 Speaker 1: not don't get too far gone in the wine, like 1050 00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:38,080 Speaker 1: still have some wits about the both of you. But 1051 00:55:38,840 --> 00:55:46,440 Speaker 1: Umner says, but yeah, I say just just like go 1052 00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,480 Speaker 1: for it. You're gut feeling normally. I mean, even if 1053 00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:52,400 Speaker 1: she denies it, do you know when someone's under you? 1054 00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:58,880 Speaker 1: I think because when you live with regret, you don't know. 1055 00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:05,640 Speaker 1: It's actually it's actually pretty profound. Shakespeare could have said it. Okay, 1056 00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:07,640 Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna say profound, but I was gonna say 1057 00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:10,399 Speaker 1: it works. Shakespeare could have said that, and you would 1058 00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:17,480 Speaker 1: have been like, oh yeah, soccer teaser. Post that on 1059 00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:23,600 Speaker 1: my story. Um, well that note after. I felt like 1060 00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:25,480 Speaker 1: that was some good advice on both front. Would you 1061 00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:27,399 Speaker 1: look down? Did you pee your pants? No? My funk 1062 00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:29,960 Speaker 1: got caught on your cow high I know mine gets 1063 00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:33,560 Speaker 1: caught on your pants. Like, that's why I looked down, 1064 00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:37,319 Speaker 1: because she does it so often everybody else does. Yeah, 1065 00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:39,520 Speaker 1: that's what she Her reaction is just to look down 1066 00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:41,840 Speaker 1: because she did it during the morning show again recently 1067 00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:44,640 Speaker 1: and it's not even a big deal. I did what 1068 00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:48,279 Speaker 1: my fans from laughing, yes, and like I was like wet, 1069 00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:49,880 Speaker 1: Like I literally had to like get up. I know 1070 00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:51,520 Speaker 1: my chairs are white. I was like, I can't just 1071 00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:55,160 Speaker 1: sit in this. I'm sorry, I gotta go. Well, you 1072 00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:59,080 Speaker 1: were made for live radio or TV. Or whatever it is. 1073 00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:02,120 Speaker 1: It was bad because it's like, you know, like I 1074 00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:06,480 Speaker 1: have bladder issues. Yeah, you can't just sit. They probably 1075 00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:13,680 Speaker 1: all the listeners know that you cannot down. Um, well 1076 00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:20,800 Speaker 1: in that note, next week's anatomy no November. Oh yeah, 1077 00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:24,640 Speaker 1: yeah that is upsetting. I was really about to have 1078 00:57:24,760 --> 00:57:27,080 Speaker 1: a moment. But you know we could do instead of 1079 00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:31,320 Speaker 1: Grey's anatomy. What we could do, Um, we can send 1080 00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:34,080 Speaker 1: people videos provoting Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah yeah, we 1081 00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,840 Speaker 1: were going to talk about Um. We didn't do it 1082 00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:38,680 Speaker 1: last year. We did it the first year where we 1083 00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:41,080 Speaker 1: sat and we did videos together. If people send the 1084 00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:43,360 Speaker 1: screenshots that they vote, it's really just my excuse to 1085 00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:44,880 Speaker 1: get back in to hang out with me for extended 1086 00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:49,040 Speaker 1: periods of time. She acts like, Okay, this is constant 1087 00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:56,080 Speaker 1: just needing attention, um and quality time I do, which 1088 00:57:56,160 --> 00:57:59,280 Speaker 1: we we do. I haven't been here so it's for 1089 00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:01,880 Speaker 1: not a long time. Yeah, I know. Um, so we'll 1090 00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:05,840 Speaker 1: be doing that. So get your voting emails ready to 1091 00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:07,880 Speaker 1: go because we are going to be sending out some 1092 00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,840 Speaker 1: one of a kind video. Well, we'll lead Crystals help 1093 00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:14,520 Speaker 1: with that because we'll have them send them to scrubbing 1094 00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,200 Speaker 1: in Instagram. Oh yeah, yeah, we'll get together with her 1095 00:58:17,240 --> 00:58:20,280 Speaker 1: in there um. But anyways, thanks for nominating us again. 1096 00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:23,000 Speaker 1: Like that alone is a really really big deal because 1097 00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:25,400 Speaker 1: there's some amazing podcast out there, and you'll have done 1098 00:58:25,440 --> 00:58:28,800 Speaker 1: it three years in a row, and it feels pretty 1099 00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:32,240 Speaker 1: cool to have our name up there once again. So 1100 00:58:32,720 --> 00:58:35,400 Speaker 1: let's get that three p um. We love you guys. 1101 00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:40,200 Speaker 1: We'll see you next week and have a great week. 1102 00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:40,960 Speaker 1: I love you.