WEBVTT - Conversations About Dating A Woman & Her Pride 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.440 Watch up and welcome back to another episode of No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Sealers Podcast with your hosts Now fuck that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:14.680 load glasses Malone. 0:00:16.440 --> 0:00:17.640 Yes, baby, what you need? 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:22.320 What you need, daddy, Like okay, you know, and it's been. 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:27.880 We've been like we've been like good, like of course, yeah, 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:31.840 we're gonna get into a little like a but it's 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:42.200 it's nothing like nothing. And I do find myself like listening, listen, listening, like, Okay. 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:45.040 You just gave us that's the truth, right, And the 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.839 truth is this is why you have to communicate, right, 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:51.360 But you have to communicate effectively, right, because. 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:54.960 You can't have two men. Ego is a man. 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:58.680 That's why men have egos. Is that fair to say, Pete? 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.600 Men have egos? 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:04.920 Yeah, I mean everybody has something, but I mean in 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:09.760 the relationship dynamic, I mean it's the issue is it's 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:15.160 like to me, women want to be led, but they 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:18.720 don't want to not they don't want to acknowledge that 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.240 there is a leader in the room and they're not it. 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:29.319 I don't think that's necessarily always true. Now, there are 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.440 women that do need or think they need to lead. 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:36.080 I was one of them. I am not no, I 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:39.720 am no longer one of them. But I do know 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:42.720 a lot of women that I absolutely don't want to 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:47.160 lead shit. They absolutely are okay with the man leading 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:49.040 and doing and providing and doing everything. 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:50.160 They are okay. 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:53.720 That's not I'm sure they okay with somebody taking care 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:54.120 of them. 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:58.080 There's not a it's just taking okay with. 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:02.040 The man taking care of her, not be okay minding 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:05.680 somebody right now. And because because of the connotation of 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:09.799 minding right like listening to somebody give you directions. 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.720 I'm good with that now. I just be like, hey, 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:16.800 don't go here, okay. But I think that also comes 0:02:16.840 --> 0:02:18.920 with the trust in the relationship and who you're with. 0:02:19.000 --> 0:02:21.360 And that's that's where I fucked up. I was dealing 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.880 with motherfuckers that I really didn't trust like that. And 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:26.000 that's that's the honest to god truth. Because if I 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:28.760 really trusted my man, I'm going to let him leave 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:30.680 me and he's going to tell when he tells me something, 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.560 I'm gonna be like, okay, babe, you're right, okay or whatever. 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:36.680 But before I was dealing motherfuckers, and I'm like, nigga, 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:38.880 you could do that, then why would I listen to you? 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:45.440 Would why would you sleep with anybody, you wouldn't listen 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:45.639 to it. 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:50.800 I know that that makes it, that sounds it makes 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:51.560 a lot of sense. 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:54.400 But yeah, you know when you say that. But these 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:56.880 are these are things that we were learning as we're growing. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:59.840 It's like a man sleeping with somebody he doesn't want 0:02:59.880 --> 0:03:00.680 you get pregnant. 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:04.640 No, don't get it right. I stand in my ship. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:05.760 I know what time it was. 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.600 I knew, and it took me a while to understand 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:12.240 that because I'm dealing with you and my question like 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.480 the guy I told you can't get right, and you're like, 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:16.160 why the hell you call them? Why are you dealing 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:19.079 with Mike King? As I got older, yeah, I laugh 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:20.680 at it now, like why was I. 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:21.640 Dealing with this person? 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.440 Like what the hell was wrong with you? You saw 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:28.200 all the red flags? You something the game? The man 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.720 can't get right the niggas name is, can't get right 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:34.560 in your phone, like can't get literally not think like so. 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:40.080 And and that's that's where we have to learn to say, 0:03:40.080 --> 0:03:41.520 you know what we can be by o women. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.480 We don't need to you know, some women come from 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:48.240 a background where again they lead a poly relationship. They're 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:52.080 dating their ego and their men, and some women are 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.400 dating their ego, their man and their kids. 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:04.400 Mm hmm, yeah, I think that with with me, I 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:09.839 was I'm just so used to leading, like making decisions 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:13.480 and just kind of doing my own thing. At the 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:17.240 same time, It's like then I'm wondering, like, okay, well 0:04:18.440 --> 0:04:20.600 what are you you know, what are you bringing to 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:24.000 the table, Like we can't talk on the same level 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:27.680 or we're not interested in the same things. But once 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.760 I realized, like, okay, you know, you got to take 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:36.000 this ego out of the relationship because you're you're not 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:42.479 a man, like you can't do or be anything close 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:48.360 to you know, what a man can be. And I 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:50.360 didn't want to be a woman, so. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.480 Well, I disagree, you can you. 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:56.640 I'm sure you and Briad have did the same things 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:57.680 that a man have done. 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.880 What I'm saying with the feeling as far as the 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:04.120 feeling that I want from somebody else, a man, a 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:06.400 woman can't give that to me, so unless I want 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.920 it to be by myself, I'm like, Okay, I gotta 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:10.480 but what is. 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:15.200 The feeling specifically? Is it to be cared for or 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.800 is it just the fact that he has a penis? 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:20.400 Biologically is different, you know what I'm saying, Like he 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:24.000 can the puzzle is different, and that's what these are. No, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:25.960 but these is real questions, you know. I mean that 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:27.839 people need to ask. 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:31.159 I want to feel protected, like wow, So. 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:34.600 Then you know, and that's important right here to feel protected. 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:38.440 Guess what, like like your child, right, so like like 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.919 let's say Roland, right, like you have to Hey, he 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:45.080 can't like imagine you trying to protect him and he's 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:47.239 doing the things that you know could cause him danger. 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:48.480 Right. 0:05:48.520 --> 0:05:50.799 That's how it is being a man dealing with a woman. 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:54.720 So that's why sometimes men tone, especially when you're being 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:57.640 stubborn like a child, can take the form of talking 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:00.479 to a child, because that's what it starts to feel like. 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:03.559 And I'm sure for some women that's what it starts 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:03.960 to feel like. 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.240 When a man starts to do the wrong thing, he. 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:11.560 Starts acting like your kid, definitely, yeah, And that's where. 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:16.240 That's when it goes like that's just like wait. 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:19.560 What Yes, and kids are kids. 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.760 The only reason they're kids is because they can't be 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:23.240 accountable for themselves. 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:25.560 Like that's the problem. 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:28.760 The problem is like I'll argue with friends who have 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.679 grown kids and I'm like they keep trying to treat 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.120 their kids like kids, right, they'll do whatever the kid 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:36.400 want them to do. But these kids are fucking because 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:39.680 they're nineteen or twenty. And I tell Mohmi, like, that's 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:44.520 not no kid, Like, they only plan you to take 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.119 care of them for them to make their own decisions. 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.680 So you gotta find a space in the middle, or 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:54.000 you're taking care of an adult that you're fucking dating. Right, 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:55.960 think about it, right, if your son, if your job 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.960 is to protect your son, britt, If like if he's 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.120 trying to go to a a Hoover party and you 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.360 know this is a Hoover party, Well, all the gang 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:06.520 members are there, and you know that other people know 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:08.880 they might come shoot it up, and your job is 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:09.400 taking me. 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:10.280 Like, don't go to that party. 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:12.640 And he goes to that party, Guess what you're gonna 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.000 say to him when you figure out he was at 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:17.440 that party. You're Finnah, fly off the handle because you're 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:21.240 making my job hard of protection. Well, for women, they 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.200 should think of that the same way when they're talking 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:26.560 to a man, like if you want you don't want 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:30.040 to go somewhere Withcauz and you know somebody start to 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:32.440 put hands on you and he don't help you. But 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:34.120 if he tell you don't walk in his room with 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:37.160 all these fucking boxers and tripping ass drunk people and 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:38.000 your stupid. 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:39.640 Ass walking, you're gonna get both are ass kid. 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:44.680 So women cannot date their own ego and a man 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:47.720 at the same time, a man like a man is 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:49.760 going to come with an ego because that's what he 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.040 needs to propel himself to the position to take care 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.920 of his family. That's what he should be using it for. 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.280 He should be using it to define his reputation. He 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.400 should be using it to define his credit, should be 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:04.360 using it to build this economic you know, portfolio is base. 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:06.800 What are you doing. That's the only thing that's good for. 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:10.440 So the ego not with with us with women, but 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:14.440 with everybody else or the outside bro because you know, 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:18.400 I think men sometimes they don't want to be well, 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.840 they don't want to be vulnerable because they want to 0:08:20.880 --> 0:08:25.120 carry this ego. But we need to, you know, we 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:29.160 want to fill and see and you know know that 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:34.680 we can be there for you at those those vulnerable times, 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:39.160 you know, aside from God. But you know you don't 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:42.120 have to carry an ego with us all the time 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:43.240 you know. 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:47.640 Well, yes, that they shouldn't be what you'd still do 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:53.079 because again you want somebody You're you're asking for women 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:54.640 to have this weird sense of demand. 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:57.080 They want a bunch of stuff that don't really go together. 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.520 Imagine your man like, well, I want to know you 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.280 could take care or yourself too, so I could take 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:03.400 care of you, So you should pay the mortgage every 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:06.920 other month. You wouldn't see it that way, right, So 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.280 that's how it feels like you're asking your man to 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:11.520 wanting to be hell of tough. But then he comes 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:14.200 crying to you because somebody you know at the ice 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:14.840 cream parlor. 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:19.319 I'm not talking about that though, because you don't think. 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:19.760 It's that deep. 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.360 Right, Well, we feel the same. We are the same, right, 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.320 Men and women are the same, right. We all feel 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:29.000 the same thing. We have extrogen, like y'all have testosterone, 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:32.000 So we feel certain certain things hurt our feelings that 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.160 probably are not worthy of you know, on the social 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:37.640 status of your feelings being hurt, but it's still hurts 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.520 your feelings. As I get older, certain scenes in movie 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:42.720 that I saw a million times could make me feel 0:09:42.720 --> 0:09:45.880 like emotional as I get older, Like I might look 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:52.320 at like I watched last night. I watched, uh, what's 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:54.719 the movie with Will Smith when he was trying to 0:09:54.720 --> 0:09:56.400 get the job in San Francisco Peak. 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:00.840 And he got the job. Almost cried. 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:04.240 I cried that So we have. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.040 The same feelings, right, because it emotionally moved me. I 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:08.479 was like, damn, so happy. 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:10.240 Like it's a rap story. 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:13.880 But again it's like, so we have the same things, 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:18.079 but you ask us to use the testosterone driven emotions. 0:10:18.480 --> 0:10:20.360 You ask that, but then sometimes you'll be like, well, 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.320 when you with me, you should let the estrogen no, 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:25.640 because then you ad judge later, you know what I mean? 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:27.800 Like you you know, he has these feelings and he 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.640 should be treated as us, just like I know. A 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:33.559 woman could take care of herself. I'm not stupid. I'm 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:35.520 not doing something that no woman couldn't. 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:35.800 Do for herself. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.240 True, women take care of themself just fine. Women could 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:42.320 change a tire, change the engine, bench press waits. 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:45.320 My mom had hands. Some woman could fight, you know, 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.320 women are construction workers. Women do the same thing men. 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.360 But you want to be put into a space where 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:55.400 you can lean on your estrogen. You want that space, 0:10:55.520 --> 0:11:06.319 That's true? Right? Actually, great, no ceilings gl Pete was 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:14.840 heading just here for the convo, Red Red, what's haddening? Hey, 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:21.439 what's wrong? Pete? You I know, but I text you 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:24.880 a couple of times everything. Okay, I was taking a nap. Okay, 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:27.960 how's that? As you get older, naps are they important? 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:36.480 They can be. So I'm down forty five pounds, Pete. 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:42.439 Once I get to fifty pounds down, that's what I'm 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:44.360 gonna start bringing in my weight training. What I've been 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:49.040 thinking about is more like flyweights, like more calistatics like 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:52.440 push ups, pull ups, all of that stuff, not so 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:55.360 much weight. I don't really want to get a bunch 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:57.439 of muscles like I don't because I don't want to 0:11:57.480 --> 0:11:59.480 be My goal was to not be heavy if I 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.560 make it to sure, So I want to be as 0:12:04.480 --> 0:12:08.000 lean as possible right now. It ain't about the muscles, 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:10.160 it ain't about the look. It's just about the health part. 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:14.359 Yeah. 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:18.280 So but that was my point. So back to the 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:24.280 I digress. But that becomes the problem. So like sometimes 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:26.640 when you would complain, I would say, like, hey, you 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:30.160 are letting way too much ego rule. This part like 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:33.280 to be in a righteous situation because you have to 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:36.360 kind of remove that, like Yeah, he gonna be frustrated, 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.199 because this is how it is being a man when 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.840 you always like as a man, Like I'm only viewed 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.600 as a real man if I take care of somebody completely. 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:47.880 I'm not even viewed as a real man if I 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:53.120 pay half, like I'm viewed as a male because I 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.400 have a penis right, that's my initial thing. But I'm 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.439 not viewed as a man if I pay half. If 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:59.200 I go half with a woman, I'm not viewed as 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:04.760 a man who by society and even by your old lady, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:06.560 she not don't respect you the same way. She's not 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:09.240 gonna treat you like you're leading anything. 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.960 You think. Do you think that? I mean, what do 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:15.640 you think. 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.240 Your son is a man right now? Do you think 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.880 he's a man he could make his own decisions? No, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.560 because he don't take care of himself. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:22.920 That's true. 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.600 And that Nigga is a man. He probably bigger than you. 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:28.680 And everything is who your ass and all kind of shit, 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:29.959 change your tie and everything. 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:33.400 There's a lot of men that go have with their girls, 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:37.839 I'm sure with step So would you say that that's 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:40.160 britt Would you say that's a man? 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:42.800 Yeah? 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.560 I don't think that. I don't think that that would 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.800 be less of a man. I don't think so. I've 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.400 never been in that situation, but I don't think I 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:53.719 would have been like, oh shit, you're not You know 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:54.520 what I'm saying. 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:57.760 You respect, You would respect your man the same as yeah, 0:13:58.200 --> 0:13:58.840 you're a lie. 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:01.760 I'm so so what so I would take that away 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:03.040 because of something. 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:05.720 Imagine your men couldn't stand up for you if you're 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:06.600 in the street, somebody start. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:07.400 That's different. 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:13.559 That's different different. You can't How is that different. 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.800 Protect and provide or how men are defined socially? Is 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:19.000 that fair to say protecting provided? 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:19.680 I would say so. 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.240 Yeah, but if you can't. We already had this discussion before. 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:26.800 I told you about how the dude I've watched get 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.360 carried away, and after that it was done though for me, 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:33.240 I told you about that because like, what the hell? 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.840 Which means as long as it can protect you, that 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:43.800 that's basically number one protecting you and then yourself. 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:45.200 You just don't got great hands. 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:49.880 Damn, that's unfortunate. She ain't about to be with nobody. 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:53.920 So again, like, I do know that there's a lot 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.800 of men, some of my friends are in these same relationships, 0:14:56.840 --> 0:15:01.760 but I also know how women treat them, you know 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.200 what I mean, It is kind of considered a slight 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:08.080 in society to go half with your old lady, even 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:12.560 though these California bills are insane stupid. So yes, but 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:15.560 I do think more women than not are making it work. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:19.080 But again, the goal for women is to find somebody 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:21.880 who could take care of them and protect them. That's 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:27.320 their goal. That's the most successful women socially. Now again 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:30.440 the reality is something is different. Reality is a lot 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.400 of this shit is expensive, and it's not just gonna 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.760 be most guys gonna be able to do it, you know. 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:36.800 And me and Pete had a great conversation about this 0:15:36.840 --> 0:15:38.480 where he was like, man, really you should move. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.280 He's saying out of the state or wherever. 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.600 Now you gotta move where we both agree you should 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:46.160 move to a place where you could take care of 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:51.200 your family as a man, right, because again it defines you. 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.200 It's not worthy of being anywhere where you can't look 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:56.040 up and say you're not putting a roof over your 0:15:56.040 --> 0:16:01.120 family head. But again my perspective is not dominant, because 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.920 I understand if you ain't California even the thought of moving. 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.520 But Pete told me the story of how his family 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:09.680 moved out here because it was like that before that 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:12.160 where they was at it was a little tougher out here. 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.760 Was your grandfather was able to take care of his 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:17.160 family because it was cheaper. 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:19.680 Yeah, well it was. 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:25.920 It wasn't cost cheaper, but it was so much opportunity. 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:28.160 Yeah, there was more. It was more on the on 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:29.080 the income side. 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:30.840 I was for both sides of my family. I mean 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:34.080 that's why everybody like, like like your grandparents who moved 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:35.800 out here, it was the same thing. It wasn't like 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:37.840 what it was cheaper in La than Alabama. But it's 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:42.360 like everyone's getting paid out there. There's no economy. We 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:46.280 are here now, so we move either either move to avoid. 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:50.520 Costs or to pursue revenue. See, and that's like a 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:51.720 brilliant model that none. 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:54.560 Of nobody told us. Well, white people kind of are aware. 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:56.800 And I don't get me wrong. I do think the 0:16:56.880 --> 0:17:01.000 generation above ours they were better humans. Like our generation 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:03.520 is worse humans. Even the generation now they feel like 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:04.720 they're but they're actually. 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:07.880 Much worse humans, you know what I mean? They because 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:11.359 they don't like I was talking to my nephew about. 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:14.760 The Diddy ship and he didn't even can he starts 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:16.600 saying just making it up, like, oh, you know he 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.280 put a hit out on the pocket. I'm like, do 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:21.560 you not care that that's not true? Like you care 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:23.679 that's not what they're not charged. Well, he slept with 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:25.720 some minors. Do you not care that that's not true? 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:26.800 They're not charging me with that? 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:29.639 Like what part of a fact do you care about? 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:30.280 They don't. 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:34.119 They only care about whatever is going on socially within 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:38.920 the conversation that's social sphere is where they're convicting people 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:44.639 at Like the fans came out and said the the 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:49.600 fas talked about that, the surviving r Kelly. 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:51.840 It made the fast start to investigate. 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.280 Right, I did see something like that, and so this, 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:58.000 the cassielawsuit is what made them. 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.879 Yes, really the the dude that the attorney that's on 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:06.159 social media heat and it's that's true because there you 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.080 gotta remember DA's case. 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.440 Looking for that type of exposure. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:14.440 Definitely, But it. 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:18.440 Reminds me of a time where like when the community 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:20.480 was kind of going through some stuff, we was coming 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.119 out of the crack era or kind of in the 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:26.240 very very last part of the Twilight of where it 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:29.439 was peaking at and you know, people were doing anything 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:30.000 to get cracks. 0:18:30.040 --> 0:18:32.280 So crime in Los Angeles was a little rampant. 0:18:32.280 --> 0:18:35.080 It was a lot going on, and instead of the 0:18:35.119 --> 0:18:38.879 community finding a solution, they turned to the white justice 0:18:38.880 --> 0:18:42.280 system to find a solution. So hence Joe Biden and 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:45.320 certain people responded back with the Crime Bill right of 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:49.800 ninety four. Right, the instituted three strikes. And immediately when 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.199 you hear about how three strikes work, it's really a 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:54.919 double jeopardy law. It's like if you if you went 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:58.080 to jail for two felonies before, if you did this 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.520 and then you steal something, we're gonna put you in 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:05.120 prison for twenty five years to life. So at that time, 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:07.439 people thought they were doing the right thing because they 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:08.800 were so in their emotions. 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:09.600 That's why. 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:13.280 A buddy of mine's us on clubhouse. I met him 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:14.920 and I would call him a buddy. His name is Gary, 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:18.520 but from Atlanta. He was saying that like he felt 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.639 like the Black Church spearheaded that movement with Biden. And 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:25.960 now and again, whenever you turn to forgive me Pete, 0:19:25.960 --> 0:19:28.960 because I don't mean every white person, but you know, right, 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:32.240 I'm talking about the power structure in existence. When you 0:19:32.359 --> 0:19:37.200 turn to unjust people for justice, it's going to look 0:19:37.280 --> 0:19:40.280 bad on people that's poor, that look like us, that 0:19:40.359 --> 0:19:40.879 look like me. 0:19:42.000 --> 0:19:44.400 Right, So the same thing is happening now. 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:48.399 Yeah, they're like like again, like we're looking at r Kelly, 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:50.440 were looking at Puff and it kind of fits into 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:54.119 the same conversation even with Cassie, Like Cassie is like 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:56.960 they talked about it like and this is really I know. 0:19:57.080 --> 0:19:58.000 That's the details. 0:19:58.200 --> 0:20:00.439 They tried to shake Puff down with the book, the 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:03.040 threat of the book to get the thirty million. Yeah right, 0:20:03.560 --> 0:20:05.800 Puff felt it was a shakedown. I ain't gonna give 0:20:05.800 --> 0:20:09.320 you nothing. Puff actually was in a relationship with Cassie. 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:12.120 Cassie stayed with Puff for years, not just out of fear. 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:14.640 I'm sure there's a level of fear there. She stayed 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:18.600 with Puff because Puff had money, right, He's powerful, he Puff. 0:20:18.720 --> 0:20:20.719 She wanted to be successful in the music business. When 0:20:20.760 --> 0:20:23.280 you look up her past, she's been trying to be 0:20:23.320 --> 0:20:25.960 in a music business and kind of ahead of her 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:28.800 age for a long time, you know what I mean. 0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:31.480 So she found somebody she thought could enhance her career, 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:34.000 and maybe they fell in love. Maybe they didn't, you know, 0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:37.040