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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Buggle up, hold

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Speaker 1: on tight, We got it for you here. It is

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter. The subject this letter just makes me laugh.

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Speaker 1: My baby won't stop cussin. Junior says it's about him.

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Speaker 1: We'll see. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a twenty seven

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Speaker 1: year old married woman with a two year old son

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Speaker 1: that won't stop cussin recently, whenever he gets frustrated or upset,

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Speaker 1: he starts cussing. If he falls down and hurts himself,

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Speaker 1: he cusses. If you tell him no, he cusses. I

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Speaker 1: assumed he was hearing these cuss words from my husband

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Speaker 1: because I don't cuss in front of him, so he

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Speaker 1: is not hearing it from me. My husband swore to

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Speaker 1: me that he has not been cussing in front of

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Speaker 1: him either, so I figured the only other person it

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Speaker 1: could be is my mother in law. I asked her,

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Speaker 1: and she said, come on, Steve, you gotta help me

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Speaker 1: with this. She said, here, yeah, I'll cut that's what

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Speaker 1: she said. Yeah, she said that because he's a brat

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Speaker 1: when you're not around. I was shocked. I couldn't believe

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Speaker 1: that she can't find a way to discipline him without

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Speaker 1: using foul language. I want my son to have a

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Speaker 1: relationship with this grandmash and she's a wonderful woman in

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Speaker 1: a lot of ways, but we don't see eye to

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Speaker 1: eye on this. She says she can't help it, and

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Speaker 1: we should be teaching him to never repeat what he hears.

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Speaker 1: But he's a two year old and that's what small

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Speaker 1: children do. I told her that she should lead by example,

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Speaker 1: but she said when she is babysitting him, she will

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Speaker 1: do things her way. My husband is stuck in the middle,

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Speaker 1: and he has said his mom is sixty and said

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Speaker 1: in her way. So I said let it go, so

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Speaker 1: I should let it go. He says, we can teach

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Speaker 1: our son not to cuss when he is a little

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Speaker 1: older and can understand. I have a problem with all

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Speaker 1: of this. Yes, his grandma is an authority figure, but

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Speaker 1: it's my son. So I say we go by my rules.

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Speaker 1: I don't want my baby cussing out his teachers as

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Speaker 1: a daycare. How should I resolve this? Am I wrong?

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Speaker 1: Please advise? I think you're a little bit too much

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Speaker 1: on this issue. Okay, your baby's only two, and I

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Speaker 1: do agree with your husband. I think you should wait

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Speaker 1: until he's a little older and he can understand. I

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Speaker 1: know so many kids, little young babies or children who

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Speaker 1: used to cuss because that's what they see. And children

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Speaker 1: are sponges. We all know that they repeat what they

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Speaker 1: see and that's what they do. And you're right. The

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Speaker 1: mother in law, your husband's mom is set in her ways,

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Speaker 1: and she says when he's with him, when he's with her,

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Speaker 1: then they'll do things her way. So that's that's how

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Speaker 1: she puts the hammer down. She cusses at him, and

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Speaker 1: he probably obeys when she does that. He knows what

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Speaker 1: she means when he does that, so when she does that,

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Speaker 1: so I just say, you know, loosen up just a

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Speaker 1: little bit. Is going to get better. When he gets older,

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Speaker 1: he'll stop or at least understand and not do it

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Speaker 1: around you guys. At least you can be hopeful for that.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, the grandmother's not gonna change. You continue not

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Speaker 1: to cuss in front of him and let him know

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Speaker 1: every time he does it that it's wrong. He's only two.

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Speaker 1: He's only two. He's going to grow and learn things.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. It's gonna be all right. He's not gonna

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Speaker 1: be at the daycare cussing out the teachers and all

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Speaker 1: of that. He's not gonna do that. So, um, just

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Speaker 1: relax on this issue just a little bit. He's gonna

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Speaker 1: be fine, Okay, Steve, Well, surely, yes, I disagree with

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Speaker 1: everything you said in this letter. I hope you don't do.

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Speaker 1: You know him to give good advice, But you missed

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Speaker 1: it on this from girl baby girl. See Shirley, the

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Speaker 1: reason you missed it on this letter just because you

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Speaker 1: don't cuss. You need a cussle to talk about a

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Speaker 1: letter that's about cussing. See, I'm a cusser, Yes you are.

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Speaker 1: My father was in the top three greatest cusses of

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Speaker 1: all time all through the Civil Rights movement, everything, my

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Speaker 1: daddy cuss sitting at the counters at Woolworth luncheon cities.

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Speaker 1: My daddy was cussing Wold Connors with them German shepherds

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Speaker 1: and them fire holsers. My daddy was cussing. My daddy

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Speaker 1: got arrested. He was cussing. My daddy came to church,

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Speaker 1: he was cussing. So, Shirley, I'm sorry you missed this latter.

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Speaker 1: This twenty seven year old lady got this two year

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Speaker 1: old boy that won't stop cussing when he gets frustrated

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Speaker 1: or upset. He cussed, I do too when he falled

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Speaker 1: down and hurt hisself. He cussed every time I fall.

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Speaker 1: I could if I tell him no, he cuss if

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Speaker 1: Mordred tells me no, I couldn't. If my mama told

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Speaker 1: So she assumed that these cuss words was coming from

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Speaker 1: her husband, so she confronted him. He said it wasn't her.

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Speaker 1: So she got the thinking the only other person it

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Speaker 1: Did she cuss around the boy? She said, hell, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I cuss in front of his little lad because here

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Speaker 1: brat when you're not around him. So you got upset

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Speaker 1: and thought that he should find that she should find

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Speaker 1: another way to discipline without you using full letter words.

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Speaker 1: She's a wonderful woman. She's in a lot of ways,

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Speaker 1: but we don't see ay and not. She says, I

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Speaker 1: can't help it that y'all should be teaching him to

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Speaker 1: never repeat what he is and he's a two year

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Speaker 1: old and that's what children do. Well, Shirley said in

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Speaker 1: her response that you've got the light up. He's only

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Speaker 1: two and things like that. Well, Shirley, we come back.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why I disagree with your statements.

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Speaker 1: As I said, he cussin all right, I knew you would.

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Speaker 1: We'll come back with part two of Steve's response at

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Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. The subject of the letter

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Speaker 1: is my baby won't stop cussing, Anne, it will, Steve Harvey.

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Speaker 1: We'll get into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today. Strawberry letters. Subject at my

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Speaker 1: bad baby won't stop cussing. Twenty seven year old lady married,

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Speaker 1: got a little two year old boy to cuss. This

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Speaker 1: is my baby right now, get upset, Cuss when they fall,

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Speaker 1: Cuss when they don't get his way. Because if you

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Speaker 1: tell him, no sport, just cussing. And you found out

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Speaker 1: that it wasn't a husband, so you went to the

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Speaker 1: mother in law and said, do you cuss in front

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Speaker 1: of the baby? Her exact quote to this woman who

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Speaker 1: wrote the letter was, hell, yeah, cuss in front of

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Speaker 1: his little lass. That's your favorite line in this whole letter,

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Speaker 1: in this whole letter, in any Strawbay letter that we've

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Speaker 1: ever done. Yeah, and uh, you know, you talk to

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Speaker 1: the mother and said, you can't find another way to

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Speaker 1: discipline him and everything. I don't want my son using

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Speaker 1: five language. And then you know, you know that your

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Speaker 1: mother law is a wonderful woman in a lot of ways,

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Speaker 1: but y'all don't see eye to eye and your grandma,

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Speaker 1: your mother said that you should teach the boy to

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Speaker 1: not to repeat what he's heard. And then you said,

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Speaker 1: but he's a two year old and that's what small

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Speaker 1: children do. Well, let me explain something to you. Small

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Speaker 1: children shouldn't be allowed to custom. Why don't you backhead

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Speaker 1: his little lass since he cuts? Yeah, that's what happened

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Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, yeah, he wants again. Here we go,

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Speaker 1: see her, y'all see her? Yeah, non custom? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: said back you know why cuss? Yeah? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: backhand the baby? Y cut? You not a custom? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you don't have cussing babies to knock his little lass

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Speaker 1: out exactly what they do to you. Cause, Sureley, come

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Speaker 1: talk about he only two years old. You should wait

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Speaker 1: till he older. Let me tell you something. Cussing, cussing

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Speaker 1: go deep? Yeah? No, And then, lady at the end,

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Speaker 1: am I wrong? No, You're not wrong, because cussing go deep.

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Speaker 1: I've been cussing since our fault. Okay really, and I've

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Speaker 1: been an advert cussing eight years to solid, solid, outstanding combinations.

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Speaker 1: I didn't put together some combinations that ain't been heard before,

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Speaker 1: and I've gotten results. If you don't stop this board

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Speaker 1: from cussing, I got news for you. He's never gonna stop.

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Speaker 1: He's not. You should nip it in the board right now.

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Speaker 1: Cussing is a habit, and it's a hard habit to break. So, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I disagree. The lady is right. She has every right

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Speaker 1: to be upset. And the grandmama talking about when she

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Speaker 1: with him, she got to do it her way. Stop

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Speaker 1: cussing at the baby. Stop. But you know why your

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Speaker 1: son ain't gonna say nothing because he knew when get

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Speaker 1: his ass cussed out. He he knows if he's going

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Speaker 1: out to Bernardette and tell Bernardette Paulie cousin Bernardette Burn

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Speaker 1: nice blinks Burnette Burn nice bonkers b b bb So,

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Speaker 1: Shirley ask me some questions. I'm gonna be a two

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Speaker 1: year old. I'm gonna answer the question. Cussin, and y'all

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Speaker 1: to bed. Come on, come on, Bobby, I ain't take

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Speaker 1: a note bath. Bobby, what's your mouth? Get it and

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Speaker 1: don't forget. I can see what Bobby I ain't sish.

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Speaker 1: Bobby is not speaking that clearly too. And hurry up,

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Speaker 1: Don't know if I won't go. Come on, Bobby, let's

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Speaker 1: put your jammies on. I don't like the pump. All right,

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Speaker 1: all right, come on, get in bed. But before you

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Speaker 1: get in, say your prayers. Come on, we gotta say

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Speaker 1: for the pump. Bobby, all right, get in bed. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna turn out the light. I know how you don't

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Speaker 1: Turn the light off. Mommy. You know I ain't nothing,

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Speaker 1: but it's time for all right. Keep keep this cussing.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell your daddy. You keep it up here,

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Speaker 1: ain't I'm kind of scared of you, Grandma, and Dan

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Speaker 1: ain't my real damn Danny over. Bobby, get in here,

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Speaker 1: say your prayers, get in this bed and go to sleep.

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Speaker 1: And if I don't, you're gonna, Bobby, I'm gonnahoop your butt. Okay,

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Speaker 1: keep on here. You're gonna get your little but all right,

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Speaker 1: But you don't custom so you ain't never been a customer,

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Speaker 1: so you can't dissipate in this letter. It's little Bobby,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna beat your ass, all right. Listen, post your

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